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Motherhood<br />

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VIOLENCE<br />

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MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI 1


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Influential Ms. Kardashian<br />

Special Feature<br />

Down Syndrome<br />

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Interview<br />

A Treasure Trove in Baie Lazare<br />

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Juggling Motherhood & Career<br />

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From the<br />

EDITOR<br />

Dear Folks,<br />

Photo credit: Suzanne Verlaque<br />

This month, we are all once again reminded of the important role women<br />

play in the world we live in. Commemorative days to me are like refresher<br />

courses; there’s nothing new we learn but given that we are constantly<br />

growing as individuals, our take on the situation changes and there’s<br />

always a new angle we are able to explore. Personally, I have been<br />

thinking about this day since we celebrated it last year. I couldn’t help<br />

but feel that many of us took the opportunity to have a little dig at the<br />

opposite sex, which is perhaps justified since the day is there to remind<br />

men of how special we are, but is it really the opposite sex who needs to<br />

be reminded? I beg to differ. More and more, I get the sense that women<br />

in general do not appreciate other women. We are in some relentless<br />

search of what it is that ‘she’ is lacking and once we find it, well, we can feel<br />

like we’re on top of the world again. So, when exactly did women become<br />

women’s worst enemy?<br />

The world we live in at the moment is complicated, fast and tiring. Our<br />

lives are exposed on facebook, instagram, twitter and magazines. Gone<br />

are the days when what kind of mother, partner, friend or colleague we<br />

are remained the business of only those they concerned. The world is now<br />

able to formulate an opinion on who we are and naturally that places us<br />

in a competitive place to be the best of everything. Since that is close to<br />

impossible, being best is now also based on who we perceive to be ‘less’<br />

than us; a mother who has a social life, a partner who has let herself ‘go’ a<br />

little, a colleague who gets called into the boss’ office more frequently –<br />

the list goes on. The sad thing about this is that we fail to see that there’s<br />

no ‘just me’ bubble we can escape to and live in. We are all in whatever<br />

we are in together. When I walk into the office in the morning and all my<br />

colleagues are happy, we end up having a productive day which is good<br />

for the general morale and also good for business – a win-win situation<br />

as far as I see it. A colleagues’ unhappiness or anger does nothing good<br />

for anyone in the office. Why don’t we choose to see things in a collective<br />

manner? Allow me to use this metaphor as an example; we are all candles<br />

burning our own light in a room. When the candle next to you fades or is<br />

blown out, yes, your own light might shine brighter for a minute but what<br />

happens to the light in the entire room? It dims. So the next time you get<br />

the chance to share in someone’s happiness, go for it, don’t try to lessen<br />

it. The same applies for someone’s grim moment; don’t rejoice in it but<br />

rather extend your help or better still, your love. Your life and world would<br />

be better because of it.<br />

Women’s Day aside, March is also the month when awareness on Down<br />

Syndrome is given some attention. We take a look at this condition<br />

and meet a couple of families who live it everyday. Down Syndrome to<br />

those of us who do not know is simply seen at face value. We recognise<br />

the condition based on someone’s physical appearance but we remain<br />

comfortably clueless as to what it entails to live with it or with someone<br />

inflicted by it. We hope the feature enlightens you a bit more as it did us.<br />

Another important issue which we address in this issue is domestic<br />

violence, the silent ailment too many people, especially women and<br />

children live with. A survivor shares her story with us and along with it,<br />

gives us hope that there is no situation which can’t be improved or walked<br />

away from if necessary. Our aim was to identify signs in relationships<br />

which scream abuse but we are perhaps at the time too blind to see.<br />

Again, we hope it helps those of you who find yourselves in this incredibly<br />

sad situation or those of you who know someone who is.<br />

The end of March would mark the end of the first quarter of the year. It’s<br />

a good time to re-visit your 2015 resolutions; renew them, change them,<br />

discard them or be proud that you remain on the track you set out to<br />

follow for this year. It takes courage to grow and learn and to try to be<br />

better. We wish you plenty of it.<br />

For those of you visiting our beautiful islands this month, may you have a<br />

memorable holiday and be blown away by the Seychellois hospitality.<br />

Chief Editor<br />

1 MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI


MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI 2


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Stephenie Dookley<br />

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MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI 4


Stephenie Dookley<br />

FIT AND FABULOUS<br />

By Lynette Botha / Photographs Marsha Dine<br />

5 MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI<br />

Proof that no matter what life throws at you,<br />

you’re stronger than you think….<br />

At 24, Stephenie is a single, working mom whose life has<br />

thrown her more than a few curveballs, but she’s not taking<br />

it lying down. Literally. Stephenie, who used to weigh 108kg<br />

and wear a size 18, now weighs 61kg and alters between a<br />

size six and eight, thanks to willpower, sensible eating and<br />

lots of training. As we all know, it’s not easy to “just lose<br />

weight” – especially not with a full-time job and a young<br />

child, but Stephenie was adamant about changing her life.<br />

“I was so overweight for a very long time and I didn’t know<br />

how to change. It made me feel depressed and unhappy<br />

and I knew I had to do something to get my weight under<br />

control, not only for me, but for my son too.”<br />

“The struggle is real, it never<br />

gets easier, but you get<br />

stronger.” This was one of<br />

the lines that Stephenie<br />

repeated many times during<br />

our interview. She meant it in<br />

relation to fitness and getting<br />

healthy, but it seems to allude<br />

to the rest of her life too.”<br />

Once Stephenie had her mind set on getting into shape to<br />

lose all her excess weight, she did what most people do –<br />

look for a quick fix. She started taking diet pills to curb her<br />

appetite, but that solution was short-lived; the pills made<br />

her really sick and caused gastric problems so she had<br />

to stop. She then tried starving herself, and going hours<br />

without eating anything, but again this was not sustainable<br />

and left her weak, tired and even more depressed every<br />

time she failed. “I would get on the scale, see that my weight<br />

was the same, and cry and cry. It was depressing. It’s so<br />

difficult when you’re in that place and you don’t see a way<br />

out.” Eventually she realised the only way she was going<br />

to be able to get in shape was with a realistic goal, lots of<br />

exercise and a healthy eating plan. “Everyone is after instant<br />

results, I was too, but there is no secret, it’s all about hard<br />

work and discipline.” She says.<br />

So, where did she start? “I signed up at the gym, got advice<br />

from the trainers there and committed to going every<br />

day. I did a bit of everything; aerobics, swimming, weight<br />

lifting and jogging. With my eating, I started to cut out<br />

carbs – bread, rice, pasta, as well as sugar and junk food. I<br />

started preparing healthier meals like salads and fish with<br />

vegetables. I also added a lot of protein to my diet.”<br />

Changing your lifestyle so drastically is tough and often not<br />

sustainable, but no matter how hard it was, Stephenie was<br />

determined to keep going. “The difficult thing is that you<br />

don’t see results straight away; it’s not like if you eat clean


Golden Flavours:<br />

Cooking up success<br />

with Barclays<br />

Steve Albert, 32, is an entrepreneur and a<br />

pragmatic dreamer. When he started his company,<br />

Golden Flavours, he was barely 22. Ten years on,<br />

Golden Flavours is known for the quality of its<br />

products on the local market, distributing his<br />

brand of vinegar, tomato sauce and chill sauce<br />

in supermarkets around Mahé, but also in hotels,<br />

restaurants and fast foods.<br />

“I remember being at the Polytechnic School, whenever<br />

I wanted my parents to buy chili sauce or tomato sauce at<br />

the supermarket, there was barely any choice, and it was<br />

always expensive. That’s when I realised the market for these<br />

condiments were very much open in Seychelles,” explains the<br />

young man. After leaving the polytechnic school, he decides<br />

to follow a course on entrepreneurship for small businesses<br />

at the Guy Morel Institute, giving him access to small grant<br />

to launch his business.<br />

“Once I had registered my business and opened the account<br />

with Barclays, the next step was to find suppliers for the raw<br />

materials and spices. I went to Malaysia and South Africa,<br />

looking for the right blend of spices at the right price because<br />

I wanted my product to be affordable here. Today, I still get<br />

most of the spices from these countries, but I also use local<br />

vegetables for my production,” says Steve Albert. Once he<br />

bought his first batch of spices, he started experimenting<br />

with the mixture, trying to find the right balance of tastes<br />

that would appeal to the public, and soon enough, the first<br />

bottles of condiments were produced in his small factory at<br />

Anse-aux-Pins. He also followed a course on food preparation<br />

and spice mixtures in 2007 in South Africa. Never one to<br />

rest on his laurels, as soon as the business started to move<br />

forward, Steve tried to come up with new ideas and revenue<br />

streams, always going to Barclays for help when he needed it.<br />

I feel like more than just a customer<br />

“The relationship with Barclays is a very good one. I have<br />

always made sure that my payments were made in time and<br />

they have helped me along the way. Now, I feel like more than<br />

just a customer, they know me and I know them. I know I can<br />

tell the Barclays team about the issues I am having with my<br />

business, and they will give me advices and encouragements.<br />

I have told them about my next project, and should soon be<br />

presenting them my project document,” he states. For 2015,<br />

Steve Albert has a slew of projects coming, with the biggest<br />

one being the construction of a new factory at Anse-aux-<br />

Pins. The new state of the art factory will not only enable<br />

him to increase his production of bottled vinegar, chili and<br />

tomato sauces, but also to start producing other products<br />

and flavours. “At one point, we were doing 10 different<br />

products, but when I noticed some worked better, I chose<br />

to focus on them. Now, I want to diversify because this will<br />

enable me to increase my profitability. By the end of 2015,<br />

my goal is that Golden Flavours be manufacturing 15 to 20<br />

different products, from condiments to sauces,” declares the<br />

ambitious young man.<br />

For more information, please visit our branches,<br />

Call our Contact Centre on 438 3939<br />

or email sez.customerservices@barclays.com


and train for a whole week that you’ll step on the scale and see a massive<br />

difference in your weight. It takes at least a month or two to see proper<br />

results, and even then it’s not much. If you commit to getting in shape,<br />

you have to work hard at it and be in it for the long haul, the results you<br />

see eventually make it all worth it.” It took her nine months to lose 47kgs<br />

and she couldn’t be happier with her results. “You have to work for it; it’s<br />

the only way.”<br />

Stephenie is so grateful to her old friends who have supported and<br />

encouraged her, her new friends from the gym, who have motivated<br />

and pushed her, but she is especially thankful for her parents. “My mom<br />

and dad are my everything, they are so supportive. My mom looks after<br />

my son, Khelan, when I’m working and going to gym. My dad is always<br />

Googling new workouts and healthy eating plans for me. They are so<br />

encouraging and they help me so much – I would never have been able<br />

to commit to getting in shape without them.” Stephenie, who still lives at<br />

home, says that her father even went so far as to create a home gym at the<br />

“Me getting healthy has been a good<br />

thing for the whole family; even my son<br />

eats more healthily now – he likes to<br />

eat what I’m eating; he even steals my<br />

plain yoghurt sometimes.”<br />

house for her and he himself is into fitness too now. “Me getting healthy<br />

has been a good thing for the whole family; even my son eats more<br />

healthily now – he likes to eat what I’m eating; he even steals my plain<br />

yoghurt sometimes.” She smiles.<br />

“I would get on the scale, see that my<br />

weight was the same, and cry and cry.<br />

It was depressing. It’s so difficult when<br />

you’re in that place and you don’t see<br />

a way out.”<br />

After a less than pleasant split from her ex, Stephenie is weary of rushing<br />

into relationships, but that hasn’t stopped the attention she’s been getting<br />

since she got her shape back. “I do get a lot more attention from men<br />

nowadays; when I go out, I don’t even have to take my purse out of my<br />

bag, people just want to buy me drinks!” On the other side of the scale,<br />

there are those who are not so fond of her new look, “people are strange;<br />

when I was overweight people would say ‘you’re obese’, now that I’m in<br />

shape, people tell me I’m too skinny.” She’s slowly starting to realise that<br />

she needs to ignore what others have to say and focus on herself, and how<br />

she feels. She also doesn’t plan on losing any more weight – her goal is to<br />

stay at 61kgs, but keep toning up and maintaining her healthy lifestyle.<br />

Besides the gym, she loves to dance, attend zumba classes, workout with<br />

her yoga DVDs and walk along the beach.<br />

When I ask her for her advice to people in a similar situation as her, she<br />

says “it is not easy at all. But never give up. Keep at it; get advice, get<br />

people to support and encourage you. Remember to earn it and own it.<br />

You have to go and sweat it out – even when you don’t feel like it, just get<br />

up and get active. Soon it becomes a part of your lifestyle and you can’t<br />

wait to get to the gym and you can’t wait to eat a healthy salad. It gets<br />

easier the longer you do it, just believe in yourself.”<br />

Young in age, but wise beyond her years – Stephenie is proof that the<br />

harder you fall, the higher you bounce!<br />

7 MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI


Musings of an Island Girl<br />

They do not see you stand in the bathroom and gather your resolve every<br />

morning. Splashing your face with water, staring in the mirror, sighing,<br />

brushing your teeth (maybe), picking up that toddler, drifting into the<br />

kitchen, pouring cereal in bowls, cleaning dishes, and making your cup of<br />

tea or coffee with a yawn.<br />

They do not see those of you who mother alone without much support.<br />

They do not see the way you look at the bank account and try to figure<br />

out how to make three meals with what is left in your pantry. They do not<br />

see you walking into the principal’s office, doctor’s office, friend’s house<br />

and defending your child. Alone.<br />

STOP DOUBTING YOURSELF MOMS,<br />

SAYS TINA HOUAREAU<br />

Photographs: Joe Clothilde<br />

You are enough<br />

You give of yourself.<br />

They do not see bandages placed on knees. Quiet kisses on foreheads at<br />

night. Pillows pushed just the right way and blankets tucked to the perfect<br />

demands. Laundry folded and folded and folded. Tears that sting your<br />

eyes as you keep going. Dinners prepared with love. Times of laughter<br />

over silly things. Hair brushed and pulled back into pony tails. Prayers over<br />

little babes. Prayers over wandering teens. Nights spent asleep in a chair<br />

holding a sick child. Days where the house is a wreck but you are reading<br />

books. The courageous smile on your face when you are fatigued.<br />

Those things matter.<br />

Those things are the little things that add up and up and up. Second by<br />

second, minute by minute until they add up to hours which add up to<br />

create days which add up to create weeks which add up to create months<br />

which add up to create years which add up to create a life. A beautiful life<br />

filled with regular mommy moments.<br />

I say those things are enough. I say you are enough.<br />

Tina Houareau is a Seychellois living in the USA with her young son. She is an Instructional Designer for Capella University, where she recently completed her PhD in the same field.<br />

MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI 8


RELATIONSHIPS<br />

My relationship with… my best friend<br />

For Jeannine Gilbert-Finnigan and Marie-Michelle Joseph it’s always about picking up right where they left off.<br />

By Jeannine Gilbert-Finnigan<br />

No one wants to be at the mercy of life, standing alone, so every day<br />

I give thanks to all my beautiful friends across the globe. I am truly<br />

grateful for the people (old and new) who are bringing joy into my life,<br />

but one special person is my best friend of 27 years Marie-Michelle. We<br />

have known each other for 35 years but our special bond started in our<br />

late teens, the moment in our lives when we became young adults and<br />

understood the true value of friendship.<br />

“WE LIVE THOUSANDS OF MILES<br />

APART BUT WE SPEAK ALMOST<br />

EVERY DAY ON THE PHONE OR<br />

VIA SOCIAL MEDIA.”<br />

I called when I lost my father. When my first long-term relationship<br />

went pear-shaped I cried buckets on her shoulder and she helped me<br />

pick up the pieces and I stood by her during her break-ups too. She was<br />

maid-of-honour at my wedding and helped me plan my big day. She is<br />

the godmother of my daughter and best of all we both feel like we are<br />

part of each other’s families, which is an amazing feeling. We’ve had 27<br />

years of great friendship and I am thankful for that. We live thousands<br />

of miles apart but we speak almost every day by phone or via social<br />

media and we see each other once or twice a year.<br />

27 years on; our bond is still as strong as ever<br />

Almost 12 years ago when I left Seychelles, one of my greatest fears was<br />

losing my friends who have been in my life for so long. Some of them<br />

had been in my life for as long as I can remember; as far back as primary<br />

school and many came into my life by coincidence; Michelle was one<br />

of them. Michelle and I have been friends since we were teenagers. We<br />

met when we started our post-secondary studies; we just so happened<br />

to be taking the same A-level subjects and we were both obsessed with<br />

reading. Exchanging novels became a ritual and that was the start of a<br />

beautiful friendship. Some people are quite surprised when they realise<br />

how close we are because we have completely different personalities. I<br />

am the quiet, reserved one with a discreet confidence where as my best<br />

friend is perhaps the vocal one who doesn’t mince her words. I love her<br />

because with her it’s always: what you see is what you get. We have<br />

been there for each other during all the lows and the highs of our lives.<br />

I was there for her when she lost her sister and she was the first person<br />

“MY BEST FRIEND HAS BEEN A<br />

BLESSING, SHE CHALLENGED ME<br />

WHEN I DOUBTED MY ABILITY,<br />

MOTIVATED ME WHEN I WAS<br />

READY TO GIVE UP AND SHE<br />

WAS THERE FOR ME WHEN LIFE<br />

WAS NOT SO GOOD TO ME”.<br />

Michelle and I on my wedding day<br />

What puzzles people most is that I have never been in Michelle’s<br />

friendship circle and she has never been in mine. When it comes to<br />

other friends we both socialise in different circles. Our friendship is<br />

about the two of us, and our family. We value the time spent together<br />

but giving each other space to get on with other aspects of our lives is<br />

important. We never judge each other and we rarely talk about friends<br />

in our individual friendship circle. We simple accept each other for<br />

who we are and we never try to change one another so that we can fit<br />

in with our other friends. We are never jealous of each other because<br />

we know that we will both drop everything to be at each other’s side<br />

if need be. With Michelle and I, it is about picking up where we left<br />

off, regardless of the time and distance that separates us. We are just<br />

happy to be in each other’s company. We even have date nights, when<br />

the two of us will go out for a meal and talk without interruptions.<br />

It is a special kind of bond that perhaps some of our other friends<br />

9 MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI


Michelle and her god-daughter (my daughter)<br />

find intriguing. Some people even think we are related<br />

because we are rarely in the same social circle but always<br />

together!<br />

My best friend has been a blessing, she challenged me<br />

when I doubted my ability, motivated me when I was<br />

ready to give up and she was there for me when life was<br />

not so good to me. She continues to do so even if we are<br />

miles apart.<br />

I hope that others have been blessed with amazing<br />

friendships too and that they are grateful for those who<br />

are still in their lives. Friendship is an important part of<br />

life, so value your friends, treat them as you would like to<br />

be treated and you will be rewarded with trust, openness,<br />

support and never-ending friendship. I feel so blessed to<br />

have a friend like Michelle.<br />

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Down Syndrome<br />

Being born with Down Syndrome may give you a challenging start in life, but with the right help and the right<br />

attitude anything is possible, as Mawess Mea Wirtz finds out<br />

The definition of a person with Down Syndrome is simple – it is a person<br />

who has either an extra full or partial copy of chromosome 21 resulting<br />

in 47 instead of the normal 46 chromosomes. The English doctor, John<br />

Langdon Down who first categorised it, did the usual and named the<br />

syndrome after himself, but it was Dr. Jerome Lejeune who actually<br />

discovered that it was a genetic disorder. Currently, the exact cause is<br />

unknown but statistics show that the older the mother is when she falls<br />

pregnant, the higher the chances that she would have a child born with<br />

DS. Women aged 30 or less have less than 1 in 1,000 chance of have a DS<br />

child, compared to 1 in 400 at age 35. Usually, women over the age of<br />

35 are tested pre-birth for the condition through amniocentesis (testing<br />

the amniotic fluid). Statistics also show that parents who already have a<br />

Down Syndrome baby or have abnormalities in their own chromosome<br />

21 are also high risk. But what is it like to have a Down Syndrome baby in<br />

Seychelles? What is it like to raise the child? How does it affect the family?<br />

