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PROJECT AWARENESS!
The AWARENESS PROJECT reflects a direct There is plenty that we CAN do. Each of
Those that maintain vi gi 1 ance over
and oh so much more! For movement groups
adoption cannot possibly have the spectrum 'adopting' (excuse the pun) this project
,of information at thei r disposal. It is as a workable program for the next season
not possible to MAKE them hear, see or
will give form to all kinds of tangible
feel but we can offer alternatives. We i deas . For the i ndi vidual it means
can give effort to spreading ideas, facts, acknowledging that there - is something you
feelings and experience. llle can tell our can do. No one is alone in this movement
neighbor that there is a deep hurt inside 'anymore. We are all friends bound by a
because 20 years ago we gave up a child. common foundation and goal. Do you feel
Cle can admit that we DO want to know who
I those mythi cal fo1 ks who gave us 1 ife are. just alittle more aware now? If you do
,., .the project works! Go out and share it.
desire in those who make up both the
us. Each time we express our feelings
immediate adoption trinity and the peri- or share experiences we spread the word.
phe.ra1 circle. It will serve to educate Next time that person hears the term
both movement people and uni nvol ved people . adoption they might think differently.
It will help a1 leviate the fear and secrecy
we so despise. It wi'll offer a1 ternatives In the following pages you will find
in thought, action and ideas.
stepping stones to expand your own
awareness and ways to share it success-
What is awareness? Websters New Worl d fully with others. Don't feel that you
3i cti onary says "ware i mp1 i es havi ng
must make people agree with you or think
knowledge of something thro.ugh alertness just as you do. It is enough just to
in observing or i.n' 'interpreting what one dffer your experience and opinions. Let
sees, hears, feels, etc."
them decide for themselves. After all
To make people more aware of the inequalities
and .inhumanities that take
that is what we are asking them to
.a1 low us to do ... Simply decide for
ourselves.
place within adoption we must 'therefore
cause them to be alert. How? How can
Each of us has a wonderful gift to give
we do this? That i.s what the Project is the world this year. It is not expensive,
all about. Trying to discover new and there is no price tag but it lasts 'far
different ways to call attention to the .longer than anything you can buy, reaches
plight of adoptees, natural parents and farther than the imagination and mu1 tip1 ies
adoptive parents as WE! grow tn encompass faster than rabbits. It comes back a
the vast change that is taking$plsace in thousand fold. Awareness. Exchange.
our midst.
Conimuni cati on. The word touches many many
hearts and minds.
Each of us is responsible for doing our
part. Adoption is not removed from anyone. Give of yourself. Talk opelily. For
$hen an adoptee must spend years of his/ each time you share the natural law of
her life looking and fighting for a simple pyramiding will take over. One person will
piece of information they are not free to go on to tell another and another and yet
hold their full place of responsibility in another. Yes!' You can make the difference.
spciety. When a birthparent harbors a If you tell fiveeople this year that the
silent longing there is a multitude of un- time has come for equality in adoption and
expressed love that might have made YOUR 'they tell five people you now have reached
life better. When an adoptive parent gulps twenty-five. What if it goes on and each
in fear that they may one day face another of them tells five people.. . now its one
reality..another parent, they too are 'hundred twenty-fi ve.. . and then six hundred
functioning at partial fulfi 11ment. Oh twenty-f ive and on and on.
what a better world is in store when the
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seals and the secrecy are 1 ifted!
What does Awareness mean? For us it
means open records, open adoption, reunions

.
We should save our $Is for a trip to
Washington, D.C. this April. There
is a plan to hold a North American
Movement Conference there.
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NEWSLETTER
by DOROTHY M. BARKER - Always In Me- N .Y
There are rumblings of an "OPEtJ
Newsletters are a rather i neipensive
RECORDS INITIATIVE" to make the 1980
.
and practical way to keep open the
ballot in California . . the famous 1 ines of communication. They can be
Proposition 13 State.
sent to members, interested parties,
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resource agenci es , soci a1 workers,
The waggin tongues say Emma May is
judges, legisl ators and other triadputting
the Soundex to rest and
option groups.
leaving the movement. From the ladies AIM sends out 4 newsletters a year
mouth ... GOOD LORD! NO! ... I can't re- but an organization may choose t;o send
tire, everybody hasn't found yet!
Ahhhhh, a registrars work is never done.
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them as often as the memberaship or
editor can compile data and spend the
time typing , sorti ng , 1 abel i ng and
One organization has 400 members in
mailing them all.
just 2 years of existance and over
The newsletters are intended to do
200 reunions. Out of that there were a number of things:
only 6 initial rejections and sonbe of 1 tiighl ight the monthly board and
those have not remained rejected as regular meetings. If speakers were
time does heal. If these are correct
presented a synopsis of their talks
t t t 1 t
figures what fantastic results. .. *
..
4s included for those members who
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were unable to attend. Last year we
A survey of one group shows the
welcomed a psychiatrist, a physician
median age of their birthparents to
tal king on heredity , a 1 awyer, a
be 29. Whatever happened to the social worker and a volunteer from
vision of a poor, distraught,
athe Buffalo Crisis Center.
innocent teenager?
2. Inform members of reunions.
* * * * *
They are invited to share the feelirigs
Congratul ations to Lee Campbell , CUE
and experiences of their reunions.
-fo~inder on her appointment to HEW'S 3. Keep members informed as to what
panel. Congratulations to us too other clubs across the United States
becau'se she .speaks we1 1 for our views.
are doing. News articles of interest
. are reprinted from other groups news-
TRIADOPTION AWARENESS PROJECT is a 1 etters .
ioint effort of the Triadoption League and 4. Identify research projects and
.
the Friends of the Triodoption Library * * ,let membershi p know i f researchers are
All proceeds will be donated to the
in need of input.
Library
Development Fund. 5. Spotlight changes in laws
across the states.
6. Let members know the agenda for
Magazine pub1 i shed by : the coming months. This includes the
TRIADOPTION AWARENESS PROJECT
scheduled speakers, topics of discus-
P.O. Box 5218 sion, dates and places so those who
Huntington Beach, CA 92646 wish to attend can prepare in advance.
We invite members to contribute
Copyright 1978, Triadoption Awareness articles and ideas. Some articles are
Project.
reprinted from national magazines and
newspapers. There are many i tems of
i nteres.t to keep a ne~slett~r a1 ive
Edited by: Mary Jo Rillera & Nancy Palmer once it is started. Don't ever worry
,about fi 11 i ng those pages.

y KAREN TINKHAM - SEARCH - Phoenix, AZ
Since SEARCH was founded in 1976 we have
been extremely busy speaking to the public.
We have been involved with wonlen's clubs,
Rotary Clubs , adoptive parents groups,
adoption agency panel s , conferences for
social workers, genealogy clubs , TV, radio,
and legislation.
Speaking live has its advantages. You
are able to say what you want and also
have the audience ask questions. Figures
can be benefici a1 to make a point. We
took a survey of our members which shows us
the average age of our searchers, sex,
agency or private adoption, age k~hen adopted,
when adoptee was told, whether the
family is considered happy or not, if we
told our adoptive parents about the search,
did the adoptive parents share info with
us and would the searcher use an inter-
mediarv. These are valuable tools in
amwed ng questions and giving accurate
information .
Rotary Clubs are exceptional contacts. l4e
albyays hand out information flyers so they
have something to take home as future reference.
Me find we get invitations from other.
clubs as a result of these gatherings.
Panels done for adoptive parents groups
and adoption agencies take on heavier eight.
'Many adoptive parents are so frightened by
the search, yet when they are exposed to a
good panel experience, often leave with a
total :reversal of feelings. We want them to
know and understand our needs because it may
be.the very real need of the person they
adopted. We want to pave the way for the
younger adoptees.
Why are we involved? We want our community
to be aware of what our group offers to'
individual 5 who need assistance and moral
support, but we also want to educate the
communi ty concerni ng the total adoption
story. We want them to think beyond the
moment the infant is placed to the adult
adoptee. We want them to think about the
worrlen who relinquished. We want then] to
know that we are a strong national movement.
Ne want them to know how searching and finding-has
changed us as individuals. We want
them to be aware!
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hctme Bureau
The Movement Lecture Bureau will go
into action February 1979. Across the
country uni versi ties , col 1 eges , agenci es ,
pub1 i c i nteres t groups, pol i ti cal and
social organizations have expressed
repeated interest in the Adoption Movement.
In order to provide adequate
information and speakers, leaders from
many movement organizations have offered
to participate. It will be one more way
to spread an awareness of' the feelings
and experiences of the triad members.
For further information contact the
Bureau c/o Triadbppion League, p .o. box
5218, Huntington Beach, CA 92646.
from ADOPTALK - Bob Glass -Seattle
The 6th North Atierican Conference on
Adoptable Chi 1 dren (NACAC) made these
decisions at'the gathering in Seattle.
OPEN RECORDS - Legislation should be
enacted to implement the following
concepts :
a) adoptees should have access to
'their original birth, court and agency
records at age 18;
b ) bi rthparents s houl d have access
to birth information at any time, and
court and agency information at adoptee
age 18.
(Passed by a margin of 120-91)
Children of the "MINORITY TASK FORCE"
presented a resolution in support of
open records. They said in part:
We want to tell agencies anb parents
tfjat we want to be part of tGe
becisions in our lives
tihe wGen we move tnto a now family,
get a new name, anb ,&out our recorbs
TGe informafton on our recorbs is
about us anb betongs to us. If

y KAROL KERN DODSON
former ALMA -- Arizona PR
There's a quote something to the
effect that doing business without
advertising is like winking at a girl
'in the dark --- you're the only one
.who knows what you' re doing! The
same holds true of groups who do not
obtain adequate pub1 i ci ty to inform
.peopl,e of their existence. No matter
how good your service, it is useless
if people aren' t .aware of it.
Mass .media is the most efficient means
to reach the maximum number of people.
It is easy to study up on the media in
your area. The print media is in the
ye1 1 ow pages under "newspapers". The
'radio and TV stations can be found in
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the white pages under "K s (west of
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the Mississippi ) or "W .s (east of the
Mississippi). Local press clubs can
often supply lists of people, stations,
papers and their phone numbers and
addresses .
NEWSPAPERS ( (
Newspapers often have a c.aI endar
section that will readily list your
meetings. There are runni ng columns
that might be interested in mentioning
your group. If you have a good writer
member and something significant and
RELEVANT occurs in the community send
an editorial. (These-
are read and get
good response). The Editor of a paper
might be interested in doing a feature
story on the group or a particular
member. Call and ask. Or better yet
track down a writer you feel has a
humanistic approach and ask that person.
Newspapers consume a vast quantity of
materi a1 each day to fill those pages,
they are often ready to give some space
to a controversial issue and a "human
interest" story.
PSA's
Radio Stations are probably the best
bet for PSA's and Public Interest
Programming. Some of them have a
Bulletin Board type segment where they
1 ist coming events. A phone call will
tell you if they will announce your
meetings. (They will usually request
these 1 to 2 weeks in advance in
writing. )
A1 though - a1 1 broadcasting facil ities
are licensed by the FCC to operate
"in the.public Interest", there is a
special group worthy of your attention.
PUBLIC BROADCASTING. In radio they are
usually member stations of the National
Public Radio Network (NPR) and operate
at 88.0 -92.0 FM. In TV they are usually
members of PBS (Pub1 i c Broadcasti ng System
NPR has a group of stations on a "round-.
robin hook-up" - these are mostly in the
New England States - and these are by far.
the heaviest contri butdrs of network
programming. If you want a list of the.
pub1 ic .broadcast,i ng stations in your area
write to the networks.
NATIONAL PUBLIC RADIO
2025 N. Street N.W.
Washington, D.C. 20036
PUBLIC BROADCASTING SYSTEM
475 L'Efant Plaza West, SbJ
Washington, D.C. 20024
Both NPR & PBS are provided for in
part by the Corporation for Public
Broadcasting which is a grant funded by
Congress. Due to this they carry no
commercials and member stations are
generally a 1 ittle more responsive to
public interest issues and topical
eontri'buti ans,.
Detehmi ne whst your group qua1 if ies
fop i.ri thai n the local set up and call
the news di rec'to'r or program director.
If they help, thank them in writing.
Some of these stations are, regular
contri butors to their network and
they might want to submit the tape they
did on you to the network. COOPERATE.
The network may not accept it but it is
.certainly worth .a try.

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FLYERS
Preparing a simple one page flyer which
states simply and concisely the purpose
of your group is a time saver. This way
you will not have to write out all the
data each time you want to contact the
stations or a paper. Read up alittle
about ad lay-out, empty space and graphics
so the flyer will be eye appealing. (The
local 1 ibrary should have some books).
Then decide what information you want the
flyer to convey. Make sure to include
the groups name, address and phone and
the name of the persons to contact. Just
type and paste it up and take it to a
local printer. You can have as many as
you need produced at very little cost if
it is "photo-ready". Save the "master"
for the next run. Now each time you
need ready information .to send along with
a PSA or newspaper 1 isting , you'll have
it. This just might generate added
acceptance and interest in your project.
(You can also send these flyers to
prospective members).
TV & RADIO
Most tv and radio stations do local
interview shows. Choose' the best spokesperson
in your group and call the stations
to get them on the air. By watching the
credits at the end of a show you will
!know names of producers, bookers and if
it is taped local ly. Decide if your
group is reasonable material and fits
the format for one or more of the pkograms.
'You can always call and ask. Even if they
say no, be polite and offer to send "a
1 i ttl e information about us anyway". Send
,the flyer the same day with a cover letter
mentioning the name of the person with
whom you spoke. If. one of your groups
events will qual ify as a news item get on
that phone and let all the stations in
town know what is going on. With luck
(and the.grace of God) theymay dispatch
a mini-cam and a newsperson for- an oncamera
interview.
Every radio and tv station. has to keep
a file which is avail able to the Federal
Comunications Commission when the station
is up for re1 icensing (about every 3 years)
This file is open to the public. If a
s,tati on does somet'lii ng for you always
- acknowledqe it. It helps them and it he1 ps
you.
Say a news-editor sends a reporter and
a camera person to cover something for you
1. Thank the technician and reporter
verbally at that time.
2. Ask when it will be telecast,
(call and tell everybody!)
3. Watch the telecast and listen
carefully(a lot can happen in
editing).
4. Type a letter to the Program
Director. This lets them know
about the good work of an assignment
editor, cameraperson, and news
person as we11 as making them again
aware of your organization. This type
of letter makes everybody feel good
and shines in an FCC file. Even if
the coverage is not exemplary give
them a modest statement.
5. Keep copies of EVERYTHING.
6. If a station publicizes a really
negative reunion (assuming they could
find one) write to the director and
ask for coverage of a positive note
that you can provide. Know before
you call what you will offer them.
7. No matter how angry you may get,
don t blow your cool . You may need
something else from them later and
you don't need the media as an enemy.
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If the word No makes you queazy or if
you can't keep accurate records of who
you've contacted where and when, give this
project to someone else. It is NOT always
easy. Be prepared for weird encounters.
Know tnere are those who disagree with
you and those who sympathize. Don't get
down if a reporter seems really excited
only to have a higher-up squash the idea
and refuse coverage. It's all okay, just
hang in there. You'll live and your cause
\JILL be heard. A1 1 you need is pub1 ici
ty
and all they need is qual ity programming.
If together you can inform and enlighten
along the way that is "in the public
interest", . . the nighest ideal for the
electronic media. It means out of the
shadows for your group and awareness for
many people. Do it with dignity, with
class and do a good job. The media can
be our ally. They are a special breed,
and so are we.

y DONNA CULLOM Founder and President Yesterdays Children - Chicago
1
The 5 "W's" serve as an excellent framework
for organizing an action oriented
group.
1. 14HO will constitute the leadsrship?
2. WHY is the group being,formed?
3. WHAT wi 11 goals and standards be?
i 4. WHERE will it be headquartered?
1 5. WHEN will activities begin?
Good Leadership is the essential ingredient
in an organization achieving its
goals. Usually the 'individual or individuals
whose ideas* inspired the formation of
the organization will form the nucleus of
'the leadership. However, it is important
#not to over1 ook the talents and enthus.i asm
of 0the.r group members in delegating leaa-
,ershi,p posi tions .
The formation of an interest group is
similar to the construction of a house.
'First the foundation is laid and then the
supporting structure. Only when those
elemental items are so1id.ly in place can
the trim be added.
A strong foundation and superstructure
require a sense of unity amor;g the leadership.
While it is important to be open to
varying ideas and points of view, endless
debate does not result in the work getting
.done. Consequently; a unified stance,
regardless of potenti a1 persona1 differences
amongst the leadership nucleus, wi 11
allow the group to move from the philosophy
stage to the action stage. No group of any
kind can actiieve its goals without moving
on to the myriad of tasks necessary to
convert dreams i nto real i ty . Oftentimes ,
it is necessar, to confer ultimate authority
in one person, subject to some checks
and balances, in order to put in motion and
effectuate the day-to-day affairs of thc
group.
Why a group is formed generally is the
result of one or more persons be1 ieving in
a particular goal or philosopny and in the
,strength of collective action in achieving
the goal or in moving others to accept the
philosophy . The goal or phi losophy becomes
a rallying point'around which strength is
built through members. The less complex
the goal or the #more unassailable the
philosophy , the greater the chance there
will be to attract the interest and
contribution of others.
Accordingly , the purpose of the group
must be stated clearly and convincingly
and it must be fully supported by the
leaders hip nucleus .
Where it is headquartered is vital to
the growth and practical operation of
an organization. The headquarters should
be easily accessible by public and private
transportation. Oftentimes the qua1 i ty of
the neighborhood or the good reputation of
the city lends prestige to the organization.
Space is also important to the
functioning of the organization since it
will be necessary to keep voluminous
records and perform a great deal of clerical
work. Also, the group must consider
:its potential receipts in budgeting such
overhead i tems as suppl ies , machinery,
:mailing costs and office space. Often
some of these items are contributed, but
some expense to the organization is to
be expected.
When do you begin operations? Not only
must the leadership be physically and
emotionally prepared to move ahead, but
the organization must be legally able to
operate. A1 1 states have Jaws governing
the registration and chartering of groups
whi ch sol i ci t funds (whether non-profi t
or profit). It may be a good idea to
incorporate so that the leadership 'is insulated
from personal liability. If so,
it will be necessary to obtain legal
.advise and aid in developing a charter and
by-laws. A1 so, the organization should
seek a tax-exempt status from the internal
revenue service in order to protect its
funds from federal and state taxes. To
ignore the legal aspects of the groups
existence i s fool hardy.
How to establish constant and progressive
growth in the group is dependent
upon how good the leadership and service
of the group is. Is your leadership
.strong, reliable, efficient? Does your
group deliver the service it says it will?
Is there public awareness of your gr~up?
Television, radio and newspapers are a
good way of bringing the group to the
attention of the public. Good publfc
relations is the key to speedy growth.
The reason some action groups do not
succeed is because their wishbone is

y SUSAN DARKE - Orphan Voyage - Massachusetts
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~ost of us are aware of money, whether
it is the assets derived from the abundance
oT it or the debts incurred because
of .the lack of it. Men trying to estab-
.I ish an organization, attempting to maintain.
an on-going organization or planning
to expand and extend services ones prime
concern i s fundi ng . Wi thout adequate
funds we are always limited, inspite of
the possi bi 1 i ti es or capabi 1 i ties.
Here in the New England Chapter of
Orphanvoyage we chose to combine a fund
raising effort with that of a conscious
raising campaign. Both are equally
important and deserve a great deal of
thought and consideration. The first
step should be the formation of a fund
.raising committee who can explore, plan.
and distribute the material you have to
offer. You may choose to take one. project
or expand on any number of numerous
fund raising events. Our choice was to
con-centrate and pool all of our efforts
towards a bumper sticker campaign. They
are a fantastic way to advertise and at
the same time provide a very lucrative
,profit. What better way to expose the
general public to the adoption movement?
"ADOPTEES HAVE ROOTS AND RIGHTS"
--bumper stickers offer more exposure
than, an. expensive bi 11 board. They can be
purchased through mail orders and will
soon be avail able in a number of gift and
novel ty stores.
It is important to remember that ones
profit from any fund raising event is
only determined by cooperation, publicity
and availability. In other words, your
profit can be unl inli ted and the growth
of your organization unrestricted. By
offering a discount for those orders
over a certain amount you can still obtain
a profit, advertise your product
with some enticement, and service large
orders quickly and easily. If you are
dealing with a product, I would suggest
that the qua1 ity be emphasized. Most
people are wi 11 ing to pay more if they
know what they are getting. For example,
we chose vinyl bumper stickers over the
.paper, not only for durability but because
they can be applied and removed
very easily without a trace of residue.
I ere are a few suggestions fot your fund raising comrni'ttee:
RAFFLES
POT-LUCK SUPPERS
T-SHIRTS (with appropri ate slogans)
BUTTONS (with slogans)
YARD SALES or FLEA MARKETS
HOME PARTIES ' (tupperware, p1 ants,
clothing, jewelry, crafts etc. )
CONCERTS
GREETING CARDS
BUMPER ST1 CKERS
10. FAIRS (especially Xmas)
11. JEWELRY (with charms & medal ions)
12. PAPER PRODUCTS (stationary, note
pads, cards with appropriate logo)
13. WORKSHOPS and SEMINARS (donations
at the. door)
14. BOOKS and PAMPHLETS (especial ly
movement, search aids, popular books)
15. FUNDING DRIVES (for s'pecific items
such as a legal fund, copy machine)
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Agency Interaction]
by PAT O'GORMAN - birthparent, adoptive parent, C.U.B. member; L.E.A.F. treasurer -Minnesota
Social Service Agencies were designed
to promote the we1 fare of
the comuni ty and the individual ;
they are empowered and governed by
State and Federal Laws.
Interaction between two parties
can only be less than gratifying
when one of the two has all the
questions and the other all the
answers (and is limited by law as
to how niany answers may be given) .
It is an authoritative-subjective
re1 ationshi p.
Keeping the above in mind, I would
,say "agency interaction" is as favor-
.able as i t can be given the ci rcum-
stances. There are 96 Social Service
Agencies (pub1 ic and private) in
Minnesota; LEAF & CUB have chosen to
work with the. 6 major agencies. They
have welcomed us to their staff and
committee meetings , ,workshops , advi
sory boards and conferences in an
effort to gain an understandi ng'of
our perspective.
LEAF feels, in the 4 years passed,
it has adequately presented it's be-
1 iefs concerning the "adoptee's right
to know". They (agencies), understand
the issues. They agree only
in part with our beliefs, hence the
'mutual consent Birth Certificate Law
passed June 1977. is, we ... cpmpromis,ed.
Currently the ~epartment of' ~i
Statistics has received 402 Adoptee
requests for the original certificate
of birth. The aqencies have filed
309 case resul tswwi th the State Dept.
of Adoptions, the remaining 93 are
in process. After the first of the
year - they will be ready to publish
the total breakdown results. We do,
however, have statistics from the
first 6 months, as follows: 94
requests - 93 birthparents located
and notified for consent to release
OBC (1 BP out of the coup.try not
located). Of these, 24 did not respond
(positive results from court
oetition 1 i kely)**
You may look at the negative side;
LEAF has chosen to see the positive
effects of this law. and accept what
cannot be changed in this state. ...
for the time being.
WE BELIEVE IT IS TflE ABSOLUTE
RIGHT OF EVERY ADOPTED PERSON TO
KNOW THE IDENTITIES OF HIS/HER
BI RTHPARENTS. We, a1 so, be1 i eve the
only way this can be accornpl ished
(retroactively and within the next
decade) is through Federal Court on
the grounds of discrimination for
the ORIGINAL BIRTH CERTIFICATE ONLY!
It is simple and clear cut. "Every
American regard1 ess of race, color,
creed, re1 i gious and pol i tical be1 ief
has the right to access' to a copy of
.hi s ori gi nal birth certi f i cate EXCEPT
'the ADOPTED AMERICAN".
Now, if LEAF
were a 1 arge organization or had' une
wealthy member we could act on our
be1 i ef s , unfortunately, we aren' t ,
we don't and so it wi 11 all take more
time.
Back to agency interaction ....
CUB of Minnesota has been organized
for drily 10 months, it is new, it is
growing, it is working hard. Again,
agencies are listkning but there is
much work to be done before any
charhes can be considered.
I iould say we have benefited from
tal gaining an understanding of those . .
. . we ask understanding of.
**The State Department of Adoptions
has prepared an "example letter of
petition" ; unless your situation
is extraordi nari ly compl i cated or
you an.l;i cipate legal difficulties,
any adoptee in this state no longer
needs an attorney to peti'tion th'e
courts.

Search Training Seminars are geared to '
train Search Consultants and Search Norkshop
Assistants. The Triadoption League
has a number of Consultants who are now
traveling to different regions of the
country to teach and share search and
documentation information with movement
organizers .
For many years searching was an isolated
hit-or-miss situation. Today methods and
techniques have developed into an incredibly
efficient science.
A1 so avai 1 able through the Awareness
Project is a nine month course called the
SCIENCE OF SEARCH. Persons recei vi ng
these are a1 1 approved by local groups.
pen Minds &f
by HELEN LEECH Vice-president Tr iadoption Library
Adoption Agencies both state and private,
we1 come organizations to 1 ist themselves
for referral. Who, after a1 1 , knows
better than us the problems and feelings
of the individual adoptees, natural and
adoptive parents. Who better can serve
their needs.
In most instances it becomes a give and
'take exchange of ideas. We are not, only
dealing with the adoptees and parents, but
must educa.te each other and the community
to the truth of their need to know.
This n~utual exchange is the best way for
an agency to become aware.. Offer to speak
with the social workers and at their
meetings. Explain fully what your group
is and what your - membership does and be-
1 ieves in. Volunteer speakers should
i ncl~lde a1 1 members of the Triad, so they
may become aware of the needs of all
parties involved.
Also, an exchange of individual ideas on
a one to one basis between the Agency
Supervisor or Adoption Social Worker and
the adoptee or a natural parent is very
rewarding. Explain to them your positive
and happy reunion experiences .
Agency workers ill only learn more
about your needs, your feelings and your
rights through this exchange of assistance.
tielp each other gain full and mutual
understanding . Invi te agency workers to
participate in a meeting - or have a s~ecial
Open ~ouse with them. Exteno this same
exchange to your Juveni 1 e Adoption
Proceeding Court and the presiding Juveni 1 e
Court Judge.
The most predominate question we should
ask ourselves i s : "How can we best he1 p
each other?" The more we communicate the
more understanding we will have. With
understanding a group can accompl ish much
more within a cominuni ty. Encourage awareness
and educate the community to the
Triads needs and rights. Agencies and
Organizations dealing with members of the
adoption triangle meet a recognized need
thru-out this nation and the world. Be
supportive of each other, and make it a
point to give and to seek cooperation.
01 d tradi tions and be1 i efs regardi ng
adoption are being and must be discarded.
Working together, educating each other to
the Need To Know, we wi 11 a1 1 learn. A1 1
members of the Triad, the agencies, the
courts, the state departments, the 1egi s-
latures and the community at large have a
part in the future of adoption and the
we1 1 being of those touched by it. It is
possible to work together and for the
good of a1 1 . 6y being wi 11 ing to have an.
open exchange with others you can open
minds . Open minds wi 11 open records.
Then anad only then will our todays vision
become our tomorrows real i ty .

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Because I am an adoptive mother I am an
advocate of open records. Two years ago
'my son asked me to find his birthmother.
When he asked, I think God in his infinite
mercy opened my heart and mind and made me
understand. I have grown since that
conversation with my son.
I was told, just as many adopting parents
were told that environment was the main
factor in a child's life. I've found that
is not entirely true. My son does not have
our genes. The umbilical cord was severed
but the genes of his birthparents are still
in his body and mind.
How can I tell my son to love people but
exclude the parents who gave him life?
How can I ask him to forget his birthparents?
How can I tell my son to love us and not
love his birthparents? He does have the
same right as I or any other person. He is
Open Records -Georgia
a human being - should he be denied the
right that non-adoptees take for granted?
Emphati cal ly NO!
You see, in our family we have enough
love to go around. We have enough love to
love his birth family too. After all we
do have something in common.
It is my thinking that the adoptive
parents should get together around the
nation to discuss opinions and feel ings
on the situation. We should try to bring
happiness to a11 sides of the adoption
triad.
There is nothing to fear. We can only
grow. There is so much work to be done
to get records open and make ' thi ngs equal
and fair. For a long time we have been
the missing element in this movement but
it is time to do our part. How about it
adoptive parents?
by PAT SANDERS. - Independent Consultant - California
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Workshops are an integral part of the
search, both for adoptees and natural
parents. They seem to fulfill several
needs and generally strengthen bonds
between a1 1 present, enabling them to
be aware of and work toward common goals.
O f course, the most obvious reason for
hol di ny search works hops is tlie di ssemi -
nation of information. Search techniques,
as well as, resource books and personnel
are made available. Individual problems
can be aired and perhaps a solution niay
be offered frorii others present.
Successful search stories have a definite
place during the course of a
workshop. It is encouraging for searchers
still undergoing their quests to realize
it can be done, and to share in the happiness
and satisfaction felt by another.
Often too, as a story is to1 d valuable
"How To" ideas are imparted which may fit
exactly and help break another search.
Perhaps the purpose best served by
workshops is that of offering moral
support. So many of us have been ridi-
culed, ignored and ma1 igned over the years
if we ever mentioned a need to search for
natural ties that it is quite a revelation
to discover, through meeting with others
at a workshop that there are hundreds
and thousands of others also. engaged in
active searching . . . rnost seem to be
calm, intelligent, norrnal people! Allies!
As to the forniat of a workshop, that's
an individual choice, according to the
needs of each group. In general, small
workshops seem to work best, as there is
niore stiarins. Each person riiust feel an
important part of the group; each story
i s unique , each idea appl i cab1 e somewhere.
True creati vi ty can come otily f ro~n
shared experi&nce, feel ings and concern
for others. That's what it's all about.

