12 <strong>The</strong> north <strong>Star</strong> <strong>Monthly</strong> <strong>March</strong> 2006On Town Meeting day wewill display, for the firsttime, our raffle item for 2006 – abeautiful log cabin quilt. Made inthe Barn Raising pattern, thequilt measures 91 x 117 inches,is reversible and will fit either aqueen- or king-size bed. Each ofthe 24 squares has been sewntogether by some of Danville’s(and one from Massachusetts’)most talented quilters.Library trustees CherylLinsley, Debbie Bixby and DianeWebster have assembled thequilt. Names of the quilters, apicture of the Pope Library andthe date are embroidered in thecorner squares on the back of thequilt. This is truly a work of art,n n n n n n n n n n n n n nAunt Dee’sCountry Store & DeliPope NotesDee Palmer,Library Directorand we will proudly show it offand sell tickets at Town Meeting.<strong>The</strong> Library will also servelunch during the noon break.Our traditional menu of ham,baked beans, coleslaw, rolls andassorted cookies and bars will beserved in the cafeteria. Ticketswill be sold during the meetingand at the entrance to the cafeteria- $8 for adults and $4 for children.Mark your calendars for ourAnnual Novel Dinner to be heldat the Creamery Restaurant onSunday, April 2. This is one ofour best and most fun fundraisingevents. If you would like tohost a table or are looking for atable to be part of contact thePhoto By: Dee PalmerPope Library trustees debbie Bixby, Cheryl Linsley and dianeWebster have assembled this Barn raising pattern quilt to be raffledto benefit the Library.Gas n Groceries n Grinders n Pizza n Megabucks & LotteryHunting & Fishing Licenses n Weigh Station n BaitUPS Agent n Creemees & SundaesCold Beverages & Deli(809) 633-2624 n 113 West Main St. n West Barnet, VTn n n nMinutes n nfrom nHarvey’s n n nLaken n n nLibrary at (802) 684-2256.We would like to acknowledgeand thank the St. JohnsburyLions Club for their generousdonation of $500. This annualcontribution allows us to supplypatrons with a first-rate collectionof large print books andaudio books. We are very gratefulfor the Lions Club support.Our book discussion for thismonth is Canoe Lake by RoyMacGregor. <strong>The</strong> discussion willtake place on Wednesday, <strong>March</strong>29 at 7:00 p.m. This discussionwill be led by members of thegroup. Come prepared with afew questions to discuss. Booksand schedules are available at theLibrary. <strong>The</strong> series is sponsoredby the Vermont HumanitiesCouncil and the Pope Library.Some of our new book acquisitionsare: Brooklyn Follies byAuster, <strong>The</strong> History of Love byKrauss, <strong>The</strong> Hostage by Griffin,Prep by Sittenfeld, runaway byMunro, Our endangered Values:America’s Moral Crisis by Carterand Speedbumps: Flooring itThrough Hollywood by Garr.Come in and check them out!Pope LibraryHoursMonday & friday10 a.m. - 5 p.m.Wednesday 9 a.m. - 7 p.m.Saturday 9:00 a.m. - noon.david Toll, M.d.Pediatrics1394 Main StreetSt. Johnsbury, VT 05819(802) 748-2348Nighthawksby Edward Hopper, 1942Two of America’s greatestartists, Winslow Homer andEdward Hopper, are the subjectsof a free slide lecture by BobManning on Saturday, <strong>March</strong> 18,2006 from 3-4:30 p.m. atCatamount Arts. Homer andHopper were realists, and bothdepicted the American scene buteach from a different perspective.Homer, 1836-1910, began hiscareer as an artist correspondentcovering our Civil War forHarper’s Weekly. His ability toquickly and accurately draw soldiersand scenes of battle wouldbenefit him greatly when heBreezing Upby Winslow Homer, 1875Bob Manning ComparesAmerican Painters WinslowHomer and Edward Hopperturned his attention to nature andanimals. We know him best forhis many paintings and watercolorsof the sea, fishing, hunting,boating, as well as images fromrural America.Hopper, 1882-1967, was apart time painter and a full timecommercial illustrator until theage of 42. From that point on, hewas able to devote all his effortsto painting. He is best known forimages of stark urban architecture,isolated Cape Cod cottages,city life and the lonelinessof human beings.Manning is an artist, art historianand retired professor of finearts. Since 2001, he has been amember of the speaker’s bureauof the Vermont HumanitiesCouncil. Catamount Arts is locatedon Eastern Avenue in St.Johnsbury. This lecture is one ofa series of history of art programsoffered by Catamount. For furtherinformation, call (802) 748-2600.REID & BALIVETATTORNEYS AT LAW"This is a lovely community!" - Cupertino CA"A pleasant stop on our auto ride through Connecticut RiverValley." - Hudson, NH"Visiting from Middlebury … this was delightful stop! Thanks!"