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Many natural mothers want to check on children 3 welfare From page Dl the same feelings after their cl~ildren have been adopted, said Dr. Kerily' Neill, director of the Graham B. Dimmick Child Guidance Service. "If the birth parenls il~ougl~t through their decision carefully and worked It out in their minds before the chlld was adopted, they usually do not have the feeling later tho1 a piece of them is missing. This was the right de clslon at the time, and they can live with It," 11e said. But if birtlt parents were arnblvnlent, or if their decision was made under some duress, "then these factors may influence tile comfort they hove with their decisloti Inter on," he snid. Lee Campbell, national CUR president, believes that curiosity and inter- 1 est in one's lineage are indicators of a healthy, inquisitive mind. III speeches and articles in national publlcalions, she calls for changing stale laws lo acknowledge that It is natural for mem. bers of tile adoption triangle to want to know one another. Kentucky adoption records now are closed and can only be opened with a court order, wliicl~, Mrs. Seccl~i said, judges are reluctant to give. During the recent session of the Kentucky legislalure, she and A-LINK founder Linda Cecil worked for pas- age of Scnnle Bill I%, informally called the adoption bill. The proposed bill would have provided a metl~od of opet~ing adoption records to an adoptce at age 18. How- ever, because of two unre1:tted amend. meats attaclted to the bill at the last minute, il was not brougltl to a vole, even though it seemed to have enough votes for passage. Until the early IOilDs, adoption records in most states were open "because there were not that many adop tions," snid Miriam Whitaker of the Division of Children's Services in Lexington-Fayette Urban County GoVernment. "Then the thinking became that there was the need to keep records secret. This came more from adoptive parents nnd the professiot~nls." A trend has developed in the past I0 years to reverse the secrecy in adop tion. "I've cl~nt~gcd my ti~inkit~g," said Ms. Whitaker, wl~o has worked In tile adoption field since 1952. "There is a need to be confidential, but not secret. If something is secret, people wonder why. Are you Illding something bad?" She said that professional in tile adoption field are "becoming more rcceptive to working with birth parents, giving lltenl more opportunities to work througlt their feelings." Some adoption agelicies talk to birth parents allout tile adoptive l~ornes they have available, she said. "They ask the birth, parents, 'Which one do you feel'would be best for your child?' \Ve encourage them to write a letter to their child and put it in the permanent record," she added. Because Ms. Wl~ilnker hopes 111e proposed Kcntucky adoption law will be passed in tile future, she encourages birth pnrents to provide updated family and medical lnformntiolt lo the ndop tion agency from time to time. "So cr,l~cn a cl~ild becomes of age, and the birth parents and the child both agree, then the records can be opened," she said. From her ut~ique vantage polttt, Mrs. Seccl11 said secrecy affects all three in the adoption triangle. "For tile ndoptee, you don't know the otl~er part of you," she said. "You're never a well.rounded personality until you know your backgrout~d." She said adoptive parents need current medical lnlormatlon on the birtl~ pnrents. "And 11irth parenls can write the adoptive parents with recent fanlily Inlorn~~tion, that the birth mother has married, had children, finished school gone on to college, or whatever 110s happened to them," she said. "It helps dispel fantasies adoptive parents and birth parenls may have about each other." For more lnformntion about A- LINK, cnll299.Tfi47 or 277-8188;
Aaron Britvan, counsel for the Adoptive Parents Com~nittee, in his . office in Hicksvillc, 'L.1. At left, Jane Edwards, executive director of Spcnce- Chapin Services to Fa~nilics and Cl~ildren, a New Yorlc City adoption agency. I pc New Ywk Tlmn/Edwml Hnmr Couples Taking Unusual Paths for Adoptions Uy SIlEILA RULE ?housnnds 01 cllildless cclllplcg in New york and other states, dcspelnto to adopt henlthy whlte infants, nre Increnslngly trnvellngnontrndltlonalrrnd in their .". ---.--. fnr h nhl~. Instend Of adoptlon agencies* these cou~le3, m t often white and middle clnsa, nre?rmnllng SO-C~IINJ Independent adOptlons, Bet up through a lawyeroranother party. : Many are plnclng newspaper advertisements, typically speclfylng whlte bnbles. In states where the prnctlce la i . I I 1 11~:1~>gh word of every bnby nvallnble through nn neen- IIIIIII~~!. RI?IIICIII~CS nr,vli~~po~~t detalled cy, according to the Wnshl~~gton-based 1lIffl~'mfltion o\~lllthcr~lselvcs to such' Nntlonnl Commltte~ for Adoption. This - shlft hns vnrfed cnuses, n~wt notnhly First of t~vo articles 011 c11ungIrw the declinlr~p, birth mte, tho legnllznpc~tteriu; nfndoption in New York and tfnn or db~~rll~ln nnd a grcnter ncceptarorrnd the coltrlt ry. potentin\ sources ns doctors, lawyers, minlutcrs, frlcndanndrelntlvw. More and morp people nre ndoptlng forelgn-born Infants or paying tens 01 thousands of dollars for bnblw on the Illegnl market. Less Ulnn two decnde!i.ngo, ndoptlon oeenclw hnd no shortnae 01 hnbles. ( legal, including New ~ork.-~nny am ( NOW thero nre at lenst lij requests lor 1 nnce of havlng - bnbfes outside of mnrrlnge. Wlth wnitlllg lists ranglng up to seven yenrs, mnny ndoptlon ngencles have stopped ncceptlng appllcatlons ~ontlnued on Page BS, Column I
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Page 14: f Changes in adoption regulations '
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Page 38 and 39: v ,,' ) THE UNION LEADER, MANCHESTE
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Page 48 and 49: IIV:!I 11tlt111Iive 1111rc11ls IIII
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;' I A Editoriol diroctor JOHN L. B
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The Jewish adoption aeency that had
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