Aries June 2014

JUNE 2014 

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ARIES 

MISSION 

EDITORIAL DIRECTOR 

DAVID HEXBERG 

VICE DIRECTOR 

DANIEL SCHULTZ 

ME, MYSELF, & I 

LEYLA LUANNE 

TAMISHA SEALS 

TRISTAN BRIGGS 

GAY NEWS 

ALEX AIKENS 

HOT SEAT 

TRACY ELLIOT 

BEAUTY 

SABRINA ALCASAS 

LACEY STULTZ 

SURIA AKHTAR 

FASHION 

JAAKE CASTRO 

JUSTIN LIVINGSTON 

SUGAR & SPICE 

MATTHEW EMBREY MCCLAIN 

RONNIE STAFFORD 

KENDAL RILEY 

MENOLOGY 

ALLISTER DEAN 

ANDY MCBRIDE 

DESTINEE GAMBLE 

Mehbuba Al 

ILLUSTRATIONS 

MATT SKINGSLEY 

COVER PHOTOGRAPHY 

VIC CRULICH 

JUNE 2014 / ARIES 2 

“With Men In Mind”, Aries is 

the life-stylist and advocate 

— for courageous, dynamic, 

men who hunger to be the 

best they can be in every 

range of their life. 

Aries is looking to change the 

name “GAY” to be a finer and 

respected definition of each 

and every community, rather 

than the definition that everybody 

has come to know. 

Here at Aries we strive to 

provide info on relationships, 

romance, the best in fashion, 

beauty, the latest in men’s 

health/well being, and what 

is happening in pop culture 

/ entertainment. Everything 

that courageous dynamic 

MEN want to know about.

3 ARIES / JUNE 2014

JUNE 2014 / ARIES 4

Letter From The Editor 

Fun In 

The Sun! 

Sun, Tahoe, and of course the best drink that 

my Auj had ever made. Thank you Pintrest! All I 

can tell you is that it was made with Malibu rum, 

fruit punch, and cut up strawberries for some 

fun. Nothing beats when you head to the becch 

for the first time of the summer—breakin’ it in. 

Since that was the case, a new outfit was in order. 

So heading to my fav store H&M, going from 

rack to rack, I put together an amazing look, 

thanks to my best pal—GALEN! As the sun got 

higher and higher, the deeper our buzz became. 

I finally met 

the amazing 

Tory. She is a 

wild one! 

Drink of 

Choice 

Hippie 

Juice 

-1c. Smirnoff 

Watermelon 

-Vodka - 

1/3c. Triple 

Sec 

-1/3c. Malibu 

Coconut 

Rum 

- 4 scoops 

Country 

Time Pink 

Lemonade 

Mix 

-Water, and 

Strawberries 

David Hexberg 

David Hexberg 

Editorial Director 

davidhexberg@ariesmag.com 

Twitter@ ariesmagazine 

ariesmagazine.com 


IN EVERY ISSUE 

5 Letter from the 

Editor 

8 Behind The Scenes 

11 Aries Inbox 

112 Ariescope 

116 Red-Hot Read 

119 Aries Quiz 

June 

COVER STORIES 

38 In The Scene 

40 Aries Guy - 

Matt Ryanz 

44 Ron Price 

50 Courageous, 

Dynamic, Men 

ENTERTAINMENT 

12 Celeb Buzz 

15 Street Crush 

16 Bitch It Out 

18 Gay Cinema 

20 10 Things To Do 


CONFESSIONS 

23 Confessions 

24 Worst date ever 

27 Dirty little 

secrets 

ME, MYSELF, & I 

28 I Survived My 

Wedding 

32 Friends Vs. 

Boyfriends 

37 Your Guide To Pride 

NEED TO KNOW 

52 Philly Guy Killed 

From Grindr App 

BEAUTY 

54 Shaggy Pomp 

56 Ask Sabrina 

58 $10—tops! 

61 The Skinny On—pH 

Balanced Skin 

FASHION 

63 Must Have! 

64 To Heal or 

Not To Heal 

66 Your Go-To 

Summer Outfit 

69 California Dreaming 

71 Ask Jaake 

72 Scout Sixteen 

SUGAR & SPICE 

77 Keep Your Sex 

Life Alive 

78 Have Drunk 

Sex Sober 

80 Sex Q&A 

81 Sex Position 

of the Month 

MENOLOGY 

83 Make Your Summer 

Dates Hot! 

84 Your Guide To The 

Male Brain 

86 1 Guy, 

4 Blind Dates 

92 Secrets to The One 

Year Relationship 

97 Relationship Q&A 

ARIES WORK 

100 Starting A Business 

With Your Bestie 

IN & OUT 

102 I Like The Stubble! 

HEALTH 

107 Take A Break! 

110 Sex Won’t Torch 

Calories, But 

We Still Love It! 

112 Get The V-Shape 

Body You Deserve! 


Ron getting his makeup 

and hair done by our 

Beauty Director Sabrina 

Filling out his 

Aries Quiz 

He brought 

his own boots! 

Behind 

The 

Scenes 

Ron Arrived at 2pm wearing his Starbucks 

uniform. He had just gotten off 

of work. While waiting for our Beauty 

Director—Sabrina—and photographer—Vic—Aries 

had him fill out his 

Aries Quiz. He was so ready for the 

shoot. “Hey if something like this 

comes your way, then it must be a 

good sign to take it.”, says Ron . 

Setting Up! 




ARIES INBOX 

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AFTER 

MY MAN DOES PULL AWAY 

“I would have never thought to 

put those 3 reasons into play. The 

reason “The Chemistry’s Fading” 

really puts it into perspective. We 

used to be so close. Talking to 

me about how I feeling sparked 

the flame again.” 

—Harold, B., Williamsport, PA 

PRANK AWAY! 

“Got my guy really good this year, and never 

saw it coming. He always gets me and I 

wanted a good ideas to get him. I didn’t just 

prank him once, twice, but three times. Next 

year will be even better. ” 

—Cain M., Reno, NV 

STREET CRUSH 

“This is by far the best page in the entire 

magazine. God such hotties, where do I find 

them and get their number. Keep this in the 

magazine! ” 

—Brant P., Reno, NV 

What You Thought 

of the April Issue 

BEFORE 

We had a hunch that some of you were wanting to see 

a guy who wasn’t toned, but still was fit. James was 

our guy. Most of you don’t know is that he used to be 

a little chubbier. During the photo shoot he whipped 

out his phone and gave me a sneak peak at what he 

used to look like. All I can say is this....KEEP GOING 

JAMES! He looks amazing, I love hearing/seeing people 

taking control of there lifes and making a change. 

Really takes empowerment to a whole new level if you 

ask me. Some of his friends actually emailed me and 

wanted to thank me for putting him on the cover. Somebody 

like this needs to be recognized. This inspires me 

to even hit the gym and get that beach bod! Totes Jelly 

over here. 

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to do is facebook Aries Magazine why you’re an 

Aries guy. #IWANTTHIS....#ARIESGUY. All 

I can say is the product is fantastic and that it is 

super comfortable. Don’t Miss Out!!!! 

WHAT IT MEANS TO BE AN ADULT 

“This has always been a tough subject for me to swallow. You never 

have too much fun. The consequences are just that, boring as hell. 

I have been in jail 5 times in the pass year and It’s something that I 

don’t want to do or end up in again. So where does the line end for 

fun and the begin for adult. This article really helped me find that 

line.” 

—Jerry T., Asheville, NC 

Talk to us! What do you think about the issue? 

Visit Ariesmagazine.com to comment or 

e-mail your thoughts to davidhexberg@ariesmag.com 


ENTERTAINMENT 

PLAY BALL! 

Ryan P. out at 

his son Deacon’s 

Baseball 

Game. 

Batter Up! 

Flynn making dad 

Orlando Bloom 

look to see the 

camera. LOOK! 

Happy 

Hot-Dads’ Day! 

We’re not going to try to 

ake “DILF” happen, but 

there’s something about a 

hot guy with his kid...Question 

is, who’s cuter: these 

celebs or their little 

snugglebugs? 

Chris 

Hemsworth’s 

biceps may be 

bigger than his 

daughter, 

But he’s 

he’ll protect 

her while in 

INDIA. 

CELEB 

BUZZ 

We dig Mark 

Wahlberg 

and son 

Brendan’s 

matching 

kicks more 

than they dig 

the game. 

Ever wonder what 

kind of dad Dawson 

would be? James 

Van Der Beek is super 

cute with Olivia 




Street 

Crush 

We asked some of you to send 

in the hotties from your area. 


Maybe you should have worn 

an undershirt! 

Bitch It Out! 

Working your last nerve! There 

are people who tend to get 

under your skin so here is a 

place to vent! 

I am not sure 

about what 

the hell he is 

wearing but 

the knee pads! 

The latest 

trend...The 

Lohan 

Denny’s really 

wants you to 

feel like you’re 

at home! 


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To Get Dirty? 

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GAY CINEMA 

The movie Geography Club (2013), 

directed by the twin actor/director/ 

awesome Gary and Edmund Entin, is 

the movie adaptation from the book 

(2003) of the same name by Brent 

Hartinger. Despite the generation 

gap between the alternate media 

releasing, the fundamental themes 

of life that cause people to live in 

fraudulence and desperation for 

the prized status quo that Hartinger 

originally wrote into his novel are 

presented without obfuscation by the 

Entin directors in this easily relatable 

high-school teen dramedy. 

Russell, the main character played 

by Cameron Deane Stewart, is an 

average guy with a quirky sense of 

humor and a good general optimism 

about life.* He doesn’t question his 

sexuality, but that doesn’t mean that 


navigating high school isn’t going 

to be particularly farcical for him 

or any of this Breakfast Club-esque 

cast of characters. Russell with his 

comically compensating friend Gunner, 

played by Andrew Caldwell, and 

a few other courageously relatable 

friends embark along a modern take 

on the road to age-appropriate self 

actualization through love interests 

and the social turbulences of high 

school. 

Since more people gain a rapid understanding 

of their sexuality in this 

decade, Geography Club focuses on 

the struggle for what to do with your 

identity in this world of peer pressure 

after you have already accepted 

yourself, rather than retell the story 

of the ‘one’ who needs to be shown 

who they are. Because really in life 

“this is your thing, run with it.” Mrs. 

Toles. 

I gave Geography Club 6 out 

of ten Aries Ram horns. Don’t let 

my score fool you into not watching 

this fun-times-with-friends movie 

though. Geography Club is loaded 

RATING 

B- 

July’s Next 

Gay Movie 

Review

with ridiculous unpredictable scenarios 

that kept me asking “what’s gonna 

happen next!?” The only conspicuous 

issues that really rammed this 

movie in the nuts were the fact that 

some stories shouldn’t be condensed 

into one movie, just like this one… 

The depth of detail allocated for this 

film is a far cry from what must be 

held in the pages of the book from 

which it was adapted, but it’s now 

modern. (Hartinger-book author- did 

make a whole series…) But really, 

this movie isn’t on a H.P. budget, so 

dismount the hippogriff and blow off 

the cinematic expectation of a Hollywood 

smash hit and enjoy the incredible 

acting, WTF’s, and the awww’s 

this movie has to offer. 

On a more analytical note, 

I was surprised to find that by the 

time I was done watching the movie 

a second time I had generated 16 

pages of notes on a wide variety of 

topics from the directing and editing 

to the acting and character development. 

While I do not have the 

space necessary to extrapolate on all 

reasons why I think there are pertinent 

reasons to watch the film, there 

are a few key story lines and character 

archetypes that really caught my 

attention. 

All the relationships in this movie 

seem to tell the same story on 

slightly different avenues. One of 

the greatest things you can do in life 

is to find someone who you can be 

yourself around, often times though; 

we don’t have the ability to find that 

person until we can come to terms 

with how we want society to treat 

us. Geography club explores several 

different relationships in which each 

person has a completely different 

take on how they want society to 

view them. As the movie develops 

you are sure to relate one of these 

situations. Interestingly enough, 

many of the characters depicted in 

the “Geography Club” were direct 

parallels of people I knew. 

Ever person alive can relate 

to having less than their fair share of 

integrity on more than one occasion. 

Self reflection is a necessary break 

away from the abstract falsities of 

our everyday lives that can bring us 

back to self actualization. Though 

there is only one perspective telling 

the story, the times during which 

Russell becomes self reflective are 

excellent parallels to his evolving 

feelings towards being alone in the 

world. 

As the “geography club” 

comes together it’s obvious that each 

person inherently shares a common 

fear of being judged for who 

they really are by their peers. This 

emotional theme is experienced by 

everyone alive, so the importance of 

a fun, safe and therapeutic support 

group has almost become a requirement 

for maturity. Because all of the 

members of the “geography club” 

are open to each other about the intricacies 

of their fears, through their 

connection, they are able to support 

one another and lift weight from the 

daily trials of high school. 

Of course this movie has many 

other plot lines and themes that are 

a guaranteed accompaniment to any 

LGBTIQA movie, and if you are 

one of those people who enjoy films 

about inspirational quotes based on 

simple yet profound statements such 

as “learn to be yourself,” trust me 

you won’t be disappointed. 

NOTES FROM 

THE AUTHOR 

“When I was writing Russel 

(the main character 

-- spelled “Russell” in the 

movie version), I thought 

of him as pretty autobiographical. 

He’s not “me” 

exactly, but he has my 

sense of humor, my general 

optimism, and my 

sense of not being crazy 

about being in the spotlight. 

I see him and his 

friends as being very very 

quirky. I figured a lot of 

gay guys could relate to 

him and his friends, especially 

the nerdy intellectual 

types, but I didn’t 

particularly think he’d 

have massive crossover 

appeal.” 


10 Things to d 

Rock Out 

Go See These 

Lucy Hale 

From her hit series 

“Pretty Little Liars,” 

Lucy’s coming out 

with a country album, 

June 3 

HOW TO TRAIN 

YOUR DRAGON 2 

The heroic Viking Hiccup 

and his faithful dragon 

Toothless must protect 

the peace -- and save 

the future of men and 

dragons from the power-hungry 

Drago. 


The Purge 2 

A couple are quickly trying 

to get to their home 

before The Purge starts 

but their car runs out of 

gas 


TRANSFORMERS 4: 

AGE OF 

EXTINCTION 

As humanity picks up 

the pieces, following the 

conclusion of: Dark of 

the Moon, Autobots and 

Decepticons have all but 

vanished from the face of 

the planet. 


Miranda Lambert 

She’s back again but 

this time with a glitzy 

album. 


22 JUMP STREET 

Officers Schmidt (Jonah Hill) and 

Jenko (Channing Tatum) go deep 

undercover at a local college, but 

when Jenko meets a kindred spirit 

on the football team, and Schmidt 

infiltrates the bohemian art major 

scene, they begin to question their 

partnership. 


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Far from being deterred 

by stereotypes, Halperin 

concludes that the 

genius of gay culture 

resides in some of its 

most despised features. 

Drama Queen 

Drama Queen is fast, 

funny, and delivers a 

healthier option than 

accepting the worst 

and expecting the 

world. For many gay 

men, drama is an essential 

spice of life.

o this Month 

Tune In 

Attend This 

Pretty Little Liars 

The girls are back for another 

season. Now that “A” knows 

the girls have to deal with new 

hits. June 10 

True Blood 

Season 7 of True Blood is 

the seventh and final season 

of the show. For those who 

wanted to watch the show 

catch up before it’s all over. 


