One Smile Issue 10

Issue 10 | Summer 2012/13 | www.onesmile.coinspire | ignite | illuminateA newdawnOUR GREEN ROADIEFilming NZ for 7 months from a vanONE SMILE ONE EDUCATIONFinding unity in diversityOIL SLICK OR SLICK SOLUTIONClimate change exhibition$10.99PLUS• Inspiring Teenagers • Gardening • Yellow Dock• Kairology Coaching • Chocolate Recipes

One...One tree can start a forest,One smile can begin a friendship,One hand can lift a soul,One word can frame the goal,One candle can wipe out darkness,One laugh can conquer gloom,One hope can raise our spirits,And... one choice canchange your life.Mitch AlbomPhoto: Oliver Weber

Editor’s LetterNew ways are emerging everywhereand they started a long time ago.The natural healing movement hasincreased in tools and numbers,science is merging with spiritualityvia quantum physics and eventhe traditional business world istransforming into a love fuelled ,coming from the heart organization.Dear reader and friend of the OneSmile community,2012 is coming to an end. The yearhas been anticipated for a long time,due to its significance in the Mayancalendar. ‘Wasn’t it just another year?’,I wondered, thinking back on my ownpersonal life and that of my family andfriends. I feel it was different. Whenwe observe what is going on aroundus in the so called outside world wewill often discover that it is a reflectionof what is going on inside of us. Amirror of our soul. For me that meanta lot of letting go this year. Initially,it was letting go of limiting beliefsthat kept me in a place of ‘running incircles’. Being able to finally becomingaware of it and then stepping out ofthe loop felt liberating in so manyways and released a newfound energyof creativity, certainty and joy. Thisnew awareness helped me to facemy biggest letting go this year whichoccurred not long ago with the passingof my dear sister. Stepping out of theloop meant for me to go to Germanyand spend time with her regardless ofthe consequences in my business andthe rewards are indescribable.I think we realized that we have tochange on all levels and from theblueprint of our existence. Hence toolsthat help us achieve that are becomingmore and more available.There is a new dawn rising. Onethat will take us on a wave ofnew discoveries, new ways ofcommunicating and an energy whichwe have never before experienced.The key to riding this wave is to gowith it instead of resisting the change.I am excited about the new dawn andembrace it with an open heart.Thank you to you all for being with meon this exciting One Smile journey thisyear and I wish you and your familiesand friends a peaceful Christmas andthe experience of the real meaning ofit. Let us embrace the NEW DAWN andtogether ride the wave to a world of:Love, Peace and Joy.CatrinI dedicate this issue to mydear sister Kirsten andam so very grateful for thelast few weeks we spenttogether in so muchharmony and joy.I received the biggest gift one can getin my eyes: peace of mind.On the coverPhotography:Gemma Chapman

OneSmileinspire | ignite | illuminateEDITOR/PUBLISHER: Catrin Jackstiescatrin.jacksties@onesmile.coART DIRECTOR/DESIGNER:Jason Petterson, Gusto Designinfo@onesmile.coEDITORIAL ENQUIRIESContact: Catrin Jackstieseditor@onesmile.coCONTRIBUTORS THIS ISSUE:Birgit Baader, Verena Maeder, SuzanneMasefield, Emma Heke, Carol Taplin, GemmaChapman, Joy Kachina, Laura Raduenz, ClareWade, Susan Matthews, Elisabeth Hovell,Dean Sutherland, Sam Gentry, Randy Taran,Sabina Gilberg, Rene Archner, Ricky Dasler,Anahata Yoga Retreat, Yvonne Tait, AmyMc Comb, Jonathan Thiart, Oliver Weber,Gregory, Elayne Lane, Karen Wason, EmmaManhart, Mitchell Bloom, Ian A. Williams,Christian Heeg, Jacquie Walters.ADVERTISING AND SPONSORSHIP:advertising@onesmile.coPhone +64 (0)21 236 7628SUBSCRIPTION: subs@onesmile.coReader submissions to: info@onesmile.coCONTACT US: 47 Grove St, Nelson 7010Phone +64 (0)21 236 7628Email: catrin.jacksties@onesmile.cowww.facebook.com/OneSmileMagazinewww.twitter.com/OneSmileMagazineOneSmile is published quarterlyby One Smile LtdPRINTING: Copy PressWWW.ONESMILE.COOneSmile (ISSN 2230-3367 and ISSN 2230-3405)is subject to copyright in its entirety. The contentsmay not be reproduced in any form in whole or part,without prior written permission of the publisher.All rights reserved in material accepted forpublication, unless initially specified otherwise.Opinions expressed by contributors are notnecessarily those of OneSmile.Please pass on, compost or recyclethis magazineContentsGLOBAL SMILE6 ONE SMILE ONE EDUCATIONCo-creating peace and balance40 SUSTAINABLE HAPPINESSLessons from Bhutan46 WHAT DO WE REALLY WANT FOR OUR CHILDRENWhat would you wish for?84 CHOOSE A WORD FOR THE YEARFor guidance and inspirationCLEVER SMILE48 NUTURING CHILDRENEnriching community62 WEIGHT LOSS WITHOUT DIETINGSub-conscious reprogrammingGREEN SMILE12 OIL SLICKOr slick solutions?20 IGNITE A PASSION FOR CONSERVATIONMagical moments with our endangered dolphin24 OUR GREEN ROADIEAn inordinately passionate desire29 A ‘BOTTLE’ MISSIONThe world’s first Carbon-Wino Neutral gallery opening72 GARDENING COLUMNSummer is hereOneSmile is printed using offset stockwith FSC-certified mixed source pulpfrom well-managed forests and othercontrolled sources. www.fsc.org

FEATURES6ONE SMILE ONE EDUCATIONCo-creating peace and balanceOIL SLICKOr slick solutions?24OUR GREEN ROADIEAn inordinately passionatedesire12HEALTHY SMILE16 A POWERFULQUESTIONDo I love my life?27 BEING GOOD PARENTSMADE EASYYou are unique - Love lt36 FORGIVE BEFORE THESUN GOES DOWNDont bare a grudge44 MY EYES DON’T WORKLIKE YOURSDetermination and passion54 MOVEMENT NOTEXERCISEHow can you move everysingle day?56 WHAT CAN I DO ABOUTMY SORE BACK?An applied strategy over aperiod of time58 EMBRACING EMOTIONALWELLBEINGVulnerability brings healing74 YELLOW DOCKRumex crispus76 COMPOSITION POWDERFive different herbsCREATIVE SMILE18 SPELLBOUND IN SAMOAMy fascination for allthings tropical28 I DO NOT NEED TOTRAVEL TO INDIA -A POEM60 THE FASHIONSILHOUETTE AND YOUFinding your perfect fit66 FEATURED ARTISTGregoryWORKING SMILE23 MAKE THE CLOUD WORKFOR YOUCloud based services foryour business38 LESSONS FROMDONKEYSFinding your path42 PERSONAL POWERFORMATPositive emotional balancethroughout the day64 CHECK IT OUT - NOWThe Kairology Coachingand Leadership ProgrammeHUNGRY SMILE78 WHOLE MEAL BREAD80 PORK FILLET WITHBRATKARTOFFEIN81 VINCI EASY JERKCHICKEN82 RAW CHOCOLATE BARRECIPETHE EXTRA SMILE30 INSPIRING USGemma Chapman andBrittany Packer33 GRATITUDE PAGE:What made you smile?34 INSPIRATION52 EVOLVE FESTIVAL 201368 BOOK REVIEW: DRYYOUR TEARS70 MUSIC REVIEW: BONNIERAITT SLIPSTREAM

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Education?Co-creating peace and balanceWe are living in a unique time wheneach human being can createa great evolutionary shift in humanconsciousness. A new way ofthinking and valuing has become thenecessary condition for responsibleliving and acting. Cultivating creativechoices is a precondition of findingour way into balance, a globallyinterconnected web of life in whichall life forms live together peacefully,cooperatively, and with mutualbenefit. Establishing sustainablecommunities and societies whereour cultural and other differencesare acknowledged and otherperspectives and ways of beingrespected and honoured; wherewe can find unity in diversity,a university.www.onesmile.co 7

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How can we assist our children to become self-responsibleand self-confident personalities who are able to meet life’schallenges, make conscious life-sustaining choices and enjoythe ride? I asked myself this question when I was pregnantwith my first child. Aware of my own shortcomings I lookedaround me to find some answers. “Good education” wasmentioned quite a few times when I searched for information.However, I soon realized that there wasn’t one unified opinionof what “good education” could look like. This led me tomore questions. What is education for? Does education haveto take at a school or in some kind of formal institution?And who is an educated person? These are also some corequestion Jane Gilbert from the New Zealand Council forEducational Research and many other educational researchersare exploring worldwide.Coming from a family of teachers and from a country wherehomeschooling is illegal, I set out to find the “ideal school”for my oldest daughter, about 15 years ago. Her not goingto school didn’t occur to me. It simply wasn’t an optionin my mind-frame at the time. Being an investigativejournalist, I decided to make this a “research project”. Howcan you define a “good school” or good education for thatmatter? This brought me to the underlying question of ‘whatdo I want for my children?’ I came to the conclusion that forme a school, or any learning place, should be an environmentthat nurtures the learning for wellbeing of all involved andfosters the awareness of the interconnectivity of all lifeon all levels. From observation and experience when workingwith school children I knew that the existing mainstreameducational system often doesn’t meet these criteria.Not only that the children weren’t happy, teachers andparents seemed to be equally unsatisfied with the existingoptions. European teachers have one of the highest earlyretirement rates compared to other professions.Kin School, an Anastasia Forest School in Russia (http://greenplanetparadise.com/504/anastasia-s-dream-forestschools-of-the-future),and Damanhur School in Italy (http://www.damanhur.org/about-us/education/24-education-ofchildren-and-the-damanhur-school),just to name a few.I also became involved in the development of variousalternative educational concepts e.g. IDEAL (IntegratedDolphin Education and Learning), a model originally inspiredby Dr. Horace Dobbs, an internationally acclaimed dolphinresearcher and medical scientist, who shared my passionfor dolphins.After two years of travelling, I came to the conclusion that:a) There is no “one size fits all” educational systemif well-being and happiness is seen as a central goalof education.b) The realization of educational concepts andphilosophies totally depend on the interpretation,capabilities and personalities of the people who putthem into practice, meaning a school that aimsat following a certain philosophy or concept doesn’tnecessarily achieve to implement the ideal of thatconcept because sometimes “human issues” interferewith its realization. I have seen many different versionsof Steiner or Montessori schools, for instance, eachinterpreting their masterminds and mentors in theirown individual way. A school is as good (or bad) as thepeople who work in it – no matter which philosophyit follows.c) Most educational systems focus on intellectualcognitive learning and neglect to provide an adequateemotional and spiritual framework.I decided that there surely must be other options to helpme fulfil my goal with education. As a consequence, I studiedRudolf Steiner and Waldorf education, Maria Montessoriand her help-me-to-do-it-myself approach, Helene Lange,Krishnamurti, as well as old classics like Rousseau and Senecaand many others – there seemed to be a lot of alternativethinkers and feelers! I became an avid student of alternativeeducation models and travelled the world to explore differentconcepts and realizations of learning spaces. After visitingvarious Steiner and Montessori Schools I was drawnto get first-hand experiences in some more “unconventional“ learning spaces such as Nizhoni School (http://www.nizhonischool.com) in Galisteo/New Mexico, SummerhillSchool in England (http://www.summerhillschool.co.uk/),Brockwood Park, a Krishnamurti School in England (http://www.brockwood.org.uk/), Helene Lange School in Germany(http://helene-lange-schule.templ2.evision.net/?id=175),d) Education and learning is not necessarily the samething. The widespread opinion that learning only, mainlyor preferably takes place in school or in educationalinstitutions is an assumption that simply isn’t correct.Learning happens all the time (not only between9 am and 3 pm). It is life as we live it, and not limitedto the class room or any other room or form or structure.It is a fluid process, ever changing as life itself. Humansare the only species on the planet who divide their life(time) into sections: education, leisure time, work, play,etc. Learning is happening all the time, in every moment,where ever we are, whatever we do. Learning is life, lifeis learning.“Non vitae sed scholae discimus - We learn not for life but forthe school” complained the Roman scholar Seneca about thenarrow-mindedness of schools.www.onesmile.co 9