What help is there for parents and children alike?<br />

Amazing Grace… how sweet the child.<br />

Grace Mondon is 8 years old; she is an affectionate child who loves music<br />

and going to school. She is a very good student who perseveres in class<br />

and does sports well. She likes playing with her best friend, her twelve<br />

year old cousin Nashil and they share a passion for music. She loves to<br />

sing and dance. She is picky about food. She has Down Syndrome.<br />

Finding out the hard way.<br />

Her mother, Georgette, was 30 when she was born and her father, Clifford<br />

was 33 years old. They had both been in good health and awaiting the<br />

birth of their daughter impatiently. The day that Grace was born was the<br />

HAPPIEST moment in their lives. Georgette had had multiple scans during<br />

her pregnancy but no one noticed anything wrong with her child, the<br />

first indication that something was amiss came AFTER Grace was born.<br />

Mr Mondon remembers a nurse telling him that she thought that there<br />

was something wrong with his baby, but to wait for the doctor. As new<br />

parents, they were immediately filled with fear. The doctor came soon<br />

after, accompanied by a class he was teaching and while the parents<br />

waited fearfully, their child was passed around and examined, her<br />

characteristics were discussed and it was only after class was dismissed<br />

that the doctor informed them that Grace had Down Syndrome. Their<br />

world was rocked. Could you imagine what such a moment feels like?<br />

Where there is a will, there is a way<br />

Mr Mondon remembers telling himself that everything happens for a<br />

reason so he picked himself up, immediately started researching the<br />

syndrome and how he could make a good life for his child. Luckily, among<br />

the first sites, was a very uplifting one, it gave concrete advice and showed<br />

grown up Down Syndrome people who were successful professionally.<br />

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He vowed that HIS daughter was going to get the most normal life he<br />

could provide and that nothing was going to prevent her from being<br />

everything she wanted to be.<br />

A normal upbringing<br />

And a normal upbringing is exactly what Grace has had. She is<br />

reprimanded for doing wrong and she is praised for doing right. She<br />

attended the Count and Read pre-school and despite some issues<br />

she successfully completed her duration there. She then moved to<br />

the Exceptional School and her parents have nothing but the greatest<br />

admiration for the teachers and staff. They credit a lot of Grace’s<br />

development to these amazing people’s commitment to her growth.<br />

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“HE VOWED THAT HIS DAUGHTER WAS<br />

GOING TO GET THE MOST NORMAL<br />

LIFE HE COULD PROVIDE AND THAT<br />

NOTHING WAS GOING TO PREVENT<br />

HER FROM BEING EVERYTHING SHE<br />

WANTED TO BE”.<br />

Surmounting the odds<br />

From birth, Grace would constantly get sick but her parents would always<br />

research the best way to care for her and would liaise with her doctors<br />

to make sure that they were aware of exactly what was happening.<br />

Her father has done this so much that friends have started seeing him<br />

as an endless source of medical advice. Parents must be aware that<br />

Down Syndrome predisposes one to certain medical conditions such<br />

as congenital heart defects, sleep apnea, and Alzheimer’s disease.<br />

There is also evidence of an increased risk of celiac disease, autism,<br />

childhood leukemia and seizures. Endless, heartfelt gratitude goes to Dr<br />

Athanasius who has followed Grace from birth to now. Early intervention<br />

for babies with Down Syndrome is very important as appropriate physical<br />

and speech therapies for the first five years can make a major difference<br />

for that child’s physical and intellectual development.<br />

At around six years old, her parents noticed that there was something<br />

wrong with one of her eyes and sought medical assistance. Despite being<br />

advised to leave it, her parents researched a hospital and raised funds<br />

to send her to have the eye checked and treated, luckily it was a case<br />

of, “good thing you trusted your gut feeling” because it turned out that<br />

Grace was about to lose her eye. Her parents will be eternally grateful to<br />

all the people they didn’t expect to help out, but who did. Thanks to them<br />

Grace’s eye was saved.<br />

Truly exceptional<br />

Grace attends the Exceptional School and never has a school been so<br />

aptly named. The staff that I have met are truly exceptional and the feats<br />

that they have achieved even more so. The achievements of the children<br />

despite their disabilities is the cherry on the cake. The school accepts<br />

students of all disabilities in Seychelles. The students range from being<br />

incapable of doing anything for themselves to those that have learnt to<br />

do so. Along with Grace, the school has around nine Down Syndrome<br />

children and I was surprised to find that they are not grouped together,<br />

rather students at the school are classed according to how much they<br />

have achieved.<br />

With her favourite toys<br />

With her mom<br />

The curriculum changes according to the abilities of the child but the<br />

minute that they show that they are capable the teachers will attempt to<br />

get them to complete the National Curriculum used in all state schools.<br />

Aside from academics, the school also has programs to help the students<br />

socialise successfully, work on their motor skills, give them life skills and<br />

other abilities that we take for granted. Students learn things like how to<br />

dress themselves, table manners, and basic household chores. These get<br />

continually challenging the more they master. The school was proud to<br />

tell me that some of their students could now cook, sew and maintain<br />

themselves effectively. Mr Mondon can vouch for the fact that Grace<br />

dresses herself and is quite independent.<br />

The communication skills for Down Syndrome children are provided at the<br />

school by a speech therapist. This amazing woman works with improving<br />

the speech from mild to severe cases of various disabilities. There are<br />

students that start the school incapable of communicating effectively.<br />

Where before her parents might have had trouble figuring out what Grace<br />

wanted, she has learned gestures that allow her to communicate her<br />

desires.<br />

Down Syndrome children require physical therapy to strengthen their<br />

muscles before they can fine tune their motor skills. The PE teacher<br />

explained to me how the National Sports Council (NSC) provides this<br />

service before the students are ready to learn sports just like Grace<br />

does. Even then however, there needs to be continuous support and<br />

reinforcement to get them to follow the rules of the sport. Grace recently<br />

Having fun at the playground<br />

Water play at school<br />

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competed in the Special Olympics National competition in the 50m walk and made<br />

her parents proud to see her receive her medal from Minister Meriton.<br />

The Seychelles Special Olympics<br />

The other organisation that helps out with the development of the young Down<br />

Syndrome children focuses on sports. A short interview with the National Director<br />

of the Seychelles Special Olympics, Ms Erica Celeste, cleared up what services they<br />

provided. The organisation conducts training of the disabled at various sports every<br />

Sunday but they do not have a bus, therefore the younger and more severe cases can<br />

only train at the Exceptional School. The ages range from 8 to “as old as you are when<br />

you stop” but the others are also registered to the association. Ms Celeste says that<br />

the training of the Down Syndrome athletes requires repetition of the same concepts<br />

every Sunday and endless patience. The performance of our athletes in the World<br />

Olympics however, is worth it. She notes that with Down Syndrome, a high level of<br />

positive reinforcement needs to be maintained. Usually she uses a plethora of high<br />

fives and hugs to steer her charges to success. The organisation is also going to start<br />

their young athletes programme and have a competition later in the year.<br />

“THE STUDENTS RANGE FROM BEING<br />

INCAPABLE OF DOING ANYTHING FOR<br />

THEMSELVES TO THOSE WHO HAVE LEARNT<br />

HOW TO DO THINGS ON THEIR OWN”.<br />

How is she now?<br />

Grace doesn’t really talk, but make no mistake, she communicates effectively, she<br />

may not be able tell her parents something in sentences but through a combination<br />

of words and gestures, she makes her point. In her studies, she has been working<br />

diligently and is capable of doing a lot of small activities. Her teachers are proud of her<br />

progress and admire her for always keeping everything tidy, cleaning up after each<br />

activity all on her own. Cleanliness is definitely the next step to Godliness for Grace.<br />

She is no longer sickly and she lives like any 8-year old, loving to have fun with no idea<br />

that she is different.<br />

Down Syndrome takes<br />

centre-stage in 2015<br />

A recent CNN.com article by David M Perry, highlighted<br />

how the spotlight is on Down Syndrome this year; in the<br />

article he wrote: “Down syndrome, with all its promise and<br />

challenges, has never been more visible: Jamie Brewer, an<br />

actress with Down Syndrome, just walked the catwalk at<br />

New York Fashion Week. A video of a girl with Down Syndrome<br />

singing a John Legend song went viral, receiving 6<br />

million page views and counting. People were so moved<br />

by the story of a father choosing his son with Down Syndrome<br />

over his marriage that they donated over $500,000<br />

to his care (although the father’s story has now been<br />

called into question).” The writer himself is the father of a<br />

Down Syndrome son, so he’s experienced to comment on<br />

the condition and went on to say: “Thanks to the power of<br />

the Internet and the commitment of activists, politicians<br />

and experts of all sorts, access to these antidotes [information,<br />

experts and community] has never been easier.”<br />

And it’s true – you’re not alone.<br />

Useful contact numbers and details:<br />

Exceptional School Seychelles: Call (+248) 4283057 /<br />

website: http://www.ecoschoolseychelles.org/school-forthe-exceptional-child.html<br />

Further reading and advice:<br />

https://www.worlddownsyndromeday.org/<br />

http://www.down-syndrome.org<br />

https://www.ds-int.org<br />

http://www.downsyndrome.org.za/<br />

International World Down Syndrome day is on 21 March<br />

In the future….<br />

The future looks bright because some research shows that people with Down<br />

Syndrome who have certain heart defects or childhood leukemia are more likely<br />

than their typical counterparts to recover or recover more quickly. It is also rare<br />

for a person with Down Syndrome to have a solid tumor cancer or cardiovascular<br />

disease, (including heart attack and stroke). Her father says that ideally he would like<br />

to set her up with her own business because he is unsure about how she would be<br />

treated in someone’s employment. And when I asked him about dating, he says he<br />

thinks he is ok with it and he wants her to find someone, but I get the impression<br />

that it will take one amazing man to marry the Mondon princess. Over-protective is<br />

an understatement (and I mean this in the nicest way possible)! Research tells me<br />

that today the lifespan of a person with Down Syndrome is around 60 years, unlike<br />

as recently as 1983, when the average lifespan was 25 years. The average IQ has also<br />

increased so Grace might well soon be the successful businesswoman her father<br />

wants her to be.<br />

One year old<br />

At Farquhar<br />

Building for the future<br />

Mr Mondon has invested in so many projects that help out the<br />

disabled children. He set up the breakfast programme for the<br />

Exceptional School and he wants to set up a Down Syndrome<br />

club, where other parents can come together and work on<br />

improving the facilities available for Down Syndrome children.<br />

Down syndrome in the world<br />

Although children and adults with Down Syndrome may<br />

share some common features, they look more like their<br />

immediate family members than like each other. Actors such<br />

as Chris Burke, who played Corky in Life Goes On, and Lauren<br />

Potter, who plays Becky Jackson on Glee, show us that there is<br />

no barrier in being Down Syndrome, afterall, those two made it<br />

in HOLLYWOOD! Something most of us can only dream about.<br />

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Before surgery<br />

After surgery<br />

Exceptional School<br />

Exceptional School<br />

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A treasure<br />

trove in<br />

Baie Lazare<br />

In the heart of Baie Lazare, Lynette Botha<br />

discovers an unsuspecting place that houses<br />

a lot of history and a lot of heart<br />

Joseph Larue is an anomaly. He doesn’t have an email address, he’s<br />

not really interested in TV and he thinks social media is ruining<br />

relationships. He longs for the old days, when life was simpler. He<br />

recalls days gone by, when he was a young boy and his family would<br />

take turns to tell stories in the evening because they had no television –<br />

his grandfather, his mother and his father, all taking turns to share a tale<br />

– and before he knew it, it was bedtime. He misses those days, when life<br />

moved at a slower pace and people weren’t consumed by technology<br />

and entertainment.<br />

It’s no surprise then to learn about his great and deep-seated love for<br />

history. Joseph owns Lazare Souvenir, Museum and Gallery in Baie<br />

Lazare – a treasure trove of trinkets from the past. And while it’s only<br />

been open for around six months, the store was previously located in<br />

Victoria, called Yves Souvenir Cachée, where it had been for 15 years.<br />

There are fascinating things he has collected over the years – from old<br />

spectacles, gramophones and typewriters to records, coins and even an<br />

old electricity receipt dating decades back with a monthly total so little,<br />

you’d choke comparing it to the bills of today.<br />

When I ask him where the majority of his things come from, he says<br />

“You won’t believe it, but most of these things I have picked up in<br />

the junk yard; people just throw this stuff out. There is not much of a<br />

culture of history and remembrance in Seychelles – people don’t seem<br />

to treasure family heirlooms. If older members of their family pass on,<br />

they tend to just throw their stuff out; they don’t hold on to it or restore<br />

it.” But he’s not complaining – he’s picked up many amazing pieces from<br />

the junkyard, including the prized bicycle with the “open” sign affixed<br />

to it that stands proudly outside the store’s front door. “It’s like the old<br />

adage goes, one man’s junk is another man’s treasure,” he says. Apart<br />

from housing historical items of Seychelles’ past, the walls are adorned<br />

with art for sale from local artists, many of whom Joseph is friends with.<br />

Most of the work showcased is done by artists from the Baie Lazare area<br />

and gets them a lot of exposure. “Yeh, the art sells well here – and as<br />

soon as something is sold, I call them up and say ‘there’s a gap on the<br />

wall, I need a replacement’.” He smiles as he tells me this. Joseph has an<br />

extremely calm and warm nature, and shares his knowledge and stories<br />

openly. Which is why I’m not surprised when he tells me that he often<br />

has groups from schools who come by to visit, and he gives them a<br />

guided tour of the place and answers their questions.<br />

“IT’S LIKE THE OLD ADAGE<br />

GOES, ONE MAN’S JUNK IS<br />

ANOTHER MAN’S TREASURE,”<br />

HE SAYS.<br />

Every year since 2003, Joseph has visited the UK at least once; unlike<br />

many locals who mainly travel abroad to shop and enjoy the finer<br />

things in life, he loves to visit other places and experience their culture<br />

and history. Of all the places he’s travelled to he says that the museums<br />

and antique stores that he visited in the UK and South Africa have<br />

had the biggest influence on how he curates things and have further<br />

inspired him to keep hunting for souvenirs and artifacts to display.<br />

There is no cover fee to visit the museum, and when I ask him if he’ll<br />

ever charge one in the future, he responds, “never; I will never have a<br />

fee to come in. I am grateful for any donations, of course, so that I can<br />

carry on collecting and preserving history, but I will never charge for<br />

viewing.” Do people often leave donations I ask? “Not all the time, but I<br />

get a few, normally SR25 or SR50; the most I have received was SR100<br />

from a local lady who was so impressed by the place.” Joseph has many<br />

foreigners visit and says they are always impressed with what he has<br />

done with the place and they ask a lot of questions; “they really love it;<br />

you just need to read my guest book to see for yourself”.<br />

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amazing history that lay beneath nor the friendly, genuine man<br />

responsible for it. As they say, everything happens for a reason. Do<br />

yourself a favour and pay the place a visit – you won’t be sorry.<br />

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Of broken<br />

homes<br />

mended<br />

souls<br />

Domestic violence is something very prevalent in our<br />

country, but a subject that remains greatly taboo. This<br />

month we look at a survivor’s tale as well as telltale<br />

signs that it’s time to get out and how to ask for help….<br />

By Marie-France Watson and Lynette Botha<br />

A survivor’s tale<br />

One woman shares her story of living with and loving<br />

an abusive partner – and how she finally got out<br />

Cecile’s love story with Mark started when she was just 16 years old. He<br />

was her first love. Coming from a home that was struggling with certain<br />

social issues including mental illness, Mark’s presence in her life was<br />

comforting. His possessiveness, which she now she realises was an early<br />

sign of things to come, was at the time reassuring for her. He loved her<br />

and wanted to protect her. Despite advice that the relationship would not<br />

work from family and close friends, Cecile could not wait to marry Mark<br />

at 22. Her excitement at the prospect of building a life with the man she<br />

loved caused her to turn a blind eye to the occasional slaps, which had<br />

started to surface. She dismissed them as irrelevant and was certain they<br />

would stop when she became his wife.<br />

She was wrong. While the physical abuse was not a daily occurrence, in<br />

fact she recalls only two or three serious incidents in each year of their<br />

marriage, the psychological ones were more frequent. In fits of rage he<br />

would break things in the house, throw her out of the car they owned<br />

(and often in places where she would be left stranded and far away from<br />

home) and also threaten to kick her out of the house they owned. Looking<br />

back, Cecile realises that it was all part of his need to control her. Instilling<br />