Orange Is New Black 

Netflix cleverly told us when 

the new season starts. Let’s 

see what’s in stock. June 22 

San Fransisco Gay Pride 

The two-day celebration takes place in Civic Center 

Plaza in downtown San Francisco the last full 

weekend of June each year. The Parade, which 

takes place the Sunday morning of the event, kicks 

off from Beale Street along Market and ends at 

Market and 8th St. in the heart of downtown San 

Francisco. June 28-29 



CONFESSIONS 

You reveal your most 

embarassing, RIDICULOUS, 

what-was-I-thinking moments. 

“I decided to visit my Grandma 

that I have not seen in a long time. 

When I arrived in to town, I didn’t tell 

her I was and wanted to surprise her. 

I got to her house and when I entered 

I witnessed my G-MA and a stranger 

younger man doing the nasty.” 

—Jesse D,. 20, Reno, NV. 

“I have a Family Guy 

addiction. I’ve seen every 

episode. I can predict what 

the characters will say. 

Every Saturday, I’m secretly 

happy, because I can 

watch Family Guy all day.” 

—Taylor J,. 24, San Fran. 

“I 

have every 

other month a new 

roommate. I think it’s because 

I walk around naked 

every chance I get. I tell them 

that I do, but I don’t think 

they believe me until they 

see my man 

meat.” 

—Taylor J,. 24, Reno, 

NV 

“I was with a guy at a club, and we were 

heading down domn some really steep stairs. 

I turned to give him a sexy look, instead I 

ate it. I scraped my knees and everyone was 

laughing at me, but I think he might have 

liked me even more for it..” 

—Izzy G,. 21, Carson City, NV 


WORST DATE EVER! 

He Wasn’t 

Gay 

& Thought 

It Was A 

Double 

Date! 

“I thought 

he was a 

nice, gay 

guy. He 

thought I’d 

like a date 

with a girl.” 


I 

usually don’t go out with a 

guy I meet online before I see 

what he looks like. I usually 

ask to do camera to camera, 

but this time, I looked like a 

mess, so I exchanged numbers with 

one guy and we talked for 10 minutes 

through the phone. He seemed 

nice, so we arranged to meet the next 

day for coffee. We decided to meet 

in Jabal Amman in front of this nice, 

old café. 

I arrived there and waited 

for 10 minutes outside before he 

arrived. He picked me up and we 

went to Rainbow Street. But, when 

we reached a place called Batata, 

I started to worry! There were two 

girls waiting in front, one of them 

wearing a short, red dress and the 

other wearing jeans with a cute top. 

He stopped at the girls and 

said, “Oh, these are my friends, let 

me pick them up, maybe they need a 

lift.” 

I kept quiet because I knew 

this was some sort of game from the 

looks on the girls’ faces. It looked as 

they knew he was coming. 

He introduced me and then 

informed them that I was gay. They 

said, “Really? Oh, how cute.” 

I tried to excuse myself and 

said that I had to leave, but they were 

so insisting that I found myself having 

dinner with them. After awhile, 

they started asking me all types of 

questions: 

“What do you do?” “Do 

you have a boyfriend?” 

“Does your family 

know?” “What’s gay sex 

like?” “What’s your religion?” 

It all made me really uncomfortable. 

Enough was enough. I looked 

at my “date” and told him, “Nice 

one, disrespectful much?” Then I 

headed to the door. He wasn’t gay! 

Very interesting to meet a straight 

guy on Manjam (a gay online dating 

site). What a scene!



Artwork By: Matt Skingsley 

DIRTY SECRETS 

So you couldn’t keep it to yourself! 

“I sold your 

iPad to pay 

for my addiction. 

I don’t 

regret it.” 

“When you’re at 

work, your boyfriend 

comes over and we 

have amazing sex. 

Tells me that it’s 

way better than 

you.” 

“GIVE IT UP! 

YOU WILL 

NEVER FIND 

THE GUY 

LIKE YOUR 

EX. ALONE IS 

CALLING YOUR 

NAME.” 

“I started losing 

weight cuz I hate 

how our community 

labels us gays. 

I’m not a bear and 

don’t want to be.” 

“I hacked into 

your facebook 

and saw that 

you like me. 

Why won’t you 

tell me that you 

like me?” 

“The next time you 

start talking crap 

make sure that I’m 

not friends with 

someone you like. 

He’s never gonna 

like you now. ” 

“In high school 

you said that you 

tried to commit 

suicide with a 

paperclip, little 

did you know 

that everybody 

was ready to 

give you one” 

“I am patiently 

waiting 

for you 

to die so I 

don’t have 

to worry 

about you 

being alive 

and coming 

near my mom.” 

“All I ever want 

to do is just 

leave you. I 

was in love 

with you until I 

found out you 

cheated on me. 

#Waiting” 


LIVE IT UP! 

I Survived My 

Wedding By: Tamisha Seals 

There it is, he’s on one knee after a romantic night out. He pulls out a 

beautiful red velvet box, opens it to reveal a sparkling diamond ring. 

He then asks that magical question, “will you marry me?” Of course 

you say yes! Here begins a long journey. No one is thinking about it at 

first, but suddenly it sinks in. You’re getting married and now there’s a 

wedding to plan. You think about the colors, suits, dresses, venues, the 

reception, food, etc. Even with a wedding planner this will take some 

time and hard work. I’m going to help out a little bit to help you survive 

the wedding. 

All For The Right Reason 

You said you would, and you both 

know one thing, you’re madly in 

love. So getting married seems like 

the thing to do, right? Well before 

you plan every detail and have 

everyone show up for the day (only 

to have someone get cold feet) make 

sure you’re are getting married for 

the right reason. Now a good reason 

to marry would be you’ve both 

known each other for a significant 

amount of time, and have got to 

know each other well enough that 

you are willing to deal with their 

whole package, family included. The 

last thing you need is to be getting 

a divorce because you can’t stand 

your partner’s mother. Family has a 

big impact on relationships. You also 

have to be willing to stand behind 

each other, even in disagreements. 

Another good reason is that you 

communicate well with one another. 

Though you won’t always agree with 

your partner, you must learn to argue 

respectfully. If you love that person 

you shouldn’t hurt them no matter 

the circumstances. Communication 

is the key to a healthy and happy 

marriage. A friend of mine explained 

his reason, “it wasn’t ever really a 

thought, it was more of a feeling. It 

was like my heart could read theirs 


and vice versa. We didn’t even 

have to speak it into words, we just 

knew!” 

Planning The Wedding 

Planning the wedding doesn’t have 

to be as stressful as you might think. 

The key word here is to PLAN! Keep 

in mind that things may not go as 

planned, and it’s a good idea to keep 

an open mind. If you’re searching for 

specific things, plan to have back ups 

in case something goes wrong. The 

more prepared you are the better results 

you’ll have. Just don’t go over 

board from nervousness. I’m sure 

every couple has their, “must haves,” 

so make a list of those things and 

circle which ones you are willing to 

alternate or change on sudden notice. 

If you simply must have something, 

then make sure you give extra time 

in order to obtain it. Try to have at 

least two options for things like your 

venue, cake, flowers, or decor. It’ll 

help ensure you don’t come across 

many disappointments. Be willing to 

compromise and most importantly 

take breaks from planning and relax 

with your partner. You wouldn’t 

want planning your wedding to pull 

you apart. Let your wedding planner 

do all the hard work. Picking 

out your decor should be fun and 

excited, not a headache. Remember 

they are there to help you that’s why 

you hired them. They are an expert 

at what they do and can make sure 

your special day is as magical as you 

have ever dreamed. If you and your 

partner choose not to hire a wedding 

planner, and have your family help 

instead, be sure they understand it’s 

your wedding and you guys call the 

shots. Some good tips from Theknot. 

com are: 1.Know how many guests 

will be there, so you know where 

to plan your venue. 2. Beware of 

wedding blackout dates, know ahead 

of time if your wedding date falls on 

the same date, like a special event 

that would affect traffic or hotel 

availability. 3. If you need to cut cost 

then start with the guests, if you cut 

ten guest at $100 a person, that saves 

you $1000. 

Choosing A Venue 

I’ve included this in this guide because 

I’ve come across some great 

tips that you should know. Picking 

the location of your venue is going 

to take some research. Get a folder 

to store important vendor numbers, 

dates for meeting, and pictures that 

get your idea out. Though the location 

of the venue is entirely up to the 

two of you, and with so many places 

that offer a wide variety of commodities 

and accommodations, this 

decision can be tough. Like I mentioned 

before find out ahead of time 

how many guests will be there, and 

keep in mind the closer you schedule 

the date the more money you may 

be able to save. Theknot.com says, 

“Your wedding vendors should be 

your go-to, most-trusted experts 

during the planning process. When 

working with them, you should feel 

free to really explore what it is you 

want.” You may also want to consider 

a location where your friends and 

family won’t have trouble making 

it to the ceremony. Another thing 

I’d like to mention, is that Mother


to have many people that will want 

in that top ranking position in the 

wedding then good creative way to 

avoid disappointments is to to have a 

playoff. That’s right! It’s competitive 

and fun! Have everyone that wants 

to be in the wedding party sign up 

for both sides. Find a few wedding 

friendly games and let the games 

begin. Everyone has a fair chance 

to be in the wedding party and no 

disappointments made. You can also 

host a party where you have a drawing 

to find who’s in and who’s out. 

Some exceptions to this would be 

who your florist and photographer 

are. In this case you’d want to check 

out their portfolio, and some satisfied 

customers. 

Nature isn’t always on our side. If 

you plan to have an outdoor wedding, 

see if you can make an easy 

transition to an indoor wedding in 

case it’s raining cats and dogs. You 

wouldn’t want your guests too leave 

to early either because it’s too hot 

or cold out. You might even want to 

consider some kind of pest control. 

Before you sign a contract with a 

venue see if they’ll throw a few extras 

in there, like an hour longer for 

cocktails. Decide whether or not you 

want a combination of the ceremony 

and reception at the same place. You 

may be able to save some money if 

your ceremony is held at the family 

church, and reception elsewhere, but 

then that means your guests will also 


have to do some extra traveling. 

The Wedding Party 

This might be the easiest decision to 

make, or the nightmare of decisions. 

If you don’t have many friends or 

family that live in the same state, or 

country, then deciding who’s going 

to be in your wedding party can be a 

piece of cake. Realistically, everyone 

is going to want to be included. First 

of all, there shouldn’t be any doubt 

who the person of honor is in both 

parties. Best friend, brother, sister, 

favorite cousin, someone who has 

a close and loyal relationship with 

you and you know in your heart who 

that person is. If you just so happen 

The HoneyMoon 

Now this has got to be every newlyweds 

favorite part of getting married. 

All the running around, and nervousness 

is finally over. Everyone is partied 

out, the families are joined, and 

now it’s time for some one-on-one 

time. Hopefully the two of you have 

already picked out a destination. 

Most people have, but not everyone, 

and some people don’t even go. If 

you’re choosing to go on a honeymoon 

and spoil yourselves, I don’t 

blame you. Being newly married is 

a great cause for celebration. Taking 

time for intimacy in seclusion so that 

you relationship can bond is wonderful. 

Some top spots to visit are 

The French Riviera, Italy, Rome, and 

Venice. The exotic and romantic setting 

can bring the two of you close 

together, not to mention the beautiful 

scenery, great food, and nice people. 

Many places offer a honeymooners 

discount to save you money as well, 

and some places will even wine and 

dine you for free. Visit Priceline. 

com for a full list of honeymoon 

destinations and package deals. I 

hope you’ve survived your wedding 

and I wish you a lifetime of love and 

happiness.


By: Leyla Luanne 

FRIENDS 

BOYFRIENDS 

We’ve all done it. 

Leaving for a trip out 

of town, we’re all 

packed and ready to 

go. We’re halfway to 

our destination and we look back with a 

wrinkle on our brow, a familiar feeling 

tickling at the back of our mind. We’ve 

forgotten something, we’re sure of it. 

Reaching back, we sift through all of 

our belongings, but nothing jumps out at 

us. We’ve got our wallets, our IDs, our 

toothbrush. We’ve got three extra pairs 

of underwear and three or four pairs of 

socks. We’ve got all those loose, little 

odds and ends. Anything and everything 

we could’ve thought of and a few we 

didn’t and still, there’s that certainty that 

something is undeniably missing. 

It isn’t until about an hour later, 

or maybe after our arrival that we realize 

what it was. That the horrid, nagging 

sensation of absent minded neglect was 

real. It was certain. It was there all along. 

And of all the things we could’ve 

forgotten, this one time, we forgot our 

best friend. 

Except it isn’t just this one time. 

We’ve done it before. More than once. 

Too often. But we’ve only just now realized 

it, because it began before we knew 

it. It was a moment, it was a breath, a 

glance, a smile, a laugh and suddenly 

our entire world has changed. 

Suddenly every waking moment 

is spent dreaming about that one, special 

someone and every night is spent in 

anticipation of the next moment we’ll 

see them again. If it’s love, all the better, 

but even if it’s just that fiery poker in the 

hearth of our loins, the fact of the matter 

is, our world now revolves around that 

certain someone. And that certain someone 

is the only axis we tilt on, spring, 


VS. 

When you start dating a new guy, be 

ready for some friendship fail-out. 

Here’s how to help all your relationships 

coexist...and, hopefully, grow.

summer, winter and fall, every season 

from now until global warming takes 

us all. 

But at what cost? Is it friends 

and family be damned? Is it all the 

plans and gatherings meant for you 

and your friends and family are left 

by the wayside while you moon and 

swoon over your new lady or beau? 

Is it always going to be that you’ve 

forgotten, misplaced the plans outside 

of the immediate and desperate desire 

to be nearer, just a tiny bit nearer to 

everything and anything having to do 

with the candy draped on your bent 

arm? And if it comes down to it, if you 

have to choose, what do you do? How 

does the decision between beau and 

bro bring about a tie-breaker in this 

dog-eat-dog world of friendship versus 

lovers? 

Your man-candy wants to see a 

movie. He chooses the newest, romantic 

chick-flick and you agree without a 

second thought, without so much as a 

bat of the eyelashes, except immediately 

after you’ve given your consent you 

remember that your bestie bought you 

two tickets for the midnight showing. 

How do we reconcile? Do we lie in 

wait as your bestie dresses in her best 

imitation of the heroine, fluffs, curls, 

trims and primps. Do we hide? Do we 

come forward or do we come up with 

another solution? 

Do we suggest a threesome? 

Do we hint at the amount of missed 

opportunities we’ve had in which the 

two could have bonded like Elmer’s 

and palms and insist that the time is 

now? That the time is long overdue? 

That we cannot believe it has taken 

this long in the first place. Do we haggle, 

finagle and smooth talk our way 

out of the tough spot we cannot believe 

we were foolish enough to drop ourselves 

into? 

Is this a solution or a greater 

problem? Does your friend bite, take 

the bait and jump at the opportunity 

to finally be a part of your life once 

more, or do they see right through your 

sneaky, little scheme? Will they feel 

like you’re including them, or is this 

a pity invite? Will they feel like one 

of the crew, or a third wheel? Do they 

excite at the prospect of meeting this 

infamous stranger, or does their enthusiasm 

deflate as they realize, with cold, 

deadly certainty, that you have once 

again forgotten that the two of you had 

plans long before this perfect stranger 

came into your life? 

And what about the second 

scenario? The one that didn’t really 

occur to us? The one that would have 

us break plans with that certain someone 

to honor our promise to our bestie? 

Do we give up those warm, fuzzy, 

90 minutes of cuddling in the dark, 

fluorescent glow of the neon exit sign, 

setting the stage for the promise of a 

later night than an hour and a half beneath 

the silver screen could ever hope 

to endure? 

Do we risk upsetting our beau? 

