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Top 5<br />
Out of the Box Things You Must Do This Summer<br />
Editor’s<br />
Note<br />
By THE NUMBERS<br />
Summer Facts<br />
Social Media = Business<br />
with Brian Honigman<br />
Spotlight<br />
<strong>Meet</strong> <strong>Melanie</strong><br />
BIZ Fashion<br />
What Ali Wore<br />
StraightSpeak<br />
with David Hughes<br />
Editor+Publisher<br />
Sharon Ricci<br />
CCO<br />
Juli Yee<br />
team<br />
Design Team:<br />
Addison Vacca<br />
Shayne Heathfield<br />
Kyle Gallant
OUTSIDE THE BOX<br />
THINGS TO DO THIS SUMMER<br />
1. White water tube<br />
2. Swim nude in daylight<br />
3. Tell the truth<br />
4. Master double dutch<br />
5. Swing over a river on a rope
EDITOR'S<br />
NOTE<br />
It’s late spring where Influence lives. And for this Editor, it’s a time to spread my wings, see<br />
down the road (way past my neighborhood) and make beach plans that stretch weeks into<br />
July. It’s also a time to take a few unexpected leaps, to venture into new territories and to<br />
go outside the comfort zone. There’s something about all that bursting energy in the<br />
garden that makes me want to do a little growing too!<br />
This Issue is definitely in the spirit of stretching. As you can see by our cover, we’ve shone<br />
the Influence Spotlight on a completely unique entrepreneur who’s shooting straight from<br />
the heart.<br />
When you <strong>Meet</strong> <strong>Melanie</strong> in the next few pages, you’ll get to know someone who’s creative,<br />
talented, intriguing, brave, funny and succinct...you’ll meet someone who’s life tagline is<br />
“Because Love Changed Everything” and that is something you’re going to want to read<br />
more about!<br />
On the summer soltice, June 21st, <strong>Melanie</strong>’s The Crucible Bookii launches. I know what<br />
you’re thinking, “What the hell is a Bookii?”. I thought the same thing. But now I know. It’s<br />
a near-real time memoir of <strong>Melanie</strong>’s life, her passions, her visions and some of the twists<br />
and turns her life has taken and will take. Her writing is engaging, will keep you up past<br />
bedtime and give you something to think about beachside this summer.<br />
Here’s to an amazing Issue and to summer - may you find the courage to do at least one<br />
thing on our 5 Out of the Box Things you Must Do this Summer list!<br />
Enjoy,
HE WHO REACHES FOR THE<br />
WHEN<br />
WRITING THE<br />
REACHES TOO<br />
LOW<br />
STORY OF YOUR<br />
LIFE,<br />
- Howard Smolkin<br />
DON’T LET ANYONE ELSE HOLD THE PEN
8Y 7HE<br />
NUM8ER5<br />
fascinating, bite size facts about<br />
The Season of summer.
in<br />
summmer<br />
94days<br />
Number of<br />
months in an<br />
Italian child’s<br />
summer vacation<br />
Average degree<br />
temperature of<br />
water at Cape<br />
Hatteras, NC<br />
80<br />
1<br />
Number of<br />
ounces of<br />
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Dermatologists<br />
say you need to<br />
apply<br />
11<br />
age of the boy<br />
who invented<br />
the first popsicle<br />
29<br />
Percentage<br />
of people<br />
who vote<br />
Vanilla<br />
their<br />
favourite<br />
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(making it<br />
#1 by far)<br />
Number of<br />
American<br />
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during the<br />
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3
THREE<br />
APPS<br />
for Strengthening Your<br />
Online Relationships Offline<br />
by Brian Honigman<br />
Brian Honigman is the Digital Marketing Executive<br />
at Marc Ecko Enterprises and a freelance writer for<br />
Forbes, Mashable, Huffington Post and others.<br />
Follow him on Twitter @BrianHonigman to<br />
continue the conversation.<br />
Social media allows anyone to connect with the masses and<br />
share their opinion with anyone willing to listen. Most<br />
people are connected with their friends, family, coworkers,<br />
acquaintances and others they're familiar with in real life,<br />
but social media has also given the opportunity to start<br />
relationships online first with new people. Networking --<br />
whether personal, professional or romantic -- has become<br />
one of the most common activities happening today in<br />
social media.<br />
For instance, social networks like LinkedIn, Twitter and<br />
Facebook would not have the success they've seen today if<br />
not for the outright benefit of networking with people of<br />
similar professional backgrounds, interests, philosophies<br />
etc. Yet there still remains a substantial disconnect between<br />
bringing your online relationships and experiences offline.<br />
These three mobile apps work to fix this problem and bring<br />
the power of your social networks to the real world, helping<br />
you come face to face and get a chance to experience what<br />
you've been seeing on your screen all along.
