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From the<br />
EDITOR<br />
Dear Folks,<br />
Photo credit: Suzanne Verlaque<br />
This month, we are all once again reminded of the important role women<br />
play in the world we live in. Commemorative days to me are like refresher<br />
courses; there’s nothing new we learn but given that we are constantly<br />
growing as individuals, our take on the situation changes and there’s<br />
always a new angle we are able to explore. Personally, I have been<br />
thinking about this day since we celebrated it last year. I couldn’t help<br />
but feel that many of us took the opportunity to have a little dig at the<br />
opposite sex, which is perhaps justified since the day is there to remind<br />
men of how special we are, but is it really the opposite sex who needs to<br />
be reminded? I beg to differ. More and more, I get the sense that women<br />
in general do not appreciate other women. We are in some relentless<br />
search of what it is that ‘she’ is lacking and once we find it, well, we can feel<br />
like we’re on top of the world again. So, when exactly did women become<br />
women’s worst enemy?<br />
The world we live in at the moment is complicated, fast and tiring. Our<br />
lives are exposed on facebook, instagram, twitter and magazines. Gone<br />
are the days when what kind of mother, partner, friend or colleague we<br />
are remained the business of only those they concerned. The world is now<br />
able to formulate an opinion on who we are and naturally that places us<br />
in a competitive place to be the best of everything. Since that is close to<br />
impossible, being best is now also based on who we perceive to be ‘less’<br />
than us; a mother who has a social life, a partner who has let herself ‘go’ a<br />
little, a colleague who gets called into the boss’ office more frequently –<br />
the list goes on. The sad thing about this is that we fail to see that there’s<br />
no ‘just me’ bubble we can escape to and live in. We are all in whatever<br />
we are in together. When I walk into the office in the morning and all my<br />
colleagues are happy, we end up having a productive day which is good<br />
for the general morale and also good for business – a win-win situation<br />
as far as I see it. A colleagues’ unhappiness or anger does nothing good<br />
for anyone in the office. Why don’t we choose to see things in a collective<br />
manner? Allow me to use this metaphor as an example; we are all candles<br />
burning our own light in a room. When the candle next to you fades or is<br />
blown out, yes, your own light might shine brighter for a minute but what<br />
happens to the light in the entire room? It dims. So the next time you get<br />
the chance to share in someone’s happiness, go for it, don’t try to lessen<br />
it. The same applies for someone’s grim moment; don’t rejoice in it but<br />
rather extend your help or better still, your love. Your life and world would<br />
be better because of it.<br />
Women’s Day aside, March is also the month when awareness on Down<br />
Syndrome is given some attention. We take a look at this condition<br />
and meet a couple of families who live it everyday. Down Syndrome to<br />
those of us who do not know is simply seen at face value. We recognise<br />
the condition based on someone’s physical appearance but we remain<br />
comfortably clueless as to what it entails to live with it or with someone<br />
inflicted by it. We hope the feature enlightens you a bit more as it did us.<br />
Another important issue which we address in this issue is domestic<br />
violence, the silent ailment too many people, especially women and<br />
children live with. A survivor shares her story with us and along with it,<br />
gives us hope that there is no situation which can’t be improved or walked<br />
away from if necessary. Our aim was to identify signs in relationships<br />
which scream abuse but we are perhaps at the time too blind to see.<br />
Again, we hope it helps those of you who find yourselves in this incredibly<br />
sad situation or those of you who know someone who is.<br />
The end of March would mark the end of the first quarter of the year. It’s<br />
a good time to re-visit your 2015 resolutions; renew them, change them,<br />
discard them or be proud that you remain on the track you set out to<br />
follow for this year. It takes courage to grow and learn and to try to be<br />
better. We wish you plenty of it.<br />
For those of you visiting our beautiful islands this month, may you have a<br />
memorable holiday and be blown away by the Seychellois hospitality.<br />
Chief Editor<br />
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Stephenie Dookley<br />
FIT AND FABULOUS<br />
By Lynette Botha / Photographs Marsha Dine<br />
5 MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI<br />
Proof that no matter what life throws at you,<br />
you’re stronger than you think….<br />
At 24, Stephenie is a single, working mom whose life has<br />
thrown her more than a few curveballs, but she’s not taking<br />
it lying down. Literally. Stephenie, who used to weigh 108kg<br />
and wear a size 18, now weighs 61kg and alters between a<br />
size six and eight, thanks to willpower, sensible eating and<br />
lots of training. As we all know, it’s not easy to “just lose<br />
weight” – especially not with a full-time job and a young<br />
child, but Stephenie was adamant about changing her life.<br />
“I was so overweight for a very long time and I didn’t know<br />
how to change. It made me feel depressed and unhappy<br />
and I knew I had to do something to get my weight under<br />
control, not only for me, but for my son too.”<br />
“The struggle is real, it never<br />
gets easier, but you get<br />
stronger.” This was one of<br />
the lines that Stephenie<br />
repeated many times during<br />
our interview. She meant it in<br />
relation to fitness and getting<br />
healthy, but it seems to allude<br />
to the rest of her life too.”<br />
Once Stephenie had her mind set on getting into shape to<br />
lose all her excess weight, she did what most people do –<br />
look for a quick fix. She started taking diet pills to curb her<br />
appetite, but that solution was short-lived; the pills made<br />
her really sick and caused gastric problems so she had<br />
to stop. She then tried starving herself, and going hours<br />
without eating anything, but again this was not sustainable<br />
and left her weak, tired and even more depressed every<br />
time she failed. “I would get on the scale, see that my weight<br />
was the same, and cry and cry. It was depressing. It’s so<br />
difficult when you’re in that place and you don’t see a way<br />
out.” Eventually she realised the only way she was going<br />
to be able to get in shape was with a realistic goal, lots of<br />
exercise and a healthy eating plan. “Everyone is after instant<br />
results, I was too, but there is no secret, it’s all about hard<br />
work and discipline.” She says.<br />
So, where did she start? “I signed up at the gym, got advice<br />
from the trainers there and committed to going every<br />
day. I did a bit of everything; aerobics, swimming, weight<br />
lifting and jogging. With my eating, I started to cut out<br />
carbs – bread, rice, pasta, as well as sugar and junk food. I<br />
started preparing healthier meals like salads and fish with<br />
vegetables. I also added a lot of protein to my diet.”<br />
Changing your lifestyle so drastically is tough and often not<br />
sustainable, but no matter how hard it was, Stephenie was<br />
determined to keep going. “The difficult thing is that you<br />
don’t see results straight away; it’s not like if you eat clean
Golden Flavours:<br />
Cooking up success<br />
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Steve Albert, 32, is an entrepreneur and a<br />
pragmatic dreamer. When he started his company,<br />
Golden Flavours, he was barely 22. Ten years on,<br />
Golden Flavours is known for the quality of its<br />
products on the local market, distributing his<br />
brand of vinegar, tomato sauce and chill sauce<br />
in supermarkets around Mahé, but also in hotels,<br />
restaurants and fast foods.<br />
“I remember being at the Polytechnic School, whenever<br />
I wanted my parents to buy chili sauce or tomato sauce at<br />
the supermarket, there was barely any choice, and it was<br />
always expensive. That’s when I realised the market for these<br />
condiments were very much open in Seychelles,” explains the<br />
young man. After leaving the polytechnic school, he decides<br />
to follow a course on entrepreneurship for small businesses<br />
at the Guy Morel Institute, giving him access to small grant<br />
to launch his business.<br />
“Once I had registered my business and opened the account<br />
with Barclays, the next step was to find suppliers for the raw<br />
materials and spices. I went to Malaysia and South Africa,<br />
looking for the right blend of spices at the right price because<br />
I wanted my product to be affordable here. Today, I still get<br />
most of the spices from these countries, but I also use local<br />
vegetables for my production,” says Steve Albert. Once he<br />
bought his first batch of spices, he started experimenting<br />
with the mixture, trying to find the right balance of tastes<br />
that would appeal to the public, and soon enough, the first<br />
bottles of condiments were produced in his small factory at<br />
Anse-aux-Pins. He also followed a course on food preparation<br />
and spice mixtures in 2007 in South Africa. Never one to<br />
rest on his laurels, as soon as the business started to move<br />
forward, Steve tried to come up with new ideas and revenue<br />
streams, always going to Barclays for help when he needed it.<br />
I feel like more than just a customer<br />
“The relationship with Barclays is a very good one. I have<br />
always made sure that my payments were made in time and<br />
they have helped me along the way. Now, I feel like more than<br />
just a customer, they know me and I know them. I know I can<br />
tell the Barclays team about the issues I am having with my<br />
business, and they will give me advices and encouragements.<br />
I have told them about my next project, and should soon be<br />
presenting them my project document,” he states. For 2015,<br />
Steve Albert has a slew of projects coming, with the biggest<br />
one being the construction of a new factory at Anse-aux-<br />
Pins. The new state of the art factory will not only enable<br />
him to increase his production of bottled vinegar, chili and<br />
tomato sauces, but also to start producing other products<br />
and flavours. “At one point, we were doing 10 different<br />
products, but when I noticed some worked better, I chose<br />
to focus on them. Now, I want to diversify because this will<br />
enable me to increase my profitability. By the end of 2015,<br />
my goal is that Golden Flavours be manufacturing 15 to 20<br />
different products, from condiments to sauces,” declares the<br />
ambitious young man.<br />
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and train for a whole week that you’ll step on the scale and see a massive<br />
difference in your weight. It takes at least a month or two to see proper<br />
results, and even then it’s not much. If you commit to getting in shape,<br />
you have to work hard at it and be in it for the long haul, the results you<br />
see eventually make it all worth it.” It took her nine months to lose 47kgs<br />
and she couldn’t be happier with her results. “You have to work for it; it’s<br />
the only way.”<br />
Stephenie is so grateful to her old friends who have supported and<br />
encouraged her, her new friends from the gym, who have motivated<br />
and pushed her, but she is especially thankful for her parents. “My mom<br />
and dad are my everything, they are so supportive. My mom looks after<br />
my son, Khelan, when I’m working and going to gym. My dad is always<br />
Googling new workouts and healthy eating plans for me. They are so<br />
encouraging and they help me so much – I would never have been able<br />
to commit to getting in shape without them.” Stephenie, who still lives at<br />
home, says that her father even went so far as to create a home gym at the<br />
“Me getting healthy has been a good<br />
thing for the whole family; even my son<br />
eats more healthily now – he likes to<br />
eat what I’m eating; he even steals my<br />
plain yoghurt sometimes.”<br />
house for her and he himself is into fitness too now. “Me getting healthy<br />
has been a good thing for the whole family; even my son eats more<br />
healthily now – he likes to eat what I’m eating; he even steals my plain<br />
yoghurt sometimes.” She smiles.<br />
“I would get on the scale, see that my<br />
weight was the same, and cry and cry.<br />
It was depressing. It’s so difficult when<br />
you’re in that place and you don’t see<br />
a way out.”<br />
After a less than pleasant split from her ex, Stephenie is weary of rushing<br />
into relationships, but that hasn’t stopped the attention she’s been getting<br />
since she got her shape back. “I do get a lot more attention from men<br />
nowadays; when I go out, I don’t even have to take my purse out of my<br />
bag, people just want to buy me drinks!” On the other side of the scale,<br />
there are those who are not so fond of her new look, “people are strange;<br />
when I was overweight people would say ‘you’re obese’, now that I’m in<br />
shape, people tell me I’m too skinny.” She’s slowly starting to realise that<br />
she needs to ignore what others have to say and focus on herself, and how<br />
she feels. She also doesn’t plan on losing any more weight – her goal is to<br />
stay at 61kgs, but keep toning up and maintaining her healthy lifestyle.<br />
Besides the gym, she loves to dance, attend zumba classes, workout with<br />
her yoga DVDs and walk along the beach.<br />
When I ask her for her advice to people in a similar situation as her, she<br />
says “it is not easy at all. But never give up. Keep at it; get advice, get<br />
people to support and encourage you. Remember to earn it and own it.<br />
You have to go and sweat it out – even when you don’t feel like it, just get<br />
up and get active. Soon it becomes a part of your lifestyle and you can’t<br />
wait to get to the gym and you can’t wait to eat a healthy salad. It gets<br />
easier the longer you do it, just believe in yourself.”<br />
Young in age, but wise beyond her years – Stephenie is proof that the<br />
harder you fall, the higher you bounce!<br />
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Musings of an Island Girl<br />
They do not see you stand in the bathroom and gather your resolve every<br />
morning. Splashing your face with water, staring in the mirror, sighing,<br />
brushing your teeth (maybe), picking up that toddler, drifting into the<br />
kitchen, pouring cereal in bowls, cleaning dishes, and making your cup of<br />
tea or coffee with a yawn.<br />
They do not see those of you who mother alone without much support.<br />
They do not see the way you look at the bank account and try to figure<br />
out how to make three meals with what is left in your pantry. They do not<br />
see you walking into the principal’s office, doctor’s office, friend’s house<br />
and defending your child. Alone.<br />
STOP DOUBTING YOURSELF MOMS,<br />
SAYS TINA HOUAREAU<br />
Photographs: Joe Clothilde<br />
You are enough<br />
You give of yourself.<br />
They do not see bandages placed on knees. Quiet kisses on foreheads at<br />
night. Pillows pushed just the right way and blankets tucked to the perfect<br />
demands. Laundry folded and folded and folded. Tears that sting your<br />
eyes as you keep going. Dinners prepared with love. Times of laughter<br />
over silly things. Hair brushed and pulled back into pony tails. Prayers over<br />
little babes. Prayers over wandering teens. Nights spent asleep in a chair<br />
holding a sick child. Days where the house is a wreck but you are reading<br />
books. The courageous smile on your face when you are fatigued.<br />
Those things matter.<br />
Those things are the little things that add up and up and up. Second by<br />
second, minute by minute until they add up to hours which add up to<br />
create days which add up to create weeks which add up to create months<br />
which add up to create years which add up to create a life. A beautiful life<br />
filled with regular mommy moments.<br />
I say those things are enough. I say you are enough.<br />
Tina Houareau is a Seychellois living in the USA with her young son. She is an Instructional Designer for Capella University, where she recently completed her PhD in the same field.<br />
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RELATIONSHIPS<br />
My relationship with… my best friend<br />
For Jeannine Gilbert-Finnigan and Marie-Michelle Joseph it’s always about picking up right where they left off.<br />
By Jeannine Gilbert-Finnigan<br />
No one wants to be at the mercy of life, standing alone, so every day<br />
I give thanks to all my beautiful friends across the globe. I am truly<br />
grateful for the people (old and new) who are bringing joy into my life,<br />
but one special person is my best friend of 27 years Marie-Michelle. We<br />
have known each other for 35 years but our special bond started in our<br />
late teens, the moment in our lives when we became young adults and<br />
understood the true value of friendship.<br />
“WE LIVE THOUSANDS OF MILES<br />
APART BUT WE SPEAK ALMOST<br />
EVERY DAY ON THE PHONE OR<br />
VIA SOCIAL MEDIA.”<br />
I called when I lost my father. When my first long-term relationship<br />
went pear-shaped I cried buckets on her shoulder and she helped me<br />
pick up the pieces and I stood by her during her break-ups too. She was<br />
maid-of-honour at my wedding and helped me plan my big day. She is<br />
the godmother of my daughter and best of all we both feel like we are<br />
part of each other’s families, which is an amazing feeling. We’ve had 27<br />
years of great friendship and I am thankful for that. We live thousands<br />
of miles apart but we speak almost every day by phone or via social<br />
media and we see each other once or twice a year.<br />
27 years on; our bond is still as strong as ever<br />
Almost 12 years ago when I left Seychelles, one of my greatest fears was<br />
losing my friends who have been in my life for so long. Some of them<br />
had been in my life for as long as I can remember; as far back as primary<br />
school and many came into my life by coincidence; Michelle was one<br />
of them. Michelle and I have been friends since we were teenagers. We<br />
met when we started our post-secondary studies; we just so happened<br />
to be taking the same A-level subjects and we were both obsessed with<br />
reading. Exchanging novels became a ritual and that was the start of a<br />
beautiful friendship. Some people are quite surprised when they realise<br />
how close we are because we have completely different personalities. I<br />
am the quiet, reserved one with a discreet confidence where as my best<br />
friend is perhaps the vocal one who doesn’t mince her words. I love her<br />
because with her it’s always: what you see is what you get. We have<br />
been there for each other during all the lows and the highs of our lives.<br />
I was there for her when she lost her sister and she was the first person<br />
“MY BEST FRIEND HAS BEEN A<br />
BLESSING, SHE CHALLENGED ME<br />
WHEN I DOUBTED MY ABILITY,<br />
MOTIVATED ME WHEN I WAS<br />
READY TO GIVE UP AND SHE<br />
WAS THERE FOR ME WHEN LIFE<br />
WAS NOT SO GOOD TO ME”.<br />
Michelle and I on my wedding day<br />
What puzzles people most is that I have never been in Michelle’s<br />
friendship circle and she has never been in mine. When it comes to<br />
other friends we both socialise in different circles. Our friendship is<br />
about the two of us, and our family. We value the time spent together<br />
but giving each other space to get on with other aspects of our lives is<br />
important. We never judge each other and we rarely talk about friends<br />
in our individual friendship circle. We simple accept each other for<br />