Making him feel as though he is not 

your top priority, that he or she is 

second best, second thought, not your 

number one? 

Do we promise one or the other 

that we’ll make it up to them next 

time? 

Where is the solution? Where 

do we draw the line at integration over 

integrity? Is there a balance to be had 

at all? Or could it be that we simply 

need to make time for both, together 

and separately? And what if it isn’t 

always about you? What if the neglect 

can become something smothering on 

the opposite end? Does your beau not 

need a night out with their best buddies? 

Does your bestie not need some 

time to themselves and their friends 

as well? Is it possible that sometimes, 

just sometimes, you might just need to 

spend some time by yourself as well? 

The fact of the matter is, 

you need to find that elusive middle 

ground, the infallible balance of the 

justice scales. When we make plans 

with the bestie, we need to honor those 

plans, we need to set aside that time 


and let it be that not every sentence 

that comes out of our mouths begins 

with the name of that certain someone. 

We need to resist the urge to text 

them every couple of minutes. To 

check their check-ins, their statuses 

and their picture blogs. 

We need to understand that 

we are not their wardens and it’s ok 

to let them slip your mind every here 

and there. We need to accept that we 

if you do so. They are not mutually 

exclusive, they are not oil and water. 

In fact, if the one does choose to stay 

around, they may need to become 

one and the same. 

Much as your bestie has 

become your family, so too might 

your beau become your bestie or one 

day be your family. In the end, all 

roads lead to home, so in the interest 

of making it a happy, peaceful and 

bring them together. Cook with the 

oil, throw out the water, replace it 

with wine. After all, when everything’s 

said and done, don’t we 

all love a gathering of family and 

friends that comes together at dusk 

and stays firm long past the break of 

day, through shadow and light and 

laughter and the promise of bonds 

that strengthen with time and time 

again? 

should slip their mind every here and 

there. Because few people are whole 

without friends and family and we 

wouldn’t want to be the reason they 

lose that, nor would we want to 

throw that away ourselves. 

By the same token, there’s no 

need to separate that two eternally, 

especially considering that either one 

might stick around or leave at will 

harmonious place, make sure that 

your priorities are where they belong, 

in each given moment, in each 

plan, for better or for worse, bound 

by the bonds of affections that differ 

in many ways, but are, ultimately the 

same. 

Love and love alike. Share 

and dare alike. 

And when the time is right, 

Never forget where you’ve 

come from, who was there and who 

will always be, but never neglect 

the promise of a tomorrow in which 

you can stand firm in the promise of 

another who might stay by your side 

the same in the present and time to 

come. 

Family is family, after all. 




GUIDE 

Your 

To 

PRIDE 

There comes a time when you go 

to your first Pride, like a right of 

passge, if you will. Some of the 

new gays—or gaybies—just don’t 

know what to expect or how to 

really get the best out of their first 

Gay Pride. We got you covered! 

San Fransisco 

San Francisco throws one of the 

more colorful and prominent Gay 

Pride festivals in the world, with the 

key events taking place over the last 

weekend in June (on June 28 to June 

29 in 2014). Of course, San Francisco 

has a rich and lengthy history of 

gay rights, and the city’s Pride events 

are well-attended, well-organized, 

and great fun for visitors - it’s also 

one of the largest Gay Pride celebrations 

in the United States. 

WHAT TO EXPECT: 

There is going to be a lot of people 

every where you turn. And be prepared 

to be waiting. Try to hit all the 

venues before the crowd starts to hit. 

That way you can enjoy the parade 

and anything else you want to do. 

You will meet people from all over 

the U.S. and even out of the country. 

LIVE IT UP!: 

You’re in the sun, you’re seeing hot 

guys in barely anything, and there 

is a lot to do. While you’re enjoying 

pride, head down to FISHERMAN’S 

WARF, great place to find some amama 

items. If you have time take the 

Muni to Castro, located just outside 

of San Fran, the gayest town ever! 

New York 

New York City celebrates Gay 

Pride each June (June 27 to June 29, 

2014), to honor what many consider 

to be one of the foremost events in 

the history of lesbian and gay rights, 

the Stonewall Riots, which commenced 

early in the morning on June 

28, 1969. 


Whether you’re marching or watching, 

make like a good scout and be 

prepared! Charring your torso to 

crimson is sure to ruin your night 

of bumping and grinding, whether 

you’re heading to the pier dance or 

your favorite club, so bring some 

sunblock. Finally, if you’ve got 

yourself wedged into a good spot, 

you’ll be unwise to leave it to forage 

for food, no matter how light-headed 

you feel. 

LIVE IT UP!: 

If you’re planning on heading down 

to New York for your Pride desitnation, 

then you’re in for a ride. Most 

of the events that happen are : Dance 

on the Pier, The March, Teaze, Vip 

Rooftop Party, and the Rally. 

Boston 

Boston’s always-vibrant Gay Pride 

celebration takes place this weekend, 

with the Parade and Festival on 

Saturday, June 9, and then the traditional 

block parties the following day 

in the charming Back Bay and funky 

Jamaica Plain neighborhoods. This is 

one of the earlier June Pride events 

of any major cities on the East Coast, 

and it tends to attract visitors from 

all over New England 


In a different climate and enviroment, 

this is town that you really 

don’t need to worry about. Just make 

sure to get out of the sun and that 

you are drinking water. Save the 

booze for the nightlife. 

LIVE IT UP!: 

This town is a little more traditional 

with their Pride Queeraoke, Flag 

Raising, Boston Gay Men’s Chorus’ 

Pride Concert: Can’t Stop the Beat 

– feat. Alex Newell, and all of their 

famous block parties! 


IN THE SCENE 

Unity 

Vanity’s annual Unity Party prings all the 

gay organizers together for one night! 




ARIES GUY 

Matt Ryanz 

QWhat is the style of 

your music? 

AWell i’m a hopeless romantic 

so I tend to write songs about 

love. I like to say I write pop songs 

but I draw from a lot of influences 

like dance, rock and electronic. 

What do you hope to achieve 

Q in the next 5 years? 

ATo move people through music. 

That’s all I ever wanted to 

do so If I can still be doing that in 5 

years that would be amazing! 

How did you get your start? 

Q 

Well I always loved to sing and 

A perform but you could say my 

first real “break” was getting accepted 

to NYU’s music program. 

That really set the foundation for 

everything I have done as a songwriter 

and musician. 

QIf you could collab with any 

music artist, who would it be? 

AMiley Cyrus hands down! 

QWhat does love mean to you? 

Wow thats a heavy question! 

A Love is something that has 

shaped every aspect of my life. 

It doesn’t matter if you’re gay, 

straight, a different ethnicity or spirituality 

- most people want to spend 

their life with someone. That has 

influenced everything that I do not 

just as a musician but as a man. I 

guess thats what love means to me 

Check Out 

Matt’s 

Latest Music 

VIdeo, -It’s Love 

To Me- 




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price 

Photography By: Vic Crulich 

Makeup & Hair : Sabrina A. 






NAME: 

Ronald Vernon 

Price 

NICKNAME: 

Ron or Ron Bro 

Frat Dude 

MY BEST FEATURE IS: 

My Smile or 

My Abs 

THE PERSON I SPILL ALL MY 

SECRETS TO IS: 

MY BEST FRIEND 

MY FIRST KISS WAS: 

Cailin 

YOU’D NEVER BELIEVE IT, 

BUT I ALWAYS HAVE: 

Rescue Seuba Diver 

THE CLOTHING ITEM THAT I 

CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT IS: 

Jeans and T-shirt 

MY BIGGEST CELEBRITY 

CRUSH IS: 

Sara Jean 

Underwood 

THE BEST LOVE ADVICE I’VE 

EVER RECEIVED: 

Don’t Settle for 

someone who isn’t 

completely there 

for you. 

WHO TOLD ME: 

My Father 

THE FIRST THING I NOTICE 

ABOUT A GIRL IS: 

HER EYES 

THE BEST THING ABOUT 

BEING IN A FRAT IS: 

Brotherhood 

THE LONGEST SECRET I EVER 

KEPT: 

Fraternity Secrets 

that over 100 

years old. 

THE ONE THING THAT I CAN- 

NOT LIVE WITHOUT IS: 

Family 

THE WORST PICK-UP LINE I 

HAVE EVER USED WAS: 

Are you a ticket? 

Because you have 

fine written all 

over you! 

MY ACHIEVEMENTS: 

Military Career and 

Athletic Awards 

MY HERO IS: 

Arnold 

Schwarzenegger 


Shepard Smith 

Fox News discriminated against longtime anchor Shepard 

Smith because Smith is gay and decided last year to finally, 

officially, come out. If true, Fox News’ actions could constitute 

a violation of both New York city and state (2002) employment 

law, which bans job discrimination based on sexual orientation. 

While I wouldn’t expect Smith, a longtime and loyal Fox 

News employee, to sue the network for discrimination, all bets 

are off if the network pushes him too far, and/or lets him go. 

Smith is also now in an odd position. If the allegations are true, 

Fox News may want him to publicly deny them. Of course, 

such pressure from Fox News could only add to Smith’s ultimate 

damages in any future court case. 

courageous 

dynamic 

men 

Men and even yes... 

women. kicking ass 

and making a 

difference. 

Op-ed: My 

Two Dads 

I am standing outside the steps of city hall 

in San Francisco. Jonathan on one side of 

me, and John on the other. It is August 13, 

2009 and after 23 years of a domestic partnership, 

the state of California is finally recognizing 

my fathers’s marriage. Other gay 

and lesbian couples are here too, celebrating 

what they only had dreamed possible. 

All I can wonder is how could any of these 

marriages possibly affect the detractors of 

gay marriage? 




GAY NEWS 

the case, and it is not being investigated 

as a hate crime. DA Whelan 

tells me, however, that “we heard 

through the grapevine he may have 

been part of the gay community. 

We don’t know if he was targeted 

because of that, but we’re looking at 

any avenue necessary.” 

Dizdarević and McBee 

moved to Philadelphia from Kentucky 

last year when Dizdarević got 

a job as a chemical engineer at the 

Stepan Company. The pair had been 

together since December of 2012. “I 

loved him so much,” McBee says. 

“We had so many big plans for the 

future.” 

Gay Philly Man 

Murdered By 

Grindr Hookup 

Philadelphia police believe 

that 25-year-old Dino Dizdarević 

was strangled and beaten to death 

by a man he drove to the city from 

Chester, Pennsylvania to meet after 

talking with on Grindr. 

Philly Mag has the gruesome details: 

G Philly has learned that a 

25-year-old Philly man was murdered 

last week after he drove to 

Chester, Pennsylvania, to meet a man 

he had connected with on Grindr. 

The Delaware County District 

Attorney’s Office confirms the 

body of Dino Dizdarević was discovered 

in a lot on the 900 block 

of Parker Street in Chester early 

on Thursday, May 1st. He had been 

strangled and, according to DA Jack 

Whelan, sustained “multiple bluntforce 

trauma injuries to the face.” 

On Wednesday, April 30th, 

Dizdarević told his boyfriend, Nick 

McBee, with whom he was in an 

open relationship, he was driving to 

Chester to meet a man he’d met on 

the app. McBee began to fear the 

worst when the night wore on and he 

hadn’t heard anything from him. “He 

was a responsible person. He always 

called to let me know where he was,” 

he says. “I knew something was 

wrong.” 

McBee filed a missing person’s 

report with the Philadelphia 

Police Department on Thursday 

morning, and was called to identify 

a body in Chester that matched 

the description. It was Dizdarević, 

though, according to sources close 

to the couple, he had been beaten so 

severely that he was only able to be 

identified from his clothing. 



So far no arrests have been made in 

What Do You Think? 

“Some of you people need to 

have respect!!! A man is dead 

and this could have happened to 

anyone grinder scruff plenty of 

fish or fuckin Christian mingle 

don’t hate on a guy for using a 

gay app he’s only human like the 

rest of us.” —Benjamin 

“What can one expect from an 

app called “GRINDR” it sounds 

like a brutal slang term used to 

make ground round out of slabs 

of raw beef.” —Mark 


BEAUTY 

Must Have Look 

Shaggy 

Pomp 

Remember how the 

Pompador was the it 

style to have. The hairstyle 

has been relaxed 

a bit creating the shaggy 

cut. For those men 

who don’t agree with the 

style this is an alternative. 




QA 

Aries 

& 

beauty director 

Sabrina Alcasas 

answers your 

most 

burning Q’s 

Ask 

Sabrina 

Q 

.Is last year’s SPF safe to 

use? 

A 

.Sunscreen generally has a shelf life of 

about three years. Try to use it by the 

expiration date on the bottle. Of course, any 

change in color, scent, or consistency, it’s 

probably better to discard it and purchase a 

new bottle. 

Q 

.Why do some sunscreens leave my 

skin chalky? 

A 

.Zinc oxide is an ingredient in sunscreen that 

can leave a white, chalky residue on skin. 

Which is unfortunate, because it is also a powerful 

sunblock. Finding a sunscreen containing zinc 

or titanium oxide but one that will not leave your 

skin a disturbing milky-white color is a process… 

the following are a few that have been tested and 

apparently do not leave that residue: Zinka Clear 

Zinc-Oxide Sunscreen SPF 30 (9.99 at Surfshop. 

com), Alba Botanica Natural Hawaiian Suncsreen 

SPF 45 ($10.00 at Whole Foods), Kiss My Face 

Broad-Spectrum Sunscreen SPF 40 ($13.00 at 

Whole Foods). 

.My face gets grimy in the heat. 

Q Should I wash it more? 

A 

.Wash your face daily to remove dirt and excess 

oil, but over washing can dry out skin. Instead, 

carry a few refreshing facial wipes during those hot, 

sticky summer months. Try Neutrogena’s Hydrating 

Cleansing Towelettes, about $5.00 at drugstores. A 

quick wipe-down over your face, hairline and jawline, 

and the front and back of your neck can keep 

your pores clear and skin non-grimy. 

Q 

.How do I treat a 

sunburn? 

A 

.Immediately, you could take ibuprofen 

or aspirin to bring the painful 

swelling down, take a cool bath or 

shower, or apply a cold compress to the 

area. Aloe Vera, either store-bought or 

squeezed straight from the plant, is very 

soothing to burned skin. Cold aloe-vera 

feels great-keep a bottle in the refrigerator. 

You can find aloe vera at any drugstore, 

and it’s usually only a few dollars. 

Cortisone cream gently applied to the 

area will bring down swelling as well. 

Make sure you keep properly hydrated by 

drinking plenty of water as you’re treating 

your burn, and when your skin starts healing, 

gently apply a non-scented lotion to 

the area to keep skin moisturized. If your 

skin is blistering, you could gently rub an 

antibiotic ointment like Bacitracin, available 

at drugstores, on the blisters to help 

them heal and to prevent infection. Wear 

loose clothing while your skin is healing to 

avoid further irritation. 


TIKI BAR 

Start the day in vacay 

mode with sea grass 

scented soap. 

Caswell-massey sea grass 

soap, $10 

TUBE-ULAR 

Not like traditional sunscreens, 

it blends in with 

your skin without leaving 

a white residue. 

Zinka Clear Zinc-Oxide 

Sunscreen SPF 30, 

9.99 at Surfshop.com 

SOAK IT IN 

Argan oil creates soft, 

shiny, envyinducing 

hair...in just one wash. 

Got2b oil-licious Golden 

Shimmer Conditioner, $6 

BY : Sabrina A. 

$10— 

Tops! 

Budget-friendly buys 

that make you look and feel 

like a million bucks 

DETOX 

Used weekly, this mask 

detoxifies sweaty pores. 