“The universe is an intricate and complexsystem of different strands that are weavedtogether forming a colourful web of life.”Each educational system I explored consistsof three cornerstones:The three parts vary in size and importance, e.g. in someschools personal growth and self development is moreemphasized than in others. In most mainstream educationalsystems, “cognitive learning” still represents the mainchunk of the cake, even if the curriculum would allow fora different interpretation.So what does “good education” look like? How can we caterfor individual needs while honouring the “bigger whole”,supporting children in leading a sustainable, balanced,interconnected life?From my observation, there are some basic criteria that needto be in place in order to create learning spaces that allowfor positive learning experiences, no matter what system orconcept we want to adopt:a) DiversityDiversity is a fact of life – diversity in farming, diet, play/work,thinking, etc. Modern systems and education reward us forfitting in instead of encouraging us to discover who we are.Therefore, our children become confused as to whom theyare. In all this conformity the Self is thrown away for an imageand a vague social or cultural promise. In order to changethis, we will have to let them develop and find their ownmeasure, choice and self-perspective so that they can be theirown self-teacher. Standardization kills creativity – there is notone-size-fits-all form of education/learning!10 www.onesmile.co

) IntrospectionThe process of introspection means to look within, to focuson movement and observation and own life experiences:if you see an old-fashioned alarm clock, look and observe howthe gears are moving and how they are working together.c) Choice and self-directionOnce we truly feel that we do have choice, we begin to freeourselves from limitations and burden of beliefs. This is thebeginning of self-teaching. Choice creates balance, andbalance begins within our own minds.d) Democracy of mindWhen we democratise our thinking we will be able to functionin life as free and balanced individuals. We will realize thatwe are self-responsible and able to make our own decisionsto the benefit of all creation.e) Interconnection and reciprocityThe universe is an intricate and complex system of differentstrands that are weaved together forming a colourful webof life. If you pull one strand it has an effect on the wholeweb. And yet, all strands are different, have their own colourand identity which makes up the beauty and specialnessof the web. We humans form ONE such strand as a species.In indigenous cultures this self-image is still alive, it isessential for survival. In our so called modern societies withtheir technological and other inventions we paintedan image in our minds that shows us as independent, selfreliantbeings that can control life and its components. Wethink we don’t need to listen to the Wind or the Sun or theTrees because we can just shut the door of our well insulatedhouses, switch on the heater and turnon the hot water tap. We think that we can control and planbirth by promoting caesarean – originally seenas valuable emergency intervention - as a safe and normalway of welcoming our children into this world. We needto re-mind us that these mind pictures, cultivated in modernsocieties, are an illusion. Parenting and educational systemsin modern societies mainly focus on the development of theintellect, the mind.We train our young ones to be specialists rather than seeingthe bigger picture, the interconnectedness of all life.We establish ranking and assessment systems that supportthe principles of dominance and competitiveness rather thannurturing community building skills, cooperation, team spiritand solidarity. However, the good news:we all come into this world with the abilities to connect,relate and communicate on levels way beyond verbalcommunication. When we allow for conscious birth, allowchildren to keep their different ways of perception froma very young age, and encourage them to develop empathicand other life sustaining skills, life on this planet will changefundamentally.f) Nature integrationAfter all these years of exploring and learning and readingabout different forms of education, my favourite teacher andultimate source of learning is nature. I remember sitting on abirch tree for hours and hours when I was a child. Dreamingand receiving “messages” of wisdom, insights that I am stilldrawing from. Sitting with trees, on a rock near the beach,watching the sunset and listening to the gentle chatter of thewaves still provides me with my best “learning experiences”.That’s where I go when I need fresh ideas for my writings,insights in relationships, parenting or any other areas of mylife. Shamanic traditions in all cultures incorporate this wayof “natural learning”, and we can be inspired by shamanicpractices when creating learning spaces and experiences forchildren.In my view, “good education” happens through real lifeexperiences, preferably in natural not human createdenvironments, rather than being limited to a school buildingand mainly offering theoretical knowledge. Experiences andinformation ideally relate to our present life situation onplanet earth, to the NOW and to WHO I AM. Gaining morepractical experiences and life skills on many levels (mental,spiritual, physical) and a holistic approach thus are the mainingredients of balancing education.If you want to get involved or read more aboutalternative learning options:Holisticlearning.weebly.comAko-a-Rongo means peaceful listening, listeningwith all senses which is a prerequisite for all learning.Ako-a-Rongo is an initiative to network and bringpeople together who want to explore ways tore-form and re-store natural ways of learning, to findand live positive examples of self-growth andself-development, to find and live unity in diversity,so that we can share our gifts for the benefit of all life.www.nzcer.org.nzwww.learningforwellbeing.orgBirgit Baader is a mother of two children, author andfilm maker, co-founder of Ako-A-Rongo, a multiculturalholistic learning initiative (holisticlearning.weebly.com),involved in educational research programsand alternative learning projects in Europe andNew Zealand. www.birgitbaader.comwww.onesmile.co 11

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This year has been a year of records:The Arctic sea ice has just hit its lowestextent ever recorded, as a resultof man-made Climate Change. Recorddroughts, heat waves and wildfireshave ravaged vast parts of the US foodgrowing areas, and extreme weatherevents are happening more frequentlythan ever before. Climate Changeis already having devastatingimpacts on people’s lives, and poorcommunities in developing countriesare being hit first and hardest. Thereis also an incredible intergenerationalinjustice in what is happening, becauseit will be our children and theirchildren, who will have to deal with theconsequences of our inability to acton Climate Change.Climate Change is happening because we are burning fossilfuels at an unprecedented rate, and while we all know thatwe should reduce our emissions, we are currently seeinga worrying worldwide trend toward the developmentof extreme oil, unconventional gas and more dirty coal. NewZealand is one of the new frontiers of these developments,pursuing an energy strategy that will open up vast areasof our deep-sea to oil exploration, see hydraulic fracturinghappening in many areas of the country and potentiallymine vast reserves of lignite, the dirtiest form of coal. It hasbeen calculated that worldwide we can only burn 20% of allproven fossil fuel reserves by mid century, if we want to avoidrunaway Climate Change . So why on earth would we wantto look for more oil, coal and gas?I have been campaigning on Climate Change for many yearsnow, along with many other people worldwide. Reducing ourcarbon emissions will only succeed if we kick our fossil fuelhabit. Lifestyle changes are a good start, but can only havelimited success, as long as fossil fuel companies have gotthe current political and economic influence. For this reasonit is crucial that we start building a positive movement thatembraces alternatives to fossil fuels and works towards a ZeroCarbon economy.Children viewing the video workby John Irwin.www.onesmile.co 13

New Zealand has got amazing potentialto achieve this, and could be a modelnation and pioneer. This would not onlybe a moral achievement, it would alsobring us wealth and quality of life .Of course this would not happen over night, and it wouldtake many years to achieve, but why not start right now?I believe the biggest hurdle is in our way of thinking, becauseas long as we think it is not possible to phase out fossil fuels,we will probably not be able to put all of our creative energyinto finding solutions and we won’t support bold decisionsby true political leaders. Or to put it more positively:We urgently need to develop a vision for a world thatmeets this epic challenge and find new ways of poweringcivilization. This process could be terrifying or amazinglyexciting, and it is really up to us to make a conscious decisionon how we want to see it.Am I a dreamer to think along these lines? Maybe, but I knowthat many great things start with a dream. And I see my workas planting seeds of this dream, speaking to people’s heartsas much as their minds. Making them feel strong and hopeful,and reminding them of our “can do” attitude.There are many ways to plant these seeds of socialchange. It could be leading by example, or holding publicpresentations. It could be taking courageous direct action,or writing letters to the newspaper or to parliament. Alongthe way there will be many conversations with people of allwalks of life.I was getting to a point where I thought I really neededto find a way to reach people on a more emotional level.And to that end, I feel that Art can be a useful wayto communicate messages about things that are quite hardto grasp, such as the effects of Climate Change on futuregenerations.Things started falling into place when I connected withColleen Plank, who is a tutor and textile artist at the NelsonMarlborough Institute of Technology (NMIT). She hadobserved an oil platform that had been towed to Tasman Bayfor maintenance and dominated the sea view for some weeksin 2011. It triggered her to think about what the implicationsArtwork “Tahunanui Burns” by Adi Tait.Opposite Top: “Petroleum Man”.Opposite Bottom: “Oillution Curtain”by Choi Fu Allen and students of Room 3,Central School.2012/13 International Ambassador,Erin Schrode.14 www.onesmile.co

of increased off-shore oil drilling would be for New Zealand.After witnessing a minor oil spill off the coast of Tauranga fourmonths later, she came up with the idea of a collaborative artexhibition that would reach out to the community andinvolve children.I was invited to be part of this collaborative project called“SLICK” in my role as environmental advocate , along withNMIT tutor and artist Adi Tait and documentary filmmakerJohn Irwing, artist Lieke Bliekendaal and pupils fromSt Joseph’s School and Nelson Central School. The name“SLICK” intended to play both on the dirty reality of fossilfuels, and the promise of good solutions.The children played Tom Haper’s “Oil Game” in class andgained knowledge of what petroleum is, how muchwe consume in our day to day lives and why we need to findalternatives to fossil fuels because of Peak Oil and ClimateChange. They were encouraged to think about how theywould like the planet to look in 100 years and what they canchange now to preserve it. They collaboratively made artin class and were invited to participate in a video aboutoil and its alternatives, giving them a voice and using theirartistic expression to create a contagion of change.The artists involved worked closely together with the childrenand also collectively created pieces of art and art installations.The project culminated in an art exhibition held at the newNMIT Arts and Media Building in Nelson. The well-attendedopening night was the highlight and made the successof the project obvious. It was really rewarding to listen to thechildren’s conversations, read the pledges they had putup on the “Keep NZ green” wall and to feel their pridebecause that what they had learned and created go noticedby the wider community. Over 70 people were involved in thisambitious project, and I feel most of them deepened theirunderstanding of the issues and their commitment to thecause in a positive way.The SLICK team would like the project idea to be pickedup by other schools around New Zealand: They too can workwith local artists to create art work and have conversationsaround their dependency on petroleum and the effectit is having on their environment. Most important of all, theytoo can start sowing small seeds of change, and instill thecourage in people, to start thinking beyond oil.www.facebook.com/CleanEnergyFutureActionwww.transitionculture.orgwww.onesmile.co 15

A PowerfulQuestionfor 2013by Laura RaduenzOur lives and businessesget better when we askbetter questions.Are you asking yourselfpowerful questions?16 www.onesmile.co

“Do I Love My Life?”For example, in business,• rather than asking “How can I make more money?”We should be asking “How can I better serve mycustomer?”• rather than asking “How can I get more customers?”we should be asking “Who is my ideal customer? Andwhere are they hanging out?”• rather than asking “How can I persuade more peopleto buy?” we should be asking “How can I attractmy ideal customer to me? What do they love aboutwhat I offer?”The second question is a much bigger, broader, morepowerful question. And, if we follow it, we’ll grow ourincome, customers, and business, won’t we?And, in life,• rather than asking “Am I happy?” we should be asking“Do I love my life?”My husband asked me the other day, “Are you happy?”I realized “happy” is a tough word. We all know what happyis in a general way. We’d like to be happy. But, happy how?We know we can’t be happy 24/7. A happy activity? A happybusiness? A happy day? We can identify a happy dogor a happy child. But, what does a happy adult with lotsof responsibilities look like?!So, I was reflecting that a better, more powerful questionto guide our lives and businesses is...“Do I Love My Life?”• Did I Love My Life Today?• Did I love some activities I did?• Did I love interacting with someone today?My customers? My coworkers? My friends? My pets?My self?• Do I love where I live? My environment?• Did I love doing something by my self?• Did I do something that made me smile, laugh, feelgleeful, and happy?• Did I do something that made me feel peaceful,content, calm?• Did I do or see something that gave me a rush? Mademe feel awe and wonder?• Do I love what I do? Do I love my business? Or, businesscustomers? Is there something about my business thatI love?• Do I have relationships that I love? That I feel reallygrateful for? That make me feel good?So, how to use and apply this powerful question in a practicalway? Well, both in small daily ways and in big life lookingways. Here are some examples of how it works for me.• My morning coffee dawdle. I am semi-retired now. WhenI worked in an office, I rushed out the door in the mornings.So, now I dawdle over a cup of coffee in the morning sittingon my porch/veranda/patio enjoying the sunrise, quiet,peace, solitude. Does it make me happy? Well, better wordsare that it makes me feel peaceful, content, calm, delighted,present, in the flow. I really love this. It is my favorite timeof the day. It makes me love my life.• My exercise. The very best exercise that you couldpossibly do is … the one that you love doing. I’ve startedworking out at a CrossFit gym. It is a combination of olympicweightlifting moves, body weight moves, and intervaltraining. Its fast, tough, energizing, brutal, exhausting,and empowering. Does it make me happy? Well, a betterdescription is that it makes me feel energized, empowered,strong, awed, bold and ready to think big about everythingin my life. I am addicted and really love it. It makes me lovemy life.• My evening walk at the park. Every evening aroundsunset, my husband and I take a walk at the park/beach.We may or may not talk about our day. We hold hands.We people watch. We nature watch. We watch the sunset.Does it make me happy? Well, it really fills me with gratitude,peace, wonder, and awe that I have found such a terrific man,a terrific place to live, and a terrific way of life right now.It makes me really really love my life.• My Think Big list. I have a list of 25 Things I want to dobefore I die. My life goals. And, while I dawdle over coffeeor walk in the park, I often reflect on how I’m doing on them.Right now I am actively working on 3 items on the list. Threebig items. So, I’ve created a life where I can work on theimportant things. Does it make me happy? Well, Yes, it does.But, it really makes me love my life....Try out this powerful question. Let is guide you, grow you,help you create a better, more beautiful life. Try it, and letme know how it goes.Laura Raduenzwww.BeBoldStepUp.comCoaching others to think big, be bold,and step up their lives and businesseswww.onesmile.co 17