- Middlebury, VT"This is our kind of place." - NYCFind out why St. Johnsbury is a Great American LoveStory. You'll be inspired, learn something and fall in lovewith us, too! Our new, interactive CD is available for $9.95at the following Downtown stores: Through the Woods…,Boxcar & Caboose Bookstore, Uniquity and the FairbanksMuseum Gift Shop.Contact us at St. Johnsbury Worksfor ordering information.(802) 748-7121 or stjworks@kingcon.comERNEST TOBIAS BALIVETJUDITH A. SALAMANDRA CORSODANVILLE GREEN w DANVILLE, VT w (802) 684-3666DaNVIlle SeRVICe CeNteRRoute 2, Danville Village 684-3481Offers you our 12th AnnualSweet Dealfor this Maple SeasonBring your car or light truck in during the month of<strong>March</strong> and we will change your oil* and filter, lubechassis... plus safety check your brakes, exhaustsystem, lights and drive train. (*up to 5 quarts)Only $19.95HOURS: 7-5 Mon. thru Fri. w 8-1 Sat. w Mechanic on Duty<strong>The</strong>CreameryRestaurantLunchTues.-Fri. 11:30-2:00DinnerTues.-Sat. 5:00-closingPubOpens at 4:00(802) 684-3616Closed Sundays & MondaysSt. Patrick’s DayDance onFriday, <strong>March</strong> 17with Hidden Drive
Dear Shrinks,Soon after we were married Ithought my husband was having anaffair with a woman in his office.After a lot of arguments, fightingand crying he finally convinced meI was wrong. Since then 11 yearshave passed and we’ve been mostlyvery happy. Now I’ve startedthinking he’s having an affairagain. I really don’t want to gothrough all that pain again, but Iwill if you think it’s necessary.<strong>The</strong> evidence is that “Don” isspending more and more eveninghours at the office. I know this is abusy time for his business, but he isaway more evenings than everbefore and I am pretty well consumedwith terrible fantasies ofDon with different women. ShouldI confront Don with my suspicions?Sick with worryDear Sick with Worry,First, it must be clear to youthat we can’t know from the factsthat you have told us whether ornot Don is having an affair. Itseems to both of us that your evidenceof an affair is very thin,which is not the same as sayingDon is innocent.However, we have some guesseswe’d like to share. We think youprobably need more time and moreGreat BeerGourmet PizzaOpen Friday & Saturday11 am - 9 pmRoute 5, Lyndonville, VT(802) 626-9396Dussault’sHeatingSalesServiceInstallationw<strong>The</strong>rmo Pride FurnaceswPeerless BoilersBox 301St. Johnsbury, VT 05819(802) 748-494524 hour serviceAsk the ShrinksAlice S. Kitchel and Burton Zahlerattention from Don. If this is true,we’d like to suggest you sit downwith a pencil and paper and writedown how much more time wouldwork best for you. Be as specific asyou can. Try to be realistic. By thiswe mean let yourself realize thatthere is a limit (for everyone) tohow much time and attention canbe tolerated. <strong>The</strong>re can be toomuch of a good thing!We suggest you speak withDon about your writings. See whatcomes from that discussion beforesharing your fantasies with him.<strong>The</strong>re is something else we’dlike you to think about. It seems tous that you have a tendency to triangulate.By this we mean that youtend to see problems in terms ofthree figures: Eleven years ago thethree figures were you, Don andthe unknown woman. Now onceagain the same three figuresappear. We call this tendency a“set” and think of it as a perceptualpredisposition. Here is an exampleof a set that we are all familiarwith: After someone points out theseven stars and calls them the BigDipper we always formulate thosestars into the Dipper. We haveformed a set. If you grow up in afamily where the grownups tend tosee problems in the form of triangleswe learn to do, to see, thesame.Soon after we weremarried I