who we are and we never try to change one another so that we can fit<br />
in with our other friends. We are never jealous of each other because<br />
we know that we will both drop everything to be at each other’s side<br />
if need be. With Michelle and I, it is about picking up where we left<br />
off, regardless of the time and distance that separates us. We are just<br />
happy to be in each other’s company. We even have date nights, when<br />
the two of us will go out for a meal and talk without interruptions.<br />
It is a special kind of bond that perhaps some of our other friends<br />
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Michelle and her god-daughter (my daughter)<br />
find intriguing. Some people even think we are related<br />
because we are rarely in the same social circle but always<br />
together!<br />
My best friend has been a blessing, she challenged me<br />
when I doubted my ability, motivated me when I was<br />
ready to give up and she was there for me when life was<br />
not so good to me. She continues to do so even if we are<br />
miles apart.<br />
I hope that others have been blessed with amazing<br />
friendships too and that they are grateful for those who<br />
are still in their lives. Friendship is an important part of<br />
life, so value your friends, treat them as you would like to<br />
be treated and you will be rewarded with trust, openness,<br />
support and never-ending friendship. I feel so blessed to<br />
have a friend like Michelle.<br />
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SPECIAL REPORT<br />
Successful with<br />
Down Syndrome<br />
Being born with Down Syndrome may give you a challenging start in life, but with the right help and the right<br />
attitude anything is possible, as Mawess Mea Wirtz finds out<br />
The definition of a person with Down Syndrome is simple – it is a person<br />
who has either an extra full or partial copy of chromosome 21 resulting<br />
in 47 instead of the normal 46 chromosomes. The English doctor, John<br />
Langdon Down who first categorised it, did the usual and named the<br />
syndrome after himself, but it was Dr. Jerome Lejeune who actually<br />
discovered that it was a genetic disorder. Currently, the exact cause is<br />
unknown but statistics show that the older the mother is when she falls<br />
pregnant, the higher the chances that she would have a child born with<br />
DS. Women aged 30 or less have less than 1 in 1,000 chance of have a DS<br />
child, compared to 1 in 400 at age 35. Usually, women over the age of<br />
35 are tested pre-birth for the condition through amniocentesis (testing<br />
the amniotic fluid). Statistics also show that parents who already have a<br />
Down Syndrome baby or have abnormalities in their own chromosome<br />
21 are also high risk. But what is it like to have a Down Syndrome baby in<br />
Seychelles? What is it like to raise the child? How does it affect the family?<br />
What help is there for parents and children alike?<br />
Amazing Grace… how sweet the child.<br />
Grace Mondon is 8 years old; she is an affectionate child who loves music<br />
and going to school. She is a very good student who perseveres in class<br />
and does sports well. She likes playing with her best friend, her twelve<br />
year old cousin Nashil and they share a passion for music. She loves to<br />
sing and dance. She is picky about food. She has Down Syndrome.<br />
Finding out the hard way.<br />
Her mother, Georgette, was 30 when she was born and her father, Clifford<br />
was 33 years old. They had both been in good health and awaiting the<br />
birth of their daughter impatiently. The day that Grace was born was the<br />
HAPPIEST moment in their lives. Georgette had had multiple scans during<br />
her pregnancy but no one noticed anything wrong with her child, the<br />
first indication that something was amiss came AFTER Grace was born.<br />
Mr Mondon remembers a nurse telling him that she thought that there<br />
was something wrong with his baby, but to wait for the doctor. As new<br />
parents, they were immediately filled with fear. The doctor came soon<br />
after, accompanied by a class he was teaching and while the parents<br />
waited fearfully, their child was passed around and examined, her<br />
characteristics were discussed and it was only after class was dismissed<br />
that the doctor informed them that Grace had Down Syndrome. Their<br />
world was rocked. Could you imagine what such a moment feels like?<br />
Where there is a will, there is a way<br />
Mr Mondon remembers telling himself that everything happens for a<br />
reason so he picked himself up, immediately started researching the<br />
syndrome and how he could make a good life for his child. Luckily, among<br />
the first sites, was a very uplifting one, it gave concrete advice and showed<br />
grown up Down Syndrome people who were successful professionally.<br />
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He vowed that HIS daughter was going to get the most normal life he<br />
could provide and that nothing was going to prevent her from being<br />
everything she wanted to be.<br />
A normal upbringing<br />
And a normal upbringing is exactly what Grace has had. She is<br />
reprimanded for doing wrong and she is praised for doing right. She<br />
attended the Count and Read pre-school and despite some issues<br />
she successfully completed her duration there. She then moved to<br />
the Exceptional School and her parents have nothing but the greatest<br />
admiration for the teachers and staff. They credit a lot of Grace’s<br />
development to these amazing people’s commitment to her growth.<br />
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“HE VOWED THAT HIS DAUGHTER WAS<br />
GOING TO GET THE MOST NORMAL<br />
LIFE HE COULD PROVIDE AND THAT<br />
NOTHING WAS GOING TO PREVENT<br />
HER FROM BEING EVERYTHING SHE<br />
WANTED TO BE”.<br />
Surmounting the odds<br />
From birth, Grace would constantly get sick but her parents would always<br />
research the best way to care for her and would liaise with her doctors<br />
to make sure that they were aware of exactly what was happening.<br />
Her father has done this so much that friends have started seeing him<br />
as an endless source of medical advice. Parents must be aware that<br />
Down Syndrome predisposes one to certain medical conditions such<br />
as congenital heart defects, sleep apnea, and Alzheimer’s disease.<br />
There is also evidence of an increased risk of celiac disease, autism,<br />
childhood leukemia and seizures. Endless, heartfelt gratitude goes to Dr<br />
Athanasius who has followed Grace from birth to now. Early intervention<br />
for babies with Down Syndrome is very important as appropriate physical<br />
and speech therapies for the first five years can make a major difference<br />
for that child’s physical and intellectual development.<br />
At around six years old, her parents noticed that there was something<br />
wrong with one of her eyes and sought medical assistance. Despite being<br />
advised to leave it, her parents researched a hospital and raised funds<br />
to send her to have the eye checked and treated, luckily it was a case<br />
of, “good thing you trusted your gut feeling” because it turned out that<br />
Grace was about to lose her eye. Her parents will be eternally grateful to<br />
all the people they didn’t expect to help out, but who did. Thanks to them<br />
Grace’s eye was saved.<br />
Truly exceptional<br />
Grace attends the Exceptional School and never has a school been so<br />
aptly named. The staff that I have met are truly exceptional and the feats<br />
that they have achieved even more so. The achievements of the children<br />
despite their disabilities is the cherry on the cake. The school accepts<br />
students of all disabilities in Seychelles. The students range from being<br />
incapable of doing anything for themselves to those that have learnt to<br />
do so. Along with Grace, the school has around nine Down Syndrome<br />
children and I was surprised to find that they are not grouped together,<br />
rather students at the school are classed according to how much they<br />
have achieved.<br />
With her favourite toys<br />
With her mom<br />
The curriculum changes according to the abilities of the child but the<br />
minute that they show that they are capable the teachers will attempt to<br />
get them to complete the National Curriculum used in all state schools.<br />
Aside from academics, the school also has programs to help the students<br />
socialise successfully, work on their motor skills, give them life skills and<br />
other abilities that we take for granted. Students learn things like how to<br />
dress themselves, table manners, and basic household chores. These get<br />
continually challenging the more they master. The school was proud to<br />
tell me that some of their students could now cook, sew and maintain<br />
themselves effectively. Mr Mondon can vouch for the fact that Grace<br />
dresses herself and is quite independent.<br />
The communication skills for Down Syndrome children are provided at the<br />
school by a speech therapist. This amazing woman works with improving<br />
the speech from mild to severe cases of various disabilities. There are<br />
students that start the school incapable of communicating effectively.<br />
Where before her parents might have had trouble figuring out what Grace<br />
wanted, she has learned gestures that allow her to communicate her<br />
desires.<br />
Down Syndrome children require physical therapy to strengthen their<br />
muscles before they can fine tune their motor skills. The PE teacher<br />
explained to me how the National Sports Council (NSC) provides this<br />
service before the students are ready to learn sports just like Grace<br />
does. Even then however, there needs to be continuous support and<br />
reinforcement to get them to follow the rules of the sport. Grace recently<br />
Having fun at the playground<br />
Water play at school<br />
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competed in the Special Olympics National competition in the 50m walk and made<br />
her parents proud to see her receive her medal from Minister Meriton.<br />
The Seychelles Special Olympics<br />
The other organisation that helps out with the development of the young Down<br />
Syndrome children focuses on sports. A short interview with the National Director<br />
of the Seychelles Special Olympics, Ms Erica Celeste, cleared up what services they<br />
provided. The organisation conducts training of the disabled at various sports every<br />
Sunday but they do not have a bus, therefore the younger and more severe cases can<br />
only train at the Exceptional School. The ages range from 8 to “as old as you are when<br />
you stop” but the others are also registered to the association. Ms Celeste says that<br />
the training of the Down Syndrome athletes requires repetition of the same concepts<br />
every Sunday and endless patience. The performance of our athletes in the World<br />
Olympics however, is worth it. She notes that with Down Syndrome, a high level of<br />
positive reinforcement needs to be maintained. Usually she uses a plethora of high<br />
fives and hugs to steer her charges to success. The organisation is also going to start<br />
their young athletes programme and have a competition later in the year.<br />
“THE STUDENTS RANGE FROM BEING<br />
INCAPABLE OF DOING ANYTHING FOR<br />
THEMSELVES TO THOSE WHO HAVE LEARNT<br />
HOW TO DO THINGS ON THEIR OWN”.<br />
How is she now?<br />
Grace doesn’t really talk, but make no mistake, she communicates effectively, she<br />
may not be able tell her parents something in sentences but through a combination<br />
of words and gestures, she makes her point. In her studies, she has been working<br />
diligently and is capable of doing a lot of small activities. Her teachers are proud of her<br />
progress and admire her for always keeping everything tidy, cleaning up after each<br />
activity all on her own. Cleanliness is definitely the next step to Godliness for Grace.<br />
She is no longer sickly and she lives like any 8-year old, loving to have fun with no idea<br />
that she is different.<br />
Down Syndrome takes<br />
centre-stage in 2015<br />
A recent CNN.com article by David M Perry, highlighted<br />
how the spotlight is on Down Syndrome this year; in the<br />
article he wrote: “Down syndrome, with all its promise and<br />
challenges, has never been more visible: Jamie Brewer, an<br />
actress with Down Syndrome, just walked the catwalk at<br />
New York Fashion Week. A video of a girl with Down Syndrome<br />
singing a John Legend song went viral, receiving 6<br />
million page views and counting. People were so moved<br />
by the story of a father choosing his son with Down Syndrome<br />
over his marriage that they donated over $500,000<br />
to his care (although the father’s story has now been<br />
called into question).” The writer himself is the father of a<br />
Down Syndrome son, so he’s experienced to comment on<br />
the condition and went on to say: “Thanks to the power of<br />
the Internet and the commitment of activists, politicians<br />
and experts of all sorts, access to these antidotes [information,<br />
experts and community] has never been easier.”<br />
And it’s true – you’re not alone.<br />
Useful contact numbers and details:<br />
Exceptional School Seychelles: Call (+248) 4283057 /<br />
website: http://www.ecoschoolseychelles.org/school-forthe-exceptional-child.html<br />
Further reading and advice:<br />
https://www.worlddownsyndromeday.org/<br />
http://www.down-syndrome.org<br />
https://www.ds-int.org<br />
http://www.downsyndrome.org.za/<br />
International World Down Syndrome day is on 21 March<br />
In the future….<br />
The future looks bright because some research shows that people with Down<br />
Syndrome who have certain heart defects or childhood leukemia are more likely<br />
than their typical counterparts to recover or recover more quickly. It is also rare<br />
for a person with Down Syndrome to have a solid tumor cancer or cardiovascular<br />
disease, (including heart attack and stroke). Her father says that ideally he would like<br />
to set her up with her own business because he is unsure about how she would be<br />
treated in someone’s employment. And when I asked him about dating, he says he<br />
thinks he is ok with it and he wants her to find someone, but I get the impression<br />
that it will take one amazing man to marry the Mondon princess. Over-protective is<br />
an understatement (and I mean this in the nicest way possible)! Research tells me<br />
that today the lifespan of a person with Down Syndrome is around 60 years, unlike<br />
as recently as 1983, when the average lifespan was 25 years. The average IQ has also<br />
increased so Grace might well soon be the successful businesswoman her father<br />
wants her to be.<br />
One year old<br />
At Farquhar<br />
Building for the future<br />
Mr Mondon has invested in so many projects that help out the<br />
disabled children. He set up the breakfast programme for the<br />
Exceptional School and he wants to set up a Down Syndrome<br />
club, where other parents can come together and work on<br />
improving the facilities available for Down Syndrome children.<br />
Down syndrome in the world<br />
Although children and adults with Down Syndrome may<br />
share some common features, they look more like their<br />
immediate family members than like each other. Actors such<br />
as Chris Burke, who played Corky in Life Goes On, and Lauren<br />
Potter, who plays Becky Jackson on Glee, show us that there is<br />
no barrier in being Down Syndrome, afterall, those two made it<br />
in HOLLYWOOD! Something most of us can only dream about.<br />
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After surgery<br />
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A treasure<br />
trove in<br />
Baie Lazare<br />
In the heart of Baie Lazare, Lynette Botha<br />
discovers an unsuspecting place that houses<br />
a lot of history and a lot of heart<br />
Joseph Larue is an anomaly. He doesn’t have an email address, he’s<br />
not really interested in TV and he thinks social media is ruining<br />
relationships. He longs for the old days, when life was simpler. He<br />
recalls days gone by, when he was a young boy and his family would<br />
take turns to tell stories in the evening because they had no television –<br />
his grandfather, his mother and his father, all taking turns to share a tale<br />
– and before he knew it, it was bedtime. He misses those days, when life<br />
moved at a slower pace and people weren’t consumed by technology<br />
and entertainment.<br />
It’s no surprise then to learn about his great and deep-seated love for<br />
history. Joseph owns Lazare Souvenir, Museum and Gallery in Baie<br />
Lazare – a treasure trove of trinkets from the past. And while it’s only<br />
been open for around six months, the store was previously located in<br />
Victoria, called Yves Souvenir Cachée, where it had been for 15 years.<br />
There are fascinating things he has collected over the years – from old<br />
spectacles, gramophones and typewriters to records, coins and even an<br />
old electricity receipt dating decades back with a monthly total so little,<br />
you’d choke comparing it to the bills of today.<br />
When I ask him where the majority of his things come from, he says<br />
“You won’t believe it, but most of these things I have picked up in<br />
the junk yard; people just throw this stuff out. There is not much of a<br />
culture of history and remembrance in Seychelles – people don’t seem<br />
to treasure family heirlooms. If older members of their family pass on,<br />
they tend to just throw their stuff out; they don’t hold on to it or restore<br />
it.” But he’s not complaining – he’s picked up many amazing pieces from<br />
the junkyard, including the prized bicycle with the “open” sign affixed<br />
to it that stands proudly outside the store’s front door. “It’s like the old<br />
adage goes, one man’s junk is another man’s treasure,” he says. Apart<br />
from housing historical items of Seychelles’ past, the walls are adorned<br />
with art for sale from local artists, many of whom Joseph is friends with.<br />
Most of the work showcased is done by artists from the Baie Lazare area<br />
and gets them a lot of exposure. “Yeh, the art sells well here – and as<br />
soon as something is sold, I call them up and say ‘there’s a gap on the<br />
wall, I need a replacement’.” He smiles as he tells me this. Joseph has an<br />
extremely calm and warm nature, and shares his knowledge and stories<br />
openly. Which is why I’m not surprised when he tells me that he often<br />
has groups from schools who come by to visit, and he gives them a<br />
guided tour of the place and answers their questions.<br />
“IT’S LIKE THE OLD ADAGE<br />
GOES, ONE MAN’S JUNK IS<br />
ANOTHER MAN’S TREASURE,”<br />
HE SAYS.<br />
Every year since 2003, Joseph has visited the UK at least once; unlike<br />
many locals who mainly travel abroad to shop and enjoy the finer<br />
things in life, he loves to visit other places and experience their culture<br />
and history. Of all the places he’s travelled to he says that the museums<br />
and antique stores that he visited in the UK and South Africa have<br />
had the biggest influence on how he curates things and have further<br />
inspired him to keep hunting for souvenirs and artifacts to display.<br />
There is no cover fee to visit the museum, and when I ask him if he’ll<br />
ever charge one in the future, he responds, “never; I will never have a<br />
fee to come in. I am grateful for any donations, of course, so that I can<br />
carry on collecting and preserving history, but I will never charge for<br />
viewing.” Do people often leave donations I ask? “Not all the time, but I<br />
get a few, normally SR25 or SR50; the most I have received was SR100<br />
from a local lady who was so impressed by the place.” Joseph has many<br />
foreigners visit and says they are always impressed with what he has<br />
done with the place and they ask a lot of questions; “they really love it;<br />
