One Smile Issue 2

OneSmileinspire | ignite | illuminateEDUCATIONOUTSIDE THECLASSROOMThe Tongariro CrossingIssue 02 June/July 2011www.onesmile.co$ 7.00SWIMMINGWITH DOLPHINSThe day the Spotted Dolphins cameto swim with usJEREMY BROCKIEOneSmile talks to All WhiteJeremy Brockie

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OneSmileinspire | ignite | illuminateEDITOR/PUBLISHER: Catrin Jackstiescatrin.jacksties@onesmile.coEditor’s LetterART DIRECTOR: Ina Schulze Steinendesign@onesmile.coEDITORIAL ENQUIRIESContact: Catrin Jackstieseditor@onesmile.coCONTRIBUTORS THIS ISSUE:Caroline Crick, Dian Edmondson, JoyKachina, Julie Nevin, Amy C. McComb,Joan Ocean, Marilyn Greenfield, LauraRaduenz, Bruce Rawles, MarianneCastle, Elayne Lane, Carol Taplin,Lorraine Hockley, Erik Roeper, LyndaBoertjens, Yvonne Tait, K. J. Belcher,Jennifer Manson, Ian A Williams, SwamiMuktidharma, Rama, Akasha, René ArcherADVERTISING AND SPONSORSHIPadvertising@onesmile.coPhone +64 (0)21 236 7628SUBSCRIPTION:subs@onesmile.coReader submissions toinfo@onesmile.coCONTACT US:47 Grove Street, Nelson 7010Phone +64 (0)21 236 7628Email: catrin.jacksties@onesmile.cowww.facebook.com/OneSmileMagazinewww.twitter.com/OneSmileMagazineOneSmile is published bi-monthly byOne Smile LtdPRINTING: Copy PressWWW.ONESMILE.COOneSmile (ISSN 2230-3367 and ISSN2230-3405) is subject to copyright inits entirety. The contents may not bereproduced in any form in whole or part,without prior written permission of thepublisher. All rights reserved in materialaccepted for publication, unless initiallyspecified otherwise.Opinions expressed by contributors arenot necessarily those of OneSmile.Please pass on, compost or recyclethis magazineOneSmile is printed using offset stockwith FSC-certified mixed source pulpfrom well-managed forests and othercontrolled sources. www.fsc.orgTwo months have passed since the firstissue of OneSmile, and the journeycontinues.I have been overwhelmed with yourcomments, contributions and supportfor the magazine and would like to saya big thank you to you all. Keep yourfeedback coming.I had a most profound experiencea few weeks after the first issue wasreleased, when I was walking on thebeach with a friend of mine. I havea favourite spot when the tide is outwhere I engage in a little ritual. WhenI did it that day I saw something inthe water that looked like a log. ThenI realized it was dolphins in a big podcoming in with the tide for a goodfeed. My heart jumped with joy andit felt like I was a child watching everysingle fin cruising in and exclaiming“another one “over and over. I wantedto swim out and be with them. Onlymy common sense, and my friend’sremarks about how cold it was and howfar out they were, stopped me frompursuing my desire.I came home elated and with a greatfeeling of being connected. I did someresearch on this amazing creature. Ifwe can learn one lesson from dolphinsit could be a key to the survival of ourcivilization. In today’s hectic, dog eatdog world, the dolphin community mayjust offer a few lessons that we couldtake the time to learn.Dolphins are cooperative andplayful. Their inner societies or podsexist under extremely dangerousconditions only because of thecloseness and support the membersoffer to one another. In the world ofthe dolphin, members care for andprotect each other. Dolphins arecreatures of socialization just as we are.There’s a saying “it takes a village toraise a child”. In the past our societyreflected this concept, but today aswe find ourselves spreading furtherapart from each other, the answerto our problems is perhaps to comecloser. The pod concept that protectsdolphins could very well be the idealthat could protect our families and ourcommunities.I feel it is all about making choices,whether it is about choosing a product,a service or a company to do businesswith, the group of friends I engagewith, whether I see a glass half fullor half empty, or any of the otherhundreds of choices we make each day.I for one want to become moreaware of the consequences of mychoices and consider that for my futuredecisions.What do you choose today?CatrinOn the coverPhotography:Joy KachinaCover Story page 6

ContentsFEATURESEXPERIENCES6EDUCATION OUTSIDE THE CLASSROOMThe Tongariro Crossing6 EDUCATION OUTSIDE THE CLASSROOMThe Tongariro Crossing14 SWIMMING WITH DOLPHINSThe day the Spotted Dolphins cameto swim with us20 DOLPHINS AND THE POWEROF THEIR SOUNDSWhat can dolphins teach us?32 A DUBLIN DAYBuskers, Joyce and the sudden Irish rainKNOWLEDGE14SWIMMING WITH DOLPHINSSpotted dolphins came to swim with us13 HOW DO YOU LEARNDid you know there are different learning styles?18 CANINE COMMUNICATIONWhat our dog is trying to tell us28 INCLUSIONThe Hermetic Law of Correspondenceand the Vesica Piscis38 THE 7 TRUTHSOF LIBERATING LEADERSHIPLeadership is governed from the heartPROFILE22JEREMY BROCKIEOneSmile talks to All White Jeremy Brockie24 JEREMY BROCKIEOneSmile talks to All White Jeremy Brockie53 LIVING THE DREAM,being a writer in FranceJennifer Manson tells us how she did it

HOLISTIC WELLBEING22 THE SUMMER HAS ENDEDLook ahead to spring34 WINTER – A TIME TO HIBERNATESlow your flow40 ACCEPTANCE -THE ART OF LIVING IN THE PRESENTFinding contentment and fulfillment44 CRANESBILLA winter tonic herb45 HOW TO CREATE A MAGICAL DAYChoose to create your special day46 PURPLE CONE FLOWERYour defence against viral andbacterial attacks42INSPIRATION26 WHO DO YOU WANT TO BEThe power of now36 WEAVING KINDNESSGet on the merry-go-round42 MOTHERHOOD - THE BIG TWO-OHRiding the roller coaster as your children grow18HEALTHY FOOD51 ORGASMIC BLUEBERRY PIEIndulgent baking52 CONSCIOUS COOKIESGuilt free treatsFICTION AND ART5245 BOOK REVIEWEmerald Atlas, John Stephens48 A JOURNEY OF SELF DISCOVERYMoonlight Art – painting from the heart50 POEMOn My Table There Are Whispers54 INVENTORPart 1 of Jennifer Manson’s serialised novel40

outsideEducation The Tongariro Crossingthe Classroomby Dian EdmondsonTeacher, Nelson College Preparatory SchoolPhotography by Joy Kachinawww.onesmile.co

Taking forty-three Year 8boys from Nelson CollegePreparatory School to do theTongariro Crossing gavethem many valuable learningexperiences. They had theopportunity to learn aboutmanaging themselves; relatingto others; participatingand contributing; realisingcultural and spiritual values;stepping outside their comfortzone; being safe in an Alpineenvironment; performing apowhiri; experiencing a nighton a Marae; learning aboutthe geology of the region andappreciating a World Heritagepark.Within the classroomAs part of our Science unit the boyslearnt about land forms and tectonicplates within the context of TongariroNational Park. Our literacy componentcovered the language, features andformat of a brochure. Given a budgetof $500, they had to create a realisticpamphlet that promoted the TongariroCrossing and included information onaccommodation, meals and activitieswithin the confines of TongariroNational Park.The boys also studied the cultural andspiritual values of the World HeritagePark. They researched the significanceof a World Heritage Park and gainedan understanding of the gifting ofTongariro by the Ngati Tuwharetoachief, Te-Heuheu, to the people of NewZealand.Outside the ClassroomPerforming our school Haka just belowthe highest point of the TongariroCrossing was one of the highlights forthe boys, teachers, parent helpers andperhaps also the onlookers.We left Nelson for Picton onMonday 16th November. We stayedat a backpackers in Wellington beforeheading off on the five hour drive toTongariro National Park.As luck would have it we were givenan extraordinary bus driver. Tama’sgreat, great, grandfather Te-Rauparahacomposed the haka on MotuopuhiaIsland in Lake Rotoaira-Turangi. Hegave the whole group an insight intohis ancestors and taught us the correctprotocol to perform when visiting aMarae. Tama coached the boys duringtheir haka practices, helping them polishand enliven their performances.The boys learnt about the history ofthe haka and the stories behind it. Theyperformed a Mihi and two haka on theKoraunui Marae. They also learnt toappreciate the value of another culturewithin the context of a Marae.www.onesmile.co

We visited the Waiouru War Museumen-route to National Park. As we hadcompleted a unit on War during Term2, this was another significant learningexperience for the boys. The WarMuseum educators were fantastic.Their informative and passionate storiescaptivated our students. From thesignificance of the Victoria Cross to theconfines of trench warfare, they had theboy’s full attention.We then headed to National Parkfor three days of exploration, with theTongariro Crossing as our main event.We had a two day weather-windowopen to us to complete this incrediblewalk. The boys were informed on all theaspects of the Crossing route and hadregular physical training at home beforethe trip.Our first day saw them mountainbiking, climbing and doing a guidedtour of Chateau Tongariro and theRuapehu Visitors’ Centre. While theweather was wet, cold and windy, it didnot stop the boys from having a greattime. They absolutely loved gettingfilthy while out on the bikes. Warmshowers greeted them on their return.The weather was looking good forour crossing with a forecast of clear bluesky and light winds. We had a meetingwith our safety officer/guide; correctclothing, food and water was the orderof the day.On the day of the crossing we woketo low cloud and mist with a promiseof blue sky around 10am. About 30www.onesmile.co

minutes into the walk to Soda Springsthe cloud lifted and there, appearingin the distance, to the gasps of delightfrom the boys, was the majestic snowcappedpeak of Mount Ngauruhoe.We then headed up the Devil’sStaircase. This had changed since I lastclimbed the mountain with boardwalksand steps replacing the rocky track Iremembered. After about an hour we allreached the saddle with stunning viewsover the valley below and across toMt Ngauruhoe. No wind and blue sky.A group shot with the mountain in thebackground followed morning tea.We then headed along the track tothe South Crater as low lying cloudappeared along with a slight wind. Atthe base we rugged up ready for thecold southerly that suddenly blew inas we climbed to the top of the craterrim. High winds here have sent manytrampers back, so we were glad theydidn’t kick up too much. As we reachedthe Red Crater the views of the BlueLake and Emerald Lakes below us wereamazing. A ten minute descent throughscoria was a highlight as the boysraced down to the lakes for a muchanticipated lunch break.After lunch the boys performeda haka by the Emerald Lakes. Thattingle which reassures a teacher thatreal learning is happening ran up myspine. We were all inspired and movedwitnessing the passion and spirit inwhich they delivered their haka.We then headed to theKetetahi Hut while playingin scattered drifts of snow.A snowball fight was thehighlight as the boyswww.onesmile.co

“I want to work withkids in this environment.I am thinking ofbecoming a teacher.”enjoyed pelting one of their teachers.The view over Lake Taupo and thevalley below were spectacular. A steepdecent into beech forest with the soundof the river flowing overboulders reminded usthat we were close tocompleting the 19.5kmhike.One of the boysexclaimed, “I want to work with kidsin this environment. I am thinking ofbecoming a teacher.”This was a successful trip that willno doubt become part of our outdoorcurriculum for our Year 8 students.10 www.onesmile.co

Tongariro FactsOriginally gifted to the people of New Zealand on23 september 1887Tongariro National Park has increased from theoriginal 2640 hectares to about 79,598 hectaresThe Tongariro was the first National Park formedin New Zealand and the fourth in the worldThe National Park is centred on three activevolcanoes: Tongariro, Ruapehu and NgauruhoeNgauruhoe erupted on average every nine yearsuntil 1975Mt Ruapehu is the highest point in the NorthIsland (2797 metres)Approximately a million people visit TongariroNational Park each year, with summer visitors nowoutnumbering winter visitorsSource: The Department of ConservationA big thank you to all the parent helpers,particularly my colleague Glenn Bussell, forbeing a team player, and to Joy Kachina forcapturing the wonderful moments on film.www.onesmile.co 11