1. OverNear<br />
OverNear is a new app still in beta that is best described as mix between a social<br />
planner and Foursquare. The app allows you to check in at your current location or<br />
to check in at a location you'll be at in the future. The ability to check in ahead of<br />
time allows your contacts and connections to know when and where you'll be able<br />
to meet if they are in the area. This app could work wonders if you're attending a<br />
conference and want your contacts to know your location ahead of time. Planning<br />
meet ups with your professional contacts just got a whole lot easier. OverNear also<br />
notifies you when your friends on the app are nearby, giving you the most amount<br />
of opportunities to connect offline. Privacy is a major focus of this app, allowing<br />
users to customize which friends get alerts about their location. OverNear is less<br />
about the discovery of new connections and more about taking your existing<br />
online connections to the next level face to face.<br />
2. Sonar<br />
Sonar is a hyper-local social network with the goal of greater relevance between a<br />
user and their connections. This mobile app taps into your existing social network<br />
and alerts a user when their existing and future connections are nearby. Sonar pulls<br />
info from a user's Facebook, Twitter, Foursquare and LinkedIn to highlight there<br />
interests, location, job and more to help find the similarities between your<br />
connections. The unique value in Sonar is that it can run in the background and<br />
alert a user about their connections on the major social networks, even if there<br />
connections aren't using the app. Although it isn't the main focus of the app, Sonar<br />
also allows a user to pull similarities or shared connections between them to better<br />
inform an introduction. Sonar seeks to be the "Here-Now" social network,<br />
empowering users to learn more about their nearby connections to strengthen<br />
these relationships in real life.<br />
3. Circle<br />
Circle is a highly visual location-based mobile app that helps connect users with<br />
their nearby friends, asking users "Who's around?" as they login. This app, unlike<br />
many of its competitors, is highly visual and pushes the limits of the iPhone<br />
interface with a unique user experience. The Circle app functions similarly to other<br />
location-based apps by alerting a user when their connections are nearby, but<br />
Circle also helps to organize your different connections into groups based on how<br />
you know them called networks. Circle breaks down connections as Professional,<br />
Sports & Activities, Social, Organizations and your Networks. Your networks consists<br />
of different groups a user can join covering a variety of interests, for example<br />
everything spanning Apple Fans to Catholics. This segmentation is a similar concept<br />
of circles on Google+, but is focused on better organizing your connections close to<br />
your physical location and who is and isn't allowed to see you on the app. Privacy<br />
was a major concern when location app Highlight was launched and Circle helps<br />
solve those same issues, giving users full control of who can and can't see that they<br />
are nearby. All and all, Circle connects its users with the people and places they care<br />
about most in a visually stunning way.
