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i seek to offer help from my forty years of public service, 

research and interaction with people in america and abroad. 

awhile back my friend John, who went from gay to straight 

(yes, this actually happens!), taught me a lot about the plight 

of those struggling with sexual identity. as he battled the 

ravages of aiDS, i was able to listen, encourage and reassure 

him, along with his precious daughter, prior to his premature 

death. Later i was able to take care of his memorial service in 

a way that i trust inspired all of his former gay friends who 

attended to reflect on his life and theirs. 

The time has arrived for everyone involved in this dialogue 

on homosexuality and gay marriage to lower our voices and 

approach one another with respect on this journey of discovery. 

Yet being forthright and faithful to Biblical teaching 

does mean stating up front that Scripture throughout forbids 

sexual involvement in seven areas: 

1. Parents 

2. children 

3. another’s spouse 

4. Brothers and sisters 

5. Same sex 

6. animals 

7. Dead people 

Still, i hope this material helps multitudes who are humbly 

searching for answers and willing to consider these consequences 

if same-sex marriage is legalized in america. 

Larry Tomczak 

www.larrytomczak.com 

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THE QUESTION: BECAUSE THE GOVERNMENT HAS A 

COMPELLING INTEREST IN THE STRENGTHENING OF 

MARRIAGE AND PROMOTION OF STABLE FAMILIES, 

SHOULD IT UPHOLD MARRIAGE AS THE UNION OF A 

MAN AND A WOMAN AS IT HAS BEEN FOR 5,000 YEARS 

OF WESTERN CIVILIZATION AND BY ALL MAJOR 

WORLD RELIGIONS, OR REDEFINE MARRIAGE TO AC- 

COMMODATE NEW PARTNERSHIP ARRANGEMENTS? 

THIS IS THE BOTTOM LINE ALONGSIDE CONSEQUEN- 

CES THAT WOULD RESULT FOR THIS AND GENERA - 

TIONS TO COME. 

In examining same-sex marriage, our starting point as 

authentic Christians is faithfulness to Biblical teaching on 

marriage, family and sexuality. The issue is not animus or 

bigotry towards gays but respect and reverence for marriage 

and family. We unashamedly honor Jesus Christ by obeying 

His Word that results in peace, freedom and long-term happiness 

in human relationships. 

As American Christians we hold Biblical convictions supported 

by our First Amendment right to “freedom of religion” 

(not merely “worship”). We ask those in disagreement 

with us to treat us in a civil way (as we pledge to do, as well) 

by not vilifying us or misrepresenting our position. Just as 

someone who honestly believes in a “two-state solution” for 

Israel should not automatically be labeled “anti-Semitic,” we 

should be treated with dignity and respect as we speak with 

kindness and courage on this issue. Religious freedom is 

what really is at stake in this dialogue. 

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Throughout history, religious convictions were at the heart 

of those upholding justice and opposing unrighteousness. 

george Washington, abraham Lincoln, Rev. Martin Luther 

King, Jr., William Wilberforce, John Wesley, William Booth, 

Rosa Parks, Jackie Robinson, Dietrick Bonhoeffer and others 

acted out of christian convictions and we follow in their 

footsteps. 

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What follows is a presentation of some of the serious consequences 

that will result, not immediately but eventually, if 

gay marriage becomes the law of the land in this watershed 

moment of history. informed individuals overwhelmingly 

believe that the redefinition and restructuring of marriage 

would have disastrous results for the family and our future as 

the country uniquely called a “city set on a hill” influencing 

the world. There is no going back if we “cross the Rubicon” 

and remove the foundational pillar upon which society rests. 

alarmist? apocalyptic? May the following serve as an awakening 

in this critical hour. 

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society are frightening, but also for ministries, adoption 

agencies, churches, schools, universities, wedding-related 

businesses and youth organizations. 

Recent examples: 

An elderly woman who for years has operated a small 

flower shop in Richland, Washington faces a lawsuit 

filed by the attorney general of her state, a $2,000 fine, 

potential legal fees in the tens of thousands and years of 

litigation. What did she do? Physically assault someone? 

Commit fraud? 

Actually Ms Stutzman is a committed believer who 

serves all customers—heterosexual and homosexual— 

but politely declined, based upon her religious convictions, 

to do the floral arrangements for two gay men’s 

upcoming same-sex wedding. 

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When a country deconstructs the definition of marriage, 

government steps in to force everyone to conform or 

else. Even if one’s conscience is violated, the state sees it 

as “discrimination”…”a civil rights violation”…”treating 

others as second class citizens.” 