SpellboundFirst impressions can be powerful, inspirational and pure magic. None more so for me than the first dreamy imagesseen through the open windows of our taxi van, as we headed to Aggie Grey’s hotel in downtown Apia. In the weesmall hours of a steamy still night, we sped past pacific blue fales, and down deserted shadowy streets shrouded indarkness. On beyond hedgerows of hibiscus flowers – flashes of colour under solitary street lights. Past luminescentchurches looming out of the blackness, and beneath groves of leaning coconut palms reaching out for the restlessreef. With mixed feelings of excitement and a little intrepidation, we had raced on towards our unknown destination.The exotic beauty of this legendary land and surroundingseascapes, coupled with the charismatic charm of thePacific Island people, have captured travelers hearts andimaginations since ancient times. When I visited Samoa forthe first time ten years ago, I went simply for a good time withfriends to relax lagoon side. Little did I know then that thisplace would caste a spell on me that would draw me backtime and again, and ignite an interest in painting.Our beach fales nestled on the whitest of white sand, beneathtowering hibiscus trees with blooms the colour of the fieryorange sunsets. Fluttering like a swarm of butterflies to theground, they magically transformed to become ruby red.When I stepped out of my hut on the first morning in thesoft half light of dawn, the balmy air was fragrant with theintoxicating scent of frangipani. A carpet of scarlet hibiscuslay scattered at my feet.We stayed on the stunning island of Savaii – the larger andmore traditional of the two main islands. Down at the bustlingmarket alive with a heady mix of aromas, laughter and colour,we feasted on freshly baked pork buns, bananas in coconutcream and chop suey. All washed down with a welcome bottleof Vailima beer.From that moment on I became entranced by the larger thanlife plants that seemed to grow bolder and brighter in theovernight rains. I was by no means the first to have becomecaptivated by the bounty of botanical beauties that arean integral part of everyday life in Samoa. Back in 1916traveler and literary great W Somerset Maugham commentedin his notebook of Savaii18 www.onesmile.co

‘ After the rain when the sun is shiningand you walk through the bush, it is likea hot-house, seething,humid,sultry,breathlessand you have a feeling that everything aboutyou, trees,shrubs,climbing plants is growingwith an impetuous violence’.Beneath broad leaved breadfruit trees we sipped Pina coladasserved by a massive mini skirted Fa’afafine (man with themanner of a woman) wearing a tight purple tank top anda yellow hibiscus in her hair. With gleaming toffee colouredthighs the size of whopping tree trunks, ‘Juanita’ flirted andfussed over us, as the setting sun slipped seductively into thedepths of the Pacific Ocean. We were later to learn of her pighunting prowess on the bush clad volcanic slopes behind thevillage, and her raunchy moves as a dancer at the Tropicananight club in downtown Apia. “She is world famous in Samoa”a grinning local told us.would be suitor. Innocently I had picked a newly unfurledred bloom from a bush by the bus stop and placed it myblond hair. A passing tropical shower had sprinkled diamondlike raindrops over the petals and they sparkled irresistiblyin the sun.Every day I would discover something knew about traditionalvillage life. The men setting off in their outrigger canoesto fish the deep beyond the reef, and throwing nets in themysterious moon-lit lagoon. Chattering children and laughingwomen at the freshwater pools, scrubbing piles of washingon black volcanic rocks. Machete wielding villagers workingin the taro and banana plantations. Clucking chickens, barkingdogs and pigs destined for the umu wallowing at the water’sedge - blissfully unaware of their inevitable fate. There aredefinitely no mod cons in this part of the world. Most localson Savaii continue to live a communal, subsistence way of life,steeped in the traditions of their ancestors.in SamoaBySusan MatthewsMy fascination for all things tropical subsequently morphedinto something of an obsession which inspired me to paintcanvas’s depicting the islands larger than life tropicalbeauties. I became literally spellbound with the delicatesmoldering scarlet hibiscus flower and could think of littleelse. Every waking moment was consumed by thoughtsof their alluring shape and sensuous form. Printed on lavalava,on traditional tapa cloth, and growing rampantly in akaleidoscope of colour around the island. I shopped tillI dropped at the Salelologa markets, purchasing one lavalavafor each day of the week, along with woven grass bags,shirts for my boys back home, and tablecloths. Each oneskillfully crafted by local villagers and featuring the hallowedhibiscus in various designs. So frenzied and out of controlhad my shopping expedition been, I felt like a womanpossessed. Sadly my three sons did not share my passion forvivid floral. The stunning shirts I purchased for them in theheat of the moment were not received with the enthusiasmthey deserved. They remain tucked away in the back of theirwardrobes for any ‘island’ nights.It was a habit of mine to walk every morning and I continuedthis in the small village we were staying in. Many villagerswore a hibiscus flower tucked behind their ear. I was to learnlater that this signaled the availability of the wearer to anyIt was on one of my solitary sojourns that a woman had wavedout to me to join her for breakfast, as was the local custom.She plied me with dark sweet freshly ground cocoa ladledfrom a large pot over an open fire, and delicious Samoanporridge.“You know many of us are watching you walk about our villageand we see that you like to wear the Aute in your hair likeus. But you must not wear the red one because it is thefavorite flower of three spirit women that roam our islands.They will get very angry and jealous because they think youare trying to be more beautiful than they are. The ghosts willput a curse on you and you can get a terrible sickness. Thishas happened to many many people” she whispered.The sinister overtone of the legendary hibiscus story stayedon my mind, feeding my overactive imagination. In my naivetyI had not fully realized the spiritual and cultural significanceof my actions and the story shared with me. Within days of myreturn home I came down with a dose of the flu. Coincidence?– maybe – or the island spirits warning me should I returnand meddle in things I knew little about. But the three spiritwomen and I do have one thing in common. Our sharedpassion for the red Aute. Simply on that level alone, I thinkwe are in fact kindred spirits.www.onesmile.co 19

Magical moments with ourendangered DolphinIn the calm and shelteredwaters of the stunningMarlborough Sounds livesa hidden treasure, a veryspecial and elusive dolphinknow as the “Hector”Dolphin. He’s endemiconly to NZ and at just1.2metres; he is therarest Oceanicdolphin inthe world.Theircousins, theSouth Island Hector’sDolphin, are estimated tohave between 6000-7000 individuals.One of the leading causes of death in these dolphinsis accidental by-catch in set nets. Combine this with a slowreproductive rate, pollution and boat strike, and we findourselves in the current predicament, desperately tryingto protect one of our national treasures before we loseit forever!Quietly he cruisesand close to shore hestays, sneakily approachingany who venture into his bay.Whether it’s a boat or a penguin,these curious and mischievous littlefellows love the element of surprise….“You would swear there are no dolphinsin the bay, when suddenly all these cheekylittle faces peer up at you from the bowof the boat or leap high into the air besideyou. It’s such an honour when they chooseto enjoy our company as much as we enjoytheirs” -Ellen Cross, UKHector’s Dolphins are found in small pockets of coastalocean around the country. There are 2 main subspecies -The North Island Hector’s Dolphin (Maui Dolphin) and theSouth Island’s Hector’s Dolphin. Sadly the Maui Dolphinis classified as “critically endangered” and there areestimated to be only around 55 of these left in the world,all living on the west coast of the Northern North Island.Dolphin Watch Ecotours in Picton are one of the fewoperators in the world that can take you to see thesebeautiful NZ dolphins.“We pride ourselves on all our species interactions beingrespectful and on the animal’s terms. We are in a positionto raise awareness and introduce guests to the dolphin’sworld. Only when people are aware of the Hector’s plightcan people support their existence, we want to ensureHector’s Dolphins are in the Marlborough Sounds andNZ for years to come” - Natasha Luxton, Dolphin WatchEcotours GuideWell aware of how important their role is in the protectionof this species, Dolphin Watch Ecotours participate andorganise a variety of Hector’s Dolphin conservation andawareness campaigns. Most recently our Kids WildlifeEducation Program ‘Conservation Kids NZ’ held a ‘Hector’sDolphin Day’ for kids. This was a huge success and sawnearly 100 local children learning all about these fascinatingdolphins! They participated in the International ‘Let’s faceIt Campaign’ (www.lets-face-it-dolphins.com) where theyvisual petition to save the Maui Dolphin.20 www.onesmile.co

“We hope that by bringing peopleto the wildlife we will ignite that passionfor conservation and encourage themto take action! We live in such a stunningcountry full of amazing species, let’s keepit that way!”-Paul Luxton, Dolphin Watch Ecotours GuideThe Hector dolphin is our Dolphin, he’s NZ’s specialdolphin. Let’s look after him and make sure he’s heretomorrow so that we can see and enjoy his company.If you would like to see Hector’s Dolphins along with manyother species in their natural habitat tours contact Dolphinwatch Ecotours, The Waterfront, Picton. Tours run dailyfrom October to April.Phone: 0800 WILDLIFE.You can also find them at www.naturetours.co.nzor www.facebook.com/naturetoursHector dolphin facts• The Hector’s dolphin was named after Sir JamesHector, who was the curator of the Colonial Museumin Wellington (now Te Papa). He examined the firstspecimen found of the dolphin. Sir James lived from1834 to 1907. He was the most influential New Zealandscientist of his time.• Hector Dolphins are classified a “Threatened Species”with the population estimated at 7000 individuals.This puts them in the same category of endangermentas animals such as the Panda bear.• The population has dwindled from 30,000 in the 1970’sto 7000 in 2010.• Maui Dolphin (North Island subspecies of Hector)is rarest Dolphin in the world, numbered less than100 individuals, giving it a “critically endangered”classification, their continued survival is very uncertain.• Hector Dolphin are the smallest oceanic dolphinat 1.2 metres and weighing 45kgs• Hector’s and Maui’s dolphins live for around 20 yearsand breed slowly. Females don’t have their first calfuntil they are about 7-8 years old and have a new calfonly every 2-4 yearswww.onesmile.co 21

Eco Retreatin KaiteriteriBe our Guest...Located just one hour from sunny Nelson, Kimi Ora EcoResort in Kaiteriteri is the perfect place to relax andunwind all year around.Kimi Ora is for everyone. You are welcome to hire amountain bike to try the hugely popular Kaiteriteri MTBPark or take a dip in our heated indoor or outdoorswimming and spa pools or relax in the sauna. Or howabout treating yourself to a spa treatment (open Fridays,Saturdays and Sundays)?Set amongst the treetops, our solid timber eco friendlySwiss-style chalets are the perfect place to reconnectwith nature and yourself. You’ll be delighted by theuninterrupted views of Kaiteriteri beach, estuary andsurrounding bush-clad hills and the abundant bird life.bring this ad and receive for*$ 99per person* breakfast, day stay, 3 course dinner* 1/2 hour massage, use of all facilitiesIf you want to stay the night pay NZ$ 89 ppin a studio unit even during peak season.Our fully licensed restaurantand Spa Centre is undernew management.Kimi Ora Eco Resort99 Martin Farm RoadKaiteriteri, New ZealandPhone: 0508 KIMIORA (5464672)Email: info@kimiora.comOnline: www.kimiora.comThe photographs were taken at a recent school football holiday programme.22 www.onesmile.co