Formula 10.0.6 Deep 

Down Detox Mask, $6 

SPF STICK 

Way convenient when 

you get stuck with the 

bright seat at brunch. 

Sun Bum SPF 30+ Face 

Stick, $10 

YES 

Yes To Cucumbers 

Natural 

Sunscreen Stick, 

approx. $7.00 at 

Target.com 

WIPEOUT 

Coconut scented 

towelettes were 

made for the beach. 

Pacifica Purify 

Coconut Water 

Cleansing JUNE Wipes, 2014 $6 / ARIES 58 

BOAT RIDE 

To cure sunburns this 

green liquid is amazing! 

Banana Boat Aloe After 

Sun Lotion, $5.00 – 7.00 

at drugstores



Olay Age 

Defying Classic 

Cleanser, $6 

Pro+Therapy MD 

Skin Balancing 

Cleanser, $30 

pH- 

Balanced 

Skin 

By: Suria Aktar 

THE SKINNY ON... 

Dry, tight, or breakout-prone 

skin is often a sign that your 

pH levels are out of whack. Get 

ready to get centered. 

A New Sort of Scale 

You probably haven’t even the term pH balance 

much since high school chem, but the state of 

your skin depends on it. A quick refresher: pH 

refers to levels of acidity and alkalinity, 0 being 

the most acidic and 14 being the most alkaline. 

Your skin’s protective barrier is happiest at a 

slightly acidic 5.5. “There, it retains moisture 

and keeps out infection and irritants,” says 

Rosemarie Osborne, PhD, research fellow at 

P&G Beauty. But everyday habits (even simple 

ones like washing your face—see boxes at right) 

can send your pH slidng away from the magic 

number. 

Is Your pH 

in Check? 

A well-balanced complexion 

is smooth, moist, and comfortable. 

If you are more in the 

flaky, sensitive, or breakout 

prone camp, tweak your routine 

with these derm-approved tips, 

and expect happier, healthier 

skin in two to four weeks. 

Another reason 

to monitor pH: 

Men with chronically higher 

pH levels have more wrinkles 

than those with more acidic, 

well-balanced skin, to a study 

published in the British Journal 

of 

Dermatology. 

Aveeno 

Positively 

Radiant 

Brightening 

Cleanser, $6.49 

Sebamed 

Cleansing Bar, 

$13 for 3 

Watch Out For Water 

H20 with its Ph of 7, makes 

skin more alkaline. Moisture 

right after washing to 

rebalance the barrier, says 

Sherry Ingrahm, a Dermatologist 

in Houston, Texas 

Beware of Soap 

Most contain harsh detergents 

that grab on to grime 

and skin’s protective lipids. 

Avoid ingredients like sodium 

stearate, and palmate. 

(or try washes below) 



FASHION 

POLKA DOT 

PRINT SHORT 

SLEEVE 

SHIRT£28.00 

riverisland.com 

Must Have Item 

On the runways of fashion week, 

it’s been “spotted” that the lastest 

trend for men is the Polka 

Dot print. There’s something 

very approachable and likeable 

about a guy in polka dots. If 

you’re still not convinced, try 

a pair of swimming shorts on 

holiday or start with a simple 

t-shirt. For those of you worried 

about resembling a male Minnie 

Mouse, remember, polka dots 

are as masculine as you are 


News 

To Heel or 

Not To Heel! 

A new trend is on the rise and, you may have guessed 

it, it has to do with men’s love of high heels. It’s not 

drag, supporters of the trend insist: it’s called being 

up to speed with everything. 

The other day, the NY 

Times ran a piece on the 

fashion at some of the 

hippest, exclusive parties 

in town – and noted that 

countless men attending 

them were wearing high 

heels. 

Mind you, we’re not 

talking Simon Cowell-high 

type of shoes, but heels 

that would probably make 

even a woman feel dizzy. 

Some of them are 

lucky enough to fit into 

designer sample / women 

sizes, but others have to 

look everywhere to find 

a manufacturer willing to 

customize their offering to 

fit them. 

All of them, though, 

insist that wearing high 

heels doesn’t mean they’re 

going out in drag. As they 

see it, men have far too 

few options when it comes 

to fashion, whereas the 

ladies have more than one 

could (care to) count. 

“I never leave the 

house with less than eight 

inches [20.3cm] on my 

feet. It helps you see over 

the cattle,” 23-year-old 

Sean Wagner says for 

the publication. Promoter 

Luke Nero says 

Wagner is not the 

only man to have 

a diehard passion 

for towering 

heels. 

“I went 

to a loft party 

yesterday, and 

there was a guy 

in normal shorts, 

normal tank and 

really hot red 

pumps. That’s 

it! Everyone 

was like, ‘Oh 

my God, I love 

those shoes!’” 

Nero explains for the same 

publication. 

Some men are even 

willing to pay upwards of 

$2,000 (€1,447) for a pair 

of their favorite designer 

shoes and it’s all in the 

name of diversifying their 

wardrobe. 

“I love the height. 

It helps when you’re in a 

club. I’ve bought Louis 

Vuitton. I’ve bought Gucci. 

But a lot of designers 

don’t go high enough for 

me. I found a company in 

Arizona that will do 15-inch 

heels for $3,000 [€2,170],” 

Wagner says. 

This Guy 

Does Not 

Look Happy! 

WE 

WOULD 

LOVE TO HEAR 

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most burning Q’s 

Ask 

Jaake 

Q 

. Recently helping my dad clean his closet, 

I discovered that he has skinny jeans that 

are acid-washed. They fit me but not him anymore. 

Can I wear these? Are they in? 

.Firstly, kudos to your dad for being a bad ass. 

A Secondly, ask your dad, can I have his hand me 

downs? No, seriously, can I have his hand me downs? 

Q 

. Is it appropriate to wear a dress shirt other 

than white to a formal black-tie event? Are 

checked shirts ever appropriate, for instance? 

.You have to understand the vibe of the black-tie 

A event. There are some instances where it is not ok 

to deviate. For instance, funerals and baptisms should 

be strictly white. Late night parties, weddings, and 

work conventions warrant you some more freedom. 

Even in the most liberal black-tie events I would avoid 

prints and patterns. So while I wouldn’t recommend a 

checked shirt, a solid color of your choice would be a 

good choice. 

Q 

. I have unearthed my old HS Varsity Jacket. 

I have seen that they are in. My biggest 

concern is that people my think that I am trying 

to relive the past. What is your take on this? 

.Are you trying to relive the past? If not, then why 

A are you bothered by what people may think? Setting 

my preaching aside, you are definitely right about varsity 

jackets being in. You are lucky to own an old pair. I was 

homeschooled, 

Q 

. Sometimes when I see 

a certain style or look in 

your magazine, I try to imitate 

it. However, even when 

I have all the elements of the 

look, I feel less put together 

than the guys on the pages. 

What am I missing? 

.This is where personal style 

A comes into fashion. It’s important 

to remember that anyone 

can buy fashion, not everyone can 

have style. The first thing is making 

sure you’re aware of your body 

type. Fashion is an art form that 

requires a lot of self-knowledge. 

What looks good on me is not 

going to necessarily look good on 

you and vice versa. You have to 

know what will flatter your body. 

The second thing fashion requires, 

is total confidence. I could put you 

in the most flattering clothes for 

your body and we could spend a 

lot of time and money on the look 

and you may still FEEL less put together. 

I am guessing it’s the second 

piece, because I could put on 

an oversized tshirt and neon pink 

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SUGAR & SPICE 

Keep Your 

Sex Life Alive 

So things between you two 

have run a little dry. Try 

these tips to get back on 

your game. 

Be Graphic 

Telling him how much you want him, 

gets his blood flowing. Be a little dirty 

when you’re sharing your feelings. Also 

don’t be afraid to be touchy or grabby. 

Be Surprising 

Remember what he likes best sexually 

and surprise him with it from time to 

time. Nothing beats a surprise BJ when 

he gets into the shower. Take advantage 

of him when he’s watching T.V. 

Try Something New 

Be selfless in bed, ask him about what 

he’s in the mood for sexually and do 

your best to make it happen. He may ask 

the same question to you. 


HAVE 

DRUNK 

SEX 

SOBER 

(Seriously!) 

A few drinks can make a guy go from 

mortal to god in the bed. But sober sex, 

if done right, can feel tequila-crazy too 

(that’s a promise or next round is on us). 

Seven shots of Fireball and two 

cups of strawberry vodka soda, who 

hasn’t said something he would never 

say IRL—”Smack my ass and tell 

me I’m a bad boy!” —while assuming 

a very complicated, very unflattering 

position in bed. A little liquid 

courage goes a long way in terms of 

loosening inhibitions and giving us 

the body confidence of Zac Efron. 

A recent survey of 1000 

gay men across the U.S. on C-date 

found that 50% prefer to have sex 

while tipsy. Sex under the influence 

is often a little crazier, a little dirtier 

than what you get on your average 

Tuesday evenng. But the downside and games until you wake up the 

to a boozy romp is that it’s harder to next morning unable to remember 

climax. “Alcohol slows your blood your wild hookup. Or worse, you do 

flow,” explains Tammy nelson, PhD, remember and realize with horror 

Author of Getting the Sex You Want. that last night’s striptease was more 

“That prevents blood from reaching sloppy than seductive (which totally 

the nerve endings at the tip of your happened to “a friend” of Mine— 

penis —which has to happen in order ahem). 

for an climax to occur.” 

So the question is, can you 

Not to mention, it’s all fun 


have the fun of drunk sex without 

actually drinking any alcohol? Yes, 

you can still get a little freaky, have a 

happy ending, and not want to crawl 

into a hole the next morning. Try 

these tips, and bottoms up (literally... 

depending on how you feel about 

that, of course).

1TEASE 

IT OUT 

Flirty banter over beers and a game 

of Big Buck Hunter, hips grazing 

as you push your way up to the 

bar, those hungry eyes...drunk sex 

is marked by a heated buildup that 

culminates in ripping each other’s 

clothes off, banging into furniture, 

and tripping your way to the bed. 

Cultivate that feelings of anticipation 

by planting a sexy seed. “I 

texted my boyfriend at work that I 

was wearing sexy red underwear 

he loves,” says Alexander, 28. “We 

were both champing at the bit by 

the the time we got home.” Whether 

it’s a look you give him in the 

pharmacy or a quick make-out 

in the hallway, do something that 

serves as the appetizer to really 

wild, (faux) waste-y sex. 

CREATE 2A 

(BLURRY) 

VISION 

When you picture a bar (a nice one, 

not your local watering hole), you 

probably see good-looking people 

rubbing elbows in an intimate, 

dimly lit space. That sets the mood 

for things to come...Bring that sexy, 

hazy feeling into your own boudoir 

(must be said with an exaggerated 

French accent) with a red lightbulb. 

As one reviewer on Amazon.com 

says, “Not much of a light scource, 

but sets the tone in a dark room 

where you are enjoying anyting 

that’s cool to do in a dark room.” 

That’s the kind of review that’ll 

make you click Add to Cart without 

thinking twice. 

3RELOCATE 

The novelty of getting it on in and out of the ordinary space mimics 

the rush of alcohol-assisted sex. “I used to prefer drunk sex 

to sober sex, but since I’ve made the effort to have more sober 

sex, my boyfriend and I have since been trying it in the craziest 

places—like on top of a picnic table by the lake,” says Robert, 22. 

“We replaced the adrenaline factor of getting drunk with the risk 

factor of getting caught.” If you’re a play it safe kinda of guy, do 

it in a different room of the house, in the shower, on the floor, or 

against the wall. Or try a hotel room —you will reap the novelty 

benefits, without having to explain yourselves to an officer of the 

law while half-naked. 

DROWN OUT 

AWKWARD 

BODY 

NOISES 

When you are all liquored up, it’s easy 

to not give a damn. Whether you haven’t 

been to the gym in a while or you 

fart so loud your neighbors hear it, it’s 

NBD. To channel that carefree attitude, 

create an environment where the sex 

sounds are not skanky. Music is a key 

part of that. “Silence can be a scary 

thing,” says Jayme Waxman, author of 

Hot Sex, “You hear the bed creaking 

or focus on the weird sex sounds your 

bodies are making. Drown that out 

with a play-list that makes you want to 

move in a seductive way.” 

4UNLEASH THE 

BADASS 

WITHIN 

The whole point of drinking before sex 

is to help you let go of your inhibitions, 

so do something that signals to him 

and to your brain that things could get 

a little out of hand. 5A few moves that 

work like Jager-bombs: A well timed 

expletive (“that feels so f&^%ing 

good” right as he enters you), your 

nails in his back, or grabbing a tuft 

of his hair while you kiss him. Drunk 

sex is like really good cardio—you are 

rolling around, flushed, sweaty, and out 

of breath. So initiate postion changes 

to up the physicality. He may be surprised, 

but it’ll make him want to up 

the ante too. 

6BREAK OUT YOUR 

NIGHT MOVES 

There’s soemthing about the middle of the night that feels illicit, 

so next time you wake up at 2 a.m. to pee, don’t go back to 

sleep—go to town on him instead. Fall into that bleary-eyed, no 

words needed kind of hookup that’s the touchstone of drunk sex. 

Because you’ll be in a slightly dreamy state, the next morning 

will feel almost the same: Did that really happen...or did I imagine 

it? Knowing you can rock his world at any given moment is a 

bigger turn-on for both of you than three vodka sodas on Friday 

night. 


SEX Q&A 

NO-BS RESPONSES 

TO QUESTIONS YOU CAN 

ONLY ASK ARIES 

by Matthew Embrey McClain 

QWhat is the 

most sensitive 

part of the 

penis, and 

how should I 

touch it? 

AEvery penis is an individual. 

Though, many have reported that 

along the underside of the penis just 

below the glands and following the frenulum. 

Touching a penis doesn’t require 

a degree, nor will it ever. However, since 

every person’s penis is their own, every 

person will be stimulated in a slightly 

different manner. Just experiment with 

your S.O. until you both establish which 

areas are the most sensitive and to which 

type of touch. With lube or with-out? Soft 

caresses, or grip ripping tugs? With food 

or with-without? 

Q. 

Every time I have 

doggie-style sex I experience 

pain. Is there an 

angle or a technique that 

will make it feel good? 

AHey the myth is true. Some people are 

cat people, while others are doggy style. 

Sounds like you might be a cat person. Not to 

discourage though. Try using a quality lubricant 

and don’t let your S.O. “pound the f$&k out of 

you.” Butt sex causes micro tears in lining of 

the intestine walls. Micro tears aren’t that big 

of a problem. Macro tears are. Don’t get macro 

tears. Macro tears mean you, your doctor and/or 

the emergency room become un-sexually intimate. Plus it could 

mean that you wouldn’t ever get to experience those micro tears 

again… And no one wants that type of work restriction. 

Q. 

I love how lube feels but 

hate that it gets all over my 

hands and sheets. How can I 

reduce the mess factor? 

A 

Thank you so much for asking this question. Not many 

people choose to be choosy when it comes to commissioning 

their slippery sexual coatings, but I will be willing to 

wager that by switching it up to a well manufactured lubricant 

that slides right into your needs can increase your sexual pleasure 

by 10% alone. I have spent copious spans of time studying lube 

and have come to one conclusion. IF IT AINT MESSY IT AINT 

LUBE!!! By definition lube is meant to coat objects in order to 

reduce friction force. Just choose a lube that creates a mess that 

you can better deal with. Also reduce the amount of lube you 

use. Many lubes become gunky or cause you to lose sensitivity 

if too much product is applied. If you are more conservative 

when it comes to the application process then stay away from 

silicone lubes as many will permanently stain fabrics. 


aries sex-position 

of the month 

THE 

FIREMAN’S 

CARRY 

This position offers the deepest penetration, 

nor are you going to be able 

to really go at (unless you make it 

your own and use the chair a little 

differently) you’re able to settle in 

for some comfort sex. The friction 

from this angle of entry feels really 

stimulating for both playmates and 

it’s worth giving a shot. Team work 

is the key—there’s some co-dependent 

body balancing needed to 

see this one through, but one you 

get the feel for what’s going on, it 

shouldn’t cause you too much hassle. 