fear in her was his way of reminding her who was the boss. While she<br />

refuses to be labeled a victim, Cecile admits that psychologically he broke<br />

her. After each incident he would cry and ask for forgiveness, but in the<br />

same breath he would blame her for it; if only she had listened to him<br />

or not answered back, he would have never raised his hand to her. She<br />

would believe him for many reasons, one of which was she always wanted<br />

her marriage to work out.<br />

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“If you feel like you have to<br />

walk on eggshells around your<br />

partner—constantly watching<br />

what you say and do in order<br />

to avoid a blow-up—chances<br />

are your relationship is<br />

unhealthy and abusive. Other<br />

signs that you may be in an<br />

abusive relationship include<br />

a partner who belittles you or<br />

tries to control you, and feelings<br />

of self-loathing, helplessness,<br />

and desperation.”<br />

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN THE HOME<br />

The most recent statistics for domestic violence cases in Seychelles are<br />

from 2013. Where figures show that domestic violence in the home grew<br />

considerably from 472 cases in 2010, 589 in 2011, 670 in 2012 to 617 cases<br />

in 2013. Bearing in mind these are cases that are reported – more often<br />

than not, domestic violence is tolerated in the home for years and years,<br />

before it is (if ever) reported. Also to note, is that these cases all included<br />

physical harm – domestic abuse may include emotional or psychological<br />

damage, but domestic violence indicates that the victim was physically<br />

harmed.<br />

FOR YOU<br />

How to recognise abuse<br />

Domestic abuse often starts out as verbal and emotional abuse;<br />

arguments start, name-calling and blaming is thrown in, foul language<br />

and threats may arise. This tends to escalate over weeks, months and<br />

years. While physically, bodily violence seems the most dangerous, it’s<br />

generally the emotional and psychological element that causes the most<br />

damage over time. Emotionally abusive relationships lower your selfworth,<br />

lead to anxiety and depression, and make you feel helpless and<br />

alone. Domestic abuse knows no bounds – it affects women, men and<br />

children, whether in a partnership or married, no matter race or religion –<br />

and it is extremely damaging to all involved.<br />

Signs of an abusive relationship<br />

Knowing how to identify the signs of an abusive relationship is the first<br />

step in getting help, and removing yourself from this toxic situation.<br />

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The arrival of their son, Myles, did not change Mark’s anger with the<br />

world. While she can’t confirm whether Myles ever witnessed a physical<br />

incident she knows he heard them. In fact, his reaction to a particular fight<br />

was the moment she decided she had to leave Mark. Myles stood in the<br />

corridor outside their bedroom in the middle of an intense verbal fight<br />

and shouted, ’stop making me pee in my pants’. Cecile there and then<br />

realised that she had not managed to keep her marital problems separate<br />

from her child. At four, he was already consumed with fear. This was day<br />

one in the countdown to her divorce.<br />

The process would take two years. Cecile explained that she has never<br />

been a person who made rushed decisions. To leave Mark she had to<br />

be independent. They shared a home, a car and he was privy to all her<br />

financials. She had to change all that. During those two years, life went<br />

on and the abuse went on. At times she felt hopeful that things could<br />

change. Afterall, she had a home, an extended family and a status. Was<br />

it worth giving all this up? And there was another important factor<br />

to consider as well; shame. How would her family react? What would<br />

everyone think? Aside from a bloody nose once, her bruises had always<br />

been hidden from the world. No one knew of her torment.<br />

Turning 30 was a turning point in her life. In January that year she laid<br />

the cards on the table to Mark – no more cheating and no more hitting.<br />

He agreed and kept his promise for just over a month. An incident where<br />

she stayed at an event for one hour longer than she had promised<br />

resulted in an assault while she slept and a broken arm when she reacted.<br />

The morning after that incident, Cecile walked out.<br />

It’s been over a decade now since that day. For the most part Cecile feels<br />

that she has moved on. She can talk about it without crying and is able<br />

to analyse the entire 14 years with Mark from both perspectives. Mark’s<br />

mother had been openly unfaithful to his father causing him to have a<br />

low opinion of women in general. According to her, a man who ‘hates’ his<br />

mother or sister has issues which need to be addressed. Also, she reckons<br />

that Mark could never truly accept the woman she grew into over the<br />

years. At 16, she was a child and as she matured she changed and he lost<br />

his control over her. Academically, she was also a step ahead of him. She<br />

never thought that would have anything to do with anything, but she<br />

does recall conversations with polytechnic friends many years ago where<br />

they expressed concerns over their compatibility. The fact that she was<br />

accepted into the school she wanted and he didn’t most likely did not sit<br />

well with him.<br />

On the other hand, parts of the abuse puzzle have stayed with her. It’s<br />

taken her years to trust her current partner. Years into their relationship<br />

she still has trouble believing he would never hit her or threaten to leave<br />

her. It is a work in progress and it always will be.<br />

According to helpguide.org, an international site for information and<br />

help with mental and emotional health, the most telling sign is fear of<br />

your partner. “If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your<br />

partner—constantly watching what you say and do in order to avoid<br />

a blow-up—chances are your relationship is unhealthy and abusive.<br />

Other signs that you may be in an abusive relationship include a partner<br />

who belittles you or tries to control you, and feelings of self-loathing,<br />

helplessness, and desperation.”<br />

SIGNS THAT YOU’RE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP<br />

Your Inner Thoughts and Feelings<br />

Do you:<br />

Feel afraid of your partner much<br />

of the time?<br />

Avoid certain topics out of fear of<br />

angering your partner?<br />

Feel that you can’t do anything<br />

right for your partner?<br />

Believe that you deserve to be<br />

hurt or mistreated?<br />

Wonder if you’re the one who is<br />

crazy?<br />

Feel emotionally numb or<br />

helpless?<br />

Your Partner’s Violent Behaviour<br />

or Threats<br />

Does your partner:<br />

Have a bad and unpredictable<br />

temper?<br />

Hurt you, or threaten to hurt or<br />

kill you?<br />

Threaten to take your children<br />

away or harm them?<br />

Threaten to commit suicide if you<br />

leave?<br />

Force you to have sex?<br />

Destroy your belongings?<br />

Your Partner’s Belittling Behavior<br />

Does your partner:<br />

Humiliate or yell at you?<br />

Criticize you and put you down?<br />

Treat you so badly that you’re<br />

embarrassed for your friends or<br />

family to see?<br />

Ignore or put down your opinions<br />

or accomplishments?<br />

Blame you for their own abusive<br />

behavior?<br />

See you as property or a sex<br />

object, rather than as a person?<br />

Your Partner’s Controlling<br />

Behaviour<br />

Does your partner:<br />

Act excessively jealous and<br />

possessive?<br />

Control where you go or what<br />

you do?<br />

Keep you from seeing your friends<br />

or family?<br />

Limit your access to money, the<br />

phone, or the car?<br />

Limit who you see and where you<br />

go?<br />

Constantly check up on you?<br />

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is abusive. The more “yes” answers, the more likely it is that you’re in an<br />

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FOR FRIENDS & FAMILY<br />

Recognising the warning signs of domestic violence and abuse<br />

It’s impossible to know with certainty what goes on behind closed doors,<br />

but there are some telltale signs and symptoms of emotional abuse and<br />

domestic violence. If you witness any warning signs of abuse in a friend,<br />

family member, or co-worker, take them very seriously.<br />

General warning signs of domestic abuse<br />

People who are being abused may:<br />

• Seem afraid or anxious to please their partner<br />

• Go along with everything their partner says and does<br />

• Check in often with their partner to report where they are and what<br />

they’re doing<br />

• Receive frequent, harassing phone calls from their partner<br />

• Talk about their partner’s temper, jealousy, or possessiveness<br />

Warning signs of physical violence<br />

People who are being physically abused may:<br />

• Have frequent injuries, with the excuse of “accidents”<br />

• Frequently miss work, school, or social occasions, without<br />

explanation<br />

• Dress in clothing designed to hide bruises or scars (e.g. wearing long<br />

sleeves in the summer or sunglasses indoors)<br />

Warning signs of isolation<br />

People who are being isolated by their abuser may:<br />

• Be restricted from seeing family and friends<br />

• Rarely go out in public without their partner<br />

• Have limited access to money, credit cards, or the car<br />

The psychological warning signs of abuse<br />

People who are being abused may:<br />

• Have very low self-esteem, even if they used to be confident<br />

• Show major personality changes (e.g. an outgoing person becomes<br />

withdrawn)<br />

• Be depressed, anxious, or suicidal<br />

GETTING OUT AND GETTING HELP<br />

Whether or not you’re ready to leave your abuser, there are things you can<br />

do to protect yourself. These safety tips can make the difference between<br />

being severely injured or killed and escaping with your life.<br />

PREPARE FOR EMERGENCIES:<br />

Know your abuser’s red flags.<br />

Be on alert for signs and clues that your abuser is getting upset and may<br />

IT IS STILL ABUSE IF...<br />

• The incidents of physical abuse seem minor when compared to<br />

those you have read about, seen on television or heard other<br />

women talk about. There isn’t a “better” or “worse” form of<br />

physical abuse; you can be severely injured as a result of being<br />

pushed, for example.<br />

• The incidents of physical abuse have only occurred one or two<br />

times in the relationship. Studies indicate that if your spouse<br />

or partner has injured you once, it is likely he will continue to<br />

physically assault you.<br />

• The physical assaults stopped when you became passive and<br />

gave up your right to express yourself as you desire, to move<br />

about freely and see others, and to make decisions. It is not a<br />

victory if you have to give up your rights as a person and a<br />

partner in exchange for not being assaulted!<br />

• There has not been any physical violence. Many women are<br />

emotionally and verbally assaulted. This can be as equally<br />

frightening and is often more confusing to try to understand.<br />

Source: Breaking the Silence Handbook<br />

explode in anger or violence. Come up with several believable reasons<br />

you can use to leave the house (both during the day and at night) if you<br />

sense trouble brewing.<br />

Identify safe areas of the house.<br />

Know where to go if your abuser attacks or an argument starts. Avoid<br />

small, enclosed spaces without exits (such as closets or bathrooms) or<br />

rooms with weapons (such as the kitchen). If possible, head for a room<br />

with a phone and an outside door or window.<br />

Come up with a code word.<br />

Establish a word, phrase, or signal you can use to let your children, friends,<br />

neighbours, or co-workers know that you’re in danger and the police<br />

should be called.<br />

Make an escape plan<br />

Be ready to leave at a moment’s notice. Keep the car fueled up and<br />

facing the driveway exit, with the driver’s door unlocked. Hide a spare<br />

car key where you can get it quickly. Have emergency cash, clothing, and<br />

important phone numbers and documents stashed in a safe place (at a<br />

friend’s house, for example).<br />

Practice escaping quickly and safely.<br />

Rehearse your escape plan so you know exactly what to do if under attack<br />

from your abuser. If you have children, have them practice the escape plan<br />

also.<br />

Make and memorise a list of emergency contacts.<br />

Ask several trusted individuals if you can contact them if you need a ride, a<br />

place to stay, or help contacting the police. Memorise the numbers of your<br />

family, emergency contacts and a domestic violence hotline.<br />

EMERGENCY CONTACTS AND INFORMATION<br />

Emergency: 999<br />

Hotline: 133<br />

Central Police Station: 428 80 00<br />

HOSPITAL<br />

Emergency: 151
<br />

Seychelles Hospital: 438 80 00
<br />

Praslin Hospital: 423 23 33
<br />

La Digue Logan Hospital: 423 42 55<br />

Alliance of Solidarity for the Family (ASFF)<br />

Call: +248 432 3211; 252 5711; 250 1247
<br />

E-mail: asff@seychelles.net<br />

http://www.civilsociety.sc/<br />

Seychelles National Council for Children (NCC)<br />

NCC OR SOCIAL SERVICES HELPLINE: 422 4390<br />

Email: ncc@seychelles.sc<br />

The names have been changed to protect the family’s privacy.<br />

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SEYCHELLOIS OVERSEAS<br />

Former Beauty Queen on a Divine Mission<br />

The moment the Jane Stravens changed her birth year on an application form so that she<br />

would be old enough to participate in the Miss Seychelles 1972 contest, she had no idea<br />

of By what Jane was to Edna come. Stravens<br />

Not only she would win that crown but also make it to the top 10<br />

finalists in the Miss World contest in London later on that same year. The decision was not<br />

even one that had been thought through adequately. She had simply wanted to try her<br />

luck in the national pageant and when being 16 was the only deterrent standing in her<br />

way, she changed a number. Looking back, she realises that it also changed her life.<br />

Jane was born in Seychelles to Joachim and Marie Stravens in 1956. As is common with<br />

many families where the head was part of the police force, they move around the island<br />

quite a bit. As a child, this provided a wonderful real-life ‘Alice in Wonderland’ scenario for<br />

Jane who in turn got to learn about different places and beaches. They must have made<br />

quite an impression on her since many of these locations are featured in the books she<br />

wrote as an adult such as “Shirley and Her Friends the Dolphins - Listen To The Silence”<br />

where the main character, Shirley, is from a small village called Quatre Borne in the district<br />

of Takamaka.<br />

Following her crowning as Miss Seychelles in 1972, which made her a household name on<br />

the islands, Jane went on to spend six extraordinary weeks in London as part of the Miss<br />

World contest. This of course happened after Eric Morley had been informed that a 16<br />

year old had won the crown and still gave the approval for her to participate. Jane would<br />

end up making history for Seychelles as far as Miss World goes; to date she is the only<br />

Seychellois who has made it to the top 10 finalists. Turning down a modeling contract<br />

after the pageant, Jane returned to Seychelles and started a career in the travelling<br />

business. She’d had already had a taste of it and she wasn’t about to lose it. Working with<br />

the Travel Services Seychelles gave way to travelling opportunities which Jane longed for.<br />

It was in the 1980’s that she finally succumbed to the inner voice that kept telling her that<br />

beyond Seychelles’ shores something new and exciting<br />

was waiting for her.<br />

The place was Italy. For the longest time Jane had felt a<br />

fascination with this country which has been the starting<br />

point of phenomena of international impact such as<br />

the Roman Empire, the Roman Catholic Church, the<br />

Renaissance and the Risorgimento. Indeed, the cultural<br />

element of a life in Italy is one of the boxes that had to be<br />

ticked for the move to take place.<br />

“There’s one recurring<br />

element in most of<br />

Jane’s endeavors<br />

and pursuits and that<br />

is her interest in the<br />

divine powers.”<br />

Italy did not disappoint Jane; in fact it provided ample<br />

playground for her to explore multiple interests and<br />

talents. Forward the clock and we have a Degree in<br />

Theology, three years spent at the Brera Fine Arts<br />

Academy; one of the most important art education<br />

institutions in Italy, six published books and four more<br />

waiting to be published. There’s one recurring element<br />

in most of Jane’s endeavors and pursuits and that is<br />

her interest in the divine powers, or simply put, God.<br />

“God is everything to me,” Jane confides. She recalls<br />

how when she was growing up, practicing religion was<br />

never a discussion in her home, it simply was. Church<br />

was attended every Sunday and every night her mother<br />

would gather the family together to pray. Following a<br />

particular difficult time in Italy she decided to deepen<br />

her knowledge in religion as part of building a stronger<br />

relationship with God. As she puts it, “before there was a<br />

flame and now it’s a full blown fire”. Not one to keep any<br />

acquired knowledge to herself, Jane also makes time to<br />

teach children catechism and also the arts.<br />

A desire to share her love for God coupled with childhood<br />

memories that continued to infiltrate her thoughts, her<br />

first book came to life; How to Be Useful to Humanity -<br />

The Birth of Silk. “I have always had something to say,”<br />

Jane says. Jane also states that it is a wonderful thing<br />

to encourage children to cultivate their passions from<br />

an early age. Jane also takes credit for the colourful<br />

illustrations in her books. Her interest in developing her<br />

artistic side has not seen its final light since she expresses<br />

further interest in learning more.<br />

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On her mind right now is the EXPO (research on food and energy)<br />

which will be in Milan this year, from the 1st of May to the 31st of<br />

October. Jane is organising the 2nd edition of the “Children’s Painting<br />

World Competition and Exhibition, entitled “Praising the Lord<br />

Together”, in order to give praise and<br />

thanks to God for all that he has given<br />

us to enjoy for our health and beauty.<br />

This initiative has been blessed by<br />

Pope Benedict 16° more than two<br />

years ago. Jane extends the invitation<br />

to participate to the children of<br />

Seychelles; find out more by going to<br />

Jane’s website: www.janestravens.com<br />

Jane’s to-do list seems to be a neverending<br />

shrinking one. Her thirst for<br />

knowledge, her love of life along with<br />

her devotion to God keeps her going<br />

on to the next thing and the next…<br />

Jane’s books are available on<br />

Amazon, Barnes & Nobles (US)<br />

and also from her website www.<br />

janestravens.com<br />

Jane as Miss Seychelles<br />

SEYCHELLOIS OVERSEAS<br />

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Good, honest fun, along<br />

with lethal cocktails, guitars<br />

and crayfish have Brigitte<br />

Monchouguy in high spirits<br />

Alas many were under size and some were breeders so we did<br />

the responsible thing and released them back into the ocean. We<br />

gathered the remaining three lobsters and put on our snorkelling<br />

gear to dive for Roe’s abalone, prying them off the surrounding<br />

rocks and straight into our mesh bags.<br />

Word around town was<br />

that our friend, Crispin,<br />

was holding a bona<br />

fide Aussie bush party<br />

to celebrate his 40th birthday. My<br />

boyfriend, J and I decided to head<br />

down south to check it out. We made<br />

the three-hour journey from Perth<br />

straight after work, stopping only for a petrol refill and chiko roll to snack on. Let it be said<br />

that rural West Australian service stations are far from a culinary mecca.<br />

renée martin designs<br />

We arrived in Margaret River in total darkness and had to pitch our tent in the dead of<br />

night, thankfully aided by head torches and my partner’s impressive camping skills. We<br />

woke up the next morning under the blazing sun and drove straight to Redgate Beach<br />

for a reviving dip, then took advantage of the low tide to bait our licensed crayfish pots<br />

before cooking a breakfast of bacon and eggs on the barbie.<br />

While the crayfish pots worked their magic we decided to visit Gunyulgup Galleries,<br />

discovering some beautiful locally made glass sculptures and landscape paintings.<br />