spotlight<br />
MELANIE
spotlight<br />
Q&A<br />
My business vision in a few words...<br />
When I put myself into the fire of the Crucible,<br />
everything changed. This is my real-time memoir<br />
of my life in the Crucible…because falling in love<br />
changed everything.<br />
People know what my business offers, but<br />
this is why I offer it...<br />
I created the Crucible Bookii because people want<br />
an interactive experience with the authors they<br />
read. I wanted to allow them an inside glimpse and<br />
an opportunity to share my life.<br />
cru·ci·ble<br />
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Share a roadmap with us, how did you get<br />
where you are now?<br />
I am an author, an artist, a pioneer, and a wanderer.<br />
I have a background in sales and marketing and<br />
have been a business coach since 1999.<br />
What's your passion in business?<br />
I never tire of talking about business and the love<br />
people have for the work they do. I want to<br />
brainstorm ideas with people and help them find a<br />
way to turn their ideas into client offerings that<br />
meet their client's needs.<br />
When I write for the Crucible, I love writing about<br />
my interactions with the world. I like the idea of<br />
sharing my human-ness and challenges, and many<br />
of those challenges are in my own mind. After<br />
years of being a coach, I am keenly aware of human<br />
frailty and how almost every successful person<br />
feels they are going to be found out as an imposter.<br />
When I write from the heart, I hope people will<br />
see my vulnerability and humanity and feel a little<br />
better about their own. If I can share a story that<br />
allows readers to glimpse my heart, then I feel<br />
successful in my writing. If I can connect it to the<br />
visual channel with pictures and art, then I feel like<br />
I have a real chance at making an impact and help<br />
readers see something in a very new and<br />
interesting way.<br />
In a few words describe yourself.<br />
Edgy, powerful, curious, physical<br />
What few words would others use to<br />
describe you?<br />
Brave, intense, eclectic<br />
What are 3 characteristics that got you<br />
where you are today?<br />
Unbridled optimism, high tolerance for risk, ability to<br />
see the big picture in a strategic way.<br />
What is your favourite gadget?<br />
Vitamix Blender---Ahhh. I wanted this for 15 years<br />
and I got it 3 years ago. My love affair continues<br />
every time I use it.
spotlightbio<br />
NAME: <strong>Melanie</strong> Parish<br />
COMPANY: Crucible Bookii & <strong>Melanie</strong><br />
Parish, Business Coaching<br />
LOCATED IN: Virtual with a Dundas,<br />
Ontario home base<br />
BORN IN: Las Cruces, New Mexico<br />
WHERE YOU CALL HOME: Dundas,<br />
Ontario<br />
GIVE US A QUICK OVERVIEW OF<br />
YOUR BUSINESS AND WHO IT SERVES:<br />
The Crucible Bookii is my creative<br />
project--an online near real-time<br />
interactive memoir of my life. As well, I<br />
am a business coach and help successful<br />
solopreneurs create business strategies<br />
that will propel them to revenues that<br />
exceed $1M in annual revenue.<br />
Life's an adventure. What are some of the<br />
highlights of yours?<br />
Along the way I got certified as a coach, founded a<br />
natural food co-op, started a program of choice<br />
school, challenged an Ontario law and had an art<br />
show. I love my life and the richness of my multiple<br />
interests. I also had 3 kids, got married, moved to<br />
Ontario, became a Canadian, and had a client<br />
become #1 on the New York Times bestseller list.<br />
How were your report cards in high school?<br />
The partiers were always surprised to hear that I got<br />
good grades and the people in my honors classes<br />
were shocked that I hung out with the partiers. My<br />
parents always wanted my grades to be just a little<br />
better.<br />
What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.<br />
What's made you stronger in business? What<br />
bumps along the way?<br />
One of the bumpiest rides for me in business was<br />
learning how to be a powerful woman leader. For<br />
me it wasn't about fostering toughness, it was about<br />
nurturing gentleness and vulnerability. Finding a way<br />
to detach from my ego while I create successful businesses<br />
and learning to create treasured business<br />
partnerships has made me stronger.<br />
If I had more time, I'd spend it doing this...<br />
Wandering with my kids, hanging out by the pool for<br />
a lazy afternoon with friends and enjoying delicious<br />
Ontario wine and local cheese.