Solid thrusts from the waist will see the 

maximum enjoyment derived by your partner 

or by the top, While an arched back and 

slightly widened stance from partner bottom 

will make sure that this sex position packs 

some extra punch—or depth! 



MENOLOGY 

Make Your 

Summer Dates 

HOT! 

By: Luis Marroquin 

Yard Sales 

With summer temperatures soaring, 

there’s no better way to beat the heat 

than getting up and starting your 

day early. Yard sales typically start 

before 9 a.m., so get there right when 

they begin before all the good stuff’s 

gone . Rummaging through someone 

else’s stuff may seem strange at 

first, but you’ll likely find all sorts 

of items to laugh about together, or 

something that brings up a special 

memory. And, you never know, 

you might find something great for 

your home at an incredible bargain. 

What’s more romantic than saving 

money? 

Outdoor Movie Night 

Movies are everyone’s kind of “last 

resort” date option, but summer is 

when the big, exciting blockbusters 

come out. Give yourself a break and 

get out of the heat by taking in a matinee 

instead of the standard Friday 

night appointment. For something a 

little different, check your local paper 

for public outdoor screenings of 

classic movies. Lots of metropolitan 

areas do it, and all you usually need 

are a blanket and a snack. 

State Fair 

The state fair is great for so many 

reasons. The gluttonous food oddities, 

the corny but yeah OK kind of 

scary haunted houses, and terrifying 

rides that look like they’ll break at 

any second. Best of all, it only comes 

once a year and now is usually the 

time. Going together is likely to 

bring back childhood memories, and 

that’s always a good thing. Split a 

deep fried pizza (or whatever they’re 

doing), play some rigged carnival 

games and enjoy an evening together 

on the midway. 


your guide to the male brain 

By: Allister Dean 

HOW 

TO HAVE 

THE 

“What 

Are 

We?” 

Talk 

One minute you two 

are lovey-dovey in 

the street and acting 

like a total couple. 

The next, he’s giving signs 

that you may not be as 

exclusive as you though. 

It’s hard to bring up, but 

you need to set the record 

straight because guys can 

get weird about commitment. 

“When it seems like 

time to define your couple 

status, men often freak 

out and wonder if there’s 

someone better or if they 

want to give up their carefree 

single-guy role,” explains 

relationship expert 

Harlan Cohen, author of 

Getting Naked. You deserve 

to know if your guy’s 

going to waste your time. 

here’s you three step plan. 

Hey, Guys! 

WHAT’S THE BIGGEST SECRET YOU’VE 

KEPT FROM YOUR BOYFRIENDS? 

These secrets are bad enough—but what’s worse 

is the twisted logic guys use to “justify” them. 

Brace yourselves, guys! 


1Choose 

The Right 

Time 

Unfortunately, there 

isn’t a magic formula 

that determines when 

you should have the 

talk. But generally 

speaking, it’s go 

time when you have 

your first “You’re 

killing me Smalls” 

moment—you get the 

sense that you two 

may not be on the 

same page, and the 

where-are-we suspense 

is nagging at 

you so freaking badly 

that it’s all you can 

think about. 

2Choose 

The Right 

Place 

Bring it up during an 

active moment like when 

you’re walking in the 

park or making dinner 

together—that way, the 

question isn’t the center 

of the universe, which 

eases the intensity. FYI, 

fancy dinners out are a 

terrible idea—the formality 

adds pressure, and if 

the talk doesn’t go well, 

you’ll both want to leave, 

but you’ll still have to 

deal with the blll. Pillow 

talk also isn’t ideal. If he 

says he doens’t want to be 

your BF, you’ll feel extra 

vulnerable since you’re 

naked and just did intimate 

things—so it’s best 

to do it fully clothed. 

“I save cute guys in 

my phone under girls’ 

names. So if my BF 

sees our texts he thinks 

it’s a gal pal.” 

—Tom M., 22 

3Choose 

The Right 

Words 

The key is to stick with 

an open-ended phrases 

that give him a chance 

to share his thoughts 

without forcing him to 

answer. Say, “I’m dating 

only you right now, 

and I want to know 

if we’re in the same 

place,”o r“My cousin’s 

wedding is soon, and 

people will ask what we 

are...I’d like to know 

what to say.” If he says 

he’s down to commit, 

sweet—Grandma will 

be tickled pink to meet 

your BF. If he gets all 

“Uh, I don’t know....,” 

then move on, and wear 

your sharpest suit to 

that wedding. 

“When we met, I was 

actually trying to hit on 

his friend, but I never 

told him so he wouldn’ 

get mad.” 

—Damien G., 28

DECODE HIS... 

FAVORITE SUMMER DATE 

Sadly, covering your naked body with ice cream 

and licking it off is not an everyday option—due 

to the calories (him), the cold (you), and the 

cleanup (probably you). But these other go-to 

dates reveal tons about his boyfriend MO. 

CONCERT 

QUICK TAKE 

Since he got tix 

ahead of time, he’s 

clearly a plan-in-advanceder 

(score), 

and he likes to 

shake it (score 

again). 

DEEPER DIVE 

Loud music makes 

talking hard. So he 

could be more into 

his music cred than 

he is into you. 

WATCH FOR 

If he’s a little more 

into his music, be 

sure to watch his 

alcohol in-take. He 

may be one of hardcore 

rocker. 

THE BEACH 

QUICK TAKE 

Hitting the sand with 

you is just his excuse 

to see you half 

naked, so he can 

picture you riding, 

uh, more than the 

wave. 

DEEPER DIVE 

You get to peep at 

his hotness too—oh 

six pack! Be warned 

he may be a little 

more into your bod 

than your brains. 

WATCH FOR 

If he’s an image 

guy, then try to see 

if he’s looking at 

guys. Then he’s not 

really into you 

A PICNIC 

QUICK TAKE 

If you manage to 

find a guy who will 

voluntarily plan a 

date by definition 

(all talk and no 

action, go ahead 

and give him some 

action.) 

DEEPER DIVE 

He wants to get to 

know you for you— 

aka he’s BF Material. 

YAY! 

DEEPER DIVE 

Be sure that it’s not 

too good to be true. 

Guy’s have a bucket 

list & this may be 

one of them. Keep 

everything in check. 

ARIES SEXICON 

vintage 

boyfriend 

(noun.) An old boyfriend who’s pretty 

lame, but you find yourself going 

back to him in between better guys 

because, well, he’s around. And he 

knows what you like in bed. Kyle: 

I’m pretty sure I’ve hit an all-time 

dating low. I’m hooking up with my 

vintage boyfriend again. He’s just 

so easy. How lazy can I get? 

The Rise of 

the (Viral) 

Grand Gesture 

Okay, so maybe he’s not 

going to stand outside your 

window and blast In Your 

Eyes from a boombox like 

Lloyd Dobler did, but we’re 

in a new age of the viral 

grand gesture. Recently, am 

anonymous NYC guy put up 

600 fliers with the hashtag 

#ThisIsHowImGoingToWinHerBack 

all over the city 

to try to win his ex back. His 

efforts, alas, didn’t work, but 

he’s just the latest in a slew of 

men who are trying to dispel 

their growing rep as wimpy 

beta boys by posting love 

declarations online. While 

public gestures like viral proposal 

videos seem natural to 

them since they’ve grown up 

in a social-media world, let it 

be known: Flowers work too! 

That said, we’ll take romance 

anytime we can get it. 

t 

“I told him I was one 

year older at first to 

seem mature. Now 

it’s this stupid lie that I 

have to keep up!” 

—Chris C., 25 

“My boyfriend’s roommate 

is so hot, but I tell 

my him he’s average so 

my BF won’t get jelly 

over it all.” 

—Greg Y., 23 

“I have sex dreams 

about his dad, but i 

keep it secret from both 

of them for obvious 

reasons. ” 

—Nick G., 24 

“When I found out that 

he cheated on me, 

I slept with his twin 

brother to get back at 

him in my mind. ” 

—Brian T., 26 



4BLIND 

DATES 

ONE 

GUY 

Blind dates are making a come back, 

but this time, apps are involved. The 

big question: Are they worth trying, 

or are they just the latest in a slew 

of seriously questionable date fads. 

Remember speed dating circa 2009? 

One brave reader goes on four blind 

dates—arranged by apps and one 

good old-fashioned setup. Meet Lee, 

the man of the hour. 


In today’s dating landscape, it’s practically unheard of to go out with a new 

guy without having online-stalked him first. So we were fascinated and wanted 

to try this out with three of the most popular dating apps known to gay 

men. So we set out to find the right guy and see 

what types of guys are on each of them, plus we 

wanted to see what it was like going on a blind 

date with one guy that wasn’t from the virtual 

world. The types of apps —Grindr, OkCupid, 

Scruff. 

DATE #1 

HOW THE 

APP WORKS 

Once you’ve downloaded 

Grindr and set up an account, 

the next step is filling 

out profile and getting your 

picture approved. After that 

you can see the radius of 

men in the area. This app 

really doesn’t match anybody, 

merely a picture of 

either a persons face or for 

those who are afraid —just 

their chest /member. Before 

Lee could take a look to see 

who caught his eye, the men 

of Grindr started to message 

him like a fresh piece of 

meat. He only has about 2 

photos of himself that were 

just selfies (fully clothed). 

*Names Have Been Changed 

THE DATE 

After uploading myself, I was a little 

scared to even talk to anybody on 

there. Guys came in a lot of different 

guys fof different shapes and sizes 

and they all messaged me either 

looking for sex, saying hi, and evening 

trading picks. 

One guy really stood out 

to me. He was clothed, no penis/ 

shirtless pics, or his idea of a first 

date was really sweet. We talked 


for hours chatting about life 

and what we want to do in the 

future, a conversation I hadn’t 

had contact with for the longest 

time. BTW, his name is *Jared. 

Tall, blonde, somewhat built 

and great smile. Yes, that seems 

what everybody looks for these 

days, but can’t help myself. 

After a week of exchanging 

elegant words together, 

it was decided that we both 

needed to see each other face to 

face. A little nervous I had my 

straight guy friend come over 

and help me find the right look 

that said, “I am very much interested 

in you”. 

The local bar was the place to 

meet, both of us knew where it was, 

so there was no way that he could 

be late. I was the first to arrive and 

ordered myself a “Manhattan”. As 

the jumping leg was going off under 

neath me, “Lee?”, turning around 

and looking at Jared we shook hands. 

The night was young, meaning that 

it was only 10pm. Throwing back 

a few drinks between us, I noticed 

throughout the evening he kept 

taking out his phone and checking 

somethng, then putting it back in his 

pocket. It really didn’t bother me 

until he left if on the bar and messages 

from Grindr popped up. Right 

then and there I knew that he really 

didn’t mean what he said and was 

only saying what he’d could to get 

me out and probably get me hammered. 

Looking at my watch, I told 

him that I had to be at work the next 

morning, hugged and he walked me 

out the door. An hour after the date 

he message me a pic of himself on a 

bed with a jockstrap on saying that 

when I was ready, come on over. 

Can you believe some guys! 

This guy really had me fooled and 

thought I was going to fall for his... 

whatever you want call it...”Nasty 

Mojo”. Deleted the app from my 

phone when I had a moment of peace 

and the trama has left my body. 

Never again! 

THE SCORE 

This was my least favorite 

app. No only did I not have 

a spark with *Jared. But left 

me feeling like an idiot for 

not seeing his signs.

DATE #2 

HOW THE 

APP WORKS 

This free app comes on 

either Iphone or the Android. 

Once downloaded, you have 

the option of setting preferences 

and answering questions. 

The questions match 

you up with people who 

have answered the same. 

It even tells you if you are 

more of friend or if you two 

are compatible with guys in 

your area. From there you 

decide the next step. 


told him where to go meet me. Let 

round two begin. 

As he walked in, his attitude 

seemed more of, hey I am interested 

lets talk. But I still kept my guard up. 

Drinks were ordered and the 

conversation went a little deeper. We 

talked about work, family, and what 

we would like to accomplish in life. 

Before I knew it, we were laughing 

up a storm. Everyone around us look 

as us like we were crazy people. No 

matter. 

Around 1pm Alex* stated 

that he had to go, couldn’t leave his 

dog home by itself for any longer. 

Understanding his request, I walked 

him back to his car. Handshakes before 

turned into a hug and a request 

for a text later. God this guy was a 

great choice and amazing to talk too. 

Over the sparks were flying 

and I enjoyed the conversation that 

we had between us. I was a little 

scared at first, but I am glad that I 

stuck it out. It’s very rare to ever find 

a guy who is looking for a good time 

that doesn’t involve sex. 

OkCupid is a great app that 

can really help you narrow down 

the guys so you are not wasting time 

with guys who are looking for that 

one thing. I hope that he calls me for 

another date. He really grabbed my 

attention. 

THE SCORE 

A lot different from the grindr 

app and scruff. This app is 

something that I would come 

back to. It was legit & did the 

work for me. 

THE DATE 

This app didn’t seem so scary, hell 

even the icon seems invitable. Ok- 

Cupid def is a better choice. In one 

night I set my preferences, answered 

the questions that seem a little 

ridiculous. Poof, guys were already 

at my front screen. Diggin’ around, 

checking the guys that the app had 

said was good for me. Most of the 

guys that I saw, looked a little better 

to choose from. Not so many pics of 

guys shirtless or of their members. 

I had a few messages from 

guys—not like the massive mob of 

messages from Grindr—and Alex* 

seemed to catch my eye. Not going 

to be fooled again, I combed 

over his profile making sure that he 

seemed legit, like he really was looking 

for love. 

Feeling like I was comfortable 

to talk to him, the convo started. 

Alex* seemed as genuine as his profile. 

He cut right to chase and asked 

me out to drinks, little did he know 

that I was already at the bar. So I 


DATE #3 

HOW THE 

APP WORKS 

Another free app that you 

can download. Much like 

grindr it has the same feel 

to it. There is no questions 

to answer. This app is very 

easy to use. 


THE DATE 

The following weekend, it was time 

to download SCRUFF. Much like the 

first app the type of guys you find 

are a little older—when I say older 

I mean 30’s and above— and more 

like the bear/cub type. Don’t get me 

wrong I found guys that had 6 pack 

abs and hairy as well. 

Once again when I upload 

photos, published my profile, the 

guys were instantly sending me messages. 

Hi how are you?, What are 

you up to?, and one that never get’s 

old....Wanna FU%K? Nothing makes 

me laugh harder than when I get a 

message with that in it. If that’s a 

pick up line, you might want to stick 

to something else. 

I wasn’t really 

interest in this app 

and the guys that I 

was encountering 

on it. Really was 

going to give up until 

one guy—Kyle* —, decent, 

decided to message 

me. Kind of a nerdy guy, but 

man was he built. HOT GAY NERD 

ALERT! 

The convo started like usual, 

sharing life stories, family, etc. We 

agreed to meet in person. I always 

like to be the early person,—at least 

I thought I did—but he was already 

sitting at the bar waiting for me. The 

wow factor jumped up even more. 

His pictures really didn’t do him 

justice, his looks were much better in 

person. 