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HOW DOYOU LEARN?Julie Nevin explains the different types of learningstyles – and how they affect a student’s ability to learn.“It’s a huge challenge, both as ateacher and a coach, to communicatein different ways to meet the needsof your student.”“No,” he said, “I don’t enjoy school very much.” He shot aquick glance at me. Was I upset? I smiled.“Let me guess,” I suggested. “The best part of your dayat school is lunchtime. Your favourite subjects are science,sports, technology and the arts. But most of the day is takenup with reading, writing and maths, and you hate it.” Like alot of boys, I thought.Now, finally, he smiled, a sad, crooked smile. “I just try toget through every day,” he said.“Have you heard about kinaesthetic learning?” I asked,hoping to give him a ray of light. He rolled his eyes, gave ahuge heaving shrug of his shoulders, then scowled a perfectteenage scowl and said, “Whatever.”I guessed I had pressed a button. I waited.“Yeah, I’m a kinaesthetic learner, I learn by doing, I needto use my hands and move things around, get into theexperience. So what?”“I bet that after your teacher told you about kinaestheticlearning, he or she continued to teach the same way asbefore. How about we come up with a plan to make thingseasier? There’s a lot you can do to help.”I am a visual learner and I struggle to imagine what life asa kinesthetic learner is like for many students. I imaginemyself trying to fix a car engine without either a diagram ora manual or being able to watch a mechanic. I imagine anauditory learner trying to fight a fire or plant a vegetablegarden or throw a pot without first being told how orbeing able to talk to an expert about it. It would be reallyhard for us to ‘just do it’ successfully, but that is just whenkinaesthetic learners thrive.It’s a huge challenge, both as a teacher and a coach, tocommunicate in different ways to meet the needs of yourstudent. Their learning style is only one of a host of waysthat people interact with the world and in their heads. Ifyou are in the position of teaching someone, whether as amanager, parent or friend, it’s a good place to start.Visual LearnersEncourage a visual learner to make lots of symbols andpictures in their notes. Charts and graphs and mind mapsare excellent tools for them. Visual learners learn best whenthey start out with the big picture, so having an overviewand scanning a text is useful.Try using words and phrases like – is that clear, lookinggood, another perspective, do you see, bright/darkAuditory LearnersListening to lectures, examples and stories and repeatinginformation are great ways for auditory learners to learn.They like tape recorders, songs and talking about new ideas,including to themselves. Some auditory learners like to listento music while they study, while others find it distracting.Try using words and phrases like – sounds good, I hear that,listen, talk with me, discuss, loud/quiet, shout/whisperKinesthetic LearnersThese learners like lots of hands-on projects and skits,and memorise information best through associating eachconcept to a movement. They often prefer to sit on the floorand spread their work around them.Try using words and phrases like – I get the feeling, doesthat make sense, get in touch, rough patch, pretty smooth,could get hot, cold feet.Recommended ReadingQuantum Learningby Bobbi De Porter with Mike HernackiFor communicating to a group with a range oflearning styles, check out Take Aim’s presentationseminar – Target Presenting.www.takeaim.co.nzwww.onesmile.co 13

Swimming withdolphinsThis is a story about the Spotted Dolphins ofHawaii. It was usually the Spinner Dolphinswhich swam with us along the Kona coastof the Big Island. But on March 9, 1999, theSpotted Dolphins came to swim with us.by Joan Ocean,Dolphin Connection International, HawaiiPhotography by Joy KachinaDusky Dolphins atplay, Kaikoura,New Zealand14 www.onesmile.co

This isa story about the SpottedDolphins of Hawaii. It was usually the SpinnerDolphins which swam with us along the Kona coast of theBig Island. But on March 9, 1999, the Spotted Dolphins came toswim with us.Before that day in March 1999, I would often meet the Spotted Dolphins when Itraveled by boat to see them, three to five miles out to sea. It was always exciting to seethe Spotted Dolphins out there in the deep water, because they appeared in numbers of upto a thousand, filling the ocean’s surface with their presence. Unlike the Spinner Dolphins, theydid not move as a tightly packed pod, but spread out across the open water. As far as you couldlook in all directions you would see them. Instead of spinning in the air in the way of Spinner Dolphins,the Spotted Dolphins hurled themselves diagonally out of the water and travelled laterally long distancesin the air, sometimes appearing to be competing among themselves to see who could remain airbornethe longest. Often their flights brought them as high as the upper deck of our boat, 15 to 18 feet above theocean. I loved watching them soar as they work their flukes in mid-air, giving themselves extra seconds of flight.They were motionless, out of the water, while time stood still.We cheered and applauded their talents and then went for a swim. In that deep water location, the SpottedDolphins were on the move and although a few would stop to play momentarily, they were mostly too busyto stop for long. Nevertheless it was a pleasure to see them go speeding by. The white tips on their rostrumscould be seen first as they approached us, and then the rest of their speckledbodies came into view. I always thought of them as the clowns of the oceanbecause of their white noses and curious nature that made them cranetheir necks to the left or the right to keep looking back at us whilethey continued to swim forward. Watching them made melaugh, and brought everyone so much joy. It was a treat tooccasionally come upon them in the deep waters.And then March 9, 1999 arrived and much to mysurprise and initial disbelief, I watched a podof approximately 150 Spotted Dolphinsswimming toward shore along the KonaCoast in the areas usually frequentedby the Spinner Dolphins. I wasconducting seminars on“We cheered andapplauded theirtalents and thenwent for a swim.www.onesmile.co 15

“Watching them”makes me laugh.boatsat that time and day afterday we met the Spotted Dolphins along thecoastline. Sometimes there were 200, sometimesonly a small group of 25. It was a very exciting fewweeks as we began to see them regularly.The Spinner Dolphins are very sedate, streamlinedand pod oriented. Usually they will stay together andall play with you or all not, depending on what they aredoing on any given day. They surface and dive togetherand are so beautiful and graceful to watch and swimamong. The adults are mostly gentle and genteel.In comparison, the Spotted Dolphins took me and otherswimmers by surprise every time they appeared. From out ofnowhere they would suddenly be at our sides, turning to lookinto our eyes, stretching their necks in a curious supple way. Oftenthey had their mouths open as they chattered and cavorted aroundus, chasing each other. Time after time they startled us, coming upfrom behind, very close to us and appearing a bit reckless as theycareened towards us and away in a burst of activity and excitement. Thenthey returned to twirl around us again, begging us to dive and somersaultamong them. When we did, their joy was contagious. It was exactly what theywanted. Their staccato quacking sounds revealed their approval!I noticed that the Spotted Dolphins made more bubble rings from their blowholes then the Spinner Dolphins. Theplayful Spotted Dolphins also sonared small fish hiding under the sand below and used their noses to burrow intothe sand to dig them out. It was a very amusing sight to see their entire rostrums buried in a cloud of sand thatchurns upward and conceals their eyes and head, while their bodies wiggle back and forth with the effort to digdeeper!I couldn’t help but wonder if the Spinner Dolphins had been communicating to the Spotted Dolphinsabout the good times and connections to be had with these gentle, loving swimmers, encouragingthe Spotted Dolphins to join the fun with us in the shallow waters.Since then we’ve continued to see the Spotted Dolphins regularly swimming amongthe northern and southern pods of Spinner Dolphins. We are always pleased torecognize their white noses and curved dorsal fins among the Spinnerpods. I rarely see them in the deep waters any more. They havebecome coastal dolphins during the day, just likethe Spinner Dolphins are. Their16 www.onesmile.co

feedingand sleeping schedulesare now similar to those of the SpinnerDolphins.In 2001 another new development took place-- the Spotted Dolphins and Spinner Dolphinsbegan mating with each other in these coastalwaters. I have seen some of the babies of thisunion, and they are precious. Swimming witha sleek Spinner mom, I’ve seen a chubby littlebaby without the three color characteristics of theSpinner Dolphins, a baby that is larger, lighter incolor and has a white nose. These babies seem moreadventurous then the Spinner babies, less inclined tostay at Mom’s side. I often wonder what the Spinnermom thinks of that! And we wonder what to call thesehybrids: Sponners or Spitteds?You can distinguish the Spotted Dolphins by the unevenblack and white coloring along the lips or edges of themouth, the darker color on their back is rounded like a cape,their eyes are more prominent and their dorsal fin is falcateor more curved than the Spinner Dolphins’ are.More infos under: www.joanocean.comTop 12 Facts about Dolphins1. Dolphins are mammals.Like all mammals, dolphins nursetheir young from mammaryglands.2. Dolphins can swim up to 260 m.below the surface of the ocean.However they are mainly shallowdivers as they need to reach thesurface to breathe.3. Dolphins can stay up to 15minutes under water.They only do this occasionallyas they usually stay only a fewminutes diving before reachingthe surface for air.4. Dolphins use a technique calledecholocation.This technique uses the sameprinciples of a radar, and it isused to find food and navigate.5. Dolphins are social beings.Dolphins live in groups andcooperate among each other foractivities like getting food andcalf raising.6. Dolphins are Ceteceans.There are 32 species of oceandolphin and 5 species of riverdolphin.7. The largest dolphin is the Orca,also known as “killer whale”.Orcas grow up to 6.1 meters longand they are known as whalesbecause their size, but they reallybelong to the toothed ceteceanfamily.8. The most popular dolphin is the“bottlenose dolphin”.Bottlenose dolphins are the oneswe have seen in tv series, moviesand aquatic shows. Bottlenosedolphins can grow up to 2.5–2.8meters long.9. Dolphins are warm-blooded,their internal temperature isaround 36 degrees. To conservethis temperature they aresurrounded by a thick layer of fatcalled “blubber” just below theskin.10. The bottlenose dolphin’s brainweighs 1500–1600 grams,while average human brainweighs 1200–1300 grs accordingto scientists. This is notconclusive evidence of dolphinintelligence.11. Dolphins can make a uniquesignature whistle that may helpindividual dolphins recognizeeach other, collaborate andperform several other kinds ofcommunication.12. Dolphins can swim 5 to 12kilometres per hour, and thefastest dolphins can reachup to 32 km/h.Source: www.dolphins-world.comwww.onesmile.co 17

CanineCommunicationby Marianne CastleMarianne CastleMember of the Association of Pet Dog Trainers NZPrinciples of Canine Behaviour, Massey University 1993Understanding the Canine/Human Interface (Distinction)Animal Care College, UK 1996Canine Good Citizen Instructor, Delta Society, NSW 199728 years practical experienceContact: phone (03) 539 1145 mobile 021 0266 7677Isn’t it funny how we humans, with our wonderful bondwith our dogs, often say, “Oh, if only they could talk”. Andisn’t it funny that really, it’s the last thing in the world wewant? Maybe what we really mean is, if only they couldcommunicate with us.We’re in luck; they do! Dogs are the masters of bodylanguage and they use it well. They know instinctivelyhow to read others of their own species and they’re prettysharp when it comes to understanding their human owners.Wouldn’t it be great to do our canine friends a favour by18 www.onesmile.co

learning how to read their signals? We’d gain a betterunderstanding of each other and by doing so we can enrichour relationships with our dogs.Can you tell when your dog has had enough hugging?Does his weight shift away from you? Do his eyes begin totake on a ‘glare’?Do you recognise the signs of a dogapology? Do you know how to apologiseto your dog in a way he understands? Thiswill differ depending on the individual’spersonality.Do you know why your dog looks awaywhen you tell him off? He’s not beingrude and ignoring you. In fact, quite theopposite. Your good pooch is being very polite and isoffering an appeasement gesture. When that is coupled withlip licking he desperately wants to calm the situation down.Ever notice your dog yawning? He’s trying to tell yousomething. Yawning certainly could indicate that your dog istired, but it could also mean a whole host of other emotions.A dog that yawns might be stressed, tense or anxious. Dogsalso yawn as message of “peace” toward another dog actingaggressively towards them, which often serves to break theaggressive behavior. In turn, a dominant dog might yawn ata fearful dog to show him that there is no threat.As with all body languages, both human and canine, weneed to be aware of putting our interpretations in the rightcontext. Awaken your observation skills and watch, look andlearn.Ever notice your dog shaking? I mean the kind of shakinga dog does when they shake water off themselves. Have youever noticed that they do that when they’re not even wet! Hemay have wanted to ‘shake off’ whatever just occurred andmove on.A tail that is held highand stiff while wagging inshort movements indicatesdominance and a warning,or threat, to back off.We all know that a tail-wagging dog is a happy dog, right?Not necessarily! Humans who think a dog that’s wagginghis tail is happy and playful can get themselves into a lot oftrouble. Tail wags have many different meanings, dependingon the position of the tail and the way it is wagging. Forexample, a tail that is held high and stiff while wagging inshort movements indicates dominanceand a warning, or threat, to back off. Adog might use such a wag, for example,if he feels someone is trying to take hisfood or toy.Learning and observing a dog’s bodylanguage doesn’t just stop at your owndog. Get to know how to look at allsorts of different breeds. Then when your dog interactswith another you’ll learn to recognise who your dog likesor dislikes and whether a ‘dust up’ is a genuine fight or justa harmless tiff. Or even to simply get a better look at yourdog’s relationship with their best doggy pals.Each year, millions of dogs end up at shelters. Many ofthose dogs are brought in by people who insist that the dogbit “without warning” or “suddenly” became aggressive.This is almost never true. Rather, it is a case of a lack ofunderstanding by the human of what the dog has beentrying to tell them.Unfortunately, it is the dog that pays for this lack ofcommunication – sometimes with his life. This could becompletely avoided if we as pet owners learned to betterunderstand what our dogs are trying to tell us.Taking the time to understand dog communication willdeepen your bond with your canine pals and avoid a lot ofstress and misunderstanding.So please, take the time. Your dog will notice and willthank you.Friendly greeting, both big dogs have soft low body posture.Good cheek to cheek greeting by big dog and small dog.Watch out though, that small dog’s tail is very tense and high.Note the play bow by the dog on top. Dog on bottomhas body in relaxed ‘C’ curve. Their teeth are showingbut this is all friendly healthy play.