spotlight<br />
Are you where you expected to be right now?<br />
This is a clear no. If you had asked me at 20 if I would<br />
be queer, married to a trans-man and living in Ontario,<br />
Canada when I was in my 40s, I would have laughed in<br />
your face. That said, I always expected to be having an<br />
impact in the world and to be doing something<br />
creative. I am living that part of my life more fully right<br />
now than I have ever lived it before. I feel so incredibly<br />
blessed to touch the lives of my lovely clients and to<br />
get to walk alongside them, if not actually in their<br />
shoes. I have incredible relationships, intimacy, and<br />
creativity in my life that takes my breath away. I can't<br />
believe I am so LUCKY!<br />
What's a time you took a risk and failed?<br />
In 2005 I started a web design company. After five<br />
years, and a crazy level of financial investment and debt,<br />
we went out of business. It was excruciating but I<br />
learned so much more than I had ever learned before.<br />
The biggest lesson was: don't invest all the profit from<br />
one business into another.<br />
How about a risk that succeeded?<br />
I received a small inheritance from my grandmother<br />
that I invested in coach training at the beginning of my<br />
career. That training changed my life.<br />
I just handed you $1,000,000 for your<br />
business. What will you do with it?<br />
A million dollars could kill my business right now. It<br />
doesn't need cash it needs me to be committing time<br />
to it. If I had a huge budget, I might outsource too<br />
much of what I need to be doing to keep the<br />
production incredibly lean. Lean is serving my business<br />
incredibly well right now. I can think of lots of fun I<br />
could have with $1Million. None of that would serve<br />
my business right now. I need creativity and multiple<br />
iterations more than I need cash.<br />
What was your best investment?<br />
Coach training and three coaching certifications<br />
What are you most proud of at this moment?<br />
That my children are very nice human beings.<br />
ABOUT THE COVER PHOTO<br />
“That’s a crazy picture! I think I have boobie shock!”<br />
someone said as they looked at the picture I took<br />
for the cover of Influence Magazine. I admit I had a<br />
little shock, too, when I saw it. What would my<br />
mother think? Am I brave enough to let that picture<br />
be the cover?<br />
When I agreed to be on the cover of Influence<br />
Magazine, I wanted the best photographer I know to<br />
take the picture--so I called Dan Banko of Banko<br />
Media (http://bankomedia.com/). I love his work and<br />
after looking at his portfolio I thought he could pull<br />
off the kind of art photo I wanted. I’ll be writing<br />
about this process in my entry titled “Cover Girl” in<br />
the member’s section of The Crucible Bookii. If you<br />
are interested in the process we went through to<br />
make the cover and what I experienced as I entered<br />
a world very different from my own, you might want<br />
to check it out--it was super scary and really<br />
amazing.<br />
What education do you have?<br />
Bachelor's Degree in Communication, 3<br />
coaching certifications<br />
Your favourite quote?<br />
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight<br />
in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to<br />
blossom.” Anais Nin
If I wake up at 3am, I'm usually thinking<br />
about...<br />
Writing. I often write at 5 am in bed when the<br />
world is quiet. I start studying French at 7am to<br />
prepare for our trip to France this summer. My<br />
husband is fond of telling our dinner guests that I<br />
learn French in the middle of the night, but I really<br />
do wait until 7am.<br />
Compared to my competition, this is what<br />
sets me apart...<br />
The Bookii medium is different to other online<br />
content because it doesn’t have any marketing and<br />
it is different than a book because it is an interactive<br />
format. The Bookii is similar to many mediums, but<br />
unique.<br />
So, How<br />
did you<br />
meet your<br />
husband?<br />
AN EXCERPT BY MELANIE PARISH<br />
It usually happens when we are hanging out with<br />
new people. For them it seems like an innocuous<br />
question... "So, how did you meet your husband?" It<br />
is a gentle way of creating intimacy and learning<br />
more about people--almost a conversational gift<br />
from them to me, at least it would be, if we were a<br />
traditional family. I try to avoid an audible intake of<br />
breath and my mind races. I run down a rabbit hole<br />
of questions in my mind. Do I trust them? Do I feel<br />
like coming out of the proverbial closet? Am I safe?<br />
How will it affect my children? Have I missed<br />
considering anything? Am I safe? Will I be safe?<br />
Sometimes at this stage if the answer to any of<br />
