Service Children Support Network - RAF Benevolent Fund
Service Children Support Network - RAF Benevolent Fund
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My Daddy’s<br />
Going Away…<br />
By Lt Col Chris MacGregor KRH<br />
My children are now 8 and 6 years old. They<br />
attend a small comprehensive primary school<br />
near Reading and have just truly settled in.<br />
They are now known by the staff and children<br />
alike and have carved their niches.<br />
At the end of this term, however, they will<br />
move again to another school: the third for Ben<br />
and the second for Ellie (this does not include<br />
the various kindergartens and nurseries they<br />
have been to in Germany and England). They<br />
will have to mourn their lost friends and make<br />
new ones, establish themselves once more in<br />
the hierarchy of class politics, settle into new<br />
teaching styles and environments and<br />
demonstrate their talents and admit their<br />
weaknesses once more.<br />
The teachers will try hard to understand their<br />
backgrounds and their previous reports, but<br />
they will, inevitably, want to make their own<br />
assessments of the children. In some regards,<br />
this movement is a good thing. Military<br />
children tend to be more confident and<br />
accepting of change (and schools appear to<br />
enjoy having them), but it is also destabilizing<br />
and it is hard for the children. We will have<br />
moved house over their school summer<br />
holidays and while they are settling into their<br />
new home and school, both their Mum and Dad<br />
will start new jobs.<br />
I was on a 9 month operational tour to HQ ISAF<br />
Joint Command in Kabul over much of the last<br />
year and I am very proud of their resilience. In<br />
part, this has been developed by their lifestyle<br />
to date and their parenting, but as many<br />
readers will attest, it has not been easy.<br />
Only I asked for these circumstances, but (for<br />
the time being) my family follow and for that I<br />
am very grateful. It is no surprise that military<br />
families, who move as the military machine<br />
dictates, are in the spotlight right now. They<br />
(you) deserve to be. There should be no<br />
sacrifice on their part for my career serving this<br />
country - but at times I know that they offer<br />
more than they know. It is my job as a father<br />
and as a serving officer to mitigate that as best I<br />
can for both my family and others. If we are to<br />
ensure that a smaller, more effective, military<br />
can prosper in the future, with potentially more<br />
reservists and less regular <strong>Service</strong> personnel, a<br />
holistic approach to family welfare must exist. I<br />
came to this obvious conclusion as a Company<br />
Commander in Iraq in 2007 and from that<br />
moment, started to think about the mutual<br />
benefits to the organization, its personnel, their<br />
families and children of better support to<br />
<strong>Service</strong> families and their children. When we go<br />
on holiday I know that if my wife will only be<br />
happy if the childcare is excellent and the<br />
children are happy - if not, I face severe<br />
reprimand. The same philosophy should exist<br />
when it comes to our working environment too;<br />
if we are to function well in war zones around<br />
the world, there should be as little conflict at<br />
home as possible.