This is not an isolated case. If same-sex marriage is the 

“law of the land” expect taxes to begin funding medically 

assisted procreation for gay couples as is on the docket in 

California and France. The list of demands will explode 

and everyone’s religious liberty affected. 

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“Freedom is never more than one generation away 

from extinction. We didn’t pass it onto our children 

in the bloodstream. The only way they can inherit the 

freedom we have known is if we fight for it, protect it, 

defend it and then hand it to them with the well-taught 

lessons of how they in their lifetime must do the same. 

And if you and I don’t do this, then you and I may well 

spend our sunset years telling our children and our 

children’s children what it was once like in America 

when men were free. ” 

- Ronald Reagan March 30, 1961 

3. Our children will suffer great harm 

if same-sex marriage is legalized. 

First, what message would be communicated concerning 

what exactly is a marriage and family? In addition to 

an even greater elevation, celebration and endorsement 

of gay marriage in TV, movies, song and print would 

be the total overhaul of textbooks and curricula teaching 

homosexual behavior and “marriage” as the moral 

equivalent of traditional marriage. 

If same-sex marriage became the cultural norm, all 

children would be taught that the gay lifestyle and 

gay marriage is A-OK. From kindergarten onward, 

children would receive instruction that to grow-up and 

marry a boy or a girl is the same thing. This would have 

profound consequences for impressionable children, 

grandchildren and generations to come. 

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Second, research consistently shows that children do best 

when raised by a loving, dedicated father and mother 

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poverty, juvenile delinquency, sexual experimentation, 

and health problems). even where there is a divorce, 

usually the father and mother component remains. in 

addition, repeated studies show that children in gay 

households are more likely to experiment sexually and 

identify as gay than children reared in traditional homes. 

To advance their agenda, advocates of same-sex marriage 

often cite “studies” affirming the so-called positive and 

beneficial aspects of children having gay parents. Yet 

an excellent article in the Wall Street Journal entitled “a 

Social experiment Without Science Behind it” (nelson 

Lund 3/27/13) exposed the flimsy and flawed “evidence” 

with conclusions from a handful of years and biased 

advocacy groups. The “Lesbian family Study” relied 

on samples from lesbian events, lesbian bookstores and 

lesbian newspapers! Lund cited the one credible study 

that exists (large random sample, objective measures of 

well-being and reports of grown children) by sociologist 

Mark Regnerus at the university of Texas. The findings: 

children in same-sex relationships were at a SignificanT 

DiSaDvanTage with depression, educational 

attainment and criminal behavior versus children of 

intact biological families. 

President obama himself cited statistics on fatherlessness 

in america when he was seeking wide support in 

his quest for the Presidency. he cited five times the 

poverty and crime: nine times the dropout rate; twenty 

times the prison rate; in addition to behavioral problems, 

teen pregnancies and runaways where there was 

no dad. 

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ebony magazine began a four issue series on families 

without fathers in May of 2013 with the cover headline, 

“Saving our Sons”. citing facts like “3 of 4 young black 

men in Washington D.c. will serve time in prison” and 

“10% of eighth grade black males function at an 8th 

grade reading level”, the editors underscored the fragile 

state of marriage and family in their communities. Yet 

“progressives” call to further disrupt things with a social 

experiment of gay marriage?! 

it’s one thing to see pictures of loving gay and lesbian 

couples holding cute, little babies or playing with toddlers, 

but what about when they grow up into the teen 

years? Tv shows like “Modern family” usually go for 

the more sanitized and simplified approach, rather than 

what really happens in teen and young adult years. 

Let’s get real--the most “loving” lesbian in the world 

faces enormous challenges in having to teach a boy how 

to be a man. Same thing when the most “loving” gay 

man has to teach a girl how to be a woman (although 

both will teach them a lot about “other things” by their 

daily influence along with exposing them to homosexual 

behavior on a regular basis). 

imagine two gay dads leading their daughter through 

her first “period”…explaining female issues she’s encountering…what 

to look for in a “training bra” or in a 

future husband …explaining to her why her “dads” act, 

talk and relate as they do. 

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imagine two lesbians trying to instruct their son about 

throwing a football…answering embarrassing male 

sexual inquiries …explaining why they sleep together… 

handling potential razzing he gets from his friends 

(children can be cruel and could care less about being 

politically correct)…helping him buy a jock strap, handle 

a bully or learn how to defend himself…learn what 

to look for in a wife and then how to care for her. 