these questions is "no" or even "maybe," then I will<br />
just say, "We met at church." It is when there is<br />
intimacy in the relationship or a real possibility of<br />
friendship starting that I feel like that answer<br />
doesn't work. It is denying the opportunity for<br />
intimacy, and I realize I want to share another piece<br />
of my story with the other person. I realize my<br />
relationship can be deeper and more real if I take<br />
the leap.<br />
I did meet my husband at church in August of 2000.<br />
I was newly divorced. I had started a young adult<br />
group at the church with my friend Zoe. My main<br />
goal was to find a new partner/spouse whose<br />
values were similar to mine. I wanted a more<br />
spiritual relationship, I knew I wanted more<br />
children, and I liked being married--at least I thought<br />
I would if I was married to the right person.<br />
I had a list. I was looking for my perfect guy. Some<br />
of the things on the list were that he be tall (6ft),<br />
play games with my family (board games and cards,<br />
not head games), like the movie Airplane, be kind,<br />
share similar Unitarian Universalist values, want<br />
children, have a higher education, have a career path,<br />
be financially solvent, etc.<br />
I forgot to say "male" on my list and in August of<br />
2000 I met "Melissa" or "Mel" whom I can best<br />
describe back then as a very androgynous looking<br />
person. As a fairly new Unitarian, I tried to be<br />
open-minded. I knew I was supposed to be GLBT<br />
friendly (Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual/Transgender). I had<br />
never really been around too many butch lesbians<br />
and I was terrified of Mel. I just remember feeling<br />
completely uncomfortable with the idea of talking<br />
with Mel or being alone and trying to act normally.<br />
I wanted to be nice, but Mel scared me. I quickly<br />
talked to someone else. I thought having a "gay"<br />
person in our group was good diversity but maybe<br />
someone else could talk to Mel.<br />
Now, I can remember the feeling, but I feel some<br />
shame over how I felt about Mel. In my head Mel<br />
was the "other" and I kept "others" at arms length.
spotlight<br />
Not good, but honest. We had a standing young<br />
adult lunch after church each week and we were<br />
going to an all you can eat salad bar. Mel was one of<br />
the few people who came and Mel sat next to me.<br />
Mel didn't order any food which I assumed was<br />
because Mel couldn't afford lunch (I later found out<br />
Mel was just dieting and didn't want to brave an all<br />
you can eat buffet). I made polite conversation but<br />
really we didn't talk about much during that lunch.<br />
Then over the next 3 months we started to get to<br />
know each other. I found out Mel had a wicked,<br />
dark sense of humor. We started to have<br />
conversations. Once, only Mel and I showed up for<br />
the young adult lunch. My daughter was with me<br />
and we had a really great time. I don't remember<br />
what we talked about, but it was fun. One day we<br />
were sitting next to each other in church and he put<br />
his arm on the back of the pew behind me. I got a<br />
feeling like a big strong guy had just put his arm<br />
around me. I got a little weak in the knees. One day<br />
he made an off-hand, off-color comment that made<br />
me curious. We flirted. He asked questions that<br />
shook my foundations and made me interested in<br />
him.<br />
What would my friends think? I finally got to a<br />
point in my head where being afraid was worse than<br />
the idea of everyone I loved abandoning me. I<br />
realized that if they would walk away from me<br />
because of who I loved, then I wasn't living on very<br />
solid foundations after all.<br />
I called Mel and I asked Mel to teach me more about<br />
who he is. He gave me the book Stone Butch Blues.<br />
I read it and asked some questions. We went for a<br />
walk and I asked him questions about who he is. I<br />
We had a date. I tried to send him away. I didn't.<br />
We were lovers.<br />
At this point in our relationship I was terrified that<br />
I would lose my family if I was gay. I also knew I<br />
would lose a piece of me if I wasn't willing to be in<br />
a relationship that seemed so right. I had to choose<br />
between being myself and being afraid of what the<br />
world would think of me. I told Mel I didn't think it<br />
was going to work.<br />
The next day I was looking in the mirror feeling<br />
disappointed in myself. I actually really looked at my<br />
face in the mirror and I realized I didn't want to be<br />
the person who was afraid to explore the world in<br />
any way I chose. I was afraid my parents wouldn't<br />
love me anymore. I couldn't fathom what my<br />
grandfather would say. My conservative Texas<br />
relatives would hate me.<br />
MELANIE’S HUSBAND MEL<br />
learned that Mel was more than a butch lesbian and<br />