We talked more, got into 

some deep conversation, exchanged 

some laughs, and even kissed. Yes a 

little too soon, but I was feeling him. 

He really wasn’t a drinker and asked 

if I would like to have dinner instead. 

Brownie points! So we came to the 

nearest restaurant, which was Chili’s 

..YUMMY! Plus I was starving. 

Such a gentleman, he made 

sure that I was taken care of before 

himself. Maybe this app wasn’t a 

complete waste of my time. As the 

convo started up again and we 

waiting for our food, his phone went 

off and I thought, this is a date, how 

come you didn’t turn your phone off. 

He surprised me again by apologizing 

for the cell, turning it completely 

off and putting it in his jacket pocket 

which was on the chair. Nothing 

makes a man hotter than when he 

gives you his undivided attention. I 

was melting inside for him. I wanted 

to get to know him more and more. 

As we finished our meal, he 

asked me if I wanted dessert. Guy, 

you are dessert!. Asking him what 

he wanted to do, he replied, “I have 

a sweet tooth, I’ve got to have my 

dessert early”. Right then and there 

I wanted to take him home. But I’m 

not that type of guy and just smiled 

from ear to ear. Not getting the deseert 

he paid for everything. I tried to 

at least pay for half, but he insisted 

that he was the one who was going to 

pay for the meal. 

As we headed back to our 

cars, he walked me to mine. Locking 

eyes, without saying anythi ng 

hekissed me. It wasn’t one of those 

kisses that meant that I like you, it 

meant more of....I had a really good 

time and I’m glad that I met you. I 

felt like popping my foot like one of 

those chicks in those campy films. 

He gave me his number and said text 

me. The best night and date that I 

ever had!!!! 

THE SCORE 

Really didn’t care for the app. 

But if you dig deep you can 

find a diamond in the rough. 

This app is like C+. 


DATE #4 

The Old Fashion 

Blind Date 

Aries Editor set up Lee up 

with Ron*. A 25-year-old 

construction worker. We 

told Lee that he has dark 

brown hair and works with 

his hands. We told Ron* that 

Lee was 28 and gorgeous. 

We asked them to meet at 5 

p.m. at a local bar. That’s it. 

*Names Have Been Change 

THE DATE 

I had a lot of anxiety going into this 

once. I didn’t even know what he 

looked like—what if I couldn’t find 

him? Luckily, when I got there, I 

saw a guy sitting and looking at the 

door, so I figured it was him. “Ron?” 

I mouthed and he nodded. He was 

cute—medium cut hair, jeans, and a 

collared shirt. I introduced myself, 

and ordered a vodka soda, and then 

got to it. “So I know nothing about 

you!” I said. He laughed and started 

to talk about his life and how he’d 

got this point. 

The rest of the date was wonderful. 

We didn’t have a romantic 

vibe, but I was cool with that. It was 

more like a meeting of the minds. 

We spent an hour at our current bar 

and hopped to another one and talked 

more. We parted ways with a friendly 

good-bye hug. 

THE SCORE 

Although I didn’t know anyting 

about Ron*. I had a good 

time. The convo was great. 

It’s great having a new friend. 

THE FINAL VERDICT 

No matter how you swing 

this, I like the OkCupid 

app the best of all. It gave 

me a chance to express 

myself a little more & see 

who thinks the same. It’s 

a shame that I Kyle* happened 

to be on SCRUFF, 

but hey! Ron* & I are still 

dating to this day, we have 

clicked! We have a lot more 

in common than I thought. 

Grindr was something I 

didn’t care for & would 

never go back too. Just too 

many hungry men who are 

just looking for one thing. 

#CRAZYHOOKUPAPP 



Secrets 

of the 

First Year 

Relationships 

By: Allister Dean 

You know handing your 

partner a key will change 

the obvious. The way you 

act around each other, 

number of kitchen gadgets, 

who you go out with, 

and etc. Some of us want 

to know what it takes to 

stay and hit that 1 year 

mark. 


Let’s be honest 

here....we love 

the feeling that 

we get when you 

are in a new relationship 

and 

want to keep 

that. Over time 

things become 

routine and less 

fun. We have 

why! 

You Flirt With 

More Randoms 

Even though my guy makes me 

feel like the most handsome man in 

the world, I still can’t turn off the 

flirt-dar. “I want through a phase 

right after our fisrt year, when I flirt 

shamelessly with guys when I went 

out with my friends,” says Gary 28., 

who’s been with his guy for almost 

five years. “It feels good to know 

that you are still desired.” When your 

guy (and there is even something 

dumpy sounding about that title to 

some), there is this fear that you will 

lose that somethin’ somethin’ that 

makes men turn their heads, so you 

may even go into flirt overdrive, “it 

is always nice to be reacted to as a 

guy,” says Pepper Schwartz, PhD, 

coauthor of The Normal Bar, “As 

long as it is only a little flirting there 

is no harm done.” 

You Think About 

Breakup 

“This is effed up!”,says Max, 29. 

“But in those early months, if my 

guy really pissed me off, I though, 


I’ll just break up with him!” You 

might even dream about what life 

would have been like with an ex— 

with time, even your douchiest 

former boyfriend can take on a Ryan 

Gosling-like glow. But—scouts honor—thinking 

about a breakup won’t 

doom you to it. “Even happy couples 

have considered a breakup,” says 

Schwartz. “Being in a relationship 

is hard work, but a lot of men have 

a fairy-tale view on it. It’s normal 

especially in the beginning to doubt 

that this is the right person when 

your fantasy doesn’t align with the 

reality.” When your boyfriend does 

sometihng annoying, you have to fix 

it or you feel like you are stuck with 

it forever. That’s helps getting past 

the big bumps in the road. 

Your Skinny 

Jeans Get Tight 

A loving relationship has a direct 

correlation to love handles. A recent 

survey by Southern Methodist 

University shows that the happier the 

union, the more likely it is that you 

will gain weight. Not only that, but 

so many men go on crazy diets to 

just to get back to where they were 

when they first met. “I was in shape 

to begin with, but I lost around 15 

pounds for my 1 year anniversary, 

Aaron, 30, “Over the course of the 

year following, I returned back to 

the weight I was and the jeans that I 

wore on our first date fit once again. 

You Are Not 

Attached 

At The Hip 

I was out of college, I envisioned 

marriage like so: coming home every 

night to snuggle and eat a homemade 

quinoa salad with fancy silverware. 

The only part of that fantasy that 

became reality was the fancy silverware. 

“I was also surprised that my 

boyfriend and I didn’t send more 

alone time together,” agrees Angelo, 

25, and have been together for 

3 years. “I thought we had become 

homebodies, but I was still playing 

the intramural soccer on weeknights 

and still wanting to party with our 

friends on the weekends.” Turns out, 

this is a sign of a healthy relationship. 

“If you are feeling validated 

by your partner and you know that 

person loves you and is committed 

to you, you are going to do your own 

thing and not feel paranoid about 

spending time apart,” says marriage 

therapist Eris Huemer, PsyD. And 

research shows that couples who 

maintain their independence tend to 

be happier in the long run. 

Sex Gets Better... 

File this one under pleasant surprises. 

“People tend to think of relationship 

sex as routine, but it gets better, 

not worse,” says Marco. “There is a 

new depth to your relationship, and 

the sense that you are really going 

through life together makes you feel 

connected during sex. That makes 

everything so much more intense. 

... But Less 

Frequent 

The flip side is that the promise of 

forever also means that the chase is 

ovah. Also, running a household is a 

lot of unsexy work. There is a learning 

curve when it comes to being in 

a relationship with a guy you run a 

household with to the guy you get 

naked with. “I keep tabs on how 

often we have sex and try to have 

it,” says George., 23. Smart, because 

regular sex will keep strong. “It’s all 

about keeping each other less unhappy 

and more in sync.”



QASK HIM 

ANYTHING 

Love advice from our guy 

guru, Andy McBride 

Is it possible to 

go from friend 

zone to romance 

with one of your 

guy friends if you 

have only ever 

been platonic. If 

so, how do you 

do it? 

A. I’m sure the majority of us 

have been in this situation where 

you start to develop feelings for a 

friend. Depending on the depth of 

your friendship, it may be as simple 

as just being straight up and 

asking him if he would consider 

going on a date with you. If you 

aren’t that close of friends then I 

would recommend trying a group 

outing first so it’s not awkward 

and try to make it a point to spend 

more time with him than you 

normally would and then you can 

follow up with a text saying that 

you had a lot of fun and that you 

two should do something together 

sometime with no one else. The 

worst that can happen is he won’t 

feel the same way towards you and 

only like you as a friend, in which 

case at least you’ll know for sure 

and it shouldn’t make it weird between 

you two since you’ve been 

friends from the start. And who 

knows, he may feel the same way 

towards you and hasn’t wanted to 

say anything out of fear of losing 

your friendship. I’ve personally 

known a few relationships that got 

started that way and they are still 

together. Just remember: You’ll 

never know if you don’t try! 


Q. 

I’m dating 

a new 

guy, and he’s 

great except 

that he’s somewhat 

of a slob 

when he eats. 

He gets food 

in his teeth, on 

his face, and 

sometimes... 

on his clothes. 

It’s embarrassing! 

How do I 

get him to eat 

like a civilized 

adult? 

A 

This can be a tricky subject, 

given your relationship is 

still fresh. You want to approach it 

in a positive way so you don’t come 

off confrontational. Being a sloppy 

eater is acceptable when you’re 5, 

not when you’re out on a date with 

your boyfriend and in public. It can 

absolutely be embarrassing and make 

you feel uncomfortable when you 

go out. It’s a reasonable request and 

is definitely something that can be 

changed if it’s approached the right 

way. All men can be messy eaters 

and some may not realize it until 

someone points it out and it can take 

someone he cares about to bring it up 

before he can consider changing his 

ways. Be kind when you are trying 

to let him know. It may hurt his ego 

at first, but hopefully he thinks about 

it and realizes that he does look like 

pig in public. Be gentle! 

Q. 

I go on a 

lot of first, 

second, and 


third dates. It 

seems that the 

guys are interested 

in me as 

I am into them. 

But then they 

disappear. Why 

is that? 

A 

Well depending on what you 

do on these dates, the other 

guy can think it’s moving too fast 

or too slow. Some guys just like to 

“play the roll” and expect you to 

put out after a few dates and if you 

don’t then they just move on. If you 

are looking for an actual relationship 

then those types of guys are not for 

you. On the other hand you may 

be taking it too fast on these dates. 

Taking it too fast isn’t a good thing 

unless you two are on the same page. 

You want to leave room for imagination 

and if you spend so much time 

with each other at first and rush into 

things, it makes it so you don’t have 

anything to look forward to. Relationship 

work out best if you take it 

slow. Nothing beats a relationship 

that has a really good foundation 

beneath it. 

Q. 

My boss 

and I have 

been dating 

in secret for 

some time. He 

has promoted 

me to a higher 

rank in the 

workplace. He 

told me that 

when we make 

it official that 

he won’t get 

into trouble. I 

feel like if we 

decide to break 

up, is he going 

to demote me? 

Should I feel 

this way and 

be worried? 

A 

Having office relationships 

can be tricky, especially 

when it is with your superior. Hopefully 

when you got promoted it was 

based on your capabilities at your 

job and not on your relationship 

with the boss. The type of guy that 

your boyfriend is, or the cause of 

your potential future break up, will 

determine if this will have an impact 

on your job title or not. If you have 

a mutual break up then I don’t see 

too much concern how this can affect 

your job, but on the other hand, if it 

is a messy one or if it was something 

you specifically to cause the break 

up then that’s where you run the risk 

of having him take it out on you at 

work. That’s part of the risk though 

when it comes to dating your boss. 

Most likely if he is already a boss 

then he would have had to have good 

justification to promote you and he 

will be questioned if he decides to 

demote you if things don’t work out 

and he probably won’t want to risk 

that and keep things how they are at 

work. Either way it is a tough situation 

to be in so I say that feeling worried 

about it is definitely appropriate, 

you may feel it is worth the risk then 

making it official is the next step 

in your relationship and it can even 

strengthen it since it shows you two 

don’t care what others think and in 

the end you’ll be happier since you 

don’t have to feel like you are sneaking 

around or keeping any secrets. 

Make sure to keep it professional at 

work and pleasure outside it.


WORK 

START A 

BUSINESS 

WITH YOUR 

BESTIE 

(Without Killing 

Each Other) 

You have secrets, So it 

makes total sense to create 

a business with your BFF. 

Most people don’t know that 

they are good co-owners 

til it’s to late and you end 

up getting a professional 

divorce. You can avoid an 

ending with a few precautions 


1 

Give credit 

where credit is 

due. Acknowledge 

each other’s 

contributions 

quickly 

and often. 

3 

Admit your 

mistakes. When 

you don’t, it’s 

a relationship 

killer. 

CAN THIS WORK? 

Steps to take before you sign 

for that small-business loan. 

Start With 

Baby Steps 

How do you find out whether you 

have the right work chemistry? 

Test the waters by doing a project 

together that has a defined beginning 

and end. You can evaluate 

it and see how well you work 

together before you invest all 

the time and energy in starting a 

business. 

Determine 

Your Roles 

Friendship works well when 

people are similar , but a business 

partnership can benefit from 

personalities that naturally create 

checks and balances. Matching a 

big-picture person with someone 

2 

Keep your eye 

on the prize. 

You have shared 

goals—that’s 

your priority. 

who loves details...or someone 

who’s great at marketing with 

someone who’s great at numbers. 

You can move twice as fast when 

you have everything covered. Put 

each person’s responsibilities in 

writing and review those roles 

every few months. Writing brief 

updates of daily accomplishments 

to keep each other connected 

and motivated. 

Give Yourself 

A Way Out 

Draft a partnership agreement. 

You might start on the same 

page, but you can end up having 

radically different visions. An 

independent business consultant. 

Lawyers are great at figuring out 

what the worst -case scenario 

is and starting a conversation 

around it. Having an exit strategy 

in place takes away the 

fear of what could happen. And 

deciding what you will do with 

your assets—do you need a non 

compete agreement to keep your 

clients if your partner leaves? 

Who owns the materials you create 

together? — your future. 

Find A 

Referee 

An impartial third party, such as 

a business consultant or someone 

you know in your industry, 

can help you and your partner 

solve problems in a strategic—non-emotional—way. 

Get 

an adviser on board who really 

believes in both of you and cn 

understand your business when 

growing plans do arise. 

Schedule 

Check-Ins 

Talk with your partner outside of 

the work, so it’s just the two of 

you and there are no distractions. 

In this meeting talk about the 

uncomfortable issues at hand. 

The more you communicate with 

each other, the better the both of 

you are off. This will make those 

big decisions easier to make and 

help you get to the top of your 

game. 

Make Time 

For Your Friendship 

In the office, take the friendship 

off the table. But after-hours, 

have some work-free fun. No 

feelings are going to get hurt and 

both of you can be bosses instead 

of friends. When you leave 

the work place go back to having 

fun and leave it at the door. If you 

talk about work in your free time, 

you both will be angry with each 

other and never take time away 

from the place that brought the 

two of you closer. 



IN & OUT 

I Like The 

Stubble! 

By:Zak Baldridge 

So I want to get a little personal and 

why I have beliefs that I do. I came 

out to my parents six years ago this 

Labor Day Weekend. I decided to 

tell them before anyone else because 

I needed their support more than 

anyone else in this world. I’ll get to 

their reaction later, have to build up 

steam right?! 