Getting Kiwi businesses onlineMake theYou can:cloud workfor youAirsquare is an online tool, that allows you tocreate and manage your own website, eliminatingexpensive design fees. You can try Airsquarefree for 14 days, with no obligation, using thebutton on our website.Airsquare is different from other website providers,in that we offer multiple services within thesame system, for one monthly fee.•Create your website•Sell your products online•Create a customer database•Create and send out email newslettersWe have five different website packages that youcan choose from, to suit your requirements andyour budget (from $19 per month). You can upgrade,downgrade or opt out whenever you like.If you already have a website, it’s easy to moveyour website to Airsquare - just call or email usfor a chat.We know that technical jargon can be daunting,so we’ve made the system easy to use and we’rehappy to answer any questions that you mayhave - fire away!Clare Wadeclare.wade@airsquare.com021 0290 9748By Clare Wadewww.airsquare.comwww.airsquare.com021 02909748If you are running a small business, you are probably familiar with the never-ending to-do list andmulti-tasking that comes with the territory. There are a number of cloud-based services that areinvaluable to our business; since the theme of this edition is a New Dawn, why not branch out andtry one of these services; it may make life easier...1. Google Apps (google.com/enterprise/apps/business):Google apps are free for up to 10 users and we love them.Create an e-mail address that ends with @yourdomain.com for free on Google Apps. We use Google Mail, GoogleCalendar & Google Drive on a daily basis. Google Driveallows you to create, share & access documents& spreadsheets anywhere, online.2. Google Analytics (google.com/analytics):This is another amazing (& free) service from Google.It allows you to monitor and analyse how people are usingyour website. A must.3. Skype.com:Skype allows you to call or video-call another Skype numberin the world for free – great for doing National/Internationalbusiness. Any ex-pats will be familiar with Skype (I am theaunt who lives in the computer!)4. Xero.com:Xero provides online accounting software that is very easyto use. Some of the features we love are online invoicing andtransaction reconciliation. Integration with Xero is comingvery soon to Airsquare.5. Mailchimp.com or Campaign Monitor.com:Both are great services for building and managingyour email marketing campaigns: vital for small, onlinebusinesses; Mailchimp is free for the first 2000 subscribers(Airsquare also has an integrated email marketing systemwhich is free for the first 2000 subscribers).6. Dropbox.com:This product allows you to store multiple files ‘in the cloud’(i.e. online) and allows you to sync them across multipledevices. It’s very useful for backing up your files & accessingthem anywhere. The free offering comes with 2GB of space,with the option of more storage, for a fee.7. Trello.com:Trello is a free collaboration tool that acts like a virtualwhiteboard; this means that you can create interactivedo-lists, available to others in your team; we’ve just startingusing this and it has helped us organize who is doing whatand what’s in the pipeline.8. Evernote.com:Great for taking notes, making do-lists, drafting blog postsand storing receipts. Evernote allows you to keep everythingyou need in one place and access it from anywhere, evenyour smart phone.9. Hootsuite:This came to our attention recently; it’s fantastic for smallbusiness owners who are active on social media. Hootsuiteallows you to manage accounts like Twitter, LinkedIn,Google Plus, Facebook & more, all in one place. Save timeand energy!10. E-commerce:If you have an online store, take a look at Vendhq.com.It’s an online point-of-sale and inventory managementsystem that integrates with Xero. It’s easy to use andcloud-based, so you can access it from anywhere. Anotherservice to look at is getkiwipay.com, a new Nelson-basedpayment gateway that makes it easy to accept credit cardpayments online without a merchant account.11. Airsquare.com:We offer an integrated website, e-commerce, blog,customer database & email marketing system:Awesome!www.onesmile.co 23

OurGreenRoadieBy Emma HekeConsidering I’m a bit of a homebody,the decision to travel around New Zealandfor 7 months with my 7 year old sonConnor, in a small van bought sight-unseenon TradeMe was a LONG WAY outsideof my comfort zone.But when you’re a self-employed, independent filmmaker ANDhome-educator; gripped by an inordinately passionate desireto film kiwi stories to inspire the general public to embraceeco-friendly ways of living and working and your budgetis virtually non-existent, then… you’ve got to do, what you’vegot to do!Fortunately, my son and I measure fewer than 160 cm each,a bonus indeed when the back of our van was not vastly longer.A nifty raised bed built in the back meant we could sleepin there when necessary and store all our film gear, books,clothes and food underneath. Oh, and boxes of DVDs!I’d spent the previous winter researching our subjects andamassed an itinerary that moved at a cracking pace! It involvedinterviewing 70 families/individuals/businesses throughoutNZ to showcase a diversity of economically viable,environmentally sustainable businesses and lifestyles. Whata life-changing, inspirational experience it turned out to be!Our journey spanned the country from Riverton in the Southto Whangarei in the North and most places in between.We often also stayed with the families we filmed - ordinarypeople with extraordinary vision opened their homes to us.People showed us around their businesses and shared theirstories; the ‘how’ they got started down the environmental trackand ‘why’; the ‘what’ they do and ‘how’ they do it. We also madesome friends for life!24 www.onesmile.co

To name a few things: We’ve learnt how to hand milk goats(Waihi Bush) , build a pallet cabin (Solabode) and make tea-treeoil (True Blue Organics), about biodiversity, permaculture,recycling paint and bio digestion. From multi-million dollarbusinesses (Ecostock) to home business (Professorof Garbology); volunteer run Co-ops (Riverton) to communitygardening revivals (Hand over a Hundy) and all things organicand biodynamic; conservation and repurposing waste. Plusa lot about thinking outside the square and making the choiceto make a difference.For instance, we found a fabulous ‘old-school’ farmer BrianHales who has QEII’d a section of his farm to protect thePeripatus living there – “What, you’ve never heard of aPeripatus?” Well, local rumour has it that David Attenboroughcame to NZ to find one… and couldn’t…but WE did!! ANDwe filmed the rare creature along with Weber school childrenwho helped fence off the area. This farmer has also recreatedthe thriving wetland he remembers from his youth. His farmis living proof that it doesn’t have to be all about filling up theland with stock and profit. That conservation is an importantfactor too!We’ve called our trip and subsequent documentary Our GreenRoadie (due for release 2013). With an aim to dispel myths aboutthings ‘green’, sustainable and organic and a desireto bring stories that challenge, inspire and empower change,we reckon we’re creating a film that’ll do just that. We’vedeliberately chosen ‘ordinary’ people that we can all relate to;ordinary people who have made the choice to live their dreamsin sustainable ways…right now!Although we’re a film team of two (I’m on HDV and my sonon Digital SLR), the whole venture has been a massive projectwith a real sense of community, but one not confinedby geography. Ecostore gave us loads of their fabulousproducts to gift as koha to the families we stayed with;Jacquetta Bell of the Nelson Media Agency donated herexpertise to alert the media in every town we visited;a hundred people from all over the world and NZ pledgedto our campaign on the Crowdfunding site PledgeMeso I could employ people to help with the final editing processand my Mum ran the business side of things from home (andlooked after our beloved cat).With NZ as my son’s ‘classroom’ he has had an incredibleeducational experience out there in the real world, meetinga myriad of inspirational people and making many friends alongthe way. He’s discovered that he has a real affinity with animals,particularly dogs and birds! He’s seen an avalanche at Aoraki,Mt Cook, helped roast organic coffee beans to perfection(Kawatiri Roasters), knows how to rear Queen Bees (MountainBeech Apiaries), understands bio digestion (Water AlchemyLtd), has met environmental artists, is welcome back to WrightsVineyard anytime as a picker, has seen an edible forest gardenin action, knows the geography of NZ, has a spot on senseof direction (thank goodness, most helpful!) and mostimportantly has developed the confidence to make goodfriends wherever he goes.Connor tells me I need to put in two additional facts. One is thathe’s shot arrows (made with Robert Guyton from Riverton) allaround NZ from a manuka bow that he made on the West Coastwith a man called Bruce who is one of his new friends! And thesecond is that he’s taken some really cool ‘stills’ that will be usedin the film and that he got paid for each photo-shoot.We found that the majority of folks just started with an ideaand started small. Some started over 20 years ago and othersjust in the last few years. What everyone has in common is an‘idea’, a ‘can-do’ attitude, drive, flexibility, vision and the abilityto think outside the square in order to make it happen. Peoplehave made a choice. Everyone works hard too and loves everyminute of it!We feel truly blessed because we know that we’re doing whatwe’ve been put on this earth to do, right at this minute. There’snothing ‘easy’ about it but we wouldn’t have it any other way.We are LIVING our dreams for a better world and we wakeup eager to enjoy each moment of every day. So are the peoplewe filmed. We know that Our Green Roadie will encourageus all to move closer to living our own dreams for a moresustainable way of life.www.onesmile.co 25

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BEINGGOODparentsmade easyTemperament:All this is geneticallydetermined. Set inconcrete if you like.Unchangeable, atleast without causingharm. It‘s naturesway of saying: „Youare unique.“ Love it.Work with it. Notagainst it!It is all about the right set of values and activities for your kids.Making yourchildren's temperament a part ofyour childhood developmentprogram.Every caring parent has heard of avariety of different concepts toeducate and raise their children.Example:Some say that discipline and a tightregime are the best way to be agood parent. They use the exampleof the gardener whose efforts inpruning and straightening a treeresult in a richer harvest. Others saythat a child needs to develop freelywithout restriction. They also usethe example of the tree, but thistime it would only develop to its fullpotential when left alonecompletely.It‘s not hard to find advocatesfor both positions.Both sides miss the point however.No one kid is like the next. We allwant to be understood as individualswith different sets of values and ourown way of doing things.So do our kids.2007We lorem need ipsum to step away dolor from met the set „oneconcept quam fits nunc all“ idea parum and the mindblowing convenience it brings for usas parents, when it comes tochildhood development.Unfortunately there is no instructionmanual for raising kids, where youcan follow step by step instructionsto get the desired result. At the ageof one, you can already make outhuge differences in thetemperament of children. Some willdevelop motoric skills much earlierthan others. Others will be muchfaster picking up language and tendto observe more, while others arecapable of sending out a wave ofcharm that no one can really resist.All this is genetically determined.Set in concrete if you like.Unchangeable, at least withoutcausing harm. It is natures way ofsaying: „You are unique.“Love it.Work with it.Not against it!Odds are, your child will showbehaviour patterns that are incontrast to your own. And othersyou can easily relate to.It is hard to develop tolerance forthings you don‘t understand. Onceyou have understood that most ofyour child‘s behaviour patterns up tothe age of four are genetically hardcoded, and not a result of good orbad manners, you will find that it isyou who needs an adjustment inattitude and not your child.You love football. Your 6 year oldson doesn‘t? He likes reading? Youare disappointed? Please refer to theprevious paragraph and read again.This time, slowly.The best way to be a good parent isto watch them closely, find outwhere their strengthsand weaknesses are, establishconsistent boundaries, establish anorder they can rely on and supportthem in their own natural way ofdoing things. It may not be yourway, but for them it‘s the only way.If you want to find out more aboutyour children's temperament :http://www.familyservices.govt.nz/info-for-families/skip/temperament.htmlandhttp://www.anthroprofil.de/fuersleben-vorbereiten.htmlAlternatively you may also contactthe author of this article for furtherinformation concerning the Anthroprofil Seminar Series „ Preparing forlife - Childhood development andtemperament“.Christian Heegwww.onesmile.co 27

I do notneed totravel toIndiaWhen my niecespreads her arms out wideshe is flyingWhen she stops runningshe has noticedthe moon is back inthe afternoon skyWhen she sitsshe is enrapturedwith the praying mantislaying eggson the wall her father builtWhen my nieceembraces meshe offers me allof her weightWhen she talks withthe cat on the fenceshe does not leaveuntil the conversationis doneAnd, when my niece criesshe is lostuntil her mother finds herand brings her homeCarol Taplin28 www.onesmile.co