you just need to read my guest book to see for yourself”.<br />
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FURTHER INSPIRED HIM TO KEEP<br />
HUNTING FOR SOUVENIRS AND<br />
ARTIFACTS TO DISPLAY.<br />
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When choosing the colourful outside of Joseph’s museum as the<br />
backdrop for our cover shoot this month, we had no idea of the<br />
amazing history that lay beneath nor the friendly, genuine man<br />
responsible for it. As they say, everything happens for a reason. Do<br />
yourself a favour and pay the place a visit – you won’t be sorry.<br />
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Of broken<br />
homes<br />
mended<br />
souls<br />
Domestic violence is something very prevalent in our<br />
country, but a subject that remains greatly taboo. This<br />
month we look at a survivor’s tale as well as telltale<br />
signs that it’s time to get out and how to ask for help….<br />
By Marie-France Watson and Lynette Botha<br />
A survivor’s tale<br />
One woman shares her story of living with and loving<br />
an abusive partner – and how she finally got out<br />
Cecile’s love story with Mark started when she was just 16 years old. He<br />
was her first love. Coming from a home that was struggling with certain<br />
social issues including mental illness, Mark’s presence in her life was<br />
comforting. His possessiveness, which she now she realises was an early<br />
sign of things to come, was at the time reassuring for her. He loved her<br />
and wanted to protect her. Despite advice that the relationship would not<br />
work from family and close friends, Cecile could not wait to marry Mark<br />
at 22. Her excitement at the prospect of building a life with the man she<br />
loved caused her to turn a blind eye to the occasional slaps, which had<br />
started to surface. She dismissed them as irrelevant and was certain they<br />
would stop when she became his wife.<br />
She was wrong. While the physical abuse was not a daily occurrence, in<br />
fact she recalls only two or three serious incidents in each year of their<br />
marriage, the psychological ones were more frequent. In fits of rage he<br />
would break things in the house, throw her out of the car they owned<br />
(and often in places where she would be left stranded and far away from<br />
home) and also threaten to kick her out of the house they owned. Looking<br />
back, Cecile realises that it was all part of his need to control her. Instilling<br />
fear in her was his way of reminding her who was the boss. While she<br />
refuses to be labeled a victim, Cecile admits that psychologically he broke<br />
her. After each incident he would cry and ask for forgiveness, but in the<br />
same breath he would blame her for it; if only she had listened to him<br />
or not answered back, he would have never raised his hand to her. She<br />
would believe him for many reasons, one of which was she always wanted<br />
her marriage to work out.<br />
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“If you feel like you have to<br />
walk on eggshells around your<br />
partner—constantly watching<br />
what you say and do in order<br />
to avoid a blow-up—chances<br />
are your relationship is<br />
unhealthy and abusive. Other<br />
signs that you may be in an<br />
abusive relationship include<br />
a partner who belittles you or<br />
tries to control you, and feelings<br />
of self-loathing, helplessness,<br />
and desperation.”<br />
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN THE HOME<br />
The most recent statistics for domestic violence cases in Seychelles are<br />
from 2013. Where figures show that domestic violence in the home grew<br />
considerably from 472 cases in 2010, 589 in 2011, 670 in 2012 to 617 cases<br />
in 2013. Bearing in mind these are cases that are reported – more often<br />
than not, domestic violence is tolerated in the home for years and years,<br />
before it is (if ever) reported. Also to note, is that these cases all included<br />
physical harm – domestic abuse may include emotional or psychological<br />
damage, but domestic violence indicates that the victim was physically<br />
harmed.<br />
FOR YOU<br />
How to recognise abuse<br />
Domestic abuse often starts out as verbal and emotional abuse;<br />
arguments start, name-calling and blaming is thrown in, foul language<br />
and threats may arise. This tends to escalate over weeks, months and<br />
years. While physically, bodily violence seems the most dangerous, it’s<br />
generally the emotional and psychological element that causes the most<br />
damage over time. Emotionally abusive relationships lower your selfworth,<br />
lead to anxiety and depression, and make you feel helpless and<br />
alone. Domestic abuse knows no bounds – it affects women, men and<br />
children, whether in a partnership or married, no matter race or religion –<br />
and it is extremely damaging to all involved.<br />
Signs of an abusive relationship<br />
Knowing how to identify the signs of an abusive relationship is the first<br />
step in getting help, and removing yourself from this toxic situation.<br />
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The arrival of their son, Myles, did not change Mark’s anger with the<br />
world. While she can’t confirm whether Myles ever witnessed a physical<br />
incident she knows he heard them. In fact, his reaction to a particular fight<br />
was the moment she decided she had to leave Mark. Myles stood in the<br />
corridor outside their bedroom in the middle of an intense verbal fight<br />
and shouted, ’stop making me pee in my pants’. Cecile there and then<br />
realised that she had not managed to keep her marital problems separate<br />
from her child. At four, he was already consumed with fear. This was day<br />
one in the countdown to her divorce.<br />
The process would take two years. Cecile explained that she has never<br />
been a person who made rushed decisions. To leave Mark she had to<br />
be independent. They shared a home, a car and he was privy to all her<br />
financials. She had to change all that. During those two years, life went<br />
on and the abuse went on. At times she felt hopeful that things could<br />
change. Afterall, she had a home, an extended family and a status. Was<br />
it worth giving all this up? And there was another important factor<br />
to consider as well; shame. How would her family react? What would<br />
everyone think? Aside from a bloody nose once, her bruises had always<br />
been hidden from the world. No one knew of her torment.<br />
Turning 30 was a turning point in her life. In January that year she laid<br />
the cards on the table to Mark – no more cheating and no more hitting.<br />
He agreed and kept his promise for just over a month. An incident where<br />
she stayed at an event for one hour longer than she had promised<br />
resulted in an assault while she slept and a broken arm when she reacted.<br />
The morning after that incident, Cecile walked out.<br />
It’s been over a decade now since that day. For the most part Cecile feels<br />
that she has moved on. She can talk about it without crying and is able<br />
to analyse the entire 14 years with Mark from both perspectives. Mark’s<br />
mother had been openly unfaithful to his father causing him to have a<br />
low opinion of women in general. According to her, a man who ‘hates’ his<br />
mother or sister has issues which need to be addressed. Also, she reckons<br />
that Mark could never truly accept the woman she grew into over the<br />
years. At 16, she was a child and as she matured she changed and he lost<br />
his control over her. Academically, she was also a step ahead of him. She<br />
never thought that would have anything to do with anything, but she<br />
does recall conversations with polytechnic friends many years ago where<br />
they expressed concerns over their compatibility. The fact that she was<br />
accepted into the school she wanted and he didn’t most likely did not sit<br />
well with him.<br />
On the other hand, parts of the abuse puzzle have stayed with her. It’s<br />
taken her years to trust her current partner. Years into their relationship<br />
she still has trouble believing he would never hit her or threaten to leave<br />
her. It is a work in progress and it always will be.<br />
According to helpguide.org, an international site for information and<br />
help with mental and emotional health, the most telling sign is fear of<br />
your partner. “If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your<br />
partner—constantly watching what you say and do in order to avoid<br />
a blow-up—chances are your relationship is unhealthy and abusive.<br />
Other signs that you may be in an abusive relationship include a partner<br />
who belittles you or tries to control you, and feelings of self-loathing,<br />
helplessness, and desperation.”<br />
SIGNS THAT YOU’RE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP<br />
Your Inner Thoughts and Feelings<br />
Do you:<br />
Feel afraid of your partner much<br />
of the time?<br />
Avoid certain topics out of fear of<br />
angering your partner?<br />
Feel that you can’t do anything<br />
right for your partner?<br />
Believe that you deserve to be<br />
hurt or mistreated?<br />
Wonder if you’re the one who is<br />
crazy?<br />
Feel emotionally numb or<br />
helpless?<br />
Your Partner’s Violent Behaviour<br />
or Threats<br />
Does your partner:<br />
Have a bad and unpredictable<br />
temper?<br />
Hurt you, or threaten to hurt or<br />
kill you?<br />
Threaten to take your children<br />
away or harm them?<br />
Threaten to commit suicide if you<br />
leave?<br />
Force you to have sex?<br />
Destroy your belongings?<br />
Your Partner’s Belittling Behavior<br />
Does your partner:<br />
Humiliate or yell at you?<br />
Criticize you and put you down?<br />
Treat you so badly that you’re<br />
embarrassed for your friends or<br />
family to see?<br />
Ignore or put down your opinions<br />
or accomplishments?<br />
Blame you for their own abusive<br />
behavior?<br />
See you as property or a sex<br />
object, rather than as a person?<br />
Your Partner’s Controlling<br />
Behaviour<br />
Does your partner:<br />
Act excessively jealous and<br />
possessive?<br />
Control where you go or what<br />
you do?<br />
Keep you from seeing your friends<br />
or family?<br />
Limit your access to money, the<br />
phone, or the car?<br />
Limit who you see and where you<br />
go?<br />
Constantly check up on you?<br />
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SPECIAL REPORT<br />
The site offers the following table to determine whether your relationship<br />
is abusive. The more “yes” answers, the more likely it is that you’re in an<br />
abusive relationship.<br />
FOR FRIENDS & FAMILY<br />
Recognising the warning signs of domestic violence and abuse<br />
It’s impossible to know with certainty what goes on behind closed doors,<br />
but there are some telltale signs and symptoms of emotional abuse and<br />
domestic violence. If you witness any warning signs of abuse in a friend,<br />
family member, or co-worker, take them very seriously.<br />
General warning signs of domestic abuse<br />
People who are being abused may:<br />
• Seem afraid or anxious to please their partner<br />
• Go along with everything their partner says and does<br />
• Check in often with their partner to report where they are and what<br />
they’re doing<br />
• Receive frequent, harassing phone calls from their partner<br />
• Talk about their partner’s temper, jealousy, or possessiveness<br />
Warning signs of physical violence<br />
People who are being physically abused may:<br />
• Have frequent injuries, with the excuse of “accidents”<br />
• Frequently miss work, school, or social occasions, without<br />
explanation<br />
• Dress in clothing designed to hide bruises or scars (e.g. wearing long<br />
sleeves in the summer or sunglasses indoors)<br />
Warning signs of isolation<br />
People who are being isolated by their abuser may:<br />
• Be restricted from seeing family and friends<br />
• Rarely go out in public without their partner<br />
• Have limited access to money, credit cards, or the car<br />
The psychological warning signs of abuse<br />
People who are being abused may:<br />
• Have very low self-esteem, even if they used to be confident<br />
• Show major personality changes (e.g. an outgoing person becomes<br />
withdrawn)<br />
• Be depressed, anxious, or suicidal<br />
GETTING OUT AND GETTING HELP<br />
Whether or not you’re ready to leave your abuser, there are things you can<br />
do to protect yourself. These safety tips can make the difference between<br />
being severely injured or killed and escaping with your life.<br />
PREPARE FOR EMERGENCIES:<br />
Know your abuser’s red flags.<br />
Be on alert for signs and clues that your abuser is getting upset and may<br />
IT IS STILL ABUSE IF...<br />
• The incidents of physical abuse seem minor when compared to<br />
those you have read about, seen on television or heard other<br />
women talk about. There isn’t a “better” or “worse” form of<br />
physical abuse; you can be severely injured as a result of being<br />
pushed, for example.<br />
• The incidents of physical abuse have only occurred one or two<br />
times in the relationship. Studies indicate that if your spouse<br />
or partner has injured you once, it is likely he will continue to<br />
physically assault you.<br />
• The physical assaults stopped when you became passive and<br />
gave up your right to express yourself as you desire, to move<br />
about freely and see others, and to make decisions. It is not a<br />
victory if you have to give up your rights as a person and a<br />
partner in exchange for not being assaulted!<br />
• There has not been any physical violence. Many women are<br />
emotionally and verbally assaulted. This can be as equally<br />
frightening and is often more confusing to try to understand.<br />
Source: Breaking the Silence Handbook<br />
explode in anger or violence. Come up with several believable reasons<br />
you can use to leave the house (both during the day and at night) if you<br />
sense trouble brewing.<br />
Identify safe areas of the house.<br />
Know where to go if your abuser attacks or an argument starts. Avoid<br />
small, enclosed spaces without exits (such as closets or bathrooms) or<br />
rooms with weapons (such as the kitchen). If possible, head for a room<br />
with a phone and an outside door or window.<br />
Come up with a code word.<br />
Establish a word, phrase, or signal you can use to let your children, friends,<br />
neighbours, or co-workers know that you’re in danger and the police<br />
should be called.<br />
Make an escape plan<br />
Be ready to leave at a moment’s notice. Keep the car fueled up and<br />
facing the driveway exit, with the driver’s door unlocked. Hide a spare<br />
car key where you can get it quickly. Have emergency cash, clothing, and<br />
important phone numbers and documents stashed in a safe place (at a<br />
friend’s house, for example).<br />
Practice escaping quickly and safely.<br />
Rehearse your escape plan so you know exactly what to do if under attack<br />
from your abuser. If you have children, have them practice the escape plan<br />
also.<br />
Make and memorise a list of emergency contacts.<br />
Ask several trusted individuals if you can contact them if you need a ride, a<br />
place to stay, or help contacting the police. Memorise the numbers of your<br />
family, emergency contacts and a domestic violence hotline.<br />
EMERGENCY CONTACTS AND INFORMATION<br />
Emergency: 999<br />
Hotline: 133<br />
Central Police Station: 428 80 00<br />
HOSPITAL<br />
Emergency: 151 <br />
Seychelles Hospital: 438 80 00 <br />
Praslin Hospital: 423 23 33 <br />
La Digue Logan Hospital: 423 42 55<br />
Alliance of Solidarity for the Family (ASFF)<br />
Call: +248 432 3211; 252 5711; 250 1247 <br />
E-mail: asff@seychelles.net<br />
http://www.civilsociety.sc/<br />
Seychelles National Council for Children (NCC)<br />
NCC OR SOCIAL SERVICES HELPLINE: 422 4390<br />
Email: ncc@seychelles.sc<br />
The names have been changed to protect the family’s privacy.<br />
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SEYCHELLOIS OVERSEAS<br />
Former Beauty Queen on a Divine Mission<br />
The moment the Jane Stravens changed her birth year on an application form so that she<br />
would be old enough to participate in the Miss Seychelles 1972 contest, she had no idea<br />
of By what Jane was to Edna come. Stravens<br />
Not only she would win that crown but also make it to the top 10<br />
finalists in the Miss World contest in London later on that same year. The decision was not<br />
even one that had been thought through adequately. She had simply wanted to try her<br />
luck in the national pageant and when being 16 was the only deterrent standing in her<br />
way, she changed a number. Looking back, she realises that it also changed her life.<br />
Jane was born in Seychelles to Joachim and Marie Stravens in 1956. As is common with<br />
many families where the head was part of the police force, they move around the island<br />
quite a bit. As a child, this provided a wonderful real-life ‘Alice in Wonderland’ scenario for<br />
Jane who in turn got to learn about different places and beaches. They must have made<br />
quite an impression on her since many of these locations are featured in the books she<br />
wrote as an adult such as “Shirley and Her Friends the Dolphins - Listen To The Silence”<br />
where the main character, Shirley, is from a small village called Quatre Borne in the district<br />
of Takamaka.<br />
Following her crowning as Miss Seychelles in 1972, which made her a household name on<br />
the islands, Jane went on to spend six extraordinary weeks in London as part of the Miss<br />
World contest. This of course happened after Eric Morley had been informed that a 16<br />
year old had won the crown and still gave the approval for her to participate. Jane would<br />
end up making history for Seychelles as far as Miss World goes; to date she is the only<br />
Seychellois who has made it to the top 10 finalists. Turning down a modeling contract<br />
after the pageant, Jane returned to Seychelles and started a career in the travelling<br />
business. She’d had already had a taste of it and she wasn’t about to lose it. Working with<br />
the Travel Services Seychelles gave way to travelling opportunities which Jane longed for.<br />
It was in the 1980’s that she finally succumbed to the inner voice that kept telling her that<br />
beyond Seychelles’ shores something new and exciting<br />
was waiting for her.<br />
The place was Italy. For the longest time Jane had felt a<br />
fascination with this country which has been the starting<br />
point of phenomena of international impact such as<br />
the Roman Empire, the Roman Catholic Church, the<br />
Renaissance and the Risorgimento. Indeed, the cultural<br />
element of a life in Italy is one of the boxes that had to be<br />
ticked for the move to take place.<br />
“There’s one recurring<br />
element in most of<br />
Jane’s endeavors<br />
and pursuits and that<br />
is her interest in the<br />
divine powers.”<br />
Italy did not disappoint Jane; in fact it provided ample<br />
playground for her to explore multiple interests and<br />
talents. Forward the clock and we have a Degree in<br />
Theology, three years spent at the Brera Fine Arts<br />
Academy; one of the most important art education<br />
institutions in Italy, six published books and four more<br />
waiting to be published. There’s one recurring element<br />
in most of Jane’s endeavors and pursuits and that is<br />
her interest in the divine powers, or simply put, God.<br />
“God is everything to me,” Jane confides. She recalls<br />
how when she was growing up, practicing religion was<br />
never a discussion in her home, it simply was. Church<br />
was attended every Sunday and every night her mother<br />
would gather the family together to pray. Following a<br />
particular difficult time in Italy she decided to deepen<br />
her knowledge in religion as part of building a stronger<br />
