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MALE VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Informing Social ... - Amen

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If an abused man seeks help as a victim of domestic violence, the majority of society<br />

will see it as a laughable situation. Society chooses not to believe the man. This creates<br />

the feeling of guilt and shame for the male victim (Cose, 1995). Society’s view on<br />

domestic violence has been reinforced by the medias coverage of the issues surrounding<br />

domestic violence, portraying females as the only victims and males as the abusers<br />

(McKeown and Kidd, 2003).<br />

The number of reported cases of domestic violence is only a percentage of its actual<br />

occurrence within our society (Wiehe, 1998). Cook (1997) put forward the argument<br />

from his study on domestic violence that one of the main reasons for men not reporting<br />

the abuse and remaining within the relationship could be known as ‘Internal Excuses’.<br />

In other words putting off reporting or leaving their abuser, because of the belief that<br />

given time things will change.<br />

Partner/spouse abuse can take a number of forms, but the main forms of domestic<br />

violence are physical abuse, emotional/psychological abuse, sexual abuse and economic<br />

abuse (Freeman, 1979.; Gelles, 1983.; O’Leary, 1988.; Brady, 1993.; Cose, 1995.;<br />

Cooke, 1997.; Wiehe, 1998.; Cleary, 2003.; McKeown and Kidd, 2003). For many<br />

victims of domestic violence the initial reaction to the abuse is one of shock and<br />

disbelief (Brady, 1993). For male victims, one of the realities of domestic violence is<br />

that it remains hidden because of feelings of shame and guilt. Often the only people to<br />

know about the abuse are the people immediately involved (McKeown and Kidd, 2003).<br />

In Ireland the only service solely dedicated to male victims of domestic violence is<br />

<strong>Amen</strong>, located in Navan, Co. Meath. Mary Cleary founded the service in 1997. <strong>Amen</strong><br />

is an effective voluntary service that provides male victims of domestic violence with<br />

information and support in relation to legal issues, decision-making and making contact<br />

with counsellors/therapists.<br />

If a person commits a violent act against another person outside the ‘family unit’ it is<br />

considered a criminal offence by law, but if a violent act is committed against a member<br />

of the ‘family unit’ it is not, by law, a criminal offence. It is very arguable that these<br />

actions are indeed a criminal offence (Swindells, et al., 1999).<br />

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