thoughtmy husband washaving an affairwith a woman inhis office.Another way to understandyour probable tendency to triangulateis to think of it as an unconsciouspattern of perception andbehavior that you learned (throughexample) from your past. Forexample, if your mother alwayscelebrated a family member’sbirthday with a dinner party andcake on the exact date of the birth,without fail, you might “automatically”want to do the same, or it<strong>The</strong> north <strong>Star</strong> <strong>Monthly</strong> <strong>March</strong> 2006 13wouldn’t feel as if you had reallycelebrated.We think that you may haveunconsciously learned triangulationas a set or pattern, and thatwhen you experience your circumstancesas a problem, you tend toexpress that problem as a difficulttriangle of some sort.It seems to us that you have anissue with Don - the issue of wantingmore time and attention withhim. It isn’t necessary to have anyintellectual pursuits withouttests, papers or grades!Osher lifelong learning institutein St. Johnsbury OffersSpring 2006 Series Featuring: Communityu Thursday, <strong>March</strong> 9 at 1:30 p.m.LSC, Alexander Twilight <strong>The</strong>aterPaleolithic Expression and Social Order: <strong>The</strong> Meaning Behind the Cave Paintings of Europe, Part 1with Bill Eddyu Thursday, <strong>March</strong> 16 at 1:30 p.m.LSC, Alexander Twilight <strong>The</strong>aterPaleolithic Expression and Social Order: <strong>The</strong> Meaning Behind the Cave Paintings of Europe, Part 2with Bill Eddyu Thursday, <strong>March</strong> 23 at 1:30 p.m.Catamount Arts, Eastern AvenueVictorian Vermont: Lectures and slides with Kevin Graffagninou Thursday, <strong>March</strong> 30 at 1:30 p.m.St. Johnsbury House, Main Street<strong>The</strong> Earliest Vermonters with State Archaeologist Giovanna Peeblesu Thursday, April 6 at 1:30 p.m.Fairbanks Museum, Main StreetHow Artifacts Reflect Life in Early Vermont with Peggy Pearlu Thursday, April 13 at 1:30 p.m. St. Johnsbury Center Grange Hall, US RT 5Vermont <strong>The</strong>ater Curtain Project: Art By the Yard with Michael Shermanu Thursday, April 20 at 1:30 p.m.St. Johnsbury House, Main StreetTemples and Tigers: Village life in rural India with Charles Woodsu Thursday, April 27 at 3:00 p.m. (NOTE TIME CHANGE) St. Johnsbury House, Main StreetHumanitarian Work Among Watha Villages Along the Kenyan Coast in Africa with Janet Bennionu Thursday, May 4 at 1:30 p.m.St. Johnsbury House, Main StreetShape Note Singing: Elke Schumann, co-founder of the Bread and Puppet <strong>The</strong>ater, will join withthe <strong>North</strong>east Kingdom Shape Note singers to talk about and sing tunes from this lively anddeeply rooted music.u Thursday, May 11 at 1:30 p.m.St. Johnsbury House, Main StreetReflections on Community:with panelists Charlie Browne, Bill Eddy, Jenny Green and Joan Tyler Mead.other figure in the problem, neitheranother woman nor Don’s job.Being mindful of your possiblepredilection to triangulate, seewhether going through the penciland paper exercise and the discussionwith Don resolves this issuefor you. Good luck, we have ahunch that it will.Alice S. Kitchel and BurtonZahler each have a private practicein St. Johnsbury.another Peacham road PoemOnce in early spring when I was walking the Peacham Road.Faint mutters of barking sounds kept growing louder —Sure enough, far above on my right, the first geeseof the season were flying north.A glance around verified no other humans in sightSo I jumped up and down on the Peacham Road,Waving my arms and hollering“Welcome back! I’m awful glad to see you!”Would you believe, the entire VSuddenly veered to the left and continued their flightRight over my head?<strong>The</strong>y did.Never in all my life have I felt so honored.Ann StaffeldIndividuals pay $40 membership fee, which covers cost of all 10 sessions. Non-members may attend individuallectures for a donation of $5. For membership information or additional information about theOsher Lifelong Learning Institute in St. Johnsbury call (802) 626-5135.discussion will follow each program.Funding is provided by the University of Vermont, the Osher Foundation and the Vermont Council on the Humanities.