A ‘Bottle’ MissionOn 15th November Stone Arrow willbe hosting the world’s first Carbon-Wino Neutral Gallery opening where allthe refreshment bottles consumed willbe transformed into beautiful piecesof jewellery. The drinks list will includeLindauer Sparkling Wine, BombaySapphire Gin and JagermeisterSchnapps!Stone Arrow has recently won theemerging business award with the NewZealand Sustainable Business Networkfor the central/southern region and isalso a finalist in the Vodafone People’sChoice Awards.Stone Arrow Jewellery manufacturesa range of jewellery designs craftedin reused bottle glass. We havesearched the net extensively andbelieve we are the only ones in theworld working with this mediumto such a high standard. We haveinvented a range of techniquesto transform standard bottle glassinto something extraordinary.Our mission is to produce a rangeof designs so harmonious that peoplechoose to wear them on style alone;the fact that they are constructed froma reused material is a bonus nota gimmick.Add to that sustainably sourcedSterling Silver hooks and you have thelatest in Eco Chic style. Remember ourmotto and you can’t go wrong; “simplypurchase 20 pairs of Eco Earrings forevery bottle of wine you drink andbecome Carbon-Wino Neutral!”www.stonearrow.co.nzNick FeintStone Arrow Jewellery03 525 6232www.onesmile.co 29

Inspiring usGEMMA CHAPMANMy name is Gemma Chapman, I ameighteen years old. I am currentlyliving in Nelson studying through theNew Zealand Photography Institute;I am in my first year of study, workingtowards a Diploma in Photography.Next year I plan to study a Bachelorof Applied Visual Imaging atPalmerston North’s Universal Collegeof Learning.Photography is a recent passion of mine;this began when I took photographyas an NCEA subject in year twelve andthirteen at Nelson Collage for Girls.I have chosen to pursue photographythrough tertiary education to gain furtherskills, knowledge and inspiration. Afterthe completion of my degree I aimto work towards my ultimate career goalof becoming a photographer for NationalGeographic. My dream is to travel theworld, working as a photographer. I lovephotography because I love the abilityto capture a moment in time and go backto it whenever I want to. It helps to sustainfond memories.My photo on the cover of this OneSmilewas taken on an underwater camera,which saw me swimming out fromTahunanui Beach, Nelson, which is wellknown for its stunning sunsets and longgorgeous summer evenings. All I had todo was wait for the right night. This wasone of a series of photos I took in thesummer for Aileen Sheperd and her newpaddle-boarding business Supstar.You can view more of my work on myFacebook page, Gemma ChapmanPhotography - www.facebook.com/GemmaChapmanPhotography30 www.onesmile.co

BRITTANY PACKERI have helped select young Kiwis to attend United NationsEnvironment Programme (UNEP) Tunza InternationalChildren Environmental Conferences since 1995 and oneperson has stood out, Brittany Packer. When my selectionteam and I interviewed her in 2004 for a conferencein Japan we were impressed with many of Brittany’senvironmental projects including setting up an animalwebsite for kids when she was nine years old.Brittany was so inspired by the hundreds of youngenvironmentalists from around the world at the UN conferencethat she established the Green Teens with the aim of reducingthe amount of plastic shopping bags. The Green Teens wereso successful that they received local, national andinternational recognition.Brittany went on to be part of the NZ Youth Delegationat the 2009 UN Climate Conference in Copenhagen and 2010in Mexico. She is a young woman whose incredible commitmentto sustainability – at both grassroots and policy levels – hasled to others acknowledging her as a kaitiaki of not only NZ’senvironment, but our international one. She is set apart fromothers by the ability she carries to not merely inspire others,but to relate to them in a way which calls them to action –resulting in real change in our communities.Brittany’s environmental work has led to her gainingan international reputation. She holds working relationshipsand strong friendships with other young people, with businessleaders, politicians, philanthropists and NGO workers – allaround the world. Her networking skills will serve her well intothe future, where it is clear to anyone who has worked with herthat she will continue to motivate and be a catalyst for change –both in the small Kiwi communities and at a global level.In 2011 Brittany won the Ministry for the Environment, GreenRibbon Award, Community Action for the Environment: YoungPeople. She concluded her acceptance speech with a quotefrom Albert Einstein, “The problems that exist in the world todaycannot be solved by the same level of thinking that createdthem.” She then said “In the face of global struggles like climatechange and environmental degradation I see the answerin problem solving skills, creativity, the ability to thinkand understand causes and effects and the braveryto try new limits and solutions. I see hope in Youth.Brittany is currently working full-time to help organize Power Shift,A Youth Climate Summit that aims to bring 1,000 young peopleto Auckland University in December.Brittany Packer has clearly stood out from ALL the other Kiwidelegates to UNEP conferences since 1995. Her drive, energy,imagination, and commitment to the environment are veryimpressive. Nelson Environment Centre’s Ruth Copeland, hassaid “Brittany knows the planet and is very concerned as a personfrom her generation to have some impact. She’s extremelyintelligent and has more creds and smarts than most 40-year-olds.”Dr Mark Orams, Former Executive Director, Sir Peter BlakeTrust, said, “Brittany might will become another Dr DavidSuzuki, the Canadian environmentalist and media personality.”In 2004 Wangari Maathai won the Nobel Peace Prize for herenvironmental work. Some years down the track Brittany maywell be receiving the same recognition for her work!Dean Schneider teaches environmental education in theNelson/Tasman schools. If you would like to learn about pastUNEP Tunza Children’s Environmental Conferences go towww.unep.org/children&youth/children/events. If you would liketo receive information about future UN Children’s EnvironmentalConferences: deanschneider@xtra.co.nzwww.onesmile.co 31

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Issue 08 June/July 2012$ 7.00/J.onesmile.coWhere do you read yours?inspire | ignite | illuminateABELTASMANSCHOOL CAMPAn experience of a lifetime.PATIENCE &PRACTICESwami MuletidIMAGINETHE LANDMandala inspired landscape art./ uly 2012www.onesmile.coAt Kimi Ora in KaiteriteriLetters to the editorI just found your delightful magazine at Zumo coffeeshop today and went to Page and Blackmore to buy myown copy and one for a friend. Thoroughly enjoyed themagazine and love your philosophy. Smiles around.R. BarnesCatrin I wanted to congratulate you on your One SmileMagazine, its FANTASTIC!!!! Just what we need in theworld, some positive and encouraging reading to inspireand uplift, I thoroughly enjoyed the read and will subscribe.Well done, we are lucky to have a go getter woman likeyourself in our community and I wish you every successwith your new venture, good on you!Lots of love, SherylI wanted to congratulate you on your magazine. I love it.I am not sure if you will remember, but I took some of thephotos for the Jeremy Brockie story for you.I find your magazine exactly as the title suggests... inspiringand uplifting, and love it when I can occasionally sit downat home with morning Tea and read it cover to cover.I have passed my copy on to friends to enjoy... so the smilecycle continues. Take care and bye for now,AndreaA heartfelt thank you to all of youwho uplift me with your letters andencouraging words. They mean a lot tome. I love to see you sharing the ‘Smile’.In Gratitude. CatrinDo you needa Christmaspresent thatlasts for awhole year?How about subscribingto One Smile Magazine?1 year of Smilesfor just NZ$ 39.00(4 issues)1 year of online smilesfor just NZ$ 29.00(4 issues)Subscribe and ShareOne Smile Magazinewww.onesmile.cowww.onesmile.co 33

When the late Nadine Stairof Louisville, Kentucky,was 85 years old, shewas asked what she woulddo if she had her life tolive over again.“If I hadmy life to live over, Iwould start barefoot earlierin the spring and stay thatway later in the fall. I wouldgo to more dances. I wouldride more merry-go-roundsand I would pick moredaisies.”“You see, I’mone of those people who livesensibly and sanely hour afterhour, day after day. Oh, I’ve had mymoments, and if I had to do it over again,I’d have more of them. In fact, I’d try to havenothing else. Just moments, one after another,instead of living so many years ahead of eachday. I’ve been one of those persons who nevergoes anywhere without a thermometer,a hot water bottle, and a raincoat. IfI had to do it over again, I wouldtravel lighter thanI have.”34 www.onesmile.co“I’d make moremistakes next time,” shesaid. “I’d relax. I would limberup. I would be sillier than I havebeen on this trip. I would take fewerthings seriously. I would take morechances. I would climb more mountainsand swim more rivers. I would eatmore ice cream and less beans. Iwould perhaps have more actualtroubles, but I’d have fewerimaginary ones.”

“Themost interestinginformation comesfrom children, forthey tell all theyknow & then stop.”Mark Twain“B epatient towardall that is unsolved inyour heart and try to love thequestions themselves, like locked roomsand like books that are now written in avery foreign tongue. Do not now seek theanswers, which cannot be given you becauseyou would not be able to live them. Andthe point is, to live everything. Live thequestions now. Perhaps you will thengradually, without noticing it, livealong some distant day into theanswer.”Rainer Maria“ T h i sbeing humanis a guest house. Everymorning is a new arrival.A joy, a depression, a meanness,some momentary awareness comes as anunexpected visitor... Welcome & entertainthem all. Treat each guest honorably. Thedark thought, the shame, the malice, meetthem at the door laughing, and invitethem in. Be grateful for whoevercomes, because each has been sentas a guide from beyond.”Rumiwww.onesmile.co 35

Forgive -By Jonathan Thiart. Photograph by Joy Kachina.Forgiveness is not easy. Take a moment to think backto the last time that someone hurt you, when youcouldn’t think of anything but of how you would getback at them. Do you think it feels good to think likethat, to have such thoughts?If it doesn’t feel good it clearly can’t be good for you.The anger generated from the wrong is brought backby these thoughts, and this feeling can be brought backover and over if you choose to bear a grudge. NelsonMandela once said, “Resentment is like drinking poisonand then hoping it will kill your enemies.”Forgiveness is not easy because, your instinct tells you whensomeone hurts you: it is best to isolate yourself from thisperson. This takes you away, and you do not have to deal withthe situation at all. By completely avoiding this person it canseem that you stay away from being hurt again but in realityyou are allowing yourself to avoid the problem and create thatsingle hurt to become something more than just a scar. Youdo not allow yourself to heal and grow.The people most likely to hurt us are the ones that are closestto us. And if you use the logic of isolating yourself you may allowthe hurt to cause you to lose those closest to you. Many areasof our lives can suffer, when we hold on to pain, old grudges,bitterness and even hatred. When we think forgiveness is noteasy, it is we who pay the price over and over. We may bringour anger and bitterness into every relationship and newexperience. Being avoided by family and friends because theydon’t enjoy being around you. Automatically thinking the worstabout people or situations. Our lives may be so wrapped up inthe wrong that we can’t enjoy the present.Confucius famously said “To be wronged is nothing, unless youcontinue to remember it.” Meaning that by holding a grudgeyou allow the negative feeling to prevent you from movingon. If you hold a grudge you let that person take hold of youthrough the hurt they have caused. Forgiveness is the only wayto dissolve that bond.Actual studies have shown that holding grudges can dodamage to your health. It creates higher blood pressure, heart36 www.onesmile.co

efore the sun goes downrates, and more stress than a body can take. I understandit hurts when someone does wrong, but don’t torture yourselfmore by holding on to that hurt. Open your heart and findhappiness. Who knows - you might get your best friend back.There’s no one definition of forgiveness. But in general,forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentments and thoughtsof revenge. To forgive is to remove yourself from thoughts andfeelings that bring you back to the offense committed againstyou. It allows you to reduce the power the pain has over you,allowing you to live a freer and happier life in the present.I can hear you asking, doesn’t forgiving someone mean you’reforgetting or condoning what happened?A great man once said, “Forgiveness is not about forgetting.It is about letting go of another person’s throat.” W. Paul Young.Forgiving someone does not excuse his or her act, or his or herresponsibility for what they have done. Even though you haveforgiven someone it may mean the act they did will still remainin your life. However it will have less of a hold on you and youwill have more space to be able to live your life. Forgivenessallows you to focus on more important and positive partsof your life.Being able to forgive is beneficial to you. It can solve a problem,mend relationships and it is scientifically proven to be good foryour health.CS Lewis said, “Forgiveness has nothing to do with absolvinga criminal of his crime. It has everything to do with relievingoneself of the burden of being a victim--letting go of the painand transforming oneself from victim to survivor.” Forgivenessis not easy. The first step to forgiveness is to understand thevalue of forgiving. You need to understand why it is bestto forgive rather than to seek revenge or to hold a grudge.It is hard to be happy if you have all that bitterness inside you.Take the first step towards forgiving because, holding a grudgeis like holding a piece of burning coal, in the end you are notburning anyone else but yourself.www.onesmile.co 37

