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Chapter 12: Methods for Changing Emotions - Psychological Self-Help

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people announcing that you will start exercising at this specific time.<br />

Afterwards be sure to tell them you actually started, just like you<br />

planned to do. This is such an important time because most failures to<br />

establish a habit result from never starting or only exercising a few<br />

times and then letting it slide.<br />

If you can attend carefully to being sure you exercise at the same<br />

time every day <strong>for</strong> the first two or three weeks, you are well on your<br />

way to creating a good, reliable habit. After a month or two of doing<br />

exercises you like to do at the same time every day, the urge to carry<br />

out the habit becomes stronger and stronger--that is, it is easier and<br />

easier. Indeed, a need to exercise is established and you find yourself<br />

doing really weird things--like jogging at 5:00 or 6:00 in the morning<br />

or going to swim at the YMCA after work at 4:00. There will also be<br />

mental/psychological changes too, such things as feeling better about<br />

your body, some pride in your self-discipline, a little more self-esteem.<br />

There are lots of exercise books that you can find at Amazon or<br />

Barnes & Noble. Three worth mentioning are Gavin (1991) and Hays<br />

(1999, 2002). The 1999 Hays book was written by a psychologist <strong>for</strong><br />

therapists who want to incorporate exercise into the life of their<br />

clients. The author gives suggestions <strong>for</strong> getting started, <strong>for</strong><br />

overcoming inertia, <strong>for</strong> using exercise to reduce stress, depression,<br />

traumatic reactions, and mental illness. Her 2002 book helps readers<br />

select the most fun and effective activities <strong>for</strong> their specific symptoms.<br />

Exercise can also increase self-esteem, help you stay fit, and provide a<br />

way to interact.<br />

Several governmental agencies and universities offer Websites<br />

about exercise. Here is a sample: Healthy People 2010<br />

( http://www.healthypeople.gov/) , Medline Plus<br />

( http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/exerciseandphysicalfitness.html<br />

) , John Hopkins ( http://www.hoptechno.com/book11.htm) , and<br />

Georgia State ( http://www.gsu.edu/~wwwfit/index.html) .<br />

Change the environment and use rein<strong>for</strong>cement<br />

Depressed people focus on the negative happenings in their lives;<br />

they focus on immediate outcomes and lose their perspective of the<br />

future. They also blame themselves <strong>for</strong> failures and set difficult<br />

standards <strong>for</strong> themselves. They give themselves little praise and<br />

rewards but lots of self-criticism (see methods 1-9 in chapter 6; Rehm,<br />

1981). This creation of depression involves biased self-observation,<br />

negative self-evaluation and self-punishment. Like depression, anxiety<br />

involves an expectation of helplessness and doom. Anger involves<br />

seeing someone else as intentionally causing you pain. Passivedependency<br />

reflects self-putdowns relative to others. All these<br />

emotions involve a complex interaction between the environment and<br />

our own cognitive processes.

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