started to ask questions about Mel's gender. Mel<br />
gave me the best answers he had and I got more and<br />
more comfortable with who he was. At that point in<br />
our lives, Mel was transgender but it wasn't<br />
something we shared—it was private.<br />
I knew that we had similar shared values and that<br />
we wanted the same things. I had so much respect<br />
for Mel, I knew I had to be ready to be "in a<br />
relationship" if I dated Mel. I couldn't just play<br />
around and try it on. I knew it had to be real in<br />
order to honor the lovely human being Mel is, so I
found myself very quickly in a very serious<br />
relationship.<br />
My mother visited in May and met Mel. She has<br />
great intuition and she could tell we were having a<br />
relationship but she didn't know what to say. At the<br />
end of her trip, I told her. It was pretty rough on<br />
her. She is very Presbyterian and is very connected<br />
to her church and her church community. She told<br />
my father when she got home. I was spent. It was<br />
incredibly stressful to come out to my parents. For<br />
my parents, it was completely out of left field. And I<br />
understood. It came out of left field for me, too.<br />
Eventually we were able to get married in Ontario<br />
and eventually Mel transitioned, that is, changed his<br />
appearance and how he presents himself in the<br />
world. When I think about his transition, I always<br />
think he stayed the same, but by changing his<br />
appearance, the world changed in the way they<br />
interact with him.<br />
So, when people ask me, “How did you meet your<br />
husband,” I have to decide how much of this story<br />
to share.<br />
By the way, I know my story isn't the same as<br />
everyone else's story. I know most people who are<br />
gay or lesbian know at a very young age. I had a<br />
choice because I chose to be with someone who<br />
was transgender and we all choose our<br />
relationships, not our orientation. My story is<br />
different and maybe even a little bit interesting, but<br />
there is a lot of political baggage with saying that<br />
people choose to be gay. So, I worry a little bit<br />
about publishing my story because I don't want to<br />
harm anyone who is being marginalized because<br />
they didn't have a choice about their orientation.<br />
Anyway, that's how I met my husband.<br />
INTERESTED?<br />
Learn More About <strong>Melanie</strong>
straight<br />
speak<br />
with david hughes<br />
Dumb people using smart<br />
phones – it’s killing them. But<br />
only about 5500 each year, so<br />
who cares?<br />
David Hughes is an entrepreneur, author, ghostwriter and<br />
blogger. He has been writing since he was five. He has written<br />
eleven books, hundreds of blogs and is the winner of Award of<br />
Merit for Fiction, Writer’s Digest, 2001 and Magazine Feature, 2011.<br />
David writes fiction (two novels) and non-fiction, on everything<br />
from business and politics to family memoirs and social madness.<br />
He lives at his keyboard.
he U.S. Department of Transportation says nearly 5500<br />
people died in crashes in 2009 involving a distracted<br />
driver (most on the phone) and the National Safety<br />
Council estimates that each year 100,000 car crashes<br />
have been tied to texting and driving while an additional<br />
1.2 million annual accidents involve cell phone use. Just repeat<br />
that number to yourself, “… 1.2 million accidents.” The odds are<br />
good that one of those accidents could have your number on it.<br />
Talk about the wrong number.<br />
Data released by the department shows that more than ¾ of<br />
drivers will answer a call while driving and they do not think<br />
about traffic conditions when answering. Also, these same idiots<br />
say they would send a text while driving. And yet – get this – 1/3<br />
of the same idiots said they feel unsafe as a passenger if the<br />
driver is on the phone. Do you fecken’ believe it (DYFBI)? Is this<br />
the height of ignorance or what? And when it comes to kids, the<br />
risks escalate exponentially. The next time your kid asks for the<br />
keys to the car, hand them over only in exchange for you<br />
keeping his or her cellphone. Because this is a whole new<br />
definition of DUI.<br />
One of those idiot kids, a 19-year-old driving a pickup truck<br />
caused a deadly accident in Missouri last year (see photo above)<br />
while sending and receiving 11 texts in the 11 minutes<br />
immediately before the accident. Investigators said the young<br />
driver sent six texts and received five just before his pickup<br />
crashed into the back of a big truck. It started a chain reaction.<br />
The pickup was rear-ended by a school bus, which was rammed<br />
by a second school bus. The pickup driver and a 15-year-old<br />
student on one of the school buses were killed and 38 others<br />