Lessons fromDonkeys onFindingthe Path By Carol TaplinI strive to be the best that I can be. I do thisin different ways to others. In order to strivefor excellence, I certainly don’t have to beperfect. So often, like many others, I canconfuse or interchange the words ‘excellence’with ‘perfection’.The first step toward excellence is in recognising thevaluable learning grounds I spend time in every day.Opportunities to learn, grow, re-think and thereforeimprove the ways I do things surround me. In effect, everyconversation, each project, every repeated routine taskprovides the chance to assess, to critique, question andlearn. I simply need to willingly surrender myself to thewealth of opportunities that are presented to me inevery day.Unfortunately like many others, I can find myself stuckto tried and true ways. In not trying new ways or learningfrom my mistakes, I risk doing the same thing as I havealways done and so getting the same that I always got.A willingness to step outside the box, to take the courageto risk, opens up incredible opportunities to learn new waysof doing things, new things about myself and possible newpassions and skills. I am, after all, striving for the experienceof being alive; happiness is passion, excitement and bliss.If excellence is a journey, then I have to move! Once I’veidentified the learning grounds around me, I actually needto learn from them!Quite a few years ago, I had a ‘problem’ with a pieceof office furniture in my office space. For nearly a year I worea bruise on my left thigh from where my obstructive pieceof furniture and I came into contact at a significant rateof knots at least once a day. The fact that I did absolutelynothing about this was amusing, to say the least, to thosearound me, most of all to a good friend who subsequentlytold me the following story.In India, very small donkeys are used on mountain trails fortransportation. They are Very Small – many tourists are not,but these donkeys diligently bear the load, trekking milesup windy, unkempt, perilous trails. The trails are litteredwith rocks and ruts and potholes. However, once a donkeyhas been ‘inducted’, that is, simply led up and down a trailonce, they never again miss their footing, seeming to knowprecisely where every rock and hole and rut is. The pointmy eloquent friend was making was that in not learning howto avoid a bruising, I had failed to display at least the sameintelligence as a donkey!To learn that there are better places to plant my feet,better ways of doing things and other trails by way to getsomewhere, is indeed a life skill. In order to grow from mymistakes, I do however need to make mistakes. In orderto make mistakes, I need to move out of my comfort zonesinto unfamiliar territory. To be excellent, to be alive, is tohave a go, take a risk. It is to recognise that the pursuitof excellence is a journey that grows with each new bendin the road, and of course, it is to appreciate, and have faith,that even donkeys are great at finding the best path!Carol TaplinFacilitator, coach, writer, learner and seeker of a passionate life.P: +64 27 2429 505E: carol.taplin@xtra.co.nz38 www.onesmile.co

Excellence is spontaneous; perfection is conformity.Excellence is accepting; perfection is judgment.Excellence is giving; perfection is taking.Excellence is confidence; perfection is doubt.Excellence is the willingness to be wrong; perfection is being right.Excellence is risk; perfection is fear.Excellence is powerful; perfection is anger and frustration.Excellence is flowing; perfection is pressure.Excellence is journey; perfection is destination.Celebrate summer atCafe OliveThank you everyone for your lovely support andsmiling faces throughout this year – we lookforward to another great year in 2013 with lotsof new and exciting happenings!Open for breakfast, lunch, dinner, coffee, drinks andeverything in between!136 Hardy Street, Nelson – Phone (03) 5488755 – www.cafeolivenelson.co.nzwww.onesmile.co 39

SustainableHappinessLessons from Bhutan by Randy TaranI recently had the pleasure to sit down with thehonorable Prime Minister of Bhutan, Jigme Y.Thinley. He had profound things to say aboutthe importance of Gross National Happinessfor individuals, as well as for societies lookingat the well-being of their citizens. Even in theU.S., where the pursuit of happiness is writteninto the constitution, there are importantlessons to learn.Here are some ideas that can increase yourlong-term happiness.More money does not equal more happiness.As U.N. Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon stated,“[Gross National Product] fails to take into account thesocial and environmental costs of so-called progress.We need a new economic paradigm that recognizesthe parity between the three pillars of sustainabledevelopment. Social, economic and environmentalwellbeing are indivisible. Together they define grossglobal happiness.”I want some of that! What if we were to lookat our lives in those terms?40 www.onesmile.co

Economic Well-Being: Social Well-Being: Environmental Well-Being:One thing that has perhaps beenforgotten is that “economies exist toserve the well-being of people; not visaversa.” What does that really mean?• Success and Happiness:Many people share the belief thathappiness comes after you achievesuccess. “If I just had this salary, titleor toy, then I could...” New researchstates that if you want to be moreproductive and more successful,cultivating happiness is the wayto get there. “Your brain at positiveis 31 percent more productive thanat negative, neutral or stressed ... Thehormone dopamine that permeatesyour system when you are positive alsoturns on all the learning centersin the brain.” To influence your bottomline and your well-being, activateyour happiness.• The Idea of Balance:Having high-quality work definitelycontributes to happiness, but focusingon the material pursuit alone cancause major stress and depression.The happiest countries in the worldvalue a vibrant community, trustingrelationships and time together overthe workaholic attitude that moreis more. Economic well-being isimportant, but so is the balance thatcomes with a meaningfuland connected life.“No man (or woman) is an island.We are part of the whole.” JohnDunne. People need people - it’spretty simple. Yes, food and shelter areimperative, but “after the baseline hasbeen met happiness varies more withthe quality of human relationships thanincome.” What then helps creategood relationships?• Thoughts Influence Actions:How you respond to a situation ofteninfluences the outcome. Are thethoughts that you are thinking (and theactions that result from them) makingthe situation better or worse? Peopleoften feel your intentions and thoughtseven if it they are not spoken. Beingpresent to your thoughts is powerful.• Practice Gratitude:This is one of the foundationsof sustainable happiness. If youregularly jot down or even notice threethings you are grateful for, you canraise your happiness level substantially.By focusing on what brings youhappiness, whether it’s a smile,a sunset or a sweet conversation, youwill become attuned to that and noticeit in the most unexpected places. Do itfor 28 days and you’ll see the change.• To Feel Good, Do Good:The kindness that you extend anotherhelps them, but actually serves youeven more. It provides a long lastinggood feeling that no one can takeaway. One of my favorite quotes is:“A tree is known by its fruit; a manby his deeds. A good deed is neverlost; he who sows courtesy reapsfriendship, and he who plants kindnessgathers love.” -- Saint Basil. Create thecommunity that you want to be part of.Let’s first look at the inner ecosystemand then the environment at large.• Happiness Is Contagious:The truth is that we are social animals,and every human being is influencedto some extent by those around them.Emotions are contagious. A scientificstudy has suggested that happinessis contagious to the third degree.By being happy, you are actuallyraising the happiness levels of threeother people, who may not even knowwhy they’re feeling uplifted. We havethe power to improve the emotionalenvironment around us and to createecosystems of well-being. The costis zero and the benefitsare immeasurable.• Think Inconvenient Truth:Unless we look out for one another,the generations to come will be in direstraits. There are tangible things to do.At the personal level, leave somewherebetter than you found it, and buy fromcompanies that support your future.On the societal level, encouragecorporations and governments to makedecisions that are good for the longterm and for the generations to come.In the words of Bhutan’s PrimeMinister, Jigme Y. Thinley, “Sustainabledevelopment means survival. It isabout how we, as a species, must livewithin the bounds of what nature canprovide. Sustainable developmentis not a choice. It is an absolutenecessity.” The good news is that it isnot too late. Each and every personhas the power to move toward greaterwell-being on all levels. You can makea difference in your own life andactually be the difference for someoneelse. What do you think of GrossNational Happiness and how can youget it started in your life?www.onesmile.co 41

Personal Power FormatBy Suzanne MasefieldAs a Body Mind Analyst (body language specialist) and ExecutiveCoach for over 18 years I am frequently asked for techniques tohelp people manage their emotions and generate a greater abilityto cope when challenges occur in personal or work environments.So the following is a brief outline of how to take charge under anycircumstance to enhance the quality of life and increase thepotential of creating great results in your life.42 www.onesmile.co

Rather than dealing with emotions especially negativeemotions only when they come up causing the ambulanceat the bottom of the cliff syndrome, it’s more beneficialto recognise the need to be aware of and maintain a positiveemotional balance throughout our day, every day. That wayas individuals, business owners, employees and leaderswe are more likely to feel relaxed when stressful situationsarise and be more productive in all areas of our lives.Something I assist my executive clients to create is theirown ‘Personal Power Format’ to integrate into their daywhich includes regular ‘Check-Ins’ with themself. Thisenables them to recognise what they are actually feelingand be fully conscious about where they’re at mentally,emotionally and physically in order to release any build-upof emotional charge as they go. This helps ensure they arementally focused towards the direction they really wantto take, as well as taking appropriate actions to get thebest results.This technique of ‘Checking-In’ with themself at regularintervals during the day to engage their Personal PowerFormat (which only need take 1-2 minutes) releases thepossibility of negative emotions arising and taking over.In other words you choose to take charge of your state.I have taught this strategy for many years to individualspersonally and executives in the work place. It is incrediblehow effective this technique is, creating a positive emotionalfoundation to run life from. It is a tool I present in greaterdepth in my ‘Stress to Success’ courses and quick firepresentations.So, rather than leaving it until emotions sneak up on you,negative or otherwise why not take charge from the onsetand set up regular ‘Check-In’ during the day to assess andredress where you are headed and take charge to effectivelyself- manage.Create your own Personal Power FormatHere are some ideas on how to do this for you:Start your day with the 1st Check-In - Define a clear focus foryour daye.g. “I want to feel relaxed and be productive today’.Then list either on paper/computer or in your head whatneeds to happen for that to be a reality.Ask yourself effective questions to focus your brain to createyour focus.These questions could work for the individual or thecompany as a whole.Examples: What do I/We need to delegate?What do I/We need to dump?What do I/We need to action?What support do I/We need to give myself?(mentally, emotionally, practically)What support can I/We get from others?Prioritise what’s really important to make your focus for theday/week a reality.Then engage the physical/emotional aspects of yourself- Feel your feet on the floor, put your hand on your stomachand take a deep breath and imagine what it would feel liketo be relaxed and productive and how great that would feel.Breathe the feeling/thought right down into your body x 3.Create ‘Think Success Possibility Pauses’At the natural stop points through the day - morning tea,lunch, afternoon tea, or even visiting the bathroom you cancreate a ‘Think Success Possibility Pause’ by Checking-Inwith the physical connection/breathing and re-assess howyou feel. Identify how effectively you are implementing yourfocus. Ask yourself ‘Is what I am doing right now helping mebe relaxed & productive?’ If you get a resounding ‘No’ inyour head, look at what you need to change and update.By covering these 3 areas - Mental Focus, EmotionalConnection & Physical Action you stay present and enableall aspects of you to work as a team to be more effective.Rather than running on empty, in recovery or running ona hamster wheel of emotional reaction chasing your tailthrough your life or business, which never produces goodresults health wise or business wise.Obviously this is a small snippet of how a busy individualGM, CEO, or MD could start to utilise Check-In’s to becomemore effective and stress-free. I have utilised synergisticstrategies with executive clients for many years and theyhave greatly assisted in generating greater happiness, healthand increased wealth.If you would like to discuss your personal or business orsituation I am happy to provide a complimentary 20 minuteconsultation to assess how I may be able to assist you as oryour company.Suzanne Masefield : The Body Language Companyat Think Success Ltdwww.ThinkSuccess.co.nzwww.onesmile.co 43

Myeyesdon’tworklikeyoursby Elizabeth HovellElizabeth is the Office Manager at theNelson Environment Centre and mumto three young girls. She has a master’sin Resource and Environmental Planning.Her family all ride competitive BMX,not an easy feat for her eight yearold daughter.She plays excitedly with her sisters like any other eight yearold girl. Squeals of delight and laughter fill the house asthey pretended to be shopping, with different rooms of thehouse representing different shops. Miss three pushes babyin her push chair playing mum, miss five has been relegatedthe role of Dad and miss eight is known as sister. Im not surewhose sister she is suppose to be, but as they are playingso happily I dare not interrupt to ask. I sit with my cup of teaand smile to myself. Things have come a long way in eightyears. To the unknowing my three darling daughters seemlike any other young girls. It is not until you try and talkto miss eight that one might realize something is amiss.Her soft mousey brown hair and purple rimmed glasseshideaway her large brown eyes. They do not meet your gazewhen you talk to her. Instead she turns her head and looksat you from a sideways angle, her eyes darting quickly leftand right never fixing for long.If you ask her she will tell you “my eyes don’t work likeyours”. Lily-Kate is visually impaired and has Optic NerveHypoplasia, with nystagmus. This means she has limitedvision with no depth perception and rapid uncontrollable eyemovements caused by underdeveloped of the optic nerves.By three months it was clear something wasn’t right. Aftermonths of hospital visits and tests we were still none thewiser of what was wrong. Lily-Kate was extremely noisesensitive and I struggled to vacuum with her in the house,any attempt to resulted in cries of distress. By fourteenmonths she still did not try to crawl or walk. At motherscoffee groups she would sit by me content in her own littleworld. Never venturing further than an arm’s length away, a44 www.onesmile.co