Then we headed to Crispin’s own little piece of heaven along the river, where he and<br />

his wife have just completed building their three bedroom log cabin, set in untouched<br />

bushland. A suckling pig was already roasting on a spit and we set about making Crispin’s<br />

grandmother’s famous tea punch, a recipe which has been passed down from generation<br />

to generation and is surprisingly lethal once laced with the requisite gin, rum or brandy!<br />

Guitars and drums were brought out and we had a group sing-a-long underneath the<br />

stars late into the night. It was good, honest fun.<br />

The next day J and I went for our morning swim and checked on the crayfish pots. We<br />

were elated to discover a total of 22 crayfish (Western Rock Lobsters) in our two pots.<br />

Back at J’s brother’s house we prepared a feast of lobster and<br />

abalone cooked two ways – one in a parsley, butter and white<br />

wine sauce and the other with garlic and chili. Serving it with<br />

a fresh grapefruit and almond salad, crusty Yallingup Bakery<br />

woodfired sourdough bread and homemade lemonade, we<br />

enjoyed a veritable feast from sea to table in less than two hours.<br />

Delicious! Until next time, if you can’t be good, be good at it.<br />

Mrs Underwood’s Tea Punch<br />

A. Brew 2 tbsp black tea in 3 cups of boiling water. Let stand for 5<br />

minutes then strain.<br />

B. Dissolve ½ cup sugar in 2 cups of boiling water. Add a handful<br />

of fresh mint and infuse for 5 minutes. Strain and while still<br />

hot, stir in ¼ cup of red currant jelly. Combine A and B. Let<br />

stand until cool.<br />

C. Mix 2 cups of orange juice, 2 cups of pineapple juice and the<br />

juice of 6 lemons. Combine C with A and B. Store in jugs or<br />

bottles in the fridge until needed.<br />

When ready to serve the punch combine 1/3 of the ABC<br />

mixture with 2/3 cold ginger beer, lemonade or soda.<br />

Spike with gin, rum or brandy and serve over ice in tea cups<br />

with a fresh mint leaf as garnish.<br />

Brigitte Monchouguy is a Seychellois legal<br />

practitioner with a passion for social journalism. She<br />

is happiest when travelling, with interests in music,<br />

art, theatre and architecture. She also dabbles in<br />

mixology and will be sharing cocktail recipes along<br />

with her monthly escapades.<br />

23 MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI


| From London to Mahé |<br />

The difference between men and women<br />

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus? Despite not liking gender labels, Daniel Balkwill tends to agree<br />

Gender stereotypes are hateful things.<br />

Casually labelling 50% of the world’s<br />

population with exactly the same<br />

attributes is just plain ignorant.<br />

Personally, I can’t bear it when a lady rolls<br />

her eyes and says “Huh, typical man”. I’m<br />

sure ladies find their hackles rising when a<br />

so-called gentleman suggests that all women<br />

talk too much, spend an excessive amount<br />

of time in the bathroom and can’t throw<br />

“CLICHÉS AND<br />

STEREOTYPES ONLY<br />

EXIST BECAUSE THEY<br />

ARE ESSENTIALLY<br />

MIRED IN TRUTH<br />

BUT THAT DOESN’T<br />

MEAN THAT THEY<br />

APPLY ACROSS THE<br />

BOARD.”<br />

things properly just as we take umbrage<br />

at being accused of being emotionally<br />

stunted, thinking exclusively with our nether<br />

regions and possessing an innate inability<br />

to multitask. It is perhaps the last of these<br />

alleged typical male traits that annoys me the<br />

most but I shall revisit that point later.<br />

Clichés and stereotypes only exist because<br />

they are essentially mired in truth but that<br />

doesn’t mean that they apply across the<br />

board. Come to think of it, I don’t actually<br />

know of any particular woman who talks<br />

sparingly, spends an acceptable amount of<br />

time whilst getting ready in the morning<br />

and has a devilish throwing arm but I am<br />

convinced such individuals are to be found.<br />

Similarly, I’ve not met any men who can<br />

emote freely, rarely obsess over the fairer sex<br />

and have the ability to rustle up a Cordon<br />

Bleu meal whilst juggling a set of flaming<br />

skittles but there must surely be such folk in<br />

existence too.<br />

Not long ago I reached the end of my<br />

working day. Nothing of much note had<br />

happened. Such is the fickle world of retail.<br />

Undeterred by the paucity of the day’s<br />

successes, I set off for home, striding along<br />

the Providence highway with my usual<br />

combination of pace and purpose. As a wise<br />

man once said, the sooner you get home, the<br />

sooner you get to chill out and play with the<br />

dog.<br />

Upon my return, there was clearly a situation<br />

of domestic upheaval. The car’s battery<br />

was flat and there was an imminent storm<br />

threatening. We all had to help push the<br />

stricken vehicle into the garage before the<br />

full might of the tropical elements was<br />

unleashed. Despite the rigours of a day at<br />

work followed by a three mile hike I threw<br />

myself into the task with gusto. Although<br />

there was some initial resistance, the car<br />

began to inch slowly towards its intended<br />

shelter.<br />

It was at this point that things began to go<br />

awry. Ossie the dog had been observing<br />

this curious activity and decided to get<br />

involved. Normally he views me as his<br />

faithful companion and playmate but on<br />

this occasion something had clearly shortcircuited<br />

in his mind. As I was pushing the car<br />

with both arms fully extended and unable to<br />

protect myself I suddenly felt him jump on<br />

my back.<br />

Dan works for Kreol Wines - a wine shop located<br />

at Eden Plaza on Eden Island, specialising in<br />

Argentinian, Australian, French and South<br />

African products.<br />

Opening hours: Monday - Friday, 9am - 6.30pm;<br />

Saturday, 10am - 6pm; Sunday, 10am - 4pm<br />

It was then, in the midst of my canine<br />

torment, that I experienced an unexpected<br />

moment of clarity. I was shoving a heavy<br />

car with all my might, desperately fending<br />

off the unwanted advances of an amorous,<br />

temporarily sexually confused 45 kilogram<br />

dog with my left leg and breathing all at the<br />

same time. Perhaps men can multitask after<br />

all.<br />

H<br />

MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI 24


Life, love and everything in between<br />

In an interview with George Negus in 1979, Bob Marley clearly stated what richness<br />

meant to him.<br />

Interviewer:<br />

Bob Marley:<br />

Interviewer:<br />

Bob Marley:<br />

Interviewer:<br />

Bob Marley:<br />

Have you made a lot of money out of your music?<br />

Money? How much is a lot of money to you?<br />

Yes, that’s a good question. Have you made, say, millions of dollars? Are<br />

you a rich man?<br />

When you say rich, what do you mean?<br />

Do you have lots of possessions? Lots of money in the bank?<br />

Possessions make you rich? I don’t have that kind of richness, my<br />

richness is life... forever.<br />

His answer was so simple, yet so profound and thought provoking. It made me<br />

reevaluate things too, and ask myself: what is richness? What makes someone rich? Is it<br />

their flashy car and their nice house? Or is it that their family is happy and healthy and<br />

loved, with a roof over their heads and food in their stomachs?<br />

Discovering the<br />

richness of Life<br />

The true meaning of wealth has nothing<br />

to do with money, says Alexandria Faure<br />

In this one interview Bob Marley encapsulates something meaningful and true; that<br />

richness is life.<br />

We spend so much time in our lives chasing after materialistic things and accumulating<br />

wealth; we think possessions and status make us successful, ignorantly unaware that<br />

the richness of life exists in nature, in our loved ones and in ourselves. We may all have<br />

different perspectives on life and varying opinions but this is definitely something worth<br />

pondering (and something we can all agree on…?).<br />

Alexandria Faure is a freelance writer with a degree in Drama & Theatre Arts and hopes to pursue a masters in the near future. She is passionate about preserving the unique<br />

Kreol culture and heritage of Seychelles, and her hobby is researching different cultural aspects of Seychelles and the historical stories behind them. She hopes to share ideas and<br />

thoughts drawn from her life experiences in her articles.<br />

EATING WELL WITHIN YOUR BUDGET<br />

Tips and tricks to make your food go further with Celia Ponzo<br />

HEALTHY CHOICES<br />

As soon as we hear the term ‘healthy eating’, we immediately feel our<br />

wallets draining. We tend to think that eating healthier foods is going to<br />

be a burden on our grocery bill and that only wealthy people can afford to<br />

eat well. Moreover, there is a common belief that eating healthily costs too<br />

much money to be sustainable.<br />

But that’s where we’re wrong. It is possible to eat healthily, without<br />

blowing our budgets. The cost of food, and especially fruits and<br />

vegetables, in the Seychelles is high, but here are some tips that can help<br />

you stick to eating well without breaking the bank…<br />

TRACK YOUR SPENDING<br />

Set aside a specific amount of money you’re willing to spend on food<br />

for the week. Withdraw that amount and store it in an envelope. Once<br />

the money is gone from that envelope your spending for the week on<br />

groceries is done and now all there is left for you to do is be creative with<br />

what you already have in your kitchen. You will be surprised; there are so<br />

many delicious things that can be made from your kitchen pantry. Make<br />

sure you include a big selection of fruit and vegetables in your weekly<br />

purchases. Create a budget for your food per week and write down every<br />

cent you are spending on food initially, to help you understand where you<br />

are spending the most. Ensure that your budget is reasonable in terms of<br />

your income and basic needs.<br />

MIX AND MATCH WHAT IS LEFT IN YOUR KITCHEN<br />

Use up what is left in your kitchen cupboard. Many times we still have<br />

food in our cupboards or fridge that we have not eaten or not even<br />

opened, yet we go shopping. Come up with something inventive to make<br />

with what you have; it may take a little more creativity but at least it will<br />

save having to go shopping. And at the same time ensures everything you<br />

buy is not wasted.<br />

SHOP LOCALLY AND EAT LOCALLY<br />

Explore the market and the local stands along the road or even ask your<br />

neighbour what she has in her back garden. We all know that the cost<br />

of vegetables and fruits at the market can be expensive but why not go<br />

back in time, to when people used to share and swap the produce from<br />

their gardens? Nowadays we pass by homes where fruits are rotting on<br />

the floor never to be eaten. Things like breadfruit, which is full of nutrients<br />

and fibre-rich carbohydrates, yet this miracle food is seen as a ‘poor food’,<br />

which our grandparents used to eat. Yet our grandparents were healthier<br />

and less likely to die of any cardiovascular diseases, as they were not<br />

exposed to so much imported junk food full of salt, sugar and fat. So<br />

follow their example!<br />

ENJOY YOUR LEFT OVERS<br />

Never throw food away, rather store it properly in clean, airtight<br />

containers in the fridge, or sealed in the cupboard. Then quickly and<br />

easily transform the previous night’s dinner into a healthy lunch. This will<br />

save you a trip to the take-away van at lunchtime – it will save you money<br />

as well as ensure you’re not eating excess salt, sugar and fats.<br />

PLAN YOUR MEALS<br />

Planning your weekly menu is vital to keeping healthy. By thinking<br />

ahead about what you are going to cook for each meal you are more<br />

likely to stick to only the ingredients you need, and not spend money on<br />

unnecessary items and impulse buys. It is important to take stock of what<br />

you already have on hand so you’re only buying exactly what you need.<br />

CUT THE JUNK FROM YOUR BILL<br />

This is my last point and probably the most powerful one. Make a list of<br />

all the junk food you are buying. Whether it is the two samoosas at your<br />

tea break or the packets of biscuits, crisps and chocolate in your trolley.<br />

You will be surprised how much you spend on these types of foods and<br />

because these are seen as ‘necessities’ you have never questioned their<br />

cost. Now cut those out at your next grocery shop and see how much<br />

money you have saved. Then use that saved money to buy extra fruit and<br />

vegetables. You will be pleasantly surprised.<br />

Célia is passionate to inspire happier and healthier lives<br />

by sharing holistic tips to her public. Her background is in<br />

medical anthropology and public health. She is currently<br />

working in the nutrition unit at the ministry of health.<br />

25 MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI


Le combat pour le droit des femmes<br />

Il y a tout juste 40 ans en France, le 17 janvier 1975, la loi Veil<br />

légalisant l’interruption volontaire de grossesse était promulguée.<br />

Jusque-là, avorter pour une raison non médicale était un délit<br />

passible de prison. Ce combat pour le droit à l’avortement a<br />

été celui d’une femme, Simone Veil, ministre de la santé sous le<br />

gouvernement de Valéry Giscard d’Estaing. Elle était soutenue à<br />

l’époque par les personnalités françaises telles que la philosophe<br />

Simone de Beauvoir, l’écrivain Françoise Sagan, l’avocate Gisèle<br />

Halimi, les actrices Jeanne Moreau et Catherine Deneuve et d’autres<br />

signataires du manifeste « des 343 salopes », ainsi que l’avait<br />

surnommé le journal Charlie Hebdo.<br />

Le droit à l’avortement, et par là-même, le droit de disposer de son<br />

corps est un acquis de la révolution féministe qui a considérablement<br />

contribué à libérer les femmes dans les sociétés démocratiques.<br />

Cette révolution féministe est un long combat qui a traversé les<br />

siècles : elle prend ses racines dans le Siècle des Lumières et émerge<br />

lors de la Révolution française : de nombreuses femmes marchent<br />

sur Versailles pour ramener Louis XVI à Paris, participent à la prise<br />

de la Bastille et Olympes de Gouges rédige La Déclaration des droits<br />

de la femme et de la citoyenne en 1791. La première vague de cette<br />

révolution, de la fin du XIXème siècle à 1945 s’attache aux réformes<br />

institutionnelles (droit à l’éducation, au travail, au divorce, droit de<br />

vote, droit à la maîtrise de leurs biens) : la juridiction des femmes<br />

évolue et peu à peu elles ne sont plus des éternelles mineures qui<br />

dépendent de leur époux, de leur père ou encore de leur frère.<br />

A la fin des années 1960, la deuxième vague féministe dénonce la<br />

domination masculine dans la sphère privée et s’attache à libérer<br />

le corps des femmes de cette domination. Cette période charnière,<br />

qui s’accompagne d’une forte féminisation du travail, a contribué à<br />

bousculer les mentalités et a conduit aujourd’hui les femmes à la tête<br />

du pouvoir dans divers secteurs. Pourtant, et en dépit des progrès<br />

indéniables, le combat féministe connaît des écueils : la révolution<br />

féministe dans son expression radicale a exclu la masculinité et force<br />

est de constater que le sexisme, le machisme et les inégalités entre<br />

les hommes et les femmes ont la peau dure, notamment en terme<br />

d’écart de salaires, qui constitue un « plafond de verre ». Dans les<br />

banlieues, le quotidien des femmes n’est guère à envier, entre les<br />

humiliations, les viols (les « tournantes »), les excisions et les mariages<br />

forcés, ainsi que le rappelle le combat de l’association « Ni putes ni<br />

soumises », fondée en 2003 par Fadela Amara, ancienne Secrétaire<br />

d’Etat chargée de la Politique de la Ville sous le gouvernement de<br />

Nicolas Sarkozy.<br />

A l’heure où nous célébrons la Journée Internationale de la Femme,<br />

le combat pour le droit des femmes prend tout son sens dans les<br />

pays du Sud. L’actualité déferle chaque jour de mauvaises nouvelles :<br />

faibles taux de scolarisation des petites filles, violences conjugales et<br />

viols collectifs de nombreuses femmes. L’ONU, mais aussi des ONG<br />

et des associations se mobilisent sur place, comme l’association<br />

« Toutes à l’école », fondée par la rédactrice en chef du journal Marie-<br />

Claire, Tina Kieffer, qui aide à la scolarisation des petites filles au<br />

Cambodge. L’attribution du prix Nobel de la paix à Malala Yousafzai,<br />

rescapée d’un attentat lié à son combat pour le droit à l’éducation,<br />

rappelle que le respect des droits des femmes passe avant tout<br />

par l’éducation. Des voix se font de plus en plus entendre : en Inde,<br />

et précisément à New Delhi, l’affaire du viol collectif d’une jeune<br />

étudiante décédée des suites de ses blessures a eu un retentissement<br />

international mais aussi national. Pour la première fois, les Indiens,<br />

sexes confondus, de la classe moyenne surtout, se sont mobilisés<br />

et ont manifesté contre les violences faites aux femmes dans leur<br />

pays. Ce changement de l’état d’esprit d’une société entière ne peut<br />

se faire que sur un temps long, d’où l’importance du travail des<br />

institutions qui oeuvrent pour la condition des femmes.<br />

Passionnée de littérature et de cinéma, Marie Welsch<br />

est responsable culturelle à l’Alliance française des<br />

Seychelles depuis maintenant un an. Originaire de la<br />

Réunion et ayant mené des études de lettres modernes et<br />

de sciences politiques à Aix-en Provence, elle s’intéresse à<br />

l’indianité et à l’identité créole des îles de l’Océan Indien<br />

et espère plus tard en faire l’objet d’une thèse.<br />

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AllianceFrançaise de Victoria<br />