relationship with God. As she puts it, “before there was a<br />
flame and now it’s a full blown fire”. Not one to keep any<br />
acquired knowledge to herself, Jane also makes time to<br />
teach children catechism and also the arts.<br />
A desire to share her love for God coupled with childhood<br />
memories that continued to infiltrate her thoughts, her<br />
first book came to life; How to Be Useful to Humanity -<br />
The Birth of Silk. “I have always had something to say,”<br />
Jane says. Jane also states that it is a wonderful thing<br />
to encourage children to cultivate their passions from<br />
an early age. Jane also takes credit for the colourful<br />
illustrations in her books. Her interest in developing her<br />
artistic side has not seen its final light since she expresses<br />
further interest in learning more.<br />
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On her mind right now is the EXPO (research on food and energy)<br />
which will be in Milan this year, from the 1st of May to the 31st of<br />
October. Jane is organising the 2nd edition of the “Children’s Painting<br />
World Competition and Exhibition, entitled “Praising the Lord<br />
Together”, in order to give praise and<br />
thanks to God for all that he has given<br />
us to enjoy for our health and beauty.<br />
This initiative has been blessed by<br />
Pope Benedict 16° more than two<br />
years ago. Jane extends the invitation<br />
to participate to the children of<br />
Seychelles; find out more by going to<br />
Jane’s website: www.janestravens.com<br />
Jane’s to-do list seems to be a neverending<br />
shrinking one. Her thirst for<br />
knowledge, her love of life along with<br />
her devotion to God keeps her going<br />
on to the next thing and the next…<br />
Jane’s books are available on<br />
Amazon, Barnes & Nobles (US)<br />
and also from her website www.<br />
janestravens.com<br />
Jane as Miss Seychelles<br />
SEYCHELLOIS OVERSEAS<br />
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MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI 22
Good, honest fun, along<br />
with lethal cocktails, guitars<br />
and crayfish have Brigitte<br />
Monchouguy in high spirits<br />
Alas many were under size and some were breeders so we did<br />
the responsible thing and released them back into the ocean. We<br />
gathered the remaining three lobsters and put on our snorkelling<br />
gear to dive for Roe’s abalone, prying them off the surrounding<br />
rocks and straight into our mesh bags.<br />
Word around town was<br />
that our friend, Crispin,<br />
was holding a bona<br />
fide Aussie bush party<br />
to celebrate his 40th birthday. My<br />
boyfriend, J and I decided to head<br />
down south to check it out. We made<br />
the three-hour journey from Perth<br />
straight after work, stopping only for a petrol refill and chiko roll to snack on. Let it be said<br />
that rural West Australian service stations are far from a culinary mecca.<br />
renée martin designs<br />
We arrived in Margaret River in total darkness and had to pitch our tent in the dead of<br />
night, thankfully aided by head torches and my partner’s impressive camping skills. We<br />
woke up the next morning under the blazing sun and drove straight to Redgate Beach<br />
for a reviving dip, then took advantage of the low tide to bait our licensed crayfish pots<br />
before cooking a breakfast of bacon and eggs on the barbie.<br />
While the crayfish pots worked their magic we decided to visit Gunyulgup Galleries,<br />
discovering some beautiful locally made glass sculptures and landscape paintings.<br />
Then we headed to Crispin’s own little piece of heaven along the river, where he and<br />
his wife have just completed building their three bedroom log cabin, set in untouched<br />
bushland. A suckling pig was already roasting on a spit and we set about making Crispin’s<br />
grandmother’s famous tea punch, a recipe which has been passed down from generation<br />
to generation and is surprisingly lethal once laced with the requisite gin, rum or brandy!<br />
Guitars and drums were brought out and we had a group sing-a-long underneath the<br />
stars late into the night. It was good, honest fun.<br />
The next day J and I went for our morning swim and checked on the crayfish pots. We<br />
were elated to discover a total of 22 crayfish (Western Rock Lobsters) in our two pots.<br />
Back at J’s brother’s house we prepared a feast of lobster and<br />
abalone cooked two ways – one in a parsley, butter and white<br />
wine sauce and the other with garlic and chili. Serving it with<br />
a fresh grapefruit and almond salad, crusty Yallingup Bakery<br />
woodfired sourdough bread and homemade lemonade, we<br />
enjoyed a veritable feast from sea to table in less than two hours.<br />
Delicious! Until next time, if you can’t be good, be good at it.<br />
Mrs Underwood’s Tea Punch<br />
A. Brew 2 tbsp black tea in 3 cups of boiling water. Let stand for 5<br />
minutes then strain.<br />
B. Dissolve ½ cup sugar in 2 cups of boiling water. Add a handful<br />
of fresh mint and infuse for 5 minutes. Strain and while still<br />
hot, stir in ¼ cup of red currant jelly. Combine A and B. Let<br />
stand until cool.<br />
C. Mix 2 cups of orange juice, 2 cups of pineapple juice and the<br />
juice of 6 lemons. Combine C with A and B. Store in jugs or<br />
bottles in the fridge until needed.<br />
When ready to serve the punch combine 1/3 of the ABC<br />
mixture with 2/3 cold ginger beer, lemonade or soda.<br />
Spike with gin, rum or brandy and serve over ice in tea cups<br />
with a fresh mint leaf as garnish.<br />
Brigitte Monchouguy is a Seychellois legal<br />
practitioner with a passion for social journalism. She<br />
is happiest when travelling, with interests in music,<br />
art, theatre and architecture. She also dabbles in<br />
mixology and will be sharing cocktail recipes along<br />
with her monthly escapades.<br />
23 MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI
| From London to Mahé |<br />
The difference between men and women<br />
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus? Despite not liking gender labels, Daniel Balkwill tends to agree<br />
Gender stereotypes are hateful things.<br />
Casually labelling 50% of the world’s<br />
population with exactly the same<br />
attributes is just plain ignorant.<br />
Personally, I can’t bear it when a lady rolls<br />
her eyes and says “Huh, typical man”. I’m<br />
sure ladies find their hackles rising when a<br />
so-called gentleman suggests that all women<br />
talk too much, spend an excessive amount<br />
of time in the bathroom and can’t throw<br />
“CLICHÉS AND<br />
STEREOTYPES ONLY<br />
EXIST BECAUSE THEY<br />
ARE ESSENTIALLY<br />
MIRED IN TRUTH<br />
BUT THAT DOESN’T<br />
MEAN THAT THEY<br />
APPLY ACROSS THE<br />
BOARD.”<br />
things properly just as we take umbrage<br />
at being accused of being emotionally<br />
stunted, thinking exclusively with our nether<br />
regions and possessing an innate inability<br />
to multitask. It is perhaps the last of these<br />
alleged typical male traits that annoys me the<br />
most but I shall revisit that point later.<br />
Clichés and stereotypes only exist because<br />
they are essentially mired in truth but that<br />
doesn’t mean that they apply across the<br />
board. Come to think of it, I don’t actually<br />
know of any particular woman who talks<br />
sparingly, spends an acceptable amount of<br />
time whilst getting ready in the morning<br />
and has a devilish throwing arm but I am<br />
convinced such individuals are to be found.<br />
Similarly, I’ve not met any men who can<br />
emote freely, rarely obsess over the fairer sex<br />
and have the ability to rustle up a Cordon<br />
Bleu meal whilst juggling a set of flaming<br />
skittles but there must surely be such folk in<br />
existence too.<br />
Not long ago I reached the end of my<br />
working day. Nothing of much note had<br />
happened. Such is the fickle world of retail.<br />
Undeterred by the paucity of the day’s<br />
successes, I set off for home, striding along<br />
the Providence highway with my usual<br />
combination of pace and purpose. As a wise<br />
man once said, the sooner you get home, the<br />
sooner you get to chill out and play with the<br />
dog.<br />
Upon my return, there was clearly a situation<br />
of domestic upheaval. The car’s battery<br />
was flat and there was an imminent storm<br />
threatening. We all had to help push the<br />
stricken vehicle into the garage before the<br />
full might of the tropical elements was<br />
unleashed. Despite the rigours of a day at<br />
work followed by a three mile hike I threw<br />
myself into the task with gusto. Although<br />
there was some initial resistance, the car<br />
began to inch slowly towards its intended<br />
shelter.<br />
It was at this point that things began to go<br />
awry. Ossie the dog had been observing<br />
this curious activity and decided to get<br />
involved. Normally he views me as his<br />
faithful companion and playmate but on<br />
this occasion something had clearly shortcircuited<br />
in his mind. As I was pushing the car<br />
with both arms fully extended and unable to<br />
protect myself I suddenly felt him jump on<br />
my back.<br />
Dan works for Kreol Wines - a wine shop located<br />
at Eden Plaza on Eden Island, specialising in<br />
Argentinian, Australian, French and South<br />
African products.<br />
Opening hours: Monday - Friday, 9am - 6.30pm;<br />
Saturday, 10am - 6pm; Sunday, 10am - 4pm<br />
It was then, in the midst of my canine<br />
torment, that I experienced an unexpected<br />
moment of clarity. I was shoving a heavy<br />
car with all my might, desperately fending<br />
off the unwanted advances of an amorous,<br />
temporarily sexually confused 45 kilogram<br />
dog with my left leg and breathing all at the<br />
same time. Perhaps men can multitask after<br />
all.<br />
H<br />
MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI 24
Life, love and everything in between<br />
In an interview with George Negus in 1979, Bob Marley clearly stated what richness<br />
meant to him.<br />
Interviewer:<br />
Bob Marley:<br />
Interviewer:<br />
Bob Marley:<br />
Interviewer:<br />
Bob Marley:<br />
Have you made a lot of money out of your music?<br />
Money? How much is a lot of money to you?<br />
Yes, that’s a good question. Have you made, say, millions of dollars? Are<br />
you a rich man?<br />
When you say rich, what do you mean?<br />
Do you have lots of possessions? Lots of money in the bank?<br />
Possessions make you rich? I don’t have that kind of richness, my<br />
richness is life... forever.<br />
His answer was so simple, yet so profound and thought provoking. It made me<br />
reevaluate things too, and ask myself: what is richness? What makes someone rich? Is it<br />
their flashy car and their nice house? Or is it that their family is happy and healthy and<br />
loved, with a roof over their heads and food in their stomachs?<br />
Discovering the<br />
richness of Life<br />
The true meaning of wealth has nothing<br />
to do with money, says Alexandria Faure<br />
In this one interview Bob Marley encapsulates something meaningful and true; that<br />
richness is life.<br />
We spend so much time in our lives chasing after materialistic things and accumulating<br />
wealth; we think possessions and status make us successful, ignorantly unaware that<br />
the richness of life exists in nature, in our loved ones and in ourselves. We may all have<br />
different perspectives on life and varying opinions but this is definitely something worth<br />
pondering (and something we can all agree on…?).<br />
Alexandria Faure is a freelance writer with a degree in Drama & Theatre Arts and hopes to pursue a masters in the near future. She is passionate about preserving the unique<br />
Kreol culture and heritage of Seychelles, and her hobby is researching different cultural aspects of Seychelles and the historical stories behind them. She hopes to share ideas and<br />
thoughts drawn from her life experiences in her articles.<br />
EATING WELL WITHIN YOUR BUDGET<br />
Tips and tricks to make your food go further with Celia Ponzo<br />
HEALTHY CHOICES<br />
As soon as we hear the term ‘healthy eating’, we immediately feel our<br />
wallets draining. We tend to think that eating healthier foods is going to<br />
be a burden on our grocery bill and that only wealthy people can afford to<br />
eat well. Moreover, there is a common belief that eating healthily costs too<br />
much money to be sustainable.<br />
But that’s where we’re wrong. It is possible to eat healthily, without<br />
blowing our budgets. The cost of food, and especially fruits and<br />
vegetables, in the Seychelles is high, but here are some tips that can help<br />
you stick to eating well without breaking the bank…<br />
TRACK YOUR SPENDING<br />
Set aside a specific amount of money you’re willing to spend on food<br />
for the week. Withdraw that amount and store it in an envelope. Once<br />
the money is gone from that envelope your spending for the week on<br />
groceries is done and now all there is left for you to do is be creative with<br />
what you already have in your kitchen. You will be surprised; there are so<br />
many delicious things that can be made from your kitchen pantry. Make<br />
sure you include a big selection of fruit and vegetables in your weekly<br />
purchases. Create a budget for your food per week and write down every<br />
cent you are spending on food initially, to help you understand where you<br />
are spending the most. Ensure that your budget is reasonable in terms of<br />
your income and basic needs.<br />
MIX AND MATCH WHAT IS LEFT IN YOUR KITCHEN<br />
Use up what is left in your kitchen cupboard. Many times we still have<br />
food in our cupboards or fridge that we have not eaten or not even<br />
opened, yet we go shopping. Come up with something inventive to make<br />
with what you have; it may take a little more creativity but at least it will<br />
save having to go shopping. And at the same time ensures everything you<br />
buy is not wasted.<br />
SHOP LOCALLY AND EAT LOCALLY<br />
Explore the market and the local stands along the road or even ask your<br />
neighbour what she has in her back garden. We all know that the cost<br />
of vegetables and fruits at the market can be expensive but why not go<br />
back in time, to when people used to share and swap the produce from<br />
their gardens? Nowadays we pass by homes where fruits are rotting on<br />
the floor never to be eaten. Things like breadfruit, which is full of nutrients<br />
and fibre-rich carbohydrates, yet this miracle food is seen as a ‘poor food’,<br />
which our grandparents used to eat. Yet our grandparents were healthier<br />
and less likely to die of any cardiovascular diseases, as they were not<br />
exposed to so much imported junk food full of salt, sugar and fat. So<br />
follow their example!<br />
ENJOY YOUR LEFT OVERS<br />
Never throw food away, rather store it properly in clean, airtight<br />
containers in the fridge, or sealed in the cupboard. Then quickly and<br />
easily transform the previous night’s dinner into a healthy lunch. This will<br />
save you a trip to the take-away van at lunchtime – it will save you money<br />
as well as ensure you’re not eating excess salt, sugar and fats.<br />
PLAN YOUR MEALS<br />
Planning your weekly menu is vital to keeping healthy. By thinking<br />
ahead about what you are going to cook for each meal you are more<br />
likely to stick to only the ingredients you need, and not spend money on<br />
unnecessary items and impulse buys. It is important to take stock of what<br />
you already have on hand so you’re only buying exactly what you need.<br />
CUT THE JUNK FROM YOUR BILL<br />
This is my last point and probably the most powerful one. Make a list of<br />
all the junk food you are buying. Whether it is the two samoosas at your<br />
tea break or the packets of biscuits, crisps and chocolate in your trolley.<br />
You will be surprised how much you spend on these types of foods and<br />
because these are seen as ‘necessities’ you have never questioned their<br />
cost. Now cut those out at your next grocery shop and see how much<br />
money you have saved. Then use that saved money to buy extra fruit and<br />
vegetables. You will be pleasantly surprised.<br />
Célia is passionate to inspire happier and healthier lives<br />
by sharing holistic tips to her public. Her background is in<br />
medical anthropology and public health. She is currently<br />
working in the nutrition unit at the ministry of health.<br />
25 MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI
Le combat pour le droit des femmes<br />
Il y a tout juste 40 ans en France, le 17 janvier 1975, la loi Veil<br />
légalisant l’interruption volontaire de grossesse était promulguée.<br />
Jusque-là, avorter pour une raison non médicale était un délit<br />
passible de prison. Ce combat pour le droit à l’avortement a<br />
été celui d’une femme, Simone Veil, ministre de la santé sous le<br />
gouvernement de Valéry Giscard d’Estaing. Elle était soutenue à<br />
l’époque par les personnalités françaises telles que la philosophe<br />
Simone de Beauvoir, l’écrivain Françoise Sagan, l’avocate Gisèle<br />
Halimi, les actrices Jeanne Moreau et Catherine Deneuve et d’autres<br />
signataires du manifeste « des 343 salopes », ainsi que l’avait<br />
surnommé le journal Charlie Hebdo.<br />
Le droit à l’avortement, et par là-même, le droit de disposer de son<br />
corps est un acquis de la révolution féministe qui a considérablement<br />
contribué à libérer les femmes dans les sociétés démocratiques.<br />
Cette révolution féministe est un long combat qui a traversé les<br />
siècles : elle prend ses racines dans le Siècle des Lumières et émerge<br />
lors de la Révolution française : de nombreuses femmes marchent<br />
sur Versailles pour ramener Louis XVI à Paris, participent à la prise<br />
de la Bastille et Olympes de Gouges rédige La Déclaration des droits<br />
de la femme et de la citoyenne en 1791. La première vague de cette<br />
révolution, de la fin du XIXème siècle à 1945 s’attache aux réformes<br />
institutionnelles (droit à l’éducation, au travail, au divorce, droit de<br />
vote, droit à la maîtrise de leurs biens) : la juridiction des femmes<br />
évolue et peu à peu elles ne sont plus des éternelles mineures qui<br />
dépendent de leur époux, de leur père ou encore de leur frère.<br />
A la fin des années 1960, la deuxième vague féministe dénonce la<br />
domination masculine dans la sphère privée et s’attache à libérer<br />
le corps des femmes de cette domination. Cette période charnière,<br />
qui s’accompagne d’une forte féminisation du travail, a contribué à<br />
bousculer les mentalités et a conduit aujourd’hui les femmes à la tête<br />
du pouvoir dans divers secteurs. Pourtant, et en dépit des progrès<br />
indéniables, le combat féministe connaît des écueils : la révolution<br />
féministe dans son expression radicale a exclu la masculinité et force<br />
est de constater que le sexisme, le machisme et les inégalités entre<br />
les hommes et les femmes ont la peau dure, notamment en terme<br />
d’écart de salaires, qui constitue un « plafond de verre ». Dans les<br />
banlieues, le quotidien des femmes n’est guère à envier, entre les<br />
humiliations, les viols (les « tournantes »), les excisions et les mariages<br />
forcés, ainsi que le rappelle le combat de l’association « Ni putes ni<br />
soumises », fondée en 2003 par Fadela Amara, ancienne Secrétaire<br />
d’Etat chargée de la Politique de la Ville sous le gouvernement de<br />
Nicolas Sarkozy.<br />
A l’heure où nous célébrons la Journée Internationale de la Femme,<br />
le combat pour le droit des femmes prend tout son sens dans les<br />
pays du Sud. L’actualité déferle chaque jour de mauvaises nouvelles :<br />
faibles taux de scolarisation des petites filles, violences conjugales et<br />
viols collectifs de nombreuses femmes. L’ONU, mais aussi des ONG<br />
et des associations se mobilisent sur place, comme l’association<br />
« Toutes à l’école », fondée par la rédactrice en chef du journal Marie-<br />
Claire, Tina Kieffer, qui aide à la scolarisation des petites filles au<br />