The dolphins and thepowerof theirSoundsby Joan Ocean,Dolphin Connection International, HawaiiPhotography by Joy KachinaDusky Dolphins at play, Kaikoura, New ZealandFor many years dolphins have beenteaching me about the power of theirsounds in the ocean.• They have directed their sounds to me from a distance totest my hearing.• They have experimented with high whistles and lowchortles.• They have faced me full-on and sonared me until I feel thefrequency in my medulla* center.• They speak into my hydrophones, teaching me aboutsounds that affect humans.• They have leapt into the air and sent their sounds to me inmy boat while they are airborne.• They have taken me deep into the ocean, side by side,and when we are 50 feet down and skimming the sandthey have sent a piercing tone into my entire body.• They talk to me with invisible frequencies that enter theintelligence in my cells and communicate their messages.• They send me acoustic holographic pictures.• They have taught me to locate them in the ocean bysending out my own sonar and sensitively recognizing theirimprint in the ocean.• They have taught me the difference between their playingtones, their travelling tones, their nursery group songs andtheir feeding sounds.• They have responded to my vibrational song that I singthrough my snorkel.• They have responded to my attempts to mimic theirsounds.• They have taught me to communicate by making highpitched sounds while simultaneously feeling my love forthem and speaking/thinking my wishes to them.• They confirm my ability to do this by responding to mythoughts and requests.• They are able to read the personality and soul frequencyof each individual swimmer. The dolphins then sendinformation to people in a vibration that is understandableto that particular person.* The Medulla Oblongata:the widening continuationof the spinal cord, formingthe lowest part of the brain.It contains the nerve centresthat control breathing andcirculation.20 www.onesmile.co

I have experienced the power ofthe dolphins’ sounds as I take peoplewho are ill to meet the dolphins in theocean; as I take children dying to meetthe dolphins; as I swim with women whohave been abused; women who arepregnant and people who are searchingfor a new life. The dolphins help thosewho are sick, emotionally drained andtraumatized. I have seen it happenthousands of times.My college degrees are in Psychologyand Science. I am a scientist who isfascinated by the transformative effectsdolphins have on swimmers. Now,as I work with Elaine Thompson, aVibrational Healer from England. Weare able to document the effects ofthese dolphin sounds on people. It hasbecome clear that dolphins are helpingpeople to become whole. It is a naturaltrait of the dolphins to do this witheveryone they meet in the ocean. Thisis one reason why they ask people toenter their water environment and swimwith them there (where frequenciestravel six times faster than in the air).They care about us. The dolphins trulycare about humanity.The dolphins which swim with usassist those who seek them out. It issecond nature for them. They do itamong themselves. During my HawaiianSeminars, the dolphins will sound us.We have recorded the changes in ourvibrational frequencies before andafter our ocean-swimming encounters.People who were lacking in certaintones and notes were able to releasethe blocks and resonate their fullspectrum of frequencies again. Thismajor shift in blocked energies leads toimmediate feelings of joy and bliss.I look forward to sharing theirwisdom with you as we sitand talk in circle together…becoming a pod of people in theway of the dolphin pods.Research by:Joan Ocean, M.S.Dolphin Connection InternationalPost Office Box 102Captain Cook, Hawaii96704 USATRAVEL TIPHumpback Whales of the South Pacificwith Joan Ocean in Tahiti, French PolynesiaSeptember 10–16, 2011September 17–23, 2011Our gentle close encounters in the Pacific with themagnificent whales have been the best days of our lives.Now we are dreaming to be again with the whales ofAntarctica on the beautiful Polynesian island of Rurutu.We would like to meet them in mid-September, 2011. If youthink you are interested in being one of the ten people whowill accompany us, please contact.Dolphin Connection Office:Phone/Fax: 808-323-8000 Email: joan@joanocean.comwww.onesmile.co 21

The summerhas endedby Marilyn GreenfieldLife Coach22 www.onesmile.co

Marilyn Greenfieldwww.activatedliving.comThe summer has ended and as we head into thecolder months, our short term goals change.We tend to focus on indoor activities. Some of us lookforward to hours beside the fire with a good book.Others enjoy the company of our friends and heartwarming dinners.I was wondering about myexpectations for spring. What mayhave changed in my life by then,how it may have expanded and if mywaistline may have also! Is it inevitable,I wondered, that I should put on a fewkilos every winter and then struggleover summer to lose them again?Our expectations shape our reality,they become our future. The power ofvisualization is well documented. Aswe think about spring, we can createa picture of how we would like ourlives to look like by then. Our careerand finances, health and fitness,relationships, and lifestyle as a whole.Through my coaching I havelearned many strategies that helpset and achieve outstanding goals.But, coaching is as much about theemotional journey as it is about takingyour life up to a new level. What bettertime than winter to take myself throughsuch a nurturing gateway. I’m going toshare my strategies with you.1. GET OUTSIDE EVERY DAYOn a bright sunny day the light isregistered at around 80,000 lux. On acloudy day it may drop to 7,000 lux. Abright office may have as much as 400lux and a well-lit home less than 200 lux.By getting outside for a minimumof 20 minutes a day it has been foundwe are less anxious, less tired, lessdepressed and crave carbohydratesless.It has been found that a stretch ofcloudy weather can trigger a morenoticeable dip in our mood than PMS.Getting outside is vital.2. TAKE A 20-MINUTE BRISK WALKEACH DAYThis is easy to do outside most days.I once heard it said that there is nosuch thing as bad weather, just wrongclothing. Walking has been shown togenerate a sustained sense of wellbeing. If you eat a sweet snack bar thesugar high will last about 30 minutes.In less than an hour, you will feel moretired and tense than before eatingthe snack. If you go for a 10-minutebrisk walk, you will feel good whilewalking and continue to feel energizedand more cheerful for several hoursafterward, with no dip in mood orenergy level.3. EAT FOR GOOD NUTRITIONNew research is now supportingthe idea that overeating stems frommalnutrition. Our body is craving fresh,seasonal good quality fuel. We need totune into our heart and listen to whatour body is telling us. Really listen andrespect what you notice.FURTHER TIPS FORWINTER NURTURE• Create some container gardens,close to the house. Herbs likeparsley, mint and chives as wellas some flowers like pansiesand violas.• Prepare to keep warm withthe right clothes and shoes.Gumboots with thick socks andold fur coat, hats and scarvescan allow us to go walking onthe beach when it is wild andcold.• Find a buddy that enjoyswalking. First thing in the dayhas been shown to lift yourenergy and mood levels all day.• Create a bird feeder. There aremany recipes on Google.• Eat fresh and seasonal. A website like recipematcher.comwill help you figure out what tocook based on the food in yourrefrigerator.FOUNDERS BREWERY & CAFEMore infos: www.activatedliving.com

11JEREMY BROCKIEOneSmile talks to All White Jeremy BrockiePhotos suppliedAll White Jeremy Brockiewas recently at home inRichmond, supportingyoung aspiring footballersat a holiday coaching clinic atRichmond A.F.C., the club he playedfor as a youngster. One Smile talkedto Jeremy about his goals andachievements, and about playing withthe All Whites at the biggest SportsEvent on the planet: The 2010 FIFAWorld Cup in South Africa.We asked him how it all began.“I started playing at midgets when Iwas five years old and simply lovedthe sport. I knew early on I wanted tobecome a professional football playerand represent New Zealand. I alwayshad a ball with me. At school, at home,on the playground, on holidays, just allthe time.”At that age Jeremy had neverthought about personal developmentbut seems to have intuitively followedall the rules. Some of us have spenthours of reading and attendingworkshops to learn and master the toolshe so naturally applied.“I wrote a goal list when I was 12 andthen got my head and body to work.That list included:• Complete year 12 and attain NCEALevel 2• Continue with U17 Academy camps• Be competitive in the Mainland U18National Youth Team• Play Mainland Soccer PremierLeague for Nelson SuburbsLong Term Goals• NZ U20 World Cup squad member• NZ U23 Olympic squad member• NZ All WhitesThis list was quite impressive for ayoung lad but he has achieved all hisgoals so far and is one of the mostpromising players of the All Whites.Jeremy has much to offer as a rolemodel for young people. He can offerthem advice and insight into a worldwhich seems too big a stretch for mostof us.He was a very ordinary kid (the oldestof four siblings) with a very ordinaryupbringing. There is no doubt he hasa special talent, but talent alone is notenough. Nothing fell into his lap andhe had to work hard for his career anddream. His father Paul said that Jeremypracticed every single day, rain or shine,and his friends supported him.He made use of bins as goal-posts,created his own gear to improveflexibility and fitness and always ranthe extra mile. After reading some ofhis previous coaches’ references it iseasy to get a picture of a young manwho knew what he wanted and workedhard for it with a light heart and a goodattitude.His grounding comes from theamazing support of his family as well asfrom his community, which has helpedhim when things have been tough.When he was 17 he moved to Aucklandto play there and sustained quite a fewinjuries. Further challenges came duringhis time playing in Sydney. His careerpath seemed to have come to a haltand his performances faded.But then Stew Jacobs came into hislife, an influential coach for Jeremy. Hemade the selection for the OlympicGames in 2008 and he told Jeremy one24 www.onesmile.co

day: “If I had to choose the team todayyou wouldn’t make it”.With this in mind Jeremy decided tohold on to his dream and work evenharder to get himself back into the topspot again. He did it and scored a mostmemorable goal against China.That coach knew Jeremy well andused that to motivate him, but inthe end it was Jeremy’s choice – andhe succeeded. Has he had to makesacrifices?“I love what I am doing,” saysJeremy”. I don’t see any of this assacrifice. I always work hard and keepmoving and competitive. I live mydream”.What would Jeremy say to teenageboys and girls today? “Get off thecouch and go outside, feel free andenjoy working with your body instead ofstaying trapped in the lounge and fillingit with potato chips. To be healthy andhappy is a choice. It’s up to you.”Jeremy is a role model not just foraspiring All Whites but for any youngperson who thinks their opportunitiesin life are limited. He’s an inspiration toadults who don’t take responsibility fortheir own problems, and for a wholesmall community that can see one ofits own making it on the big stage. Atthe end of his Curriculum Vitae, Jeremysays: “Once I’ve achieved my goals Iwill return to New Zealand to pass onthe knowledge I’ve gained, and throughcoaching and management enableother young sports people to reachtheir dreams”.We would very much love for thatto happen soon. However Jeremy, youstill have one goal to “tick off” beforecoming back and we will all support youin achieving it: Playing in the EnglishPremier League.Jeremy with his granddad Russ (left)and his dad Paul (right)www.onesmile.co 25

Who Do YouWant to Be?by Laura RaduenzSmall business Mentor & Life CoachWe have all heard about thepower of NOW. That beingpresent and being in the now isall we have. Our past and ourfuture are just thoughts. I havebeen thoughtful lately about notjust being in the NOW, but alsoabout choosing who to be in theNOW. Who do I want to BE?I find it very empowering “to beginwith the end in mind”, as Steve Coveyphrases it in The Seven Habits ofHighly Effective People. I visualizemyself sitting in a sunny, flower-filledmeadow at the end of my life, lookingback on my life. What do I want to feel,think, and see about my life? What wasmy purpose? Who was I? If I want tobe my very best self, and I do, I mustbe this self during my life’s journey.And, we create our journey. The NOWisn’t just about being in the now, butcreating how we feel and act in theNOW. We create who we are in theNOW. Great stuff, huh?Laura Raduenz is a small businessMentor & Life Coach who helps herclients think big, be bold, step up, andtake inspired action in their lives andbusiness.“to begin with the end in mind”Steve Covey in “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People”26 www.onesmile.co