Advertorialdropped toy would bring cries of frustrations as if anotherchild had snatched it away. Usually it had tumbled justbeyond her feet.We had a lot of support from specialists, physiotherapist andthe like but it was not until we moved to Blenheim whenLily-Kate was two and her care transferred to Nelson hospitalthat we started to get answers. After many long drives fromBlenheim to Nelson for hospital appointments we finally hada diagnosis by the time she was four.No one could tell me how much vision Lily-Kate had, justas she got older they would be better able to measure hervisional acuity. I was told although her vision would not getworse she will never be able to drive a car, and they wereunsure if she would need to learn Braille to enable herto read. It was decided to try main stream schooling whichmeant Lily-Kate had to be better prepared than her peersto enable her to keep up. For her first year at school all thebooks and writing where large enough in print for herto see. However as she progressed worksheets and printsize needed to be increased. Her school has been fantasticat ensuring what needs to be done is done, and so far sheis right on track academically.“You can’t do everythingfor her and wrap herin cotton wool forever”We now know that what you and I can see at 60 meters awayshe needs to 6 meters away (54 meters closer) to see thesame thing. So you can imagine my horror when my partnerTony told me he was going to teach her to ride a bike. I wastotally against the idea. “You can’t do everything for herand wrap her in cotton wool forever” he would say andhe was right. I was not doing her any favours by not allowingher to at least try.I thought Lily-Kate was going to show me how she couldride her bike on the path down by the track or may be overthe last few bumps on the track. I was wrong. She wentup the top of the start hill and rode the entire track startto finish. I was in shock; I cried and hugged her amazedat what I had just witnessed. I cannot even explain how shedoes it, she just follows the camber of the track and has thetrack memorized in her mind.Several months later she competed in her first BMXcompetition. She was so proud of herself and herself-esteem and confidence soared. Six months latershe had qualified to compete at the nationals in Rotorua.We did not know what to expect but she was committedto trying and determined she wanted to give it ago.I was a bit worried as I knew with 700 plus competitors andhundreds of spectators it might all be a bit much for her.After registration was completed we had to checkin with the officials so someone could keep an eye on herin the staging area. It was hard to walk her down to wherecompetitors gathered and hand her over to a smiling official.My fears were soon swept aside as she was more than happycompeting. Against all odds Lily-Kate qualified for theWorld BMX champs for 2013 in Auckland. It goes to showhow far determination and passion can get you. It willbe a big step up competing in the worlds, but Im sure shewill rise to the challenge as she is a very determined girl whorefuses to be held back.Never in my wildest dreams did I think my baby girl whostruggled early on to even meet her most basic milestonewould be able to ride a bike let alone race at a national andinternational level with other able-body athletes.Elizabeth Hovell is the Office Managerat Nelson Environment CentreTony used to take the kids down to the BMX track for a fewhours so I could have some peace and quiet to write up mymaster’s research project. Several weeks later I decidedto go down with them as my brain had turned to mushwriting and rewriting chapter after chapter of research.www.onesmile.co 45

What do we really wantfor our children?By Dean SutherlandImagine you have one wish for your children whenthey celebrate their 18th birthday. What wouldyou wish for? Good health, happiness, wealth,sporting or musical prowess? Take a few minutesto consider what you want for your children.My wish is –“that each child is able to communicate theirfeelings and needs, is psychologically strong and healthywith high self-esteem and a sense of responsibility forthemselves and others.” Is this wish one worth striving for?As parents, we have a profound influence on the livesof our children. From the moment of their conception ourthoughts, actions and words shape the way our children develop.Before birth, babies can hear their mother’s voice; young childrenoften mimic their parents’ posture, facial expressions and words.It is however easy to forget or underestimate the significant effectwe can have on our children.All parents love their children. However the way in whichparents express this love varies immensely between families.Some parents shower children with material possessions,some provide lots of loving words, some parents imposerules around food and mealtimes with a belief that theywill help the child become healthy. Some parents continueto smack their children out of the belief that this will helpchildren become a good person – despite such behaviorbeing outlawed due to the known negative and lastingeffects this can have on children (and adults).As a society we are becoming better at supporting childrento experience quality lives. Children are likely to live longerthan ever and in developed countries, children no longerwork to support their families. Should we pat ourselveson the back and rejoice about the idyllic lives that childrenlead? Not for too long. I believe we are still well shortof ensuring children and young people receive the bestpossible start to a life.Recently released suicide statistics for the year ended June2012 indicate that on average one young person in NewZealand takes their own life every 4-5 days (80 young people46 www.onesmile.co

in 12 months - including a child under the age of 10 years!).This figure has remained relatively consistent for many years.Is it acceptable that this continues to happen? I think NO!If we are not prepared to accept these statistics, we musttake dramatic steps to change the way we nurture andsupport children and young people. This includes the wayin which we support new parents and families, the wayin which children are nurtured from birth, the educationsystem, classroom culture and dynamics, and communities.involves full acceptance of children (and adults) just as theyare – as a valued member of the community. Equal dignityis a dynamic concept that must evolve for different people,different relationships and different contexts. It is alsoclosely linked to concepts such as integrity, authenticity, andself-responsibility.Interacting with others based on Equal Dignity is especiallydifficult if you never experienced it as a child. However EqualDignity can be learned.Firstly, let’s be clear about one thing - children and youngpeople become destructive - towards themselves and others- when their integrity (sense of psychological and physicalexistence) is violated physically or verbally by the adultsin their lives.Critically important to the development of Equal Dignityis development of a personal language and sharingmeaningful conversations with children and adults. Forexample, by using the words “I like, I don’t like, I want,I think…” will help children learn about you as a person.If we are serious about wanting strong and healthy children– we must do things differently. Why? Because what we havebeen doing does not work. Particularly for the hundredsof young people who consider taking their own life.So what do we need to do? We need to change the ways we• think about children and their development;• speak to and interact with children andyoung people;• provide education for children andyoung people;• support families.Yes these are big changes that require commitment withinall levels of society including individuals, families, schools,communities, agencies and governments.There are however relatively small changes that we can makeindividually which in turn may influence larger groups.Could we consider developing relationships with childrenbased on the concept of Equal Dignity*? Equal dignityChildren learn about themselves and develop selfresponsibility,integrity and authenticity when adultsin their lives are willing to share who they are and modelqualities such as integrity and authenticity. By interactingwith adults who demonstrate Equal Dignity – as opposedto adults parading as actors in roles of ‘parents’ or ‘teachers’- children will learn what it is to be human. And we willbe well on our way to becoming a nation of strong andhealthy children and young people.The concept of Equal Dignity and parts of this article arebased on the work of Jesper Juul, Danish Family Therapistand Author of “Raising Competent Children” and founderof FamilyLab International.Jesper JuulFor further information visitwww.familylab.co.nzwww.onesmile.co 47

Nurturing childrenenriching communitiesThe annual Spring Fair at Motueka Rudolf Steiner School in September 2012 wasa great success. The Midnight Elves made sure that the early morning rain disappearedjust in time for the opening. You couldn’t help but feel transported into a land longforgotten in today’s fast growing technology world. The whole fair was run as a ZeroWaste event to support a sustainable and environmentally friendly community.48 www.onesmile.co

What is a Rudolf Steiner school all about?The prime purpose of Steiner education is to support andeducate children so that their own innate and unique humanqualities may come to greater fulfillment. It addresses thewhole child in the realms of thinking, feeling and doing, andholistically integrates mind, body and spirit.The health and well-being of the school is created througha strong and engaged community connecting students,parents and teachers.The Rudolf Steiner School fosters a warm and caringlearning environment, offering a spiritually based andholistic education to a wide variety of children.‘The need for imagination, a senseof truth and a feeling of responsibility– these are the three forces whichare the very nerve of education.’(Rudolf Steiner)The curriculum follows indications given by Rudolf Steiner,a prominent scientist and philosopher who was active in anumber of social fields early in the twentieth century. Thefirst Waldorf School was founded in 1919 and there are nowmore than 1000 Rudolf Steiner schools world wide.‘Our highest Endeavour must be to develop individualswho are able out of their own initiative to impart purposeand direction to their lives.’(Rudolf Steiner)Waldorf schools work with an understanding of the evolvinghuman being and seek to educate the hands and the heart,as well as the head. Steiner recognised that the growingchild passes through three major developmental stageson the journey to adulthood. Specific forces are at workin each phase and different capacities develop as the childgrows into his body.Rather than pushing primary school children into intellectualmodes of thinking from a young age, the Steiner curriculumseeks to celebrate number and language throughimaginative stories, living pictures and artistic impressions.On their journey from Class 1 to Class 7 the children arewww.onesmile.co 49

guided through an imaginative recapitulation of how literacyand numeracy have developed over the course of humanhistory. For example, 6 year olds learn about letters throughpictures. They might have a story in which the hero hasto cross some misty mountains; the letter M can thenbe found in the picture. He might shelter in a deep den –the letter D. This mirrors the way in which the earliest writingdeveloped; writing was originally pictorial (hieroglyphs arethe best known example) and only developed into abstractsymbolism much later in human development. The magicof the Steiner Curriculum is that it delivers the right stimulusat the developmentally appropriate time for the child,engaging their natural enthusiasm and fostering a genuinelove of learning.The Motueka School needs a new CampusThe Spring Fair provided a great opportunity to talkto its members and friends about the need to look fora bigger campus as the demand for the school isoutgrowing its premises.‘We see a new home for our school where we continueto flourish and evolve our community’s expression of Steinereducation. The carefully designed buildings are nestledin nature and support the imaginative, artistic, cognitive andspiritual unfolding of our children. In this new home for ourcommunity the qualities of each individual are recognisedand valued, while a healthy social life provides the warmth,support and opportunity for on-going learning and growth.’50 www.onesmile.co

I am struck by the fact thatthe more slowly trees grow at firstthe sounder they are at the coreand I think the same is true for human beings.We do not wish to see children precociousMaking great strides in their early years like sproutsProducing a soft and perishable timber;But better if they expand slowly at firstAs if contending with difficultiesAnd so are solidified and perfected.Such trees continue to expand with nearly equalrapidity to an extreme old age.- Henry David Thoreau –Motueka Rudolf Steiner School

advertorial“Be the change you want to see in this world”Mahatma Gandhi.Gandhi recognised that to see changes in the world aroundhim, he first needed to make changes within himself andhe dedicated his life to this cause. There are many methods,teachings, practices and moments in life that may lead us totransform, encouraging us to break through any restrictinghabits or beliefs, so that just like a butterfly we can emergeinto a new found freedom, sharing life authentically. EvolveFestival is a weekend event dedicated to providing thatinspiration for transformation.Based in the heart of sunny Nelson at Founders HeritagePark, Evolve provides a chance to come together to share,learn and ignite the possibility of positive change – throughworkshops, seminars and exhibitors show casing a widerange of modalities, products and therapies, creatinga sense of celebration and community with music art andentertainment. Recognising how our individual journeycan be massively enriched and accelerated when we meetpeople with whom we feel called to share gifts and insights.The program includes around 50 free workshops, allowingyou to engage and experiment with presenters whoapproach awakening from many different perspectives,from yoga, meditation, natural health and healing to songand dance. This year we are delighted to also be offeringin depth sessions, such as the daily lakeside Sweat lodge.A Sweat lodge is a ceremony based on a Native Americantradition used for purification. Rocks are heated in a firethen placed in rounds inside a purpose built lodge. Eachround is accompanied by a led ritual- it could be likenedto a ceremonial sauna.Feeling practical? Come and learn how to recycle oldwooden pallets and turn them into a garden shed. An eighthour hands on course spread over the weekend amongst thefestivities.In between workshops treat yourself to a session from oneof the many experienced therapists. Nurture your body witha massage, gain some clarity and insight into your life witha psychic reading, or browse the expo showcasing products,information, arts and crafts that all have that possibilityof providing inspiration to transform.After a day of enriching exploration, enjoy some deliciousfood and drink from the selected food stalls or onsitecafé, nourishing your body while watching entertainmentwith new and old friends. Later discover how one of thebest ways to open our hearts is through music and dance,celebrating a line-up of inspirational music and performanceas the sun sets and stars appear. Our music line up nextyear features Mihirangi (as recently seen on NZ’s Got Talent).Mihi is an amazing loop artist who will be joining us withher band and their uplifting sounds as part of her Nationalalbum release tour.So as M.C. Yogi’s song goes “the word Mahatma meansgreat soul which is inside us all just waiting to unfold”-Evolve Festival hopes for just that. That we all recognise ourpotential to unfold into our greatness and that perhapsa little/big part of that may come from the weekend.Evolve Festival- to provide inspiration, information andcelebration to evolve the health and wellbeing of individuals,the community and the earth.Feb 23 & 24th 2013 Founders Park Nelson.www.evolvefestival.co.nz 03 5451907Tickets available through Eventfinder.52 www.onesmile.co