Cambodge. L’attribution du prix Nobel de la paix à Malala Yousafzai,<br />
rescapée d’un attentat lié à son combat pour le droit à l’éducation,<br />
rappelle que le respect des droits des femmes passe avant tout<br />
par l’éducation. Des voix se font de plus en plus entendre : en Inde,<br />
et précisément à New Delhi, l’affaire du viol collectif d’une jeune<br />
étudiante décédée des suites de ses blessures a eu un retentissement<br />
international mais aussi national. Pour la première fois, les Indiens,<br />
sexes confondus, de la classe moyenne surtout, se sont mobilisés<br />
et ont manifesté contre les violences faites aux femmes dans leur<br />
pays. Ce changement de l’état d’esprit d’une société entière ne peut<br />
se faire que sur un temps long, d’où l’importance du travail des<br />
institutions qui oeuvrent pour la condition des femmes.<br />
Passionnée de littérature et de cinéma, Marie Welsch<br />
est responsable culturelle à l’Alliance française des<br />
Seychelles depuis maintenant un an. Originaire de la<br />
Réunion et ayant mené des études de lettres modernes et<br />
de sciences politiques à Aix-en Provence, elle s’intéresse à<br />
l’indianité et à l’identité créole des îles de l’Océan Indien<br />
et espère plus tard en faire l’objet d’une thèse.<br />
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MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI 26
Je suis toujours Charlie !(par Georges Gravé)<br />
Pour être honnêtes avec vous, comme<br />
beaucoup d’entre nous j’ai été atterré, assommé,<br />
désemparé, triste comme jamais, bouleversé<br />
durant cette fameuse journée et les jours qui ont<br />
suivi ces attentats parisiens. Actes odieux qui<br />
resteront marqués dans la mémoire collective.<br />
Je suis resté toute la journée anéanti devant<br />
mon poste de télévision ne pouvant rien faire<br />
d’autre !!! Pourtant à mon âge, ce n’était quand<br />
même pas la première fois que de tels actes<br />
avaient lieu. J’étais même en Allemagne dans<br />
les années 1975 quand la « bande à badeer »<br />
semait la terreur dans la population. Alors<br />
pourquoi tant d’émotions ?? Bien sur, nous<br />
connaissions ces dessinateurs qui depuis<br />
plusieurs décennies accompagnaient notre<br />
quotidien, mais en fait en les tuant<br />
sauvagement, ces barbares ont touché quelquechose<br />
de fondamental pour le peuple Français :<br />
notre liberté. Et notre liberté de penser, de<br />
parler, en France c’est sacré. C’est notre moyen<br />
d’exister, c’est fondamental a notre vie et a notre<br />
survie. Les manifestations monstres qui ont suivi<br />
en sont une preuve éclatante. Et j’oserais dire<br />
« merci » à ces pauvres gens à la dérive, car au<br />
lieu de museler la parole, c’est le contraire qui<br />
a eu lieu. 7 millions d’exemplaires de Charlie<br />
vendus. Personne au grand jamais n’aurait pu<br />
imaginer cela quelques semaines auparavant.<br />
Et au delà de Charlie Hebdo, ses copains refont<br />
surface : notre canard enchaîné national, fluide<br />
glacial, Hara-kiri, des titres presque inconnus du<br />
grand public.<br />
En France, nous avons la culture de l’Humour<br />
et de la caricature. Cela fait vraiment parti<br />
de notre patrimoine. Déjà sous le règne de<br />
Louis 14, ce dernier embauchait des fous du<br />
roi qui avaient pour mission de se moquer<br />
« gentiment » du monarque et de le faire rire. En<br />
fait c’est peut être Louis 14 qui a inventé Charlie<br />
Hebdo. Que dire de nos chansonniers un peu<br />
passé de mode aujourd’hui mais qui avaient<br />
le don d’appuyer sur les boutons de pue des<br />
nantis et des politiques. Fernand Raynaud qui<br />
déjà dans les années 1960 nous faisait rire avec<br />
ces étrangers qui venaient manger le pain des<br />
français. Alors, ils l’avaient viré ce sal étranger<br />
du village… pas de bol, il était boulanger.<br />
Comment ne pas rendre hommage au grand<br />
Thierry Le Luron, a son ami Coluche, aux<br />
brillants Desproges et Bedos. Et bien sur plus<br />
près de nous toute l’équipe des Guignols. Merci<br />
a vous tous pour oser dire tout haut ce que<br />
tout le monde pense tout bas. C’est aussi ça la<br />
démocratie ! Nous avons besoin de vous. Alors<br />
ce n’est pas trois paumés avec leur kalachnikov,<br />
même s‘ils réussissent à tuer 17 personnes qui<br />
vont faire plier un pays de liberté ou la parole<br />
est reine.<br />
Et je dois avouer que j’étais satisfait lorsque<br />
presque en direct nous avons suivi la fin des<br />
prises d’otages. Satisfaits de les savoir morts ces<br />
soi-disant martyrs. Au moins, ils ne couteront<br />
plus d’argent à la société. Et je souriais en<br />
pensant à ces trois illuminés, sourire aux lèvres<br />
débarquant devant leur Dieu. Bonjour Allah,<br />
c’est nous les martyrs de Paris. Et Dieu leur<br />
répondant la larme a l’œil, comme la couve<br />
de Charlie Hebdo….. Pauvres imbéciles, je<br />
vous pardonne, car vous avez été tellement<br />
manipulés mais jamais au grand jamais, un dieu<br />
a demandé a ces fidèles de tuer en son nom. Je<br />
ne suis qu’amour !!! J’espère pour eux que dans<br />
leur religion, ils croient a la réincarnation, sinon<br />
ils sont bien dans le pétrin !<br />
Et puis ce fut le ras de marrée, un peu comme<br />
a la libération de Paris. Dans chaque ville, dans<br />
chaque village les gens sont sortis dans la<br />
rue. Du jamais vu, des millions de personnes<br />
ensemble, juste pour être ensemble. Des<br />
millions de personnes de toutes races, de toutes<br />
origines, des noirs, des juifs, des arabes, des<br />
blancs, l’arc en ciel de la race humaine. Oublié<br />
nos différences, nos prises de becs, nos partis<br />
politique… d’ailleurs nos politique, eux aussi,<br />
étaient tous présents et même si cela en a<br />
agacer plus d’un (moi le premier) de voir tous<br />
ces marchands d’armes, voir même quelques<br />
dictateurs défiler au premier rang de la manif,<br />
pas de problème, eux aussi avaient le droit de<br />
saisir ce moment de rédemption. Car c’est bien<br />
de cela qu’il s’agissait. Un véritable moment de<br />
grâce, d’union et de fraternité. Cette Manif a<br />
soigné nos âmes, pansé nos plaies, atténuer<br />
notre chagrin. Cette manif par sa puissante<br />
énergie nous a permis de nous retrouver et de<br />
regarder demain avec espoir et confiance. Des<br />
millions de personnes dehors et pas un accroc,<br />
les policiers se faisant même applaudir, comme<br />
si nous étions déjà en train de réapprendre à<br />
vivre ensemble. Et cela n’aurait étonné personne<br />
de voir le fantôme du Grand Charles lancer a<br />
la foule : « Paris brisé, Paris outragé, mais Paris<br />
libéré » Car c’est bien de cela qu’il s’agissait,<br />
nous avions libéré Paris de la sauvagerie et nous<br />
venions de faire a la française un magnifique<br />
bras d’honneur a ses sauvages !<br />
Et maintenant, trois mois plus tard, que sont<br />
devenus ces merveilleux Charlies ! Apres les<br />
émotions, c’est bien sur le temps de la réflexion.<br />
De nombreuses personnalités de tout bord<br />
osent s’exprimer comme si ce 11 janvier avaient<br />
en quelques sortes libéré la parole. Dominique<br />
de Villepin écrivait dans le figaro du 20 janvier<br />
« Un espoir est né le 11 janvier. Nous avons<br />
besoin du soutien de tout le peuple français,<br />
nous avons besoin d’un débat et pas de la seule<br />
réponse sécuritaire…. Mais tout ne viendra<br />
pas de l’Etat. Il faut que ce fantastique sursaut<br />
du 11 janvier se traduise en actes politiques,<br />
individuels, associatif. Bref tous ensemble. La<br />
guerre, n’importe quel état peut la faire. Nos<br />
vraies armes, ce sont nos principes, a condition<br />
de les appliquer et d’inventer un autre chemin<br />
que celui de l’affrontement. » Oui, car le<br />
terrorisme nous tend un piège, il veut nous<br />
pousser a la faute, et la faute, c’est la guerre.<br />
Notre intérêt est vraiment d’éviter par tous les<br />
moyens l’engrenage de la force. »<br />
Merci a nos hommes politiques de l’époque<br />
qui ont voté le 9 décembre 1905 la loi de<br />
séparation des églises et de l’Etat. Ouf ! Cela ne<br />
c’est pas fait en un jour et il en fallait du courage<br />
politique pour lutter contre « dieu » c’est je<br />
crois a mon humble avis le travail que devrait<br />
commencer le monde musulman.<br />
Pas d’amalgame nous dit on, et tout le monde<br />
sait bien que les terroristes n’ont rien à voir<br />
avec la religion musulmane… Quoi que ! Mais<br />
force est de constater que tous se revendiquent<br />
toujours de cette religion. « Où sont tes sages,<br />
et as-tu encore une sagesse à proposer au<br />
27 MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI
monde ? Où sont tes grands hommes ? Qui sont<br />
tes Mandela, qui sont tes Gandhi ? Où sont tes<br />
grands penseurs dont les livres devraient être<br />
lus dans le monde entier comme au temps où<br />
les mathématiciens et les philosophes arabes ou<br />
persans faisaient référence de l’Inde à l’Espagne<br />
? » Se demande le philosophe Abdennour<br />
Bidar dans cette magnifique « lettre ouverte au<br />
monde musulman » que je vous recommande<br />
de lire de toute urgence.<br />
Les musulmans ont besoin de retrouver<br />
l’essence du message originel. Ils ont besoin<br />
d’un nouveau souffle capable de faire en sorte<br />
que la foi ne se refroidisse pas en rites pervertis<br />
par les hommes. Dans la religion catholique le<br />
ménage est commencé depuis bien longtemps<br />
et merci au pape Francois de remettre les choses<br />
à leur place. Il suffit de voir son dernier discours<br />
devant tous les évêques pour ses vœux. Ils en<br />
ont tous pris plein la tronche !!!!! (« La curie est<br />
appelée a s’améliorer, a toujours s’améliorer<br />
et a grandir en communion et sagesse pour<br />
réaliser pleinement sa mission. Pourtant<br />
comme tout corps humain, elle est exposée<br />
aussi aux maladies, aux disfonctionnement,<br />
aux infirmités…… Ce sont des maladies et des<br />
tentations qui affaiblissent notre service du<br />
seigneur. »)<br />
Pas d’amalgames, certes et le Coran comme<br />
la bible sont des textes sacrés. Respect ! Mais<br />
en aucun cas ils ne doivent devenirs des livres<br />
politiques, et nous le savons bien, si tous les<br />
pouvoirs, spirituels et politiques sont entre<br />
les mêmes mains…. Danger ! Et il faut bien<br />
l’admettre que beaucoup de pays musulmans<br />
sont encore des pays a forte tendance<br />
autoritaire.<br />
« Tu as choisi de considérer que Mohammed<br />
était prophète et roi. Tu as choisi de définir<br />
l’islam comme religion politique, sociale, morale,<br />
devant régner comme un tyran aussi bien sur<br />
“CES BARBARES<br />
ONT TOUCHÉ<br />
QUELQUE-CHOSE DE<br />
FONDAMENTAL POUR<br />
LE PEUPLE FRANÇAIS<br />
: NOTRE LIBERTÉ. ET<br />
NOTRE LIBERTÉ DE<br />
PENSER, DE PARLER,<br />
EN FRANCE C’EST<br />
SACRÉ. C’EST NOTRE<br />
MOYEN D’EXISTER,<br />
C’EST FONDAMENTAL<br />
A NOTRE VIE ET A<br />
NOTRE SURVIE”.<br />
l’Etat que sur la vie civile, aussi bien dans la<br />
rue et dans la maison qu’à l’intérieur même de<br />
chaque conscience. Tu as choisi de croire et<br />
d’imposer que l’islam veut dire soumission alors<br />
que le Coran lui-même proclame qu’« il n’y a<br />
pas de contrainte en religion » (La ikraha fi Dîn).<br />
Tu as fait de son appel à la liberté l’empire de la<br />
contrainte ! Comment une civilisation peutelle<br />
trahir à ce point son propre texte sacré ?<br />
Je dis qu’il est l’heure, dans la civilisation de<br />
l’islam, d’instituer cette liberté spirituelle - la<br />
plus sublime et difficile de toutes - à la place de<br />
toutes les lois inventées par des générations de<br />
théologiens ! » (Abdennour Bidar)<br />
Nous le voyons bien l’après Charlie prendra du<br />
temps, et nous avons un énorme travail à faire.<br />
Changer le monde est impossible, alors il faut<br />
commencer par changer soi-même. Changer<br />
ses habitudes, sortir de sa zone de confort,<br />
regarder l’autre avec plus de tolérance et de<br />
bienveillance. Tendre la main, partager nos<br />
valeurs et accepter les valeurs des autres. Ouvrir<br />
son cœur et avoir vraiment cette ferme intention<br />
de vouloir vivre ensemble !<br />
A ce sujet, c’est peut être les Seychelles qui<br />
nous donne l’exemple à suivre. En effet, pour la<br />
seconde année consécutive le gouvernement<br />
Seychellois en partenariat avec le National<br />
Youth Council ont décidé de promouvoir<br />
chaque mois de l’année 2015 une valeur<br />
humaine. La première semaine de janvier<br />
quelques jours avant les attentats (joli hasard)<br />
le Vice Président Danny Faure nous présentait<br />
ce merveilleux programme : Values for one,<br />
value for all. Demandez le programme : Janvier<br />
/ Responsability, Fevrier / Tolerance, Mars /<br />
Resilience, Avril / Patience, Mai / Discipline, Juin<br />
/ Unity, Juillet / Respect, Aout / Commitment,<br />
Septembre / Peace, Octobre / Determination,<br />
Novembre / Gratitude et Decembre /Paix.<br />
Et si on instaurait cela dans nos écoles<br />
françaises pour les petits Charlies ?<br />
Allez, tous les Charlies du monde, retroussons<br />
nos manches et commençons ensemble à<br />
reconstruire un monde dont nous serons fiers.<br />
Maintenant, nous le savons, c’est possible !<br />
Georges Gravé is the<br />
Personal Development &<br />
Training Manager at the<br />
Maia Luxury Resort and Spa<br />
LOCAL OPINION<br />
We asked a few key female media representatives to share their opinions on the incident at<br />
Charlie Hebdo<br />
“The terror attack on Charlie Hebdo is yet<br />
another example of how intolerant the<br />
world is becoming, despite the fact that<br />
more people with different values are<br />
migrating to different parts of the world.<br />
This movement of people can lead to<br />
unnecessary tensions because individuals<br />
do not understand each other’s values.<br />
Instead of integration, you get divided<br />
communities where people are wary of each<br />
other, thus leading to such acts. No one<br />
should die because of their given right to<br />
express themselves”.<br />
Lindy Vital, Le Seychellois Hebdo<br />
“Freedom of speech is essential for any<br />
democracy. Yet with this freedom comes<br />
a responsibility. Some speech should be<br />
controlled when it poses the potential<br />
of endangering other people. We are<br />
accountable for views that we express. As<br />
much as freedom of speech needs to be<br />
respected and upheld it also needs to be<br />
checked on an even playing field. We have<br />
the right to express ourselves, but we also<br />
have an ethical and moral responsibility to<br />
do it wisely”.<br />
Dawn Athanasius, Paradise FM Presenter<br />
“I believe in free speech, including the<br />
freedom of bigots to speak their minds,<br />
because I prefer to know their real feelings,<br />
than to be fooled by the fashion of political<br />
correctness. While I was horrified by the<br />
terrorist attacks on Charlie Hebdo, I did<br />
not join in the “Je Suis Charlie” social media<br />
campaign because I don’t identify with a<br />
magazine that ridicules religions, even if<br />
they have the freedom to do it. Free speech<br />
is part of your free will, to choose to do<br />
good in the world, to behave with respect<br />
and tolerance, or to do the things that hurt<br />
people and incite hatred. You should have<br />
the freedom to make choices, but when<br />
you make choices that you know will hurt<br />
people, you should expect consequences,<br />
whether a slap in the face, or terrible acts of<br />
revenge. Free speech is not an exception to<br />
morality”.<br />
Srdjana Janosevic, Chief Press Secretary<br />
“I am not a fan of Charlie Hebdo the satirist<br />
magazine – but I understand the messages<br />
being carried by the publication and the<br />
questions they raise. In my eyes, Charlie<br />
is the journalist, Charlie is the cartoonist,<br />
Charlie is the photographer and cameraman<br />
fighting to tell the truth, therefore I am<br />
Charlie too. Our main weapons of choice are<br />
our pen, pencil microphone and camera.<br />
As Charlie we offend and we get ‘unfriend’<br />
often. On a daily basis, dedicated journalists<br />
dies a little when he/she is in the absence<br />
of press freedom. We fight on Charlies. Lets<br />
fight on... R.I.P to all perished Charlies”.<br />
Tessa Henderson, Journalist<br />
MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI 28
KNOW YOUR RIGHTS WITH<br />
BERNARD GEORGES<br />
In the real world of this problem, however, this love-in with the law<br />
translates into the following. Nobody will blame you for causing the<br />
marriage to break down because of your infidelity. This is a neutral factor.<br />
You will neither lose the rights you would otherwise have in the house,<br />
nor will you lose custody of the children. Having got custody of the<br />
children, you will get the maintenance they need for their upkeep, subject<br />
to the requirements of your ex-husband. He may have a second family too<br />
for whom he must care. Since the rule of thumb is to keep the two families<br />
in roughly the same position as they were prior to the breakdown, the<br />
level of maintenance will be set to achieve this purpose. But, this is not<br />
really the problem here because you and your ex have agreed to all that.<br />
The problem is that he has cut the maintenance by 2/3. What can you do?<br />
You will note that I have used the word ‘maintenance’ and not ‘alimony’.<br />
The reason for this is that maintenance is generally used in relation to<br />
money paid for children and alimony for an ex-spouse.<br />
“Our law regarding marriage,<br />
divorce, custody and maintenance<br />
is fair. As a country, we are right<br />
up there with the best and most<br />
advanced countries in the world.”<br />
My ex-husband and I divorced three years ago<br />
following my infidelity. Despite the circumstances,<br />
he left me with the house, primary custody of our<br />
three children and a more than generous monthly<br />
alimony. Six months ago a question of paternity<br />
came up and results proved that two out of our<br />
three kids are not biologically his. He has decided<br />
to cut the alimony to 1/3. The children attend<br />
private schools and our lifestyle has always been<br />
more than just ‘modest’. This financial change has<br />
completely turned our lives upside down. Can I<br />
fight him on this?<br />
Gosh, you really do not make things easy for yourself, do you? Here’s my<br />
advice: let sleeping dogs lie. Don’t even think of fighting your ex-husband.<br />
You were responsible for the marriage failing. You must have known that<br />
the two children weren’t his. You have the house and some alimony. Count<br />
your blessings and make do with what you have.<br />
This short advice may appear rough, brutal even, but it is the kindest way<br />
of giving it. Sometimes, lawyers are stuck and cannot find any advice to<br />
give which will please the client on the other side of their desk. This is one<br />
case. And here’s why.<br />
Our law regarding marriage, divorce, custody and maintenance is fair.<br />
As a country, we are right up there with the best and most advanced<br />
countries in the world. Our family law is really up to date. Parties are no<br />
longer blamed for divorce, irrespective of actual blameworthiness. Courts<br />
can transfer matrimonial property from the legal owner to the nonowner<br />
following marital breakdown. Shares in jointly-owned property<br />
can be adjusted. Custody is granted to one parent or another on the sole<br />
basis of what is best for the child. Money and means do not come into<br />
it. Maintenance payments seek to put the parties as close as possible in<br />
the same position they were prior to the breakdown. In all these things,<br />
Seychelles holds its own with the most developed countries. It is a system<br />
of which we can be justifiably proud.<br />
The only reasons that a parent has to pay maintenance for a child are that<br />
that child is his or hers, the child is a minor or still undergoing education,<br />