were injured. Then there was the idiot engineer driving a<br />
commuter train in California that killed 25 because he was<br />
texting. And the tugboat pilot in Philadelphia who was talking<br />
on his cellphone and using a laptop. Wouldn’t be surprised if the<br />
chicken-ass, coward captain of the Costa Concordia was texting<br />
before running aground off the coast of Italy. And how about<br />
that Northwest Airlines flight that flew a 100 miles past its<br />
destination because both pilots were on their laptops. And it’s<br />
not just the idiots on the phone, it’s also the idiot lawmakers who<br />
are not making the laws to deter these killing machines. Like the<br />
National Rifle Association, the National Cellphone Association<br />
probably says, it’s not the phone (gun), it’s the person using it<br />
that kills people. Either way, somebody is dead.<br />
Where the hell are the lawmakers when we<br />
need them?<br />
A man in Michigan caused a fatal crash while texting and driving<br />
and was sentenced to just one month in jail and 12 months of<br />
probation. DYFBI? It was the first case of its kind since Michigan<br />
passed a ban on “texting while driving” back in August 2010<br />
(obviously, lawmakers are in no rush – probably too busy on<br />
their cell phones). The man’s phone records showed that he was<br />
texting seconds before the impact that killed another person. In<br />
addition to jail time and probation, he has to pay more than<br />
$5,000 in fines and restitution. Aaaah the cheap price of an<br />
innocent life. The County Prosecutor said the sentence handed<br />
down was fair under current law. “It was a fair sentence under the<br />
law that we have at this time, the moving violation causing<br />
death, which texting and driving falls underneath, is a one year<br />
maximum,” He added, although he’d like to see<br />
texting-while-driving penalties toughened up. No shit Red<br />
Ryder. How about manslaughter? Penalties for drunk drivers<br />
who cause a fatality are much harsher (and still not harsh<br />
enough) – some states include a four-year minimum prison<br />
sentence and a permanent driver’s license suspension. That’s it?<br />
DYFBI – they killed somebody? That same prosecutor said that<br />
statistics he has seen shows that texting and driving is three or<br />
four times more dangerous than operating under the influence<br />
of alcohol or drugs when operating a motor vehicle. But it’s not<br />
as much fun. In Michigan they are trying to get stronger laws:<br />
Causing a serious injury would be a five-year felony and causing<br />
death would be a 15-year felony. Now that’s more like it.<br />
According to a survey of more than 6,000 drivers by the National<br />
Highway Traffic Safety Administration, about 20% of drivers –<br />
and 50% between 21 and 24 – say they’ve thumbed messages or<br />
emailed from the driver’s seat. Of those between 14 and<br />
17-year-olds only 35% thought they would die one day if they<br />
regularly text while driving and yet, 55% of teens think that<br />
drinking and driving could prove deadly. Who is responsible for<br />
teaching these kids that a smart phone needs to come with<br />
some smarts? There’s approximately 200 million licensed drivers<br />
in the United States and about 10 million under 19 – and half of<br />
those, 5 million, are texting while sharing the road with you in<br />
two tons of speeding metal. What are the odds that your number<br />
is on their speed dial?<br />
Ignorance is rampant<br />
Most U.S. motorists recently surveyed acknowledged few<br />
situations in which they would not use a cell phone or text while<br />
behind the wheel. For all the publicity about anti-texting laws<br />
and deaths attributed to distracted driving, the public remains<br />
ambivalent (stupid) about limitations on in-car cell-phone and<br />
smart-phone use. And they are not big on harsh punishment<br />
when such behavior is tied to vehicular accidents. Probably<br />
because they think they are more likely to be the cause of the<br />
accident versus the victim. Of course, they could be dead wrong.<br />
Professor David Meyer, who runs the University of Michigan’s<br />
Brain, Cognition, and Action Laboratory and is a leading scholar<br />
of multitasking, says human beings are just not good at<br />
multitasking. That’s women too. It’s a little different than<br />
watching TV while feeding the kids (see BMW commercial<br />
below). Myers says, “We simply cannot do it safely.” He adds,<br />
“Even F-1 race car driver Michael Schumacher can’t deal with<br />
more than one task at a time.”<br />
32,855 people were killed on U.S. roads in 2010 and if 5500 (17%)<br />
of these were related to the use of smart phones while driving,<br />
then … well, it simply confirms that regardless of how smart our<br />
technology gets, we remain as dumb as ever.
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