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Born and nurtured first as a visionary dream, now reality in the
making with growth potential never ending. . . . The Triadoption Library
is a unique step.
The Library will specialize in Adoptionology. A permanent home for
every word printed or spoken on adoption. Preserving a1 1 for the many
generations to come. Here wi 11 be an.;Accumul ati on and central ization of
data accessible to a11 persons who have needs and interests in any facet
of adoption. The facility will be used by Triad members, researchers,
educators, and searchers.
Housed within the Triadoption Library for your use will be fiction
and non-fiction adoption books, c1 ippings from magazines, newspapers,
other periodicals ; audio and video tapes coveri ng search, reunion and
a1 1 related subjects. Directories such as. City and Criss-Cross directories
on any city, county or country covering any year are needed. Professional
Directories for the Legal and Medical professions, Union directories,
telephone directories, Ayer Di rectories of Newspapers and Peri odi cal s , any
church, funeral , school directories or yearbooks can add to the search and
research materi a1 s . Annual pub1 i ~ ati ons pertaining to research, 1 i sts ,
trade locators or investigation might turn out to be a searcher or reseaiochers
valuable key. Any materials, old or new, large or small that
pertains to adoption, search, separation or reunion in any way is significant
and immensely important. Also-we have:use of documented personal
search hi stori es including a1 1 correspondence carried on throughout the
search. Sharing this with adoptionologi sts, records searchers, search
consultants, researchers, educators and the searchers themselves can be a
valuable aid in furthering the study of adoption.
Here is your opportunity to participate! Each news article is important!
Every book, vol ume or compi led materi a1 donated wi 11 be' adorned 'wi th a
"Donated By" sticker. If you wish to remain anonymous, we will respect
your wishes and enter only the date and place. However, you may wish to
state adoptee, natural parent, friend, social worker, adoptive parent,
or other relation to the movement. We hate for anyone to go unacknowledged'
or unthanked.
We appeal for your support and participation by sending adoption
material or funds to:
TRIADOPTION LIBRARY
P.O. Box 5218
Huntington Beach, CA 92646
For Years to come, thousands will be appreciative of your donation.
Our heartfelt "THANKS TO ALL" who have donated so far, thb autographed
GOD BLESS YOU BLL.
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REGISTRATION FEES OR' CHARGES.
SOUNDEX UNITED TOOAY FORTHE
LOCATED AND MAINTAINED AT CARGON
CITY, NEVADA by its innovator and
Registrar, Emma May Vilardi. This
endeavor is the largest m~lti-~rou~
participation project of its kind
now in effect. In the spirit of
unity, it seeks only to serve and
support by solidifying a mutual
goal: A CENTRAL REUNION REGISTRY.
WHO DOES IT SERVE? Any individual
person seeking a reunion with nextof-kin
by birth, and knowledge of
their personal heritage; and/or any
private or public institution, organization,
association or group
representing such persons.
PEOPLE SEEKING REUNIONS are adult
persons who were separated in the
past from family members by birth
through acts of adoption, foster
care, war, orphaned, foundlings, as
wards of state, institutionalization
and divorce.
FUNDING. The I.S.R.R. is funded
solely by Emma May Vilardi. All
printing costs of Soundex Forms
utilized by participating organizations
must be ,borne by that group.
At present there are fi fty-four parti cipati ng
organizations and the number is ever growing.
Anyone wishing Soundex regi stration forms or
more information should send .a SELF-ADDRESSED
REUNIONS OF TOMORROW
There is - NO ENTRY -- FEE OR REGISTRA-
TION CHARGE to any individual person
or organization wishing to participate
in the INTERNATIONAL
SOUNDEX REUNION REGISTRY.
MOW DOES THE I.S.R.R. FUNCTION?
The basic data supplied by the per-
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son in search is codified by - use of
Soundex (conversion of the alphabet
to six numerals) for the entry
classification, 'file number and the.
;single code line into the Soundex
.T,edgers. This code line is capable
of seven points of match and ena-.
bles the registrar to check over
1,000 entries in about five minutes.
In its present. form, it is
computer ready.
All data contained on the Soundex
Form is then trailsmitted to a file
card coded by the searcher's present
identity as the file number.
This is reference for further comparison
if a match occurs in the
Soundex Ledgers. Three or more
points of match will result in the
individual file cards being pulled,
EMMA MAY VlLARDl
P. 0. BOX 2312
CARSON CITY, NEVADA 89701
1 Werral Service
The International Referral Servi ce i s
designed to place those in need with
those who can help. There are presently
97 listed organizations and hundreds of
independent Search.Consultants.
Though it began to put searchers in
contact with groups or individuals who
could gui de their searches, it fast
grew to encompass other needs within the
movement. presently, we find that aboutto-re1
inquish parents are searching desperately
for agencies who i 11 readily
handle open adoption,. . some with ongoing
visitation rights. There is a great gap
here. Many of these parents decide to
keep their ch'i 1 dren or pl ace private Iy .
Lawyers are requesting names of people
who can tes ti fy . Organizations are
making contact to locate a person or
group who can give specific assistatice to
one of their members. Soci a1 workers,
judges, and others sympathetic to our
$cause are being listed in greater and
rgreater numbers.
REFERRAL SERVICE p.0. box 5218,
Huntington Beach, CA. 92646.

Volume 1, Number 2
30r
'Spring .
'Issue
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''WL GOD'S CHILDREN"
TRIAD
We are all looking forward to the up-
: coming National Conference where Adop-
. QLii
tion Movement leaders will gather for-
AWARENESS PROJECT
the first time in history. It marks a
turning point, a "coming of age". There
will be a1 ot of work, learning, absorb- EDITOR- Mary jo Rillera
ing, exchanging, sharing and probably a
conf 1 ict or two. Differences of opinion
are as American as apple pie. Variety
in personal ities and disparity in methods
can be utilized as the stepping
stones to success rather than be viewed
as the boulders'of inmobility. Accepting that there is not one
pe 12 #.5 Maurice Seymour
"leader" of this movement, and each person choosing to partici- 1 PRINTED by FANTASTIC
pate where they have something to offer can create a different
vision of our work together.
' 01979 Triad OPTIONS -
Reflect on the Peace Movement. Can you nanie one leader? Or do
several names and faces crop up with "equal billing"? The era
of mono-leadership and figureheads passed with the 60's and tne
death of Dr. Martin Luther King. That does not take froni the
value or importance of any individual. Rather it enhances those
leaders who are emerging. The amount of work or charisma does
not always balance the scale with notariety or recognition. As
I in - any business or organized effort, those who work the hardest 213 592 -2511
1 and the most consistently are both the strength - and the foundation.
They are too often the unsung heros.
On the other hand, however, social contact, public attention
and publicity though they look glamourous when viewed fr'om a
distance, are demanding both physical 1y and emotionally. Those i
movement persons graced with the looks-, the vocal izing abil i ty
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CONTRIBUTORS - DirckVV ~rown,
Jerry L Cunhingham, Jean Dovidson,
Chris Spurr Mildred Szakacsi
PHOTOS - pg.3 Courtesy Costa
Mesa Daily Pilot-Richard Koehler
I PRINTING-H~ntingtonBeach,CA
MARY 10 RILLERA-President
HELEN LEECH - Vice -President
LYNNE WALKER- Secretary/freosurer
I and the knowledge to become spokespersons are often burdened by - Advisory Council -
the im~iense responsi bi 1 i ty - of such position.
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ANNETTE BARAN,M.S.W., DIRcK
W. BROWN, LEE CAMPBELL,
JEANETTE KAMEN, MARY KIRK,
JEAN PATON, JOAN VANSTONE,
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For 11iyse1 f , I am basi cal ly a very pri vate person and' sonietimes
struggle to deal with the "invasion" of the media.- Rut "God
works in mysterious ways, his wonders to perform", and there is
E~Mn VILARDI.
purpose that I do not always see clearly. All of us have experienced
great pain, adoptees , bi rthparents and adoptive parents
a1 ike, All of us have struggled to grow and change, to confront
: I our limitations and to use our experiences to assist others.
I What we must remember, is that those who follow are no less in
I pain, those preceeding were no niore in pain. Pain is a personal :
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experience. Those we share it with, synibolically or literally,
have special places in our hearts. Let us always keep the mom- DONATIONS of
ents of our own frustration, our own tears and aloneness as a
clear and ever-present recollection, so that we move towards
others with compassion and they sense this above a11 else. be
I are of one purpose with thousands of separate and equal dreams.
I A hundred books, a dozen ii~ovies, a ~ r i i lion l individuals can each
find their place of expression and it will only expand the consciousness
of . nation's. There is roo111 for us a1 1.
GOD BLESS EACH ONE OF YOU
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We have had so many new additions to the reference materials in the TRIADOPTION
LIBRARY that it will be impossible to list them all at this time. We do want to
thank all those who have donated funds, VtiS video cassette tapes, audio cassettes,
books and articles. These donations are of ongoing importance and are greatly
appreciated. We once again ask for those donations as they are the means by which
we will continue to grow.
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MAGAZINE ARTICLES: "Good Housekeepingu- TELEVISION AND FILMS: This 1 isting
March 1979. "Psychology Today" - Feb 1979. represents a private col1 ection that
NEWSPAPER ARTICLES: Two cases of clippings the Library is.,in the process of obhave
been donated by Emma Vilardi. These taining individual permission to show
will be copied in trip1 icate and bound for pub1 i cal ly when needed as reference
reference. The original s will be preserved by various i nd4 vi dual s.
separately. Additional articles have conie "TEENAGE FATHER" Produced by Childrens
from Valentine Sutton , Joan Vanstone,
Home Society of California - Charolette
Di rck Brown, Victor Thayer, Teresa McIntosh, DeArmond. It is a public education film
Dr. June Ramsey Mi 1 ler.
avail able from CHS.
LAWS & BILLS: Connecticuts new law was "CONGRATULATIONS ITS A BOY" (1971)
sent by Nancy Sitterly. South Carol inas A bachelor suddenly .f-inds.he has a 17
proposal by Mi 1 dred Szakacsi . Washington year old son.
State by Eddie Riszk.
"CLOSE TO MY HEART" (1951) A couple has
BOOKS: Autographed copies of the fo1 lowing problems with $he natural heritage of
have recently been donated by the authors: the chi id they.'want to adopt.
"JODY" by Jerry Hu1 se;"THE ADOPTION "WHO WILL SAVE OUR CHILDREN" (1978)
TRIANGLE" by Arthur Soros ky , Annette Baran, Based on a true story of a couple plan-
Ruben Pannor; and "BORN TWICE: MEMOIRS OF ning to adopt two troubled children -
AN ADOPTED DAUGHTER" by Betty Jean Lifton. the bitter court fight as birthparents
Hardcover copies of: "MOMMIE DEAREST" by try to regain custody.
Christina Crawford was donated by Nancy
'!GREEN EYES" Story of a GI returning to
Palmer and another by Helen Leech; "THE Viet Nam to find a son he fathered.
POLITICS OF ADOPTION" by Kathleen Benet
"WHO ARE THE DEBOLTS AND WEHRE DID THEY
was donated by Emna Vi1ardi;"Origins" by 'GET 19 KIDS?" (1977) Documentary about
Richard E. Leavy donated by June Ramsey; the Debolts their 6 natural children and
"FINDING MY FATHER" by Rod McKuen and
18 adopted or legal wards - interracial
"THE SEARCH FOR ANNA FISHER1'by Florence and handi capped.
Fisher both donated by Pat Sanders, "TELL " ILLEGITIMACY : WHOSE CONCERN?" Documen-
ME MY NAME" by Mary Carter and "THE FOUND- tary on unwed teenage pregnancy,
LING" by Francis Cardinal Spel lman both "ARTIFICIAL INSEMINATION" - Weekend-
.donated anonymously to Phoenix Arizona. 15 minute segment.
A large number of reference and search "FANTASY ISLAND" ABC Series Segment.
aids were donated by Frank and Helen Leech. Middle aged woman seeks a reunion with
We did receive 15 new City Directories her children - twins she put up for
(we will list those another issue) and a adoption 30 years ago.
complete set of "Books in Print. Many "THE DIVIDED HEART" (1954-English)
yearbooks, professional directories and Great story about the efforts of a mother
who's who$ have been arriving.
to reclaim her own son, adopted as a war
orphan by a German couple. -
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UNITY - TRUST
Tije ffjetne of tfje American Abopf ion Congress
'"Un4.Ey - Trusf - Unbersfattbtng" 4s being
commenfeb on from arounb tfje nation.
WARM
Washington
I MARY L KIRK Founder
The 1979'Conference is a grkat step toward
unity and strength in the adoptees
freedom movement. In order to unify,
it i.s necessary to share a basic understanding
of our various procedures, our
reasons for them and our qoals . at state
level.
Let us all enter into the AAC with the
realized need to understand that our
many organizations, with whatever
pol i cies and procedures each one. ho1 ds
share the common goal of open records
and freedom for the adopted and their
families.
I TRIAD
I MILDRED SZAKACSI
- South Carolina
Founder
Unity in the Hrnerican Fa~r~ily is fhe bond
that has tilade it an enduring condition.
Unity has traditionally been the bond that
makes the fabric of any nation stronger.
Unity, indeed, is the fabric that will
klold a family together through the most
trying circu~nstances. This excentual yet
basic element is denied to certain members
of our society, mainly the adoptee and
birthparent who actively and often futively
seek one another. Where possible, however,
thousands of these individuals have formed
their own unity in an effort to exchange
useful and valuable inforination to assist
one another in a conimon cause to obtain
what they feel is their right to know.. ..
their birth heritage and the loved ones who
may have been unable to suppress their deep
emotional feelings. By banding together
they might yet be able to convince t18~ose
who believe it is better to suppress these
natural instincts for a much hoped for
reunion.
UNDERSTANDING
Family Tree - Texas
JERRY L CUNNINGHAM Coordinator
As we approach the upcoming national
conference in Washington, D.C. UNITY
should be our watchword. With the
advent of a national con.fierence our
social movement steps from the agitation
state to the organizational stage.
There will be time enough later to
iionor our leaders. The national movement
for social justice for adoptees
is larger and more important than an
individual ego or state and local
chauvanism. Let's all join together
in a spirit of UNITY that will bring
about a coordinated national ef6ort
to realize long sought goals for the
adoptees of today and for adoptees yet
unborn.
CHRIS SPURR
Michigan
President
A physical and intellectual joining
together, en masse, of similar groups
proposing to combine resource, share
information, and educate each other.
By this harmonious integration, we
as individuals , a1 sot the "movement"
occurring in this country, will become
more know1 edgeabl e. and stronger.
We must join hands and stand up together
to achieve the ultimate goal
-- Open Adoption Records in every
state in this country.
There is strength in numbers. We
must recognize this reality and do
everything possi bl e to gain this
strength.
Society can slam the door on a
smaller group of people. However,
that same door will not close as
'readily with the effort of a national.
.organization, representing the humanistic
rights of one of the largest
minority group assetnbl ages of adult
people in America.

ARIZONA CONCERNED UNITED BIRTHPARENTS Sl3RCH FOR TOMORROW, INC MINNESOTA
P.O. Box 153
P.O. Box 441
ALMA CHAPTER
ALMA CHAPTER
Rocky Hi1 1 , CT 06067 New Haven, IN 46744
P.O. Box 14162 3315 Walnut Grove Lane
Phoenix, AZ 85063
Wayzata, MN 55391
CROSSROADS
ADOPTIQN ADVISORY BOARD
63 Roosevel t St 4345 Werl ing Dr
ALMA CHAPTER Hartford, CT Ft. Wayne, IN 46806 CONCERNED UNITED BIRTHPARENTS
2406 East 4th St P.O. Box 3589
Tucson, AZ 85719 DISTRICT OF COLUMBIA Mi nneapol i s , MN 55403
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SEARCH ADOPTION RESEARCH COUNCIL KAMMANDALE LIBRARIES
P.O. Box 1432 57 N Dale St
Post Office Box 23641 ADOPTIVE EXPERIENCE GROUP St MN 55102
Li tchfield, AZ 85340 L' Enfant Plaza Station 1105 Fremont
Washington, D.C. 20024 Des Moines, IA 50316 LEAF (Liberal Education for
CALIFORNIA
~doptive Fani 1 i es.) .'
FLORIDA
KANSAS
23247 Lofton Ct N
ADOPTEE ' S RESEARCH ASSOC.
Scandia, MN 55073
P.O. Box 304
ADOPTEES IN,:SEARCH
SEARCH, INC
Montrose, CA 91020
405 W College Av #316
1274 Garfield
LINK
Tall ahasee, FLA 32301
Topeka, KS 66603
1700 W. 76th Sttl-C
ADOPTSEARCH
Minneapol is , MN 55423
P.O. Box 4002
ALMA CHAPTER
Santa Clara, CA 95054 P.O. BOX 53-761
KENTUCKY
MISSOURI
Miami Shores Branch
ADOPTION RESEARCH PROJECT Miami , FLA 33153
SEARCHING
P .O. Box 49809
P.O. Box 7722
ADOPTIVE STUDY GROUP ' :
Los Angeles, CA 90049
:FACS (Florida Adoptees
Louisville, KY 40207 c/o Missouri Val ley Room-
Main Public Library
consuiting ~ervi ce)
ALMA WESTERN REGIONAL OFFICE
311 E. 12th
P.O.. Box 112 P'.o. Box 8897
Kansas City, MO 64116
Lomita, CA 90717 Jacksonvi 11 e, FLA 32211.
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GEORGIA
ADOPTEES IN SEARCH
ALMA. CHAPTER
CONCERNED UNITED BIRTHPARENTS
P.O. Box 41016
P.O. Box 11745
P.O. Box 3149 ADOPTIVE' PARENTS FOR OPEN Dethesda, MD 20014
Clayton , MO 63109
Long Beach, CA '90803 1239 Carl isle Av RECORDS
AWPTlVE PARENTS FOR OPEN RECORDS
Macon, GA 31204
ADOPTION CONNECTION EXCHANGE CENTER FOR NEW WAYS
22 W. 25th St
4131 Flad Av
P.O. Box 18242, Irvine, CA 92713
Just fodag e. plecrss write wCf6
Baltimore, MD 21218
St. Louis, MO.
ibrm unb sugsesttons.
IDAHO
KANSAS CITY ADULT ADOPTEES
EQUAL RIGHTS FOR FATHERS ALMA CHAPTER MASSACHUSETTS P.O. Box 12574
P.O. Box 6387 Kansas City, MO 64116
Rt. 1, Box 19A
A1 bany, CA 94706 Cataldo, ID 83810 CONCERNED UNITED BIRTHPARENTS NEVADA
National Office (CUB)
PACER (Post Adopt ion Center P.O. Box 573
INTERNATIONAL SOUNDEX REUNION
for Education and Research) ILLINOIS Milford, MA 01757
REGISTRY
727 Holly Oak
P. 0. Box 2313
Palo Alto, CA 94303
ADOPTEE , BIRTHPARENT SEEKERS ORPHAN VOYAGE Carson City, NV 89701
302 E Main 94 Frank1 in St
TRIADOPTION LIBRARY Colfax, IL 61728 Peabody, MA 01960
P.O. Box 5218
NEW HAMPSHIRE
Huntington Beach, CA 92646 SEARCH-RESEARCH
P.O. Box 135
MICHIGAN
Batavia, IL 60610
CONCERNED UNITED BIRTHPARENTS
COLORADO
c/o National Headquarters
ADOPTEES IDENTITY MOVEMENT
TRUTH SEEKERS IN ADOPTION 22 Fontenac SE
ADOPTEES IN SEARCH P.O. Box 286
"LOOKING FOR SOMEONE"
Grand Rapids, MI 49508
P.O. Box 27294 Roscae, IL 61073 Tower Press, Inc.
Denver, CO 80027
ADOPTEES IDENTITY MOVEMENT
P.O.
Seabrook,
Box 428
NH 03874
YESTERDAYS CHILDREN
4227 S aelsay Rd
CONCERNED UNITED BIRTHPARENTS P.O. Box 1554
Burton, MI 48519
P .O. Box 22904
Evanston, IL 60204
Denver, CO 80022 NEW JERSEY
ADOPTION IDENTITY MOVEMENT
P.O. Box 849
ORPHAN VOYAGE
INDIANA
ALMA CHAPTER
Troy, MI 48099
Cedaredge, CO 81413 P.O. Box 41
ASSOC. FOR RIGHTS OF CHILDREN ADOPTEES SEARCH FOR KNOWEDGE Oldwick, NJ 08858
18135 Heatherfi el d Dr 1921 Marsac
CONNECTICUT South Bend, IN 46637 Bay City, MI 48706 CONCERNED UNITED BIRTHPARENTS
Box 1056
ADOPTION SEARCH (OV) CONCERNED UNITED BIRTHPARENTS ADOPTEES SEEKING KNOWLEDGE Merchantvil ley NJ 08109
1203 Hill St 54449-11-CR 9N P.O. BOX 762
Suffield, CT 06078 El khart, IN 46514 Lansing , MI 48823
NEW YORK
ALMA CHAPTER FORGOTTEN ONES ALMA CHAPTER
30 Ten O'clock Lane 1332 Brummi tt Lane 1500 Kensington Dr ADOPTEES IDENTITY MOVEMENT
Weston, CT 06880 South Bend, IN 46615 Jackson, MI 49203 25 Estelle Dr
I Cheektowago, NY 14225

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PARENT FINDERS
ADOPTEES JOURNEY
Northridge Br
1408W 45th Av
6701 Covington Lane
Dayton,. OH 45414 Oallas, TX 75214 Vancouver, BC V6M 2H1
OHIO ADOPTION RIGHTS SOCIETY CONCERNED UNITED BIRTHPARENTS 28 PARENT FINDERS
1919 Walnut Hi1 1 Park Dr valley
P.O. Box 1527
Crescent
Columbus, OH 43216 Plano; TX 74074
W i l lowdale, Onhario M2P 1 ~ 7
THE FAMIL! TREE
P.O. Box 482 101 Wildwood Or
ENGLAND
Streetsburo, OH 44240 Texarkana, TX 75501
Doreen Peacock
ALMA CHAPTER
93 Rudston Av
P.O. Box 7263 3120 S.W. Freeway Suite 220 Wol viston Court Estate
S Arlington Station Houston, TX 77098 Bi 11 ingham, Clevel and, England
Akron, OH 44306 Mr. Cyril Day
General Register Officer
VIRGINIA
St Catheri nes House
10 Kingsway
ADOPTEES AND NATURAL PARENTS London, England, WCEB 6JP
ADULT AOOPTEES ORGAN-IZATION (ANPO)
P.O. Box 1762 3833 Abi ngdon Ci rcl e GERMANY
Tulsa, OK 74101 Norfolk, VA 13513
CHILDRENS SERVICE (SEARCH)
ADOPTEES AS ADULTS
Service Internationale De Rechedches
1515 Camden Way P.O. Box 25727
Richmond, VA 23260 Internatio~al
Suchdienst
Norman, OK 73069 0-3548-Arolsen-Germany
(Red Cross)
ADOPTEES AS ADULTS
8220 NW 114th WASHINGTON
Oklahoma City, OK 73132 MEXICO
TULSA ADOPTEES CONCERNED UNITED BIRTHPARENTS ALMA CHAPTER
4952 E 4th Pl 14011 Court1 and Place N C/O Rio Atovac 69-2
Tulsa, OK 74112 Seattle, WA 98133 Mexico City, Mexjco D-F
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The KEY to Open minds U Qamilies
by Dirck W. Brown
In adoption, the family has been the adoptee
and adoptive parents and this is no
longer the fact. In adoption, sealing
and secrecy have been the order of the day
and this is no longer the fact. The fact
is that e adoption fanlily has at least
four niernbers (single parent adoptions) and '.
usually five -- adoptee, birth mother,
birth father, adoptive niother, and the
adoptive father. All five persons are
,.
integral members of the same family for
they are intimately connected because of
and througt-I the adoptee. A1 1 five cannot
escape thei r connectedness as much as
adoption practj.ce and tradition has tried
to separate them. -
There is a change in attitude 'rqui red.
The new att'i tude di 11' require education.
The end result wi 11 be a healthy fa~nily
system a1 lowi RCJ for maturity , growth, and
honesty for a1 1 those fan~i ly members invol
ved .
We need a new terin or designation. The
"Adoption Family" is unique in our culture
for no other fanlily is so constructed and
no other family is so impeded in the usual
ways families. function. The Adoption
Family 1 ives with mystery and secrecy and
fear unlike other families -- even the
"divorced" family, the step-family, the
single family etc,
Betty Jean Lifton in LOST AND FOUND captures
the essence of the adoption family
in her notion of the "adoption game" of
rules which are best described by R.D.
Lai ng :
, "They are playing a galne. They are
playing at not playing a game. If I
! show the111 I see they are, I shall
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break the rules and they will punish
tile. I inust play their game, of
not seeing I see the game. I The concept of unity is critical to the
future of the adoption family. Historically,
the adoption family has been based
on fragmentation. Unity has been destroyed
through re1 inqui shment , the masking of true
identity , the lack of contact between birth
and adoptive parents. With the more general
"breakdown" or fragmenting of fami 1 ies in
our culture, there is a real opportunity to
put unity into practice by seeking to view
the adoption family and it's inter-connected
ness as 'the force of family unity. This
would be a move in the direction of health
wholeness which is the essence of unity.
All that adoption families do to establish
their relatedness (their unity) can actually
serve as a model for other families.
For example: Searching and Reunions are
important activities for any family as
they seek to get in touch with relatives
and genealogies. Moving from a life long
posture of secrecy to one of openness and
caring can provide a mode1 falllily posture
for non-adoption famil ies. The movelnent
of an adoption family from a life of
secrecy, deception, and 'cover up' to a
1 ife of openness, truthfulness, and candor,
and a11 the pain, effort and rewards thereto,
could be instructive to other kinds of
families torn with conflict, strife, divorce,
child abuse, skeletons, etc. or even
to the "ordinary" family.
Every fear or threat experienced by adoptees,
adoptive parents, birth parents,
social workers, pol icy makers etc. as we
move from a closed system to an open systelil
must be dealt with and taken seriously for
the process of real change requires such
an approach. There are some obvious princi
pl es i nvol ved -- there i s nothing dangerous
or subversive in an idea or in tlie
expression of opinion. For birth parents,
adoptees or adoptive parents to "grind

their axe" simply means that they are
sel ing programs and education projects.
afraid. They often fear 1 osing, something. "Uni ty-Trust-Understanding" has meariing
If Z say to you "I am afraid of the dark", within the niechanisms of the adoption
what would ycu say to me? Would you in- movement but that is reflective of the
struct me to stay afraid of the dark and Adoption Family which give the foundagive
me additional reason for my fear?
tion upon which we stand. In upcoming
Fear is a concept. The fear of dealing issues we will discuss those Adopt+on
with adoption penetrates our cul ture.
Family support systems, programs and
People fear unknowns. It takes time and projects.
patience for fear to be worked through.
The essence of unity is diversity and the
ability to tolerate ambiquity. In short, "TRUST IS A FOUR LETTER WORD"
unity is based on trust (not fear). Trust by JEAN DAVIDSON AF &D
is based on consistency (doing what you
say you will do). Consistency is based on .As we anticipate the first conference of
a sense of security that your ideas, feel- the American Adoption Congress, let us
ings and point of view will count and be remember first and foremost that we must
heard.
TRUST each other as we strive for UNITY
and UNDERSTANDING. Mi th TRUST we can
The process of education, the process of accomplish great things; without it we
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learning, the whole process is geared to shall qui ckly fa,i 1. Webster ' s spell s it
change. We have occurring in our midst 'IT-R-U-S-TI' ... let the AAC spell it
a change of attitude. To change one "L-O-V-E".
attitude to another is the same as a
change of valued. The tool of value
change is education and the result is a
new ethic.
A new ethic is that adoption family members
- CAN deal with truth. Tbby are strong
enough and will benefit from truth exper-
J'EgddiotZ.. 5
Y%diotZ.
iences. The truth never hurt anyone. ARIZONA - Individual case - Att. Ann
Haral ambi e, Uni v .. Prof. B1 dg.
Adoptive parents and birth parents - CAN
2207 N Campbe1 1 , Tucson, AZ
relate to one another with mutual benefit CALIFORNIA - Proposed by ~ruce Young
and comfort. Members of adoption Tam- A8 1426' March 1979. . Open Records.
i lies are probab?y 'tougher' emotionally CANADA, ONTARIO PROVINCE - Passed -
than "Ordinary" families. Adversity is a
Effective mid 1979 - Passive
wonderful teacher and every painful Regi stry .
event in one's life is a grist for one's CONNECTIGUT - Passed - Effective 1978.
mill.
Adoption has 11i storically been promoted
in our culture to meet the needs of the
weal thy, the privileged, and those with
Bi rthparents consent requi red.
COLORADO Law Suit ADOPTEES IN SEARCH
ILLINOIS Law Suit YESTERDAYS CHILDREN
MARYLAi4D Proposed Legislation.
MICHIGAN - Proposed Legisl ation.
influence. This needs to be acknowl ed- ' MINNESOTA - Passed - Effective 1977.
ged without embarrassment. \!hen it is, Birthparents consent required.
the a1 trui stic motives involved can then NEBRASKA - Proposed Legislation - LB 483
a1 so be acknowl edged.
Contact: Wm Nichols, 8th Flr,
State Capitol, Lincoln, NB
After the acknowledgement , the truth of
Head of Judicial Committee
unity beyond outward phisods can be Sponsors - David Newel 1.
accepted. tinderstanding can come with-
NEW MEXICO - Proposed Legislation.
out the need to defend positions. The
NEW YORIC - ALMA Class Action Suit
devel opment of programs to i nip1 ement SOUTH CAROLINA - Proposed - SB #1
this new understanding will be reflected
in community support systems, coun-
Heari ngs/Formulation
VIRGINIA -- Proposed Legislation.