or disabled, and that child is not living with him or her. There is no other<br />
legal obligation to pay maintenance for a child. There is also no real legal<br />
obligation for a person to pay maintenance for another person’s child.<br />
There may be a moral reason for doing so – the children may not have<br />
known any other father, the ‘father’ may have treated them as his own<br />
and led them to believe that he would always be there for them so that in<br />
legal parlance he would be estopped (prevented) from saying otherwise<br />
etc. But when push comes to shove there is really no compelling legal<br />
reason for forcing a person to maintain a child which is not his, unless<br />
he has contractually agreed to do so. In this case it is clear that your ex<br />
believed the children to be his and treated them as his, to the extent of<br />
paying maintenance for them. It is only when the paternity test proved<br />
otherwise that he changed. It cannot be argued that he knew all along<br />
and still decided to maintain them. Had that been the case, it might be<br />
said that he should not be allowed to decide otherwise now. But, on the<br />
facts here, this is not the case. He has clearly withdrawn maintenance for<br />
the two children because he feels that you have not been upfront with<br />
him. He has a point.<br />
But, what about the children, you may ask? They are innocent. Why should<br />
they be punished? Why indeed? But, by the same token, why should<br />
somebody who looked after them as a father when he had no legal<br />
obligation to do so continue when he realises that he is not their father?<br />
Plus, they must have a biological father somewhere. Unless that person is<br />
deceased, abroad, or destitute, he is the person who has the duty in law<br />
to maintain his children, not your ex. So, it is to him that you must look for<br />
maintenance to support the life to which your children are accustomed.<br />
If he cannot pay, then you will have to face the unhappy prospect of a<br />
reduced lifestyle. You cannot count on your ex legally to maintain children<br />
who are not his, no matter how terribly that will affect you as a family, or<br />
the two children who are not his.<br />
I am sorry, but this is not a case with a happy ending. Rather, it is a case<br />
which reminds us of the old legal adage: duralex sed lex – the law is tough,<br />
but it’s the law.<br />
Educated at Seychelles College and Cambridge University,<br />
Bernard Georges has two Masters Degrees – in the law of divorce<br />
and in canon law, the law of the church. He is best known as a<br />
lawyer, having been in private practice for over 30 years. Over<br />
the past ten years, he has also been a member of the National<br />
Assembly. He is currently a part-time lecturer in law at the<br />
University of Seychelles, where he teaches Constitutional Law.<br />
And, he is a budding writer. He has written and published two<br />
novels to date and he promises many more books on history, law<br />
and Seychelles.<br />
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SPORTS PERSONALITY<br />
Joanna Houareau<br />
so much more than a pretty face.<br />
By Marie-France Watson<br />
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There’s nothing that makes my day more than<br />
being able to see the accomplishments of my fellow<br />
independent women, so it’s no surprise that I was<br />
completely ecstatic about my sit down with the lovely<br />
Ms. Houareau.<br />
For those of you who don’t know, Ms. Houareau was<br />
an athlete, one of THE best this country has seen! As a<br />
sprinter, she took to the track plenty of times for 100m<br />
sprints, 200m sprints and even 400m sprints with the<br />
occasional long jump feats to add to her list. Although<br />
she also participated in long jump events, Joanna was a<br />
sprinter at heart, setting records for all three distances<br />
during her career as a sprinter. It is no secret that her<br />
400m and 200m records have yet to be broken. The<br />
shorter 100m sprint record that has been held by<br />
Joanna for over 15 years was broken in 2014 by aspiring<br />
athlete Joanne Lou-Toy. If it took this long to break a<br />
100m record, one can only imagine how long it’s going<br />
to take to break the longer distance records.<br />
Joanna’s rise to success as an athlete started while she<br />
was still quite young by participating in the interschool<br />
29th June sports competitions. Her talents were<br />
recognised and she was recruited to join the national<br />
team at 12 years of age and soon after she participated<br />
in her first Jeux des Iles in 1993. Joanna never lacked<br />
motivation in pursuing athletics as she had many great<br />
influences within her own neighbourhood at Pascal<br />
Village such as her neighbour and relative Vincent<br />
Houareau who would always bring her along to his<br />
athletics club training sessions at the beach. Alongside<br />
Vincent, Joanna also had the late Mervin Pierre who<br />
helped groom her into a sprinter at a young age in the<br />
Beau Vallon based Athletic Club.<br />
Potpourri December Cover<br />
Two covers where Joanna has assisted on hair and make-up<br />
Unconditional support is something she always had from her family, most of it coming<br />
from her mother Julie Laporte. Julie’s support was alongside that of members of the public<br />
and the athletics federation itself which provided Joanna with great coaches throughout<br />
her career; many of the coaches also served as father figures as her own father was not<br />
supportive to her.<br />
She was a nationwide star in the sports world, having competed in various competitions,<br />
both here in Seychelles and overseas such as:<br />
• Jeux des Iles<br />
• Jeux d’Afrique<br />
• Francophonie Games<br />
• World Championship Games<br />
• World Indor Championship games<br />
• Olympic Games<br />
Potpourri January Cover<br />
SPORTS PERSONALITY<br />
100m final 29.06.95<br />
The list goes on and on with various regional competitions but her biggest accomplishment<br />
was being part of the Olympic games. I asked her how she felt about going to the Olympics<br />
and her response was “First and foremost I was overwhelmed, the feelings were something<br />
I can’t totally describe as I was very excited at the same time for having the honour to stand<br />
and compete against the world’s greatest, the ones you only hear about and see on TV, I had<br />
the opportunity to see them face to face, and not only the athletes, but a variety of different<br />
sportsmen and women from different sports. To me the Olympics is the best sporting event<br />
any sportsman or woman can ever be a part of.”<br />
As with any athlete, Joanna encountered difficulties that stirred feelings of giving up within<br />
her. Being a sprinter is not the easiest thing in the world… the training is relentless and<br />
hard, carried out on a daily basis, to maintain and improve the speed. During her school<br />
years at polytechnic, she took a break from the sprinting world for a couple of months<br />
All Africa Games 99-100m<br />
IOIG 2003 Mauritius<br />
All Africa Games 99<br />
Joanna and Frankie<br />
IOIG 2003 4x100m relay<br />
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leading towards exams in order to focus on her studies. Juggling athletics with its intense training,<br />
constant travelling to participate in competitions away from home and studying at Post Secondary,<br />
as well as trying to build a path to an alternate career was causing a tiresome and stressful life for<br />
Joanna. What pushed her to not fully give up was the achievements and milestones she reached as<br />
an athlete, the accomplishments and rewards for her hard work fueled her and motivated her into<br />
going back.<br />
Unfortunately, Joanna retired from her career as a sprinter in 2008 following a persistent leg injury<br />
that was refusing to get better without prolonged rest. “The more I rested to heal my leg, the more<br />
time went by and I was getting older so I decided to stop and found myself never going back. I<br />
didn’t regret my decision as I had accomplished more than enough during my years as a sprinter.<br />
Sure I missed it, but it was time to move on”. And move on she did, into a new career that filled the<br />
void left by retiring from athletics. I’m sure you’d be quick to think she didn’t move too far away, on<br />
the contrary, she did. She left the track and moved on to hair brushes and make up brushes; these<br />
are now Joanna’s trade tools. Having always had a passion for styling hair, Joanna saw it as the<br />
perfect career choice, it’s easy to tell she’s the type of person who lives the life she loves, and loves<br />
the life she lives, by putting her energy and time into things that bring her joy.<br />
SPORTS PERSONALITY<br />
After retiring from athletics, Joanna went to Australia and enrolled into a three year Hairdressing<br />
and Make-Up course in the Melbourne based Sheila Baxter Institute for Hair & Beauty. Upon<br />
graduating, she came back to Seychelles to start her new career. She took her childhood passion<br />
for styling her sisters’ Emma Hoauareau-Motheé and Janice Houareau whenever they had a<br />
special place to go, & turned it into a career! An example of Joanna’s work can be seen on some of<br />
Potpourri’s recent covers where she was the make-up artist for the cover model. Quite impressive<br />
work if I may say so myself. She is truly a multi-talented individual.<br />
Following in her aunt’s footsteps, Gaelle Dubignon<br />
After two years of being a freelance beautician with establishments such as Ste. Anne Resort<br />
and Spa, Marco Pros and Direct Bookings as well as individual clients who are forever loyal to<br />
her, Joanna is currently in the process of acquiring her own salon while she still has one hundred<br />
percent of her time to spare as she has no children yet. When asked about whether she would<br />
like her future sons or daughters to pursue athletics like she did, her answer was “Yes, definitely<br />
yes! I feel that the involvement in sports is a very important aspect of a child’s life; even up to<br />
adolescence as it helps develop you in various ways. It provides you with a sense of responsibility<br />
among other things, this is one of the reasons I’m encouraging my niece Gaelle Dubignon, in the<br />
hopes that she might attain the level I did, maybe even be the one to break my two remaining<br />
records! And keep things in the family”.<br />
After spending half the time talking about work,<br />
I was curious to find out a little more about her<br />
lifestyle, and it was no surprise when I learnt that<br />
Joanna was truly the down to earth person I had<br />
pegged her to be, with a kind heart. Her idea of an<br />
ideal ‘fun-time’ is going to the beach, socialising<br />
with her family and friends, as well as spending<br />
quality time with her boyfriend Hans. Not being<br />
an athlete hasn’t changed much in Joanna as she<br />
is still to this day anti-smoking and anti-alcohol,<br />
which equally means she dislikes people who<br />
abuse the two amongst other drugs. She likes<br />
to keep to herself, in her own world, away from<br />
the constant gossip always going around the<br />
grapevine. She also believes in working hard for<br />
what you want and appreciating what you have.<br />
Although Joanna has stepped out of the athletic<br />
scene, she feels that the youth of today aren’t as<br />
dedicated to the cause, that they let too many<br />
negative distractions into their lives instead of<br />
the good. I couldn’t leave our little tete-a-tete<br />
without asking her if she has any words for the<br />
few aspiring athletes there to keep them on the<br />
right track, her words were: ´To succeed as an<br />
athlete you must first and foremost have the<br />
mindset to do it on your own without others. It all<br />
depends on you as in the end your successes and<br />
achievements are all your own”. So there you have<br />
it, Joanna Houareau, more than just a pretty face,<br />
a role model to all the aspiring female athletes<br />
and aspiring beauticians of Seychelles. From<br />
tracks, to brushes, she made it.
MINDFUL LIVING<br />
VIEW FROM THE STATION<br />
I GET BY<br />
…with a little help from my friends, says Jenny Gilbert<br />
I am absolutely ecstatic right now. The article I am about to embark on<br />
has been sitting with me for a few days and I have to say that I felt a little<br />
apprehensive about writing about this subject. Just this morning, as I<br />
was deliberating about the article again, I found myself inexplicably led<br />
to another area of healing which is exactly what I was looking for and I<br />
“[BECAUSE I WAS] LABELLED AS<br />
SOMEONE WHO ‘SWIMS WITH<br />
THE DOLPHINS’ OR ‘IS AWAY<br />
WITH THE FAIRIES’, I OFTEN FELT<br />
COMPELLED TO STAND UP FOR<br />
WHAT I KNEW MADE ME FEEL<br />
WHOLE, ALIVE AND CONNECTED<br />
TO A WIDER UNIVERSE.”<br />
didn’t have to do anything at all! Co-incidence? Luck? Maybe for some.<br />
However, I know that I will always get what I want when I’m willing to<br />
open up to the help that is just waiting for me. It’s being offered all the<br />
time; I am never alone and I wonder why – especially since I work in this<br />
field – I don’t call on it more regularly. One thing is for sure: the more I<br />
apply what I know in a practical way, using it in my ordinary daily routine,<br />
the more I am blessed with beautiful results.<br />
Today my experience is no exception; simply deciding to brave it and<br />
write about angels was enough to call on whatever angel took me to a<br />
place of incredible enlightenment. More on what I discovered will follow<br />
in a future article but for now let me honour the angels for guiding me to<br />
this place by sharing my view on these light bearing, loving entities with<br />
you.<br />
Since childhood, and for many years, I felt that I had to defend myself<br />
against derisive comments and ridicule from those who considered me to<br />
be slightly crazy or, worse, unintelligent. Often labelled as someone who<br />
‘swims with the dolphins’ or ‘is away with the fairies’, I often felt compelled<br />
to stand up for what I knew made me feel whole, alive and connected to a<br />
wider universe.<br />
With maturity, and a steadfast commitment to helping to heal the<br />
planet (and myself), I no longer worry about what others think because<br />
I realise that I never doubted myself at all. Every day, in some small or<br />
magnificent way, I am better and better and closer to living a life as a<br />
worthy individual, connecting more and more with a truth far greater than<br />
anything I ever learnt in an established, conventional institution.<br />
I have learnt that the more I give, the more I open up, the more I free<br />
myself of judgment, the more I am willing to stand up for my principles<br />
and the more I am willing to be guided by universal intelligence, the more<br />
my self-worth develops, the more at peace I am, the younger I feel, the<br />
more vibrant I get.<br />
So it is no surprise that this year’s programme of articles is also a<br />
means by which I can share some thoughts on subjects which are very<br />
much intrinsically healing for humanity and you, the readers. I do not<br />
necessarily have a deep knowledge of all of these subjects myself but by<br />
sharing my time I get to stay in touch with tangible, real truths and get the<br />
chance to tweak your interest and set some of you on a path of enquiry.<br />
Just for today I hope you’ll set aside the ‘critic’ inside, that you’ll open your<br />
mind to the possibilities that exist for you to be more ‘wholy’. I know that<br />
the Universe is magnificently generous, non-judgmental and impeccably<br />
true, that its intelligence is irrefutable and, most importantly, that it is just<br />
waiting to embrace you so that you can free yourself to be one with it.<br />
There are countless ways in which you can start connecting with universal<br />
energy to claim your place as the intelligent, incredible individual that you<br />
are. For a moment, perhaps you could suspend your disbelief and know<br />
that you have nothing to lose by doing so.<br />
Let’s visit the Angelic Realm. Angels have existed forever. They are<br />
innumerable. Angels can be considered to be transformers of light to<br />
sound, carrying messages to and from heaven (or The Divine/The Source/<br />
Universal Energy/God) in a language that us humans can understand.<br />
There are enough men and women who spend entire lifetimes studying<br />
the history of these celestial beings and it must be fascinating. The good<br />
news is that we don’t have to study Dante’s Angelology to invite angels<br />
into our lives. I believe that there is an infinite pool of wisdom available<br />
to us, and to lock ourselves up in theory and conjecture about their<br />
existence is somewhat futile when there is enough evidence throughout<br />
history to suggest that angels (whether metaphoric or not) surround us.<br />
I like to see angels as my higher consciousness gurus. I believe that if we<br />
affirm, in total integrity with ourselves, who and what we are and hope<br />
to be, and when we are willing and open to being directed by an angelic<br />
intelligence to guide us towards achieving goodness and ‘wholiness’<br />
(wholesomeness if you like), avenues will be opened to us that we cannot<br />
‘intellectually’ fathom. There is nothing that can harm us in believing that<br />
we are surrounded by these higher consciousness gurus or angels – they<br />
are there to protect us from calamity and to serve our higher purpose. We<br />
will not be punished for reaching out and widening our experience of the<br />
universe – no matter who suggests that we will. Remember always that<br />
God (or whatever you choose name him/it) is ever loving and allows us<br />
total freedom to honour our life’s purpose. If our intentions are good and<br />
our hearts are loving, we are safe. Know that all religion stems from this<br />
loving energy.<br />
“WITH MATURITY, AND A<br />
STEADFAST COMMITMENT TO<br />
HELPING TO HEAL THE PLANET<br />
(AND MYSELF), I NO LONGER<br />
WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHERS<br />
THINK BECAUSE I REALISE THAT I<br />
NEVER DOUBTED MYSELF AT ALL.”<br />
While it is believed that each of us has our own personal guardian angel,<br />
most religions and traditions discuss archangels as the managers of<br />
our personal guardian angels. It is understood that the archangels are<br />
specialised in various areas and that they guide and provide superintelligence<br />
to us through our personal angels. As an example of<br />
an Archangel, let’s look at the patron saint of protection, Archangel<br />
Michael. Lending courage and strength in times of strife and major life<br />
changes, Michael is believed to have intimate knowledge of our Divine<br />
life purpose. He knows our mission and understands our talents and<br />
interests so that we may help others. While Archangel Michael protects<br />
us, he also provides us with clarity. When we are confused, he will ensure<br />
we receive clear answers to our questions. As a non-denominational<br />
angel, Archangel Michael is there for us in every way if we simply ask. His<br />
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help and guidance is unlimited, non-judgemental and<br />
respects our free will. His guidance is completely safe<br />
and trustworthy. A better friend is hard to imagine!<br />
I suppose it is easier to envisage angels with form and<br />
character which is probably why these angels have,<br />
over time immemorial, developed personas. Archangel<br />
Michael is depicted as a tall, handsome man carrying<br />
a sword which, it is said, he uses to slay our fear and<br />
heighten our courage and strength to face challenges.<br />
There are many accounts throughout history of when<br />
Michael has been called upon by inspired leaders and<br />
light workers. From the time of Adam and Eve when<br />
Michael is known to have guided Adam to farm and<br />
care for his family, Michael has been guiding legendary<br />
