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A View
From
The Friends
Zone
by Rachel Kalas
It has happened to me so many times, I am starting to think
it has been stamped on my forehead. At first I thought it was
a fluke, but when it kept happening I knew I was done for, I
reside in a dreadful place: “The Friends Zone.”
I shudder just at the sight of the words. There have been a
few times I have met a guy that I am truly interested in getting
to know, not just truly interested in getting into bed. But somehow
the fates turn against me, and during the getting–to–
know–you process, I get put into the miserable Friends Zone.
Naturally it doesn’t happen with the guys that I have little
interest in. Or, I’ll think I have outsmarted the Friends Zone
curse, finding a guy that is interesting, good looking and
smart; when all he turns out to be is needy, clingy, obsessive,
and paranoid.
When you are a young, attractive female, having a few guy
friends can be more of a burden than a blessing. For one,
you are still single, and all of the guys you know are already
your friends. Often, if your long time guy friend acquires a
girlfriend, you are the first to get banned from the parties.
Good thing my guy friends are still single.
Then there is the new guy you are dating. Everything is going
great, until he finds out you hang out with more guys than
girls. He may say that he isn’t jealous and that he trusts you,
but ladies, we all know how he really feels. That relationship
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needs to end the moment the words, “No honey, it’s cool, I
trust you” come stumbling out of his mouth. What he is really
saying is, “every time you are late to show up, I will suspect
you are with him.” The drama is rarely worth it.
But by far the worst is the one that got away. We all have
them, but they really don’t count if you don’t realize that they
got away. This is the guy that you wanted to date, tried to
date, and should be happily dating right now, but you’re not.
For whatever reason, you are nice and snug in each other’s
friends zone. And that is probably where you will stay for
many years until you finally drift apart. You will watch each
other go through boring, even sometimes desperate relation-
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ships. During this time each of you will be thinking of the
other, but there is nothing that can be done. The words that
scream out in your brain stay tucked inside safe and sound,
since you are too afraid to risk the friendship that has formed
over the years. So the way I look at it, this friendship is bound
to end; either when you get a serious boyfriend, or he gets a
serious girlfriend. So what do you have to lose?
I say, rebel against nature’s law. Tell those boys what you
really want. If it is just a friendship you want, great. Tell them
to stay out of your pants and not to bother trying. And if it
is more, let ‘em know that your Friend Zone is full, and there
won’t be another opening for a very long time.
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