9.(3m.
B o you q'ifiow 3
Match the identities below with the photos above
A. Dirck W. Brown
Founder PACER (Post
Adoption Center for
Education 81 Research)
B. Dr. Jerry L. Cunningham
Coordinator THE FAMILY
TREE - Texarkana, TX
C. Jean Paton
Founder ORPHAN VOYAGE
Presently semi -reti red
Di rector AAC Conference
Author "Orphan 'Voyage"
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D. Betty Jean Lifton
Author "Tw4 ce Born : f~leaioi rs
of an Adopted Daughter" &
"Lost and Found: The Adoption
Experi ence" .
E. Lee Campbell
Founder & President (CUB)
CONCERNED UNITED BIRTHPARENTS
HEW Panel on Adoption
F. Emma May Vilardi
Innovator & Registrar INTER- -
NATIONAL SOUNDEX REUNION
REGISTRY. Author "Handbook
for the Search.
G. Florence Fisher
fbunder & President
ALMA SOCIETY, INC.
Author "The Search
For Anna Fisher"
H. Joan Vanstone
Founder & President
PARENT F INDERS
Canada
Answers on. page 14

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I 1. "The Adoption
by Sorosky, Baran and Pannor.
DOWN
4. Guardian Li tern.
5. Look. 2. Search Conclusion
7. Affidavit used to inform agencies 3. father. Paternity not
and courts that anonymity is not
legally established.
desired.
4. Adoptees Liberty Movement Association.
8. Go-Between. 5. Law.
13. "0pen Minds, Records".
14. Search. Assistant.
16. Company that pub1 ishes city
di rectories .
17. dpposite of on.
18. CHS client.
20. Temporary care.
21. Identification (abbr. )
22. Under age.
23. Concerned United Birthparents.
25. Ameri can Ci vi 1 ~i bert ies .
26. hJorker.
28. Black Market.
30. Court of .
33. Agency common reply.
34, Three sides.
37. Agency function.
38. Pronoun.
39. Emma's middle name.
40. di rectories .
6. CUB T-shirt, "Bi rthparents
Forever".
9. Order finalizing adoption.
10. Surrender rights and .
11. Opposite of out.
12. Privacy.
15. Birth or parent.
18. Always In Me, New York. (abbr.)
19. ~bandoned Chi 1 d.
20. Group in Jacksonville, FLA.
24. ID
27. Place to petition,
28. Neuter.
29. Hi (opposite)
31. Close.
32. Mashi ngton Group.
35. Independent Placement (abbr. )
36. Father.
38. "Go for
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Booklets
HANDOOOK FOR THE SEARCH by Emnla
Vi 1 ardi . A' guide for the adoptee
in search. Research, po box 5'218'
Huntington Beach, CA 92646 $3.50
NATURAL PARENTS DOCUMENTAT ION
GUIDEBOOK by M3 Rillera. Out1 ine
of documentation and search for
bi rthparents.. Research, po box
5218, Huntington Beach, CA
92646 -$3.50
UNDERSTANDING THE BIRTHPARENT
. Edited by Lee Campbell. Twentyfive
birthmothers tell their
stories concisely and honestly.
CUB, po box 573, Mi1 ford, MA
01757 -$3.00.
WAIT UNTIL TOMORROW by Kathy
Wudel. Poetry and letters about
adoption. Adoptees Research Assoc
po box 304, Montrose, CA 91020.
-$7.00
Books
THE ADOPTION TRIANGLE by Sorosky,
Baran 81 Pannor. An indepth study
of the triad, search & reunions.
Anchor/Doubleday & C Inc. Dept
ZA 812, 501 Fran kl in Av , Garden
City, NY 11503 -$8.95
LOST AND FOUND : THE ADOPTION
EXPERIENCE by Betty Jean Lifton
A journey into Search and Reunion
concentrating "on those monients
of intense awareness when Adoptees
are tapping their pain. I Says a11 those things we know but
could never find the words for! !
Local Bookstores--ASK FOR IT or
The Di a1 Press, 1 Dag Ham~llars k jol d
Plaza, New York, NY 10017 -$9.95
WHY MAS I ADOPTED? by Carole
Li vi ngston. Chi 1 drens book that
is a step towards more openness:
iiACAC , 250 East Bl ai ne , Rivers i de
CA 92507 (754 shipping) -$8.?5
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But tons
"OPEN MINDS - OPEN RECORDS1'Button
Tri adoption Awareness Project, po
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92646 -$1 .oo
Bumper stickers
"ADOPTEES HAVE ROOTS AND RIGHTS"
Bumpersti ckers. Orphan Voyage,
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01 960 -$1 .OO
T-shirts
"BIRTHPARENTS CARE ... FOREVER"
T-shirts with CUB logo/yellow/
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po box 573, Milford, MA 01757
-$5.00
Newspapers
ADOPTION FORMAT AND DIGEST
Edited by Jean Davidson. A Eimonthly
baper that includes
info on all organizations and .
movement events, plus reprints
of important adoption 1 i terature.
PO Box 541, Exeter, CA.
93221 -$6.00
Answers to DO YOU KNOW THESE FACES?
1) C, 2) E, 3) F, 4) B, 5) :,,
6) D, 7) A, 8) H.
Crossworb PuzzZe Answers

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. LORD , We the American Adoption Congress are gathered here today
as seekers of truth, and for the establishment of justice.
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ENABLE US
, To penetrate the shadows of ignorance surrounding us, and
let your light reveal the path we should take.
PERMIT OUR., Mutual pain to become the bridge to a deeper social awakening,
and bring understan ding between all.
HELP US 5 To be unafraid to be1 ieve in ourselves and our goals, and
to feel the soul within this movement antgrant its freedom.
CAUTION US , The drop of ink fa1 1 ing 1 ike dew upon our thoughts will be
transformed into words, and that they should be words of
power and effectiveness.
SUSTAIN US , As searchers and gatherers of dreams, for we truely believe
those who seek are the finders of treasures and providers
of the heritage of man.
AND LORD
, If we lose our vision straying from the path we have chosen
and call out to you in need, let your answer come clearly,
"UN ITE AND FOLLOW ME. "
AMEN.
Prayer offered at AAC prayer breakfast Saturday, May
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1979 by Emma May Vilardi.

sh $-: May 4 - 7, 1979 marked the
beginning of a new era in the Adol,tion Movement.
Nearly 200, leaders and representatives gathered
in Washington, D .C. with the declared purpose of
establishing "Unity, Understanding, Trust" that
could stretch across the continents, the differences
of method and opinion, and form a stronger
and acknowledged - bond. This issue of OPTIONS
presents an overview of those special days in our
nations capitol.
There iias been alot of talk
about the "welfare of the
child", the "right of privacy",
tile "primacy of family", and
the "primary client". All of
these terms indicate that one
person is more important than
another. We must a1 ways remember
that each member of the immediate
adoption triad (birthparent,
adoptee, adopter) is
EQUALLY SIGN1 FICANT! We should
focus on our equality and corresponding rights as an
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TRIAD
opriis
AWARENESS PROJECT Magazine
Editor - Mary Jo ~i 11 era
Associate - Nancy Palmer
Secretary - Lynne Kal ker
Vice-Pres. - Helen Leech
CONTRIBUTORS: Emma May Vilardi
Gail Hanssen
Bonnie Frank
Jay Sweari ngen,
Joan Vanstone
Eddie Rizk
PHOTOS: Courtesy of Dirck Brown
Eonnie Frank and -R.i.chard
Koehler (Daily Pilot),
'SPECIAL THANKS TO: Nancy Schmi d t ,
Virginia Rader and the 190 person
who participated in the 1979 AAC
extended family. AS adoptive parents 6egi ii to see International Conference.
that they too have suffered loss, they too are being
contro1ed;~y will tap into anger at aystem that
PRI NTED by FANTASTIC
restricts them. and does not really respect them as the
reviewed, court approved., agency endorsed ci ti zens and
parents they were 1 ed to be1 ieve they were. An adoptive
parent returning to the agency for specific and
complete information on the Girth background of thei r
child will be given the same excuses that adoptees and
birthparents are given. It will not matter that their
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reasons are good, o r that they are responding respon- Annette 'Baran , LCSW. - Cal i forni a
sibly to the needs of their child. What begins to mat- Dirck W. Brown, PhD. - California
ter is the agency, the state, the system. Slowly adop- Linda Cannon Burgess, MSW. -
tive parents are beginning to feel the frustration of Washington, D. C.
closed minds and records. It is difficult for all of us Lee Campbell - Massachusetts
to shed tile survival mechanisms and defenses devel oped; Donna cull om - Illinois
to cope with the pain of infertility, surrender or sev- Jeanette Kamen - Minnesota
erence. It is stifling to fear other human beings. But David Kirk, PhO. - Canada
it is healing to set aside limitations, to grieve over Betty Jean Lifton - New York
our losses, to reassume responsibility and control over Edward J. Rizk - Washington
our own lives and relationships and to make our own in- Audrey Sedita - Ca1 ifornia
formed choices. Me have more than a right, we have a Joan Vanstone - Canada
duty to demand agencies, states and courts respond to Emma May Vilardi - Nevada
the community needs or that there be a moratorium on
ALL adoption until it fits humane quidelines. It must -
go beyond just supplying homes forUthe homeless, it
TriadOPTIONS Magazine is distriouted to
must now supply health and healing to all those it
Triadoption Library contributors.
touches. There are so many good people in the world and $15 FRIEE~O, S ~ O FAMILY, $100 SPOPISOR
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reach out to each other we will find our unity more
comforting than our. separation. Have happy ..- anb pea cefu1
I101 idays. May God Bless you all
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BILL of RIGHTS
by Gail Hanssen
A Proposed Resolution
for the AMERICAN ADOPTION CONGRESS
An ADOPTION BILL OF RIGfITS
WHEREAS adoption is not intended as a punishment, specifically to birthparents
or adoptees, for any action or inaction on their part; nor is it intended
a s a reward, specifically to adoptive parents, for any action or inaction
on their part; and
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WHEREAS adoption is not a single act isolated in time for any of its
parties, but ratlier a life-long process with profound and far-reaching effects
on each of its parties; and
WHEREAS the partiea to adoption are free citizens, guaranteed by the
Constitution of the United States of America, the right to life, liberty and
the pursuit of happiness, and, notwithstanding the special nature of their
relationship, are entitled by the 14th Amenbent of the Constitution to equal
protection under the law among other citizens, and are capable of invoking the
protection of the law and adequately protected by it as are other citizens; and
WHEREAS the Constitution of the United States of America, through the 13th
Amwdment, prohibits the keeping of any citizen in chattel status; and
Adoption
WEREAS adoption as an institution does not exist to perpetuate jobs for
well-meaning professionals, nor guarantee income to private or public agencies,
nor to provide a resource for heredity vs. environment studies, nor to serve
any individual or group other than the, principals invozved; and
WHEREAS adoption is intended as a loving, giving and humane means for
parents to insure a permanent, secure and loving family for children.they,
themselves, cannot continue to parent, and as a loving, giving and satisfying
means for people to build families without giving birth;
BE IT THEREFORE RESOLVED that adoption law and practice shall be rescinded
and/or revised to adequately reflect the 'foregoing statements; to reinstate and
affirm the constitutional rights of all parties to adoption; to reflect the emancipation
of a11 adoption-related adults; to reflect the needs of the immediate
principals to the adoption, and not those whose relation~hip is merely tangential,
or non-existent ;
TO WIT:
Adopted adults shall have the same access to records kept about them as
any other citizen, specifically original birth records, court and agency
records of adoption, on request.
Birthparents and adoptive parents shall have equal access to these
records when the adoptee reaches majority.
Birthparents shall have accurate and on-going information about
their birthchild's health, well-being and other non-identifying information
pertaining to the child's interests and development during the child's
minority years.
Adoptees shall have access to information in kind regarding their
birthparenta, at any time, on request.
Updated medical information shall be transmitted from one party to
the others without question or delay.
The nature of the relationship between birth and adoptive families
shall be determined by them alone, and this relationship need not be
limited to what is traditionally practiced in adoption. Parties to adoption
shall be encouraged to recognize the value of openness and honesty in adoption,
and shall be urged to ascribe to these values to the extent that they are
comfortable in doing so.
The rights of any one party herein stated may not be abrogated or
denied by any other citizen, party to the adoption, or external to it.

A partial registration list indicated that persons came from 32 states. the
District of Columbia. Canada and Mexico . Representing 8 Eastern States. 9
Midwestern States; 9 Southern States. 6 Western States and 3 Provinces of
Canada . Thi rty-two organizations were represented .
Canada ......... 8
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D.C ............ 6
Arizona ........ 2
Mexi co 1
Arkansas ....... 3
California 6
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Connecticut .... 1
Colorado ....... 2
Fl ori da ........ 4
Georgi a ........ 1
Illinois ...... 17
Indiana ........ 2
Kansas ......... 2
Kentucky ...... 2
Louisana ....... 1
Maine .......... 2
Massachusetts . 10
Maryland ...... 13
Michigan 7
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Minnesota ...... 4
Missouri ....... 2
Nebraska ....... 1
Nevada ......... 1
New Jersey ..... 8
New Mexi co ..... 2
New York ...... 17
North Carol ina.2
Ohio ........... 2
Oklahoma ....... 3
Pennsylvania .. 13
South Carol ina . 1
Texas .......... 1
Virginia ....... 7
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Wisconsin 1
Washington .... 13'
Adoptees As Adults .............................. 3
Adoptees Together ............................... 2
Adoptees and Natural Parents Organization ....... 5
Adopteels In Search (MD) ........................ 3
Adoptee's In Search (CO) ........................ 2 .
Adoptee's Rights of Connecticut ................. 1
.......... Adoption Identity Movement of Michigan 5
Adoption Forum of Phil adel phia ................. 16
Adoption Research Counci 1 ....................... 6
Adoption Study Project .......................... 1
Adoption Research Project ....................... 1
Adoptive Parents For Open Records ............... 1
ALMA Society ................................... 28
Concerned United Birthparents .................. 39
FACS ............................................ 1
The Family Tree ................................. 1
Liberal Education for Adoptive Fami1 ies ......... 3
Operation Identity .............................. 3
Orphan Voyage ................................... 25
Oregon Adoptive Rights Association .............. 1
PACER ........................................... 1
PAL ............................................. 3
Lifeline ........................................ 2
Parent Finders .................................. 5
Parents and Adoptees Together ................... 1
Search for Tomorrow ............................. 1
Soundex ......................................... 1
Triad ........................................... 5
Triadoption Library ............................. 2
Truth Seekers ................................... 1
Washington Adoptee's Rights Movement ........... 13
Yesterday's Children ........................... 28
42 registrants indicated membership in more that one
organization . 32 did not indicate affiliation .

I
GREW YEARS IN ONLY DAYS-
-
After the first national meeting of
the American Adoption Congress, I was
enthused over the wonderful things that
are happening throughout the country.
Becoming aware of the strength across
the nation, meeting those who are making
news in various areas, and sharing my
long-felt ideas about how things ought
to be, was a fantastic experience.
Many of us had similar feelings an d
reactions. Some were very emotional,
but emotions were acceptable, On two
occasions, I was aware of men crying as
they tried to convey the meanings of
laws which had affected their emotional
health by treating them as less than a
person. In one situation when I suggested
we move to another, lighter subject,
one man became angry saying "No, you
need to hear what I've got to say even
if it hurts". There were also a few
women bitter at the injustice given to
them by society at a time when they were
vulnerable, Others were obviously we1 1 -
adjusted and many were in excellent
control of emotions which run so deep in
the lives of those affected by adoption.
It was group therapy on a national scale.
But the concern had gone beyond their own
personal health to that of the future
generations so that a11 might become
total persons.
These people had gone through their
stages of grief about lifetime losses
and were now dealing at the level of
acceptance. They appeared to be going
on with all the advantages that adoption
can offer members of the triad. When
enough people have grown the way these
1 eaders have, the adoption movement
will be broad based, as we11 as, heal thy.
There is great strength in the movement
because it represents the heal thy
members of the triad. It was at the AAC
where I grew years in only days. Here is
where a newly awakened member of the
triad can be understood, really share
feelings about how adoption should work,
and know that they are normal. An organization
with this many committed people,
working together to raise human dignity
with the intensity that this group is,
must certainly have an effect on the
world. Everyone there was deeply and
personally involved. The deep intensity
of their involvement was in Adoption
Reform,
Adoptees have spoken of their 'need
to know' and .some of society has begun
to listen. Birthparents have been among
the earliest to 1 isten and their organ
ization is growing rapidly. Adoptive
parents are also beginning to hear the
words of their children. Adoptive parents
have found it particularly difficult
because of perceptive 1 i steni ng whi ch
causes people to hear only what they are
tuned-in to hear. Adoption parents who
have spent years living with the attitude
that they replaced birthparents in every
capacity, cannot easily hear of replacing
them in terms of parenting but not in
terms of birthing and genetics. Hopefully,
adoptive parents of the future will take
their heads out of the sand about parenting
without birthing, and feel secure
about the truth.
I see in the future a birth certificate
and an adoption certificate. Both written
honest1 v without anyone trying to be someone
th& are not or someone trying not to
be who they are. An adoptee will not live
in genealogical bewi1 derment or be caught
in a lifetime of diminished self-knowledge.
I see the future leaving blind adoption
as a thing of the past, Adoptive parents
searching with their children but not for
them, and accepting the 'need to know'
rather than viewing it as a parenthood
failure. Many adoption will be made with
full know1 edge between adoptive and bi rth
parents prior to court finalization.
Adoption will be seen as a way to increase
the size of extended fanlilies and provide
chi1 dren to nuclear families. Birthfamily
contact will be encouraged as it fits into
the adoptees growth. Confidentiality wi 11

e provided only by positive acti'on out of
absolute necessity for the welfare of
those involved.
We need statistics showing how many
bi rthparents were tal ked into surrender
for the 'we1 fare of the chi 1 dl. We need
research on the' results of bi rthparent
Contact. And studies on what professionals
are doing to continue the 'welfare' of
the adoptee. I would 1 i ke to see more
professionals attending AAC gatherings to
learn more about the pain of surrender,
the healing of reality and to understand
that there is a difference between children
adopted and children birthed AND that difference
is good!
Q 1,979 Bonnie Frank, B.S., R.N. She is
director and co-founder of Adoptive Parents
For Open Records and Western AAC 1980 Conference
Coordinator. Bonnie is both an
adoptive mother and a bi rthrnother.
NATURE BRINGS US TOGETHER
Here I was, a guest at a great' convocation
of whales. I knew I would never see this
again. I stayed with the whales all day,
and watched them herd salmon, fight, nurse
their young and mate. At the .end of the
day, when the water became flat and the
sun red, I was treated to a spectac;le of
nature I wi 11 never forget. The whales
started jumping out of the water, first
one anui then another, then a dozen, then a
score. Walking on their tails, flopping
on their backs, rolling, splashing.and
showing off for each other. They were
cel ebrating!
Later, art the University, I learned that
I had attended the annual rendevouz of the
ki ller whales. No. one knows why the come
together, and I suppose it doesn't matterthey
do it.
Gle humans need to come -together too. Perhaps
we need to reaffirm that there are
others just like us. But being human we
are driven to construct some purpose,
some goal for our rendevouz, so we make
speeches, have workshops, and promise to
try harder next year.. . . .and in the morning
we are gone.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that we
came together because we needed to and
while all the hard work, onganibzing and
resoltuions will eventually bear fruit
and allow us to be more effective, the
most important thing is done. We came
together. We gathered strength from each
other, reaffirmed the justness of our
cause, made friends, put aside our fears
and shared our experience. But 1 i ke the
whales, we return to our small groups
and work each day in our own way.
When I returned from Washington, D.C. I
took a week to cruise and fish the San
Juan Islands, which are north of Seattle
'
and border on Canada. At sunrise on the
4th day I saw a half dozen black fins
I coming towards me. Killer whales are
usually friendly but they spoil the salmon
fishing. So, I started my engines
. Eddie Rizk was 1978-79 Western Regional
AAC Director, is on the doard of Directors
and prepared to leave. Then I real ized of WARM in Seattle, Washington, and the
that there were more than just a half- Advisory Council of Triadoption Library.
He is president of CardioKinetics.
dozen whales, there were perhaps hundreds!
Bulls, cows and calves, their black fins
higher than my gunwater. For a few moments
I was seized by fear. My sturdy
boat seemed suddenly frail. You see,
I
killer whales usually travel in small
I herds or 'pods' and the largest pod ever unite"
reported in this area had only 45 animals.
I
"One must be able both to separate and
I Ching

Attorney Bert Hirsch talks on ECONOMICS OF
ADOPTION with chairperson Rae Johnson, AAC
Southern Coordinator; Ann Frisol i , CUB; Ann
Schecter, Adoptdon Forum; Di rck Brown, PACER;
and Barry Reiman , Browndal e Movement.
Both morning and afternoon sessions
included reoeats of the 3 hour SEARCH
TRAINING SEMINARS run by Mary ~ o e r a ,
Emna V i lardi , ISRR; and Helen Leech,
Triadoption Library.

of the Model Adoption Legislation and Proceedings
Department of Health, Education and We1 fare thought
: Conference and the movement so important that out
17 panel members only two attended the discussion.
our own Lee Campbell, and the other Kenneth Watson.
Washingtons Press covered the events
and interviewed leaders. Here tv
news films acting MC president ,. Nancy
Schmidt as Ruth Jason, Mexico; Pam
Be1 1 , New Mexico, and Lee Campbell
look on.
Each region had a 'caucus to appoint
bylaws committees and review the
many organizational problems. Here
the Western Region struggles.
Eastern Region Director Sharon
Forbes scratches her head trying
to figure it all out.
Ruth Jason, Mexico spoke up.
. . Others contemplated.
.
*

Jean Paton's "Wine & Cheese" party
closed the final day. The attention
here
~~ - is ~- on - a WARM reD who turned out
Elma May and Mildred Szakacsi pause to
to be the adoptive aunt of Patty
pose while they squeeze in alittle site- O'Gorman 's, LEAF, (center) surrenderseeing
in our nations capitol.
ed twins. ..Isn't the world small?
Susan Darke, OV New England;
Gail Hanssen, CUB; Emma Vilardi
and Ann Fri sol i , CUB share food
and thoughts.
Reunited mother and daughter
from Washington state attended
the banquet in matching
dresses. Thei r happiness does
show just ali ttle:
Movement mother Jean Paton
was honored at the banquet
Bonnie Frank, Moptive Parents for Open
Records ; Lee Campbell , CUB President;
Helen Leech and natural daughter Mary Jo
Ril lera, both Triadoption Library; (left
to right) enjoy the buffet for birth-
Darents hosted bv Vi roinia Rader and
husband Ned Bal lkngee:
Confe
Schmi
!rice Coordinator, Nancy
thanks God it is over.
i

PURPOSE '
. . ,
REUNION RESEARCH REPORT OF PARENT FINDERS
. .i
, . In these rew~ions, both parties have taken an active part in voluntar-:.,.,;
. .
NOVEMBER 1, 1979 . . . . ily entering their birth information in the Registry. ihis is quantiti"e . .
. . .
infdnation only. The qua1 i tative 'results of these reunions are
. .
.. .
. .
included in Section 4 above.
The purpose of this report is to present the resultsof reunion work. 7 Males reunited with 5 Birth' Mothers
carried on by. the Parent Finders Organization in Canada overthe past . . .
. 1 Birth Father
/
1 Birth Brother
five years. It is felt that' this in'formation will 'be useful'in.many
. . . . 3 Birth Sisters
. .
areas 'of the academic, social 'and governmental 'sectors, of our'society.
. .
. .
23 Females reunited with ' . . : 21 BirthMothen
TO our knowledge,this is the first report of its kind to be pub1 ished . . . .
. .
: 0 Birth. Fathers
..
in Canada.
5 Birth Brothers
3 Birth Sisters
EUNIONS BY ACTIVE ADOPTEES
:n order to complete this report, we have. includedin these figures 'the
results of reunions which came about through the . Reunion
. Registry.
liOPTEE - FOUND .
-
GOOD
.
-- FA1 R - POOR UNKNOWN'.
Birth Mother ; 82 58 :. .9
MALE
Birth Father ' 10 7 ' 1 . 0.. . . , 2 . .
108 Birth Sister ,'
27 . '24 1 0 ..
2
Birth Brother - 24. - - 20" . . .l , 0..
. . .
. . . A total of 69,people 'found reunion with one or more birth relatives.
. . . . . . .
In 6 of the.:above cases, the adopting parents initiated the . . entry in ' .
the Reunion Register on behalf of their adoptees, 2 sons and 4 daughters. i
6 . . 9 . .; 'SEARCHES FINDING BIRTH PARENT DECEASED.
, . . .
. ,., ,.
. . , .
.In most cases, the completion of a search is a joyful' and fulfillin
' . . . 3. . moment for an ado~tee. However. for 11 males and 43 females, the
. . . . ,
.. .
.
. .
opportunity for a personal reunion was denied by the prior death of
253 ': 36: , . 25 . . . . 59 , the party they sought to meet. While never having known the birth'
EMALE
. 5. ' 7 ,
429 1 3 . . parent, the sense of loss and bereavement was strong in most cases.
2 . . . . . 5
. . .. .. . Many of these adoptees were wannly accepted by surviving birth rela-. '
. . ,
. ..
7 . . . . . .
. ... ... .. . .
. .. . .
. .
,. .
tives and'were able to obtain photographs and descriptions of the
. . .,. . . . ... . , . . . .
.
. . .
. . . '.. . .
. . : . Birth' . :~irth, ' . ' Birth ' ,. . . : .Birth'. , " birthparents. They received confirmation of many of .their own
. ' . .
'otal Adoptees ".. 1
:
'Mothers Fathers Sisters , .,. .Brother% characteristics and genetic medical history. Therefore, their over
. .
. .
537 455 .. . ,"/ 5 1 . . . , 106' , . . . . 91. . . ' search and the information obtained satisfied much of their. need to
. . . .
, . . . . ... . .
.
. .
. .
: .a'.
Subtract unknowns
. . .
68 . : 9 ,::. .
.
. 5 . . .
..
. .
. 387 . .' 42 ', . :. . 10.1 ' . 83 . ,
know about the birth family and reinforced their own identity.
11 male adoptees found 11 birth mothers, 4 birth fathers. and 1 birth
?ercentage - GOOD 80.4]92% 8383)88. 1% 92.?)97.6~ sister dead. . .
FA1 R 11.6 4.8 4.8
POOR ' . 8.0. 11.9 1.0 2.4
43 female adoptees found 38 birth mothers., 10 birth fathers and 2 b
brothers dead.
:It should be noted that the Active Adoptees are 80% Female and 20Male.)
'rle have previously mentioned two searches by birth mthen which ended
leunions with Birth Parents 902 Favourable 10% Unfavourable
in finding 2 daughters dead.
?eunians with Birth Sib1 ings 98.3% Favourable 1.7% Unfavourabl e
...........................................................................
!ale Reunions with Birth Parents 92.6% Favourable 7.4% Unfavourable
1 wale Reunions with Birth Siblings 100.0"davourable 0.0% Unfavourable
I
/ %ma1 e Reunions with Birth Parents 91.4% Favourable 8.6% Unfavourable
j Female Reunions with Birth Siblings 97.8% Favourable 2.2% Unfavourable
IElINlONS BY ACTIVE BIRTH PARENTS
This study contains 34 cases of reunions in which the birth parent was
*e active searcher. In most cases, the search was only successful
aecause the birth parent had arranged for a private adoption and,
sherefore, knew the adoptive name.
3irth Parent Female Offspring Male Offsprinq
---
Good Fair Poor Unknown
---
Good Fair Poor Unknown
Fathers - 2 2 0 0 0 0 0 0 0
- - - - - - - -
Yothers - 32 15 1 1 0 14 0 1 4
Total 34 17 1 1 0 14 C 1 4
........................................................................
Through their own efforts, 34 birth parents have been able to find 38
offspring, of which 32 (94%) were favourable and 2 (6%) were unfavour-
able. The quality of the other 4 cases is unknown. Not included above
are two cases where the birth mothers found their female offspring (or
daugh t en) to have died.
SUMARY
After the reunion results were tabulated and the percentage computed, we
were astounded at the high percentage of favourable reunions which have
iesul ted in positive reunion experiences for adoptees. It is reasonable
to assume that after the initial excitement has abated, there might be
I
some shifting downward in the overall assessment of the reunion. However1
LL_ .>-_L___I_.-J &_ I _ - L L L . - .A L 1- - - ... ,
cne aaopcees neea LO unow nas oeen sacis~iea, great ouroens or gul tr: nau
been removed from birth mothers about the initial relinquishment and
adopting parents have found that when their adoptee was reunited with th
birth family, they experienced no loss of love and their family unit
remained secure.
In many cases, adoptees stated that they felt an even
deeper feeling of love and appreciation of their adopted family upbring-
ing after the reunion.
Prepared by:
Mrs. Joan E. Vanstone
National Dl rector
Parent Finders
1408 West 45th Avenue
Vancouver, B. C.
Canada ' V6M 2H1
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.:
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1. In Arizona law Custody - is:
"Physical of
the child. 51
2. International Soundex
Reunion Registry. (Abrv)
3. Period of youth.
5. Mothers of Minors(abrv)
6. Parenting
7. Raising parents
10. Statute
12. 'Hal f re1 ated by marriage
15. Sexual intercourse with a
relative. '
New Mexi co group:
Identity.
Born
Oregon Adopti on Ri ghts
Assoc. (abrv)
State foster home.
I1 1 egi timate person
Umbrella Organization
Concerned United Birthparents.
Fami 1 y
37. Male offspring.
39. Frequent response to a
request for original bc.
40, #39 Down.
ACROSS
1. "Grey Market Adoption"
4. To set free of parental
control.
8. Log of births.
9. Scream.
11. Calif. Law: "good and
compel1 ing cause
approaching the
I I
13. Model Adoption
tion Panel under Dept.
of . (abrv)
14. Take 1 egal action.
16. Waif
18. adoption.
20. m e r i c a n Counci 1 of
Adoptable Chi 1 dren.
21. Emotional expression of
1 OSS,
22. Liberal Education to
Adoptive Families.
24. Not expressed.
25. Sister or brother.
28. Book by George
N. Allen
29. Always adopted
- . (myth)
31. Social workers
1 oad.
32. Establish fatherhood.
34. American Adopti an
Congress.
35. Adoptees In
Search. (abrv)
36. Children are sometimes
lost in the
rather
than be placed in
permanent homes.
38. Tieing together.
41. Single.