Toutes les informations sur les évènements culturels à l’Alliance<br />

sur notre site internet www.allianceseychelles.org<br />

MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI 26


Je suis toujours Charlie !(par Georges Gravé)<br />

Pour être honnêtes avec vous, comme<br />

beaucoup d’entre nous j’ai été atterré, assommé,<br />

désemparé, triste comme jamais, bouleversé<br />

durant cette fameuse journée et les jours qui ont<br />

suivi ces attentats parisiens. Actes odieux qui<br />

resteront marqués dans la mémoire collective.<br />

Je suis resté toute la journée anéanti devant<br />

mon poste de télévision ne pouvant rien faire<br />

d’autre !!! Pourtant à mon âge, ce n’était quand<br />

même pas la première fois que de tels actes<br />

avaient lieu. J’étais même en Allemagne dans<br />

les années 1975 quand la « bande à badeer »<br />

semait la terreur dans la population. Alors<br />

pourquoi tant d’émotions ?? Bien sur, nous<br />

connaissions ces dessinateurs qui depuis<br />

plusieurs décennies accompagnaient notre<br />

quotidien, mais en fait en les tuant<br />

sauvagement, ces barbares ont touché quelquechose<br />

de fondamental pour le peuple Français :<br />

notre liberté. Et notre liberté de penser, de<br />

parler, en France c’est sacré. C’est notre moyen<br />

d’exister, c’est fondamental a notre vie et a notre<br />

survie. Les manifestations monstres qui ont suivi<br />

en sont une preuve éclatante. Et j’oserais dire<br />

« merci » à ces pauvres gens à la dérive, car au<br />

lieu de museler la parole, c’est le contraire qui<br />

a eu lieu. 7 millions d’exemplaires de Charlie<br />

vendus. Personne au grand jamais n’aurait pu<br />

imaginer cela quelques semaines auparavant.<br />

Et au delà de Charlie Hebdo, ses copains refont<br />

surface : notre canard enchaîné national, fluide<br />

glacial, Hara-kiri, des titres presque inconnus du<br />

grand public.<br />

En France, nous avons la culture de l’Humour<br />

et de la caricature. Cela fait vraiment parti<br />

de notre patrimoine. Déjà sous le règne de<br />

Louis 14, ce dernier embauchait des fous du<br />

roi qui avaient pour mission de se moquer<br />

« gentiment » du monarque et de le faire rire. En<br />

fait c’est peut être Louis 14 qui a inventé Charlie<br />

Hebdo. Que dire de nos chansonniers un peu<br />

passé de mode aujourd’hui mais qui avaient<br />

le don d’appuyer sur les boutons de pue des<br />

nantis et des politiques. Fernand Raynaud qui<br />

déjà dans les années 1960 nous faisait rire avec<br />

ces étrangers qui venaient manger le pain des<br />

français. Alors, ils l’avaient viré ce sal étranger<br />

du village… pas de bol, il était boulanger.<br />

Comment ne pas rendre hommage au grand<br />

Thierry Le Luron, a son ami Coluche, aux<br />

brillants Desproges et Bedos. Et bien sur plus<br />

près de nous toute l’équipe des Guignols. Merci<br />

a vous tous pour oser dire tout haut ce que<br />

tout le monde pense tout bas. C’est aussi ça la<br />

démocratie ! Nous avons besoin de vous. Alors<br />

ce n’est pas trois paumés avec leur kalachnikov,<br />

même s‘ils réussissent à tuer 17 personnes qui<br />

vont faire plier un pays de liberté ou la parole<br />

est reine.<br />

Et je dois avouer que j’étais satisfait lorsque<br />

presque en direct nous avons suivi la fin des<br />

prises d’otages. Satisfaits de les savoir morts ces<br />

soi-disant martyrs. Au moins, ils ne couteront<br />

plus d’argent à la société. Et je souriais en<br />

pensant à ces trois illuminés, sourire aux lèvres<br />

débarquant devant leur Dieu. Bonjour Allah,<br />

c’est nous les martyrs de Paris. Et Dieu leur<br />

répondant la larme a l’œil, comme la couve<br />

de Charlie Hebdo….. Pauvres imbéciles, je<br />

vous pardonne, car vous avez été tellement<br />

manipulés mais jamais au grand jamais, un dieu<br />

a demandé a ces fidèles de tuer en son nom. Je<br />

ne suis qu’amour !!! J’espère pour eux que dans<br />

leur religion, ils croient a la réincarnation, sinon<br />

ils sont bien dans le pétrin !<br />

Et puis ce fut le ras de marrée, un peu comme<br />

a la libération de Paris. Dans chaque ville, dans<br />

chaque village les gens sont sortis dans la<br />

rue. Du jamais vu, des millions de personnes<br />

ensemble, juste pour être ensemble. Des<br />

millions de personnes de toutes races, de toutes<br />

origines, des noirs, des juifs, des arabes, des<br />

blancs, l’arc en ciel de la race humaine. Oublié<br />

nos différences, nos prises de becs, nos partis<br />

politique… d’ailleurs nos politique, eux aussi,<br />

étaient tous présents et même si cela en a<br />

agacer plus d’un (moi le premier) de voir tous<br />

ces marchands d’armes, voir même quelques<br />

dictateurs défiler au premier rang de la manif,<br />

pas de problème, eux aussi avaient le droit de<br />

saisir ce moment de rédemption. Car c’est bien<br />

de cela qu’il s’agissait. Un véritable moment de<br />

grâce, d’union et de fraternité. Cette Manif a<br />

soigné nos âmes, pansé nos plaies, atténuer<br />

notre chagrin. Cette manif par sa puissante<br />

énergie nous a permis de nous retrouver et de<br />

regarder demain avec espoir et confiance. Des<br />

millions de personnes dehors et pas un accroc,<br />

les policiers se faisant même applaudir, comme<br />

si nous étions déjà en train de réapprendre à<br />

vivre ensemble. Et cela n’aurait étonné personne<br />

de voir le fantôme du Grand Charles lancer a<br />

la foule : « Paris brisé, Paris outragé, mais Paris<br />

libéré » Car c’est bien de cela qu’il s’agissait,<br />

nous avions libéré Paris de la sauvagerie et nous<br />

venions de faire a la française un magnifique<br />

bras d’honneur a ses sauvages !<br />

Et maintenant, trois mois plus tard, que sont<br />

devenus ces merveilleux Charlies ! Apres les<br />

émotions, c’est bien sur le temps de la réflexion.<br />

De nombreuses personnalités de tout bord<br />

osent s’exprimer comme si ce 11 janvier avaient<br />

en quelques sortes libéré la parole. Dominique<br />

de Villepin écrivait dans le figaro du 20 janvier<br />

« Un espoir est né le 11 janvier. Nous avons<br />

besoin du soutien de tout le peuple français,<br />

nous avons besoin d’un débat et pas de la seule<br />

réponse sécuritaire…. Mais tout ne viendra<br />

pas de l’Etat. Il faut que ce fantastique sursaut<br />

du 11 janvier se traduise en actes politiques,<br />

individuels, associatif. Bref tous ensemble. La<br />

guerre, n’importe quel état peut la faire. Nos<br />

vraies armes, ce sont nos principes, a condition<br />

de les appliquer et d’inventer un autre chemin<br />

que celui de l’affrontement. » Oui, car le<br />

terrorisme nous tend un piège, il veut nous<br />

pousser a la faute, et la faute, c’est la guerre.<br />

Notre intérêt est vraiment d’éviter par tous les<br />

moyens l’engrenage de la force. »<br />

Merci a nos hommes politiques de l’époque<br />

qui ont voté le 9 décembre 1905 la loi de<br />

séparation des églises et de l’Etat. Ouf ! Cela ne<br />

c’est pas fait en un jour et il en fallait du courage<br />

politique pour lutter contre « dieu » c’est je<br />

crois a mon humble avis le travail que devrait<br />

commencer le monde musulman.<br />

Pas d’amalgame nous dit on, et tout le monde<br />

sait bien que les terroristes n’ont rien à voir<br />

avec la religion musulmane… Quoi que ! Mais<br />

force est de constater que tous se revendiquent<br />

toujours de cette religion. « Où sont tes sages,<br />

et as-tu encore une sagesse à proposer au<br />

27 MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI


monde ? Où sont tes grands hommes ? Qui sont<br />

tes Mandela, qui sont tes Gandhi ? Où sont tes<br />

grands penseurs dont les livres devraient être<br />

lus dans le monde entier comme au temps où<br />

les mathématiciens et les philosophes arabes ou<br />

persans faisaient référence de l’Inde à l’Espagne<br />

? » Se demande le philosophe Abdennour<br />

Bidar dans cette magnifique « lettre ouverte au<br />

monde musulman » que je vous recommande<br />

de lire de toute urgence.<br />

Les musulmans ont besoin de retrouver<br />

l’essence du message originel. Ils ont besoin<br />

d’un nouveau souffle capable de faire en sorte<br />

que la foi ne se refroidisse pas en rites pervertis<br />

par les hommes. Dans la religion catholique le<br />

ménage est commencé depuis bien longtemps<br />

et merci au pape Francois de remettre les choses<br />

à leur place. Il suffit de voir son dernier discours<br />

devant tous les évêques pour ses vœux. Ils en<br />

ont tous pris plein la tronche !!!!! (« La curie est<br />

appelée a s’améliorer, a toujours s’améliorer<br />

et a grandir en communion et sagesse pour<br />

réaliser pleinement sa mission. Pourtant<br />

comme tout corps humain, elle est exposée<br />

aussi aux maladies, aux disfonctionnement,<br />

aux infirmités…… Ce sont des maladies et des<br />

tentations qui affaiblissent notre service du<br />

seigneur. »)<br />

Pas d’amalgames, certes et le Coran comme<br />

la bible sont des textes sacrés. Respect ! Mais<br />

en aucun cas ils ne doivent devenirs des livres<br />

politiques, et nous le savons bien, si tous les<br />

pouvoirs, spirituels et politiques sont entre<br />

les mêmes mains…. Danger ! Et il faut bien<br />

l’admettre que beaucoup de pays musulmans<br />

sont encore des pays a forte tendance<br />

autoritaire.<br />

« Tu as choisi de considérer que Mohammed<br />

était prophète et roi. Tu as choisi de définir<br />

l’islam comme religion politique, sociale, morale,<br />

devant régner comme un tyran aussi bien sur<br />

“CES BARBARES<br />

ONT TOUCHÉ<br />

QUELQUE-CHOSE DE<br />

FONDAMENTAL POUR<br />

LE PEUPLE FRANÇAIS<br />

: NOTRE LIBERTÉ. ET<br />

NOTRE LIBERTÉ DE<br />

PENSER, DE PARLER,<br />

EN FRANCE C’EST<br />

SACRÉ. C’EST NOTRE<br />

MOYEN D’EXISTER,<br />

C’EST FONDAMENTAL<br />

A NOTRE VIE ET A<br />

NOTRE SURVIE”.<br />

l’Etat que sur la vie civile, aussi bien dans la<br />

rue et dans la maison qu’à l’intérieur même de<br />

chaque conscience. Tu as choisi de croire et<br />

d’imposer que l’islam veut dire soumission alors<br />

que le Coran lui-même proclame qu’« il n’y a<br />

pas de contrainte en religion » (La ikraha fi Dîn).<br />

Tu as fait de son appel à la liberté l’empire de la<br />

contrainte ! Comment une civilisation peutelle<br />

trahir à ce point son propre texte sacré ?<br />

Je dis qu’il est l’heure, dans la civilisation de<br />

l’islam, d’instituer cette liberté spirituelle - la<br />

plus sublime et difficile de toutes - à la place de<br />

toutes les lois inventées par des générations de<br />

théologiens ! » (Abdennour Bidar)<br />

Nous le voyons bien l’après Charlie prendra du<br />

temps, et nous avons un énorme travail à faire.<br />

Changer le monde est impossible, alors il faut<br />

commencer par changer soi-même. Changer<br />

ses habitudes, sortir de sa zone de confort,<br />

regarder l’autre avec plus de tolérance et de<br />

bienveillance. Tendre la main, partager nos<br />

valeurs et accepter les valeurs des autres. Ouvrir<br />

son cœur et avoir vraiment cette ferme intention<br />

de vouloir vivre ensemble !<br />

A ce sujet, c’est peut être les Seychelles qui<br />

nous donne l’exemple à suivre. En effet, pour la<br />

seconde année consécutive le gouvernement<br />

Seychellois en partenariat avec le National<br />

Youth Council ont décidé de promouvoir<br />

chaque mois de l’année 2015 une valeur<br />

humaine. La première semaine de janvier<br />

quelques jours avant les attentats (joli hasard)<br />

le Vice Président Danny Faure nous présentait<br />

ce merveilleux programme : Values for one,<br />

value for all. Demandez le programme : Janvier<br />

/ Responsability, Fevrier / Tolerance, Mars /<br />

Resilience, Avril / Patience, Mai / Discipline, Juin<br />

/ Unity, Juillet / Respect, Aout / Commitment,<br />

Septembre / Peace, Octobre / Determination,<br />

Novembre / Gratitude et Decembre /Paix.<br />

Et si on instaurait cela dans nos écoles<br />

françaises pour les petits Charlies ?<br />

Allez, tous les Charlies du monde, retroussons<br />

nos manches et commençons ensemble à<br />

reconstruire un monde dont nous serons fiers.<br />

Maintenant, nous le savons, c’est possible !<br />

Georges Gravé is the<br />

Personal Development &<br />

Training Manager at the<br />

Maia Luxury Resort and Spa<br />

LOCAL OPINION<br />

We asked a few key female media representatives to share their opinions on the incident at<br />

Charlie Hebdo<br />

“The terror attack on Charlie Hebdo is yet<br />

another example of how intolerant the<br />

world is becoming, despite the fact that<br />

more people with different values are<br />

migrating to different parts of the world.<br />

This movement of people can lead to<br />

unnecessary tensions because individuals<br />

do not understand each other’s values.<br />

Instead of integration, you get divided<br />

communities where people are wary of each<br />

other, thus leading to such acts. No one<br />

should die because of their given right to<br />

express themselves”.<br />

Lindy Vital, Le Seychellois Hebdo<br />

“Freedom of speech is essential for any<br />

democracy. Yet with this freedom comes<br />

a responsibility. Some speech should be<br />

controlled when it poses the potential<br />

of endangering other people. We are<br />

accountable for views that we express. As<br />

much as freedom of speech needs to be<br />

respected and upheld it also needs to be<br />

checked on an even playing field. We have<br />

the right to express ourselves, but we also<br />

have an ethical and moral responsibility to<br />

do it wisely”.<br />

Dawn Athanasius, Paradise FM Presenter<br />

“I believe in free speech, including the<br />

freedom of bigots to speak their minds,<br />

because I prefer to know their real feelings,<br />

than to be fooled by the fashion of political<br />

correctness. While I was horrified by the<br />

terrorist attacks on Charlie Hebdo, I did<br />

not join in the “Je Suis Charlie” social media<br />

campaign because I don’t identify with a<br />

magazine that ridicules religions, even if<br />

they have the freedom to do it. Free speech<br />

is part of your free will, to choose to do<br />

good in the world, to behave with respect<br />

and tolerance, or to do the things that hurt<br />

people and incite hatred. You should have<br />

the freedom to make choices, but when<br />

you make choices that you know will hurt<br />

people, you should expect consequences,<br />

whether a slap in the face, or terrible acts of<br />

revenge. Free speech is not an exception to<br />

morality”.<br />

Srdjana Janosevic, Chief Press Secretary<br />

“I am not a fan of Charlie Hebdo the satirist<br />

magazine – but I understand the messages<br />

being carried by the publication and the<br />

questions they raise. In my eyes, Charlie<br />

is the journalist, Charlie is the cartoonist,<br />

Charlie is the photographer and cameraman<br />

fighting to tell the truth, therefore I am<br />

Charlie too. Our main weapons of choice are<br />

our pen, pencil microphone and camera.<br />

As Charlie we offend and we get ‘unfriend’<br />

often. On a daily basis, dedicated journalists<br />

dies a little when he/she is in the absence<br />

of press freedom. We fight on Charlies. Lets<br />

fight on... R.I.P to all perished Charlies”.<br />

Tessa Henderson, Journalist<br />

MARCH 2015 | POTPOURRI 28


KNOW YOUR RIGHTS WITH<br />

BERNARD GEORGES<br />

In the real world of this problem, however, this love-in with the law<br />

translates into the following. Nobody will blame you for causing the<br />

marriage to break down because of your infidelity. This is a neutral factor.<br />

You will neither lose the rights you would otherwise have in the house,<br />

nor will you lose custody of the children. Having got custody of the<br />

children, you will get the maintenance they need for their upkeep, subject<br />

to the requirements of your ex-husband. He may have a second family too<br />

for whom he must care. Since the rule of thumb is to keep the two families<br />

in roughly the same position as they were prior to the breakdown, the<br />

level of maintenance will be set to achieve this purpose. But, this is not<br />

really the problem here because you and your ex have agreed to all that.<br />

The problem is that he has cut the maintenance by 2/3. What can you do?<br />

You will note that I have used the word ‘maintenance’ and not ‘alimony’.<br />

The reason for this is that maintenance is generally used in relation to<br />

money paid for children and alimony for an ex-spouse.<br />

“Our law regarding marriage,<br />

divorce, custody and maintenance<br />

is fair. As a country, we are right<br />

up there with the best and most<br />

advanced countries in the world.”<br />

My ex-husband and I divorced three years ago<br />

following my infidelity. Despite the circumstances,<br />

he left me with the house, primary custody of our<br />

three children and a more than generous monthly<br />

alimony. Six months ago a question of paternity<br />

came up and results proved that two out of our<br />

three kids are not biologically his. He has decided<br />

to cut the alimony to 1/3. The children attend<br />

private schools and our lifestyle has always been<br />

more than just ‘modest’. This financial change has<br />

completely turned our lives upside down. Can I<br />

fight him on this?<br />

Gosh, you really do not make things easy for yourself, do you? Here’s my<br />

advice: let sleeping dogs lie. Don’t even think of fighting your ex-husband.<br />