Bottom Line: Rather than placing children at risk, we 

should humble ourselves and acknowledge the original 

and oldest family structure of all really is the best! 

“Don’t tear down a fence until you know why 

it was put up.” 

-African Proverb 

4. legalizing same-sex marriage “softens 

the soil” and paves the way for other gay, 

lesbian, bisexual and transgender 

relationships in the culture. 

for those who are uninformed regarding the “progressive” 

agenda, consider two sympathetic “visionaries” and 

their words: 

“a middle ground might be to fight for same-sex marriage 

and its benefits and then, once granted, redefine 

the institution of marriage completely, to demand the 

right to marry not as a way of adhering to society’s 

moral codes but rather to debunk a myth and radically 

alter an archaic institution.”-Michelangelo Signorile, 

ouT Magazine January 1994 

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“Because american marriage is inextricable from christianity, 

it admits participants as noah let animals onto 

the ark. But it doesn’t have to be that way. in 1972, the 

national coalition of gay organizations demanded the 

‘repeal of all legislative provisions that restrict the sex or 

number of persons entering into a marriage unit; and 

the extension of legal benefits to all persons who cohabit 

regardless of sex or numbers.’ Would polygamy invite 

abuse of child brides, as feminists in Muslim countries 

and prosecutors in Mormon utah charge? no! group 

marriage could comprise any combination of genders.”- 

-Judith Levine-author, advocate for lowering the age of 

consent for sexual activity. 

on the other side of the fence is this perspective- 

“Legalizing same-sex ‘marriage’ is not a stand-alone 

policy…. once governments assert that same –sex unions 

are the equivalent of marriage, those governments 

must defend and enforce a whole host of other social 

changes.” -Jennifer Morse, national catholic Register 

consider: 

• After legalizing same-sex marriage in Massachusetts, 

catholic charities was ordered to accept gay couples 

as adoption candidates. They closed down their 100 

year old adoption program rather than comply. Who 

suffers? 

• A Methodist retreat center in New Jersey had its taxexempt 

status revoked after refusing to allow lesbian 

couples its usage for their ceremony. 

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What would you do if your young daughter went into a 

public restroom and came out rattled because there was 

a man inside who upon inquiry, stated he was “transgender?” 

Colorado has now opened all public accommodations 

to “transgendered people,” so as not to be “discriminatory.” 

These are some of the very real and catastrophic effects 

of the whole gay marriage push. Acceptance of gay marriage 

“rights” provides momentum for changing other 

liberties. This is why Supreme Court Justice Antonin 

Scalia has said, 

“Many Americans do not want persons who openly engage 

in homosexual conduct as partners in their business, 

as scoutmasters for their children, as teachers in 

their children’s schools or as boarders in their home… 

They view this as protecting themselves and their 

families from a lifestyle that they believe to be immoral 

and destructive.” 

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5. Government endorsement of gay marriage 

legitimizes this lifestyle to “mainstream 

respectability”, further eroding the morality 

of our nation. 

It places an official stamp of approval on homosexuality 

which some hail as “progressive” but many view with 

deep concern because of the actions associated with the 

lifestyle. Dangerous, at-risk sexual behavior has contributed 

to HIV/AIDS and other STDs that are endangering 

lives, jeopardizing health care and seriously impacting 

our economy. When I donated a pint of blood recently, I 

discovered that gays are not allowed to give blood. With 



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the CDC (Centers for Disease Control) stating there 

are 110,197,000 venereal infections in America, should 

we exacerbate the crisis? Additionally, with fatherless 

households skyrocketing and out of wedlock births 

epidemic ( Hispanics-53%; Blacks-70%; Lower income 

Whites-70%; and Mothers under 30-50%), and over 

1.2 million unborn babies aborted yearly, isn’t it time to 

examine our moral trajectory rather than experiment 

with more social engineering that obviously contributes 

to our moral decline? 

Remember the words of John Adams, our second President: 

“Our Constitution was made only for a moral and 

religious people.” 

6. New laws, policies, initiatives, and ordinances 

will be enacted to “educate” people and force 

compliance with the “progressive” agenda. 

If the institution of marriage between a man and a 

woman, as the cornerstone of civilization for thousands 

of years is changed, then everything must change to accommodate 

the “new social order”. 

• Liberal theologians and ministers have 

already published the new Queen James Bible (available 

at Amazon) altering and deleting passages to 

indoctrinate the masses. 

• California passed a law forbidding professional 

therapists to counsel anyone under 18 that changing 

from homosexuality is possible (or even desirable). 