“It isn’t what you have, or who you are, orwhere you are, or what you are doing thatmakes you happy or unhappy. It is what youthink about.”Dale Carnegie 1888–1955,How to Win Friends and Influence PeopleIn every circumstance of your day,whether delightful or challenging, youget to choose who you want to BE.You get to create who you are. Youget to leave behind your past, which isjust thoughts in your head, and createwho you are today. This is incrediblyempowering, isn’t it? We don’t haveto follow the script that our elders, ourcommunity, or our culture wrote for us.We really get to choose our own script!We get to write the story of our lives!And we do that in the big things, butalso in the daily way we choose whowe are.For example, when those aroundyou are being difficult, angry,uncooperative, grumpy, victims,unkind, you don’t have to choose torespond or react that way. You canconsciously choose from momentto moment, and in your NOW, to begentle, kind, accepting, peaceful, orwhatever else you have chosen to be,today and forever.TRY THISJust try this for a week. Bevery conscious that you arechoosing who you want tobe today. Make it playful andadventurous.• When you hear or seesomething good, share yourjoy, happiness, delight orkindness with another. Dothis with a smile, a word, atouch, a nod, an expression ofcongratulations or celebration.Whatever feels intuitively rightfor you.• When you hear or seesomething that challenges you,remember who you want toBE right now, and BE it! Justdo it! Choose peace, choosekindness, choose cheerfulness,choose trust, chooseacceptance, or whatever it isyou desire. Do this with a smile,a word, a touch, a nod, walkaway, remain quiet, breathedeeply, or whatever feelsintuitively right for you.This is a very simple exercisethat is very empowering. Itonly takes 10 minutes. Get outa sheet of paper or a blankpage on your computer andbegin listing out who you wantto BE. If you could BE anythingyou dreamed, desired, wantedor imagined, who would thatBE?• I want to be playful• I want to be joyful and happy• I want to be bold and courageous• I want to be in the flow• I want to be a big thinker• I want to be intuitive• I want to be confident• I want to be peaceful, calm andrelaxed• I want to be abundant andprosperous• I want to be on purpose• I want to be grateful• I want to be magical• I want to be creativeSounds pretty easy, doesn’t it?Well, it can be! It is! Say, YES to this!We aren’t just responding, reacting,and discovering in this thing we calllife. We are creating. Who do youwant to BE today, tomorrow, and onyour journey? Then just choose toBE this self in the NOW. That is allyou have. That is where you create.In the NOW.SIMPLE STEPSJust try it. Test it. Play with it.Practice it. Have fun with it. Whatwe focus on expands. Our thoughtsbecome things. Maybe by trying itout you will discover how magical itis to BE who you want to BE….www.onesmile.co 27

Inclusion,The Hermetic Law ofCorrespondence andthe Vesica Piscisby Bruce RawlessAuthor of Sacred Geometry Design SourcebookThe second of the seven lawsor principles is given the nameCorrespondence in the Kybalion, alongwith the phrase “As above, so below; asbelow, so above.”A detailed quotation follows:The Law of Correspondence,combined with the law of Mentalismcovered in the previous article, offersus the liberating insight (IF we payattention :-) that the Universe perfectlymirrors the models and belief structuresthat exist within our mind’s imagination.And not just our conscious visualization,but the unimaginably vast imaginationof our unconscious thoughts, feelings,desires, values and beliefs whichare symbolized in the ‘others’ thatseem to populate our universe. Thisperfect mirror reflects a steady flowof holographic projections we callperception.“Just as a knowledge of the Principles of Geometryenables man to measure distant suns and theirmovements, while seated in his observatory, so aknowledge of the Principle of Correspondence enablesMan to reason intelligently from the Known to theUnknown.” – The KybalionIn to Out or Out to In?Ultimately, our freedom from dreamingarises by seeing the unity in all thingsas One Self. In order to develop andmaintain the awareness that leads tothis ultimate freedom, we need trainingaids to remind us to stay connectedwith our experience. It isn’t enoughto merely be present with what seemsto be happening to us. That’s justthe first part of freedom by beingresponsible and accountable. Theother requirement – one that mostavoid like an antidote to the plague– is allowing the eternally peacefulthought system that reminds us of ourmental responsibility for choice in eachmoment to guide us. We’re constantlychoosing either to be the slave ofcircumstance (by making the outerthe master of our inner experience)… or choosing to remember that wevolunteered for this assignment. Evenif we don’t consciously rememberarranging for all the events of our lifein minute detail, our conscious andunconscious minds together combineto fabricate every experience we’veever had or will have in this world.Our outer experience truly is an exact,mathematically perfect, holographicallyprecise model of our inner mentalprocesses, accounting for our entiremind, not just the infinitesimal dropletwe think of as our persona or finiteself. The outer reflects a decision we28 www.onesmile.co

made eons ago which we convenientlyforget because we don’t want to admitto being powerful creative agents of aworld that is never quite sane.Whoops, that’s too scary!Initially, embracing this idea that ourouter material world corresponds to ourinner mental world seems exceptionallyscary, or at least bizarre. After all, howcould all the wacky things that seem tohappen in my world originate within amind that I don’t even believe I haveaccess to?What a relief!Gradual re-integrationFortunately, we don’t have to suddenlybecome aware of our unconsciousmind all at once; what a relief! Wemade up the universe to hide awayfrom all that unconscious stuff, but wecan turn it around, reverse the processand use everything that seems tohappen – every tiny event and fleetingmoment – to restore and reintegratethe orphaned parts of our unconsciousmind. We do that by being responsiblefor what seems to be happening… notshirking from even the most seeminglyinsignificant incident …Responsibility Absolves BlameOnce we let in the idea of beingresponsible for what the universemirrors to us – and most importantlyforgiving our decision making selvesfor having given those mirroredperceptions an exaggerated importancein our minds – it automatically freesus from being fixated on any aspectof our perceptions. The reasonthat works is that the same thoughtsystem that is comfortable for beingresponsible for making up fleeting,temporary circumstances, is the samethought system that doesn’t ascribeany permanent meaning to thosetransient events. It ultimately lets themdissolve on their own into the oblivionwhere all dualistic, time and spacebasedphenomena go. It doesn’t holdus hostage to blame, shame, guiltand fearful dread of inconsequentialconsequences. How can it do this?Because this gloriously generousthought system doesn’t associate ourTrue Identity with what’s happeningout on the dream screen. Being just amovie, we can stop taking the dramaquite so seriously; we can be peacefulnow. This also has the added benefitof freeing our minds up to rewritethe screenplay of what seems to behappening. Here’s a summary of atleast a couple of profound benefits oflistening to the inclusive interpretationsof our transpersonal thought system:1. We experience peace inthe present moment.Merely bringing the focus back inside(the BIG inclusive INside, that is)– from the saga that appears to begoing on outside – returns us to theEternal Self that isn’t slammed andtossed around by the tsunamis oftime’s tests and tribulations. We’re freeto fully experience what seems to behappening without having to identifywith these blips on the celestial radar.The Identity of Self is crucial to how weexperience anything. If we identify withthe victimized, victimizing fragmentedself that appears stuck in the story,we’re not free to change anything.However, once we taste the freedomof independence from effect – whichhappens when we become completelydependent on cause – we know thatnothing in the world of perceptioncan truly harm us… because the us weexperience isn’t subject to the everchangingvicissitudes of sensory data.The only meaning this data seems tohave had is what we made up for it.Releasing our identity from this hostagesituation, our servitude shifts from thefickle finite to the forever fun. Thisobviously takes life times of practice,but what better to apply ourselves to,starting now!

2. We’re free to re-write the future.Identifying with what goes into theprojector rather than what comes outof it, we have an infinitely greaterrange of choices to make. Ultimately,we’ll even get bored with wantingto change the movie and leave thetheater altogether, but while westill think we’re characters in acosmic, romantic, comedicadventure (or perhapsa dramatic thriller), it’shelpful to know thatwe have so muchmore freedom tocontinue to be moreand more peacefulwhen we’re notattached (or averse)to any particularoutcome.Allowing thetranspersonal,soothing awarenessthat our Real Self is notdefined by what happensaround us, but rather howwe respond (serenely accepting)to the temporal and spatial dreamsthat come and go. This reinforces theawareness in our Shared Self that neverchanges, the Self that can somehowlook on all challenging situations withkind-hearted equanimity and gentlelaughter. The humor this vision sharesis one of infinitely inclusive, commoncompassion, rather than divisivederision. A free mind has no need toalibi, defend, justify or belittle; it knowswe’re all in the same universal boat.The Vesica Piscis: The lens ofperception; projection of separation orextension of oneness.“I am so small I can barely beseen. How can this great lovebe inside me? Look at youreyes. They are small, but theysee enormous things.”Jelauddin RumiThe Vesica Piscis (also called thealmond or mandorla) is the shapeformed by the intersection of twoidentical circles where the borderof each circle touches the heart orcenter of the other. We see this shapein the human eye, our mouths, thestomata (respiratory orifice) of plants,the template for mitosis (when cellsdivide in all biological life), andeven in the distant HourglassNebula. In art ranging fromRenaissance masterpiecesto the Chalice Well inGlastonbury, and countlessother examples, we seethis familiar shape thatrepresents communication,communion, commonground, shared vision,and mutual understanding.For the mirror of the soul,the spiritual significance is“seeing eye to eye,” allowingourselves to embrace the aurathat transfigures seeming isolationinto intrinsic oneness.The next time you see the vesicalshape in an eye, let it be a mnemonicaid for recalling that you are seeingyour inner world projected outwardly.Compassion is inevitable fromthis perspective. When one alsoincorporates the thought system of ourreal, metapersonal Self, this kindnesscan’t help but reflect, mirror, echo andconvey the unlimited loving generosityand forgiving whole-heartedness ofwhat we truly are!More info under:www.geometrycode.com

FAMILY HOSPITALITYBusiness, work and family provideplenty of challenges for all of us aswe juggle our ongoing pressures andpriorities. We caught up with onefamily in Nelson that has gone theextra step, and has chosen to combineall those challenges into one.Ian & Sally Williams have nowowned the iconic Vic Rose Brew Baron Trafalgar Street for almost a year.They have always enjoyed providinghospitality to others, but since theirchildren developed careers in thehospitality industry, they decided totake the plunge and work together.All four of their children work in thebusiness. Phil is General Manager,Chris is Head Chef, Howard is BarManager, and youngest Zoë is workingat the bar this year before heading offinto her own career. Phil’s fiancée Alicemanages accounts and functions. Thirdgeneration, baby Ryan is still decidingon his role!‘We have been very fortunate topurchase a business in such goodshape, with a very professional staffon board with us.’ says Ian. ‘It’s agreat team with lots of ideas andenergy, and we have become quite anextended family. That means dealingwith all the business challenges headon, making the most of every teammember, and finding ways to developand encourage people. It can be avery busy and stressful place, so ourteamwork is critical if we are to live outour commitment to excellence.’As a business consultant, Ian hassupported family businesses in thepast, so had no illusions about the mixof family and business. He points outthat all businesses have to balancethe distinct needs of ownership andmanagement; but family businessesuniquely have a third dimensionwww.thomasrichardsphotography.com– that of meeting family needs andrelationships too. “It is a criticaldifference in that it has to be wellmanaged if customers needs are tocome first – the key to success of anybusiness of course. Everyone has achoice about where they put energyand effort, so the aim is to direct it wellto get the best results for everyone”says Ian. The key ingredient is balance– knowing and responding to theneeds of customers, staff and family ina way that satisfies everyone as muchas possible, so that The Vic remains agreat place to eat, drink & be merry,a fulfilling place to work, and fun foreveryone!