You were responsible for the marriage failing. You must have known that<br />

the two children weren’t his. You have the house and some alimony. Count<br />

your blessings and make do with what you have.<br />

This short advice may appear rough, brutal even, but it is the kindest way<br />

of giving it. Sometimes, lawyers are stuck and cannot find any advice to<br />

give which will please the client on the other side of their desk. This is one<br />

case. And here’s why.<br />

Our law regarding marriage, divorce, custody and maintenance is fair.<br />

As a country, we are right up there with the best and most advanced<br />

countries in the world. Our family law is really up to date. Parties are no<br />

longer blamed for divorce, irrespective of actual blameworthiness. Courts<br />

can transfer matrimonial property from the legal owner to the nonowner<br />

following marital breakdown. Shares in jointly-owned property<br />

can be adjusted. Custody is granted to one parent or another on the sole<br />

basis of what is best for the child. Money and means do not come into<br />

it. Maintenance payments seek to put the parties as close as possible in<br />

the same position they were prior to the breakdown. In all these things,<br />

Seychelles holds its own with the most developed countries. It is a system<br />

of which we can be justifiably proud.<br />

The only reasons that a parent has to pay maintenance for a child are that<br />

that child is his or hers, the child is a minor or still undergoing education,<br />

or disabled, and that child is not living with him or her. There is no other<br />

legal obligation to pay maintenance for a child. There is also no real legal<br />

obligation for a person to pay maintenance for another person’s child.<br />

There may be a moral reason for doing so – the children may not have<br />

known any other father, the ‘father’ may have treated them as his own<br />

and led them to believe that he would always be there for them so that in<br />

legal parlance he would be estopped (prevented) from saying otherwise<br />

etc. But when push comes to shove there is really no compelling legal<br />

reason for forcing a person to maintain a child which is not his, unless<br />

he has contractually agreed to do so. In this case it is clear that your ex<br />

believed the children to be his and treated them as his, to the extent of<br />

paying maintenance for them. It is only when the paternity test proved<br />

otherwise that he changed. It cannot be argued that he knew all along<br />

and still decided to maintain them. Had that been the case, it might be<br />

said that he should not be allowed to decide otherwise now. But, on the<br />

facts here, this is not the case. He has clearly withdrawn maintenance for<br />

the two children because he feels that you have not been upfront with<br />

him. He has a point.<br />

But, what about the children, you may ask? They are innocent. Why should<br />

they be punished? Why indeed? But, by the same token, why should<br />

somebody who looked after them as a father when he had no legal<br />

obligation to do so continue when he realises that he is not their father?<br />

Plus, they must have a biological father somewhere. Unless that person is<br />

deceased, abroad, or destitute, he is the person who has the duty in law<br />

to maintain his children, not your ex. So, it is to him that you must look for<br />

maintenance to support the life to which your children are accustomed.<br />

If he cannot pay, then you will have to face the unhappy prospect of a<br />

reduced lifestyle. You cannot count on your ex legally to maintain children<br />

who are not his, no matter how terribly that will affect you as a family, or<br />

the two children who are not his.<br />

I am sorry, but this is not a case with a happy ending. Rather, it is a case<br />

which reminds us of the old legal adage: duralex sed lex – the law is tough,<br />

but it’s the law.<br />

Educated at Seychelles College and Cambridge University,<br />

Bernard Georges has two Masters Degrees – in the law of divorce<br />

and in canon law, the law of the church. He is best known as a<br />

lawyer, having been in private practice for over 30 years. Over<br />

the past ten years, he has also been a member of the National<br />

Assembly. He is currently a part-time lecturer in law at the<br />

University of Seychelles, where he teaches Constitutional Law.<br />

And, he is a budding writer. He has written and published two<br />

novels to date and he promises many more books on history, law<br />

and Seychelles.<br />

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SPORTS PERSONALITY<br />

Joanna Houareau<br />

so much more than a pretty face.<br />

By Marie-France Watson<br />

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There’s nothing that makes my day more than<br />

being able to see the accomplishments of my fellow<br />

independent women, so it’s no surprise that I was<br />

completely ecstatic about my sit down with the lovely<br />

Ms. Houareau.<br />

For those of you who don’t know, Ms. Houareau was<br />

an athlete, one of THE best this country has seen! As a<br />

sprinter, she took to the track plenty of times for 100m<br />

sprints, 200m sprints and even 400m sprints with the<br />

occasional long jump feats to add to her list. Although<br />

she also participated in long jump events, Joanna was a<br />

sprinter at heart, setting records for all three distances<br />

during her career as a sprinter. It is no secret that her<br />

400m and 200m records have yet to be broken. The<br />

shorter 100m sprint record that has been held by<br />

Joanna for over 15 years was broken in 2014 by aspiring<br />

athlete Joanne Lou-Toy. If it took this long to break a<br />

100m record, one can only imagine how long it’s going<br />

to take to break the longer distance records.<br />

Joanna’s rise to success as an athlete started while she<br />

was still quite young by participating in the interschool<br />

29th June sports competitions. Her talents were<br />

recognised and she was recruited to join the national<br />

team at 12 years of age and soon after she participated<br />

in her first Jeux des Iles in 1993. Joanna never lacked<br />

motivation in pursuing athletics as she had many great<br />

influences within her own neighbourhood at Pascal<br />

Village such as her neighbour and relative Vincent<br />

Houareau who would always bring her along to his<br />

athletics club training sessions at the beach. Alongside<br />

Vincent, Joanna also had the late Mervin Pierre who<br />

helped groom her into a sprinter at a young age in the<br />

Beau Vallon based Athletic Club.<br />

Potpourri December Cover<br />

Two covers where Joanna has assisted on hair and make-up<br />

Unconditional support is something she always had from her family, most of it coming<br />

from her mother Julie Laporte. Julie’s support was alongside that of members of the public<br />

and the athletics federation itself which provided Joanna with great coaches throughout<br />

her career; many of the coaches also served as father figures as her own father was not<br />

supportive to her.<br />

She was a nationwide star in the sports world, having competed in various competitions,<br />

both here in Seychelles and overseas such as:<br />

• Jeux des Iles<br />

• Jeux d’Afrique<br />

• Francophonie Games<br />

• World Championship Games<br />

• World Indor Championship games<br />

• Olympic Games<br />

Potpourri January Cover<br />

SPORTS PERSONALITY<br />

100m final 29.06.95<br />

The list goes on and on with various regional competitions but her biggest accomplishment<br />

was being part of the Olympic games. I asked her how she felt about going to the Olympics<br />

and her response was “First and foremost I was overwhelmed, the feelings were something<br />

I can’t totally describe as I was very excited at the same time for having the honour to stand<br />

and compete against the world’s greatest, the ones you only hear about and see on TV, I had<br />

the opportunity to see them face to face, and not only the athletes, but a variety of different<br />

sportsmen and women from different sports. To me the Olympics is the best sporting event<br />

any sportsman or woman can ever be a part of.”<br />

As with any athlete, Joanna encountered difficulties that stirred feelings of giving up within<br />

her. Being a sprinter is not the easiest thing in the world… the training is relentless and<br />

hard, carried out on a daily basis, to maintain and improve the speed. During her school<br />

years at polytechnic, she took a break from the sprinting world for a couple of months<br />

All Africa Games 99-100m<br />

IOIG 2003 Mauritius<br />

All Africa Games 99<br />

Joanna and Frankie<br />

IOIG 2003 4x100m relay<br />

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leading towards exams in order to focus on her studies. Juggling athletics with its intense training,<br />

constant travelling to participate in competitions away from home and studying at Post Secondary,<br />

as well as trying to build a path to an alternate career was causing a tiresome and stressful life for<br />

Joanna. What pushed her to not fully give up was the achievements and milestones she reached as<br />

an athlete, the accomplishments and rewards for her hard work fueled her and motivated her into<br />

going back.<br />

Unfortunately, Joanna retired from her career as a sprinter in 2008 following a persistent leg injury<br />

that was refusing to get better without prolonged rest. “The more I rested to heal my leg, the more<br />

time went by and I was getting older so I decided to stop and found myself never going back. I<br />

didn’t regret my decision as I had accomplished more than enough during my years as a sprinter.<br />

Sure I missed it, but it was time to move on”. And move on she did, into a new career that filled the<br />

void left by retiring from athletics. I’m sure you’d be quick to think she didn’t move too far away, on<br />

the contrary, she did. She left the track and moved on to hair brushes and make up brushes; these<br />

are now Joanna’s trade tools. Having always had a passion for styling hair, Joanna saw it as the<br />

perfect career choice, it’s easy to tell she’s the type of person who lives the life she loves, and loves<br />

the life she lives, by putting her energy and time into things that bring her joy.<br />

SPORTS PERSONALITY<br />

After retiring from athletics, Joanna went to Australia and enrolled into a three year Hairdressing<br />

and Make-Up course in the Melbourne based Sheila Baxter Institute for Hair & Beauty. Upon<br />

graduating, she came back to Seychelles to start her new career. She took her childhood passion<br />

for styling her sisters’ Emma Hoauareau-Motheé and Janice Houareau whenever they had a<br />

special place to go, & turned it into a career! An example of Joanna’s work can be seen on some of<br />

Potpourri’s recent covers where she was the make-up artist for the cover model. Quite impressive<br />

work if I may say so myself. She is truly a multi-talented individual.<br />

Following in her aunt’s footsteps, Gaelle Dubignon<br />

After two years of being a freelance beautician with establishments such as Ste. Anne Resort<br />

and Spa, Marco Pros and Direct Bookings as well as individual clients who are forever loyal to<br />

her, Joanna is currently in the process of acquiring her own salon while she still has one hundred<br />

percent of her time to spare as she has no children yet. When asked about whether she would<br />

like her future sons or daughters to pursue athletics like she did, her answer was “Yes, definitely<br />

yes! I feel that the involvement in sports is a very important aspect of a child’s life; even up to<br />

adolescence as it helps develop you in various ways. It provides you with a sense of responsibility<br />

among other things, this is one of the reasons I’m encouraging my niece Gaelle Dubignon, in the<br />

hopes that she might attain the level I did, maybe even be the one to break my two remaining<br />

records! And keep things in the family”.<br />

After spending half the time talking about work,<br />

I was curious to find out a little more about her<br />

lifestyle, and it was no surprise when I learnt that<br />

Joanna was truly the down to earth person I had<br />

pegged her to be, with a kind heart. Her idea of an<br />

ideal ‘fun-time’ is going to the beach, socialising<br />

with her family and friends, as well as spending<br />

quality time with her boyfriend Hans. Not being<br />

an athlete hasn’t changed much in Joanna as she<br />

is still to this day anti-smoking and anti-alcohol,<br />

which equally means she dislikes people who<br />

abuse the two amongst other drugs. She likes<br />

to keep to herself, in her own world, away from<br />

the constant gossip always going around the<br />

grapevine. She also believes in working hard for<br />

what you want and appreciating what you have.<br />

Although Joanna has stepped out of the athletic<br />

scene, she feels that the youth of today aren’t as<br />

dedicated to the cause, that they let too many<br />

negative distractions into their lives instead of<br />

the good. I couldn’t leave our little tete-a-tete<br />

without asking her if she has any words for the<br />

few aspiring athletes there to keep them on the<br />

right track, her words were: ´To succeed as an<br />

athlete you must first and foremost have the<br />

mindset to do it on your own without others. It all<br />

depends on you as in the end your successes and<br />

achievements are all your own”. So there you have<br />

it, Joanna Houareau, more than just a pretty face,<br />

a role model to all the aspiring female athletes<br />

and aspiring beauticians of Seychelles. From<br />

tracks, to brushes, she made it.


MINDFUL LIVING<br />

VIEW FROM THE STATION<br />

I GET BY<br />

…with a little help from my friends, says Jenny Gilbert<br />

I am absolutely ecstatic right now. The article I am about to embark on<br />

has been sitting with me for a few days and I have to say that I felt a little<br />

apprehensive about writing about this subject. Just this morning, as I<br />

was deliberating about the article again, I found myself inexplicably led<br />

to another area of healing which is exactly what I was looking for and I<br />

“[BECAUSE I WAS] LABELLED AS<br />

SOMEONE WHO ‘SWIMS WITH<br />

THE DOLPHINS’ OR ‘IS AWAY<br />

WITH THE FAIRIES’, I OFTEN FELT<br />

COMPELLED TO STAND UP FOR<br />

WHAT I KNEW MADE ME FEEL<br />

WHOLE, ALIVE AND CONNECTED<br />

TO A WIDER UNIVERSE.”<br />

didn’t have to do anything at all! Co-incidence? Luck? Maybe for some.<br />

However, I know that I will always get what I want when I’m willing to<br />

open up to the help that is just waiting for me. It’s being offered all the<br />

time; I am never alone and I wonder why – especially since I work in this<br />

field – I don’t call on it more regularly. One thing is for sure: the more I<br />

apply what I know in a practical way, using it in my ordinary daily routine,<br />

the more I am blessed with beautiful results.<br />

Today my experience is no exception; simply deciding to brave it and<br />

write about angels was enough to call on whatever angel took me to a<br />

place of incredible enlightenment. More on what I discovered will follow<br />

in a future article but for now let me honour the angels for guiding me to<br />

this place by sharing my view on these light bearing, loving entities with<br />

you.<br />

Since childhood, and for many years, I felt that I had to defend myself<br />

against derisive comments and ridicule from those who considered me to<br />

be slightly crazy or, worse, unintelligent. Often labelled as someone who<br />

‘swims with the dolphins’ or ‘is away with the fairies’, I often felt compelled<br />

to stand up for what I knew made me feel whole, alive and connected to a<br />

wider universe.<br />

With maturity, and a steadfast commitment to helping to heal the<br />

planet (and myself), I no longer worry about what others think because<br />

I realise that I never doubted myself at all. Every day, in some small or<br />

magnificent way, I am better and better and closer to living a life as a<br />

worthy individual, connecting more and more with a truth far greater than<br />

anything I ever learnt in an established, conventional institution.<br />

I have learnt that the more I give, the more I open up, the more I free<br />

myself of judgment, the more I am willing to stand up for my principles<br />

and the more I am willing to be guided by universal intelligence, the more<br />

my self-worth develops, the more at peace I am, the younger I feel, the<br />

more vibrant I get.<br />

So it is no surprise that this year’s programme of articles is also a<br />

means by which I can share some thoughts on subjects which are very<br />

much intrinsically healing for humanity and you, the readers. I do not<br />

necessarily have a deep knowledge of all of these subjects myself but by<br />

sharing my time I get to stay in touch with tangible, real truths and get the<br />

chance to tweak your interest and set some of you on a path of enquiry.<br />

Just for today I hope you’ll set aside the ‘critic’ inside, that you’ll open your<br />

mind to the possibilities that exist for you to be more ‘wholy’. I know that<br />

the Universe is magnificently generous, non-judgmental and impeccably<br />

true, that its intelligence is irrefutable and, most importantly, that it is just<br />

waiting to embrace you so that you can free yourself to be one with it.<br />

There are countless ways in which you can start connecting with universal<br />

energy to claim your place as the intelligent, incredible individual that you<br />

are. For a moment, perhaps you could suspend your disbelief and know<br />

that you have nothing to lose by doing so.<br />

Let’s visit the Angelic Realm. Angels have existed forever. They are<br />

innumerable. Angels can be considered to be transformers of light to<br />

sound, carrying messages to and from heaven (or The Divine/The Source/<br />

Universal Energy/God) in a language that us humans can understand.<br />

There are enough men and women who spend entire lifetimes studying<br />

the history of these celestial beings and it must be fascinating. The good<br />

news is that we don’t have to study Dante’s Angelology to invite angels<br />

into our lives. I believe that there is an infinite pool of wisdom available<br />

to us, and to lock ourselves up in theory and conjecture about their<br />

existence is somewhat futile when there is enough evidence throughout<br />

history to suggest that angels (whether metaphoric or not) surround us.<br />

I like to see angels as my higher consciousness gurus. I believe that if we<br />

affirm, in total integrity with ourselves, who and what we are and hope<br />

to be, and when we are willing and open to being directed by an angelic<br />

intelligence to guide us towards achieving goodness and ‘wholiness’<br />

(wholesomeness if you like), avenues will be opened to us that we cannot<br />

‘intellectually’ fathom. There is nothing that can harm us in believing that<br />

we are surrounded by these higher consciousness gurus or angels – they<br />

are there to protect us from calamity and to serve our higher purpose. We<br />

will not be punished for reaching out and widening our experience of the<br />

universe – no matter who suggests that we will. Remember always that<br />

God (or whatever you choose name him/it) is ever loving and allows us<br />

total freedom to honour our life’s purpose. If our intentions are good and<br />

our hearts are loving, we are safe. Know that all religion stems from this<br />

loving energy.<br />

“WITH MATURITY, AND A<br />

STEADFAST COMMITMENT TO<br />

HELPING TO HEAL THE PLANET<br />

(AND MYSELF), I NO LONGER<br />

WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHERS<br />

THINK BECAUSE I REALISE THAT I<br />

NEVER DOUBTED MYSELF AT ALL.”<br />

While it is believed that each of us has our own personal guardian angel,<br />

most religions and traditions discuss archangels as the managers of<br />

our personal guardian angels. It is understood that the archangels are<br />

specialised in various areas and that they guide and provide superintelligence<br />

to us through our personal angels. As an example of<br />

an Archangel, let’s look at the patron saint of protection, Archangel<br />

Michael. Lending courage and strength in times of strife and major life<br />

changes, Michael is believed to have intimate knowledge of our Divine<br />

life purpose. He knows our mission and understands our talents and<br />

interests so that we may help others. While Archangel Michael protects<br />

us, he also provides us with clarity. When we are confused, he will ensure<br />

we receive clear answers to our questions. As a non-denominational<br />

angel, Archangel Michael is there for us in every way if we simply ask. His<br />

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help and guidance is unlimited, non-judgemental and<br />

respects our free will. His guidance is completely safe<br />

and trustworthy. A better friend is hard to imagine!<br />

I suppose it is easier to envisage angels with form and<br />

character which is probably why these angels have,<br />

over time immemorial, developed personas. Archangel<br />

Michael is depicted as a tall, handsome man carrying<br />

a sword which, it is said, he uses to slay our fear and<br />

heighten our courage and strength to face challenges.<br />

There are many accounts throughout history of when<br />

Michael has been called upon by inspired leaders and<br />

light workers. From the time of Adam and Eve when<br />

Michael is known to have guided Adam to farm and<br />

care for his family, Michael has been guiding legendary<br />

individuals such as Joan of Arc and others to perform<br />

incredible acts of courage in order to fulfil their passion<br />

to help others.<br />

Just today, know that you are being watched over with love, and nurturing care. Take a deep<br />

breath and allow your guides to surround you and lead you to a place of calm and serenity,<br />

clarity and new experiences. If this is difficult for you, consider Lady Luck as an angel. Create a<br />

picture in your mind and imagine that this angel, called Lady Luck, is watching over you, ready<br />

and happy to whisper words of wisdom. Start to develop a relationship with her and she’ll<br />

introduce you to her friends. Consciously start the process of inviting in these happy, healing,<br />

loving energies to your space and you may just find yourself starting to live the life you are<br />

meant to.<br />

Jenny Gilbert is the founder and owner of Everglow Ltd, the island’s premier<br />

natural health manufacturers and service providers. She is also Director of<br />

