Articles Book III - Pg 1300-1479 (Reunions etc) - triadoption

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Anguished Mother Reunited With Daughter
she says. "\Vlen I was IS. I !ell In
love wth a Pmtertant boy nnmed
Andrew. We sen1 logelher lor
atytlwo yean.
Ire lived In our riOage v(lh her
bmlher. a member 01 the Orante.
an~nUCaIhollcl~ctlon. Tbeyurre
very hortllc to Calholtcs. \$'hen I
was I7 and he war 21 wa wanted to
many, hut Cathollcr and Pmles.
1anudespircd ea~holbrr 10 much.
there war just no Ialklng a any
My. XoIhlng made nny sense. I
had nowhere to turn. It was an
Imprslb!e slluatlon lor any youna
CWPIC Son 01 like Romeo nnd
Jullel."
ThecovplemntlnudtoIncakoul
lo ire each other. SubmllUng lo
g
. .\in. Staub, now 48, recalls~lhc
momenloltrulh. "FlnnUy. 1 hndto
tell my /amllyandhdrcwtoldhlr.
The linl thing my aunt did was lo
mn and lell the pncrl. The prier1
pcdlled u to ourhoureon hla blkr
nr last as EL could. I'llnevcrlomet
how he screamrdandrcreamNla1
mc lor brlnaln shame an my
~a~~ntrindlam~!y. hwas brut$.
Yy lamllyjurtcauldnollo~tuc
give hcr nway and go home and
m~alIhougho~erlrlerwllr~~cabll
lorg~l about her. Bul.ldldn'tlorget
rympalhc1Ic. she says. Altcr
about her. I muldn'l. It's torlurcd
Ihar. It war cvrn worse. Even
mc~incc."
nte ncw mother worncd that
sln~tr lime Ilmkedatmy parenu1 mnyhethc hrbywalnllcctedbgthc
could see lhe bun In lhclr eyes. I1 measl~~ thml rhs had uhcn pre
WUcd me."
hlm igaln.
The frlghlsned tecn.ager war
hurriedly rent to a hame lor unwed
molhrr~Inav~Uagelt~atscemedlar
away lmm Bnd~c-0l.Welr. "I
halcd I1 and I wanted lo run away.
bUllhOre W~Smpl~C~lONIl. 1 h ~ d
tortirkltuul.~mrollhenunswem
la tough and mean: othrn were
moreundentandlnp. 3lyrmm wns
on ihsrccondflwrol Ihlsdsrk, old
buildins and I wa1 rlmply dcad
scared.
"We had eharcs to do dally.
mldn~ and clr.nlng. Even two
wnh.lhcp~~nantg~rIswerclenl
In. bur lo~cUnlc.Thedoclonwere
lnrensitl~~ to our pU~hl and made
remarks that were embarsnIng
mnddcmca~K.ThellmcpaIIcdbY
slowly." she recall^.
"FlnaUy, my tlmc came. Th@
blnhwordUNrulr, pninlulondlong.
One 01 the other gIr11 who was In
labr wlh me shoultd out in psln
and the nunc rlappcd her acmrs
lhclatesoh~dl'11nevcr10rgc11l.l
never made r round olter I raw
nsrlon lust once, she rrld, she
ecsmeprcgnant.
Ulc dramaunb chenpcd lor
lh.1. I wartemfled."
the adolcrrrnt who. 01 she de-
Theyn~rngmalh~rwasalloWcdlO
scrlb~s ll. "%var~ne~l lhelournlcc take cam 01 her bnby. She rlyr.
Gallagher slrb 1h.1 evcqona ad.
"Fortwomonlhrldllpcrcdhernnd
mlrcd In the nUage."
rocked her and loved her somuch.
ANlcbpthersecretuntlI~hewos
bet eventually thetlmscamcwhcn
the monlhs prelnmnt and con.
I w.1 lorccd to give her up lor
tracted mearbr. ~ II~vlnl memrlcl
rdoptlon. Tha~umMnlllsconvinc.
In~~rlypre~an~ywastobrlnghrr
cd me lhat AM= .\IIrlc W O U LC ~ ~
much conrlrrnallon In the loUo*
beiter 011 wllh a lamlly lhnl wnl
Ingyran.lShcw~rdealNy11ck~nd w~ll.llxed ond she would have a
t~rnlled mell h~rlamlly~hs was
gmpcr lrtnlly. I waln'l allowed lo
nrcnnant. Andrew was dlstraunht.
rlng lhc hnby loour hmUy home
and 1 hod nowhere lo go. so I
cvcntuatly agreed. I hadnocholcc.
I war phyrlcauy rlck wlth Gticl.
Puople makr decirion~ somctlmcr
Ier young pw lc th1l ndvcnly
.fleet the rcrt oftbelr ~ le.