A DublinDayby Caroline CrickPhotos by Caroline CrickA summer’s morning in early July is no guarantee of goodweather in Dublin. But for now, at around 9am, it’s warm andovercast. Setting off on foot from my hotel I walk over thecanal and past the brightly painted front doors and railingsof Georgian town houses towards the city centre.St Stephen’s Green is alive with small children, oldladies and loving couples. European backpackers lie in thesomewhat watery morning sun drinking takeaway coffeesand watching me watching them. A young, bearded tourguide is explaining, in a broad Irish accent, the story behindthe famine monument at one corner of the green. He’swearing a red t-shirt and is enthusiastic in his tale of miserlylandlords and starving peasants forced to flee to foreignlands to save themselves from the deprivation of British rule.“We became a nation of travellers, second class citizens andseekers of better fortune,” he tells his group, young Frenchgirls hanging on every word. He doesn’t seem to mind.I walk on to inspect the bust of James Joyce, one ofmany statues populating this park on the edge of the citycentre. It’s romantic, big trees and open stretches of lawn,pathways and bridges, water and ducks. There’s plenty ofcircumstance here but seemingly little pomp. James Joyceseems to approve.On Grafton Street I watch the buskers, in amongst theflower sellers, in amongst the shoppers and tourists. An oldman plays the flute, his friend the piano. A stylish youngbrass ensemble swings away at a jazz number. One of theplayers looks somewhat surprised when her boyfriendarrives mid-performance and gives her a smacking kiss onthe lips. At least I think it’s her boyfriend, he seems prettysure of himself. She plays on, blushing. He stands back, armsfolded, grinning at the effect. I drink wine at a street-sidecafé and watch and listen.I head for the National Photographic Archives to seean exhibition, ‘Fragments of a Broken World’, When I askabout buying a post card, I’m introduced to Seán Hillen,one of the artists. He’s quietly spoken and unassumingdespite his serious work – anything that documents Ireland’srecent history is going to have a serious element. But hisimages are surprisingly playful. I buy a print – there’s a storyattached about his grandmother, the Virgin Mary and somesoldiers in Ulster. I’ll take it home and remember Dublin.Next time I come to Ireland I’ll be doing a bit of readingfirst. Some Seamus Heaney - I’ve spent a few days in North32 www.onesmile.co

Mayo and stood on the peat bogs of Belderrig, describedby him as ‘a landscape fossilized, its stone wall patterningsrepeated before our eyes’ – and it really is like that, thestone age walls buried beneath the bog and slowly beingexcavated by the peat cutters.l’ll get more familiar with James Joyce, so I can trackLeopold Bloom’s Ulyssian journey from No 7 Eccles Streeton the morning of 16 June 1904. The house is long gonebut the front door is lovingly preserved at the JamesJoyce Centre. Maybe the Playboy of the Western World,in preparation for a trip to the Aran Islands, home of JohnMillington Synge. And W B Yeats, forever the poet of thewild mysteries of Ireland. Definitely Yeats. Today I get my fillof all of these and more at the National Writer’s Museum,the James Joyce museum and manage to squeeze in theWB Yeats exhibition at the National Library of Ireland. “I willarise now and go, and go to Innisfree……. and live alone inthe bee-loud glade.”I know I’m not going to get to the see the Caravaggioat the National Gallery of Ireland or the contemporarycollection at the Hugh Lane. I just don’t have time, but I’malready promising to come back. As evening approachesI wander round Temple Bar, the pubs and bars, cafes andshops. I even cross the Liffey via the Halfpenny Bridge, andthen go back again, because I can.I’m wandering homewards when the heavens open. AsI break into a jog a voice behind me says “funny choice ofshoes for a rainy day.” We shelter together in a doorway, anIrish girl who thinks it’s hilarious to find a wet kiwi like me insandals on the streets of Dublin. She’s here for the weekend.She’s well prepared for rain on a summer evening. I’m not!As the rain eases we laugh goodbye and I head toO’Donoghue’s bar on Merrion Row. The barman grins atmy damp attire and pours me a glass of Guinness - it goesdown well after rain. And no-one bats an eyelid at me asI settle in the corner with my glass of the black stuff anda book. An hour later the music starts. German touristssit next to me. This is their third trip to Dublin; they comefor the music, the food, the pubs and the history. Theirdaughter is in Whangarei as we speak. The musicians playon, guitar, accordion, everyone sings along. It’s a bit cheesyin places but I can’t help but smile. I think this is what I cameto Ireland for.Did you know?Dublin has two completely different names in the IrishLanguage: Dubh Linn and Baile Átha Cliath. The literal meaningof Átha Cliath is “Ford of the Reed Hurdles” – and the nameDublin is derived from the Old Irish Gaelic Dubh Linn, whichliterally means “Black Pool.” Historically the native Irish favoredÁth Cliath, Dubh Linn by the settled Vikings and Anglo-Normans. The Dubh Linn was a lake used by the Vikings tomoor their tradeships and was connected to the Liffey by theRiver Poddle. The Norse settlements in Dublin were around theChristchurch and Wood Quay Areas of Dublin.Source: www.goireland.comwww.onesmile.co 33

Wintera time to hibernateElayne Lane is an Aromatherapist, Touch for Healthby Elayne LaneKinesiologist, she also practices Chi Nei Tsang and teachesclasses from the Universal Healing Tao.With winter at hand, it’snow time to slow down andhibernate. In Chinese medicine,winter is related to our waterelement. Water has manyspecial properties... it canevaporate, flow like a river, sinkto the lowest places, freezeinto ice and expand back intowater again. Within us, it is ourdeepest element; it is gentlebut also all-powerful like thepush of a wave in the sea.The water element is related to ourkidney and bladder organs, the bones,marrow and teeth, our hearing andalso our genetic inheritance. The bodyholds five intelligences and the waterelement’s intelligence is instinct. It isthe ability to just “know” not to drinkthat water or eat that food, when andwhere to plant a tree, what improvesour health and how long to sleep.Sometimes we see this as intuition butI believe it is more connected with ouranimal/natural instinct.The water element gives usthe ability to be creative, prolific,progressive, innovative, adventurousand determined. When it is in balancewe feel relaxed, calm but at thesame time in alert awareness, able torespond immediately. We feel calmand gentle, there’s no need to rush.When our water element is in balancewe feel gentleness and act in caringways but when it’s out of balancewe feel fear and terror, weak andparalysed.34 www.onesmile.co

So what helps yourwater element?According to Marin Gilles, authorand Chi Nei Tsang practitioner, “Whenwater is over stressed we get fatiguedand our kidneys can be affected as wellas our ears, the health of our bones,gums and teeth. We are then easilyafraid and lose creativity and drive.Our adrenal glands sit right on topof our kidneys and long term stressaffects our hormonal balance.On the physical level when ourwater element is out of balance, wehave problems with our bones, kidneystones, bladder infections, low backpain, fatigue, frequent urination,weakness in the legs.It is very important that we keepour kidneys and feet warm during thewinter. When they get cold our waterelement gets fatigued.Water is also connected to oursexual energy and when our kidneysget cold it affects our sex drive andability to reproduce. With healthykidney energy we feel sensuous, butwhen we are out of balance we haveno interest in the body or makinglove. Through the use of herbs, kidneybreathing and chi kung you can buildup your libido again.Winter is a time for rest andintrospection. It’s a time to hibernate,to give our bodies’ life force, timeto regenerate. It’s okay to go to bedearly, wrap up warmly, not do so muchand, well, hibernate! If you think of thetrees in winter, all their leaves are gonebut during this rest time much goeson inside them. Humans are similar totrees; the stillness brings a fresh visionand creativity which literally burstsforth in spring. For this to happen weneed lots of rest so we have the energyto crank into action once the weatherstarts to warm up again.1References:Marin Gilles (1999): Healing from Within with Chi Nei Tsang.Published by North Atlantic Books, Berkeley, CaliforniaMarin Gilles (2006): Five Elements Six Conditions: A TaoistApproach to Emotional Healing, Psychology, and InternalAlchemy. Published by North Atlantic Books, Berkeley,CaliforniaKeep your kidneys and feet warm. Wear merino,wool or possum fur for extra warmth.2 Get lots of sleep – hibernate!3 Take it easy on yourself – stay at home more and dothings at a gentle pace.4 If you feel fear, get someone to help you with apractical action plan and support you in carrying itout. Common sense reduces fear.5 If you feel depressed, ask someone to help you withyour feelings (a counsellor, use Emotional FreedomTechnique, Neurolink, BodyTalk, Chi Nei Tsang).6 Nurture your body through massage, saunas, spas,baths, soft blankets and healthy satisfying food.7 Give yourself as much stability as possible. This alsohelps with fear. Eat regularly, sleep regularly, watchpositive movies, read inspiring books.8 Do all you can to create feelings of safety andsatisfaction, trust and support (friendship). Cookdelicious meals, get involved in a craft and makesure it is a project that you can complete.9 There is some wonderful chi kung which helps ourwater element. The first one is kidney breathing andthe other is earth chi kung.101112Use natural liquorice as a tonic to the adrenal glandsif you are feeling stressed.Visit your naturopath/herbalist for a kidney cleanseor tonic.Bone Breathing helps us relax deeply at night andalso tones the bones.www.onesmile.co 35

WeavingKindnessby Carol Taplin, May 2011My brother-in-law tellsa story that’s stuck withhim for a few years now.He was driving home into the citywith the usual stream of five o’clockishtraffic. An old man was on thefootpath, pushing a mobility scooterup the rise... hot, tired, old, pushing hismobility scooter. Obviously somethingwasn’t quite right, so at the nextroundabout my brother-in-law turnedback and pulled over. The brokendown mobility scooter couldn’t be lefton the footpath while the gentlemangot to a phone to call his son for help– he’d worry it would be stolen. It tooka quick call on my brother-in-law’scell phone and just 10 minutes to sitand empathise and wait with him untilfamily arrived. So, the old man whoneeded a mobility scooter to movehad been pushing it up a hill next to astream of cars.What sticks with my brother-in-lawis, that in the time it took him to turnaround and stop, 50 other cars hadsimply driven past. How many otherswould have passed by before onestopped?Busy worlds are breeding isolationfrom community and humanity. Iwonder that so few people take thetime to see another’s stress, and puttheir lists and deadlines and selvesaside for just one small moment.The story above didn’t require anyparticular skill, or more than 10minutes of time. But it did requirecompassion. Compassion (from Latin‘co-suffering’) embraces sympathyand empathy, and is a cornerstone ofhumanity. It is one of the virtues thatlink us, bind us together in society;that rich fabric of relationships thatdefines living next to each other instreets and towns and communities.When we feel compassion, we wantto alleviate another’s suffering. Thatwe can pass by an elderly person inobvious distress and not care enoughto be concerned is to ignore that weare each a necessary thread in ourcommunity’s fabric. Surely each of ushas the time and self-respect to knitourselves indelibly into that fabric witha simple act of human kindness?If you take the time to look up andaround as you busily march downthe street to your next appointment,you’ll not only see those small gapsfor you to fill with kindness, but you’llalso notice how many others areindeed giving and receiving in kind.A wave and smile from the driver youlet into the flow, a door held open forsomeone else’s pram, a dropped thing36 www.onesmile.co

eturned, a pen given to replace theone not working in a bank, a sharedumbrella at the crossing, a lady wavingme to her space and handing throughthe window a not-yet-expired parkingticket, a box of free fruit by a mailbox,a stranger reciting a great poem to achild waiting in a line, a shared smileand eye-roll between mums withtantrum-kids at the supermarket – allthese I collected in just one afternoonlast week.Perhaps knowing that acts ofkindness give us our own healthbenefits would encourage us to pickup a grocery bag or make a phone call.There are a number of scientific studiesthat show that an act of kindnesscontributes to good health. That lovelyglow you get after helping is calleda ‘helper’s high’, and is followed byimproved emotional wellbeing. It’seven been shown that a decrease inyour awareness of physical pain canoccur after you’ve been kind!We’ve all heard that kindness breedskindness – that wonderful chainreaction of passing good on. I have afriend who once helped an intoxicatedstranger get a taxi home; in fact,he paid the driver on behalf of thatintoxicated stranger to ensure the ride.A year or so later, in a bar down town, astranger bought my friend a drink andsaid “thanks for the cab”. Researcherssuggest that the kindness breedingkindness is actually fairly copy-cat.When people are kind, others copy.A word of warning though; selfishbehaviours holds to the same rules!So, being the wonderful necessarythread in the fabric of society thatyou are, what would you like to seethat fabric woven in – kindness orselfishness? Lift your eyes up from yourbusyness and enjoy watching all thegood going round. Then get involved,get healthier and spread the kindness!Further reading to check out:“Cooperative behaviour cascades in human social networks”,James H. Fowler and Nicholas A. Christakis. Proceedings of theNational Academy of Sciences, Vol.107 No. 10 March 9 2010“The Healing Power of Doing Good: The Health and SpiritualBenefits of Helping Others. Allan Luks, Peggy Payne. New York.Universe Inc., 2001Carol Taplin of The Enterprise FacilitatorNelson, New ZealandE: carol.taplin@xtra.co.nzwww.onesmile.co 37

the 7 truthsof liberating leadershipby Ian A Williams1The focus of leadershipcomes from the heartWhile management comes primarilyfrom intellect and thinking, leadershipis governed from the heart – using thehead of course! Leadership is drivenfrom values and spiritual core, andfrom real self. Emotional intelligenceis also more akin to leadership, whileIQ is more akin with managementthinking. You carry in your heart whatdrives your head, and carry in yourhead what drives the heart. Both areimportant and need exercise. Usingboth demonstrates balance.2The drive for results isoften the wrong focusWhile results and outcomes areessential, the route to reaching themcan often be misunderstood. Taskfocus will keep minds on the goal,but without ‘people-thinking’ a deadhorse is being flogged! What reallygets results is focus on the individualsand team; people are the route toachieving anything. It seems obvious,so why do so many leaders andmanagers overlook it constantly. JohnAdair’s action-centred leadershipmodel demands the need for balancebetween task, team and individual.This provides the integrity for success.38 www.onesmile.co