Wellness at Resonate Wellness at The Station. Homeopathy is a well recognised<br />

system of natural medical treatments for most diseases and conditions. Please<br />

visit http://www.thestationseychelles.com/reflections or email wellbeing@<br />

thestationseychelles.com<br />

MINDFUL LIVING<br />

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AGONY AUNT<br />

Dear Annalisa ......<br />

Cursing and forgetfulness are issues that Annalisa helps our readers solve this month…<br />

Foul Mouthed Parenting<br />

Forget my birthday-not<br />

Q: Dear Annalisa,<br />

Recently, I find myself swearing at my 7-year old. I have never been<br />

known to curse and it shocks me that I am unable to control my anger.<br />

My child is driving me insane and I am now dropping bombs left, right<br />

and centre. How do I stop this?<br />

Potty-Mouth Mummy<br />

A: Dear Potty-Mouth Mummy,<br />

It seems the swearing and cursing has become a way of dealing with<br />

your child’s testing ways. The only problem is that this method is neither<br />

effective nor healthy (for either of you). Children don’t only learn skills<br />

that make them more mature and successful in life. They also learn skills<br />

that make them troublesome. Your child has learnt that they can behave<br />

in a way that elicits feelings of anger from you. Your child has learnt that<br />

they have the power to spin you out of control. More importantly your<br />

child is learning that swearing is an “ok” behaviour when angry.<br />

The first thing to do, is to find alternative methods of responding to<br />

your child’s troublesome behaviour. Most children thrive on attention;<br />

it makes them feel important, loved and popular. Young children<br />

favour any behaviour that gets them frequent attention. So a “naughty”<br />

behavior that delivers a swear word is a behaviour worthy to pursue<br />

because it delivered the much-needed attention.<br />

If you feel irritated by your child’s behaviour and believe that they are<br />

doing it deliberately to seek attention in a negative way, it may be best<br />

not to give them the attention they are after. The trick to reduce the<br />

likelihood of the “naughty” behaviour occurring is to withdraw attention<br />

from it. Simply ignore, and ignore all the time. Note here: aggressive,<br />

dangerous, or destructive behaviour, should never be ignored, at any<br />

time.<br />

Some guidelines for ignoring behavior:<br />

• Choose one behaviour that is annoying or irritating, at a time.<br />

• Every time this behaviour occurs, everyone significant to the child,<br />

should ignore the behaviour.<br />

• Avoid eye contact with your child.<br />

• Avoid verbal contact with your child.<br />

• Avoid physical contact with your child.<br />

• Stop ignoring your child, as soon as the undesirable behaviour<br />

stops.<br />

• Expect the behavior to get worse before it gets better.<br />

• Ensure that any behaviour that is unlike the undesirable behaviour is<br />

rewarded.<br />

The other thing to do is get a jar and for every time you swear, put a SR5<br />

coin (or more) in there. It would mean a cost to you, for swearing around<br />

the house. The money should eventually go to another person around<br />

the house (not your child) who has to live in this constant “bombdropping”<br />

environment (given they are not swearing either). Be honest<br />

and pay up each time, that in itself should deter you from running a<br />

potty-mouth (unless you cheat).<br />

Q: Dear Annalisa,<br />

I forgot my best friend’s birthday a few months back – the first time in<br />

23 years! We laughed it off but I get the feeling she is still upset about<br />

it. She ‘forgets’ to invite me to girls’ nights out and a week ago forgot<br />

to tell me she was travelling. This is someone I used to speak to almost<br />

everyday – including the birthday I forgot. I need us to move past this.<br />

What’s step one?<br />

Louise, 39<br />

A: Dear Louise,<br />

To forget your best friend’s birthday, is BIG! And to not forgive a best<br />

friend, for it, that’s BIG too. Now which is bigger, tends to depend on<br />

which side anyone is on.<br />

I’m guessing step one might require a bit of backtracking to as far<br />

back as the day you realised you had forgotten her birthday. Did you<br />

apologise? What did you do then? Moments like these, call for empathy<br />

- putting yourself in the other person’s shoes. How would you have<br />

felt? What would you have liked your friend to do if the situation was<br />

reversed? Bearing in mind, even best friends may have different takes on<br />

the matter.<br />

“IF YOU FAILED TO ACKNOWLEDGE<br />

HER TRUE FEELINGS THE FIRST<br />

TIME ROUND THEN CREATE THE<br />

OPPORTUNITY TO DO SO NOW.”<br />

Sometimes when important things happen between friends, things that<br />

may cause pain, hurt, or disappointment we are eager to “laugh it off”.<br />

The “laugh it off” is sometimes done to make light of a difficult situation;<br />

not knowing how to deal with the situation from both ends; fear of<br />

coming across as selfish or greedy may cause the affected person to<br />

play along; not knowing how to deal with the affected person’s reaction.<br />

These are all possibilities why humor or laughter is sometimes used to<br />

try and remedy an awkward situation.<br />

Now it’s all-good if the affected person is genuine about seeing only<br />

the funny side of the whole situation. If you gather, she’s not really<br />

laughing, then step two would be to talk to her about it. If you failed<br />

to acknowledge her true feeling the first time round then create the<br />

opportunity to do so now. It’s also a moment to share your own true<br />

feelings about the situation and your fear of its consequences on your<br />

friendship.<br />

Step three (optional): throw her a “sorry I forgot your birthday for the<br />

first time in 23 years, please forgive me” party. It can be the simplest<br />

party for two; two cupcakes, one balloon, and a big sorry sign; just be<br />

genuine and do it from the heart. Hopefully it wins her over. All in all, I<br />

wish for this friendship, a lot less forgetting and a lot more forgiving.<br />

Annalisa Labiche is a practicing Clinical Psychologist with over five years experience. She completed her Bachelor of Art (Psychology) degree and Masters in<br />

Psychology in Australia. She gives advice on a multitude of subjects, including relationships, parenting, family issues, psychological disorders, substance misuse<br />

amongst many others.<br />

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La trisomie 21 ou Syndrome de Down.<br />

contenues dans le liquide amniotique ou le placenta. Le prélèvement,<br />

appelé amniocentèse ou biopsie du trophoblaste, n’est pas sans<br />

risque (risque de fausse couche). Ce prélèvement qui n’est pas<br />

disponible aux Seychelles, est proposé uniquement si le fœtus a des<br />

risques élevés d’être atteint de Trisomie 21.<br />

HEALTH<br />

Après la naissance, l’existence de la trisomie peut être suspectée<br />

et nécessite alors la réalisation de l’étude des chromosomes de<br />

l’individu.<br />

Le 21 Mars est la journée mondiale du syndrome de down, je profite<br />

alors de ce numéro spécial de Potpourri pour parler un peu plus de ce<br />

syndrome.<br />

Quelles sont les origines de la trisomie 21 ?<br />

Dans chaque cellule du corps humain, il existe un noyau. A l’intérieur<br />

de celui-ci se retrouve des gènes .Un gène est une petite portion<br />

d’ADN, support de l’information génétique de l’individu. Les gènes<br />

portent les codes responsables de nos caractères héréditaires,<br />

et sont regroupés dans des structures appelées chromosomes.<br />

Classiquement, le noyau de chaque cellule chez l’être humain<br />

contient 23 paires de chromosomes, 23 venant du père et 23 de la<br />

mère. Le syndrome de Down apparait lorsqu’un individu se retrouve<br />

avec une copie partielle ou complète du chromosome 21. La<br />

personne atteinte a un chromosome surnuméraire sur la 21e paire de<br />

chromosomes. Elle ne possède donc pas 46 chromosomes, mais en<br />

possède 47.<br />

Il existe différentes formes de trisomie 21.<br />

C’est au moment de la formation des ovules ou des spermatozoïdes,<br />

avant la fécondation que se produit “ l’incident génétique “<br />

responsable dans 95% des cas de la trisomie 21.<br />

• Si toutes les cellules de l’organisme ont 47 chromosomes, on<br />

parle de trisomie 21 homogène.<br />

• On parle de trisomie 21 en mosaïque, lorsque seule une partie<br />

des cellules est touchées.<br />

Dans 5% des cas, c’est une trisomie par translocation. Le<br />

chromosome supplémentaire est dans ce cas attache a un autre<br />

chromosome.<br />

Quels sont les facteurs de risques ?<br />

La trisomie 21 touche toutes les populations. L’origine ethnique ou le<br />

niveau économique ne sont pas des facteurs de risques.<br />

En dehors de la présence d’une anomalie des chromosomes<br />

équilibrée impliquant un chromosome 21, le seul facteur de risque<br />

connu est l’âge maternel au moment de la fécondation. Le risque<br />

d’avoir un enfant avec une trisomie 21 est en effet de :<br />

• 1/1500 naissances si la mère a 20 ans<br />

• 1/1000 à 30 ans<br />

• 1/400 à 35 ans<br />

• 1/100 à 40 ans<br />

• 1/28 à 50 ans<br />

Comment fait-on le diagnostic ?<br />

Avant la naissance, il est possible de diagnostiquer une trisomie 21<br />

chez un fœtus pendant la grossesse. Mais uniquement par des tests<br />

qui permettent de prélever des cellules du fœtus. Ces cellules sont<br />

Comment savoir s’il existe un risque élevé ?<br />

Des tests sanguins effectués chez la maman, permettent de faire un<br />

calcul du risque. Ce test n’est pas disponible aux Seychelles.<br />

Aux résultats sanguins sont combinés l’âge de la patiente et la mesure<br />

de la nuque du fœtus (clarté nucale). Cette mesure est réalisée lors de<br />

l’échographie du premier trimestre. En effet, les fœtus dont la nuque<br />

est plus épaisse que la norme sont plus à risque de trisomie 21.<br />

Quelles sont les conséquences de la trisomie 21 ?<br />

Il en existe plusieurs, voici les plus fréquentes :<br />

• Une déficience intellectuelle variable, avec des possibilités<br />

d’intégration sociale différentes selon les enfants. Cela<br />

n’excluant pas une autonomie relative des personnes<br />

atteintes de trisomie 21. D’où le rôle primordial de l’éducation,<br />

et de l’accompagnement de ces enfants des leur plus jeune âge.<br />

• Un aspect caractéristique du visage (qui n’empêche pas a ces<br />

enfants de ressembler a leurs parents).<br />

• Une taille ne dépassant pas 160 cm à l’âge adulte.<br />

• Une diminution du tonus musculaire (hypotonie) et une<br />

hyperlaxité.<br />

• Des malformations d’importance variable le plus souvent<br />

du cœur ou de l’appareil digestif, pouvant bénéficier de soins<br />

spécifiques.<br />

• Des troubles ORL, de la vue ou de l’audition…<br />

Quel suivi pour les personnes atteintes ?<br />

La prise en charge des problèmes spécifiques rencontrés dans la<br />

trisomie 21 doit toujours être conduite dans l’objectif de permettre<br />

une meilleure insertion sociale et professionnelle.<br />

Beaucoup de symptômes classiquement décrits dans la trisomie<br />

21, sont secondaires à l’hypotonie et à l’hyperlaxité et peuvent être<br />

bien améliorés par la prise en charge précoce en psychomotricité,<br />

kinésithérapie et orthophonie. Il doit y avoir une mise en place dès le<br />

plus jeune âge d’un partenariat entre les parents et les professionnels<br />

de l’éducation, du soin et de la rééducation joue un rôle primordial.<br />

Cela permet également d’accompagner les parents et leur permettent<br />

de mieux comprendre leur fils ou leur fille.<br />

Il n’y a pas de traitement médical de ce syndrome.<br />

C’est grâce à la meilleure prise en charge des problèmes médicaux<br />

et notamment au traitement des malformations cardiaques et des<br />

infections que l’espérance de vie des personnes avec une trisomie 21<br />

a beaucoup augmenté puisque plus de 50% dépassent l’âge de 50<br />

ans aujourd’hui.<br />

Pour plus d’informations n’hésitez pas à contacter le professionnel de<br />

santé qui vous suit.<br />

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PARENTING<br />

Juggling Motherhood<br />

AND CAREER<br />

Working moms have a lot on the go, but being realistic and having a sense of humour makes all the difference,<br />

writes Nathalie Hodgson.<br />

Most women this millennium are returning to work when their children<br />

are still very young, without being questioned or judged. With the cost of<br />

living on the rise, two incomes is what is required to keep a decent family<br />

household or to maintain the lifestyle you once led but with additional<br />

mouths to feed. So how do you balance work, love and play when no one<br />

has the time? I spoke to two working mothers to share some valuable tips<br />

on how it’s done.<br />

Neesha Kumar, 30, Creative Director, decided to extend her three-month<br />

maternity leave, dip into her annual leave bonus and eventually resigned,<br />

after having her first child. ‘I would rather die than leave my little one so<br />

young’, she thought to herself. But after six months she realised that this<br />

was not financially viable; she had to return to work and decided to take<br />

up a position that she been offered some time back. Returning to work<br />

not only helped to pay the bills but it opened up new doors of valuable<br />

experience, which has led her into opening up her own business (Neesha<br />

Kumar Ltd).<br />

‘The to-do list is so long that I am overwhelmed just looking at it’ Neesha<br />

explains, ‘I am mentally racing back and forth between my responsibility<br />

to my two children (six-year old girl and one-year old boy) and my<br />

business. I can’t take sick days as this means I don’t get paid for that day<br />

and the work is then a day late. There are simply not enough hours in the<br />

day to accomplish what needs to get done, so I am often up until 2am or<br />

later’.<br />

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It is the ultimate juggling act; the pressure on working mothers and<br />

fathers with full-time careers and young children leads to a constantly<br />

racing heart, all-consuming guilt and a certainty that you’ve become<br />

inadequate at home and at work when things go slightly wrong. So the<br />

key is to place some logical strategies as pillars into your daily life to keep<br />

the walls from caving in.<br />

Being a great mom isn’t<br />

about making every meal<br />

or doing every load of<br />

laundry. It’s also about<br />

being a strong female role<br />

model for your children;<br />

the two are strongly interweaved.<br />

An essential part<br />

of being a great mom is<br />

pursuing your own passions<br />

and being an interesting,<br />

dynamic, growing person<br />

that your children have as<br />

an example.<br />

‘Honestly my work-life balance needs some improvement’ Neesha<br />

confesses. There is no quality weekday family evening time, as I am<br />

working solidly to build my young business. I am blessed with a husband<br />

that fully supports and understands this critical stage. I do force myself<br />

to take some downtime when I have been multi-tasking all day however<br />

and I do not work on Sundays (at all). This is strictly family time. I cook and<br />

spend time with my loved ones’ Neesha explains.<br />

and daughter (feeding, bathing, playing, stories). It’s just manageable<br />

really. I have a lot of motivation as my patients offer me many kind words<br />

and letters and of course the support I receive around me from my<br />

partner, family and friends’.<br />

Being a great mom isn’t about making every meal or doing every load of<br />

laundry. It’s also about being a strong female role model for your children;<br />

the two are strongly interweaved. An essential part of being a great mom<br />

is pursuing your own passions and being an interesting, dynamic, growing<br />

person that your children have as an example. You want to raise strong<br />

individuals and they need to see that in their adult figures every day of<br />

their lives.<br />

Alice continues, ‘even after the most hectic and stressful day at work, the<br />

duties don’t stop. There is no law that says that you have to make all your<br />

meals from scratch, clean your own house from top-to-bottom every<br />

week. I make lists about what needs to be done and cut corners on things<br />

that really don’t matter, so I have more time to spend with my family. They<br />

are my priority and I always make time for them. I know my career and<br />

my studies are important too and hopefully one day my daughter will be<br />

proud of her hard working mum’.<br />

No matter how great your job, your boss, your partner and your kids may<br />

be, it’s your number one job to take care of yourself. This is one job you<br />

simply can’t delegate. Without your own health you are no service to<br />

your family or your job so make sure you are ticking those boxes in diet,<br />

exercise, check-ups and some personal hobbies (for your own mental<br />

growth and happiness).<br />

PARENTING<br />

Alice Mancienne, 25 years, Staff Nurse at The Seychelles Hospital and<br />

studying an Advanced Diploma in Midwifery at NIHSS, remembers her first<br />

day back at work after having her daughter. ‘I fought back tears and kept<br />

calling home to check up on her every second, it felt awful, even though<br />

I knew she was in good hands with my grandmother. The only thing that<br />

kept me going was picturing that little face when she would see me again.<br />

This kept me sane and motivated’.<br />

Alice always wanted to be a mother and always wanted to be a nurse,<br />

a job she loves. ‘I am living my dream, I know this, but every day is not<br />

picture perfect. I work shifts and my day includes dressing wounds,<br />

preparing patients for operation, admission, withdrawing blood, doctor’s<br />

rounds, administering medication, providing support and giving<br />

reassurance. Then it’s time to go home and I do some laundry, cleaning,<br />

preparing meals, feeding the dogs and spending time with my partner<br />

While interviewing and talking to many working mums the one ultimate<br />

secret that is constant in the working mums power kit is to always keep<br />

your sense of humour. When dirty nappies fall at your feet, the babies are<br />

screaming in the bath and you know dinner is about to burn, humour is<br />

the ultimate weapon against the craziness around you, and the one thing<br />

that will keep you sane.<br />

Nathalie Hodgson is a writer, mother, PR & Marketing<br />

consultant, Doterra essential oils consultant and yoga<br />

instructor, juggling this whilst raising two kids, running<br />

her own business and enjoying the most of life.<br />

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<strong>FASHION</strong><br />

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Generation Procrastination<br />

Why not today?<br />

What makes us put things off instead of just getting them done? Lynette Botha doesn’t have all the answers, but<br />

she’s working on it…<br />

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I put the ‘pro’ into procrastination. This is not to say I’m lazy, or not a hard worker. Au contraire.<br />