"I dresrcd the baby to leave Inn
whlrcdrerrwi1hplnlcmICIth~tu'~r
soohng wet wlth tears." she rc.
mcmben. "I war jurtruppred lo
gnant-maybrrhrwouldb~dealor
blind. Every day she prsycd that
the baby would be herlthy ond
happy. tlolidayr nnd the baby's
blnhday were ~ spci~ll? dllllcult.
"It's like a piece 01 llle I1 mlIrlnK
and you golhmugh lile wondtrlng
how 11 hmpptned:'she laid.
Anne 8180 hnd to deal wlth glrls
her own UKL who would no lonwr
haveanylhlnglodowlth hcr-and
e.
lamUy and mlchbn who ignored IM 11 I could llnd her." she srld.
She warur~ldar anoulcarl. N t was lullle.
I sullercd. hllevc me." she rays AmaIlngly.AM~ blarlewa~lust
In rcmcmbennre."Idldn't have1 Inlhcnert vlllaue. Annadalc. h e
Irirnd."
cNld was rnlred by kindly parene
The followdng year, the ounl wtnloved her, but nsrhr matured
Scotlander war ollrred a fob In andmarr(edandhndtwodaughtera
,tmcrlea el a houKheepr lor a 01 her own, rhc wanted lollnd her
PItubw[h lamlly. She accepted hldoglcal mother. Her adopUve
thscon~rnrtl~roneyear.huthated pannurncounpedher.
thllab."All~rlrrrvedlhelm~ly'l in March, Anne hlarlr foundher
dlnner. I ate my meal alona on a blnhcenlllcalelhmughlheRe~lsnarma
table laclng n wall in the terGcneral'rOlllcr InEdinburgh.
kltchm. Ilomrrlrk. I was. But I Shedlrmrercdtlut AnneQaIIaO.
couldn't go home. I jwt didn't er /mm Brldgeal.Weir was her
belonr nnswhm."She gnevedlor mother.
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E6enlually rhcmel and marncd od&crs onlhedocumuntondlound
"a line. lostnt man" md had two her prondparmu' nourr. Sol
rhddren. .Annrua nnd llm. ,U. knavlng how she uould be re.
thoueh hrr .~~~ huraand hew abul rnrrd.~hr~~tlnthrrarout~!drlhr
Anne iIanr belore they marned. hhlre lor two houn one day. too
MI wife krot the babv's blN o alrrld lo heck nn the dwr. The
~iircii~mbiroihcrchildrenunul nen dl , she went back with her
rlryearsagorhenrheloldArneltc hurban~whogavehcrtheemollon.
whowa~th?nIB. Jlm.21.lurtlound al ruppoii logo In andspaklolhe
outlast monlhlhrt he hn111lller. elderly lady.
On Inpr back lo Scotland. .(In \VllllmAnne Alnricc~plalnedwho
Slruh was alrmd lo askherlamUY rhc wls, she wns armled, iurptir
about Anne Jllne. 'lheY weren't lnglf, wllh warmlh and allccllon.
awn lo talk about it." she sayl. "I ller nut move wan to caU her
sip rrssd my lullngr, but I mo her1nAmcnre.
ualfCdupal~ldomUle~trC~Irand Ubm the phone rant. Mrs.
lmkM#nr~rr).)arnp~lrl'rl~rclo Sla rb'r emollonal Jchr urr mrr.
Is Reunited With Her bfollier. Mrs. Frnnk Stnub
"I wanted to llnd hnrn Hsrle as
much Pa she vanled 0 find me."
she raid. "I couldn't kUevc It. I
criedrohwd Icouldn'lrpak."Dul
A~elte could. The two daughtrn
1.lkedunUllhrlrmolh~rmmpored
henelland gotbachonthephonslo
make arrangements lor Anne
blltie to come to America IN1 lhalwnsl~r.
wnkcnd.
When Mn. Slrvb pboned her
pannt:inScoUandLoteUlhemlh~t
AMC blarlewasromlnr. hrrlllhar
saldr~lheropologe~InUy1"Ilnybc
we muld have handled tlvf rllua-
Ilona weehll bcller.Anne,Ihanwc
Yo1eid.y.
"One QlrrC ol advlcr for anyone
frying 10 llndhlsparenuIsth~lyou
rhwld not 10 into It IlOUy. Thlnk
decply belore you call."
Nrllher molher or dau~hter
wanu to llnd Arne >lane's lalher
whothevlnldescnedthrm.
Annette Iovin%ly
cave her grandmolhcr'l dlnmond
veddlng handlo berslrler."llw8r
supposed to go lo the llnt grand.
daughter." she raid. "and it rlght.
ldly belongs to AM* &larie."
\VlU telllnp this rloryembanasr
Slrs. Stub and her lamlly? She
UYS llrmly, "I had lo give upmy
cNld once becrursol shame; I'm
nolaboultodoltngaln.That'rldrc
prlde. I'm jurtclrdlhaves~wond
chance to teU tha world I have
aylhrrcNld." I WIU never understand how
myonr rmn glvr up thrlr baby.
~laybclorth~mll'srlght,hulllw~~
not nght lor me."