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another law in california under consideration denies 

tax-exempt status to any youth organization refusing 

to accept homosexuals as leaders or members. 

• Brown University’s student health plan will now 

cover sex changes (“gender Reassignment”) if a girl 

wants to morph into a male or vice versa. 

• Pressure is on the Boy Scouts of America to allow 

open practitioners of the gay lifestyle as Scoutmaster 

role models (even though it violates the 103 year old 

oath to live “morally straight” as one’s duty to god). 

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• Dr Laura Schlessinger was forced to cancel her 

nationally syndicated Tv program after referring to 

homosexuality as a “biological abnormality” in her 

professional opinion. 

• So-called “hate speech” laws in Europe already muzzle 

ministers from simply teaching what scripture 

says on gay marriage and the lifestyle. 

The redefinition of marriage threatens the religious 

freedom of every christian individual, parent, minister, 

educator, business owner, organization, school and 

university to function according to their convictions if 

they run counter to a Supreme court’s ruling. imagine 

Jesuit-run, georgetown catholic university attempting 

to refuse on-campus housing for a newly “married” 

gay couple if the Pandora’s Box is opened! 

“Discrimination?!” 

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While all Americans have a right to pursue happiness 

on an equal basis, legal partnerships/civil unions 

allow people to have equal access to the benefits 

without the obliteration of marriage as it has stood in 

law and custom throughout history, embraced by every 

major world religion for millennia. Why must we 

consider complete moral upheaval to accommodate 

2-3% of the population knowing probably only a 

fraction of that small minority have any intention of 

“marrying” anyway? 

7. The younger generation will drift further 

into the throes of confusion regarding 

sexual identity, the sanctity of marriage and 

the role of children in a family. 

if marriage changes from a god-ordained sacrament 

to an “anything goes” partnership for “love”, sexual 

indulgence and government benefits, young men and 

women will figure, “Who needs it?” They will do like 

many celebrities (cohabitate and serial divorce) or 

simply live together in a variety of sexual arrangements 

with children birthed or adopted at will. norway, which 

pioneered same-sex marriage, has sections where 80% 

of children are born out of wedlock! and that’s with 

rampant abortion. 

among youth and the broader culture, there is rampant 

confusion as we’ve drifted away from the truth. The 

progression is simple: rejecting truth results in loss of 

discernment and ultimately moral chaos. Denial of 

truth undermines people’s attempts to handle sexual 

issues as “every man does what is right in his own eyes.” 

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When natural order is disregarded, it leads to the downward 

spiral explained by the brilliant theologian, Paul, 

when he penned the following to the emerging church in 

Rome. 

“The wrath of God is being revealed from heaven against 

all the godlessness and wickedness of people, who suppress 

the truth by their wickedness.” (Romans 1:18) 

“Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their 

hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies 

with one another. They exchanged the truth about God 

for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather 

than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen. Because 

of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their 

women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural 

ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural 

relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one 

another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, 

and received in themselves the due penalty for their error. 

Furthermore, just as they did not think it worthwhile to 

retain the knowledge of God, so God gave them over to a 

depraved mind, so that they do what ought not to be done ” 

(Romans 1:24-28). 

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Although it’s a difficult pill for some to swallow, the 

record stands: Homosexuality is not merely a harmless, 

“gay” lifestyle that folks are born into, according to the 

Bible, it is the unmistakable consequence of rejecting the 

truth about God and His plan for mankind. And when 

Scripture says people “receive in their own bodies the 

due penalty for their sin” (Romans 1:27), this explains 

why men engaging in this behavior usually become 

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effeminate in speech and mannerisms while women 

often become more mannish in appearance and 

behavior as well. 

This is not stereotyping - it is straight talk. 

This is not “hate speech” or “homophobia” – it’s truthtelling 

and giving people hope that there is another way. 

Change is possible -- if people want it. 

Our children and the young people of our nation deserve 

to know the truth about God and His standards on 

marriage and the family, rather than be set adrift to sail 

on the sea with no moral compass. 

8. We as a nation will plunge further into the 

depths of secularism and away from our 

heritage as a Judeo-Christian nation. 

Our Declaration of Independence was based on Judeo- 

Christian principles, not guesswork. It mentions God 

four times. This is fact. 

• “Our Creator” 

• “Nature’s God” 

• “Supreme Judge of the world” 

• “Our Divine Protector in whom we rely.” 