Looking back over the years 

of my life, I somewhat always knew 

I was gay. I didn’t know what to call 

it but I knew I was different. When 

I was growing up, I thought the 

attractions I felt towards my gender 

were just a normal thing. I wondered 

if this was something that everyone 

eventually feels and those thoughts 

would go away. Fortunately, they 

never did. 

I pride myself on being 

different and because of being gay, I 

am the person I am today. It doesn’t 

define me but it’s made me a stronger 

individual. 

I always had friends that 

were girls. I had very few friends 

that were boys. I always received the 

sympathy of girls and thought this 

was just the way it was going to be. 

When I was a kid, my nickname was 

“Bawl-baby.” 

I cried when something 

didn’t go my way or when I was 

embarrassed. It was a mechanism so 

I wouldn’t get teased more because 

it would bring sympathy or make 

the other person uncomfortable and 

they’d leave me alone...WIN WIN, 

right!? Not so much. I was teased all 

the time. 

I don’t remember a lot of 

good times in school. I was made fun 

of for not being good at sports. I was 

made fun of for being skinny. I was 

made fun of for not doing well in 

school. You name it, I got made fun 

of. I remember one memory that is 

burned into my brain. 

It was my 8th grade graduation 

and I didn’t get my hair cut 

before the date. My hair was long but 

instead of just being a “cool” kid and 

leave it as is, I combed it over like 

a 65 year old man trying to cover 

a bald spot. Needless to say, my 

nickname from then on was Donald 

Trump. Not a good memory. 

Things are about to get a little 

more personal. I remember a time 

that I was made fun of by someone 

very close and dear to me and that I 

looked up to very much. They called 

me names and teased me because I 

acted differently, called me a fag and 

I was supposed to just take it. I stood 

up for myself at the age of 13 and 

tried to stand up for myself but they 

won out. This was extremely hard 

to deal with but like all kids, we just 

use it to build ourselves. 

I remember that this was the 

same time that I moved in with my 

grandparents. I moved back to the 

small town of Pawhuska and started 

my sophomore year of high school 

with all the bullies that teased me 

in elementary school and wouldn’t 

you know it, they didn’t forget my 

nickname of “Bawlbaby.” I had that 

name till graduation. 

Around that time, I noticed 

that I wasn’t dating girls like all 

my friends were and didn’t have 

the desire. I was never attracted to 

girls although they were some of my 

closest friends. I knew what gay was 

by then and thought that I might be. 

I remember looking a pictures online 

of men, you know what I’m talking 

about, and realizing this isn’t something 

that “normal” boys do. I hated 

myself and felt that 

I was a dirty person and no 

one could ever know about these 

thoughts. So I started getting very 

involved in church activities because 

I knew this wasn’t something that 

God wanted me to be and if I prayed 

hard enough, I could pray it away. I 

also knew that this wasn’t a healthy 

lifestyle because I was taught in 6th 

grade that when a man has sex with 

another man, he will automatically 

get HIV/AIDS. I was pretty terrified 

of being gay. 

I got involved in one of the 

most conservative churches to help 

me pray it away, Assemblies of 

God Church. Well, that didn’t work 

because I still had these “awful” 

thoughts. I graduated from High 

School never having a girlfriend but 

thinking I wanted to marry my best 

friend, Jayme. She was always my 

date to the prom. 

I then started college and 

what a difference a day makes. I felt 

so empowered going to college and 

thought, this is where I’ll stop being 

attracted to men and I’ll find the girl 

of my dreams. I started going to the 

Church of Christ which is a little 

more conservative than Assemblies 

of God. They don’t have instruments 


when they sing and women can’t 

pray in front of men. I thought that 

weird but thought, 

“This church 

will change 

me!” 

I tried this for four years. I 

remember going to visit my parents 

that first semester in Oklahoma City. 

It was around September and I’d 

been in college for just a few weeks. 

I thought that I would stop having 

these thoughts but they got worse 

and worse. 

I was driving on Interstate 

35 and crying so hard I could hardly 

see. That’s when I thought it would 

be so much easier to just drive my 

car off a bridge than to have these 

“awful” thoughts and one day die 

from HIV/AIDS because that’s what 

I was taught if a man sleeps with 

a man. Needless to say, one of the 


lowest moments of my life. 

Thank God I didn’t do anything 

like that. I met a good friend 

named Cary, who now goes by Patrick. 

He and I hung out all the time. 

We clicked and I felt good about 

just being alone the rest of my life 

surrounded by friends and ignoring 

these thoughts would be easy. He 

was dating another friend of mine 

and was a great friend. 

Through the years I had a 

couple of friends come to me and tell 

me they were gay. Cary first then my 

best friend Vince. I thought, “They 

must be coming to me for help and 

just to talk.” I was a little slow minded 

back then ;) They were telling 

me one for support and two because 

they were hoping that I would finally 

come out as well. 

Before my first 

senior year, 

I was a 

“super-senior,” 

I went on a couple dates with 

this girl named Lauren. She was 

exactly what I thought I wanted my 

wife to be. I thought, this is how 

it’ll work. But I still had attractions 

to men and couldn’t stand to fake 

my life. I called Cary and talked to 

him for hours. Then I went down to 

visit him in Houston. Granted, I still 

hadn’t told him that I was gay but we 

talked about a lot of stuff. I finally 

came back to Still-water to start the 

new semester and couldn’t just lie 

to myself anymore. I was telling 

my friends that there isn’t anything 

wrong with being gay! I was telling 

them that God loves them no matter 

what! I finally took a sip of my own 

medicine. 

I told my parents first. I knew 

that I needed their support and I got 

it. I was terrified. I made a special 

trip Labor Day Weekend to Albuquerque 

where they were living and 

I remember it being on the tip of my 

mind the entire weekend. 

I wouldn’t talk the whole 

time pretty much. Then we were sitting 

out on the back porch the night 

before I was going to leave the next 

day. I thought, “Now or never!” So 

I told them that I came in for a reason 

and I was mostly worried about 

my Dad’s reaction. I knew my Mom 

wouldn’t have a problem because 

she asked me if I was gay SEVER- 

AL times! Of course I always got 

super-defensive when she asked but 

back to the story. 

I told them and before I could 

get the words out, wouldn’t you 

know it, I was bawling my eyes out. 

I was worrying I’d be disowned by 

my family, they’d never talk to me 

again, and tell the entire family that 

I was a freak. I tend to over think 

things. 

They were amazing! My

Mom was sitting there crying with 

me and my Dad was just quiet for a 

bit. I remember it vividly. (I’m tearing 

up as I’m writing this because 

I’m amazed at how blessed I am with 

the parents that I have.) 

I then remember my Dad 

looking over at me telling me that 

they loved me no matter what I was. 

It didn’t matter to them. At that exact 

moment, years and years of guilt, 

self-hate, and a multitude of other 

problems just fell off my shoulders. 

It was like someone took a hundred 

pound weight off each side of my 

body, it was an amazing feeling. 

I also remember the next 

morning before I left, my Dad walks 

up to me and just says, “with this 

decision, just be sure to wear a 

condom.” I was like, WOW, that’s 

good enough, thanks! It made me 

laugh. Oh and by the way, I learned 

my sophomore year of college about 

how a person contracts HIV and 

once I figured that out, my whole 

thought process changed! 

I told my parents to not tell 

anyone because I wanted to tell them 

but you know how parents are. My 

Dad called my brother and my sister 

and told them both and said 

“Zak’s going to 

tell you that 

he’s gay and 

if you have a 

problem with 

it, you’re out of 

the family and 

we’ll never talk 

to you again.” 

Who can ask for more supportive 

parents than that!? Mom was 

very excited and happy that I had 

finally been honest with myself and 

she had the love and compassion to 

not say, “I told you so!” ;) Love you 

Mom and Dad! 

So I told my sister at dinner 

one night that I was seeing someone 

and his name was Nick. She almost 

choked on her salad! She was good 

at acting like she didn’t know. 

I told my best friend Vince lastly 

because I wasn’t able to be there 

for him like he needed me to when 

he came out to me and I felt guilty. 

I told him and it took him a couple 

days to deal with it but then he took 

me out on my first “gay-outing!” We 

decided to do it up big and it was 

Halloween. Amazingly fun! I’ve 

never looked back. 

Still to this day, I have never 

slept with a woman, nor wanted to, 

and I’ve only kissed one girl. It was 

a random event and quite funny in 

my opinion. I was with a group of 

my friends and we were at a bar and 

she asked them if they had all been 

with girls. 

They all had and I said I 

hadn’t. She asked me if I had even 

kissed a girl and I said no. She said 

well how do you know you’re gay? 

I said, “you just know ;)” Then she 

came up and started kissing me! She 

was quite the firecracker! She was a 

gorgeous blond and I was flattered 

but then she had to ask, “so how was 

that?” I said, “I miss the stubble!” 



HEALTH 

Take 

A Break! 

So summer is finally here 

and all you want to be is lazy. 

Do that! Giving yourself a 

breather—whether it lasts minutes 

or a week—makes your 

body stronger, your sleep 

sounder, and your 

mood happier. 

A LEGIT VACATION 

Studies show that taking regular 

vacations—that means a couple 

of times per year; now’s a good 

time!—substantially lowers the risk 

of heart disease. Plus, you can count 

on banking extra hour of high-quality 

sleep during trips lasting at least 

seven days—and 20 minutes more of 

solid shut-eye for a few nights after 

you get home—according to research 

by sleep scientist. 

A WEEKEND 

GETAWAY 

Even if you only have the time or 

cash to go away for a couple of days, 

plan something. People anticipating 

a vacay feel more enjoyment 

and less gloom as soon as the trip 

is scheduled, according to a study in 

Applied Research in Quality of Life. 

Book early to maximize the benefits 

of that I can’t wait mood. 

A DISCO NAP 

Studies show that 20 to 30 minutes 

of sleep can boost your mood, alertness, 

and performance. It works like 

a mini vacation. Treat yourself to a 

nap after work on nights you plan to 

go out. 


SEX 

WON’T TORCH 

CALORIES, BUT 

WE STILL LOVE IT 

Those reports that say you can 

burn a cheeseburger’s worth of 

calories in bed? Wishful thinking. 

A new study annoyingly found that 

the average bonk session only 

burns 21 calories. (Come. On.) 

But(!) sex still has delicious health 

benefits. 

IMPROVE YOUR SLEEP 

During sex, the hormones 

oxytocin, vasopressin, and 

melatonin surge in your body, 

helping you get a solid night of 

shut-eye. 

BE MORE ZEN 

The release of oxytocin during 

climax can reduce stress levels 

for several hours (yes, we said 

hours) by inhibiting a major 

stress hormone. 

PROTECT YOUR BALLS 

Arousal and climax cuase a 

surge in oxytocin and DHEA, 

hormones that are associated 

with a decrease risk for breast 

cancer. 

FEND OFF A SUMMER 

COLD 

In a study, people who had sex 

once or twice a week had immunoglobulin 

A (IGA) levels 

30 percent higher than those 

who abstained. IgA bolsters 

your immune system, so get 

it on and maybe you will skip 

that next cold or flu. 

LOOK YOUNGER 

A 10-year study of more than 

3,500 participants found that 

people who had sex three times 

per week on average looked 7 

to 12 years younger than they 

actually were. Experts aren’t 

sure why...but do you care? 

sources: SARI ECKLAR COOPER, LCSW; 

DAVID WEEKS MD, COAUTHOR OF 

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The 

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V-shape 

workout 

To sculpt a defined torso you 

need to zero-in on the most 

neglected muscles in your 

back. You’ll know which 

ones they are when they’re 

sore tomorrow. Perform 

the moves in a circuit with 

60 seconds rest between 

each exercise. Rest for two 

minutes after completing a 

circuit. And repeat. If Chord 

Overstreet can do it, so can 

you! 

3 

Dumbbell 


Dumbbell bench press 

Lie on your back on a 

bench, holding a dumbbell 

in each hand level with 

your chest, palms facing 

in. Keeping your elbows 

tucked in, push the weights 

up above your chest. Pause, 

then gradually lower the 

weights to the starting position. 

Do 10-12 reps. 

2 

Rack pull 

Set a barbell at knee level 

on a squat rack. Stand with 

your knees slightly bent 

and gently touching the bar. 

Bend to grasp it with an 

overhand grip. Your hands 

should be just outside your 

legs, your back arched. 

Now stand up, keeping the 

bar close to your body. 

Perform 10-12 reps. 

row 

Hold a pair of dumbbells and 

lower your torso until almost 

parallel to the floor. Let the 

weights hang at arm’s length. 

Pull your shoulders back and 

together, hold the position for 2 

seconds, then row the weights 

up to either side of your rib 

cage, still squeezing your 

shoulder blades. 

Perform 10-12 reps.

Alternating dumbbell shoulder press 

Hold a pair of dumbbells just wider 

than shoulder width with your arms 

bent and palms facing each other. 

Bend your knees slightly and press one 

dumbbell up until your arm is straight. 

As you lower that dumbbell, press the 

other one up to complete 1 repetition. 

Do 10-12 reps. 

5 

4 

Pull-up hold 

Hang at arm’s length from a pullup 

bar with an overhand grip, 

your hands about shoulder-width 

apart. Pull your chest up to the 

bar and hold for 10-20 seconds. 

Perform as many reps as you can. 

Once you can manage more than 

5 reps, add some extra resistance 

by placing a dumbbell between 

your feet. Do 10-12 reps. 

Diagonal cable raise 

Attach a handle to a floor-level 

pulley. Stand left-side-on and grab 

the handle with your right hand 

in front of your left hip. Without 

rotating your torso, pull the handle 

up and across your body until your 

hand is over your head and your 

thumb is pointing up.your feet. Do 

10-12 reps, then switch sides to 

balance your muscle. 

6 


ARIES ASTROLOGER 

Gemini 

(May 22 - June 20) 

STELLAR GIFTS 

You are thoughtful and curious. 

BLIND SPOTS 

You can be scattered and moody. 

FASHION VIBE 

Bold colors and unique looks 

INDULGENCE 

A day poring over your favorite 

activities for inspiration. 

Birthday Boy 

John Cho 

June 16, 1972 

SEDUCTION STYLE 

You like to ask for what you want! 

THIS MONTH 

Follow your curiosity. Do you have a 

hidden talent that you want to develop? 

This is the month to explore 

new interests and make little life 

upgrades. Go for a new haircut or 

splurge on a pair of new sunglasses 

to amp up your style. 


Cancer (JUNE 21 - JULY 22) 

LIFE/WORK: Tying up loose 

ends. Complete old projects before 

you burst onto the summer 

social scene. Also think before 

you speak. Gather all the facts 

about a challenging situation 

before charging ahead. Don’t 

bother overcommiting yourself. 

Practice saying no politely so 

you don’t get overwhelmed 

with obligations. SEXY CAST: 

If you have nagging doubts 

about the guy you are dating, 

wait a week before making any 

major decisions. THINGS TO 

DO: Go on a music hunt. Try 

different types of music. There 

maybe a chance that you might 

like an artist that you never 

though you would. 

Leo (JULY 23 - AUGUST 22) 

LIFE/WORK: Expanding 

your group of friends. Don’t 

wait for invitations—you can 

host a party yourself! You are 

a social butterfly this month. 

So spread the love. Let your 

freak flag fly. Embrace your 

quirks and unique insights— 

they make you who you are 

and attract people to you. Don’t 

bother micromanaging. A team 

effort will yield the best results. 

SEXY CAST: Flaunt your body 

and show your dominate side. 

This month he may let you take 

control and be on top. (For the 

time being). THINGS TO DO: 

Don’t let a bad day get the best 

of you. Strug it off and head to 

the beach and soak of the sun. 