3Leadership is a journey,not simply a skill set forthe individual and theteamThe word leadership is derived froman ancient word associated with takinga journey. Ancient people used thiswork in connection with planning aroute over land, or a course across theseas. This implies heading for what wasunknown territory, with a mysteriousadventure to be had. That requiredhuge vision, imagination and faith.That’s the excitement and terror thatleadership can produce.4Calm, humble, servantleadership is kingWhen you really think hard aboutthe best leaders you’ve ever knownor heard of, who did good things forthe planet, a nation, a cause, or just adamn good job, you will find they areall likely to have one thing in common.That is a sense of humility and calm intheir leadership. The best leadershiprole models are likely to be thoseserving others, and serving their cause.That’s how they get people on board,and that’s how they become loved andrespected. It’s a key part of what wenow call engagement. Calmness ofspirit in a leader promotes trust andconfidence in followers. They makeleadership look so natural that theycreate leaders from their followers.Being calm is not always being quiet;good communication is always key butcalm leaders are often inspirational ina way that followers think they thoughtof an idea themselves. The humility ofthe leader lets them carry on thinkingthey did!5Leadership needs tobe simple and commonAs one of the most sought afterqualities in humanity, leadership isa big subject. The Google statisticsfor leadership, and aspects of it, arevast. It’s so big a subject that peopleare often baffled by it, and fearfulof aspiring to leadership. The goodnews is that leadership can be verysimple, and is for everyone. Many whoaspire to leadership forget that theyare already leading themselves, andthose closest to them. And if they arenot, they should be! Leading yourselfis the only safe place to practice,and practice makes perfect! Let’sget out of denial, and out of limitingourselves. Lead yourself as if youwere leading someone else – withrespect and tolerance. Everyoneleading themselves and others (if onlyby example) makes leadership a verycommon activity – and so it should be!6What people carry withthem from childhoodand teens is always withthem, and surfaces incrisis and pressureAdults are just children who grew up– some more than others. And whilewe think we left our happy and sadmemories and experiences behind,we carry them with us constantly andunconsciously, in who we are, whatwe do, and how we respond. The bestthing we can do with all that stuff is tolet go what needs letting go, and faceup to what has to stay. And whetherit’s happy or sad, or whatever emotionit raises, let’s use it positively in ourleadership now. Let’s also recognisethat everyone else is carrying stuff too,so give them some room.7The heart of oneperson determines awhole cultureThis is the responsibility that comeswith leadership. Whether a leaderof a huge organisation, a few dozenpeople, your family, or even justyourself, recognise that the heart thatdrives the blood through your body isthe heart that drives your spirit. Howyou lead your thinking, your responsesand your outcomes has a ripple effecton everyone else. So do it all with care.Everyone in an organisation or familyhas an impact on culture, but the oneperson at the top – on whom everyoneelse is focused – will have the biggeststone and make the biggest ripple.More info under: www.kairology.com©Kairos Development Ltd. 2009 – All rights reservedwww.onesmile.co 39

ACCEPTANCE -“The Art of Living in the Present”by Swami MuktidharmaAcceptance is the art of livingin the present. Every momentof our life is an opportunityto grow. This is why it is soimportant to embrace eachmoment with total awareness.Suffering and happiness areboth the stepping-stones toclimb to the state beyond themind. Generally we lose ourawareness and get carriedaway by one state of mindor another. If we get lost insuffering, we create our ownmisery.If we get lost in happiness and gettoo excited, then we are bound topop and come down… just like abubble of soap, it grows biggerand bigger and then it disappears.With a balanced mind, we canapproach the situations of lifefrom a different angle and use lifefor our personal growth.In the yogic path there arecertain codes of conduct that helpus to create a sense of disciplinein our inner lives, so that we cancome into balance. One of these iscalled Santosha or contentment.“The word Santosha or contentmentmeans to be happy with whatever onehas and enjoy living in the presentmoment without craving or desirefor anything more. The aspect ofcontentment is to maintain a constantself-satisfaction and fulfillment.”-Paramahamsa Niranjanananda.By practicing Santosha and acceptingthe situations that come in life, ratherthan fighting them, the ride through lifebecomes smoother.To accept a situation does not meanthat we are going to just cross our armsand become effortless. Acceptingdoes not imply becoming a conformiste.g. if you see an act of injustice, youdo not sit by and watch it, becauseyou are “accepting life”. Rather, trueacceptance contains the principal ofdynamism. We can still put in our besteffort into everything we do, but weare not attached to the results. If thesituation turns out according to ourdesires then fine, and if it turns outdifferent, it is fine also.When we are born, we come into the40 www.onesmile.co

world with certain tendencies, whichpull us in a particular direction. At thesame time, we get a lot of opportunitiesto grow and change. If you observesmall children, certain characteristicsare dominant from an early age.These characteristics will createcertain experiences in life. When theunavoidable tendencies or experiencescome, we can have a positive attitudeand accept them, so that we will not beaffected by these circumstances. Witha positive attitude, wisdom developsand a process of dis-identificationbegins. When we are not identifiedwith what is happening, we do not feelmiserable due to situations that wecannot control. A yogic approach to lifeslowly gives us this capacity to separateour mind from the situation and bethe observer. Usually, we are draggedinto the emotions and thoughts, whichresults in attachment to or rejection ofwhatever is happening. With practicewe can learn to watch, intensely andwith dispassion, the negative situationsthat are bound to come.Life gives us so many opportunitiesto learn. The deepest learningoften comes from what appears tobe painful. If we do not accept thelearning, we stay lost in an illusion.If we observe life and the situationsthat “trigger” reactions, it is oftenthe same issue with a different facethat comes again and again. Isn’t itinteresting to see how life keeps givingus the opportunity to learn until weget it! All this swimming upstream andfighting the flow creates disharmonyon a physical, mental and energeticlevel and is the cause of dis-ease.Acceptance brings us towards the lightand gives us glimpses of the true senseof existence. Our peace and joy do notdepend on external circumstances, butfrom the attitude that we develop infront of these circumstances. This lifethat we are living is not the destination;it is just the environment from whichwe have an opportunity to derive thewisdom of the self.Rather than acceptance andcontentment, we often continuerunning after what we think we want.We get lost in the desires and becomeblind. We have so many desires,because we are afraid of the present.The ego does not want to see itself,so it keeps creating new diversions forthe mind. However, progress is not theresult of fulfilling all the desires thatcome to the mind. If we analyse thestructure of the so-called progressivesocieties of the West, we find thatmoney and material accumulationare often the cause of misery andunhappiness. By accumulating manyexternal things, we create a jungle,where we get lost with worries andanxieties.Contentment with whatever lifeoffers allows us to stay presentand cope in a skillful way withthe ‘menu of the day’.We want more and stress ourselvesto get more or we worry that ourprecious object may get lost, stolen,etc. Ambitions are what motivate us toachieve certain things in life, even tostart searching within.However, when the ambitions aredirected only towards materialisticachievements, they entangle us inillusion and bring suffering. Certaintypes of ambitions are necessary forprogress. We can have dreams anddesires, but at the same time maintainour awareness so that the results ofour efforts do not affect us. Whenwe develop this attitude of nonattachment,we can see the difficultmoments as the greatest lessons forthe evolution of our consciousness.Side by side we can use the smoothermoments of life for positive actionsthat will uplift us. Contentment withwhatever life offers allows us to staypresent and cope in a skillful way withthe ‘menu of the day’.The process of maturity consistsof channeling the emotions andthe perceptions that we feel at thedepth of our hearts into one point.We can only experience this typeof centeredness when we are ableto live in the present. When we arecentered and aware, then there is afertile garden for creativity and growth.Without contentment, we move inmany different directions, motivatedby desires (illusion), wasting ourenergy. We become restless trying tosearch for different situations withoutaccepting and solving the ones thatpresently come to us. Dispersion of themental energies causes fragmentationand takes us away from the possibilityof seeing the whole picture.We are able to create our ownheaven by living every moment fully.By living fully we gather the totality ofour awareness in each moment thatcomes. This creates the opportunity tosee the path of existence clearly. Yogais a science that gives us the skills forliving with wisdom and experiencingjoy. There is a big difference betweenthe ordinary emotion of happinessand the real experience of joy thatcomes from a deeper level, fromour soul perception. The former ismomentary and the latter is lasting,permanent. The practice of Santoshaor contentment doesn’t need to bepracticed on a yoga mat. It is a practicefor each and every moment of life.Swami Muktidharma is an inspiringspeaker and teacher who hasdedicated his life to yoga. He sharesa deeply experiential and practicalunderstanding of yoga, having begunhis spiritual journey as a young man inhis native Colombia, before spending16 years in India living directly withYoga Master Paramahamsa SatyanandaSaraswati.He lectures throughout the worldand imparts more than 35 years ofyoga practice. His main purpose is toinspire and uplift humanity. Peoplewho take his courses and spend timeat Anahata Yoga Retreat receiveinspiration and techniques to transformtheir daily lives into a yogic life.www.onesmile.co 41

Motherhood:the big ‘two-oh’by Lorraine HockleySpiritual Coach/Ebook AuthorI survived my own big ‘Oh’ birthdaysjust fine. When I turned three-oh, Iwas sad that my teenage years werebehind me (all through my twentiesI felt that I was only just out of myteens). But it was exciting to finally be agrown-up. When I turned four-oh, I feltinvigorated by the midpoint in my lifejourney. And five-oh? It was a breeze,bring on six-oh!So why has my daughter turningtwo-oh completed winded me? Icannot believe my eldest child is nowtwenty years old. I guess I thought shewould remain a teenager indefinitely...like I did.Recently I felt drawn to get out mymemory box. I was soon laughing andcrying over all the little cards, lettersand poems my first-born wrote for meduring her childhood. She was – andstill is – a kind-hearted soul, who isalways letting friends and family knowshe is thinking of them.My reminiscing was tinged withsorrow when I noticed how manynotes read ‘Hope you feel better soon,Mum’. I suffered excruciating migraineswhen my two daughters were little,and they spent too much of theirchildhood whispering and tip toeingaround the house. Maybe they nowhave compassion for other migrainesufferers.My twenty-year-old and I talkedrecently about her early teenageyears, and my two Golden Rules. Itwas drummed into both my girls thatall hell would break loose if they wereever broken. ‘Rule Number 1: ‘Neverslip out of the house at night and gopartying’. This rule segued neatly intoRule Number 2: ‘Do not get pregnant’.First-born managed to survive herteenage years without breaking RuleNumber 2 (which, I always dramaticallydeclared, would spell the end to traveladventures and well-paid careers).However, when she was a youngteen, she broke Rule No 1. The incidentdidn’t even happen under my roof – ittook place at her father’s house. Andshe didn’t slip out to a party – sheand a friend went to a neighbouringfriend’s house to watch television. Itwasn’t so much the reason for slippingout, but the thrill of doing somethingnaughty.I will never forget what happenedthe day I discovered she had brokenone of my Golden Rules. She had beenvery quiet all day, verging on tears.Something was obviously wrong, butall my gentle cajoling could not extractthe problem. Finally, I sat her on myknee, and asked one more time, ‘what’swrong, sweetie?’The floodgates burst, and shesobbed as if her heart would break.There was no way she could talk andsob at the same time, so I was left toimagine the horror that had broughton such a devastating reaction:Pregnancy? (When trouble strikes,default position was always RuleNumber 1). Alcohol? Drugs? Alcohol,drugs and pregnancy?When she finally calmed down,and confessed to her short late nightescapade at her father’s house, I feltdizzy with relief. It turned out that herheartbreaking grief was over lettingme down. She said how I only ever hadthose two rules – I was quite liberalcompared to most mothers – and shewas gutted that she had broken one ofthem.42 www.onesmile.co