NEED WE SAY MORE?
G+.GIRCm.: .COURT.,judge, pled ,Mdak:.jhat
Catholic. Charft$s-used ''Wd
,to' persuade.. ap: unmarriqj
north.. suburbax ..womarx td. . pub; her:&'
monkXkld.
.-...
son:~,foccadaptioa.~;1971.:'::,
Catholic ,#arities maintain&
"silence' about the counseling of Miss
'hlales; , amifted Mestroymg m e
rpords: ailowed her to see S e m
twice during the. six weeks it ha cus +
-hP
dy of the child;. gave legal. advice to
Miss Polales, which only an attorney
can do; and let the father sim an illegd
fp~mpermitting the adopKon. .
...
I9
you
%A &nfi.> /o/w/~&
LOS ANGELES (AP) - A woman who was
told her newhorn baby was dead - and was
shown a stillhrn fetus as proof - is suing
,thrw doctors and Kaiser Foundation Hospitti1
for $24 million, alleging fraud, deceit and
negliga~ce.
. Mary Childs testified Monday that 'at first
4he couldn't believe what the nurse was
,telling her after tlw 1974 birth. It took Mrs.
Childs eight months to learn the nurse had
stolen her baby.
"That can't be true. It's just not right. It
can't be dead," the 41-year-old Duarte
woman recalled saying.
Her daughter, Chrbty Anne. was Found in
May. 1975 L the apartment of registered
nurse Norma Armistead when police arrived
to arrest the nurse in a separate case.
Mrs. Armlstead was sentenced lo life in
prison in 1976 for the May If, 1975. slaying of
~ Kathryn Viramontes, 28, who was pregnant.
~ Police said the nurse slit Mrs. Viramontes'
throat and then cut the baby from the dead
woman's body..
PSYCHIATRIC experts prob
ing the mind of Kenneth Bian-
I chi. the man accused of beine
I
'the'~illside stra" lerl"fICINl
%arents, was adopted
never knew
by Nicholas
his real
and Frances Bianchi of Rochester,
New York. His ado~tive father.
died when h e m . - -1
STOW. Ohio ( AP) - charged after he applied re- charges that ne shot and
David C. Hume. a Vietnam cently for a job as an Ohio killed his mother. hme,
veteran and recipient of the . Highway Patrol officer. A
--.--
who had told investigators
Bronze Star. has been routine employment check
-
that he was adapted and
charged with killing his turned up allegations that was abused bv his mother.
mother. whose death 14 he had kil!ed his mother, was ordered held without
years ago was originally authorities sa~d. bond by Judge Williarn
ruled a suicide. H ume plesded innocent Ktinnel.
Hume, 29, of Stow, was Monday to juvenile court Officials had nied in 1965
-.
Agency. threatened with . charges
in refwb,g adoption to fat couples
-
United Press btehational
MADISON, Wis. - A
state agency was threatened
Friday with
charges of criminal misconduct
if it fails to end
its policy of reiusilig to
allow fat people to adopt'
cbildrcn.
Second, contact an adoption agency. There
aren't many rules anymore. You just have to be
'stable, at least 21, and have a steady kcome.
You don't have to be young, childless, married or
rich. You don't have to own your home.
New York State Uoarn 01 Sonal WeWm
NPH. York State i)eprtment of Said Smnlre?:

I WOULD HAVE SEARCHED FOREVER by
Sandra Kay Musser. The first book
"ADOPTEES HAVE ROOTS AND RIGHTS"
Gumpersti ckers . Orphan Voyage,
94 Franklin St, Peabody, MA
by a birthparent about her own
experience wi tti re1 inqui shment
and search. Jan Enterprises, e
Box 268, Bala Cynwyd, PA 19004.
"BIRTHPARENTS CARE ...
T-shirts with CUB logo/yel low/
ADOPTED? A CANADIAN GUIDE FOR
mens sizes small -nledi um-1 arge. CUB
ADOPTED ADULTS IN SEARCH OF THEIR po box 573, Milford, MA 01757
ORIGINS. by Clare Marcus. A resource
book living up to its title.
WARM w/locked adoption files. Blue
International Se1 f-Counsel Press,
(~,M,L,~L). WARM 305 S 443rd St,
Ltd. 306 W 25th St, N. Vancouver, Renton, WA 98055
BC, Canada V7N 261
THE ART OF ADOPTION by Linda
Cannon Burgess. A social workers
look at the 900 adoption she was
responsible for and the effect
HANDBOOK FOR THE SEARCH by Emnla
Vi 1 ardi . A' guide for the adoptee
in search. Research, po box 5'218
Huntington Beach, CA 92646 $3.50
NATURAL PARENTS DOCUMENTATION
THE ADOPTED BREAK SILENCE by Jean
GUIDEBOOK by MJ Rillera. Out1 ine
of documentation and search for
Paton. Forty men and women descri
be thei r search for natural
bi rthparents.. Research, po box
parents. Orphan Voyage, Cedaredge I
Colorado 81413
UNDERSTANDING THE BIRTHPARENT
LOST AND FOUND: THE ADOPTION
Edited by Lee Campbell. Twenty-
EXPERIENCE by Betty Jean Lifton.
five bi rthmothers tell their
The best yet! look into those who
stories concisely and honestly.
experience adoption, search and CUB, po box 573, idilford, MA
reunion. Di a1 Press, 1 Dag Hammarskjold
Plaza, NY 10017
THE ADOPTION TRIANGLE by Sorosky,
Baran & Pannor. An indepth study
of the triad, search & rewions.
Anchor/Doubleday , 245 Park Av. ,
NYC, NY 10017 Paperback! $3.95.
BIRTHMARK by Lorraine Dusky. A
birthmothers moving honest story.
M. Evans & Co., 216 E 49th St.,
"OPEN MIND: - OPEN RECORDS1'Button
Tri adoption Awareness Project, po
Box 5218, Huntington Beach, CA
BASTARDS ARE BEAUTIFUL - Orphan
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e
Adoption is the then1 for the entire sumnler It is difficult, however, to be tolerant with
issue of PUBLIC WELFARE magazine. lt carries those who still adhere to the philosophy that
articles of wi de-rangi ng interest to anyone adoptees who search to "resolve problems of idwhose
life is touched in any way by the legal , entity; to assuage feelings of rejection" exhibit
moral and sensitive issues associated with the "symptoms of obvious emotional disturbance. "8 It
adoption process. Lawyers, judges, social
is a threat to adoptees that professional counselworkers,
operators of chi 1 dren ' s homes, obste- ors currently accept attitudes of several decades
tricians, family physicians, psychiatrists, ago. Is it asking too much that all professionals
psychologists, court clerks, hospital workers, should be able to place adoptees' identity and
ministers, priests and lay counsellors should rejection feelings in their relative place? It is
find new insights to Letter understand members true that fixation with any subject can be the
of the adoption triangle* who are so emotion- cause of mental .disorder. The author suggests that
al 1 y involved and personally affected by the only adoptees who search and have those feelings
burning questions relating to their own status exhibit symptoms of emotional disturbance; apparas
a triangle member.
ently adoptees who do not search but have these
As human nature is wont to be, trialigie
feelings lack them, at least in his view.
members are most likely to support or reject
expressed views in the articles according to
Persistent feelings of rejection and
which point of the triangle the reader repre-
alienation have been documented even in
sents. Acknowlec'ging this bias one should
the most-loved adopted children . . . -
still not be blinded by logical arguments "If your relationship with your adopted
supporting views contrary to those of the
chi 1 d is a happy. and secure one, lie ui 1-1.
reader. ,Compel 1 i ng cogent rationale is de-
not neet or want to search for his first
veloped in several articles. For example
parents. He wi 11 know that you are his
(and contrary to many adoptees own viewpoint), - real, parents".
!
many adoptive parents feel "outraged, incensed,
This 1 ine has been contradicted by
and betrayed"2 about adoptee searches and be- many adoptees, who insist that it is
lieve that these searches are already changing their civil right to have access to
adoption to permanent foster care.3 Whi 1 e
information about origins. 9
adoptees acknowledge misgivings by adoptive There is indeed a fine line between those who search
parents, the depths to which these feelings and those who do not. And it is yet to be shown .that
run is made abundantly clear in the magazine.
by crossing the search/non-search 1 ine proves obses-
Birthparents, on the other hand, must be rightsion
to the point of emotional disturbance. Suppress
eously livid at one author's definition of the ed desires to search because of compassion for
adoption triad as including "adoptive parents,
adoptive parents could also lead to emotional disadoptee
and agencyU4, which must be like owning
turbance, but the author disregards this most obviou
your own tennis court and your guests choose to
correlation. Not knowing one's orgins and all that
exclude you from play. Adoptive parents are unknowledge
encompasses is indeed stressful :
1 i kely to a &nowledge that birthparents of the
triangle who have 1 ater become adoptive parents
Our findings would tend to validate the
themselves have the same firsthand unck rstandin
impressions garnered from the literature
of the adoptive parents' role as an adoptive
review that adoptees are more vulnerable
parent who has never relinquished a child.5
than the population at large to the develop-
While there are similarties, and perhaps the
ment of identity problems in late adolescence
author intended no more than that, the distincand
young adulthood because of the greater
tion is remarkable.
1 i kel i hood of encountering difficulties
On the other hand, some articles contained
in the working through of the psychosexual,
blatant distortion of facts, reasoning on basic
psychosocial , and psychohis~grical aspects
issues warped by col 1 ateral considerations and
of personal i ty devel opmnt .
chain of logic - misdirected by preconceived
Ideas.
One be if at least The relationship of the search versus concern for
forgiving of a writer whose agency appears to
adoptive parents1 feel ings is expressed in this
be threatened by economi c 1 oss shoul d adoption
account :
laws be chanqed, - - or fearful that the aqency's
continuing power and knowledge of adoptees- is
diminished as adoptees "bypass agenciesM6
during their search. Regarding the latter point
many adoptees would hasten to add that this was
a direct resul t of the agencies' refusal to even
be considerate of adoptee searchers, let alone
helpful, even in states where agencies are not
legally bound to withhold information. Advice
given several years ago still goes unheerdetl by
many agencies :
Adoption agencies have contributed
to the confusion by assuming the role
of protector, in which capacity they
have become watchment and censors of
the truth. The results have often been
negative, large1 y because the information
given out by adoption agencies has
been recognized as shadowy, unreal, and
therefore, unsatisfying to the adoptee.
Withheld data does not protect adoptees,
but instead gives them the feeling that
full information would reveal "ahful
truths." ..... The time has come for
adoption agencies to establish programs
I
and to set up procedures to meet these
challenges. The agency should begin by
accepting the adult adoptee as a full
client. who has the riqht to complete
I
information and to the cooperation of
the agency .Pf
I think it is the most natural and
desirable aspect of any adolescent or
young adult person to have curiosity about
his forbears, about his biological heri tage
and the sequence of his generational connectedness.
I would consider this the most normal,
indeed desireable, kind of curiosity . . .
I think that continued secrecy about the information
concerning one's natural parents
poisons the relationship between the adoptive
parents and the adopted person. What it does
is build an aura of guilt and conflict over
that very natural, heal thy, at. inevitable
curiosity. ... That is why the quest of the
adopted ?erson for informati n is so painful
and so fused with guilt. ? 1
It i s just not possible to cite the many authorities
who so characterize the adoptee's search.
It may be convenient for a psychologist to quantify
the adoptee's action to intiate a search as
prima facia evidence of an emotional disturbance
symptom, but so would characterization of a lot
of other human actions make for simplified treatment--IF
IT WERE TRUE. Does an adoptive parent's
genuine fear of his or her children's search for
birthparents qua1 i fy as symptom of mental disorder?
It would be totally without foundation as
indeed the prior finding has been.

From the title one would hink that the article,
"Who Has the Right to i(~!ow"~~ would explore the pros
and cons of the issue of "rights" claimed by many
adoptees but not granted by legislatures or courts.
It is, however, largely a presentation of emotional
issues instead of factual ones. The author, for
exampTe, refers to common law, the Constitution and
B!ll of Rights in justifying relative harm that
would be done by granting adoptees access, but does
not make a case regarding such adoptee claimed rights
He fails to acknowledge as another nri ter in the same
issue has done that "English common law (upon which
our law is based) made no provision for adoption. 13
Much is made of the fact, widely accepted also by
adoptees, that only a relatively small number of
adoptees search, as if this were germane to the issue
That point disregards on of the basic concepts of
democracy. While leaders are selected by majority
or plurality vote, the law insists upon equal treatment
of all individuals. The fact that most people
who wante d to vote could afford to pay a pol 1 tax
had no bearing on the fact that such requirement
prevented a smaller number from exercising their
franchise to vote. There was not a large uprising
which prompted school integration in 1954; one
specific case was sufficient to establ ish that
separate but equal schools did not give equal treatment
under the law. The women's rights movement embodies
only a fraction of the total femal population
but they have made themselves heard, have repeatedly
proven discrimination against women, and have thus
been effective in removing barriers, changing attitudes
and awakening the conscience of the country.
Examination of adoptee rights to sealed records
needs objective scrutiny in 1 ight of current morals,
attitudes and trends. We are tired of presentations
which attempt to put adoptees on the defensive by
charges that we are mentally ill, disloyal, unloving
or uncat-ing. We would especially like psychologists
to approach the problem professionally vii thout preconceived
ideas which result in articles which sound
as if written by distraught and threatened- adoptive
parents. Although last year in addressing adoptees'
rights to access of information the Missouri Supreme
Court rejected t two adoptees ' position presented them
one of the judges who voted against the adoptees
offered as part of his separate opinion this statement:
I note briefly the current fascination
with the profound achievement of author
Alex Haley in his recorded search for
genealogical roots. These sensations of
the consciousness of personal history are
ample testimonials to the unique anxiety
of Americans in discovering our origins;
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nation 'of uprooted . immigrants whose ... . .
family crests 'are 1 i tt:e more than
the rennants of graffi ti on the
steerage deck walls of a generationof
of vessels.
A1 1 of us n'ee d to know our past, not
only for a sense of lineage and heritage,
but for a fundamental and crucial sense
of our ve ry selves: our identity is incomplete
and our sense of self. retarded
without a real personal historical
connection.
"It is too often forgotten that an
adopted child eventually grows up. .....
(We need not assume) that what was in an
adoptee.'~ best interest. as a child is
also in his best interest as an adult.
("Sealed Records in Adoption ," 21 Cath.
Law. 211, 217-8 (1975).)"14
Perhaps there is stiil a gl imner of hope for adoptees
who believe they do hdve the right to know.
While adoptees should be considerate of others'
views, they should not allow patently biased articles
to deter them from their goals, whatever they are.
All things, it is said, must be in moderation and
that is certainly true of feelings regarding identity
and rejection. Those who decide to search must meet
their own nee ck and be attentive to adoptive parents'
feelings (but not bound by such feelings!). We do have
the burden of the adoptive parents' feelings, a task
we rightfully and willfully accept. We will have to
leave it up to Baran, Benet, Lifton, Pannor, Sorosky
(all cited) and others to educate those who don't
or won't understand adoptees feelings regarding
identity and rejection.
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Volume 2, Number 1
Winter/Spring Issue

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THE 1980 NATIONAL ADOPTION CONFERENCE in an open gathering sponsored by
the Western Region. EVERYONE is welcome to participate. It is offered .
as public education, interaction and fellowship for a11 parties in the
immediate adoption triad, significant others and the professional
adoption related community. This is the tentative schedule of events:
Wed. May 7 5 - 6 p m REGISTRATION
Thurs. May 8 8 - 9 am REGISTRATION
1 - 1:30 pin 11
4 - 4:30 pm
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6 - 6:30 pm 11
9 am - 1 pm SEARCHERS 'WORKSHOP I
2 - 6 p m SEARCHERS 'WORKSHOP I I
Fri. May 9 Same as Thurs. REGISTRATION
7:45 - 8:45 am CONTINENTAL BREAKFAST
Sat. May 10 8 - 9 a m REGISTRATION
II
1 - 1:30 pm
7:45 - 8:45 am CONTINENTAL BREAKFAST
9 - 10:20 am SESSION FIVE
WHO HOLDS THE POWER IN ADOPTION?
LEGISLATIVE ACTION 2 INACTION
SEARCH CONSULTATION AS A PROFESSION
10:30 - 11:50 am SESSION SIX
LITIGATION . . . A RECOURSE
AOOPTEES RIGHTS
9 - 10:20 am SESSION ONE
I
WHAT EVERY ADOPTIVE PARENT SHOULD
POST REUNION COMPARISONS
KNOW ABOUT ADOPTION.
SEARCH & SUPPORT ORGANIZATIONS
ATT ITUDES CAUSING FAMILY SEPARATION, 12 Noon Free time for lunch
10:30 - ll:SO am SESSION TWO i 1:30 - 2:50 pm
I
SESSION SEVEN
INTERMEDIARIES PRO & CON
ADOPTION GENEALOGY
I
PRE ADOPTION CHOICES
PREPARATION FOR ACCEPTPNCE/REJECTI@4
PSYCHOTHERAPY & THE TRIAD
1
ADOPTIVE PARENT SUPPORT SYSTEMS
12 ioon UELCOHE LUNCHEON 3 - 4:20 pm SESSION EIGHT
2 - 3:20 pm
THE
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BIRTHFAMILY INITIATED SEARCH
SESSION THREE
BLACK MARKET ADOPT1 ON
THE GRIEF IN ADOPTION
SIGNIFICNIT OTHERS il THEIR RIGHTS
PROFESSIONAL ACCOUNTIB ILITY
DEPT CF HEW 8 ADOPTION
7 Pm GRAND BANQUET
3:30 - 4:50 pm SESSION FOUR
WHAT IS "GO00 CAUSE"?
Sun. May 11 8-8:Mam PRAYER BREAKFAST
THE EMOTIONAL SEARCH
9 - 12 am Closing Session
GENET I CS
CELEBRATION OF MOTHERS DAY
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1:30 pm 'Open House Triadoption Library
CONFERENCE REGISTRATION
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Thursday, Nay 8 SEARCHERS' WORKSHOPS
Friday, May 9
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CHOICE OF 1 SESSIONS & LUNCHEON
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Sunday, F4ay 11 CLOSING SESSION & LIBRARY 0 1 EN HOUSE 0 $65

oL%&!s
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TRIAD
1980 NATIONAL ADOPTION CONFERENCE ............. 2
Edi tors Comments ............................... 4
SEARCH & SUPPORT ORGANIZATIONS ADDRESS UPDATE. . 5 -
AWARENESS PROJECT Magazine
POETRY .........................................
I I
A TOUCH OF LIFE by Bev Robertson .............. 8
A TWELVE-YEAR OLD WHO
INTENDS TO FIND HIS
NATURAL PARENTS. by Diane Robie.. ..... 9
WHERE FROM ... WHERE TO? by Diana Brown ....... 10
A WORD FROM A GROWN-UP CHILD by Rosalie Schwab 12
DO YOU KNOW THESE FACES? ....................... 14
HIDDEN PEOPLE .................................. 15
Editor - Mary Jo Rillera
Poetry - Frank Smi th
May Boyden
Kathy Wudel
Cartoon - Jerry Sanders
Speci a1 thanks to the vol un teers
who give time and money to staff
the SEARCH AND SUPPORT CENTER at
7571 Westminster Av , Westminster
CA 92683. Pat Sanders, ISC; Kathy
Sly, Sancjeh Tuc'cio, Dottie Carrol,
Peggy GI ascock, CUB ; Bonnie Frank,
NEED WE SAY MORE? .............................. 16 APOR; and Judy A1 bert.
MARKET ......................................... 18
Vice President - Helen Leech
Secretary/Treasurer-Lynne Wal ker
zk?a?w .,..
Triad OPTIONS Magazine goes into its second year
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Copyright 1979 Friends of the
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Triadoption Library FOTL
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For some ofyou it is time to RENEW your association
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The next issue will feature a look at the 1980
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ARIZONA
CONNECTICUT CUB Branch
ADOPTEES IDENTITY MOVEMENT
54449-11-CR 9N
4227 S Belsay Rd
ALMA Chapter
ALMA Chapter
'
Elkhart, IN 46514
Burton, MI 48519
2406 E 4th S t
30 Ten O'clock Ln
Tucson, AZ 85719
Weston', CT 06880
FORGOTTEN ONES
ADOPTEES IDENTITY MOVEMENT
1332 Brummi tt Ln
22 Frontenac SE
CUB Branch
South Bend, IN 46615
Grand Rapids, MI 49508
SEARCH
P.O. Box 1432
Litchfield Park, AZ 85304
ARKANSAS
ORPHAN VOYAGE Chapter
Rt 1 Box.684
Hot Springs, ARK
CALI FORN I A
ADOPTEES MOVEMENT
Rt 2 Box 542
Red Bluffs, CA 96080
ADOPTEES RESEARCH ASSOCIATION
P.O. Box 304
Montrose, CA 91020
ADOPTIVE PARENTS FOR OPEN RECORDS
P.O. Box 18242
Irvine, CA 92713
ADOPTSEARCH
1940 Los Angeles
Berkeley, CA 94707
ALMA Chapter
P.O. Box 2745
P.O. Box 153
Rocky Hi 11 , CT 06067 SEARCH. INC
, MINNESOTA
-- - .--
CROSSROADS
Southend Comnuni ty Service
504 Weathersfield Av
Hartford, CT 06114
ORPHAN VOYAGE Chapter
1203 Hill St
Suffield, CT 06078
DISTRICT OF COLUMBIA
ADOPTION RESOURCE COUNCIL
P.O. Box 23641
LIEnfant Plaza Station
Washington, DC 20024
CUB Branch
P.O. Box 23641
L'Enfant Plaza Station
Washington, DC 20024
FLORIDA
AOOPTEES IN SEARCH
405 W College Av X316
Tallahassee, FL 32301
P.O. Box 441
New Haven, IN 46744
SEARCH FOR TOMORROW
1642 -- .- Sinclair - -..
Fort Wayne, IN 46808
- IOWA
ADOPTEES SEARCH HERITAGE
P.O. Box 762
Council Bluffs, IA 51501
ADOPTIVE EXPERIENCE GROUP
1105 Fremont
Des Moines, IA 53316
ORPHAN VOYAGE Chapter
Box 21
Cedar, IA 52543
KANSAS
La Habra, CA 90631 KENTUCKY MISSOURI
OASIS
ALMA Chapter
P.O. Box 53761
SEARCHING
P.O. Box 2217,
Ml ami Shores 'Branch
P.O. Box 7222
Sunnyvale, CA 94087
Miami, BL 33153
Louisville, KY 40207
CUB Chapter
7571 Westminster Av
Westminster, CA 90803
EQUAL RIGHTS FOR FATHERS
P.O. Box 6387
Albany, CA 94706
INDEPENDENT SEARCH CONSULTANTS
7571 Westminster Av #6
Wes tmins ter , CA 92683
PACER(Post Adoption Center
For Education & Research)
Palo A1 to Medical Clinic
860 Bryant St
Palo A1 to, CA 94301
SEARCHERS INTERNATIONAL
8945 Gladbeck Av
Northridge, CA 91324
SEARCH FINDERS OF CALIF.
P.O. Box 2374
Santa Clara, CA 95051
TENNESSEE ADOPTEES IN SEARCH
4598 Rosewood
Montclair, CA 91763
TRIAWPTION LIBRARY, INC
P.O. Box 5218
Huntington Beach, CA 92646
COLORADO
ADOPTEES IN SEARCH
P.O. Box 27294
Denver, CO 80027
CUB Branch
P.O. Box 22904
Denver, CO 30022
ORPHAV VOYAGE Nat'l Hdqtrs.
Rt 1 Box 153 A
Cedaredge, CO 81413
ORPHAN VOYAGE Chapter
5020 Ortega Farms B1
Jacksonvi 11 e, FL 32210
Regional Director AAC
Jay Swearingen
13906 Tepperrell
Tampa, FL
- IDAHO
ALMA Chapter
Rt 1 Box 19A
Cataldo, ID 83810
ILLINOIS
ADOPTEE, BIRTHPARENT SEEKERS
302 E Main
Colfax, IL 61728
SEARCH, RESEARCH
P.O. Box 135
Batavia. IL 60610
SEARCH, INC
1247 Garfield
Topeka, KS 66603
- MAINE
ORPHAN VOYAGE Chapter
10 Forest
Dexter, ME 04930
ORPHAN VOYAGE Chapter
10 Meadow Way
South Portland. ME
MARY LAND
ADOPTEES IN SEARCH
P.O. Box 41016
Bethesda, MD 20014
MASSACHUSETTS
TRUTH SEEKERS IN ADOPTION
P.O. Box 286 94 Franklin St
Roscoe, IL 61703 Peabody, MA 01960
YESTERDAYS CHILDREN
RESOLVE
P.O. Box 1554 P.O. Box 474
Evanston, IL 60204 Belmont, MA 02178
ALMA Chapter
6498 Berkshire Ln N
Maple Grove, MN 55369
CUB Branch
P.O. Box 33222
Minneapolis , MN 55433
LEAF(Libera1 Education
for Adoptive Famil ies )
23247 Lofton Court N
Scandia, MN 55073
LINK
1700 W 76th St Apt 1C
Minneapolis, MN 55423
KAMMANDALE LIBRARIES
57 N Dale St
St Paul, MN 55102
MINNESOTA REUNION REGISTRY- ISRR
P.O. Box 2323
N. St Paul Station
St Paul, MN 55109
ALMA Chapter
P.O. Box 11745
Clayton , MO 63109
KANSAS CITY ADULT AWPTEES ORGAN
P.O. Box 15225
Kansas City, MO 64106
NEBRASKA
ADOPTION IDENTITY DESIRE
1808 West F
North Platt, NB 69101
NEW HAMPSHIRE
"LOOKING FOR SOMEONE"
Twer Press, Inc.
P.O. Box 428
Seabrook NH 03871
NEW JERSEY
CONCERNED UNITED BIRTHPARENTS , CUB Branch
Nati anal Headquarters
P.O. Box 1056
P.O. Box 573
Merchan tvi 1 le , NJ 08109
Milford, MA 01757
ALMA Chapter
ORPHAN VOYAGE
P.O. Box 41
New England Chapter
Oldwick, NJ 08858
NEW MEXICO
INDIANA MICHIGAN NEW YORK
ADOPTEE
P.O. Box 2251
Indi anapol is, IN 46222
AOOPTI 0'4 AOV ISORY BOARD
4345 Werling Dr
Ft Wayne, IN 46806
ASSOC FOR RIGHTS OF
CHILOREtI
18135 Heatherfield Dr
South Bend, IN 46637
ADOPTEES SEARCH FOR KNOWLEDGE
P.O. Box 762
East Lansing, MI 48823
ADOPTION IDENTITY MOVEMENT
P.O. Box 849
Troy, MI 48099
ALMA Chapter
1500 Kensington Dr
Jackson, MI 49203
OPERATION IDENTITY
33002 La 'Ramhl a NW
Albuquerque, NM 87120
ADOPTEES I DENT ITY MOVEMENT
25 Estelle Or
Cheektowago, NY 14225
ADOPTEES IN SEARCH OF ANSWERS
P.O. Box 1003
Southampton, NY 11968
ADOPTEE PEN PAL CLUB
C/O Seventeen Magazine
850 3rd Av
New York, NY 10022