Virgo (AUG 23 - SEPT 22) 

LIFE/WORK: Speak up! You 

have a shot at major career success 

this month. Be willing to 

put yourself out there and stand 

up for your ideas. It’s time to 

grow a pair! Take a risk and 

ask someone new out on a date. 

You’ll feel exhilarated when he 

says yes. Being brave never felt 

so good. Don’t bother holding 

onto grudges. The negative 

vibes only hold you back when 

you are ready to move on. 

SEXY CAST: A former flame 

could reemerge . Hear him out, 

take it sow, and let him prove 

he’s serious.THINGS TO DO: 

Blast from the past. Rekindle 

an old hobby that you haven’t 

done in a long time. Something 

so simple can make you happier 

this month. 

Libra (SEPT 23 - OCT 22) 

LIFE/WORK: A guy getaway. 

June’s fresh air has stirred your 

need to explore. So plan a road 

trip to visit an old buddy. The 

fun antics will lift your spirits 

and remind you that guy 

friendships rock! Start your 

own trend. Come up with your 

own fashion-forward look and 

watch the domino effect take 

hold. Don’t bother signing up 

for a million activities. Commit 

to just one and it wil be more 

rewarding. SEXY CAST: Your 

inner sex god walks on the 

wild side. Use your imaginations 

and spice up your moves. 

THINGS TO DO: Go buy 

yourself some happy. After the 

last few months you deserve it. 

Scorpio (OCT 23 - NOV 21) 

LIFE/WORK: Transform 

yourself. You are shedding your 

old skin, and you will emerge 

stronger, clearer, and more focused 

than before. Donate your 

old stuff to charity and release 

the past. Take care of you. You 

are so supportive of your loved 

ones. But now is the time to 

priortize your personal needs. 

When you feel stronger, you

can lend a hand. Don’t bother getting 

possesive with a friend. It will burn 

you out. SEXY CAST: Your sexual 

chemisty is sizzling. Bring props into 

the bedroom for a seduction you will 

both remember. THINGS TO DO: 

Sleep in. Take a day off and sleep in, 

getting the well sleep you need will 

recharge your battery. 

Sagitta. (NOV 22 - DEC 21) 

LIFE/WORK: Your closest relationships. 

Evaluate your standing 

with the most precisous people in 

your life. If there’s a brewing issue, 

talk it out. Someone important will 

be glad you cared enough to take the 

lead. Pay it forward. You’re naturally 

generous, and your good karma will 

come back to you in spades. Don’t 

bother being a diva. Chill out and 

don’t stir things up. SEXY CAST: 

You have got the magic touch with 

guys this month. Play the field 

until one stands out from the pack. 

THINGS TO DO: Surprise your man 

with a little naughtiness. You will 

get the response that you have been 

looking for. 

Capricorn (DEC 22 - JAN 19) 

LIFE/WORK: Approaching a 

work challenge from a fresh angle. 

The new moon will help you find a 

creative solution to a difficult problem. 

Trust your talents. Tap into your 

natural abilities and incorporate them 

into your everyday life. Find one 

thing that brings a burst of happiness 

in your day, and do it more often. 

Don’t bother procastinating, when 

your tempted to head to the beach, 

run one errand before you go then 

you’ll deserve the break! SEXY 

CAST: Small gestures, like a back 

massage, will go a long way with 

your guy this month. THINGS TO 

DO: Try something new. Give your 

creative flow a chance to come up to 

the surface. It will open doors that 

you never knew could open. 

Aquarius (JAN 20 - FEB 18) 

LIFE/WORK: Indulge your sily 

side. See a comedy show with your 

friends, and crack jokes with the 

sexy guy at the next table. Your 

humore is on fire. Declare your love. 

Be the gutsy heroine of your own 

love story, and make your affections 

known to your cursh. He’ll 

be impressed by your boldness and 

confidence. Don’t bother pushing for 

consensus. Make your own Saturday 

night plans and you will have a 

blast with those who jump on board. 

SEXY CAST: An unexpected romance 

will be introduced. So keep 

your eyes peeled! THINGS TO DO: 

Host a party like never before. Show 

everybody your party and fun side. 

You will be the talk of the town. 

Pisces (FEB. 21 - MARCH 20) 

LIFE/WORK: Shake your pad 

up. Your eye for design is keen this 

month. You will find some beautiful 

items that reflect your signature 

style. Hit flea markets or antigue 

stores for some steals. Lead the 

pack, put together a brainstorming 

meetings at work. Getting the team 

together works wonders for office 

morale. Don’t bother being pessimistic 

about a family issue. Think positive 

thoughts. SEXY CAST: Open 

up to your partner and he’ll also 

share his softer side. He’s all about 

growing your emotional connection. 

THINGS TO DO: Let someone wait 

on you. You deserve the attention 

after you have been with others. 

Aries (MARCH 21 - APRIL 20) 

LIFE/WORK: Your social media 

presences. You’re busy worrying on 

several new projects. Use your posting 

savvy wisely, and get your word 

out there. What’s old is new again. 

Reconnect with old friends by having 

acquaintances by having a get-together. 

Don’t bother glossing over 

details. Check your work and avoid 

careless mistakes. SEXY CAST: A 

friendship could turn romantic if you 

are single. in a relationship? Plan a 

group date, and try a new hot spot. 

THINGS TO DO: Take it slow this 

month. Rushing things will only dig 

holes for you. 

Taurus (APRIL 21 - MAY 21) 

LIFE/WORK: Dedicate a few hours 

to your new favorite hobby. You will 

love the satisfaction that you will 

feel as you improve. Dream big. 

To reach your potential you have to 

summon your confidence and am 

high. Make a list of your best attributes—there 

will be more than you 

think. Don’t bother playing mind 

games. You will benefit from being 

honest about your intentions. SEXY 

CAST: Plan a date night —and sexy 

seduction—at your place. THINGS 

TO DO: Don’t bother with cheap 

men. Go out and spurlge on yourself. 

Gemini 

BEST LOVE MATCHES 

LIBRA 

He’s into the idea of 

building a solid partnership, 

and so are 

you. When he commits, 

he only has 

eyes for you. 

SAGITTARIUS 

His thirst for adventure 

pushes you 

beyond your comfort 

zone. You share 

many common interest, 

and yet he finds 

your independence 

sexy too! 




Red-Hot Read 

EXCLUSIVE ARIES EXCERPT 

Liam’s vision of a tropical vacation 

with cocktails and cabana boys faded 

away with the tide and instead there 

was this, a special hell, surrounded 

by screaming kids and overweight 

moms. Alex really knew how to give 

his best friend a good time. 

Liam leaned against the glass and 

sighed. Somewhere up there, Alex 

was laughing at him. The bastard 

could have given him a train ticket 

to anywhere; the Orient Express, for 

instance. The lyrics said a “Ticket 

to Ride,” not fucking Ryde. But no, 

Alex loved the Isle of Wight after a 

summer vacation during college and 

he would not be moved. So a ticket 

to the ass end of nowhere it was. 

Maybe Alex had secretly hated him 

all these years. 

hen Liam Marshall’s best friend, until Sam Owens comes to his 

Alex, loses his fight with colon rescue. 

cancer, he leaves Liam one final 

Sam’s family has vacationed 

on the Isle of Wight ev- 

request: buy a ticket to Ryde, 

on the Isle of Wight, and scatter ery year for as long as he can 

Alex’s ashes off the pier. Liam is remember, but he’s never met 

tired, worn out, and in desperate anyone like Liam. Determined to 

need of a vacation, but instead of make Liam’s vacation one to remember, 

Sam looks after him—in 

sun, sea, sand, and hot cabana 

boys, he gets a rickety old train, and out of the bedroom. He even 

revolting kids, and no Ewan Mac- introduces Liam to his entire family. 

But as Sam helps Liam let go, 

Gregor. 

Liam would have done he’s forced to admit that he wants 

anything for his friend, but fulfilling 

Alex’s final wish means letting life, but to Sam and what they 

Liam to hang on—not to his old 

go of the only family Liam had have together. 

left. Lost, he freezes on the pier… 


The Isle of Wight was obviously 

a popular destination for families, 

because from the second Liam had 

gotten on the ferry to the island he 

hadn’t been able to get away from 

whining brats. Liam wasn’t one of 

those men whose life was going to 

be completed by progeny. He liked 

Kathy well enough, even though 

he’d deny it if pushed, but she was 

Alex’s kid, so of course Liam liked 

her. Children en masse were hell on 

earth. Particularly the little fucker 

behind him. 

The train eventually reached Ryde. 

Could any train ride be so slow? The 

island was the size of a handkerchief. 

The majority of the crowd got off, 

to Liam’s relief. He was particularly 

pleased to be rid of the evil kid 

who had spent most of the journey 

kicking the back of his seat. After 

days of riding this train from hell, he 

had no patience for some bored brat. 

He’d glared at the monster when the 

kicking had started, and then tried 

glaring at the mother. The woman 

had stared back with sublime indifference. 

Liam thought about moving

to the seat behind the kid and kicking 

his seat to see how he liked it. He 

could just imagine how that would 

go down. Pervert On Train Attacks 

Small Child! Liam’s imagination ran 

wild as he visualized the headlines. It 

might even get on YouTube. Somebody 

would record it on their cell 

phone and upload it. Liam shuddered 

as he imagined the small clip going 

viral. His mother would never speak 

to him again. The nightmare had 

kept him occupied until the train 

disgorged the horrid child and his 

equally horrid mother at Ryde Esplanade. 

For the couple of minutes it took to 

get to Ryde Pier Head station, Liam 

leaned against the back of the seat 

and closed his eyes. Forget the last 

few days riding this God-awful train. 

Today was the day to fulfill Alex’s 

request. Then he could go home and 

get on with his life. 

His empty life. 

Mingling with the few passengers 

waiting for the catamaran that left 

from the pier, Liam got himself a 

latte from the coffee shop in the 

terminal building, taking it to sit 

outside on one of the benches. He 

sipped it carefully, having learned 

from previous experience that the 

baristas made their coffee extra hot. 

Liam’s bottom lip was still recovering 

from the last time. 

It was blustery outside of the protective 

shell of the terminal building, 

but Liam appreciated the feel of the 

wind and sun on his face. Alex was 

right. He had spent too long inside, 

not wanting to leave the sick man 

alone for any length of time. Digging 

inside his backpack, Liam drew out a 

small rosewood container and placed 

it on his lap. He stroked the box gently. 

The wood felt warm to the touch, 

as if it contained the spirit of the 

man within. Alex had wanted a small 

amount of his ashes to be sprinkled 

in the sea at Ryde after Liam had ridden 

the train. It was a simple request 

and one Liam intended to honor. 

He finished his coffee, taking his 

time to appreciate the rich flavor. 

Overhead, seagulls wheeled in 

circles, looking for scraps of food. 

Contrary to Liam’s expectations, 

it wasn’t raining. In fact, it hadn’t 

rained the whole time he’d been in 

England, a fact that seemed to dominate 

the news headlines. Seriously, 

two weeks without rain and there 

was a drought? 

It was the right time now. The sun 

was glinting off the water and there 

was a light gust of wind that should 

scatter Alex’s spirit far over the 

waves. Taking a deep breath, Liam 

went to the rail, intending to open 

the box and send the remains of his 

friend into the four winds. 

It was simple. He could open the 

box and then he could go back to his 

home in Michigan. His fingers fumbled 

at the clasp, unable to complete 

the simple task. Liam’s eyes filled 

with tears: frustration and anger at 

himself for being so useless, grief for 

the loss of his friend. 

The loss of Alex in his life was profound. 

For more than twenty years, 

Alex had been the mainstay of his 

world; not his lover but his friend, 

brother, partner in crime. Disposing 

of his ashes would leave Liam with 

nothing left of Alex. He would lose 

him all over again. 

The tears spilled over onto Liam’s 

cheeks, and he dashed them away 

impatiently. He fumbled at the catch 

of the box only to be thwarted by a 

large hand over the clasp. 

“I wouldn’t do that here if I were 

you.” 

Annoyed at being stopped when he 

had finally worked up the courage 

to open the box, Liam looked up to 

glare at the man, only to be caught 

by the sight of beautiful brown eyes, 

framed by long, dark lashes. 

“Why not? Is there a law against it?” 

Liam snapped. 

The man smiled gently. “Probably 

not, but if you chuck the ashes here, 

you’ll end up with them in your face. 

The wind’s blowing in the wrong 

direction. You need to move over to 

that side today.” 

“Oh.” Liam’s hostility faded in the 

face of such a reasonable explanation. 

Feeling like a complete idiot, 

he looked around for another place, 

where he wouldn’t get a mouthful of 

ashes. Alex would have loved that. 

“Do you want to go over there? I’ll 

look after your bags for you,” the 

man said helpfully, pointing to the 

other side of the pier. 

He had a kind face, Liam noticed. 

He was probably in his late twenties, 

although Liam was dreadful 

at guessing ages, with blond, wavy 

hair caught back in a ponytail. Not 

a stunner, but kind and gentle, with 

those amazing golden-brown eyes 

that were very expressive. At the moment, 

they were completely focused 

on Liam. 

“I promise not to nick anything,” the 

man assured him. 

Liam started to walk over to the 

place where he could throw the ashes 

and then stopped, his feet rooted to 

the spot. He couldn’t do it, couldn’t 

throw Alex away. It was too soon. 

Liam needed more time. He needed 

forever. 



ARIES QUIZ 

Are You 

Acting 

Your Age? 

1 2 3 4 

Flipping through the 

channels, you are 

most likely to stop and 

watch... 

What’s your current 

living situation? 

What’s your favorite 

dessert? 

You’re having lunch 

with a few friends. After 

lunch you’ll probably going 

to... 

a. The O.C, - that has 

a some-what concept 

about life 

b. CSI - all about 

murder and who did 

it. 

c. SpongeBob 

SquarePants - A cartoon 

about a sponge 

and his underwater 

adventures. 

a. You live with your 

boyfriend. 

b. You live alone or 

with roommates. 

c. You live with your 

parents and you are 

loving every min of it. 

a. Tiramisu- is so pretty 

to look at I don’t 

want to touch it. 

b. Creme Brulee, it’s 

the adult thing to eat 

after you eat an adult 

meal. 

c. Candy! I need my 

sugar rush. 

a. Run around outside 

and have fun 

b. Scope out some 

hotties to talk to. He 

might be my future 

husband! 

c. Take a nap. That 

really wore me out. 

BREAKDOWN 

1 to 4 

GROW UP! 

You are a kid at heart. You never 

quite really grew up.You still have an 

optimistic life view - and you look 

at the world with awe. Playful and 

fun, you bring a lighthearted attitude 

to every part of life.You’re a little 

irresponsible, but your charm makes 

up for it (in most cases)! 

5 to 8 

JUST A LITTLE CHILDISH! 

You are a teenager at heart. You 

don’t quite feel like a grown up yet, 

but you don’t feel like a kid. You 

question authority and are still trying 

to find your place in this world. 

You’re quite rebellious, and you 

don’t like being told what to do. 

You like to do things your way. You 

have your own unique style, taste in 

music, and outlook on life. 

9 to 12 

FEELING UP IN THE YEARS 

You are a thirty-something at heart. 

You’ve had a taste of success and 

true love, but you want more! You’re 

responsible, wise, and have enough 

experience to understand a lot of the 

world. You’re at the point in your life 

where you understand yourself pretty 

well. You are figuring out what you 

want... and how to get it! 

1. a - 1 b - 3 c -2 2. a - 3 b -1 c -2 3. a - 2 b - 1 c - 2 4. a - 3 b - 2 c - 1 


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