I am a workaholic – always hustling for more jobs on the side; mostly out of want than<br />

necessity (for the time being). But man can I put things off – until the pressure is so forceful<br />

and the deadline is so far gone, that I have to pull an all-nighter to catch up. And this is not<br />

only with work. This happens with renewing car licence disks, taking in the dry cleaning,<br />

going for a haircut. I once read a star sign that referred to Librans as ‘lackadaisical’ – and I was<br />

like, “there, you see, it’s not my fault, it’s the way the stars aligned when I was born. Now I’m<br />

off the hook”. If only.<br />

This feature first<br />

appeared in<br />

Juice Magazine,<br />

January 2015<br />

"If you, like me, would<br />

like to be a little less<br />

anxious and a little<br />

more proactive this<br />

year, take note."<br />

Truth is, it’s hundred percent me. And you. And like any other bad<br />

habit, it’s something that takes time and commitment to rectify.<br />

Ironically.<br />

open in separate tabs is like asking for trouble and<br />

setting yourself up for failure. When you need to do<br />

something, tell yourself: I’m sitting down for an hour<br />

and solely focusing on this. When you decide to switch<br />

off and focus, you’ll be amazed at how much you can<br />

achieve in a short space of time – you may get so<br />

into it that you carry on for longer than the time you<br />

assigned yourself. You’ll also find that you really did not<br />

miss that much on social media. Maybe just another<br />

pregnancy announcement.<br />

Be prepared<br />

When you’re ready to get started on your task –<br />

renewing your driver’s licence, for example – make<br />

sure you have everything you need. Your old licence,<br />

ID book, photos, the correct amount of money in cash.<br />

Starting out on a task and getting halfway because you<br />

don’t have all the tools at your disposal will take the<br />

wind out of your sails – and you’ll probably put it off<br />

for another two weeks because you just. can’t. face. all.<br />

the. admin.<br />

Procrastination is a real syndrome though – it’s not just you ‘putting<br />

things off’, some people suffer from it to a point where it can be<br />

debilitating. So it’s no surprise then that countless psychological<br />

studies have been done to not only understand why people<br />

procrastinate and what triggers it, but also, what you can do in order to<br />

re-train your brain to want to get things done.<br />

If you, like me, would like to be a little less anxious and a little more<br />

proactive this year, take note of the following (don’t worry, I’ll keep it<br />

short, I know you’d rather be playing Candy Crush):<br />

Just Start<br />

Yes, this sounds pretty basic, but once you’ve started on a task – even<br />

if you do not complete it immediately – you are more likely to finish<br />

it (and sooner) than if you don’t start at all. Need to file a report by<br />

Friday? Start the Excel spreadsheet on Tuesday – even if you only<br />

create the columns and headers. You’ll probably make your end of<br />

week deadline. This is due to something that psychologists call the<br />

Zeigarnick Effect. In a nutshell, assignments that are unfinished are<br />

more likely to nag at you and remain top of mind, than tasks that you<br />

never started at all. Because it’s constantly on your mind, it becomes<br />

irritating and makes you anxious and you just want to get it done.<br />

Believe in yourself<br />

Yes, really. Often procrastination stems from self doubt – a fear of<br />

failure or a feeling of not being good enough. You’re so scared that<br />

you’ll do something incorrectly or not well enough, that you never<br />

get started on it in the first place. You’ve committed to organising<br />

a bachelorette party for your best friend but you’re so anxious that<br />

everything won’t turn out perfectly that two weeks before the event<br />

you still haven’t even sent out invitations, nevermind secured a<br />

venue. The longer you put these types of tasks off, the worse it gets.<br />

You become more anxious, more deflated, and less likely to want to<br />

get started. Stop doubting yourself, believe you can do what needs<br />

to be done and challenge yourself to prove it by starting work on it<br />

immediately.<br />

Make a list<br />

If you’re anything like me, you may be great at writing a list, but not<br />

so great at doing anything with it once it’s written. But writing lists is<br />

scientifically proven to make us more likely to do things (and to feel<br />

less anxious by getting things out of our heads – where they can be<br />

forgotten, and on to paper – which you hopefully don’t lose). A list<br />

does not literally need to be a piece of paper with bullet points – it can<br />

be any form of you getting what you need to accomplish out of your<br />

head; this may be in your diary, on your iPad or via an App. The one<br />

form that I find works for me, is electronic calendar reminders, set for<br />

days leading up to a certain task or assignment – it’s like building in<br />

time to allow yourself to procrastinate.<br />

Turn off your WiFi<br />

And your cellphone. And your social media notifications. Move away<br />

from the TV. Keep distractions to an absolute minimum. Sitting<br />

down to complete a task with Facebook, Twitter and YouTube<br />

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HEALTH & FITNESS<br />

THE SOLDIER<br />

OF MISFORTUNE<br />

Are you brave enough for this intense workout? Hassan Al-Ameri is here to guide you through it…<br />

Here is an example of a training session you could try, if you’re feeling<br />

really brave and in the mood for something that will push you both<br />

mentally and physically. It’s certainly not for complete beginners, and is<br />

also designed for those who prefer to train with a partner.<br />

I call it the “Soldier of Misfortune” as it’s based on a training principle that<br />

was applied to our training sessions whilst I was serving in the army. I<br />

still feel that this standard is by far one of the most important to consider<br />

when designing a training program for yourself or anyone else.<br />

And remember; never sacrifice one element of fitness in pursuit of<br />

another!<br />

THE WARM-UP<br />

3 x 5 wall squats (toes against a wall)<br />

3 x 15 bodyweight squats<br />

3 x 10 goblet squats<br />

2 x 10 push-ups<br />

2 x 10 proper push-ups (lie flat and take hands off the floor between<br />

each push-up)<br />

10 x 5 man makers (push-up on dumbbells, row each side, feet in,<br />

stand, shoulder press)<br />

THE MAIN BODY (PARTNER WORKOUT)<br />

THE COOL-DOWN<br />

4 X 30secs on/30secs off FROG HOP<br />

4 X 30secs on/30secs off PUSH PRESS (hell style)<br />

(rest with weights above your head!)<br />

4 X 30secs on/30secs off SPLIT JUMP<br />

300 seconds total FRONT LEANING REST (high plank)<br />

(stop the clock when you need to rest)<br />

Do not be fooled; this is a muscle-aching lung-busting workout – not for<br />

the faint-hearted. Get in touch with me and let me know how you found<br />

it.<br />

Until next time…<br />

Yours in Health & Fitness,<br />

Hassan<br />

Hassan is a Master Trainer from the European Institute of<br />

Fitness, living on Mahé. For any further advice on health and<br />

fitness, you can contact Hassan directly on:<br />

Tel: +248 2568629<br />

Email: h.al-ameri@hotmail.co.uk<br />

Complete three rounds of the following with one minute’s rest between<br />

each round:<br />

250m row whilst partner performs a rack hold (24kg men/16kg women)<br />

Then switch to complete the round.<br />

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CONSERVATION<br />

RIDING FOR THE PLANET…<br />

AND YOUR HEALTH!<br />

Save money, improve your fitness and do your bit for the environment<br />

Photographs: Joe Clothilde<br />

Can riding a bike save the planet, and you? Experts say that cycling could<br />

help resolve many environmental and health problems. It just needs<br />

to ‘catch on’, and become the next green and fashionable thing to do.<br />

Contraptions on wheels are the most popular form of transport over<br />

land for most people. Amid an array of cars, trucks, vans and jeeps, the<br />

simple and modest bicycle tops the list for the healthiest, wheeled mode<br />

of transport, for you and for our planet. Why not ride bikes to help the<br />

environment, save on gas, generate less greenhouse gases and burn more<br />

calories, all at the same time?<br />

Cycling is a low-carbon, eco-friendly mode of transport. Car exhausts are<br />

a cocktail of all types of cancer-causing and global-warming-inducing<br />

gases that include carbon dioxide, sulphur oxides, methane and other<br />

particulates. Bikes have no exhaust system; they are solely powered by<br />

your strength. Subsequently, riding a bike produces zero emissions, which<br />

equates to zero air pollution and less incidences of throat and lung cancer<br />

caused by the particles that contribute to air pollution. By the same token,<br />

working those muscles to power the bike forward will increase your<br />

metabolism and help you burn calories up at a rapid pace. Not only that,<br />

pedalling away on a bike helps to keep your heart healthy (and pumping).<br />

Parking lots are also a problem for the environment, especially with the<br />

increasing number of motorised vehicles on the road. This means clearing<br />

more land for parking that was once home to plant and animal life. The<br />

asphalt, tars and other chemicals poured to make parking lots and roads<br />

also release pollutants into the air and create heat islands that contribute<br />

to global warming. The removal of trees and other vegetation eliminates<br />

vital biomass that helps reduce the quantity of carbon dioxide in the<br />

air. Bicycle parking requires little space, which means that bikes help<br />

minimise the effects of global warming and also preserve habitats.<br />

While you ‘ride for the planet’...and for yourself, remember to always keep<br />

safe. Here are a few reminders from one of our previous articles on safe<br />

bike riding:<br />

• Avoid busy streets<br />

• Wear a helmet<br />

• Wear brightly coloured clothes to increase your visibility<br />

• Follow the rules of the road<br />

• No music players or mobile phones to distract you or inhibit your<br />

hearing<br />

Last but not least, while most bike riding on Mahé or Praslin is done for<br />

sports or for recreation more than for commuting, we should tip our<br />

hats to our brothers and sisters over on La Digue, who use bicycles as an<br />

everyday mode of transport, and serve as inspiring role models – and<br />

that’s the kind of biking enthusiasm we want to spread.<br />

Contributed by Ginnie Laurencine for Sustainability for<br />

Seychelles, a local NGO whose mission is to promote<br />

sustainable living in Seychelles. Contact us on info@<br />

s4seychelles.com or tel. 251-9135 or 422-4072. Find us<br />

on the web at www.s4seychelles.com or on Facebook.<br />

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DINING<br />

Le Bourgeois<br />

Restaurant<br />

at Le Méridien Fisherman’s Cove<br />

RESTAURANT REVIEW<br />

Divine dining is how<br />

Vee Mari Power sums up<br />

her experience at this<br />

picturesque spot<br />

Le Bourgeois Restaurant kicks off the year 2015 with an<br />

exclusively seafood menu created by the artful genius of<br />

Executive Chef Anthony Robin who specializes in Fusion Cuisine.<br />

“We are excited to re-launch Le Bourgeois as the seafood<br />

restaurant on the island, unique menu which is affordable with<br />

good portions and an excellent variety complements the location<br />

and personalized service” quotes Wael Rashed – the General<br />

Manager of Le Meridien Fisherman’s Cove.<br />

Dining at this sensational restaurant is guaranteed to satisfy even<br />

the most adventurous taste buds.<br />

Stroll along the floor lit decking from Le Méridien Hotel that<br />

meanders along the coast line of Bel Ombre and enjoy the<br />

gentle breeze that blows in from the North of the island, until<br />

you stumble upon this secluded eatery. This is a dinner-byreservation-only<br />

type of establishment, with a cozy seating<br />

arrangement to ensure a private fine dining experience.<br />

The À la carte menu offers a fantastic array of locally sourced<br />

delicacies that will stimulate your appetite. We recommend the<br />

generously portioned appetizer of crab nachos or the crispy<br />

calamari with black olive tartar.<br />

For the main there is a tempting selection of seafood risottos<br />

and pastas that will no doubt leave you sighing with satisfaction.<br />

We were drawn to the star of the show, the Asian Spiced Grilled<br />

Lobster with truffle mash, grilled asparagus and orange-carrot<br />

sauce. The rich and aromatic flavours of the spiced lobster are<br />

matched perfectly by the creamy truffle mash.<br />

Dessert at Le Bourgeois is a must! You will be hard-pressed to<br />

choose between options of Chocolate Teardrop to homemade<br />

caramel ice-cream with peanuts, popcorn and chocolate sauce.<br />

We enjoyed the warm chocolate-walnut brownie with homemade<br />

vanilla ice-cream and blueberry compote. It is the perfect<br />

balance of sweet and savoury and beautifully presented as a treat<br />

for the eyes, as well as your sweet tooth.<br />

Everything about this dining experience suggests attention to<br />

detail and pure luxury, from the location, and the delectable<br />

menu to the impeccable table service. There is also a wonderful<br />

list of wines and suggestions from the house sommelier for each<br />

course so you can be sure to fully experience the sensory delights<br />

of every part of your meal.<br />

“At last we have a true sea food restaurant at Le Meridien<br />

Fisherman’s Cove, unlocking a new culinary experience to our<br />

guests locally and globally” quotes the General Manager.<br />

If you would like to share the same culinary experience,<br />

discover more at http://www.lebourgeois.sc<br />

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A tale about St Patrick<br />

Do you know where this day originates from and why we celebrate it? Read on…<br />

St. Patrick was born in South Wales, his father was a Roman<br />

called Calpornius. When he was about 16 years old he was<br />

taken by Irish raiders led by the infamous “Niall of the nine<br />

hostages”. They took him to Ireland to a place called Mount<br />

Slemish near the present town of Ballymena.<br />

There, he worked as a slave for six years. During this time<br />

he had several dreams where God told him he must escape<br />

from Ireland and become a priest. He walked 200 miles to the<br />

coast where he escaped to Scotland, returning home, and<br />

eventually going to France where he became a priest and then<br />

a Bishop. He was Bishop of Auxerre in France for 12 years. He<br />

was haunted by dreams of the people of Ireland calling him to<br />

return and bring Christianity to Ireland which was, at the time,<br />

a pagan land. In 432AD Pope Celestine decided to send him on<br />

a mission to convert the Irish to Christianity. St Patrick arrived in<br />

Ireland in the winter of 432AD.<br />

Christian faith later on. So if you are a Christian today with some lineage to<br />

Ireland, you may well owe a debt to St. Patrick himself.<br />

He died on March 17th 493AD and was buried in a place called Down Patrick.<br />

In recent years, St. Patrick’s Day has been celebrated at the Level 3 Bar in<br />

Seychelles. On St Patrick’s Day 2014, Level 3 Bar was renamed “Rogan’s Irish Bar”,<br />

making it the first Irish Bar in Seychelles.<br />

This year St Patrick’s Day will fall on Tuesday 17th March.<br />

You will find all the traditional celebrations at Rogan’s Irish Bar.<br />

A VERY HAPPY ST. PATRICK’S<br />

DAY TO YOU ALL!<br />

SLÁINTE! (GOOD HEALTH)<br />

Many stories have been told about what happened next.<br />

He converted the whole of Ireland in around 30 years. He<br />

is responsible for the 29th of February being a day when<br />

the ladies can propose marriage. This was to help speed<br />

up wedding proposals in cases where the men might be a<br />

bit slow or shy. He used the Shamrock, a three-leaf plant of<br />

the clover family, to help explain the trinity to his flock. His<br />

converts became the new stronghold of Christianity in Europe,<br />

and Ireland shone the light of the Christian faith throughout<br />

the dark ages in Europe, and sent missionaries to return the<br />

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WEDDINGS IN PARADISE<br />

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POP CULTURE<br />

Big Booties and Cash Cows<br />

The Undeniable Influence of Kim Kardashian...<br />

By Kurt Gilbert<br />

As a full-time fan of Kanye West, I’ve had to put up with my fair share of<br />

Kim Kardashian-related news over the past couple of years. Admittedly,<br />

before Kimye was a ‘thing’, I paid very little attention to the camera-hungry<br />

stylings that placed Kim on the A-List of celebrity culture. I had the same<br />

fundemental problem with her that so many other people do; I couldn’t<br />

reconcile the fact that she’s made silly amounts of money by airing her<br />

dead-end, first world ‘problems’ on TV, while far more important issues<br />

are crammed into a four minute slot on late-night news. That’s the case in<br />

America, at least.<br />

What’s important to note at this point is that I’ll never ride a bandwagon<br />

purely because everyone else is on it, and neither should you. I’ve learnt to<br />

question everything in order to create an informed and justifiable opinion<br />

on whatever I may be talking about, and Kim Kardashian is no exception.<br />

For that very reason, I decided to take a deeper look into the life and times<br />

“Granted, her field is pretty much defined by being in the right place,<br />

wearing the right clothes, and laughing at the right jokes, at the right<br />

time, but that doesn’t detract from the simple fact that she owns it.”<br />

of young Kimmy, and what I concluded from that<br />

brief foray and indeed, how I feel now, may come as<br />

a shock to anyone who knows me and/or has read<br />

anything I’ve written over the past couple of years.<br />

It’s like this – I think Kim Kardashian absolutely<br />

deserves her place on our TV screens, Instagram<br />

feeds, Facebook newsfeeds and magazine covers, and<br />

here’s why:<br />

She’s not as stupid as you think.<br />

Mrs. Kardashian-West is, in fact, one of the most savvy,<br />

ingenious individuals in her ‘field’ right now. Granted,<br />

her field is pretty much defined by being in the right<br />

place, wearing the right clothes, and laughing at the<br />

right jokes, but that doesn’t detract from the simple<br />

fact that she owns it. If for one minute you think that<br />

anyone can do what she’s done as long as they have<br />

a little bit of luck and rich enough parents, let me be<br />

the first person to tell you that you’re more dumb<br />

than you think she is. There are plenty of super-rich<br />

people who would love to be in Kim’s shoes, so why<br />

aren’t more trust fund heiresses and insurance money<br />

girls marrying the biggest musicians in the world, or<br />

getting special endorsements from fashion labels like<br />

Dolce&Gabanna and Yves Saint Laurent?<br />

I’ll tell you why – they’re either not willing to work for<br />

it or they’re not thinking big enough. Kim Kardashian<br />

does both, and has for a long time. She understands<br />

her target demographic, sets high goals and pushes<br />

them out until you can’t open an internet browser<br />

without seeing her name or photo somewhere. Sure,<br />

a lot of what she does isn’t exactly the pinnacle of<br />

artistic evolution, but that’s a matter of taste more<br />

than anything else.<br />

The bottom line is that Kim K has converted a<br />

derogatory reality show start-up into an independent<br />

A-list career. She runs in her own lane and for that<br />

alone, demands respect.<br />

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