“When you are a mother, you are never really alonein your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice,once for herself and once for her child.”Sophia LorenI reassured her that I was proud ofher maturity. She knew she had donesomething wrong, and I could seethat she obviously felt extremely badabout it. Through shuddering sobs shepromised ‘never, ever to do anythinglike that again’. And she never did.Today I feel a mixture of pride thatmy baby made it through her teenageyears without any serious dramas andsadness that she is no longer a childwho will sit on my knee when life getstough.But I’ll trade that sadness for thedeveloping friendship I have withthis beautiful young woman. Wecommunicate via Facebook, amongother things. Last week she sent me amessage inviting me to go to a showwith her to celebrate Mother’s Day– her treat.Am I feeling a lump in my throatas I write these words? You bet.Motherhood is a rollercoaster ride,from the moment they wrap their tinynewborn finger around your finger, andyour heart. I have done many things inlife I am proud of, but nothing comesclose to my role as mother to my twoprecious girls.www.lorrainehockley.comwww.onesmile.co 43

anesbillCranesbillGeranium robertianumby Amy McCombQualified Herbalist, BSc(hons),Tutor at Wellpark College of Natural TherapiesAlso sometimes known as Herb Robert, thisdistinctive plant grows throughout Aotearoa.Emerging at its fullest at the height of summer ithas vibrant pink flowers and a distinctive slightlybitter taste. Cranesbill loves many soil types,but doesn’t favour clay soil.Traditional uses:Has been used to assist the liver, gall bladder and to cleargall bladder meridians; alleviate arthritis and stop indigestionand bloating. It can also be used as an ovarian tonic and is awonderful salad plant.Amy McCombPlantRhythmsTM, a wonderful wide range of herbal essencesand tinctures from the Wild flowers and Native trees ofAotearoa, www.plantrhythms.co.nz.On-the-spot digestivetonicMethodPick enough Cranesbill leaves to fill a looselypackedpreserving jar. Cutting up the leaves willincrease the surface area and can increase thepotency of your concoction.Pour apple cider vinegar over the leaves, filling thejar to the top with the liquid so that there is no airbetween the lid and the vinegar. Use a plastic lidor a metal one with a sheet of plastic (plastic bagswork fine) on the vinegar side. This is important asvinegar dissolves minerals into solution – which caninclude the minerals from the metal lid!After a minimum of three weeks strain off plantmaterial and you have a ready-made digestivetonic.UsesMost people prefer to use just the liquid but thepickled leaves can be used as well.Take as needed to help with bloating andindigestion, and to prevent re-occurrence ofdigestive problems. This tonic alkalinizes yoursystem and supports the gall bladder and liver.A great life-force tonic!She can be contacted on 021 897 874or plantrhythms@gmail.com.44 www.onesmile.co

How to createa magical day (part one)I have times where I notice that I am close to spiralling into arelatively negative state just because of little things that arehappening. My kids fighting over toys, a business deal notprogressing or simply by hitting my little toe really hard. So Ithought about simple yet effective things I could do to create areally powerful day, and came up with a few suggestions. Thefirst is as follows: at the start of each day, even before you getout of bed, consciously choose to create a fantastic, magicalday. Then finish the following statement for yourself:“Today is going to be my best day ever, because...”Come up with as many reasons why this will be a top day.For instance:Today is going to be my best day ever, because I am goingto take extra care of my appearance, I finally will be finishingthat report, I am going to spend some wonderful time withmy family, and I will be going to the gym and will have thebest workout I can!By starting your day like this, you will be very present inthe actions you take to make your day special. You will getexcited about your day, you will consciously work on making itextraordinary and, chances are, you will have a fantastic day! Ichallenge you to do this every day in order to make it a habit.by Linda BoertjensBirth, Motherby Erik RoeperIt was as if you hadalways walked beside me.A cord I’d never felt,that sang the moment I saw myface reflected in yours.Felt the tie that whispered,You are the builder of my bones,- my unborn hemisphere of dreams.And reminded me ofa mother’s song that oncecalled to the infiniteand wrapped my soul with life.Have a GREAT week!Linda BoertjensVisualizeYourGoals.comBOOK REVIEWby Sarah A. J.The EmeraldAtlas: Books ofBeginning byJohn Stephensis an actionadventure storyfans of stories likeHarry Potter andPercy Jackson willappreciate.The story follows Kate and hersiblings, Michael and Emma, througha string of orphanages after beingtaken from their homes on a snowynight. They are sent to CambridgeFalls, a mysterious place wherefog warps their sense of time andthere are no children. Exploring thehouse, they discover a door thatwasn’t there before and a book likeno other book. The moment theytouch it, a ten year old prophecy isset in motion, and the children findthemselves in a whirlwind of danger,dark enchantments, silly elves andburied cities. Only they can preventthe destruction of Cambridge Falls.I loved the strength of the femalecharacters in this book. Kate andEmma care for each other, but theydon’t turn into a blubbering messwhen the children are separated.Stephens worked hard to develop thecharacters and the plot, and it paidoff well.If you loved Narnia, Percy Jackson orHarry Potter, then this is a must-read.This book was well developed andstrong. I like books that are welldeveloped and strong. I like it a lot.(4/5)www.onesmile.co 45

urple ConeFlowerPurple Cone FlowerEchinaceaby Yvonne TaitDiploma in Medical Herbalism,Iridology and Clinical Nutrition30 years experience including own practiceThree types of the herbEchinacea are used as herbalmedicines. The two thatpredominate are EchinaceaPurpurea and EchinaceaAngustifolia.The purpurea is the broadleavedvariety and is more easily cultivated.The whole plant has medicinalproperties.The root and the rhizome of theangustifolia, or narrow-leaved variety,are used.Echinacea is known for its antimicrobialand alterative properties.In herbal medicine an alterative is aherb that can gradually stimulate therestoration of health and vitality in thebody.Echinacea was first discovered bywestern herbalists in North America,where they learned from the NativeAmerican Indians of its usefulness as amedicine against snake bite and in alltypes of infection.Echinacea is an important herb inthe armamentarium of the modernherbalist: it is used for all types ofinfections, including viral and bacterialattacks.In my clinic it has been usedextensively with other herbs as amixture to combat such maladies ascystitis; tonsillitis; Ross River virus;glandular fever; ear infections andsinus infections.I have successfully used it to treatpyorrhoea (Periodontal disease). My40-year-old son was diagnosed withperiodontal disease. His gums werebleeding so badly and his teeth soloose, he was warned he would loseall his teeth by the time he was fortyfive. He naturally was very upset by theprognosis, his teeth were perfect, andhe couldn’t believe they were all goingto have to come out.I took a good look at his diet, andall sweet things were eliminated, goodbacteria in the form of acidophilus andbifida were introduced into his regime.He took Echinacea tincture and alsoused it as a mouthwash: a teaspoon inhalf a glass of water (to be spat out, notswallowed) after cleaning his teeth withan Echinacea toothpaste.I also started him on a supplementof Coenzyme Q10, an antioxidantwhich can be very helpful in dentalproblems. That was ten years ago,my son is now almost fifty one yearsold, and we can report that he still hasmost of his teeth, he has lost only fiveas opposed to the whole lot. He visitshis dentist regularly, and his commentsto my son were, “What ever you aredoing, continue because it seems to beworking”.He still uses the Echinaceatoothpaste, still uses Echinacea as amouthwash if there is even a slight flairup, and he still takes Coenzyme Q10.A decoction of the root of EchinaceaAngustifolia can be prepared bychopping the root and using one totwo teaspoons to one cup of water,bring slowly to the boil and simmerfor ten to fifteen minutes. This can betaken as three divided doses over theday.Tinctures and fluid extracts ofEchinacea are available at health foodstores and your local herbalists. Followthe manufacturer’s instructions fordosage rates.46 www.onesmile.co

Flower essenceA flower essence of Echinacea iseasily made in your garden if youhave a plant growing:You will require• plain glass bowl• some light weight twine• a small stool• some light weight tent pegs• some good quality waterMethodPlace the stool in close proximity to the plant, placethe bowl containing the water on the stool, tie thetwine to the plant, and gently bend the plant, withoutbreaking it, until the flower heads are in the water.Secure the twine in position by attaching a tent pegand hammering it into the ground. Leave for threeor four hours, preferably in some sunshine. Gentlyuntie the plant and let it resume its normal position,thanking it with love for sharing its wonderful healingfrequency.Did you know?Echinacea is known forits anti-microbial andalterative properties.Echinacea is used forall types of infections,including viral andbacterial attacks.The essence can now be bottled with up to 40%brandy as a preservative. The essence is best kept inthe fridge. The dosage is two or three drops, taken onthe tongue or rubbed into the pulse point of the wrist.UsesUse when feeling shattered by some past or presenttrauma, leading to constant ill health or infections.You are advised to consult with your healthcarepractitioner before taking herbal medicines.References:Principles and Practice of Phytotherapyby Simon Mills and Kerry Bone.New Holistic Herbalby David Hoffman.http://www.anandaapothacary.com/fes-north-american-flower-essences/echinacea-flower-essence.htmlwww.onesmile.co 47

COMING TO MY SENSESWEDJATSerpent Goddess of justice, time, heaven and hell. Took thetitle of the Eye of Ra.The eye is the anthropological symbol of restoration andwellness; this is the restored eye of Horus, Son of Isis andOsiris. The Wedjat is associated with the left hand side, thewinter and moon. Because Thoth played an important roll inits myth, it is called “the eye of Thoth.”The Wedjat Eye led to the endurance of order and thespiritualisation of Osiris, rising as soul to the sky andreturning as the spirit of life, vegetation, fertility and all theressurrection of nature with the new year.The Eye of Horus(flanked by Nekchet and Wadjet) was found under the 12thlayer of bandages on Tutankhaman`s mummy. The ancientEgyptians used these six pieces to represent the six senses.Wedjat (whole one) is a powerful symbol of protection and isconsidered to confer wisdom, health and prosperity. Hous isrepresented as a falcon or head of a hawk.A journey ofself discoveryby K. J. Belchermoonlightart@xtra.co.nzI developed a passion for paintingat Nayland College, under thetuition of Geoff Heath, but otherthan that have no formal training.I began painting in my thirties again,as a form of self-expression afterbeing depleted of energy for years.I had always maintained an interestin the spiritual and mystical plane sowas drawn to Carl Jung’s theory onthe collective unconscious, exploringthemes of archetypes, symbols,mythology, dreams, astrology, alchemyand the I-ching.I had integrated these themesunconsciously into my work whilewriting out my dreams and in doingso became my own therapist, healingmy own cultural wounds as regardswomen`s roles in society, past andpresent. I see myself as a dream (body)and colour (therapist), using the medium(paint) as a transporter.A painting can take five minutes, fivedays, five weeks and sometimes fiveyears to finish. I have become a channeland visual keeper of the ancient stories.E.g. Lilith is from the Hebrew texts andPersephone and Demeter descend frommyths from Greek mythology. I believemany of these stories are guidelines todevelopmental stages in our lives thathave become sadly lacking in our westernculture.I am now preparing a website and abook with the story to explain the image.I work from home and have set up agallery which is also a work in progress.People are welcome to visit me by priorappointment.48 www.onesmile.co

OCEAN WOMANThe ocean, like the earth, isfemale. In some regions suchas Whangarei, Heretuanga,Hawkes Bay she is Hinemoaocean woman,the planet or egg. Giving birthto life in the oceans, mammals,whales and human forming aninticate balance. Maori rock artand motifs form a perspectiveon the timeless quality ofsymbols that in a Jungiansense dwell in the collectiveunconcious and so we have theslender threads of life woventogether.RIO ABAJO RIOWILD WOMAN has no name, she is so vast. But since wildwoman engenders every important facet of womenliness,here on earth she is named many names, not only topeer into the myriad aspects of her nature but also tohold onto her. Because in the beginning of retrieving ourrelationship with her she can turn to smoke in an instant,by naming her we create for her a territory of thought andfeeling within us. Then she will come, and if valued she willstay. So in Spanish she might be called Rio Abojo Rio, theriver beneath the river.l CHINGFIRE/WINDFire engenders warmth, windspreads it. Thus many peopleshare it.www.onesmile.co 49

On My Table There Are Whispersrama wharerimu 2011Isn’t it beautifulas it clears and setswith an eternalglint of sensoryIsn’t it beautifulas it arousesthe forgotten pastto now, endlesslysays the round tableto a flower vasewildly centredand an incense sticksays the sandalwoodto a symphonymeeting in the airas one twisted tuneIsn’t it beautiful says the melodyas it moves tranquil to a finger bowlas if newly caught tainted with oceanby awe and then held lime juice and its seedIsn’t it beautifulas it gifts itselfslow in grace agedto the death arrayIsn’t it beautifulas it just appearsas if was by chanceas if magicalIsn’t it beautifulas it expands lightlike there is neverdark end boundariessays the fallen seedto a cloth placematknitted with pepperdotted with salt shakesays the salt shakerto the pepper grindtouching wood on glassbefore a candlesays the candle flameto ‘gether glassesreflective edgestipped with swirl redIsn’t it beautiful says the red-dusk scentas it flows simply of two together –as if in stillness lovers in unionbe continuous the surface whispers50 www.onesmile.co