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AOOPTEES REGISTRY
66 Court St #700
Brooklyn, NY 11201
ALMA SOCIETY, INC
National Headquarters
P.O. Box 154
Washington Bridge Station
New York, NY 10033
ALWAYS IN ME
187 Englewood
Buffalo, NY 14214
ALWAYS IN ME
P.O. Box 454
Orchard Park,. NY 14127
CUB Branch
P.O. Box 394
Planetarium Station
New York, NY 10024
FAR HORIZONS
P.O. Box 621
Cortland, NY 13045
- NEVADA
INTERNATIONAL SOUNDEX
REUNION REGISTRY
P.O. Box 2312
Carson City, NV 89701
ALMA ~e~ional Office
P.O. Box 2071
Carson City, NV 89701
NORTH CAROLINA
ADOPTEES TOGETHER
Rt 1 BOX 30-8-5
Climax, NC 27233
- OHIO
ADOPTEES !N TRUTH
P.O. Box 15223
Cincinnati, OH 45215
ALMA Chapter
P.O. Box 8723
Toledo, OH 43623
BIRTHBONO
P.0, Box 482
Streetsboro, OH 44240
WILLOWS GRADUATES
6930 S Columbia
Tulsa, OK 74136
WASHINGTON
WASHINGTON ADOPTEES RIGHTS MOVEMENT
&
OREGON 305 S 43rd St
4 .
Renton, WA 98055
OREGON ADOPTIVE RIGHTS MOVEMENT
P.O. Box 1332
Beaverton, OR 97005
PENNSYL'JANIA
ADOPTION FORUM OF PHILADELPHIA
P.O. Box 7452
Philadelphia, PA 19101
ADOPTION LIFELINE
414 28th Av
Altoona, PA 16601
ALMA Chapter
210 W Hortter St
Philadelphia, PA 19119
PITTSBURGH ADOPT ION LIFELINE
P.O. Box 613
Ros traver Branch
Belle Vernon, PA 19119
PITTSBURGH ADOPTION LIFELINE
Box 52
Gi bsonia, PA 19044
RHODE ISLAND
YESTERDAYS CHILDREN
77 Homer St
Providence, RI 02903
SOUTH CAROLINA
ADOPTEES SEARCHING
P.O. Box 1774
Anderson, SC 29622
TRIAD
P.O. Box 4778
Columbia, SC 29240
TENNESSEE
TENNESSEE ADOPTEES IN SEARCH
P.O. Box 8684
Chattanooga, TN 37411
CHAPTERS
619 S 14th Av
Yakima, WA 98902
2416 Rucker
Everett, WA 98204
1922 B Pioneer Ln SE
Pt Orchard, WA 98366
3810 NE 39th St
Vancouver, WA 98661
2106 Termina
Moses Lake, WA 98837
Mrs. Lynne Worden
1062 Maple Close
Quesnell , BC V2J 3W3
Barbara Trowsdale
4726 Elk Lake Or
Victoria, BC
MANITOBA -
Mrs. Laurie Mason
361 Templeton Av
Winnipeg, Manitoba R2V 156
NEW BRUNSWICX -
Mrs. Irene Przeg
P.O. Box '153
Rotbesaj , NB , Canada
YOVA SiUrIA -
Rt. 2, Box 19A
Odessa, WA 99159 Hr. Ed Brownel 1
P.O. Box 811
Armdale, NS,
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WISCONSIN
ONTARIO -
ALMA Chapter
P.O. Box 20964 Mrs. Mary ~ane Brinkos
Milwaukee, W I 53220
28 York Val ley Crescent
Mi1 lowdale, Ontario
CUB Branch
309 N Livingston St Mrs. Virginia Mason
Madison, WI 53703
. 219 Ellington Dr
AUSTRALIA
Scarborough, Ontario M1R 3Y2
Mrs. Wendy Redmond
JIGSAW INTERNATIONAL
393 Upper Ottawa Str
39 Manifold Rd
Hami 1 ton, Ontario
B1 achett, Sydney, Australia
Mrs. 1357 Moy Joane Av Jeffrey
MEXICO
Windsor, Ontario, N8X as5
MEXICO REUNION ASSISTANCE
Rio Atoyac 69-2
Mrs. Marilyn Billone
Hexi co Ci ty , 5-D-F Mexico
RR 12
xi tchener, Ontario
CANADA
Mrs. Mary BethiHoy
PARENT FINDERS
194 Monmore Rd
National Headquarters
London, Ontario N6G 3A6
1408 w 45th Av
CUB Branch - TEXAS
Vancouver, BC Canada V6M 2H1
Mrs Sharon Phil1 ips
P.O. Box 14194
P.O. Box 13102
Northridge Branch
ADULT ADOPTEES FOR CHANGE
Kanata., Ontario K2K 1x3
Day ton, OH 45414
'904 Redwood
CHAPTERS
Richardson, Tx 75083
Mrs. Joy Powel 1
CHOSEN CHILDREN
2610 Kinnerton Crescent
ill zoringbrook
CUB Branch
ALBERTA -
Nissi ssauga, Ontario
Daytit?, t !-I 45405
P.O. Box 1527
Plano, TX 74074
Mrs. Penny Cal lan
Mrs. Sandra Pilon
334 Millbourne Rd East
SUNSHINE
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3833 Abingdon Circle
Box 441
Norfolk, VA 13513
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ADULT ADOPTEES
Prince George, 3C Box 334
P.O. Box 1762
Tulsa, OK 74101
PARENTS AN0 ADOPTEES TOGETHER
Simpson, Saskatchewan
P.O. Box 25727
Richmond, VA 23260
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ADOPTION
I wonder what 'i t would be like if I did not know
who my mother was?
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Or, not to be able to tell my friends what time
I was born
Or, not to know my original last name .....
I wonder what it would be like to not be able to
show snap shots of me when I was born, or when I was young
also, wonder what it would be 1 ike to say to my friends,
''1 was adopted"
And, hear them say, "Oh, wow! That's weird"
Or, have them say I was lying.
I don't think I would want to be adopted
-- But I Am.
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by Frank Smith
14 'year old adoptee
DEAR M r 1 l
I ' M SIJRE YOU DID \LJIIATS BEST
I was found i.n a basket in deepest snow.
wearing no name tag, yet a clesire to know.
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Was my mother short or tall?
Di.d she know my father or not at all?
Was I born in the East or way out West?
[>ear mother, I ' m sure you di.d whats best.
!tl~r~ yo11 sad t:he day you gave me away?
01- for you was it: just anokher day?
(To an adopted child)
Yes, dear mothel-, you clid whats best.
Fleur C Hoyl iger \inti1 I fi.nc1 you T won't be at rest.
Submitted by May Boyden
IInve llou thouqht about finding me at all?
01- wnitinq for me ko give you a call?
Not flesh of my flesh I' won' I: qive up my search for your face.
Nor Bone of my Bone, i' 1. i.v~ for the clay that we embrace.
But s ti 11 miraculously
my own t)c,nr mother, I sure you did whats best.
Mothe:,, l"rm sure you did whats best.
Never Forgot
r1rn sure you clid whzts hest.
for a single minute
Whats best?
You didn't grow under my
heart
BUT IN IT.
taken from DEAR DAUGHTER
by Kathy Wudel
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The late November leaves swirled around
her feet ... no 1 onger were they bri 11 i antly
colored but muted as if brushed into a Renair
canvas. A brisk touch of wind blew them
he1 ter-skelter across her mind. She was cold
--physical ly and emoti onal ly--and searched
in her pocket for gloves to warm her hands.
Her hands--the ones that just a few hours
ago had grasped in desperation by the ebony
ones of a young girl . She was getting inforination
for birth certificates. It was 1955,
and this three-month job would fill her days
while her husband was in the Air Force
training session at a base near St. Loui s.
She had opened the door to this new adventure
with eagerness. What joy it would be to
share the happiness of birth.
She was greeted that first day by Sister
idary, supervisor of the maternity ward. The
sparkling brown eyes of the Italian woman
searched through her. They were warm and
confident, as was the strong voice that
gave directions to her. A bell called Sister
Mary to other duties, and she was left to
explore the routine and the people of the
ward. Many teased her, "hope you know that
just working here makes you pregnant!"
Little did they know that as she smiled
back pangs of nausea were sending a message
to her. It was a good beginning.
The next Monday brought Sister Mary,
bustling with a brisk, important step, into
her office. The warmth in the eyes had
1 frozen into ice. "Well, we had three of
them thi s weekend". Three of them ... her
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She opened the first door. A big-boned
woman with straw hair drooping on her
shoulders stared coldly at her. "Well,
what do you rant to know? Let's get on. I I
The frigid eyes looked down at the paper.
There was no change ofi expression, but the
hand si gni ng the certificate quivered--
almost sadly, 1i ke tears.
The next door opened onto a crying face,
a young face with eyes of murky blue. "I'm
not bad, ydu know", the shaking voice said.
The hands hesitantly reached out for the
pen. "I just wonder if it's a boy or a
girl ." As she closed the door, she turned
mi'nd couldn't grasp the tone in the selfrighteous
voice. "Three of them?" she
asked. "Yes, three illegitimate babies,
and I baptized theni immediately to save
their souls. It's too late to save those
girls, you know." The voice and eyes were
unforgiving.
She was sent on her way to gather
informat'ion on "those gi rls". "Remember,
"A Touch of Life" is a true story.
they are not to know the sex of their
babies. A state law, you know, and besides By Bev Robertson
they don't deserve to know. I I
slowly away from the pleading eyes.
The third door creaked as she opened it
and awakened a sleeping girl. The soft
brown eyes gazed inquiringly at her. There
was a tenderness--a hurt--in the stare that
confronted her. The girl grasped her .hand
... begging with the touch. "Please tell
me. Please. 1'11 be searching all my life. I!
She turned quickly away. "You hate me".
She swallowed a moment of tears saying,
"No, I love you." And she left.. She went to
the typewri ter and pounded out her emotions
on official business.
A wet slap of rain knocked the replay of
the day out of her mind. She looked up. He
was waiting for her at the door of their
apartment, and he peered intimately into
her feelings. "Oh, George", she cried out,
"some day it will change. It has to!" And
as she sank her head into his protective
arms, the stir of life--the same feelings
that "those girls" had once had, touched
her tenderly .
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Twelve-Year Old Who Intends
To Find His Natural Parents
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By Diane Robie, adoptive mother.
When we realized that' these questioris were Who deserves the guilt? The adoptive
never going to end, we had a very uneasy child who wonders about the people responfeeling
inside us. We had been told by the sible for his/her existence? How can we tell
adoption agency to answer questions honestly, Frank to stop wondering? Should we tell him
but what does one do when there are not to "forget i t"? ... We have a respons i bi 1 i t
answers? We do not know what she 1 ooks li ke, to Frank as his parents and as human beings:
or if she is happy today. We had also been Part of that responsi bi1 i ty is respect:
told by the agency, had read. in various books, respect for his feelings, respect for the
and been told by other adoptive parents that perfectly natural human trait of curiosity,
a we1 1-ad justed, 11appy , adoptive chi 1 d does and respect for his heritage. None of these
not want to ever see or be with his/her things can be denied. To do that would be
natural parents. .We were told that if we did poor parenting, and we will not be a part
a good job of parenting, he would not be of that. Nor wi 11 we take on any qui:l.t. The
wondering about any other parents but us. better we parent this adoptive child, the
We11 , if this was the case, then what was better he will be able to handle 1 this
wrong? Frank is wkll-adjusted, and we are curiosity. He has a right to wonder, and
good parents .... but here's the catch: we will not deny him this; we respect it.
...
We always had wondered ourselves how she was -
... , because we knew that she was missing
So, the decision has been made: we will
a very important part of her life. From
help Frank with his curiosity; we will
there, we went to: It really is a shame that
respect the necessity for this subject to .
we can't, at least, call her to tell her be discussed openly; and we will verbalize
about that art prize he won, how we11 he our curiosity with him. I remind Frank that
swims, his sense of humor, etc. ... She I have a few questions I would 1 i ke answered
contributed to these abilities, she deserves
regarding the he intends to make for
that recognition and we know that she would his natural mother, and that is I want to .,
be very proud of HER SON.
knw who in his natural family has the
artistic ability, because I knw that he did
After volunteering to write about the not acquire this in his environment with us;
curiosity the adoptive child has about his/ Frank's father wants to know where the undyher
natural parents, I realized how difficult ing interest in reptiles comes from.
it was going to be in such limited space.
Where can I begin when I know there is no We asked to parent a chi ld 'because as
beginning. There was never a time when Frank responsible adults we had a right to, and as
did not wonder about his natural parents, human beings, we do not have the right to
especially his mother. What does she look ask another human being to forget his
like? I wonder what she is doing now? Why did heritage. Someone is wondering why all this
she give me up? Is she happy today? Wi 11 she doesn't upset us? All I can say is that we
be a1 ive when I'm eighteen and can look for don't understand why it should upset us, and
her? W i l l I find her? . .. because of this, it doesn't.

Where From
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Five mill'ion people in the United
States today were born with a dual
identity. They are not schizophrenics,
amnesiacs, escapists or mentally unfit.
They are individuals born with two sets
of parents, genetic and adoptive.
An individual carries twenty to twentyfive
thousand genes transmitted to him by
his biological parents and their combined
total ancestry. When a person is separated
from the people who gave him these inheri
ted traits and is placed with a set of
parents of a different ancestral heritage,
he is immediately given by this set of
circumstances, a dual identity.
The heredity factors an infant or child
brings with him into his new environment
dictate his internal reaction to external
influences. Heredity and environment join
to form the individual he wi 11 become.
How the individual copes with life is as
much determined from the moment of his
conception as it is by the surroundings
in which he is placed. As he matures, the
adoptee 1 ives within a nucleus of height- '
ened stress because of acute awareness of
his dual identity.
Can the adoptee's dual identity be
prevented? Our law makers could take the
first step to answer this question by
voting to unseal the birth records of
adoptees. Working with the laws of today,
legislators at the state level are responsible
for a change in the law.
A second step toward the prevention of
dual identity in the adopted infant or
child is "open adoption". "Open adoption"
a1 1 ows adoptive parents and bi rth parents
the option of choosing to know each other
in the adoption of an infant. "Open adoption"
could allow the birth parent,
adoptive parent and the adoptee the choice
of knowi~g one another if, at the time
of his adoption, the adoptee is older.
According to Dr. T Berry Braze1 ton in
hi s col umn in April , 1979, issue of Redbook
Magazine, it is harder work to
raise an adopted child than it is to
raise your own. Adoption carries longer
periods of adjustment between infant
or child and the new parents. When the
natural rhythm and balance of 1 ife change,
as in the moving or placement of a baby
or child, often suddenly, into the lives
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of adoptive parents, however wi 1'I ing,
there is an emotional adjustment to be
made for every member of the new family.
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he present sealed record laws can only
breed mistrust between adoptive parent and
child, and between adoptee and society as .
a whole. Lack of truth and knowledge in
childhood, and many years of living with
fantasies, can cause numerous frustrations
and personal i ty defects. Certainly, feel ings
of insecurity and ambi valance dominate the
personality of any individual who lives
within a vacuum of who he is and how he got
there.
United States laws are throwing a double
barreled burden on adoptive parents by
enveloping their family relationships with
secrecy. To be eligible to become an adoptive
parent, one must lay bare to strangers
his emotional, financial and sexual stability
If the application to adopt is accepted,
then the adoptive parent or parents are
asked by the agencies to rear their child
without the knowledge to share who, what,
where, when, why and how he came to be.
Primary prevention is the medical and
clinical profession's basis for all research.
Adopti ve parents, the nuhturing
parents, are rearing their chi ldren without
knowledge of his genetic and medical
background. Therefore, they are arbi trari 1y
forced to be unable to prevent the preventab1
e, medi cal ly and emotional ly , as thei r
child is growing up.
Depending on their own individual
maturity, all children face an identity
crisis. Parents often talk about the teen
years as the years when their children
are searching for self-identity. As the
parents of three children, my husband and
I agree we could not have survived without
Dr. Spock and Erman Bombeck!
Dr. Rollo May, a practicing psychoanalyst,
author and lecturer, suggests that
the AGE of TWO is a natural time for the
infant child to enter a stage of rebellion
and try to become free to establish inner
strength! Most psycho1 ogists today agree
that by age six a person's self-image is
basi cal ly formed. Furthermore, the professional's
agree that an individual's method
of operating in life is based on this early
image, whether it be poor, excellent, or
somewhere inbetween, unti 1 he chooses,
through learning and growth, to change.
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Books, tel evision , newspapers and
homes produce children who have an "extra
magazines inundate us with articles on
confidence , curi osi ty and energy that makes
"How to be a better parent " Today, one them want to test their strength and ski11
out of five parents still io.not talk with against a larger world".
their children about sex. At a task force
Adoptive parents can en1 arge their own
on teen-age pregnancy held in a large south- world and that of thier child's by being
eastern city on January 30, 1980, an announce- able to share the truth, and support their
ment was made that since the Supreme Court chi 1 d emotional ly from a sol id, nurturing
ruled to allow abortions in January, 1973, home, when that child chooses to search
some four to five hundren nine year old girls for his birth parents. An adoptee I met
have had abortions in just one of the
this year bespoke the universal adoptee
aborti on cl inics in that city a1 one.
need best w'hen she said, "If only they
Seven years. Four to five hundred nine realized we weren't knocking on the door
year olds. Start1 ing statistics. As Americans for mild and cookies, but just to know a .
we believe we are living in a sophisticated part of ourselves. I'
society. We be1 ieve we are better educated To be given the right to choose is a
and more knol wedgeabl e than prior generati on s ; psycho1 ogi cal need basic to human psyche.
and that our children are smarter than we In this year of 1980, forty-nine of our
were. Stati sti cs prove otherwi se. We THINK fifty United States deny that right to all
wz TALK with each other. We THINK we LISTEN members of the adopti on tri ad.
to one another. Teenage pregnancy is now
considered an epidemic. The reason? Most
Dr. Rolly May believes that even though
contrary to, and strangely indeed, against
experts agree--parents and chi 1 dren s ti 11 the 1 aw of self-preservation, human beings
lack COMMUNICATION.
will, at times, die for freedom. In 400 B.C.
The social change proposed in open
Socrates drank his poison and died for his
records for adoption, ordi nari ly defined as belief that "clear knowledge of the truth
aldowing access to all members of the
is essential for the correct conduct of
adoption triad full knowledge of each other, life". "Action, " he said, "equals knowledge. I lifts one of the problems of parenting from The adoptee w t~ chooses to search to know
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adoptive parents. It is a solution which his heritage can only gain a new freedom to
can only take place in a society where
think and to be. The earlier in life the
most individuals have reached a level of adoptee knows the truth, the sooner he may
: self-awareness that does not need to be seek to know his heritage and thereby expand
! fed by authority over others. In any the inner core of his person. The earlier in
I soci a1 change, no one can foretell what his life he lays to rest the ghosts of his
the effects will be. History does that. past, the sooner he will lose his dual
Can the biological parents who have
identity and become an integrated, autonomous
re1 inquished their child for adoption
healthy adult. In the growth which is possi bl
maintain a right to privacy? Lorraine
during search, he wi 11 develop more strength
Dusky, author of BIRTHMARK and a natural to face the crises and anxieties which will
parent deeply involved in the movement for continue to confront him in life--and to be
adoptees rights, in an arti cl e in Newsweek able to solve his problems abounding with the
Magazine, October 15, 1979, answers the wonder and joy in the human experience which
question, Should the birth mother's right is uniquely his.
to anonymity prevail? "I think not." She
The Good Sami taritan stopped to administer
feels the very least birth parents can do oil and wine and carried the injured man from
for their relinquished youngsters is give Jericho to an inn where he cared for him.
them the right to know their natural
The Good Sami tari tan gave the innkeeper two
parents .
days' wages to continue caring for his newly
I What of the adoptive parents who fear acquired responsi bi1 i ty. He then went on his
"1 osing" their child? Adoptive parents way promising to repay any extra expenditures
often feel threatened when thei r chi 1 d the inkeeper might acquire in the sick man's
begins to quesiton who his natural parents healing. He did not propose that the injured,
are and to fee1 the need to search for he1 pless traveler be forever dependent upon
them. In his book ESCAPE FORM CHILDHOOD, him.
John Ho1t quotes a sign posted in a Boston
subway, "NO One Ever Runs Away From a
Copyright 1980, Diana Brown
Happy Home." He proposes that the happiest
Daytona Beach, Florida

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Word From A Grown-up Child
By Rosalie Schwab, Great Neck, New York
It's been over a year since I completed started roll ing. May, the genealogist, was
my search for my natural parents. A year kind, understanding, and patient. We kept
that has been filled with learning and in touch frequently, taking one step at
a time. Slowly (I was extremely eager), I
documented my search, learning my birth
name, what hospital I was born in, the
knowledge of my adoption before I even knew scandal surrounding the agency that I had
what the word meant. My parents gave me love, been adopted from.
comfort, security; a home filled with more Each night, I would come home from
than any child could dream of materially and work, kiss the children and my husband,
ernotioflally. The community that I grew up in gobble down dinner and rush to the typewas
affluent , consequently, there were many writer to ei ther answer correspondence that
adoptees that I either befriended or know of. had come in that day's mail or write to
Every now and then, I would discuss my feel - various offices for additional information.
ings of my adoption with a fellow adoptee, I w'as totally consumed wi th learning everyand
almost always, learned that my feelings thing I could about myself and my birth
were different than those I spoke with. family. Thank heavens for my husband!
During puberty, I really felt a strong AI thhgh., he couldn 't understand what
need to identify with someone within my possessed me so, he took care of our
family. Unfortunately, I was always the children and let me do my thing.
"black sheep" in nly family and this made it Since I was born in a different state
even more difficult for me to relate. Every- .than I was raised in, my search was someone
claimed that they understood how I felt what complicated. Finally, with enough docubut
I knew instinctively that they really mentation, I placed an ad in a city newspaper
couldn't I questioned my parents for more in the state of my b'irth. I received many
details, but they could onvy answer my responses but those who answered my ad were
questions up to a point. Too much of my not my relatives. I befriended one of my
heritage had been de~ied them, and in turn callers who did some checking and found out
rile. I made a silent promise to myself that where my mother - my mother! - 1 ived.
one day I would find the answers that I I will never forget the night that I
sought, one way or the other, to fill the called Nina - my birth mother - for the
void that was within.
first of many conversations! It took a1 1 the
Years passed quickly by. I married when courage that I could find to dial that phone
I was in my early twenties. My first
number. I was terrified that a11 the work
daughter was born a year after my marriage. that I had put into my search would be in
During my pregnancy, my desire to know of vain and that I would be rejected once again!
my heritage deepened. I was especially
Five months before I turned thirty, I
concerned ti th my medical background. As decided that I would finally start my
i t turned out, I had a caesarian section, search. I remember how fearful and elated
but my daughter was fine. Three years
I felt at finally keeping the promise I
later I had my second child, another girl. had made to myself so many years ago! I
I was busy with motherhood yet my desire joined a group for adoptees but found no
deepened to seek out my roots. As the
help there. An old high school friend, also
children grew, I becanie restless and took an adoptee, suggested that I contact a
a job. My life was busy and the hours in 1 ovely woman--a genealogist she had consulted.
a day never enough! Yet, the void in I
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did so and that's when my search really
not knowing was still with me.
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Finally, someone answered my call- later I
learned that i t was my uncle Al - and then
my mother came to the phone. I introduced
myself and asked her if the name Clara Sue
Lindsey meant anything to her. I heard her
voice quivering, then a sob, finally "yes"
and then "Oh my God, it's my baby!" After
the initial shock subsided for both of US,
we tal ked for over two hours. Everything
just flowed out of me and a11 the answers
that I had wanted for so long were given
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does not pertain to oneself. In most cases,
the adoptee has no rights - rights that are
too often taken for granted by those who
have them. There is no need for anyone to
be deprived of knowing the truth or having
to feel incomplete.
My search is over. My questions are
answered. My void is filled. I am complete!
.I sincerely hope that others will do as I
,did, if the need is there within. I wish
them a1 l happy endings to all the years of
to me! suffering. Or should I say "Happy Beginnings!"
Within the weeks that fo1 lowed, there
were many phone calls and much letter
writing. We sent one another pictures - I, d \
of myself in various stages of my life,
along with pictures of my children and
husband - She sent me pictures of herself,
my half sister and half brother (having
been an only child, I f elt doubly blessed),
my aunts , uncles, cousins, and grandparents.
The resemblances were incredible!
Within a month, my husband and I flew
down to the state I was born in and met my
new found family. The reunion that we shared
was tremendous. Everyone that I met was
loving and happy. My sister and I became
especi a1 ly close to one another almost
immediately! I was home and felt complete
for the first time in my life!
As I look back over the past year, I have
much to be thankful for. I have visited with
my natural maternal fanlily five times. I
loved each visit and look forward to the
next. I also located my natural father and
hi s fami 1y. We have exhanged photographs
and letters over the past few months and
a1 though the responses have been warm,
have no need to meed him. My adoptive
parents - my real parents, since that's
exactly what they are! - are happy for me,
a1 though somewhat confused by this strong
need within me. I find that I must reassure
I
them that I never was seeking substitutes for
them, just needing to look like someone and
to know that I would be accepted by the
family that originally rejected me.
I have been working with other adoptees
1 ike myse1 f. For so long, too longs, I
convinced myself that my feel ings pertaining
to my adoption were unnatural. I have since
learned that this is not so. There are so
Inany people - adoptees, as we11 as natural
parents - who think and fee1 as I do. Society
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Iias taught us that we should not open a
Pandoras box; that we should leave well
enough a1 one. This is easy to say when it
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Match the names below with the photos above.
A. ANDY ACCIMUS, Elected 1980
Western Regional Director,
WARMS Board of Directors.
B. PATTY O'GORMAN, Treasurer
LEAF (Liberal Education
for Adoptive Families) in
Minnesota; appointed AAC
region director.
C. LORRAINE DUSKY, birthmother
and author of BIRTHMARK.
D. SALLY FILE, Elected 1980
Western Regional Co-Director.
Offi cer Operati on Identi ty
in New ,Mexico.
E. LINDA CANNON BURGESS, a
retired social worker who
is author of THE ART OF
ADOPTION, Triadoption
Advi sory Coun ci 1 1980
F. MICHAEL HAAG, founder of .
ADOPTSEARCH ; psycho 1 ogi s t .
6. MILDRED SZAKASCI, founder
and director of TRIAD in
South Carol ina. Adoptive mother.
H. ROD MCKUEN , singer , composer,
poet, author or FINDING MY
FATHER.
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. Dent, the New. York -.Yankees1
World ;(jeries MVP,, found his fa-
' ther after a 15year sea@ t.h@
'-embittered him toward his
. mother, h'e says. in the January
, issue of Sport Magazine, which
will appear. Dec. U. -
Before Bucky was-a week did:
Itis. mother sent. hini to live in
Fldrida with his aunt and uncle,
. Sarah, and James-Earl Deht, and
: he assumed their surname. Bucky
Dent was unaware that Dennis.was
a his 'real mo.the~ even though he visited
her every summer -in Savan-
-nab,.-Ga- He thought all along she
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..wad his. aunt.
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' ' ~ucky's search for his father
truly began in 1969 after he mar- ,
. ried Ifaren Lynn Ullrich. Seven
long; frustrating years later, they
found Russell Stanford workin for .
an upholsterer in Savannah. h en
Bucky was born !ib mother was divorced
from his father, a serviceman
who was stationed overseas--
. at the time. :-
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Books
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I WOULD HAVE SEARCHED FOREVER by
Sandra Kay Musser. The first book
by a birthparent about her own
experience wi th re1 inqui s hment
and search. Jan Enterprises,
BOX 268, Bal a Cynwyd, PA 19004.
-$4.50.
ADOPTED? A CANADIAN GUIDE FOR '
ADOPTED ADULTS IN SEARCH OF THEIR
ORIGINS. by Clare Marcus. A resource
book living up. to its title.
International Sel f-Counsel Press,
Ltd. 306 W 25th St, N. Vancouver,
BC, Canada V7N 261 -$3.95.
THE ART OF ADOPTION by Linda
Cannon Burgess. 'A soci a1 workers
look at the 900 adoption she was
responsible for and the effect
adoption has on 1 1 Acropolis
Books ,2400 117th St NW, Washington
DC. 20009. -$8.95.
THE ADOPTED BREAK SILENCE by Jean
Paton. Forty men and women descri
be thei r search for natural
parents. Orphan Voyage, Cedaredge
Colorado 81413 -$4.50.
THE ADOPTION TRIANGLE by Sorosky,
Baran & Pannor. An indepth study
\ of the triad, search & reunions.
Anchor/Doubleday, 245 Park Av,
NYC, NY 10017 Paperback $3.95
LOST /\ND FOUND: THE ADOPTION
EXPERIEiiCE by Betty Jean Lifton.
Now in paperback. A look into
those who experience adoption,
search & reuni on.. Di a1 Press,
1 Dag Hammarskjold Plaza, NY
10017 Hdcvr $9.95 Pbk $3.95.
BIRTHMARK by Lorraine Dusky. A
bi rthmothers moving, honest story.
M Evans & Co., 216 E 49th St. NYC
NY 10017 $8.95.
THE BABY BROKERS by Lynne
McTaggert. The Marketing of White
Babies in America. Dial. Press,
1 Dag Hammarskjold Plaza, NYC,
NY 10017 $10.95.
MY FAMILY-THE ROOTS OF MY
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LIFE-A PERSONAL RECORD, is de-
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m relationships with their extended family members,
and to document the ancestral background.
MY FAMILY-THE. ROOTS OF MY
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% individuals whose family network includes
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may be scribed in one book, thus recording
the continuity of his life.
MY FAMILY-YOUR BIRTH FAMILY
-THE ROOTS OF YOUR LIFE-A
PERSONAL RECORD, is designed to
enable birthparents to share the genealogy
8 and personal .history of the adoptee's family
of origin, thus assuring for their child the
recording of his birth history and heritage.
$5.95 each
CONCERNED UNITED BIRTHPARENTS
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Washington, D.C. 20024
PREGNANT TOO SOON-Adoption i s
an Option by Jeanne Warren
Lindsay. Teenagers tell their
stories about the incst difficult
decision. Morning Glory
Press, 6595 San Haroldo Way,
Buena Park, CA 90620 $8.95.
CITIZEN'S ACTION MANUAL
Compiled by Deborah Silverstein
Guide for adoptive parent groups
on. :NACAC , advocacy, ARC Centers
and more for all persons invol v-
ed in adoption. NACAC 3900 Market
St, #247, Riverside, CA 92501 $8.

