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PUTNAM VILLAGER<br />
Friday, December 30, 2011<br />
• A<strong>13</strong><br />
T’was the last night of Hanukkah<br />
and all through the house<br />
All the creatures were stirring, yes<br />
even the mouse<br />
The children each waited with baited<br />
breath just to see<br />
Exactly what their last present of<br />
Hanukkah would be<br />
Long gone were the years of eight<br />
gifts times four kids<br />
Thirty-two gifts for Hanukkah long ago hit<br />
the skids<br />
Dollar Store gifts didn’t cut it any more<br />
It’s now cell phones, laptops, electronics<br />
galore<br />
When you add up the numbers, your head<br />
starts to spin<br />
So it began seven years ago when I refused to<br />
give in<br />
I looked at each child, said, “What do you<br />
need?”<br />
Each one looked back at me, quite quizzically<br />
indeed<br />
“What do we need? Really, nothing, we guess.”<br />
Then it’s time to reduce our footprint, our<br />
stress<br />
“Now that I know that you don’t need a thing,<br />
What, into this house, do you each suggest we<br />
should bring?”<br />
That year Dad deployed to Iraq and Gitmo<br />
Getting them “things” couldn’t change that,<br />
you know<br />
They were sad, they were worried, their hearts<br />
were broken<br />
We tried not to dwell on the feelings unspoken<br />
Perhaps they thought pets would bring them<br />
some solace<br />
There’s no other explanation for what now<br />
was upon us<br />
Along came two kittens, two guinea pigs, a<br />
hamster, a rat<br />
My mother was horrified, “Oh my God! Why’d<br />
you get that?!”<br />
THE NEW<br />
NORMAL<br />
LAURA<br />
FISHER<br />
ANDERSEN<br />
Trust Your<br />
Everything we need<br />
I’d had the same thought, initially<br />
that is<br />
It belonged to our oldest (avid Harry<br />
Potter fan), it’s his<br />
At some point we added two cockatiels<br />
as well<br />
Then came my worries of the mess<br />
and the smell<br />
In only two days, the hamster was<br />
gone<br />
What now to get the boy who looked so forlorn?<br />
Not just the hamster, the birds croaked too!<br />
Quickly reduced was the lot of our zoo<br />
Hamster boy bailed on the pets thankfully,<br />
“A Nintendo DS is what it will be for me!”<br />
Off to the store I trudged once more<br />
Yet another electronic I brought through the<br />
door<br />
So began their understanding they are very<br />
blessed<br />
To have what they “need” disregarding the<br />
rest<br />
They have two parents who love them like<br />
mad<br />
There really is nothing else in life to be had<br />
It was 2004 when our oldest was <strong>13</strong> and our<br />
youngest was 6 that I decided enough was<br />
enough.<br />
While our youngest probably would have<br />
been satisfied with trinkets of one sort or<br />
another, I was already overwhelmed by the<br />
amount of stuff we were amassing in our<br />
home. Truly, how much does any one child<br />
need? How much is too much? What do you<br />
do when there is literally no more room to<br />
put anything? You stop buying what you<br />
don’t need.<br />
The basics, such as T-shirts, underwear<br />
and socks, are not “gifts” in my opinion.<br />
They are necessities. If they are needed, I<br />
will pick them up. If you would like a particular<br />
color or style, you will go with me to<br />
get them. Once we get beyond the necessities,<br />
now what do you want? Even now, in<br />
2011, each was hard-pressed to provide us Though we value the lessons learned in<br />
with a list of things they wanted from balancing the responsibilities of academics,<br />
which we could choose what to get them. My activities and employment, our primary<br />
contribution to our family does not come focus has always been on what we feel is our<br />
with a paycheck, so we have to work within children’s most important job and that is<br />
our means.<br />
education, whether achieved through the<br />
It makes me happy that even our children homeschooling we did for several years, or<br />
know there comes a point in time when you through traditional education. Given the<br />
look around and realize you are fortunate to cost of higher learning, it was important<br />
have everything you need, especially when that our children do as well as each could in<br />
there are so many who don’t, without getting<br />
school in the hopes of that paying off in the<br />
into the reasons why. It makes me end. The few thousand dollars a year each<br />
happy to know they’ve received a clear message<br />
might earn through part-time employment<br />
from us, which is that just because you would be nothing compared to potentially<br />
want it, doesn’t mean you will get it. One of saving on the cost of college. If that cost<br />
the things we’ve done with them since they could be defrayed by scholarships for their<br />
were very young is to make them (and keep academic achievements, the tradeoff would<br />
them) aware of what things cost, including be worthwhile.<br />
our mortgage, electric, oil, cable, internet, Dad and I rarely get each other gifts. We<br />
cell phones, car insurance, gasoline, etc., as have what we need – a roof over our heads,<br />
well as what our income is so that as they clothes on our backs, food in our stomachs,<br />
grew up and asked for things such as iPods, four healthy children and each other. This<br />
laptops, iPhones, etc., they would understand<br />
year, though, we received an enormous gift,<br />
that they would have to choose from one we hoped would pan out – our second<br />
their wish list. With a limited amount of son was awarded four years tuition at the<br />
disposable income for each child, would University of Connecticut. He is also applying<br />
they want one gift from their list, or perhaps<br />
to the United States Coast Guard<br />
a couple of items of lesser cost each? Academy, and if accepted there as well, he<br />
Teaching them fiscal responsibility has will have a very tough decision to make. The<br />
been an ongoing process.<br />
Coast Guard is free. He will have to cover<br />
Our oldest began working at 16 and managed<br />
room and board at UConn. That will require<br />
to save $14,000 before heading to school more work on his part. That’s not a bad<br />
in NYC two years ago. That money is now thing.<br />
gone, but, having paid for half of his associate’s<br />
Regardless of what he chooses, it goes<br />
degree from application to graduation without saying that we are incredibly proud<br />
(tuition, books, everything), he has a far of him. Receiving these awards supports<br />
greater appreciation of the value of a dollar. our belief that hard work and focus will typically<br />
Our second son quickly realized the value<br />
bring good things to those willing to<br />
of a dollar when we took his gas card away! exercise it. That’s a valuable lesson for<br />
Dashing here and there with, to and for his everyone.<br />
friends quickly subsided, or he asked his<br />
friends to contribute to the gas tank of the Laura Fisher Andersen is a resident of<br />
car his parents own and insure for him. Putnam. She writes a bi-weekly column for<br />
Now that he has recently gotten a couple of the Villager <strong>News</strong>papers. She may be reached<br />
part-time jobs, he has a better idea of how at laurawriter65@gmail.com.<br />
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for his own insurance. I can only hope that<br />
gives him a better appreciation of the fact<br />
that we don’t require him to pay for it.<br />
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