individuals such as Joan of Arc and others to perform<br />
incredible acts of courage in order to fulfil their passion<br />
to help others.<br />
Just today, know that you are being watched over with love, and nurturing care. Take a deep<br />
breath and allow your guides to surround you and lead you to a place of calm and serenity,<br />
clarity and new experiences. If this is difficult for you, consider Lady Luck as an angel. Create a<br />
picture in your mind and imagine that this angel, called Lady Luck, is watching over you, ready<br />
and happy to whisper words of wisdom. Start to develop a relationship with her and she’ll<br />
introduce you to her friends. Consciously start the process of inviting in these happy, healing,<br />
loving energies to your space and you may just find yourself starting to live the life you are<br />
meant to.<br />
Jenny Gilbert is the founder and owner of Everglow Ltd, the island’s premier<br />
natural health manufacturers and service providers. She is also Director of<br />
Wellness at Resonate Wellness at The Station. Homeopathy is a well recognised<br />
system of natural medical treatments for most diseases and conditions. Please<br />
visit http://www.thestationseychelles.com/reflections or email wellbeing@<br />
thestationseychelles.com<br />
MINDFUL LIVING<br />
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AGONY AUNT<br />
Dear Annalisa ......<br />
Cursing and forgetfulness are issues that Annalisa helps our readers solve this month…<br />
Foul Mouthed Parenting<br />
Forget my birthday-not<br />
Q: Dear Annalisa,<br />
Recently, I find myself swearing at my 7-year old. I have never been<br />
known to curse and it shocks me that I am unable to control my anger.<br />
My child is driving me insane and I am now dropping bombs left, right<br />
and centre. How do I stop this?<br />
Potty-Mouth Mummy<br />
A: Dear Potty-Mouth Mummy,<br />
It seems the swearing and cursing has become a way of dealing with<br />
your child’s testing ways. The only problem is that this method is neither<br />
effective nor healthy (for either of you). Children don’t only learn skills<br />
that make them more mature and successful in life. They also learn skills<br />
that make them troublesome. Your child has learnt that they can behave<br />
in a way that elicits feelings of anger from you. Your child has learnt that<br />
they have the power to spin you out of control. More importantly your<br />
child is learning that swearing is an “ok” behaviour when angry.<br />
The first thing to do, is to find alternative methods of responding to<br />
your child’s troublesome behaviour. Most children thrive on attention;<br />
it makes them feel important, loved and popular. Young children<br />
favour any behaviour that gets them frequent attention. So a “naughty”<br />
behavior that delivers a swear word is a behaviour worthy to pursue<br />
because it delivered the much-needed attention.<br />
If you feel irritated by your child’s behaviour and believe that they are<br />
doing it deliberately to seek attention in a negative way, it may be best<br />
not to give them the attention they are after. The trick to reduce the<br />
likelihood of the “naughty” behaviour occurring is to withdraw attention<br />
from it. Simply ignore, and ignore all the time. Note here: aggressive,<br />
dangerous, or destructive behaviour, should never be ignored, at any<br />
time.<br />
Some guidelines for ignoring behavior:<br />
• Choose one behaviour that is annoying or irritating, at a time.<br />
• Every time this behaviour occurs, everyone significant to the child,<br />
should ignore the behaviour.<br />
• Avoid eye contact with your child.<br />
• Avoid verbal contact with your child.<br />
• Avoid physical contact with your child.<br />
• Stop ignoring your child, as soon as the undesirable behaviour<br />
stops.<br />
• Expect the behavior to get worse before it gets better.<br />
• Ensure that any behaviour that is unlike the undesirable behaviour is<br />
rewarded.<br />
The other thing to do is get a jar and for every time you swear, put a SR5<br />
coin (or more) in there. It would mean a cost to you, for swearing around<br />
the house. The money should eventually go to another person around<br />
the house (not your child) who has to live in this constant “bombdropping”<br />
environment (given they are not swearing either). Be honest<br />
and pay up each time, that in itself should deter you from running a<br />
potty-mouth (unless you cheat).<br />
Q: Dear Annalisa,<br />
I forgot my best friend’s birthday a few months back – the first time in<br />
23 years! We laughed it off but I get the feeling she is still upset about<br />
it. She ‘forgets’ to invite me to girls’ nights out and a week ago forgot<br />
to tell me she was travelling. This is someone I used to speak to almost<br />
everyday – including the birthday I forgot. I need us to move past this.<br />
What’s step one?<br />
Louise, 39<br />
A: Dear Louise,<br />
To forget your best friend’s birthday, is BIG! And to not forgive a best<br />
friend, for it, that’s BIG too. Now which is bigger, tends to depend on<br />
which side anyone is on.<br />
I’m guessing step one might require a bit of backtracking to as far<br />
back as the day you realised you had forgotten her birthday. Did you<br />
apologise? What did you do then? Moments like these, call for empathy<br />
- putting yourself in the other person’s shoes. How would you have<br />
felt? What would you have liked your friend to do if the situation was<br />
reversed? Bearing in mind, even best friends may have different takes on<br />
the matter.<br />
“IF YOU FAILED TO ACKNOWLEDGE<br />
HER TRUE FEELINGS THE FIRST<br />
TIME ROUND THEN CREATE THE<br />
OPPORTUNITY TO DO SO NOW.”<br />
Sometimes when important things happen between friends, things that<br />
may cause pain, hurt, or disappointment we are eager to “laugh it off”.<br />
The “laugh it off” is sometimes done to make light of a difficult situation;<br />
not knowing how to deal with the situation from both ends; fear of<br />
coming across as selfish or greedy may cause the affected person to<br />
play along; not knowing how to deal with the affected person’s reaction.<br />
These are all possibilities why humor or laughter is sometimes used to<br />
try and remedy an awkward situation.<br />
Now it’s all-good if the affected person is genuine about seeing only<br />
the funny side of the whole situation. If you gather, she’s not really<br />
laughing, then step two would be to talk to her about it. If you failed<br />
to acknowledge her true feeling the first time round then create the<br />
opportunity to do so now. It’s also a moment to share your own true<br />
feelings about the situation and your fear of its consequences on your<br />
friendship.<br />
Step three (optional): throw her a “sorry I forgot your birthday for the<br />
first time in 23 years, please forgive me” party. It can be the simplest<br />
party for two; two cupcakes, one balloon, and a big sorry sign; just be<br />
genuine and do it from the heart. Hopefully it wins her over. All in all, I<br />
wish for this friendship, a lot less forgetting and a lot more forgiving.<br />
Annalisa Labiche is a practicing Clinical Psychologist with over five years experience. She completed her Bachelor of Art (Psychology) degree and Masters in<br />
Psychology in Australia. She gives advice on a multitude of subjects, including relationships, parenting, family issues, psychological disorders, substance misuse<br />
amongst many others.<br />
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La trisomie 21 ou Syndrome de Down.<br />
contenues dans le liquide amniotique ou le placenta. Le prélèvement,<br />
appelé amniocentèse ou biopsie du trophoblaste, n’est pas sans<br />
risque (risque de fausse couche). Ce prélèvement qui n’est pas<br />
disponible aux Seychelles, est proposé uniquement si le fœtus a des<br />
risques élevés d’être atteint de Trisomie 21.<br />
HEALTH<br />
Après la naissance, l’existence de la trisomie peut être suspectée<br />
et nécessite alors la réalisation de l’étude des chromosomes de<br />
l’individu.<br />
Le 21 Mars est la journée mondiale du syndrome de down, je profite<br />
alors de ce numéro spécial de Potpourri pour parler un peu plus de ce<br />
syndrome.<br />
Quelles sont les origines de la trisomie 21 ?<br />
Dans chaque cellule du corps humain, il existe un noyau. A l’intérieur<br />
de celui-ci se retrouve des gènes .Un gène est une petite portion<br />
d’ADN, support de l’information génétique de l’individu. Les gènes<br />
portent les codes responsables de nos caractères héréditaires,<br />
et sont regroupés dans des structures appelées chromosomes.<br />
Classiquement, le noyau de chaque cellule chez l’être humain<br />
contient 23 paires de chromosomes, 23 venant du père et 23 de la<br />
mère. Le syndrome de Down apparait lorsqu’un individu se retrouve<br />
avec une copie partielle ou complète du chromosome 21. La<br />
personne atteinte a un chromosome surnuméraire sur la 21e paire de<br />
chromosomes. Elle ne possède donc pas 46 chromosomes, mais en<br />
possède 47.<br />
Il existe différentes formes de trisomie 21.<br />
C’est au moment de la formation des ovules ou des spermatozoïdes,<br />
avant la fécondation que se produit “ l’incident génétique “<br />
responsable dans 95% des cas de la trisomie 21.<br />
• Si toutes les cellules de l’organisme ont 47 chromosomes, on<br />
parle de trisomie 21 homogène.<br />
• On parle de trisomie 21 en mosaïque, lorsque seule une partie<br />
des cellules est touchées.<br />
Dans 5% des cas, c’est une trisomie par translocation. Le<br />
chromosome supplémentaire est dans ce cas attache a un autre<br />
chromosome.<br />
Quels sont les facteurs de risques ?<br />
La trisomie 21 touche toutes les populations. L’origine ethnique ou le<br />
niveau économique ne sont pas des facteurs de risques.<br />
En dehors de la présence d’une anomalie des chromosomes<br />
équilibrée impliquant un chromosome 21, le seul facteur de risque<br />
connu est l’âge maternel au moment de la fécondation. Le risque<br />
d’avoir un enfant avec une trisomie 21 est en effet de :<br />
• 1/1500 naissances si la mère a 20 ans<br />
• 1/1000 à 30 ans<br />
• 1/400 à 35 ans<br />
• 1/100 à 40 ans<br />
• 1/28 à 50 ans<br />
Comment fait-on le diagnostic ?<br />
Avant la naissance, il est possible de diagnostiquer une trisomie 21<br />
chez un fœtus pendant la grossesse. Mais uniquement par des tests<br />
qui permettent de prélever des cellules du fœtus. Ces cellules sont<br />
Comment savoir s’il existe un risque élevé ?<br />
Des tests sanguins effectués chez la maman, permettent de faire un<br />
calcul du risque. Ce test n’est pas disponible aux Seychelles.<br />
Aux résultats sanguins sont combinés l’âge de la patiente et la mesure<br />
de la nuque du fœtus (clarté nucale). Cette mesure est réalisée lors de<br />
l’échographie du premier trimestre. En effet, les fœtus dont la nuque<br />
est plus épaisse que la norme sont plus à risque de trisomie 21.<br />
Quelles sont les conséquences de la trisomie 21 ?<br />
Il en existe plusieurs, voici les plus fréquentes :<br />
• Une déficience intellectuelle variable, avec des possibilités<br />
d’intégration sociale différentes selon les enfants. Cela<br />
n’excluant pas une autonomie relative des personnes<br />
atteintes de trisomie 21. D’où le rôle primordial de l’éducation,<br />
et de l’accompagnement de ces enfants des leur plus jeune âge.<br />
• Un aspect caractéristique du visage (qui n’empêche pas a ces<br />
enfants de ressembler a leurs parents).<br />
• Une taille ne dépassant pas 160 cm à l’âge adulte.<br />
• Une diminution du tonus musculaire (hypotonie) et une<br />
hyperlaxité.<br />
• Des malformations d’importance variable le plus souvent<br />
du cœur ou de l’appareil digestif, pouvant bénéficier de soins<br />
spécifiques.<br />
• Des troubles ORL, de la vue ou de l’audition…<br />
Quel suivi pour les personnes atteintes ?<br />
La prise en charge des problèmes spécifiques rencontrés dans la<br />
trisomie 21 doit toujours être conduite dans l’objectif de permettre<br />
une meilleure insertion sociale et professionnelle.<br />
Beaucoup de symptômes classiquement décrits dans la trisomie<br />
21, sont secondaires à l’hypotonie et à l’hyperlaxité et peuvent être<br />
bien améliorés par la prise en charge précoce en psychomotricité,<br />
kinésithérapie et orthophonie. Il doit y avoir une mise en place dès le<br />
plus jeune âge d’un partenariat entre les parents et les professionnels<br />
de l’éducation, du soin et de la rééducation joue un rôle primordial.<br />
Cela permet également d’accompagner les parents et leur permettent<br />
de mieux comprendre leur fils ou leur fille.<br />
Il n’y a pas de traitement médical de ce syndrome.<br />
C’est grâce à la meilleure prise en charge des problèmes médicaux<br />
et notamment au traitement des malformations cardiaques et des<br />
infections que l’espérance de vie des personnes avec une trisomie 21<br />
a beaucoup augmenté puisque plus de 50% dépassent l’âge de 50<br />
ans aujourd’hui.<br />
Pour plus d’informations n’hésitez pas à contacter le professionnel de<br />
santé qui vous suit.<br />
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PARENTING<br />
Juggling Motherhood<br />
AND CAREER<br />
Working moms have a lot on the go, but being realistic and having a sense of humour makes all the difference,<br />
writes Nathalie Hodgson.<br />
Most women this millennium are returning to work when their children<br />
are still very young, without being questioned or judged. With the cost of<br />
living on the rise, two incomes is what is required to keep a decent family<br />
household or to maintain the lifestyle you once led but with additional<br />
mouths to feed. So how do you balance work, love and play when no one<br />
has the time? I spoke to two working mothers to share some valuable tips<br />
on how it’s done.<br />
Neesha Kumar, 30, Creative Director, decided to extend her three-month<br />
maternity leave, dip into her annual leave bonus and eventually resigned,<br />
after having her first child. ‘I would rather die than leave my little one so<br />
young’, she thought to herself. But after six months she realised that this<br />
was not financially viable; she had to return to work and decided to take<br />
up a position that she been offered some time back. Returning to work<br />
not only helped to pay the bills but it opened up new doors of valuable<br />
experience, which has led her into opening up her own business (Neesha<br />
Kumar Ltd).<br />
‘The to-do list is so long that I am overwhelmed just looking at it’ Neesha<br />
explains, ‘I am mentally racing back and forth between my responsibility<br />
to my two children (six-year old girl and one-year old boy) and my<br />
business. I can’t take sick days as this means I don’t get paid for that day<br />
and the work is then a day late. There are simply not enough hours in the<br />
day to accomplish what needs to get done, so I am often up until 2am or<br />
later’.<br />
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It is the ultimate juggling act; the pressure on working mothers and<br />
fathers with full-time careers and young children leads to a constantly<br />
racing heart, all-consuming guilt and a certainty that you’ve become<br />
inadequate at home and at work when things go slightly wrong. So the<br />
key is to place some logical strategies as pillars into your daily life to keep<br />
the walls from caving in.<br />
Being a great mom isn’t<br />
about making every meal<br />
or doing every load of<br />
laundry. It’s also about<br />
being a strong female role<br />
model for your children;<br />
the two are strongly interweaved.<br />
An essential part<br />
of being a great mom is<br />
pursuing your own passions<br />
and being an interesting,<br />
dynamic, growing person<br />
that your children have as<br />
an example.<br />
‘Honestly my work-life balance needs some improvement’ Neesha<br />
confesses. There is no quality weekday family evening time, as I am<br />
working solidly to build my young business. I am blessed with a husband<br />
that fully supports and understands this critical stage. I do force myself<br />
to take some downtime when I have been multi-tasking all day however<br />
and I do not work on Sundays (at all). This is strictly family time. I cook and<br />
spend time with my loved ones’ Neesha explains.<br />
and daughter (feeding, bathing, playing, stories). It’s just manageable<br />
really. I have a lot of motivation as my patients offer me many kind words<br />
and letters and of course the support I receive around me from my<br />
partner, family and friends’.<br />
Being a great mom isn’t about making every meal or doing every load of<br />
laundry. It’s also about being a strong female role model for your children;<br />
the two are strongly interweaved. An essential part of being a great mom<br />
is pursuing your own passions and being an interesting, dynamic, growing<br />
person that your children have as an example. You want to raise strong<br />
individuals and they need to see that in their adult figures every day of<br />
their lives.<br />
Alice continues, ‘even after the most hectic and stressful day at work, the<br />
duties don’t stop. There is no law that says that you have to make all your<br />
meals from scratch, clean your own house from top-to-bottom every<br />
week. I make lists about what needs to be done and cut corners on things<br />
that really don’t matter, so I have more time to spend with my family. They<br />
are my priority and I always make time for them. I know my career and<br />
my studies are important too and hopefully one day my daughter will be<br />
proud of her hard working mum’.<br />
No matter how great your job, your boss, your partner and your kids may<br />
be, it’s your number one job to take care of yourself. This is one job you<br />
simply can’t delegate. Without your own health you are no service to<br />
your family or your job so make sure you are ticking those boxes in diet,<br />
exercise, check-ups and some personal hobbies (for your own mental<br />
growth and happiness).<br />
PARENTING<br />
Alice Mancienne, 25 years, Staff Nurse at The Seychelles Hospital and<br />
studying an Advanced Diploma in Midwifery at NIHSS, remembers her first<br />
day back at work after having her daughter. ‘I fought back tears and kept<br />
calling home to check up on her every second, it felt awful, even though<br />
I knew she was in good hands with my grandmother. The only thing that<br />
kept me going was picturing that little face when she would see me again.<br />
This kept me sane and motivated’.<br />
Alice always wanted to be a mother and always wanted to be a nurse,<br />
a job she loves. ‘I am living my dream, I know this, but every day is not<br />
picture perfect. I work shifts and my day includes dressing wounds,<br />
preparing patients for operation, admission, withdrawing blood, doctor’s<br />
rounds, administering medication, providing support and giving<br />
reassurance. Then it’s time to go home and I do some laundry, cleaning,<br />
preparing meals, feeding the dogs and spending time with my partner<br />
While interviewing and talking to many working mums the one ultimate<br />
secret that is constant in the working mums power kit is to always keep<br />
your sense of humour. When dirty nappies fall at your feet, the babies are<br />
screaming in the bath and you know dinner is about to burn, humour is<br />
the ultimate weapon against the craziness around you, and the one thing<br />
that will keep you sane.<br />
Nathalie Hodgson is a writer, mother, PR & Marketing<br />
consultant, Doterra essential oils consultant and yoga<br />
instructor, juggling this whilst raising two kids, running<br />
her own business and enjoying the most of life.<br />
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<strong>FASHION</strong><br />
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Generation Procrastination<br />
Why not today?<br />
What makes us put things off instead of just getting them done? Lynette Botha doesn’t have all the answers, but<br />
she’s working on it…<br />