Booklets
HANDBOOK FOR THE SEARCH by Emma
Vilardi. A guide for the adoptee
in search.*FOTL P.O. Box 5218
Huntington Beach, CA 92646 $3.50.
ilATURAL PARENTS DOCUMENTATI Oi4
GUIDEBOOK by MJ Rillera. Outline
of documentation and search for
birthparents .*FOTL P.O. Box 5218
Huntington Beach, CA 92646 $3.50.
UNDERSTANDING THE BIRTHPARENT
Edited by Lee Campbell. Twentyfive
bi rthmothers tell their
stories conci sely and honestly.
CUB, po box 573, blilford, MA
01757 -$3.00
THINKING ABOUT ADOPTION? A Guide
for Birth Parents by Candace
Wheeler, MSW. Also: MOVING IN;
SHARED ADVENTURE he1 ping chi 1 d-
ren move into adoption; & WHERE
AM I? All from Winking Ow1
Press, R t 4, Box 4648-12 Juneau,
A1 aska 99803
DEAR DAUGHTER a book of faith,
love & life poetry by Kathy
Wudel , ARA, P.O. Box 304,
Montrose, CA 91020 $5.00.
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MY SEARCH is a looseleaf binder
containing a complete selection
of document hol ders , correspondence
calendars, journal pages,
an adoption family tree, and ten
sections set up to keep accurate
and complete records on your
search. Great for the beginner.
Great to preserve documentation
for those who have completed
their search.*FOTL, P.O. Box
5218, Huntington Beach, CA
$15.00. '
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Voyage, Cedarcdge, CO 81413 $1.00.
Bumperst icker s,
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T-shirts 0
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5. Sandra MUSSER 14. Rod MCKUEN
6. Joseph & Julie QUINLAN 15. Annette BARN
7. Kathleen BENET 16. Jerry HULSE
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in ... foster .-- -- homes - -- and . juvenile detention
facilities in ~alifoinia are from adopted
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going to juvenile court are adopted, although
adoptees represent about 1.5% of the popol ation.
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EXCLUSIVE ......, THE NEXT CONFERENCE! !!
1981 National Adoption Conference
has ..-- been ---.. set -- - for . -. May . 29-31, 1981
at TNA - Bre-h .,. .. Tr ni ng ~caderny
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just outsiae of Kansas City, KS,
Set the dates aside we will be
sending you registration data as
soon as it is available.
Macleans 8-4-80
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AGGREGATE FAMILY : Two divorced cowl es (,KCAAO) B ox 15225, Kansas City, MO 64106
with kids remarry bringing all ~fds
will 6e doing the planning. If you'd like
together into an expanded family.
to help get in touch with them.
Accordins to Alvin Tofler in The Third
1 I Wave. 25% of American kids are art of J
such-family units.
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to be achieved. One can never be free in the future. Future freedom has 1. SMITH 6. MILLtK
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2. JOHNSON 7. DAVIS
3. WILLIAMS 8. ANDERSON
next best, the people honor and praise. The next, the people fear; and
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When the best leader's work is done the people say: "We did it ourselves.
THE BOOK OF TAO
HEAR THE 1980 NATIONAL ADOFrION CONFERENCE
Workshops, Luncheon ,. Banquet and Closing Session held at Disneyland Hotel ,
May 8 '- 11, 1980 in Anaheim, California. Available on 90 minute audio cassette.
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1. POST REUNION COMPARISONS-Larry Bennett, Donna Cullom, Frank 8 Helen Leech, Durie Mulso.
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2. DEVELOPING OUR SEARCH & SUPPORT SYSTEM- Mary Jo Rillera. Emma Vilardi.
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Jeanne ~indsa~; Sandra Musser.
6. PSYCHOTHERAPY & THE ADOPTION CHOICES-Michael Haag, Judy A1 bert, Stan Si lvers tein.
I I 4. INTERMEDIARIES PRO & CON- Sallv File. Andv ~ccimus
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5. PRE-ADOPTION CHOICES-Sandee ~Gcio,
I 1 7. WELCONE LUNCHEON "MERE DID. WE COME FROM/WHY ARE-WE HERE?" Lee -carnobe11 . BJ Li fton . I I
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8. THE GRIEF IN AWPTION-Sharon Kaplan, ~anet Scarpetti, Judy ~lbert.'
9. PROFESSIONAL ACCOUNT1 BIL ITY - Reuben Pannor, May - Boyden. -
I I 98. DEPT OF H.E.W. ~3 ADOPTION- Louise Fleenor. I I
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10. THE EMOTIONAL SEARCH- Diana Brown, Reuben Pannor.
100. GENETICS- Emma May Vi lardi, Beverly Funk.
I I 10C. WHAT IS 'GOOD CAUSE'?- ~irck
W. B~OMI. Judaes Huev P. She~ard
11. .WHO HOLDS THE POWER IN ADOPTION?- dancy carton, ~oan vanstone, Linda Dunn, Sandee Tuccio.
& H. ldalter Steiner. I 1
12. LEGISLATIVE ACTION- INACTION- Bonnie Frank, Ron Lofstrom.
13. LITIGATION-A RECOURSE - Donna Cullom, Attorneys Phil Miller & Ann Haralarrbie.
14. ADOPTEES RIGHTS - Edward J Rizk,
1 I 15. ADOPTION GENEALOGY - Pat Sanders. I 1
16. PREPARATION FOR ACCEPTANCE OR REJECTION -Karen Tinkham, Mary Ann Worth.
18. BIRTHFAMILY INITIATED SEARCH- Michael Haag , Lee Campbell, Joan Vanstone.
19. BLACK MARKET ADOPTION- Karen Wickham.
20. CITIZEN LOBBYING-John Leitzau.
1 I 21. BANOUET "WHY ARE WE HEREIWHERE ARE WE GOING?-Eddie Ri zk, Di rck Brown. Emna V i lardi . I I
~ a rJo i Rillera, Pat Sanhers, Braer Bear, Lee ~am~bell;-Bett~ Jean s if ton, Sally ~ile.
22. MODEL ADOPTION ACT & OTHER SIGNIFICANT LEGISLATIOKLee Campbell, Louise Fleenor.
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1980 NATIONAL ADOPTION CONFERENCE Cassettes ...... 1
TRIADOPTION LIBRARY Year End Report .............. 3
1980 NATIONAL ADOPTION CONFERENCE STATISTICS ..... I 4
1980 CONFERENCE SCRAPBOOK ........................ 5
INTERNATIONAL SOUNDEX REUNION REGISTRY REPORT, ... 7
TEEN MOTHERS CAN MAKE IT -- WITH EXTRA HELP, ..... 9
SOCIAL SECURITY NUMBERS ......................... 11
SAYS BRITAIN - On Adoption ...................... 11
HEW RESPONSE STATISTICS On Model Adoption Act.. .l2
CHILD ADOPTIONS BY TYPE Statisti'cs .............. 12
AN OPEN LETTER TO ADOPTIVE PARENTS .............. 13
INFANT WELFARE SOCIETY Card ..................... 14
NEED WE SAY MORE? ............................... 15
MARKET .......................................... 17
AWARENESS PROJECT Magazine
Editor - Mary Jo Rillera
Contributors - Di ane Robi e,
Di ane Defl ey , Sandee Tuccio,
Patty Burlingame, Emma May
Vi 1 ardi , Jeanne Warren Li:ndsay ,
Pat Sanders.
Photos - Steve Ri 1 lera
Judy A1 bert
Cartoons - Jerry, Sanders
Officers
President-Ma~y Jo .Ri 11 era
Vice. President- Helen Leech
Secretary-Bonni e Endo
Treasurer-Lynne Wal ker
PRI NTED by FANTASTIC
PRINTING - Huntington Beoch,CA
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have subscriptions speci f i'cal ly, to the magazi'ne
or to our newsletters. Instead they are distri -
buted to all those people who have become Friends
of Triadoption Li.brary tjy donati'ons. It i's our
gift to all of you because you were generous in
giving a gift to further the work of gathering
and making adoption information available. At
this t7me Triad OPTIONS will be pub.Iished twice
each year and occassionally we may see the need
for special i'ssues.
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AD! ISORY COUNCIL
Annette Baran. LCSW - Cal i fornia
Diana Brown - F1 ori da
Di rck W. Brown, PhD. - California
May Boyden, MFCC - Ca1 i forni a
Linda Cannon Burgess, MSW -
Washington, D. C.
Lee Campbell - Massachusetts
Donna Cullom - Illinois
Jeanette Kamen - Minnesota
David Kirk, Phd. - Canada
Betty Jean Lifton New York
Reuben Pannor, LCSW - California
Patricia Sanders, ISC - California
Karen Ti nkham - Ari zona
Joan Vanstone - Canada
Emma May V i 1 ardi - Nevada
The next issue will feature the results of the
Organization Stati stical Study presently underway,
i nforniati on on the 1981 Conference coming
up, ISC and ISC Institute, and Letters From
Mi nors .
Triad OPTIONS Magazine is distributed to
Triadoption Library Contributors:
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$500 PATRON, $1000 BENEFACTOR.
Your donations are tax deductible. Mail
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'I'riadoption Library ended it.' second fiscal year on
June 30, 1980. We have accomplished many of our goals
and look forward to the progressively productive years
ahead. Our financial report follows as submitted by our
Treasurer, Lynne Walker. Last May, at the 1980 National
Adoption Conference we held our annual board meeting and
elected Eddie Rizk and Audrey Sedita to the Board of
Trustees, Steve Rillera was voted to another three year
term, and Frank Leech and myself remained on the board.
In additi'on the Advisory Counci,l was appointed (see
previous page) for 1980-81, the offi'cers were elected
and an Executive Committee appo'nted to run the Center.
Those persons serving on the Executive Committee are:
Bonnie Endo, May Boyden, Pat Sanders, Sandee Tuccio,
Fran Kurrle, Patty Burl ingame, Judy A1 bert, 00-nnie Frank, Jan Long and any other volunteers
who are involved on a daily basiS,s. The work required to host the Conference took its to11
on all our volunteers but we are slowly catching up and moving ahead. The most exciting
news is that recently APPLE Computer Co. donated the computer system we requested and we are
now about to begin the programing of the International Referral Service, contacts, search
and research information for each state and other countries, and the study statistics. I
eati't begin to express what this computer means to us.. ..and to the movement. It will allow
US to cross-reference enormous amounts of information we have struggled to organize before
and cut our work load and time in half. By the end of this year we hope to instigate a
service to searchers and researchers that will give them a read-out of information about
any state they desire. In many ways this computer changes our whole focus of the Library
as a data bank. In the same way the microfi.1m and microfiche readers are about to change
simi1 ar storage problems. Presently, we have over 300 City Di.rect0ri.e~ and 3000 Telephone
Directories. If we keep adding to our collection at the present rate we will have to have
an office the size of a ci ty block By 1985. We are pl eased that these micro record keeping
devises will allow us to bOi1d data wittiout needing so much space. THANKS AGAIN TO APPLE! !!
We've included some photos of the Library to share with you. Hope they give you a real
vision of our people and our offices. The Organizational Statistical Study that is underway
will be available in the spring. The fi'gures are already encouraging reflections of the
type of contact each parhicipant group i,s getti'ng. I think the results will be valuable.
Have a safe, healthy, happy and productive 19811 GOD BLESS ,
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TRIADOPTION LIBRARY, IMC .
TRIADOPTION LIBRARY, INC.
INCOME & EXPENSE STATWNT
BALANCE SHEET
For the Twelve llonths Ended June 30, 1980 June 30, 1980
INCOME
Cash donations $6,398.54 ASSETS
Other donations 380.00
Total Income $6,778.54 Cash in Bank $ 70.09
Library Equipment 624.54
Books 600.00
EWENSES
Total Assets $1,294.63
Books $ 198.69
Insurance 229.00
Legal and accounting 88.56
Library supplies 168.57 LIABILITIES & SURPLUS
Off ice expense 572.92
Postage 542.24
Promotional costs 97.65 Surplus 6-30-79 $ 790.17
Publishing costs 1,064.21
Ren c 1,276.00 Plus: Surplus for year
Taxes & fees 10. 00 ended 6-30-80 504.46
Telephone 1,635.78
Video expense 10.55 Total Surplus
Xerox . 379.91
Total Expenses 6,274.08 Unaudited
Surplus $ 504.46
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The 1980 NATIONAL ADOPTION CONFERENCE sponsored by the Western Region of AAC was held
at the Disneyland Hotel in Anahei'm. California May 8 . 11 . Nearly. 200 people attended'
from around the nation and here are some statistics showing the representation . Many
indivi!dual s who attended had no organization affi 1 iation. others indicated more than one .
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ADOPTEE ........................ 70
-BIRTHPARENT....................
42
ADOPTIVE PARENT ................ 17
SPOUSE OF TRIAD MEMBER .......... 8
BIRTH SIBLING ................... 2
ADOPTIVE SIBLING ................ 1
BIRTH RELATIVE .................. 3
ADOPTIVE RELATIVE ............... 3
IN SEARCH ............. 32
REUNITED .............. 59
RECORD SEARCHER ................. 7
SEARCH CONSULTANT .............. 10
COUNSELOR ....................... 6
ATTORNEY ........................ 5
PHYSICIAN ....................... 1
SOCIAL WORKER .................. 21
OTHER ........................... 3
At the Grand Banquet. Mary Jo Rillera
introduced Nancy and her birthrnother.
Donna; Ann and her birthmother. Cora;
Dorothy and her birth uncle Wes; pat
and Rita. half-birthsi sters; Bets9 and
her birthparents. Lucille and George;
Ivy and her birthson. Chris; Fran and
her birthmother. Iva and her adoptive
mother. Florence; her own bi rthrnom.
He1 en . . There 'was an ironic moment when
the reunited stood amid gasps (they
numbered over 100). Di sneyl and's nightly
9 p.m. fireworks began . It couldn't
have been more appropriate! We must be
doing something right! Not only are
people finding but they are establishing
continuing and mutual ly benefici a1
relationships .
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ADOPTEES IDENTITY MOVEMENT of Mi chi gan ...... 2
ADOPTEES IDENTITY MOVEMENT of New York ...... 1
ADOPTEES IN SEARCH .......................... 1
ADOPTEES RESEARCH ASSOCIATION ............... 1
ADOPTION RESOURCE CENTER(ARC.9) ............. 2
ADOPTION FORUM OF PHILADELPHIA.' ............. 4
ADOPTIVE PARENTS FOR.OPEN RECORDS ........... 4
ADOPTS6ARCH ................................. 2
ALMA ....................................... 15
CALIFORNIA CITIZENS ADOPTION COALITION ...... 1
CENTRAL COA9T ADOPTION SUPPORT GROUP ........ 1
CHILDRENS HOME SOCIETY ..................... I1
CONCERNED UNITED BIRTHPARENTS .............. 29
F.A.C.E ..................................... 1
HOLY FAMILY SERVICES ........................ 2
INDEPENDENT SEARCH CONSULTANTS .............. 4
KANSAS CITY ADULT ADOPTEES ORGANIZATION ..... 5
NORTH AMERICAN COUNCIL ON ADOPTABLE CHILDREN1
OPEN DOOR SOCIETY ........................... 5
OASIS ....................................... ' 2
OPERATION IDENTITY .......................... 2
ORPHAN VOYAGE ............................... 3
PARENT FINDERS of Canada .................... 4
POST ADOPTION CENTER EDUCATION d RESEARCH ... 7
SEARCH ...................................... 3
SEARCH FINDERS .............................. 2
STATE DEPT . of ADOPTIONS-California ......... 2
TENNESSEE ADOPTEES IN SEARCH ................ 1
TRIADOPTION LIBRARY ........................ 11
TRUTHSEEKERS ................................ 2
VISTA DEL MAR ................................ 1
WASHINGTON ADOPTEES RIGHTS MOVEMENT ......... 8
YESTERDAYS CHILDREN ........................ 10
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P.O. Box 2312 -- Carson City, Nevada 89701
On December 1, 1979
SECTION #1: 3,012 Regi strations
SECTION #2: 1,144 Regi strations
Ration #1 to #2 (-2.63 to! 1)
HOLD FILE: 294 Registrations
TOTAL ACTIVE ENTRIES 4,450
Between December .I, 1979 and October
1, 1980 there were approxi'mately 1,500
searches concluded that were reported to
ISRR and 8 ISRR regi'stry matches leaving
a balance of 2,942 Active Entri'es. **
Note** : Five additional matches were made
but not consumated as &he first party had
moved and failed to update ISRR or thei'r
'Triad group. All data filed was. released
to the remaining party who registered.
On October .l, 1980
"United Today For The Reunions Of Tomowow"
Ensrna May Vilardi
The ISRR Report reflects registrations
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TOTAL REGISTRATION INCREASE 3,144 between
active on December 1st 1979 and to October
December 1, 1979 and October 1, 1980.
1st 1980. It does not reflect searchs
completed, nor registry matchs prior to
The Hold Fi 1 e contains registrations
December 1st 1979. At present there are
fi led by bi rthparents and adoptive parents
178 triad organizations now participating
of minor adoptees. 36 Registrations were
in the ISRR. In addition referrals come
activated during this eight month period.
from attorneys, doctors, agencies, State
36 Waivers of Confidentiality were filed
Departments of Soci a1 Services , Libraries ,
by Birthparents and 7 by Adoptive Parents
media, Genealogical societies and others.
of minor adoptees. There were no matches'
where these waivers were filed. The Hold
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SECTION ONE referant, indicates Adoptees,
File regi strations increased by 214.
Adopti v.e Parents, Foster Chi 1 dren, Foster
Parents, etc. There were 268 registrations pertaining
to life taking genetic factors. There
SECTION TWO .- referant, indicates Birth- were 34 deaths occurring from the above
parents, other next-of-kin by bi'rth.
reported to the ISRR.
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SECTION #1: 4,084 Registrations
SECTION #2: 2,002 Registrations
Ratio #1 to #2 (2.01 to. .I)
,HOLD FILE: 472 Registrations
TOTAL ACTIVE ENTRIES 6,086
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MEDIC .ALERT: GARDNER' S SYNDROME
Two families searching for a total of
22 (twenty-two) chi 1 dren placed for
adoption. If any one registers witti
your group noting this illness, please
contact ISRR irnnediately!
MY ELOCYTIC LEUKEMIA
Two deaths reported, three adult
adoptees in need of -bone (marrow)
grafts from next-of-kin, by b t h .
Life expectancy, 3% years. Again,
if anyone registers noting thi's
illness contact ISRR.
, A great many diseases are genetic.
Leukemia i 11 us trates thi s di versi ty
of causation. For at least one classification
there are four different
leukemias in childhood, familial.
Di seases proven re1 ated to heredity:
~ol~mentosa, Neurofi bromatosi s , .
Gardner' s Syndrome, Basal Cell Ner-
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vus Syndrome. Di seases suspcc LCU
related to heredity but not proven:
Leukemia, Myeloma, Macroglobul i nemi a,
Hemangiobl as toma, Me1 anoma.
A complete copy of this report has been
provided to Triadoption Library and is '
available for cost of duplication and
postage. (50$).

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STATE #1 #2 Regist.
NEW HAMPSHIRE 5 5 .2%
NEW MEXICO 14 4 .3%
NEW YORK 106 47 2.5%
NEW YORK CITY 159
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NORTH CAROLINA 18 13 - . EP d o
NORTH DAKOTA 8 9 .3%
OHIO 109 64 2.8%
OKLAHOMA 40 17 . 9%
OREGON 60
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PENNSYLVANIA 255 79 5.9%
RHODE ISLAND 7 3 .2%
SOUTH CAROLINA 32 7 .6%
SOUTH DAKOTA 9 1 .2%
TENNESSEE 82 39 2.0%
TEXAS 151 57 3.4%
UTAH 10 5 .2%
VERMONT 7 4 .2%
VIRGINIA 57 19 1.2%
WASHINGTON 333 134 7.7%
WEST VIRGINIA 10 7 .3%
WISCONSIN 42 23 i. 1%
WYOMING 5 3 .I%
CANADA 41 I1 .8%
ABROAD 35 16 .8%
HOLD FILE 22 450 7.8%
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TOTAL ACTIVE REGISTRATIONS IN ISRR i 6,086 Persons
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STATE #1 #2 Regist.
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ALABAMA 6 1 .l%
ALASKA 1 4 .l%
ARIZONA 70 18 1.4%
ARKANSAS 8 7 .2%
CALIFORNIA 728 295 17.0%
COLORADO 131 41 2.8%
CONNECTICUT 31 6 .6%
DELAWARE 12 7 .3%
DISTRICT OF COLUMBIA 47 18 1.1%
FLORIDA 64 32 1.6%
GEORGIA 26 11 ,6%
HAWAI I 3 2 ' .I%
IDAHO 12 5 .3%
ILLINOIS 365 104 7.7%
INDIANA 69 36 1.7%
IOWA 49 20 1.1%
KANSAS 20 8 .5%
KENTUCKY 20 8 .5%
LOUISIANA 32 10 .7%
MAINE 11 3 .2%
MARY LAND 21 7' .5%
MASSACHUSETTS 60 26 1.4%
MICHIGAN 144 120 4.3%
MINNESOTA 69 34 1.7%
MISSISSIPPI 11 2 .2%
MISSOURI 279 38 5.2%
MONTANA 20 9 .5%
NEBRASKA 46 11 .9%
NEVADA 20 8 .5%
NEW JERSEY 62 24 1.4%
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STATE #1 #2 Regist .-
NEW HAMPSHIRE 5 5 .2%
NEW MEXICO 14 4 .3%
NEW YORK 106 47 2.5%
NEW YORK CITY 159 53 3.5%
NORTH CAROLINA 18 13 .+- .5%
NORTH DAKOTA 8 9 .3%
OHIO 109 64 2.8%
OKLAHOMA 40 17 .9%
OREGON 60 17 1.3%
PENNSYLVANIA 285 79 5.9%
RHODE ISLAND 7 3 .2%
SOUTH CAROLINA 32 7 .6%
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SOUTH DAKOTA 9 1 .2%
TENNESSEE 82 39 2.0%
TEXAS 151 57 3.4%
UTAH 10 5 .2%
VERMONT 7 4 -2%
VIRGINIA 57 19 1.2%
WASHINGTON 333 134 7.7%
WEST VIRGINIA 10 7 -3%
WISCONSIN 42 23 1.1%
WYOMING 5 3 .l%
CANADA 41 11 .8%
ABROAD 35 16 -8%
HOLD FILE 22 450 7.8%
TOTALS 4,084 2,002 100.0%
TOTAL ACTIVE REGISTRATIONS IN ISRRI
6,086 Persons
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By Jeanne Warren Lindsay
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One-fifth -- about 600,000 -- of for pre~nant students, in 1972. Like . .
the babies delivered each year in the many Cimilar California classes, this . .
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United States are born to teenage moth- ARC" Unified School District program is
ers. About two-fifths of these young funded through - Special - Education.
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mothers are not married. Nearly 15,00fi
After two years of offering the
r e less than 15 years old. . .
special class, however, the district real-
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In the past, an overwhelming ma- ized that, while it was great to help
jority of these young single mothers a ~irls stay in school throughout pregnan-
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would have been "expected" to release cy, too often young women were lost from . .
their children for adoption. Today the the system after delivery. Sometimes
pendulum has shifted -- only about eiglzt they brought their babies to school with
percent of the young single mothers i.n them while they were in the Teen Mother
the
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United States surrender their chil- Program and struggled to complete high
dren school with their babies beside thek.
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on .adoption But this didn't work very well. . .and
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as the "solution" for young
if/when they went back to the regular
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and their babies caucr~rl high school, the babieb could not
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fvamandnllc nain
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qLu , , L 1 1 1 b I A U V U - r yu LA.
F,., f +ha na,
The
go along.
luarly wl LllL r,;>ple involved.
idea that a 16 year old could give birth In 1974 the district opened an
to her baby, then immediately forget Infant Center for babies aged two
the whole thing and return to her former
life was obviously ridiculous. Life was
weeks to two years. Young mothers
work with their babies one period each
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far from satisfying for many birth moth- day and attend regular classes the rest
ers who tried to forqet. C of the day. Suddenly it was possible
I T\.-L - -I- - A. -L---A. BUL w n a L iluvu~ *"? Lrle hundreds of to be a "good" mother and attend
thousands of very young mothers today school at the same time. Grandmothers,
who keep their -- hahies -..-- --- 1 to rear them- many of them unavailable for babyselves?
Are t ~ ., P V ,,..----- u~nera11~ leading . sat- sitting anyhow, no longer were taking
isfying lives? Whern .= aLF =mn they in com- over. Babies fared well in the excellent
parison with young . women who do not developmental center. The young mothctart
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+hair Familioc i
their teens?
ers finally could be successful in their
I dual role of student/mother. Their self-
Results of several re: search projects esteem improved
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remarkably.
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have suggested that a w oman who delivers
a 'baby before she is 18 is apt But were there lasting C results?
to find 90 percent of her life script al- Or did these young mothers fall back
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ready written. 0-1 .. n v
llLY ~,le in five of into the welfare cycle so often associated
nraJll;lt:es from high
with early parenthood? In order to find
these young mothers ,..UU-.
school. They will have more children out, a survey was made last spring of
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and are more apt to fall LIILU LILC WCIfare
cycle than are women who first begram,
come mothers after age 20.
But is this grim.. filtil~n i n ~ x r i t -
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able for most young mothel :s everywhere? A questionnaire was included in
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UT car1 a L ~ L - L L I CUIIIIIIUIILL~ ~ make a diffthe
invitation to the annual. alumnae
1 erence?
potluck supper. One hundred one former
TMP students who were enrolled in the . -.
One such community -- Cerritos, special program . between 1972 and June, I
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+ + ..., -I alumane of the Cerritos Teen Mother Pro-
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California -- started the Teen Mother 1978, either- returned the completed - ques- 1
Program, a special full school program tionnaire or gave the information td the 1
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teacher by telephone. Respondents represented
about half the total students
ei~rol'led in the program during the first
six years of its existence. Some inter-
esting -- and quite positive -- information
about young mothers was revealed.
Sixty-four (63 per cent) of the respondents
have graduated from high
school. An additional nine were still
in high school. Only 28 percent of the
TMP dlumnae have dkopped out -- a sharp
contrast to the 80 percent dropout rate
for young mothers generally.
Sixteen of the high school graduates
(33 percent of the graduat;s, 16
percent of the total respondents) are
either in college or have been enrolled
in college classes.
Eighty-seven (86 percent) of the
respondents have worked in the past
and/or are working now. Of the remaining
twenty-four, t;n are still in school.
Eleven of the others are married. Only
three of the mothers who are single and
not in school have never been employed,
one because her child is only seven
months old.
While 71 (70) percent of these former
students were on welfare at some
time, usually during pregnancy and for
a short time afterward, only 23 still
receive AFDC (Aid to Families with Dependent
Children). Of these 23, 10 are
still in school, three are working and
will soon be independent of welfare.
Only one in ten of the respondents is
not working, not in school, and is still
receiving welfare! Each of these young
women is a single mother, and several
n,entioned having worked in the past
and/or planning to go back to school
or find work in the near future.
A
recent Rand Corporation survey
of California families headed by a single
parent under the age of 25 showed 90
percent of these families depending on
welfare if the younq parent had not
earned her/his high school diploma.
TMP alumnae don't fit this statistic!
Half of the respondents (50) are
still with the father of the baby, and
most of these couples are married.
Some young mothers offered advice
to other teenagers. Typical was the
follow in C q : "Having children at a young
age is satisfying to me, but sometimes
I wish I had waited. I love my - children,
and I wouldn't give them up for
anything, but 1 don't advise anyone
who has big plans to get pregnant too
young. Your children should always
come first, and with plans for the future,
it's not always possible to spend
enough time with them. 11
Another young mother commented,
"I think having children is a very big
responsibility. Lots of kids nowadays
think that having a baby will help a
marriage or make you more qrownup.
1t isnc't so. A child needs La stable
home life and lots and 1ots.01 attention
You have to give up alot of 'your.ow~
life -- but they're worth it .I1'
Teenage Motherhood: Social and
Economic Consequences was published
last year by - The Urban Institute, WashinRton,
D.C. Authors Moore et a1 based'
their report on a massive research study
funded by the Center for Population Research,
National Institutes of Health,
U. S. Department of Health, Education,
and Welfare. Results of this research
showed the tremendous impact of early
childbearing on education, family size,
earnings, and welfare dependency .-
After
carefully revie::~ing the re-
search, the authors made the foilowinc~ .-J
recommendations concernin: the specj a1
help young mothers need in order to
continue their education:
.The loss of education associated with a .birth
durin the high school years has important and
long-!asting consequences. Women with less
education have larger families, experience more
frequent marital instability, work less, are
employed at lower paying jobs, are more likely
to experience poverty, and have a higher probability
of requiring public assistance tha'n
their better-educated peers. This suggests
the importance of programs that enable teenage
mothers to continue their schooling. ..
Special programs in the schools are needed to
assist and encourage teenage mothers. to remain
in school. Infant day care is a crltical requirement
for these young mothers. Special
counseling may be necessary to help mothers
cope with the multiple demands on their time
and energy. Technical or vocational trainin
mi ht prove useful for young wo en confronte
wi 9 h the need to support a child. !'
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Generally, pregnant -.a teenagers no
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longer are "expected" to surrender their
babies. Indeed, in some areas, peer
and family pressure may almost rule out
the possibility of adoption as an option.
For many young mothers, this seems a
far healthier trend than did expecting
them all to give up their babies simply
because of age and/or marital status.
However, school age parents . often
need lots of special help.. Far too many
of them will drop out of school and find
themselves depending on welfare for survival
if they don't receive this help.
They need special school classes geared
to the needs and interests they have
as parents as well as teenagers. Above
all, they . need help with child care so
they can continue their education and
career development.
How is your community helping
school age parents cope with the reality
of early parenthood?
1. Moore, Kristin A., Sandra L. Hofferth, St;:ven
B. Caldwell, and Linda J. Waite. Teensge Motherhood:
Social and Economic Consequences. January, 1979.
The Urban Institute, 2100 M Street, N.W., Washington,
'my@
D.C. 20037. $4.00.
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A social security number tells you a
lot about the person to whom it was
issued. The first three numbers indicate
the area or region that it was issued in.
The second two are the group numbers and
the last four are serial numbers.
(477) - (54) - (2158)
AREA GROUP # SERIAL #
0 - Northeastern
1 - Mid Atlantic
2 - Southeastern
3 - Great Lakes
4 - Mid America
5 - Western
7 - Issued to Railroad
Ernpl oyees
9 - Temporary issued to
We1 fare recipients.
"The Houghton Committee's advice was em-
. IIExrmL~~
"In Britkiin the prevailing view is that bodied in the Childrens Bill sent to
to encoufage stepparent adoption is bad Parliament in 1975. The new law accepts
social policy. The Houghton Committee on guardianship as the preferred alternative
adopthon law reform in 1972 came down for many stepparents wanting a lega.1 form
strongly against the practice. The com- of relationship with their stepchildren,
mitteels basic aXgUInent was that adoption ekcept that it is now to be called
is an irrevocable legal act that Cuts a . custodianship. 1t means that the legal
legitimte child off not only from one of custody of the child is transferred to the
its legitimate biological parents but stepparent, but that the child keeps his
from an entire half of his own family. original family name and ties.
It wipes out kinship links with brothers,
cousins, grandparents, and aunts. For the "Stepparent adoption is yet another example
many spteparents with stepchildren by of supposedly enlightened attitudes in
divorce, the Houghton Committee felt that conflict. One holds that adoption is dein
most cases guardianship was a better sirable because it gives the stepchild the
solution. If stepparents were embarrassed nearest approximation to the secure status
by the difference in surname, the name of a child living with his two natural
could be legally changed. Any uncertainity parents. The other holds that a child%
about inheritance could be eliminated by identity is derived from his real kin, that
providing for the stepchild in a will. it is his unique biological and cultural
inheritance that should not be taken away. tl
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Quoted from THE HALF-PAFU3NT by Brenda Maddox, 1975, M. Evans and Co. New ~ork, NY.

THE MODEL ADOPTION ACT
DEPARTMENT OF HEALTH, EDUCATION 81 WELFARE RECEIVED THE FOLLOWING
NUMBER OF RESPONSES FROM COMMENTATOR GROUPS SUPPORTING OR OPPOSING OPEN RECORDS
\\ Con Open ~tscords , IIIIIIIIIII P ~ O ope11 I(ecords
El = 'I'otal N11rnt)cr of Collllllcnts 011 I Ilec:trrtls, 1,y ( : ~ J I I I I I I ~ ! I,II.OI.
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(;I o\llr:;
Adult: Adopt1 ve Ulrth Co~~cer ned I'c~i ti0119 Vo I\II)\ i11:Y :; 1 . ~ I 1 I: I O 1 1'11l11 i I:
Adoptee Parent IJarctrt Citizens A~~I:I\L+~ At,jlatic-y o l ~ ~ ~ Z,I i ~ L l i lI'JII
i Ak~t'l!~~'~'
N= 982 N=1,343 1.1 3 8 3 ti=?, 4 65 I , 9 111 11.- 12'1 tl:.. IU ! 1 = :! 4 tl 10
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Child adoptions by type
UnCfeb States rg52 1960 r965 r 968 BZi! .mL
Total 85,000 107,000 142,000 166,000 175,000 169,000
By relatives 43,000 49,000 65,000 80,000 82,000 86,000
Non-re1 ati ve 42,000 58,000 77,000 86,000 89,000 83,000
*National Center for Social Stubies, S€atiktica'L Abstract of tfje Uniteb States, 1973;
No. 508, "Cfjtlb Abop €ions by Type1', 1952 - I 97 1 . HE.. fjas not publisfjeb recent
figures for tack of sufficient bafn.
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** Step-parent aboptions are counteb as' '43y Relafive'
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AN OPEN LETTERTO ADOPTlVE
PARENTS from another adoptive parent
By Diane Robie - Florida
Everytime I read something about
adoptees' wanting to. "search" or even
"wonder" about their natural (birth)
parents, I hear deep criticism, even
open hosti 1 i ty , towards you, the adoptive
parents. This attitude that accepts
adoptive parents'' fears without
any concern for understanding WHY
these fears exist is most disturbing.
I think it is time to get down to the
bottom of the problem (the fears, the
whys of feeling threatened), and try
to solve it.
The many, many examples of adoptive
parents squelching the desire in thei.r
adoptive children to "wonder" about a
perfectly natural concern. . . thei r
heritage.. . is most alarming. Some of
you adoptive parents may be afraid that
your child, whom you've lovingly nurtured
for eighteen years wi 11 leave you
emotionally and turn toward their birth
parents. You fear this, because you have
been told that your adoptive child will
not think about their natural parents if
their home life is better than what the
natural parent could have offered. And,
certainly, you are told the adoptive
home is more stable, more secure or the
natural parents wouldn't have had to
give the child up. No doubt, you were
also told that the natural mother wi.11
renew her life, forget the trauma of a
"child out of wedlock" and never want to
be reminded of the experience agai'n. And
just who is it who has given you adopti
ve parents these ideas? The agencies,
the counselors, and the legiqslators who
have voted in the "sealed record" laws.
I rarely hear or read anything about
MHY you feel the way you do, only that
you do. It is ended there; no wondering
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on the writers part as to WHY you feel
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1 threatened, hurt, upset. It seems to me
that people just assume or accept that
adoptive parents were born this way, or,
maybe these feelings are just a part of
being an adoptive parent. These are
nei they. reasonable or logi ca1 deductions.
Has anyone of you ever given any
thought as to where you learned this
behaviour? You were to1 d that the
natural mother "legally" gave up the
child, she cannot come back and reclaim
the child, she wi7l "forget"
and make another 1 ife for herself.
You were also assured that the records
are sealed and nobody will ever be able
to get to the real information.. ..there
is nothing to fear. You are also lead
to believe that your adoptive child will
not want to make any inquiries if tie/she
is well-adjusted and happy; and, of .... . .
course, that i s your responsi'bi 1 i'ty as
parents to make sure that child i.s happy
and well-adjusted.
Now, take a1 1 that professi.ona1 advise
and try to handle those "wonderi'ng"
questions your adoptive chi'ld has such
as "I wonder what my natural mother looks
1 i ke?" Are you going to believe that your
chi 1 d i s growing up to be a we1 1 -adjusted,
happy adult? No, unless you didnl't 6elieve
the professional advice. If you did
be1 ieve it, then you are going to find
yourself questioning your abilities as a
parent.
Instead of hearing what that inquiry
really was, you wi 11 more than li'kely
interpret it as "I wonder if my natural
mother is as good (or better). than you
(his/her adoptive parent)?" There is a
difference, and you need to be able to
realisticly hear just exactly what your
child is saying. The negative interpre- :
tation is typical because no one bothered
to tell the adoptive parent that the .:
child just might have the same curiousity
that a natural child has about his/ber
historical background. If this natural
curiosity is accepted i.n the natural
child, and it is, then why is it not
accepted in the adoptive child?
Why do agencies, and counselors try to
tell us adoptive parents that our child '
will not have this curiosity? Why are
the legislators legalizing the denial of
this natural, curiosity?