BakingOrgasmic Blueberry PieServes 8For the crust:• 150g dried shredded coconut• 150g cashews, dry• 1 T water if required• pinch Himalayan Crystal Salt (HCS)• 3 T agave nectar or date paste*• 6 drops of lemon juiceFor the filling:• 6 pitted Medjool dates, chopped• 500g frozen blueberries, de-frosted• 100g frozen or fresh blueberries• 2 T Psyllium husk powder (1 T per 2 c of mixture)• ½ t vanilla extract• 1/8 t lime juice• 1 really ripe banana, or flesh of 4-5 ripe feijoasoptional• ½ mango or feijoa slices for garnishFrom René ArcherWise cicada café, 23 Crowhurst Street, Newmarketwww.wisecicada.co.nz1. To make the crust, in a food processor grind theshredded coconut into a fine powder. Add the cashewsand continue processing. Add the agave, lemon juiceand HCS and puree until the mixture sticks together orforms a ball. If required, add 1 T water.2. Press into a pie plate to form a crust.3. Pour the 100g blueberries into the crust and distributeevenly.4. To make the filling blend the 500g de-frostedblueberries with the dates, vanilla extract, banana/feijoas, and lime juice in a blender until well blended.Add the Psyllium husk powder and blend to distributeit well in the mixture.5. Pour mixture over the frozen blueberries in the piecrust. Tap pie form a few times on the working surfaceto let excess air escape and the mixture to distributeevenly.6. Refrigerate before serving and garnish with mangobutterflies, shredded coconut, blueberries, feijoa slicesor yellow flowers.* To make date paste, pit 6 soft Medjool dates andprocess in food processor with just enough water toform a paste.www.onesmile.co 51

BakingSugar-freeDairy-freeGluten-freeEgg-freeConscious CookiesCooking is all about being creative. Here is abase recipe and a few hints as to what otherlittle goodies you can add. Make them yourown expression and enjoy!Base• 200g almond flour• 1 cup coconut• 4 tablespoons carob powder• 1 teaspoon kelp (fine)• 2 cups of dates• water• spicesOptional Extras• peanut butter• tahini• seeds/nuts, other fruit• spices: ginger, nutmeg, cardamom,mixed spice, cinnamon• cocoa instead of carob, choc drops, carob orchocolate pieces, etc.Simmer dates in water until they become a soft paste.Combine date paste with all other ingredients, thenadd water/soya milk until moist enough to roll in balls.Flatten slightly and place on a lightly oiled baking tray.Bake until just crispy with gooey centre or until thebottoms are lightly browned.(15–20 minutes at 180 degrees).Enjoy!Hari Om Tat Sat52 www.onesmile.co

Living the dream,being a writer in Franceby Jennifer MansonEver since I was six years old, Iknew I wanted to be a writer.Since first spending time here in1988, I have known I wanted, someday,to live in France.So how did the two dreams cometogether? Fairly simple: it seems whenI was ready, they just happened.A year ago, I was sitting with a friendon a sofa in her beautiful foot clinicin central Christchurch, talking aboutlife. Between us, somehow, it becameaccepted that I would publish my firstbook, and she would host my booklaunch, right where we were sitting.“Do we need to make a list of whatneeds to be done?” she asked.“No, it’s all easy, just one step at atime,” I replied, and so it was – oneterrifying step at a time. We scheduledthe launch for the 6th of October 2010;I had never published a book before,and I didn’t know how long it wouldtake. The book was already written, thefifth I had completed, and the one thatcame together most easily, the onethat flowed and shaped itself in a shortspace of time.I did some editing then found myselfa group of proof readers, put theirimprovements in place and got quotesfrom some printing companies.I talked to a graphic designerwhose work inspired me, and toldher what I wanted: “I imagine a blurryphotograph, and I want it to feellike a holiday.” The cover shecame up with surprised me, butwas perfect. I took it to a networkevent that night and showed it offto everyone.Once the proofs were signed off, inmid-August, I took a holiday to visitfriends in England while the printingwas done. I arrived back on the 31st ofAugust, the books were ready on the1st of September, and that was it, I wasa published author!Then on the 4th September,Christchurch experienced our firstmajor earthquake. We were veryfortunate that time, with no deathsand very few major injuries. Whenconcerned friends phoned fromoverseas, I said “Yes, we had anearthquake, but I’m much more excitedabout my book!”By the end of October, there weretwo more books published andlaunched. Around then I wrote in myjournal “I would love to be fluent inFrench.” Two days later, my husbandphoned. “There’s an opportunity tomove to France. What do you think?”I said “Yes, but in April, so we canhave summer here and summer there.”In the end it was May, but here I am,living, and writing, in France.Sometimes it seems that our dreamsare unrealistic, unattainable, but then,my experience is, if you can imagine it,it can happen, quickly and easily.Just before I left New Zealand, I metCatrin Jacksties, our wonderful editor,and so I have the chance to share mystory, and my books, with you.Jennifer Manson is the author of sixinspiring novels, all set in New Zealand.www.jennifermanson.co.nz.www.onesmile.co 53

InventorWe are so happy and privileged to be able toshare this wonderful story with you in full. Wehave the rights to publish Jennifer’s book “TheInventor” in our magazine OneSmile and itwill be serialised over the next few issues.We will also be publishing installments on ourwebsite www.onesmile.coSo visit us there to find out what happens next!To get through the book even faster sign up forour newsletter via our website www.onesmile.coAll characters in this book are fictitiousand any resemblance to real persons,living or dead, is purely coincidental.This book is set in Christchurch, New Zealand,before the earthquakes of 2010 and 2011.Sadly, some locations are not now as they were.Jennifer Manson1In the deep of midwinter in a beach-front campground inCanterbury, New Zealand, a young, small woman emergedfrom a custom-made, down-filled hammock. She folded backthe flap of her frost-covered tent and blinked in the morninglight. Her nose wrinkled against the cold and she experimentedwith a wide exhale which condensed and floated, beginninga slow, chaotic shift away from her. She went back into thetent for her shoes, then picked her way cautiously towards theshower block. From there she progressed to the kitchen whereshe had left a box of supplies. She returned to the tent withher morning lifeline, a cup of hot, black coffee. Time to startthe day.Everything in the tent was made to precise specifications,refined and reduced so that within half an hour of any givenmoment she could have it packed up into one medium-sizedbox in her car ready to move on to the next location, the nextchapter of her life.She kept coming back here, however. In the orbit of her lifethis was one fixed point among a very few. The attractionswere the sound of the sea, the loneliness of the end of the roadand the relatively easy proximity, only twenty minutes’ drive,to her brother’s house in the city. There she had an unfailinglywarm welcome, lovingly fraternal concern and a well-equippedworkshop for whatever was the latest project.The small metal table on which she placed her coffee was theonly solid surface in her home; everything else was crafted fromtelescoping carbon fibre poles and high-tech modern fabric sothat it would shrink and roll into the smallest of spaces. A tableneeds to be flat. Everything else can flex and bend and still doits job. The chair, a variation on the standard director’s design,moulded itself to her shape and she leaned back, sipping hercoffee and thinking.In a month, spring would be here, and the outdoor marketcircuit would begin again. Just as well: with the new designs shewas working on, money was running low. She was losing weight,she knew, but when it came to a choice between materials andfood, there was no question. Bob would feed her, and anyway,she often forgot to eat when she was absorbed, even if a mealwas waiting steaming at her elbow as she worked.Jackie zipped the tent and backed her car out into the54 www.onesmile.co

oadway. There was no-one else here at this time of year,and mid-week. Even the permanent caravans were empty.Sometimes the campground owners were around when shechecked in, sometimes not. If they saw her tent they knewshe’d be in some time soon with payment. They did her a reallygood deal, less than half the normal daily rate, because of howmuch time she spent here. Another reason to return, so theyreasoned, and they were right.Bob would be out at work but she knew the combination tohis workshop. Just stop in at the house for a moment to sayhi to her sister-in-law, smile at the baby and ruffle the hair ofher nephews. In a year or two she’d let the boys join her in theworkshop, see what she was doing, but not yet. They were stilltoo young to be safe around the tools and materials. Especiallyif she was welding, like today.Sandra looked frazzled but she greeted Jackie warmly. Sheand Bob were good people. Such good people. When Jackieremembered this it gave her a glow of warmth – when shewasn’t so totally focused on the current project that she hardlyknew who she was, let alone anyone else. Like today.2At five-thirty, her brother drove up and parked outside theworkshop. Jackie didn’t hear his car, or the sound of the doorclosing. Half an hour later one of the young boys appeared.“Mum says do you want dinner?”Jackie looked up from her work and blinked. After a beat ofa few seconds she looked at her watch. A few more secondspassed, and she put down her tools. “Hey, Seymour. Thanks.Tell her I’ll be in in a minute.”The child disappeared. Jackie eased her back, slowly archingupwards with audible clicks and creaks. Nine hours. Where hadthey gone?The kitchen was warm and bright. Her brother grinned asshe stepped into the room. “New project?”“How could you tell?”“You look more human when you’ve just been buildingstock.”“You telling me I don’t look human?”“Not nearly. You’ve got that alien expression, wide, wildeyes. And your hair! What do you do, twist machine oil into itwhile you’re working.”Jackie put her hand up to her head. It was possible. Herhands were black and greasy, and she sometimes ran themthrough her hair when she was thinking. “I’ll go wash up.”In the bathroom she glanced into the mirror. There wereblack streaks on her forehead and right cheek, and her hair wasindeed standing up strangely. She swallowed, took a momentto think, then leaned out of the bathroom door.“Sandra? Do I have time for a shower?”“Sure. Dinner’ll be on the table in ten.”Bob appeared in the hall with a clean sweatshirt. “No pointputting that old stuff back on. I’m just putting Clara to bed.See you in a bit.”The water took a couple of minutes to run hot. Jackie founda clean towel in the cupboard under the sink and took thekids’ shampoo from the end of the bath. Five minutes underthe water brought her back into her body from the limbospace she occupied when she was fixed on a new idea. Shetowel-dried her hair, slipping back into plans and designs,and wandered out into the family room, clean, fresh and onceagain preoccupied.The conversation washed over her, the boys talking abouttheir day, telling their dad every detail. Jackie flowed in the tideof it without consciously listening, her face reflecting pleasureand surprise at the appropriate moments, but without reallyhearing the words.“So what is it this time, Sis? Something big?”Again the delay of a few telling seconds before her reply.“Sort of. Not really. More of a refinement – for the fabricfurniture. The rolling concept’s good, but it’s still a little slow.I’m working on a concertina idea, like a roman blind, so whenit’s time to pack up I just pull on a couple of strings, wrap aVelcro tie around and voila! The tricky bit’s where to put thestring. Too far out and you need three hands to do it; too farin, or only one string and you don’t get a neat fold.” She wassliding out of the present again, back to the workshop and herday’s slow experimental progress. Sandra, Bob and Seymourwatched her. Augustus, three years old, was sculpting hismashed potato, oblivious.Sandra’s face wrinkled. “So it’s still about packing up andmoving on. Don’t you want to have a house some day?Security? I hate to think of you alone in that tent. What ifsomebody broke in?”Jackie looked at her sister-in-law with sympathy, put her handout onto hers to reassure her, as if she were the one needingcomfort. “It’s okay, really.”“But don’t you want ...”Jackie continued to gaze into her sister-in-law’s face. “Youknow, it’s interesting, that you ask me that. I’ve been thinkingabout it a lot recently, the ways people try to help eachother.”“What about it?” Sandra asked. Bob looked from one to theother, his body suddenly tense.“People often try to help other people get what theythemselves would want. You and Bob have this great life:home, family, everything you want. And it’s normal to thinkother people would want that, too. But what if they don’t?”“Who wouldn’t want a home and a family?”See the next issue of OneSmile forfurther reading.www.onesmile.co 55

PersonalexperiencePerception20 –21August 2011Trafalgar Centre,NelsonJohn Helle-NielsenTHE sustainable living expo youcan’t afford to miss!Over 120 stands, free seminars andworkshops, fashion shows,kids activities, food, fun andentertainment.I am Becky Morgan. I am the newkid in town. I co-host the breakfastshow here in Nelson for Classic Hits89.6fm and am loving it so far.I have always thought that if youhave at least one of the followingstable, you are ok. Finances,positive relationships andemployment... but two monthsago I felt I had nothing! Not oneof these things was stable in mylife. Looking back on this now,the only thing that got me through was hope. Hope that theright job would come up, hope that I would soon be makingenough money to cover at least rent and hope that one daysoon I might meet someone nice!After a hard few years (both professionally and personally)I finally feel like I am in a place where all my positive thinkingand hope has paid off. What an awesome feeling! I amgenerally a very positive person but I lost my dad last yearand went through a few job changes, and then the world fellapart on TV. I felt I had nothing.I found myself questioning why do bad things happen togood people? I have realized this isn’t the best way of lookingat it. Bad things happen to everyone. It isn’t exclusive to meor you… but it is how you deal with it that counts.With all the doom and gloom that invades our homes onthe TV news, remaining positive is absolutely paramountin this day and age. Easier said than done you reckon? Notat all. Look at what you have and be thankful, surroundyourself with positive people and always remember… thereis something to be thankful for every day. At least one thing.It could be anything from the weather, to your children, to afunky song you just heard on the radio. You know? It’s easy.So spread the positive message around to your friendsand whanau… imagine if we all were positive. The resultswould be phenomenal.You have to be thankful for everything because thealternative is nothing… and no one wants nothing.Learn howto futureproofyour family!

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