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I put the ‘pro’ into procrastination. This is not to say I’m lazy, or not a hard worker. Au contraire.<br />
I am a workaholic – always hustling for more jobs on the side; mostly out of want than<br />
necessity (for the time being). But man can I put things off – until the pressure is so forceful<br />
and the deadline is so far gone, that I have to pull an all-nighter to catch up. And this is not<br />
only with work. This happens with renewing car licence disks, taking in the dry cleaning,<br />
going for a haircut. I once read a star sign that referred to Librans as ‘lackadaisical’ – and I was<br />
like, “there, you see, it’s not my fault, it’s the way the stars aligned when I was born. Now I’m<br />
off the hook”. If only.<br />
This feature first<br />
appeared in<br />
Juice Magazine,<br />
January 2015<br />
"If you, like me, would<br />
like to be a little less<br />
anxious and a little<br />
more proactive this<br />
year, take note."<br />
Truth is, it’s hundred percent me. And you. And like any other bad<br />
habit, it’s something that takes time and commitment to rectify.<br />
Ironically.<br />
open in separate tabs is like asking for trouble and<br />
setting yourself up for failure. When you need to do<br />
something, tell yourself: I’m sitting down for an hour<br />
and solely focusing on this. When you decide to switch<br />
off and focus, you’ll be amazed at how much you can<br />
achieve in a short space of time – you may get so<br />
into it that you carry on for longer than the time you<br />
assigned yourself. You’ll also find that you really did not<br />
miss that much on social media. Maybe just another<br />
pregnancy announcement.<br />
Be prepared<br />
When you’re ready to get started on your task –<br />
renewing your driver’s licence, for example – make<br />
sure you have everything you need. Your old licence,<br />
ID book, photos, the correct amount of money in cash.<br />
Starting out on a task and getting halfway because you<br />
don’t have all the tools at your disposal will take the<br />
wind out of your sails – and you’ll probably put it off<br />
for another two weeks because you just. can’t. face. all.<br />
the. admin.<br />
Procrastination is a real syndrome though – it’s not just you ‘putting<br />
things off’, some people suffer from it to a point where it can be<br />
debilitating. So it’s no surprise then that countless psychological<br />
studies have been done to not only understand why people<br />
procrastinate and what triggers it, but also, what you can do in order to<br />
re-train your brain to want to get things done.<br />
If you, like me, would like to be a little less anxious and a little more<br />
proactive this year, take note of the following (don’t worry, I’ll keep it<br />
short, I know you’d rather be playing Candy Crush):<br />
Just Start<br />
Yes, this sounds pretty basic, but once you’ve started on a task – even<br />
if you do not complete it immediately – you are more likely to finish<br />
it (and sooner) than if you don’t start at all. Need to file a report by<br />
Friday? Start the Excel spreadsheet on Tuesday – even if you only<br />
create the columns and headers. You’ll probably make your end of<br />
week deadline. This is due to something that psychologists call the<br />
Zeigarnick Effect. In a nutshell, assignments that are unfinished are<br />
more likely to nag at you and remain top of mind, than tasks that you<br />
never started at all. Because it’s constantly on your mind, it becomes<br />
irritating and makes you anxious and you just want to get it done.<br />
Believe in yourself<br />
Yes, really. Often procrastination stems from self doubt – a fear of<br />
failure or a feeling of not being good enough. You’re so scared that<br />
you’ll do something incorrectly or not well enough, that you never<br />
get started on it in the first place. You’ve committed to organising<br />
a bachelorette party for your best friend but you’re so anxious that<br />
everything won’t turn out perfectly that two weeks before the event<br />
you still haven’t even sent out invitations, nevermind secured a<br />
venue. The longer you put these types of tasks off, the worse it gets.<br />
You become more anxious, more deflated, and less likely to want to<br />
get started. Stop doubting yourself, believe you can do what needs<br />
to be done and challenge yourself to prove it by starting work on it<br />
immediately.<br />
Make a list<br />
If you’re anything like me, you may be great at writing a list, but not<br />
so great at doing anything with it once it’s written. But writing lists is<br />
scientifically proven to make us more likely to do things (and to feel<br />
less anxious by getting things out of our heads – where they can be<br />
forgotten, and on to paper – which you hopefully don’t lose). A list<br />
does not literally need to be a piece of paper with bullet points – it can<br />
be any form of you getting what you need to accomplish out of your<br />
head; this may be in your diary, on your iPad or via an App. The one<br />
form that I find works for me, is electronic calendar reminders, set for<br />
days leading up to a certain task or assignment – it’s like building in<br />
time to allow yourself to procrastinate.<br />
Turn off your WiFi<br />
And your cellphone. And your social media notifications. Move away<br />
from the TV. Keep distractions to an absolute minimum. Sitting<br />
down to complete a task with Facebook, Twitter and YouTube<br />
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HEALTH & FITNESS<br />
THE SOLDIER<br />
OF MISFORTUNE<br />
Are you brave enough for this intense workout? Hassan Al-Ameri is here to guide you through it…<br />
Here is an example of a training session you could try, if you’re feeling<br />
really brave and in the mood for something that will push you both<br />
mentally and physically. It’s certainly not for complete beginners, and is<br />
also designed for those who prefer to train with a partner.<br />
I call it the “Soldier of Misfortune” as it’s based on a training principle that<br />
was applied to our training sessions whilst I was serving in the army. I<br />
still feel that this standard is by far one of the most important to consider<br />
when designing a training program for yourself or anyone else.<br />
And remember; never sacrifice one element of fitness in pursuit of<br />
another!<br />
THE WARM-UP<br />
3 x 5 wall squats (toes against a wall)<br />
3 x 15 bodyweight squats<br />
3 x 10 goblet squats<br />
2 x 10 push-ups<br />
2 x 10 proper push-ups (lie flat and take hands off the floor between<br />
each push-up)<br />
10 x 5 man makers (push-up on dumbbells, row each side, feet in,<br />
stand, shoulder press)<br />
THE MAIN BODY (PARTNER WORKOUT)<br />
THE COOL-DOWN<br />
4 X 30secs on/30secs off FROG HOP<br />
4 X 30secs on/30secs off PUSH PRESS (hell style)<br />
(rest with weights above your head!)<br />
4 X 30secs on/30secs off SPLIT JUMP<br />
300 seconds total FRONT LEANING REST (high plank)<br />
(stop the clock when you need to rest)<br />
Do not be fooled; this is a muscle-aching lung-busting workout – not for<br />
the faint-hearted. Get in touch with me and let me know how you found<br />
it.<br />
Until next time…<br />
Yours in Health & Fitness,<br />
Hassan<br />
Hassan is a Master Trainer from the European Institute of<br />
Fitness, living on Mahé. For any further advice on health and<br />
fitness, you can contact Hassan directly on:<br />
Tel: +248 2568629<br />
Email: h.al-ameri@hotmail.co.uk<br />
Complete three rounds of the following with one minute’s rest between<br />
each round:<br />
250m row whilst partner performs a rack hold (24kg men/16kg women)<br />
Then switch to complete the round.<br />
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CONSERVATION<br />
RIDING FOR THE PLANET…<br />
AND YOUR HEALTH!<br />
Save money, improve your fitness and do your bit for the environment<br />
Photographs: Joe Clothilde<br />
Can riding a bike save the planet, and you? Experts say that cycling could<br />
help resolve many environmental and health problems. It just needs<br />
to ‘catch on’, and become the next green and fashionable thing to do.<br />
Contraptions on wheels are the most popular form of transport over<br />
land for most people. Amid an array of cars, trucks, vans and jeeps, the<br />
simple and modest bicycle tops the list for the healthiest, wheeled mode<br />
of transport, for you and for our planet. Why not ride bikes to help the<br />
environment, save on gas, generate less greenhouse gases and burn more<br />
calories, all at the same time?<br />
Cycling is a low-carbon, eco-friendly mode of transport. Car exhausts are<br />
a cocktail of all types of cancer-causing and global-warming-inducing<br />
gases that include carbon dioxide, sulphur oxides, methane and other<br />
particulates. Bikes have no exhaust system; they are solely powered by<br />
your strength. Subsequently, riding a bike produces zero emissions, which<br />
equates to zero air pollution and less incidences of throat and lung cancer<br />
caused by the particles that contribute to air pollution. By the same token,<br />
working those muscles to power the bike forward will increase your<br />
metabolism and help you burn calories up at a rapid pace. Not only that,<br />
pedalling away on a bike helps to keep your heart healthy (and pumping).<br />
Parking lots are also a problem for the environment, especially with the<br />
increasing number of motorised vehicles on the road. This means clearing<br />
more land for parking that was once home to plant and animal life. The<br />
asphalt, tars and other chemicals poured to make parking lots and roads<br />
also release pollutants into the air and create heat islands that contribute<br />
to global warming. The removal of trees and other vegetation eliminates<br />
vital biomass that helps reduce the quantity of carbon dioxide in the<br />
air. Bicycle parking requires little space, which means that bikes help<br />
minimise the effects of global warming and also preserve habitats.<br />
While you ‘ride for the planet’...and for yourself, remember to always keep<br />
safe. Here are a few reminders from one of our previous articles on safe<br />
bike riding:<br />
• Avoid busy streets<br />
• Wear a helmet<br />
• Wear brightly coloured clothes to increase your visibility<br />
• Follow the rules of the road<br />
• No music players or mobile phones to distract you or inhibit your<br />
hearing<br />
Last but not least, while most bike riding on Mahé or Praslin is done for<br />
sports or for recreation more than for commuting, we should tip our<br />
hats to our brothers and sisters over on La Digue, who use bicycles as an<br />
everyday mode of transport, and serve as inspiring role models – and<br />
that’s the kind of biking enthusiasm we want to spread.<br />
Contributed by Ginnie Laurencine for Sustainability for<br />
Seychelles, a local NGO whose mission is to promote<br />
sustainable living in Seychelles. Contact us on info@<br />
s4seychelles.com or tel. 251-9135 or 422-4072. Find us<br />
on the web at www.s4seychelles.com or on Facebook.<br />
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DINING<br />
Le Bourgeois<br />
Restaurant<br />
at Le Méridien Fisherman’s Cove<br />
RESTAURANT REVIEW<br />
Divine dining is how<br />
Vee Mari Power sums up<br />
her experience at this<br />
picturesque spot<br />
Le Bourgeois Restaurant kicks off the year 2015 with an<br />
exclusively seafood menu created by the artful genius of<br />
Executive Chef Anthony Robin who specializes in Fusion Cuisine.<br />
“We are excited to re-launch Le Bourgeois as the seafood<br />
restaurant on the island, unique menu which is affordable with<br />
good portions and an excellent variety complements the location<br />
and personalized service” quotes Wael Rashed – the General<br />
Manager of Le Meridien Fisherman’s Cove.<br />
Dining at this sensational restaurant is guaranteed to satisfy even<br />
the most adventurous taste buds.<br />
Stroll along the floor lit decking from Le Méridien Hotel that<br />
meanders along the coast line of Bel Ombre and enjoy the<br />
gentle breeze that blows in from the North of the island, until<br />
you stumble upon this secluded eatery. This is a dinner-byreservation-only<br />
type of establishment, with a cozy seating<br />
arrangement to ensure a private fine dining experience.<br />
The À la carte menu offers a fantastic array of locally sourced<br />
delicacies that will stimulate your appetite. We recommend the<br />
generously portioned appetizer of crab nachos or the crispy<br />
calamari with black olive tartar.<br />
For the main there is a tempting selection of seafood risottos<br />
and pastas that will no doubt leave you sighing with satisfaction.<br />
We were drawn to the star of the show, the Asian Spiced Grilled<br />
Lobster with truffle mash, grilled asparagus and orange-carrot<br />
sauce. The rich and aromatic flavours of the spiced lobster are<br />
matched perfectly by the creamy truffle mash.<br />
Dessert at Le Bourgeois is a must! You will be hard-pressed to<br />
choose between options of Chocolate Teardrop to homemade<br />
caramel ice-cream with peanuts, popcorn and chocolate sauce.<br />
We enjoyed the warm chocolate-walnut brownie with homemade<br />
vanilla ice-cream and blueberry compote. It is the perfect<br />
balance of sweet and savoury and beautifully presented as a treat<br />
for the eyes, as well as your sweet tooth.<br />
Everything about this dining experience suggests attention to<br />
detail and pure luxury, from the location, and the delectable<br />
menu to the impeccable table service. There is also a wonderful<br />
list of wines and suggestions from the house sommelier for each<br />
course so you can be sure to fully experience the sensory delights<br />
of every part of your meal.<br />
“At last we have a true sea food restaurant at Le Meridien<br />
Fisherman’s Cove, unlocking a new culinary experience to our<br />
guests locally and globally” quotes the General Manager.<br />
If you would like to share the same culinary experience,<br />
discover more at http://www.lebourgeois.sc<br />
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A tale about St Patrick<br />
Do you know where this day originates from and why we celebrate it? Read on…<br />
St. Patrick was born in South Wales, his father was a Roman<br />
called Calpornius. When he was about 16 years old he was<br />
taken by Irish raiders led by the infamous “Niall of the nine<br />
hostages”. They took him to Ireland to a place called Mount<br />
Slemish near the present town of Ballymena.<br />
There, he worked as a slave for six years. During this time<br />
he had several dreams where God told him he must escape<br />
from Ireland and become a priest. He walked 200 miles to the<br />
coast where he escaped to Scotland, returning home, and<br />
eventually going to France where he became a priest and then<br />
a Bishop. He was Bishop of Auxerre in France for 12 years. He<br />
was haunted by dreams of the people of Ireland calling him to<br />
return and bring Christianity to Ireland which was, at the time,<br />
a pagan land. In 432AD Pope Celestine decided to send him on<br />
a mission to convert the Irish to Christianity. St Patrick arrived in<br />
Ireland in the winter of 432AD.<br />
Christian faith later on. So if you are a Christian today with some lineage to<br />
Ireland, you may well owe a debt to St. Patrick himself.<br />
He died on March 17th 493AD and was buried in a place called Down Patrick.<br />
In recent years, St. Patrick’s Day has been celebrated at the Level 3 Bar in<br />
Seychelles. On St Patrick’s Day 2014, Level 3 Bar was renamed “Rogan’s Irish Bar”,<br />
making it the first Irish Bar in Seychelles.<br />
This year St Patrick’s Day will fall on Tuesday 17th March.<br />
You will find all the traditional celebrations at Rogan’s Irish Bar.<br />
A VERY HAPPY ST. PATRICK’S<br />
DAY TO YOU ALL!<br />
SLÁINTE! (GOOD HEALTH)<br />
Many stories have been told about what happened next.<br />
He converted the whole of Ireland in around 30 years. He<br />
is responsible for the 29th of February being a day when<br />
the ladies can propose marriage. This was to help speed<br />
up wedding proposals in cases where the men might be a<br />
bit slow or shy. He used the Shamrock, a three-leaf plant of<br />
the clover family, to help explain the trinity to his flock. His<br />
converts became the new stronghold of Christianity in Europe,<br />
and Ireland shone the light of the Christian faith throughout<br />
the dark ages in Europe, and sent missionaries to return the<br />
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WEDDINGS IN PARADISE<br />
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POP CULTURE<br />
Big Booties and Cash Cows<br />
The Undeniable Influence of Kim Kardashian...<br />
By Kurt Gilbert<br />
As a full-time fan of Kanye West, I’ve had to put up with my fair share of<br />
Kim Kardashian-related news over the past couple of years. Admittedly,<br />
before Kimye was a ‘thing’, I paid very little attention to the camera-hungry<br />
stylings that placed Kim on the A-List of celebrity culture. I had the same<br />
fundemental problem with her that so many other people do; I couldn’t<br />
reconcile the fact that she’s made silly amounts of money by airing her<br />
dead-end, first world ‘problems’ on TV, while far more important issues<br />
are crammed into a four minute slot on late-night news. That’s the case in<br />
America, at least.<br />
What’s important to note at this point is that I’ll never ride a bandwagon<br />
purely because everyone else is on it, and neither should you. I’ve learnt to<br />
question everything in order to create an informed and justifiable opinion<br />
on whatever I may be talking about, and Kim Kardashian is no exception.<br />
For that very reason, I decided to take a deeper look into the life and times<br />
“Granted, her field is pretty much defined by being in the right place,<br />
wearing the right clothes, and laughing at the right jokes, at the right<br />
time, but that doesn’t detract from the simple fact that she owns it.”<br />
of young Kimmy, and what I concluded from that<br />
brief foray and indeed, how I feel now, may come as<br />
a shock to anyone who knows me and/or has read<br />
anything I’ve written over the past couple of years.<br />
It’s like this – I think Kim Kardashian absolutely<br />
deserves her place on our TV screens, Instagram<br />
feeds, Facebook newsfeeds and magazine covers, and<br />
here’s why:<br />
She’s not as stupid as you think.<br />
Mrs. Kardashian-West is, in fact, one of the most savvy,<br />
ingenious individuals in her ‘field’ right now. Granted,<br />
her field is pretty much defined by being in the right<br />
place, wearing the right clothes, and laughing at the<br />
right jokes, but that doesn’t detract from the simple<br />
fact that she owns it. If for one minute you think that<br />
anyone can do what she’s done as long as they have<br />
a little bit of luck and rich enough parents, let me be<br />
the first person to tell you that you’re more dumb<br />
than you think she is. There are plenty of super-rich<br />
people who would love to be in Kim’s shoes, so why<br />
aren’t more trust fund heiresses and insurance money<br />
girls marrying the biggest musicians in the world, or<br />
getting special endorsements from fashion labels like<br />
Dolce&Gabanna and Yves Saint Laurent?<br />
I’ll tell you why – they’re either not willing to work for<br />
it or they’re not thinking big enough. Kim Kardashian<br />
does both, and has for a long time. She understands<br />
her target demographic, sets high goals and pushes<br />
them out until you can’t open an internet browser<br />
without seeing her name or photo somewhere. Sure,<br />
a lot of what she does isn’t exactly the pinnacle of<br />
artistic evolution, but that’s a matter of taste more<br />
than anything else.<br />
The bottom line is that Kim K has converted a<br />
derogatory reality show start-up into an independent<br />
A-list career. She runs in her own lane and for that<br />
alone, demands respect.<br />
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