It asserted that all of us are endowed by our Creator with 

certain God-given rights--life, liberty and the pursuit of 

happiness. Life includes the right to life (from conception 

until natural death). Liberty does not mean freedom 

to do whatever one wants, but responsibility to do as one 

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ought (divine and civil laws restrict certain immoral and 

illegal behavior to balance order and freedom). Pursuit 

of happiness in its original meaning spoke of virtuous 

pursuit of a prosperous, fulfilling life. Happiness did 

not refer to drunkenness, revelry, unrestrained promiscuity 

or any selfish, narcissistic endeavor to make one 

feel good or escape reality. Did you know that Thomas 

Jefferson, a non Christian and the champion of those 

heralding “separation of church and state” actually said 

(and I believe we would all strongly disagree) that homosexuals 

should be dealt with severly? 

Our Founding Fathers, honoring a Judeo-Christian 

belief system, upheld the Hebrew and Christian Bible 

as their source of wisdom for life, laws and legislation. 

They unashamedly believed in Divine Providence. They 

used their collective wisdom to draft documents that 

clearly reflect a Biblical worldview and made us the 

most powerful and prosperous nation on earth. This 

recent ouster of God from the public arena amounts to 

absurdity. It’s born of the intent to establish a religion 

of secularism as a substitute for the scriptural basis upon 

which America was founded. It’s freedom OF religion 

not freedom FROM religion. 

We have a moral imperative to rectify our current ignorance 

and waywardness to get back on track. May we 

pass on to the next generation the same foundation and 

freedom we received from our parents- those oftentimes 

called, “The Greatest Generation.” 

At this serious crossroads in our history, it would do 

us good to reflect on the immortal words of America’s 

patriot, Samuel Adams: 

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9. If same-sex marriage is legalized we will 

have removed the two foundational 

“legs” upon which our nation stands—the 

sanctity of life (decimated through abortion 

on demand) and the sanctity of marriage. 

Millions of faith-based citizens believe this would invite 

the judgment of God upon our land. This consequence 

is scoffed at by many but there still is hope if we awaken 

and fulfill what Scripture states. 

“If My people, who are called by My name, 

will humble themselves and pray and seek My face 

and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear 

from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal 

their land:” (2 Chronicles 7:14) 

Two previous times in America’s history we have experienced 

an “awakening” and turning back to God. Will 

we heed the call in this critical hour before it’s too late? 

10. The consequence of same-sex 

marriage: Catholics, Evangelicals, 

Protestants and Charismatic Christians 

who are faithful to the Bible will unite 

together and work more closely together 

for marriage, family and a host of other 

areas currently under attack. 

Listen, can you hear some of the voices from different 

areas of the Christian church? 

“Make no mistake: the normalization of same-sex 

marriage will leave no sector of our society untouched. 

Marriage is so central to human culture that it touches 

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virtually every aspect of our laws, regulations and 

customs. To redefine marriage is to redefine the entire 

society. Christians in the United States must consider 

what this moral revolution will mean for us and for the 

challenge of remaining faithful to all that Christ has 

commanded.” 

-R. Albert Mohler 

President-Southern Baptist 

Theological Seminary 

One of the most beloved popes in history was Pope John 

Paul. His heart for justice came through with these 

poignant words in his inspiring Vatican document on 

this theme prior to his death. 

“Homosexual unions are totally lacking in the biological 

and anthropological elements of marriage and family 

which would be the basis, on the level of reason, for 

granting them legal recognition. Such unions are not 

able to contribute in a proper way to the procreation 

and survival of the human race.” 

Presently the state of marriage and the family have become 

seriously unstable and fragile since the 60’s season 

of “throwing off restraints.” While there are options to - 

day for gay and lesbian “partnerships,” to go beyond this 

to formally sanction same–sex marriage and dismantle 

over 5,000 years of our Western Civilization’s history is 

very dangerous. There would be no turning back. 

If we acquiesce to same-sex marriage and do to marriage 

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eform), “no fault divorce” and “abortion on demand”, 

families will be less stable, divorce will be higher, children 

will be less safe and the moral, plus financial fallout 

will be incalculable. 

We would do better to return to our roots as “one nation 

under God”, “shore up” what has been lacking and 

remind ourselves of the benefits to children and society 

of upholding the historic view of marriage and family. 

The patriots in Victor Hugo’s classic “Les Miserables” 

proclaimed in their anthem: “Will you join in our 

crusade?” 

Will you? 

“All that is required for the triumph of evil is that good 

men do nothing” 

-Edmund Burke 

Irish Statesman 

American Revolution supporter 

Larry Tomczak 

larrytomczak.com 

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