Here is a typical example of a
conversation in our home concerning
this:
"Did you know my natural mother?"
"NO, I didn't. 'I
"I wonder what she looks like?"
"Umm, I do too. I wonder if her
hair is red 1 i ke yours?"
"I would like to see her?"
"What are you curious about?"
"Well, I don't know, I would
just like to see her. I I
"We1 1, I can understand that. l i
Now really, what is so difficult
about that? Even if you have never
had a conversation like that with
your adoptive child, you can feel
assured that these types of questions
are there in hislher mind, and tielshe
should be able to ask them.
Let's stop a1 1 the unnecessary fears ;
Let's understand our chi 1drens natural
curiosity and desire for information.
It's theri right, let's give it to them.
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]INFANT WELFARE SOCLETY
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I MINNEAPOLIS 1
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hFlilk
TRAINING
k bat.~y ;liould sleep ftsoni tlic time he is put to beti at
11i~lit until morning.
:;I 3~1ld he given tc tlic haby in a cup.
Tastes,af catldy, cookies, food from the table should not
be t) ven. If this 1ial:it is never started, the baby wiil
not :I-y for these things.
Flace the baby oti a bl.31rket on the floot' and let hini
lezrn to amirse hiseF He should not be played
wi:h or lialidletl unttecess;crily.
Do not urge a baby to stand or walk.
DIET. .
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Crl.cnls: Crcam of Wli-at, Cream of Barley, Farina,
Silns, Vitos. (Cook ?- ~IGLI?~ in clouble boiler.)
Oatliieal, Pcttijohn's (Cool: 4 hours in double boiler).
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Serve tl-ick, n little si:yars may be itsed, but NO MILK.
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Vegetables: CatSrots, spinach, peas, stl.ing heans, cauliflower.
Cook in small amount of salted water until
soft atid icnder (not nior? than 30 ininutes). Put
through sieve, add a little butter.
Toast or zwciback should be given for the baby to
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cliew on. 'I'his helps to develop tiis jaws.
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Card given with placement of adoptee, Patty Burlingame
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NEED WE SAY MORE ?
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; I 81 PAUL LEVINE, Attorney-at-ia-
When the stalc health dep;~r~nlenr i)I>tlilt;:I ;I I'an~ilg' i
planning clinic and began gi\.ing t~ir~h controi pi\\s to 1
teenage girls - without. telling their pal.ent+ --- ihc outraged
parents sued to stop thc practice.
"The clinic is violating the parents' constrtutional
right to care for their children's welt'art~." their Iatvyer t.oltl
the judge when the case went to trial.
But the health department's lawyer ..
urguid: "hensense
- the rights of the kids come first.
11'you were the judge. ufould ~'ou f'orce the clinic to tell
parents that their minor daughters were getting birth con
trol pills?
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The parents lose. The court ruled that the clinic: did 1101
violate their constitutional rights. The jutigc noted that thy
state has an interest in the welfare 01' chil(1rcn. but htl a!so
pointed out that the parents "remain 1'retl to exercise their
traditional care, custody and control over their childre11
IILIM-O .- I!-* 1tdvr.11 r . .lt ~ tltt19. .
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Theirs was a loving and blissful
marriage. 'They adopted two
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chi\-
dren, Sandra and Ronnie, and the
mansion on Maple ilrlve in-
Rills became filled with toys an:
-laughter and a wonderful family=
>urns &-Allenw had become one of
xe leading rado programs.
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Mother Claims Abortion Issue
bPart of Girl's Ploy to Wed
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A ANA -- A 16-year-old girl who
aim her mother wants her to have an
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';ibo&n against her will has filed suit as a
ploy to get her mother's permission to get
married, the mother's lawyer charged
Friday in Superior Court.
I Pat Ronayne, attorney for Barbara
.Nort)lcutt, told Judge Robert H. Green:
'1The~daughter wants to get married. She
.has already made one mistake by getting
Northcutt from discussing the abortion
with her daughter.
Jim Gonzales, 19, who identified himself
in court papers as the father of the unborn
child, is also suing Mrs. Northcutt to, block
the abortion.
In an interview, attorney Robert Sassone
said that he was hired by the grl and her
boyfriend Monday, only hours before her
scheduled abortion.
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F i pregnant and she shouldn't be &o%ed 6 Neither of Sassone's cl~ents was ~rescnt I
ERMA BOMRECK, when asked to name
%ake a second by getting married.
-."h. Northcutt has the right to exercise
the personal j~ossession that has given
her the most value for the money, offered
this reply:
.&r duty as a mother to decide whether her
.mmor daughter can get married."
. ',.-Judge Green replied: "I assume the
'"I would have to say, my w'edding daughter could get married in some jurisring.
For years, it has done its job. It has diction that allows a 16-year-old to get
led me . . not into temptation. It has re- narrkd."
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minded my husband numeroils timcs at When Ronayne told the court he had not
parties that it's iime to go home. It has ~eccived the required legal papers from the
been q source of relief to a dinner .zirl's.
- attorney, Green continued the case
com~anion. It has been a status svmbol un -- ~i -. 1 June ---- 26.- --.
!n the materzty ward. It has rcn;lnded rct.11 ,also continued a temporary rcme
every day of the last " 30 . wars that I t r order ~ mut~d Mondav whrch
have sonleone who loves me."
I,l~cks in abortion for IK- vcar-oid CIRI hl.
-1vfl X~\I)LI III .\/IJII~~~II~I,~I/I 1,urdon. The court ordtlr prcvcnts !tr+
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at the hearing. He said the grl had gone to
Tulsa, Okla, to joln her father.
Said Sassone: "Crgi plans to stay out of
state until she gets the klnd of ruhng she
wants."
Mrs. Northcutt declined to be interviewed
outside the courtrocjrn, but her
attorney saic! she's confusc:l ahout her
daughter and "she ~usl doest;':
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unders~anci
why her daughlcr is r:olr:g !kt;:;.
Ronayne sa~d hjrs Vorrhc::!.! is opposed
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ti1 !he nlarnage tltl .. ;;i. si:. .biii~~:: hpr
fj~ilgk,;.;~ ;:?.,: 1.:;. in;j ; 53, I),..
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UP FOR
ADOPTION
Little People a specia
kind. of babies
At BabyLand General Hospital in Cleveland, Ga.,
there is astaff of 130 trained "doctors" and "nurses," a1
specializing in. the same field: "delivering babies."
These unique babies don't wet, won't have k go to pollege,
don't run up the family food bill, and best yet, they
don't .. talk back.
Babies? Little People soft sculpture babies, that is.
They are one-of -a- kind babies, handstitched to birth,
even come complete with birth certificate. But they
cannot be bought - only adopted!
Just like realbabies, Little People are either found in
a Cabbage Patch or delivered by the Stork. "We believe
the birds and bees are a big help too," said the designer -
physician of the Little People, Xavier Roberts, better
knowh as chief -of-staff.,
When asked who adopts the Little People, Roberts
replied, "Well. 90% are adopted by adults. But I have
also fourid that children and sinlgles.make terrific parents."
"Ado-'
start at $125. an-5-
w e adopted out in the past two years,
The babies are not merely playthings; they're an investment
as well. Being signed in limited editions, the
Little People are a col!ector's prize. The blue of the
first limited edition of babies has quadrupled in the past
two years.
The babies are available at Calamity Janes, 5556 E.
Santa Ana Canyon had, Anaheim Hills. Store hours
are 10 a.m. to 9 p.m. Monday through Friday. and 10
a.m. to 6 p.m. Saturday. Call 974-7200 for more information.
( What's Your )
1 Verdict? I
By PAUL LEVINE, J.D.
Copley Syndicate
Frank and Joan are both
mentally retarded, but
their 3-year-old daughter
has normal intelligence. A
state agency files suit to
take their daughter away
and place her for adoption,
claiming it is'in "the best
interest of the child."
A court-appointed lawyer
objects, saying that the
state must prove neglect or
mistreatment of the child
before she can be 'taken
away.
You're the judge and
jury. What's your verdict?
(1) The retarded couple
loses becaw their child
,will be better off if she is
raised by parents of normal
intelligence.
(2) The couple keeps
theik daughter becai~se
they have done nothing to
justify termination of their
parental rights.
(3) The couple may keep
their daughter if Joan agrees
to be sterilized to prevent
future births:
a
If you selected (21, your
judgment is affirmed. It is
not enough to prove simply
that the child will be better
off in another home. That
might apply to many
families. Without some
proof of neglect or unfitness,
the state cannot take
the child away.
(Based on a 1980 New
York case.)
Jordan's Queen Noor was expecting
any day, but that didn't stop the plucky
Princeton-educated former Lisa Halaby
from her royal responsibilities. She
and King Husssin received Frsrnce's
visiting President Val6r-y Giscard
dlEstaing and his wife, Anne-Ayrnone,
at the Amman airport. Noor's longanticipated
child (she suffered a
I miscarriage last year) will be their first
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and the fourth in line to the throne if it
is a boy. The king has one adopted child
and seven children by his three previous
wives.
'Wber,un ipu on5
k e OW mother:

LOST AND FOUND: The Adoption Exper-
Books
ience. by Betty Jean Lifton. A look
into those who experience adoption,
BEATING THE ADOPTION GAME by Cynthia
search & reunion. Di'a1 Press, 1 Dag
Hammars k '01 d Plaza , NYC , NY 10017
D Martin. Reveal s how and by whom Hdcvr - $9.95
~bk-$3.96.
adoption i,s control led, instructions
for locating a child to adopt, and a THE ADOPTION TRIANGLE by Sorosky,
plan to reform the system. Oak Tree Bararl & Pannor. An indepth study
Publications, P.O. Box 1012, La Jolla of the triad, search & reunions.
CA 92038 Hardcover-$9.95. Anchor/Doubleday, 245 Park Av,
FAINT TRAILs:uestern States Edition
NYC, NY 10017 Paperback $3.95
by Hal Aigner. An introduction to
the fundamentals of reunifi cati'on
search, Paradigm Press, 127 Greenbrae,
Greenbrae, CA 94904 Pbk-$4.95
HOW TO FIND YOUR PAST by Carol Gray
Guide to an Adoptees search process.
,Pamphlet Publications, Box 41372-A,
Cincinnati , OH 45241 Pbk-$3
REG NILES SEARCHBOOK for Adult
Adoptees by Reg Niles. List of the
addresses important to a searcher.
Phileas Deigh Corp. 600 Old Country
Rd. #312, Garden City, NY 11530.
Pbk-$13.95.
ADOPTED? A CANADIAN GUIDE FOR ADOPTED
ADULTS IN SEARCH OF THEIR ORIGINS. By
C1 are Marcus, A Canadian gui,de to
search. Internat' l Sel f-Counsel Press,
306 W 25th St. N Vancouver, BC, MY FAMILY-THE ROOTS OF MY
Canada V7N 261 Pbk-$3.95 .. LIFE-A PERSONAL RECORD, is dev-4
I WOULD HAVE SEARCHED FOREVER by
Sandra Musser. A touctii'ng, re1 igious
bi rthparents story. Jan Enterprises,
Box 268, Bal a Cynwyd, PA 19004 -$4.50.
r signed to.enable individuals to scribe their
0 family's genealogy, to bring about closer
r8 relationships with their extended family members,
and to document the ancestral background.
MY FAMILY-THE ROOTS OF MY
LIFE-A PERSONAL RECORD FOR
THE ADOPTEE, was adapted for those
individuals whose family network includes
DEAR DAUGHTER by Kathy Wudel. A persona1
book of poetry of fai thy love and
life. ARA P.O. BOX 304, Montrose, CA the adoption experience. The genealogy of
91020. Pbk-$5.00.
his adoptive family and his family of origin
may be scribed in one book, thus recording
the continuity of his life.
THE ART OF ADOPTION by Linda Cannon
MY FAMILY-YOUR BIRTH FAMILY
Burgess, A social workers look at
-THE ROOTS OF YOUR LIFE-A
900 adoptions she was responsible PERSONAL BECORD, is desigled to
for and the effects reviewed years
enable birthparents to share the genealogy
later. Acropolis Books, 2400 17th
and personal.history of the adoptee's family
St NW, Washington, DC 20009. Hdcr-$8.95.
of origin, thus assuring for their child the
recording of his birth history and heritage.
THE BABY BROKERS by Lynne McTaggert
$5.95 each
The marketing of White babies in
CONCERNED UNITED BIRTHPARENTS
America. Dial Press, 1 Dag Hamniarskold MY FAMILY BOOKS
Plaza, NYC, NY 10017 Hdcvr-$10.95. P.O. Box 23641, L'Enfant Plaza Station
Washington, D.C. 20024
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Booklets
LEGAL DOCUMENTS avai 1 able for cost
of copying and postage from Attorney
Ann M Haral ambie, Uni'versi ty Professional
Bldg. 2207 North Campbell Av.
Tucson, AZ 85719.
PACKET OF PETITIONS for unseal-.
ing records and orders which
may be used in state court. Does
not include any legal argument.
-$1.50.
MEMORANDUM used in 1978 Arizona
case based on many case citations,
Congressional debates, books, etc.
-$6.00.
NATURAL PARENTS DOCUMENTATION
-GUIDEBOOK by Mary Jo Rillera. A
out1 ine for 'documenting and search
for bi rthparents. Triadoption Library
7571 Westminster Av, Westminster, CA
92683 Donation $3.50.
UNDERSTANDING THE BIRTHPARENT
compi 1 ed by Lee Campbell. Twentyfive
birthmothers tell their stories
concisely and honestly. CUB Box 573
Milford, 'MA 01757 $3.00.
WHAT NOW? A booklet reviewing what
adoptees, birthparents and others
have done once they have located
those they seek. TRIADOPTION
LIBRARY, 7571 Westminster
-
Av.
Westminster, CA 92683 $3.50.
WHAT EVERY ADOPTIVE PARENT SHOULD
KNOW compi.led by Karen Wickham.
Letters, poems, articles and itnterviews
with a focus on the adoptive
parents. TRIADOPTION LIBRARY,
7571 Westminster Av. Westminster,
CA 92683 - $4.00.
HANDBOOK FOR THE SEARCH By Emma May
Vil ardi . Guide for adoptee in search.
Triadoption, 7571 Westminster. $3.50
"My Search1' is a
looseleaf notebook
containing document
protectors, journal
pgs., correspondence
calendars, a family
triad tree- more.
Great for oriSanizingr
and preserving your
--arch.
"MY SEARCH is avail able from
Tri adoption Library, 7571 Westminster
Av. Westminster, CA 92683
Bumper sticker sa
"ROOT FOR ADOPTEES RIGHTS" Red & Wht.
Jan Enterprises, Box 268, Bala Cynwyd,
PA 19004 $1.00.
"ADOPTEES HAYE ROOTS AND RIGHTS"
Orphan 'Voyage, 94 F.rankl i n St.
Peabody, MA 01960 $1.00.
Buttons
"OPEN MINDS - OPEN RECORDS" Brn/Wht.
Triadoption Library, 7571 Westminster
Av. Westminster, CA 92683 $1.00.
"SEARCHING" Green/ B1 ack. from.
Triadoption Library. $1.00 donation.
"REUNITED" Yellow/Black from
Triadoption Library $1.00 donation.
"BASTARDS ARE BEAUTIFUL" from Orphan
Voyage, Cedaredge, CO 81413 $1.00.
"I WOULD HAVE SEARCHED FOREVER" Red/
Bl k/Wht. Jan Enterprises , Box 268,
Bala Cynwy, PA 19004 $1.00.
T-shirts
"BIRTHPARENTS CARE ... FOREVER"
T-shirts with CUB logo. Yellow-blk.
Mens sizes sm/med/lg. CUB P.O. Box
573,' Mi 1 ford, MA 01757 $5.00.

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1982 ANNUAL CONFERENCE - AAC
r
The next Annual Conference of the American
Adoption Congress will be held in San Antonio,
Texas, June 3 - 6. For more information or
to offer assistance contact:
Kathy Silber
Lutheran Social Service
615 Elm Street
San Antonio, TX 78202
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NATIONAL TELEVISION
There are a number of telev,ision and
radio shows that will be on national
television this fall. Contact your
local station when they are aired in
your area and ask that they run a subtitle
with your groups name and address.
Sept. 14: LEAVE IT TO THE WOMEN -
"Natural Parents Searching
for their Children". It is
a new syndicated show and
airs at varying times and .
dates beginning the 14th. -
Panel-June Lockhart, Ruth
(Mrs Mil ton) Berle (adoptive
mother), Phyll is Newman and
Mary Jo Rillera in "Hot seat".
Oct. 2: TWO ON THE TOWN looks at
surrogate parenting and tfiey
interviewed Sandee Tuccfo of
CUB.
Oct. 13/19:ORDINARY PEOPLE is a christian
show. Judy Albert-.and Barbara
Specht each did one show.
Oct. 14: HOUR MAGAZINE with Gar
I
Collins.
Sandy MUSS^^ her daug iter Wendy
gnd Mary Jo ki i lei-a were +Jests;
This airs In different citiqi on
any of the following tfiree wed.
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TR~AD~PTION REFERRAL SERVICE
For tRree years now we have maintained a1 1. of the
adopti'on movement organizations 6n our Referral
Service. Presently tfiere are 258. It is an ongoing
and often tedi~ous jo6 to keep .this 1 ist
up-to-date but our volun'teers do their best. Each
of you can fielp 6y sending us corrections and info
as it comes to your attention. We Rave found that . .
unfortunately, the day a 1 i ~t is printed it is :
already o6solete. Therefore we have decided to
utili'ze tfie computeriszed sections of the Referral
t
Servixe to make current 1 i ~ t s avai 1 able to groups.
A
These are 6ulky 6at they will be as current as we
.
liave our data. In tfie future we will ask for $5
to cover our printi'ng, sorting and mailing cost;. a
for a computer print-out and a SASE for the last
printed 1 pg list.
In addition, the following catcgori.es have been
added and any data that you forward to us wi 11 be
placed on ffle. TRi's sectton will not be on .the
computer. AAC, Adoption Units, Adoptive Parent
Groups, Agenci'es, Arti*fici.al Insemination, Consulate
Counseling, DMV, Federal Law, Genetics, Hot Lines,
tndi.an Sources, bnferti'l i'ty , fnfo-Local/State/Na tl ,
Judges/Courts, Legal Asst, Media/Authors, Fledicall
Doctors, Mi.1 i tary, PregnancylSimgle Parents Help,
Private Investi~gati~on, Pub1 ications, Registries ,
Research, Resource Libraries , Vital Records and
more are Gei'ng added dai'ly.
There is so much information that can help us
grow, effect change and educate us all and a
mu1 ti tude of search data. We are here as a resource
to all of you 6ut your input is an important part
of keeping data current and available.
TRI'ADOPTCON REFERRAL SERVICE
Triadapt ion Library
7571 Westminster Av 46
Wes tmins ter , CA 92683

Dear Pals;
Just a note to say hello and to give a brief
explanation as to the purpose of this data
exchange. Because Triadoption' is a resource
center both for the Adoption Movement Groups
and for individuals we have found that we
must separate the newsletters into. those ,two
categories. 1 view our major job within the
movement as one of NETWORKING. By supplying
a way to exchange data, to give each of you
a current list of other organlrations and to
inform you of events or media that we have
heard of, our comnuni'cation improves.
There is so much to be accomplished in the
post-adoption field. More that any of us can
clearly vi~ion. But only by keeping our minds
and hearts open, by refraining from judgement
of others actions and views, by learning to
acknow\edge that everyone in this movement means
well rather than thinking negatives, by learning
from our "opposition" the techniques of
effective legislative, legal influence, by
remembering that we are RIGHT!!, and feeling
secure in that deep personal comnitment will
we SUCEED! !.. .We already ' have .accompl ished.oabot:.
There. Ls not any state or area where we cannot
break the majority of cases. That smacks of
success!
Hope you are all well.
God Bless.
We need your help
We need your help in updatfng and expanding our
Referral Service, Please complete the enclosed
I questionnaire and return it to us in the selfaddressed
envelope. Feel free to add on the back
any further information that would help us in
making referrals to your organization.
I Thank you.
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This 224 page book contains
documents, examplerequest
letters and specific
guidance in the "HOW-TO'S"
of search for all Wuee
sides of the adopt2on trfad.
CHAPTERS
WANTING M KHOW
PWTIONS
CHOOSING M SEARCH
TW ADomVTti MOVEMEW
AVAILABLE ASSISPRNCE
rnT You ENCOUNTER
WHAT OT~~ERS r m
THEPUrURE
UNDEICSTANDRJa TfIE
ADOPTION PROCESS
INPORHATION SOURCES
Docuzmms AND RECORDS
TLIE mvr-TO ' S
A!ITITUDES
RULES FOR ALL SEARC!?IlZFS
RWPTEES
BrrCTHPhRPFPS
ADOPTIVE PARENTS
ACQUXRJIB ADDMImNhL DATA
PwLLrNG IT ALL TddfiHER
APPENDIX - containing many
addresses important to the
searcher.
SOUNDEX
Please remind your members that they
shouid update their locations with
Emma May. There have been quite a few
reunions through the Soundex this last
couple months but several of those who
have been matched cant t be located.
What a shame!
IF YOUR GROUP IS INTERESTED IN ORDERING THIS
BOOK IN QUANTITY, CHECK WITH THE LIBRARY FOR'
REDUCTIONS IN YOUR COST.
$10.00 each
plus $1 additional
to cover postage 81
hand1 i ng.

BOOKS ON ADOPTION
ADOPTIVE KINSHIP by 14. David Kirk (A Modern Institution
in need of reform). Ben-Simon Publications, Box 867,
Waterloo, Ontario, Canada f4254C3. $11.45 + $1.00 shpg.
IN SEARCH OF A STRANGER by Warren E. Siegmond. Moving
story of a mtherdndaughter apart and how they cam
together. Cameo Press, 373 Fifth Av. 11102, New York,
NY 10016. $4.95.
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PHONE DIRECTORIES * ,
Through a number of donations we Rave
added all of the directories for cities
25,000 population or greater. These are
on microfiche and we presently are cateloging
1978-80. Each year we will 6e
getting updates.
I'M STILL ME by Betty Jean Lifton. Wonderful story of
a teenager in search. Alfred A. Knopf, Inc. 201 E. 50th Our city directory collecti'on has grown
New York, NY 10022. 38.95.
to nearly 500 mostly for the western
states.
ONE AGAINST THE STORM by Stanley C. Mann. Story of an
adopttve mothers death, adoptive fathers coersion and -
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the guardians search for the adoptees bi rthfami 1 y.
quest Publishing, Box 27317, Salt Lake City, UT 84127.
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$6.95
IF YOU HAVE DIRECTORIES OR OTHER DATA
ADOPTION THE GRAFTED TREE by Laurie h Wm Uishard. that is of help to searcher:, please
Avon Books, Cragmont Publications, China Basis Bldg.
let us know what you have and we will
161 Berry St 16410, San Pranci sco, CA 94107. 53.50 enter a card in our card catelog indi-.
cating where someone can get in touch
OPEN ADOPTION OPEN PLACEMENT by January Roberts &
biane Robfe. Adoption Press, Box 29617, Brooklyn Ctr, with your organization to have you
MN 55429. $3.95, look something up.
MATCH FOR: INFORMED CHOICE Booklet by CUB. .
MOTHER MOTHER by Stengood
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SEARCH: A Resource Guide for
Adoptees, Birthparents and z
Adoptive Parents by Jayne Askin.
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GRANTS & MANAGEMENT
The. following offer consulting, seminars, grantsmanship
training and 1 i terature some offered in
various cities:
VOLUNTEER INSURANCE
The Foundation Ctr Ctr for Nonprofit Management
If you need volunteer insurance of any sort 888 7th Av 1052 w 6th St #410
(excluding 1 ibel and slander) WARM has report.ed New 'fork, NY 10019 Los Angeles, CA 90017
use of CIMA, 4200 Wisoonsin Av, Washington, DC. 1-800-424-9836 Grantsmanship ttr News
202-244-5678. 1001 Connecticut NW Box 44759
Washington, OC 20036 Los Angeles, CA 90044
Donors Forum, 208 S La Salle, Chtcago, 11. 60604
TELEPHONE DISCOUNT RATES
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TRYING TO LOCATE A DOCTOR?
There are a number of companies offertng varied types
of discount telephone calling servtces. Try contacting The AMA will respond to a request for a PERSONAL
them if your phone bills are too high.
FILE by sending back a computer read out which
includes the doctors name, last known address,
HART INDUSTRIES
MCI Telecomnunications if (s)l~e is deceased or living, birth date,
3101 N. Federal Hwy 1133 19th St f{W
Kenann Tower 8200 Washington, DC 20036
education, specializations, year of graduation,
Ft Lauderdale, FL 33306 202-872-1600 if AMA member or not but expect 2 months for
305-563-9879 $5-lO/mo base plus reply. WRITE:
S65/mo for individuals average 20-50% off. AMERICAN MEDICAL ASSOC.
Microfilm Dept.
SPRINT Communicattons 415-962-5600 535 N Dearborn Av
1 Adrian Ct u/-. Base fndfvidual is
Burl f ngame , CA 94010 65/m.
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TABLE 1
1979-1980 LEGISLATION CONCERNING ADOPTION RECORDS
. . Stale
Year Bin/ Raolutlon I Malor ~rovinlon Dl~pmlilon 1
Arizona 1979 SB 1291 Registry defeated b
. . Californlr 1979180 AB 1426
' Release of identifylnq information upon defeated
consent . .
Delaware 1979 H 539 Greater agency flexibility in releasing vetoed
nonidentifying information . .
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Delawarc 1980 H 111s Same provisions as 1977s H 539 enacted (Chapter 4201
',:m . Dlrtrict nf Columbia 1970 3-19 . ,
W'
Accnr to birth certifica~e upon'birthparents' defeated
, conwnt
Florida 19e 5 966 Release of namn of any party lo an adoption enacted (Chapter 80-296)
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Illinois 1910180' SB 163
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Access to birthparcnts' name, upon conscnl died in committee
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Indiana 1979 SO 274 Acceu 10 original birth certiflcatt upon ddeated
demand ..
Iowa 1979 HF 68 Access by adoptcc lo nnnidentifyinq medic~l ' withdrawn
and social history upon dcmand
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II~H.~ IORO SI: 21 14 Sinrllar 11, t07n.c 111: 60: trlmnrlivc cnactcel
f:rnr~rrkv I~PO S 792 Arcrrs in I~irtlclratrnt~' nnnsq rrpnn rrcnsrnt clircl in c.rrrnrnittrr i
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1779 511 P6R I)rzrrnrlant% 111 ~III~*IcF
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NORTll IJAKOTA
NXllTlLlN Dl SCIfl!iUIN! IAN
July 1, 1979-Dcccmber 31, 1930
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htinrirsrrla blinn~::ic~ta
Cttnnrt Iir111 C;cnrral Slal~tlrc Anrit~~;tIc~rl,
Srr lion 15-68.0-n (5111rpl1~1nt.11l 1'760)
Slal~clcs Attnol:~lrtl. Src lion
144 1761 (S~tlr~rlrtr~rril
1080)
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1 I Hl:c:lsl WV' SYStKhi I
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llic total.. number of formal r&l~~csts Tor itlT~&nat ioi - 92. .:.
n,.....A.- r-, ~ ~ . . _ l r l ~ r..8.... ~ + :
Cl~tl~olic Fi~~nily Ser~jccs
20
.nit Vi llnee - 39
:..r,...'.,;...:~..
~cc(bcsts ---- for 1de;iti fyin!: --- Infot.txlt ion
Catllolic .. Fa~tli ly scrviccs 12
lt~e Village 29
Inctheran Social Services - 13
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Requcsts For Identifying Information R c c e n g Rcuu~ioris
Catliolic Family Services 12
llie - .Village
- . - - . . - 4
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. - --. Ultlieroli Social Scrviccs - 10
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Miclri~nn
Nrvatla
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Micliif;an Ccrnipilrcl l.acus Annrrlalrtl. Srrlicrtr
710.67 (1980) (Ntr central slalr rrp.islry rr;.
Inlrliclrrcl: con~rnl Ir~trrs krlrl in rlcrsrtl
lilrs)
Ntrvatln Itr.vi~rrl Sla1111rs. Srrlicrn 127.M17
( IQflO)
Successful 13
unsuccessful^. - 9.
Ntm~ber -- of Requests For Kon-identifying and Ide~itifving
Inforln;~ t io;~ b y bbf Person Requcstinp
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Unsr~ccessful reunlona includes both "Unable to Locate"
and "Refusal to Grant Permisalon for Disclosure of Identity."
Kansas
h4trnlana
K;tnr.;rc Slalt~lt~s An~i~*talrO.
Srclir~lt (95. 7.4'3
(Vrlnnn 1078)
hfonlacia llrvi.;ctl Cr~tlr Atr~rr~~alt~~l, Srcli~ln
50.. 15 -.insf(1070): Iici\vrvct. Scttitrti
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I*:-nnsylt*ania
I1~~rtr~cyIva~tia SI~IIIII*~
Srrlittr~ 150.hO.l(t ) Il'ilrclt*rr 107Ol
AIII~I*I~II~I~. .I'i~lr .!5. 22 ORGANIZATIONS KEPT RECORDS OF
000 CONTACTS IN 3 ElONTHS TIME.
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AS^ GUA~Q: ENLISTED PERSONNEL; ~ ~~~MANUI\NT
U.S. Cons7 GUA~O (GEt
400 7ttt S~REET SW
A ~ A Fpnc~r HILI TAR'I PER~NNEL CE~JTER W~S~~~NGTON, DC 90590
AITN: AF LOCATOR
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10r11 nrro INI)EPENDENCE
AVE. SW
wt ENL I STED PERSOWEL A-KI
WASIIINOTON, D(: 90314
~U~EAU OF NAVAL ~'ERSON?UEL
WAY(INOION, OC 30370
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ENLI STEO P e n s o ~ t: a COMMANDER ~ ~
E~~tsreo t'ERs0tlNEL
U- S. I\RMt' ENI. 1 SIED RECORDI) CENTE~
WA!;I~INOTON. DC 20370
FORT ~ENJAI~IN )~ARRI SON, IN 46249 (MAS-382)
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OFFI CEA PERSONNEL t OUHCAU OF NAVAL PERSONNEL
OFF~CER PERSONNEL: OFF t CEH LOCATOR WASIIINCTON~ DC 20370
U. S. ARMY ~IIL I TARY PEIISONNEL CCNTEA
(PER-583
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~EX~NORIA, vn 22231
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STUDENT OFF1 CERSI COHHANOER
Sruoewr DEIAUIMENT
FORT OI:NJAHIN ~IARRI SON, IN 46249
(MSRCI- 10)
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WAS~~INOTON, DC 20380
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AMERICAN ADOPTION CONGRESS
PRESIDENT: Penny Callan Partridge, 526 W Ellet St. Philadelphia, PA 19119. (215-844-3384).
VICE PRES: Tom A1 1 ington, 705 N Seminole, Independence, MO 64056. (816-796-7002).
SECRETARY : Pat Burl i ngame , 118 London Ct , Anaheim, CA 92806. (714) 778-3731 ) .
TREASURER : Heidi Tay 1 or, 573 Hol lyburne Ln , Thousand Oaks , CA 91360. (805-496-0554).
DIRECTORS-AT-LARGE : Betty Jean Li f ton, 300 Central Park West, NYC ,NY 10024.
Marshall Schechter, PID, 1142 Morris Rd. Wynnewood, PA 19097.
REGIONAL OIRECTORS: (I Maine, Connecticut, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, RI , Vermont
Jackie Gill, 10 Forest St, Dexter, ME 04930 (207-924-3030).
(.I I) Delaware, Maryland, New Jersey, NY, Pennsylvania, Virginia, DC:
Gretchen Fi tzgerald, 605 Malen Rd, Virginia Beach, VA 23454 (804-340-7501).
CI 11) Alabama, Flori'da, Georgia, Mississippi, N & S Carolina, Tennessee
Holly Hi.11, Rt 1 Rox 3085, Cl imax, NC 27233 (919-674-9453).
(,IV) Arkansas, Louisiana, Texas - unfilled.
(V) Indiana, Kentucky, Michigan, Ohio, West Virginia.
Linda Ceci i , 5214 Firwood Ln , Louisvi 1 l e , KY 40291 (502-239-6138).
Martha Barrow, Box 441, New Haven, IN 46774 (219-749-4392).
(VI ) Colorado, Iowa, Kansas, Missouri , Nebraska, Oklahoma
Joyce Grube, RR1 Box 14, Preston, MO 65732
(.VII) Illinois, Minnesota, N & S Dakota, Wisconsin
Laverne McCurdy, Rdl , Box 158, Clinton, W I 53525
(V 111) Alaska, Idaho, Montana, Oregon, Washington, Wyominq
Nancy Carton & Marilyn Dean c/o WARM 15749 NE 4th Rm 12, Be1 levue, WA 9.8007
(IX) Arizona, California , Hawaii , Nevada, New Mexico, Utah
Karen Tinkham, Oox 1432, litchfield Park, AZ 85340 (602-935-9702)
Judy Albert, c/o Triadoption, 7571 Westmins ter , Wes tminster , CA 92683 (714-892-4098)
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WELCOME TO SUMMER 1980! Here at
Triadoption Library you will find
both the familiar faces and new
ones to greet you. Welre looking
forward to lots of sunshine, both
in the skies and in our lives.
All of us are here to help you
and we can, in turn, use your
help and donations! Specifically,
we need volunteers to man a booth
at the Orange County Fair in July.
Have any great ideas for fund
raisers? We1re thinking ahead
toward fall, and this is high on
the list of "must don projects.
Have a great summer and let's have
LOTS OF RNNIONS!!!!!!~~!~~~'~~~!
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Triadoption Library, Inc.
New Hours :
Tuesdays 1-7 p.m.
Wesnesdays-Fridays 10-4
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Classes :
Tuesday evenings 7p.m.
SEARCH o 1st & 3rd
CONSULTANTS . . . 2nd & 4th
Meetings:
Saturdays, 1p.m.
Concerned United Birthparents .1st
. Searchers1 Orientation
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.3rd
Adoptive Parents1 Support
Post-Search . . . . . . . . .2nd
Adopteesl Support Group meets on
the first Wednesday of each month
at 7 p.m.

The Senate Judiciary Committee voted
5-3 in favor of Assembly Bill 14261
Please write to your senator in the
next six weeks before the bill is
presented In the Senate, Let him
know how you feel!
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Alquist, Alfred (D)
Ayala, Ruben (D)
Beverly , Robert (R)
Briggs, John (R)
Campbell, William (R)
'Carpenter, Paul (0)
Craven, William (R)
Cusanovich, Lou (R)
Dills, Ralph !D) .
Foran, john (D)
Gararnendi, John (D)
Garcia, Alex (D)
Garcia, Man (Rj
Greenc, Bill (0)
Holmdahl, John (D)
Johnson, Ray (R)
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, kne, f3any (Dl.
.Marks,.Milton (R)
Mills, James (D)
Monmya, Joseph (D) ..
Neiedly, john (R)
Nielscn, Jim (R)
Nirnmo, Rokrt (R)
Petris, Nicholas (D)
Presley, Robert (Dl
Rains, Omer (D)
Richardson, Bill (R).
Robbins, Ahn (D)
Roberti, David (D)
Rodda, A1 bert (D)
Russell, Newton (R)
.Schmiu, John (R)
Sieroty, Alan (D).
Smith, Jerry (D)
Stiem, Walter (D)
Vuich, Rose (a)
Watson, Diane (D)
Wilson, Bob (0)
(Vacancy) ...
(Vacancy)
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777 N. 1st St., San Jose 95112
353 W. 6th St., San Bernardino 92401
161 1 S. Pac. Cst. H y, Redondo &h 90277
1441 N. Harbor Blvd., Fullerton 92635
7623 Painter Ave., Whittier 90602
1600 N. Broadway, Santa Ana 92706
550 Vista Way, Vista 92063
23241 Ventura.Blvd., Woodland Hills 91 364
16921's. Wencrn Ave., Gardena 90247
15 Southgate, Daly City 9401 5
31 E. Channel St., Stockton 95202 .
205 5. Bioadway, Los Angeles 9001 2
11 77. University Dr., Menlo Park 34025
051 4 Broadway, Los Angeles 90003
22300 Foothill Blvd., Hayward 94541
555'Rio Linda Ave., Chico 95926
533 G St.,-Eureka 95501
350 McAl(istwSt., San Francisco 94102
81 5 3rd A*., Chula Vista 9201 1
361 7 Montcrey Avc., El Montc.91 731 ' .
1855 Olympic Blvd., Walnut Creek 94595
41 5 Main St, Woodland 95695
361 7 Monttra Ave., El Monte 91 731
11 11 Jackson St., Oakland 94607
361 0 Central Ave., Riverside 92506
Studio 127, El Pwo, Santa Barbara 931 01
735 W. Duartc, Arcadia 91 006
6320 Van Nuys Blvd., Van Nuys 9140; .-
6640 Sunset Blvd., Hollywood 90028 .
State Capitol, Sacramento 9581 4
81 5 5. Gntrai, Glendale 91 20'4
4600 Campus Dr., Newport Beach 92660
11 340 W. Olympic Blvd., Los Angeles 90064
21 85 The Alarneda, San ]ox 951 26
315 Truxtun Avc., Bakersfield 93301
120 W. Tulare St., Dinuba 9361 8
4401 Crenshaw Blvd., Los Angeles 90043
21 65 San Diego Ave., San Diego 921 10
The library is founded almost
entirely by donatiom. We &pnd
on your generosity to continue
to offer services.to the adoption
community.
"My St:arch" is a
1oosctlt:af nott!book
containing docurr~c!nt
proltctors, journid
pp., comsln)ndcncc
c!aicncfars, il falllily
triad trc!t!-- niorc.
Gnx~t for orgranizing
and l)n:sttrving your
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UPDATE
Make sure that your current
address and phone are on file
with INTERNATIONAL SOUNUEX
REUNION REGISTRY in Nevada,
There are two matches on b~ld
because one of the parties has
moved and failed to leave a
forwarding address. Recently
we had a local match delayed
two days because one ofi our
vo1unteen.had to trace down
a birthmother who had moved
since her registration just
last February, Thank goodness
we did find her, UPDATE when
you move or change phone numbers,

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YOU
We want to especially thank Irene
Burg for her limited edition print
of IISetting Children Freetv. It is
available at Triadoption Library
for a donation of $25 to the Library.
SETTING CHILDREN FREE .
A special thanks to Record A Call
and to Lois Degmimore for ner gift
of an electric typewriter@ We are
still iri need of another typew~iter,
as well as folding chairs, a twodrawer
file, a wooden table, a paper
photo copier, z free standing chalk
board and any books relating to
adoption. On that note, if any of
you have copies of the Reg Niles
searchbook that you no longer need,
we would be delighted to have them
in the Library.
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THE 1980 CONFERENC& GOOD. BYZI !!
Cynthia Eagleton has just left us
to return to finish her schooling
The Disneyland Hotel was the site of at Berkeley, She completely upthe
1980 National Adoption Conference dated otlr mailing lists and has
in May. Adoptees, birthparents, adop- been a valuable part of our tfamilyll
tive parents, social workers and other We will miss her but wish her the
interested people from across the
very best in her endeavors.
country converged and spent an incredible
few days. Belt;ty Jeaa Lifton, author of
Lost and Found, Lee Campbell, founder
REUNIONS
of CUB, and Sandra Musser, author of
- ,I Would Have Searched Forever, were some. Kathy S found her son and talked
of the special people who carne great with the
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adoptive mother.
distances to be with us and to share of Mary D helped her husband find
their special knowledge with us. For and talk
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to his brother in Chicago.
all of us, it was a time of enlighten-
. Jqhn H found his birthmother near
rnent, a time to share, and a time to Lancast er.
- care. All of us came away from the Diane H
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found her sister in Boston
Conference with a broader understanding Jull B found her birthparents and
of the issues in adoption today and
full siblings.
- with a deeper emotional commitment to Diane M found her birthmother in
each other and to the adoption movement. . Westminster!
- . Bonnie & Gene found their 17-
year-old daughter.
Pat W
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found her son's birthmother.
Jan L was found by her birthmother
Cassette tapes of 23 Workshops, the and went on to contact her father.
luncheon, dinner and closing session - Lynda K found her birthmother and
are available for 87.00 plus shipping family
from Audio Stats, 12800 Garden Grove, - Bob M found half siblings and is
Blvd, Suite E, Garden Grove, CA 92640. close on the trail of his mother.

CHANGES
For .various reasons, several changes
have been instigated at Triadoption
Li-wary Search and Support Center.
OW business hours have been adjumed
to better serve the community.
Please note the new hours on the
fromt: of the newsletter.
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ORIENTATION SEMINARS
Ori-'mntation a" Seminars are held each
rnom.th to introduce new people to the
available resources. Orientation is
a merequisite to takin~ the Search
Classes. The purpose is to:' further
understanding and communication, dispe-Xl
myths, outline search basics,
discuss reunions and create a foundatzon
for emotional growth. It is
of3,ered by Triadoption as a free
service to the community.
SEARCH HELP
FOP some time we have realized that
sewch help might be better offered
in. .a format other than that of an
ocl2.n workshop, When we see that the
individual needs are not always being
me%, it is time for a change. Triadopkion
Library is pleased to announce
the beginning of classes for active
selzrcherso These will be offered-in
se.l-.ies of six classes, meeting on
tht% first and third Tuesdays from
7-2 ., p.m. at Triadoption ~ibrary.
T initial series will begin July 1
and will end on August 5, The fee
for the series of six is $30.00.
WHO DOES WHAT
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POST SEARCH--CONTACT-IREUNION
This group has come into being for all
of us who are no longer searching, but
who still need support and dialogue
as we struggle with the questions not
yet answered. "What Do I Do Now?"
Contact, reunion, rejection, new and
old .family relationships, new needs
and old ones still present--all things
with which we must deal. May Boycien,
licensed fiarriage, Family, Child Counselor,
will moderate this group which
is offered as a service to the adoption
community. It will meet the 2nd Saturday
of each month from 1:OO-3:00 at
the Library.
CONSULTANT TRAINING
The ISC Institute, a branch of Independent
Search. Consultants, is also
embarking on formal consultant training,
to be offered on the 2nd and 4th
Tuesdays 7:OO p.m. Triadoption Library.
$he consultant training will
consist of a series of sLx classes,
focusing on advanced search techniques, -
professional aspects of consultation,
and counselling.techniques, This
training is designed for those who have
completed searches and are interested
in sharing that very special knowledge
with others. If you are interested
in becoming a certified search consultant,
and in enrolling in the training
classes, please contact ISC at 892-4098.
POST REUNION
Anyone interested in a weekly postreunion
group to be held on Fridays?
It would require a commitment of re-
- gular attendance. It would be offered
by the Library and led by Judy Albert,
a licensed Marriage, Family, Child
Counselor and a reunited adoptee.
ldary Jo Rillera-President proposed fee of YC5.00 per segsion is
Helen Leech-Vice President
being suggested (proceeds to the Li-
Lynne M Walker- Treasurer
brary) or free if you have donated
Pat Sanders - ISC
$60 or
.
more to the Library during the
Sandee Tuccio - CUB
year Please check the following, if
Bonnie Frank - APSG
interested:
Pat; Burlingme-Correspondence
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Bonnie Endo-Referral Service I would like to attend a e s no
Fran Kurrle-Speakers Bureau
Name
May Boyden-Pont Search Workstops 'Address
Judy Albert- Special Projects city
Cynthia Eagleton- Mailing I Lists Phone . .
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ADOPTION SEARCH AND SUPPORT CENTER
7571 ?Jestminster Av? ?Testminster, CA
NEW LIBRARY HOURS AND MEETING DATES AND TIMES
MEETINGS
HOURS
Saturdays, 1 pm Tuesdays. .............. 1-7 pm
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Concerned United Birthparents ... 1st
Wednesdays-Fridays 10-4 pm
Post-Search-....... ............
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2nd
CLASSES
Adopteesl Support Group... 3rd
Tuesday evenings, 7
Adoptive Parents1 Support .......
pm
4th
Tuesday, 4: 30
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pm
SEARCH..............Ist
.+ & 3rd
Searchers' Orientation.. lst, 3rd CONSULTANTS.........2nd & 4th
DATES TO REMEMBER
October 3.. ... SOUTHWEST REGIONAL CONFERENCE, Atlanta, GA
WESTERN REGIONAL CONFERENCE, Seattle, WA
November l....Golden West Conference Class conducted by Sharon Kaplan
The Adoption Triangle Class, Cerritos Jr. College
November 15...The Adoption Triangle Class, Coastline Community College
November 16 .... The Sunday Show, 4 pm Channel 4 NBC.
November 23...THE ADOFTION FAIRE
FAINT TRAILS - WESTERN STATES EDITION
NEW SEARCH CLASSES
Broadwalk, Greenbrae, CA 94904. $4.95
Studio City, CA 91604 or call
213-980-2778. Orientation will be
qiven on the 3rd Tues. at 5 p.m.

THE ADOPTION FAIRE
F his year the Adoption Faire will be held at Golden
West College at Golden West and Edinger in Huntington
Beach on Sunday, November 23rd. The Faire opens in
the Common area at 12 noon and runs until 4 p.m. The
Faire is sponsored by the Adoption Council of Orange
County and a1 1 the organizations and agencies that
are on that council will have booths. In addition,
food concessions, Christmas boutiques, rummage sales,
puppet shows and workshops will be offered.
Be sure to join us there and bring the whole family.
Activities and child care will be available throughout
the day, This is a once a year opportunity for
those i~terested in any aspect of adoption to share
and communicate. It is important to adequately
represent the search and reunion issues.
CUB members remember to bring your boutique items to
the November 1st meeting. Anyone wishing to help
call the office. We can use it!
COLLEGE CLASSES AND WORKSI-IOPS
Sharon Kaplan will conduct a Golden West
Conference Class on Saturday, November 1st.
This is a continuing
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education class and
the discussion will cover all areas of the
triad.
Judy Albert and Mary Ann Worth will present
workshops Saturday November 1st at Cerritos
Junior College and Saturday November 15th
at Coastline Community College. Both will
begin at 9 am and continue to 5 pm. These
workshops are offered free of charge but
persons planning to attend should register
with the college directly. Persons not
registered will be admitted on a spaceavailable
basis only.
For more information contact the Triadoption
Library or writelphone the college. These
are excellent classes and a large attendance
is expected.
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REUNIONS
BRUCE: Found his mother
in Montana.
SANDEE T: Found her daughter
Amy in Maine.
PEGGY H: Found in No. Calif.
RANDEE B: and her husband
found birthson in CA.
CAROL C: Found her son in
New York and went for
a visit. .
DEBRA C: Found her mother thru
an ad. Plans are made
to meet her birthfather.
JANICE: Found in Illinois.
JENNIFER: Traveled out from
V i rginia after locating
her daughter.
NINA G: Found her birthmother.
KAREN W: Found her daughter.
LEE M: Found her son.
DONNA: Found son.
KATHY K: Found her sons family
in another country!
KAREN R: Found son.
PEGGY & PAUL S: Located daughter
after four year search.
MARCIA: Found her bi rthfather.
KATHY S: Located her son.
RICH B: Stopped in to share that
he had located birthparents
some months ago.
LISA: Reunited with birthfather.
(He stopped in to thank us ! )
DIRECTORY ARCHIVES
If you are searching in
the CA area and need to
find old phone books,
they are housed at 3470
ilkh hire and Normandie
Ave., Los Angeles, CA.
(213) 480-2901. Hours
are 8-4:30.
STUDIES
The Library is sponsoring two studies. The first is already underway and involves
a large number of the 180 plus search and support organizations in the U.S. and
Canada. It is a siniple statistical review of the persons who contact each group,
what their primary needs are, what part of the triad they represent, age, etc. The
second is a visual impression study utilizing video tape. This will be broadcast
on Cablesystems public access television when it is completed. We can use help in
all aspects of these studies. Any of you having statistics or video knowledge can
be especially helpful if you would volunteer your time and expertise. Please call
and speak to Mary Jo if you can give some help.

ANNUAL
REPORT
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GOALS 1981
Increase income, donations and property to better support development of
additional services and expansion of present services.
Catalog city and telephone directories and microfiche.
Create slide/audio presentations as educational tools.
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Devel ope grant proposal out1 ook for research or microform dupl i cation.
Double the number of volunteers working durinq open hours and initiate
a systematic training program for rlew volunteers.
Change bylaws to incorporate new California statute changes anc changes
in Triadoption structure.
Publish The Adoption Searchbook and other publications for educational
and fund raising purposes.
Review and evaluate present services and establish pilot programs for
trial of furture services.
Reach into the general pub1 i c for additions to the Advisory Council.

SERVICES AND ACTIVITIES
In 1981, Triadoption Library, Inc. utilized an estimated 5200 volunteer hours
donated by ten key people and thirteen additional support persons. There were 3608
contacts recorded by mail and telephone between January 1 and December 31, 1981. The
specific services offered by Triadoption during this time period over-lap in both
volunteer participation and comrnuni ty service received by individual s and other
organizations.
TRIADOPTION INTERNATIONAL REFERRAL SERVICE: The objective is to respond to
requests from individuals for search or support information or assistance.
Primarily, the requests come from persons involved in adoption, fostercare
and other forms of family separation'. Those we were not able to refer to
other organizations , professionals or agencies for assistance were he1 ped by
our volunteers. We responded to an average of 300 calls and letters each
month. The number of volunteers varied but averaged eleven.
SPEAKERS BUREAU: The objective is to serve as an educational outreach to
the community, to promote understanding and communication about adoptees,
birthparents, and adoptive parents rights, feelings and circumstances. Our
volunteers participate in the "home. study" programs for prospective adoptive
parents at both private and publ ic adoption agencies, speak to genealogical
societies, adoptive parents'groups andother interested organizations.
Approximately thirty-two volunteers were involved in directly serving three
hundred seventy-eight people.
EDUCATIONAL RESOURCES: Located in the Westminster Community Services Center,
720 square feet of reference materials have been gathered to aid individuals
in establishing their heritage, personal rights and take their full responsi
bi 1 i ty and participation in 1 ife by gaining knowledge of ihemsel ves and
their continuity. In 1981, these resources increased by several thousand
pieces of microfiche; phonefiche; 214 city directories; binders on each
states adoption and vital record laws, forms, policies, etc. ; files of
newsclippings and other publications pertaining to adoption; 32 hours of
video; and a donated computer system chat allows increased f!exibil ity in
storing, communicating and disseminating information. This data made it
possible to participate in several research projects in 1981 including the
Organization Statistical Study publ ished by the 1 i brary. Thirty-four
volunteers participated in utilizing and gathering data used by over four
hundred individual s.
COUNSELING AND SUPPORT: Many persons involved in adoption have not understood
or exercised their rFhts to personal information and knowledge of heritage
[ie: genetic. psychological, n!edical, genealogical and historical). In response
to their needs our volunteers provide assistance based both on training and on
personal experience. A conservative estimate i s that over one thousand persons
were served by el even volunteers.
ADOPTION COUNCIL OF ORANGE COUNTY: Our founding participation in this unique
council has been to encourage an open dialogue among Orange County agencies
and organizations and to establish a forum to examine issues involved in
adoption. The two main projects were the Annual Adoption Faire at Goldenwest
College (attendance four hundred) and helping man an information booth at the
Orange County Fair.

PRODUCTIONS: The objective is to develop tools to educate the general
public as to the functional, technical and deeply personal issues in adoption.
BIRTHPARENTS IN S.EARCH is a 37 minute video presentation made
in conjunction with Dickinson Cablesystems aired in the county.
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SEARCH SERIES sl ide presentation introduces the locatf on and
acquiring of public records. This is separated into two sections;
Primary and Secondary Documents and Records.
RESOURCES AT TRIADOPTION LIBRARY is. a slide presentation presented
at the American Adoption Congress National Conference in Kansas City,
Missouri.
THE ORANGE COUNTY ADOPTION COUNCIL is a synchronized audiolsl ide
show introducing all the member organizations and the work they
do.
PUBLICATIONS: These are offered and compi.led to provide current research,
resource and educational data. I'n 1981, we published the following:
THE ADOPTION SEARCHBOOK by Mary Jo Rillera. This is a 'how-to'
aid for those persons desirilig* to locate information or people.
WHAT NOW? COPING WITH SEARCH, CONTACT AND REUNION is a booklet
reviewing responses of a sampling of people having experienced
each phase and out1 ining practical choices.
ORGANIZATION STATISTICAL STUDY. Data compi 1 ed from twenty-two
participating organizations indicating the number and type of
contacts they were receiving over a three month peri'od.
These and pub1 ications- from previous years, plus some we carry from major
pbblishers serve as substantial additions to fund raising and have become a main
source of sharing requested data. Seven volunteers worked on the publications
and we have documented reaching nine hundred twenty-three people.
CLASSES: Public education offered in two aspects: Professional Continuing
Education Credit Classes for Health Professionals given at Goldenwest College
in a four part series and "The Adoption Triangle" workshop given in October
through Coastline Cornunity College reaching thirty-two families.
IN HOUSE PROGRAMS: The "Post Search, Contact and Reunion Group", "Search Exchange",
and "Video/Support Night" are all monthly groups meetings sponsored by Triadoption
and held at the Library. They a1 low for personal interaction and development in
a supportive environment. In addition, the Orientation Series sponsored periodically
gives newcomers a foundation in methods and emotional issues.
MEDIA t PUBLIC EDUCATION: This is an educational outreach to inform the public
of rights and issues related to adoption, foster care and other family separation
issues. Letting people know that there are alternatives and that they need not
be alone or isolated in their feelings or difficultl'es is a primary concern.
EXPERIMENTAL AND CONSULTING: This a1 ternative outreach program hosted a meeting of
Open Door Society, a teen group from Children's Home Society, set representatives
to the California Association of Adbption Agencies Subcommittee on Birthparents Rights,
and a consultant to 20th Century Fox to script writer for "Innocent Blood" movie.

ACTIVITIES
Service d of Volunteers # of People Served
REFERRAL SERVICE: Phones 14 2,255
Mai 1 7 1,353
SPEAKERS BUREAU 32 378
RESOURCES 34 425
COUNSELING & SUPPORT 11 1,000
ADOPTION COUNCIL OF ORANGE COUNTY 5 4 400+
PRODUCT IONS 15 600t
PUBLICATIONS 7 923
CLASSES 4 196
IN HOUSE PROGRAMS 17 205
EXPERIMENTAL AND CONSULTING 2 5 37 5
MEDIA - PUBLIC EDUCATION 12 25 ,000+
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+These figures were based on actual counts present, estimated counts of receipts or
conservative audience viewership projections. They do not include the thousands that
attended the Orange County Fair who may have been touched, nor the mi 11 ions of viewers
nf the national televsion shows.
SPEAKERS -- BUREAU
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Groups # of Volunteers # of People Served
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Chi ldren's Home Society - Santa Ana
Orange County Dept of Adoptions 7 30
LA County Dept of Adoptions - Lancaster 2 30
Ci ty Colleges 4 2 3
San Fernando Valley Adoptaids 2 15
1 13
2 14
Adoptive Family Assoc. of San Bernardino
& Riverside Counties 6 225
Totals 32 378
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MEDIA
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- PURLIC - EDUCATION
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HOUR MAGAZINE - Nationally syndicated October 1981
LEAVE IT TO THE WOMEN - Nationally syndicated September & December 1981
ORDINARY PEOPLE - Nationally syndicated (Show #1) November & December 1981
ORDINARY PEOPLE - Nationally syndicated (Show #2) November & Uecember 1981
TWO ON THE TOWN - Channel 2 October 1981 '
MID 'IOHNING LA - Metromedia Channel 9 KHJ November 1981
MICHAEL JACKSON - KABC Radio October 1981
ORANGE COAST MAGAZINE June 1981
LOS ANGELES TIMES April 1981
KWIZ Radio January 1981
KBRIGHT RADIO February 1981
CHILD ADVOCATE - JR League
DALLAS STAR Winter 1981

mk'D ACTIVITY FOR THi?,
YEAR 1981 *
Cash Contritutions aeceived $17,523.59
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General Lxpenses
Son~ensstion of Officers
2snt
insurance
Prin tin<
Telephone
?osta3e
Books
, Computes Supplies
Off ice Supplies/Equipnent
Visual Supplies
Xerox
Conference and Travel
Zntertainnent
Auto Zxpense
Fund Xaisin?
Girts
Volunteers Benefits
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'list. ~x7enses
Total Genere1 2xpenses
I-crease Ic ?und Zalsnce
!+3oes not incluie yoperty ionstions.
PROPERTY DONATIONS
COMERC rAL STATIONERS 2 legal 2 drawer files/locks
DI CKINSON CABLESYSTEMS
37 minute educational video presentation
$ 189.00
BELL 8 HOWELL MICRO PHOTO Comnuter Microfiche Reader 289.00
HARRISON MEMORIAL LIBRARY Phonefiche, continuous each year, Category $6 1,365.00
KAISER CENTER TECHNOLOGY Phonef iche , continuous each year, Category #6 1,365.00
PENROSE LIBRARY Phonefiche, continuous each year, Category #6 1,365.00
COMPUTER DATA COM,
DATA DISCOUNT
INC. Box computer paper, labels
Computer paper
52.50
30.00
RUSS BASSETT COMPANY Microreader Workstation SST Series 800.00
20TH CENTURY PLASTICS 50 Dividers sets of 9 plastic printed tabs 159.00
IMPACT DATA Computer Printer & Maintainance 400.00
BEACH GARDEN NURSERY Basket 6.98
BANK OF AMERIEA
4 Oesks/4 Chai rs/2 legal fi les/typewri ter 1,500.00
JEL RECORDING
CAMERA SHOP
Recording/Edi ting/Production/Engineers
Kodak Instant/Fi lm/Flash
1,500.00
60.00
S 9,081.48

GOALS 1982.
Establish a permanent paid staff.
Catalog books, references, newsclippings and studies plus add to phonefiche,
city di rectory and book coll ec tions.
Establish training programs for volunteers that include utilization of regular
volunteer meetings.
Formalize training of all participants in the Speakers.Rureau and create support
materials through Productions and Public'ations.
Review the Pi lot Programs for offering search assistance.
Sponsor an educational , comnuni ty building conference for Southern Cal ifornia area.
Create training program for health and social work professionals which includes
continuing education credit classes, 'road sh'ows' and support productions and
pub1 ications.
Formalize grants development program, fund raising procedures and property
donations.
pub1 ish two additional educational pub1 ications.
Create Cassette Education Program, formalize its operations, review distribution
possi bi 1 i ties, obtain duplicating and recording equipment.
Add two additional sl ide/audio presentations to educational Productions.
Review and outline prospectus for counseling procedures/support procedures.
Initiate preliminary research program in area yet to be determined.

TRIADOPTION LIBRARY, INC.
BOARD OF TRUSTEES:
Audrey Sedi ta, Edward J. Rizk, Sharon Kaplan,
Steve L. Rillera, Mary Jo Rillera
OFFICERS: President - Mary Jo Ril lera
Vice President - Helen Leech
Secretary
Bonnie Endo
Treasurer - Lynne M. Walker
Corresponding Secretary - Kathy Johnson
Assistant Treasurer - Fran Kurrle
ADVISORY COUNCIL:
Annette Baran, LCSW
Diana Brown
Dirck W. Brown, PhD.
Linda Canon Burgess, MSW
Lee Campbell
Joseph Harri ngton
H. David Kirk, PhD.
Betty Jean Lifton
Frank Leech
Robert 0' Dell
Reuben Pannor, MSW
Dr. Marshal 1 Schechter
Karen Tinkham
Joan Vanstone
Emma Mhy Vilardi
California
Georg i a
Cal ifornia
Washington, DC
New Hamps hi re
Mary1 and
Canada
New York
Arizona
Nebraska
Cal i fornia
Pennsylvania
Arizona
Canada
Nevada
VOLUNTEERS : Judy A1 bert , Oebbi e Asel tine , Lee A1 1 i son, Diane Anderson, Nancy
Cuccinel lo, Carol Carlos, Gene Endo, Nancy & David Fein, Pat Gray, Marge Hough,
Dorothy Kleffner, Jan Long, Diane Leach, Lorraine Neher, Ji 11 Diodoti , Suzanne
Rubin, Karen Speaks, ,Patrice Kaska, Joan Smith, Hilary Radovich, Heidi Taylor,
Vikki Schumer, Kathy Sly, Sandee Tuccio-Flick, May Boyden.