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Movementnot ExerciseDiscovering a healthy approachto physical wellnessBy Sam Gentry and image by Joy Kachina54 www.onesmile.co

Exercise. We are told we have to do it.We know it must be good for us. Butmostly we really don’t want to do it.Our culture is obsessed with the bodyand what can be done with it. We areexpected and encouraged to diet and‘work out’ at gyms or to go running.The words exercise and fitness bothbring to mind hard work. Puffing,sweating and hurting. The contemporaryfocus of fitness is about negatives;punishing the body, sweating out thecalories and hauling that stubborn,flabby body into shape whether it likesit or not.Negatives are not very motivating. People oftenstart a crash exercise programme and get greatfitness results but it’s so hard-core that theyburn out. Each time you fail at making a lifestylechange it makes it that much harder to find themotivation to try again. Fitness is often not veryfun, and it can be scary. If you haven’t ‘workedout’ for a long time, or never, the thoughtof strapping on training shoes and walking intoa gym is probably not going to fill you withwarm fuzzy feelings.“Moving will create changes inyour body that make you feelhealthier and happier.”I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to. Youdon’t need to. You don’t need to exercise, youneed to move your body. Your body has evolvedto be in a near constant state of slow movement.Doing standard workouts in a gym or fitnessclass actually are not very natural for us. Thesetypes of movement have come about becauseof our sedentary lifestyles. The concept isalmost the same as what they tell you to assuageworking-parent guilt, ‘quality not quantity’becomes ‘intensity not quantity’ when appliedto fitness.We do have sedentary lifestyles. The absolutebest thing you can do for your health is to sitdown and strategize how you can move moreevery day, as part of your day. Buy a swiss balland gently bounce on it while you sit at yourcomputer for a few hours each day. Get a deskthat allows you to work while standing. Walkwhile you talk on the phone. Do stretcheson the floor while watching TV. This will notbe enough to totally counteract how littlewe move but it is a great start.Movement is what is important for health.Quality of movement is what will keep yourjoints and muscles strong and healthy. The focusneeds to be on health and wellness noton burning calories or losing fat. Find movementthat you enjoy doing. This may be walkingon the beach, doing a dance class, doing pilatesor yoga, riding a horse or anything that youwant to do that gets you moving your body.The secret is the more you move the moreyou want to move. Don’t start at the top of themountain, take the slow winding path and stopto take some photos on the way.Moving will create changes in your body thatmake you feel healthier and happier. As you feelthese positives you will want to move more andachieve more positives. Going to the gym mightbe part of the journey for you, or you maybe happy with a pilates or dance class. You maybe happy with walking on the beach and goingfor a bike ride on the weekend with your family.It doesn’t matter. What matters is that you moveyour body, as often as possible, and that youhave a good time doing it. It is often a goodidea to invest in some time with an experiencedtrainer to teach you how to move moreeffectively and avoid injury if you wantto start doing more.There is no one right way to ‘do movement’.The right way for you is any movementthat increases your feeling of wellbeing andreduces feelings of pain and physical weakness.Movement is absolutely essential for your health.You need to move. You don’t need to exercise.www.desirefitness.co.nzor call Sam on027 4505940www.onesmile.co 55

What can Ido about my soreback, neck orshoulders?By Elayne Lane56 www.onesmile.co

Quite often, people are resigned that pain in this areais part of their life and forever will be so! However thisis not true. With a clear programme and good therapy,pain can be greatly reduced, if not banished, from thebody. In my experience, it takes an applied strategyusing a combination of techniques, over a periodof time, to shift pain out of the body. Here is whatI suggest:1. Proper treatment.Some people go to their GP, physiotherapist, osteopath,a remedial massage therapist (specialising in muscularproblems), a chiropractor or a Bowan Therapist. (Thisis not a complete list). We all have to start somewhere andfind out what’s going on with our body. An experiencedtherapist can assess your posture and tell whether yourissue is muscular, a bone misalignment or something else.You need to find out, and have regular sessions for a fewweeks. From my experience, sessions need to be at leastweekly, initially twice weekly in severe cases. This is becausea therapist needs a chance to release tension and reset oldpatterns. If there is a long period between sessions, thebody reverts back to its old posture. Whomever you find,make sure they are professional and experienced. Theyshould be able to explain what’s going on in your body,give you the appropriate treatment or refer you to thecorrect person who can help you. Depending on how badyour condition is, you should feel benefit from the session,although sometimes there is some discomfort after your firstvisit. As the body starts to loosen, lactic acid is released,causing some temporary pain. If the body’s bones are outof alignment, usually massage is used as a compliment to,or the main part of, treatment. Once the muscles arerelaxed, the bones can come into place.2. Prescribed exercises.Self help is just as important as proper treatment. Askyour therapist for exercises to support the treatment.Alternatively you could go to a gym and have a posturalassessment. Ask a gym instructor for gentle exercisesto help with alignment - provided it does notcontra-indicate with your treatments. Then it’s your jobto do them! Everyday.3. Assess your work area or find the causesof postural misalignment.It could be that your work station is positioned incorrectly(neck and shoulder problems), a heavy handbag (shoulderproblems), the way you get in and out of the car (hipproblems), the way you lift heavy boxes (low back), holdingthe phone handset to your ear with your shoulder (neckproblems) or typing without a break or stretches (RSI).Ask someone independent to watch you work and give youfeedback. Look up information on the OSH website. Makeadjustments for a better life!4. Natural remedies.There are definitely natural remedies which help our musclesand joints. They can be relaxants, nervines,anti-oxidents, anti-inflammatories or natural pain relievers.I often recommend people also use Aromatherapy blendsor creams to rub onto the sore area. That way you have theremedies working on an internal level and also externallythrough the skin direct into the muscles.5. Relaxation.Very often our muscular tension has been accumulatedafter years of ongoing stress and tension. When was thelast time you really wound down? Chilled out? You knowwhat I mean. Well, if it’s been awhile, then it’s time to doit again. A couple of times a year I prescribe myself a chillout programme. For example, going away for a stress freeweekend, walking in nature, swimming, sunbathing, findinga comfortable couch and listening to my favourite relaxingmusic for 20 - 60 minutes every day for a week, meditating,doing some deep breathing, employing someone in to cookmeals and do the dishes so you can take a break, doinga gentle yoga class, walking on the beach daily, makinga point of taking it easy every day for a week. Relaxing doesnot mean reading an emotionally stressful book, watchingTV programmes, the news or stressful movies – these are allvery stimulating and activate the adrenal glands.6. Heat.First, if you have an inflammatory condition - where theaffected area feels hot and burns - don’t use heat. If thisis not the case, then heat is a wonderful healer. Puta wheat bag under your neck and shoulders when you arein bed, or have hot baths. Your local swimming pool mighthave a spa with jets - use them. Some people use infra redheat lamps. They are very effective. Have saunas. Heatbrings blood to the affected area and enables healingto take place.Elayne Lane is a Aromatherapist,Bodyworker, BodyTalker and teachesmassage. If you are interested in herwork see www.learnhealing.orgwww.onesmile.co 57

Embracingemotional wellbeingBy Karen WatsonI slipped off the couch and slid onto the floor. Pain and griefboiled up and overwhelmed me. I wailed. Loudly. To no one.I look back on this experience and recognize how veryprofound it was for me. It broke through all my knownboundaries of what it is to be human. I was hurting, a lot, yetthe experience delivered many beautiful things too. I healedan old wound. I gained understanding and wisdom abouta situation and about myself. My ability to heal myselfshifted to a new level. I knew I was better able to empathisewith others going through similar experiences. My rougheredges softened. I was in awe of myself, not just for gettingthrough it but for allowing myself to be so vulnerable in thefirst place. I loved myself for it. I was stronger. I am stronger.After this episode there were more feelings to come,a smorgasbord of fear, anger, sadness, and more. Griefis like that, a mosaic of sad colours in a passing parade.Yet at the same time the passing is honourable, andrecovery from it worthy of a million candles, lit in celebrationof one’s return to life.58 www.onesmile.co

Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable and to connect withthe painful feelings not only brings healing and insights.If we continue to listen deeply, we connect with that whichwe really need for ourself at that time. This directs us to takeaction in support of ourself; not action out of habit, butin direct response to our real need in the present moment.Emotional wellbeing doesn’t preclude us from therollercoaster ride we know as life on planet earth. It alsodoesn’t mean we don’t fall over from time to time. It doeshowever mean we are equipped to support ourselvesthrough the rugged patches and we will likely pick ourselvesup more quickly than otherwise.Being ‘bowled over’ by such experiences doesn’t mean thatthere is something wrong with us that needs fixing. It meansthere is a lot to process and heal and perhaps we coulddo with some help from someone who knows howto provide such support. Asking for help is not a signof weakness but strength, an act of self love.Having the awareness that our feelings are an indicatorof what is right for us, moves us away from judgment.We come to accept that what is right for us may simplybe different from what is right for others and visa versa.We can agree to differ. We can allow others to be who theyare. There is room in this world for everyone’s life. It is notfor us to change others.Understanding the role of our feelings shifts our perceptionof what is happening inside of us. We can differentiatebetween feelings and thoughts. We can move our awarenessfrom our head to our heart with ease and accept that ouremotional intelligence is as important as our intellect.We know we are not our feelings. For example we may havefeelings of sadness but we are not a sad person.We know that if we fully acknowledge and allow the feelingsto be there, inside of us, they will move on in time.We know that if we avoid or push them away they willbecome locked up inside of us as emotion only to emergelater, asking for healingImage by Joy KachinaEmotional wellbeing is more than healing old wounds. It isknowing how to listen to our feelings as they arise andto know what they are telling us. Feelings are the languageof the soul and bring unique messages for each of us. Theyare a source of intuition. They can tell us what is workingin our life, what isn’t and where we may need to take someaction. We can be alerted to environments and situationsthat are right for us, and those that aren’t such a good matchwith who we are. When we meet someone who rubs us upthe wrong way we none-the-less accept them for who theyare. When we meet someone who is ‘in sync’ with us we alsorecognize a connection of some kind is being made.We don’t need to re-act to either experience; we understandwhat is happening and allow things to unfold.As we develop these skills of emotional wellbeing we cometo feel more of ourself and we start to like ourself a whole lotmore. We may even come to love who we are.We increasingly connect with our uniqueness, our creativityand feel the growing desire to bring this out into the worldto share with others. It becomes a way of life not justa process. It’s a beautiful journey.Karen Wason is a Practitioner of PaschaTherapy, Reiki and Mentoring. To find out moreabout Karen and her Practice see her websitewww.karenwason.com or phone 03 542 2140.One on one Heart to heartwww.onesmile.co 59

The fashion silhouette and you- finding your perfect fit By Emma ManhartEver wondered why some clothes fit like a dream and makeyou feel fantastic and others give you feelingsof desperation that you will never find anything to fit you?Well be assured, its not you, it’s the shape of the clothes!There are fashion silhouettes out there that suit you andI encourage you in your pursuit of finding your perfect fit.Clothing shape is completely three dimensional andalthough a lot of modern cuts can look fantastic in twodimensions hanging on the racks, when we get them on our3D bodies it is often a different story. Like the geneticallyengineered apple is designed for looking great on the shelf,the modern garment is often designed for hanger appeal!The shape of clothes or fashion silhouettes over our humanhistory have been so varied, depending on the technologyavailable in weaving and cutting along with the customs andsocial conditions at the time. Early hand woven cloth wasso time consuming to produce, it was treasured and barelycut into, so was used as wraps, togas or garments suchas the Egyptian Galabia with sleeves made of rectangles andsewn straight onto long straight cloth to form a kaftanlike garment.With advances in cloth production, tailoring andneedlework in general have come more complex garments,with many layers, foundation garments and often intricatesurface decoration. Such as the medieval fashion shownin the background.Twentieth century fashion drew on other eras for its shapesand often reinvented them in shorter versions. The highwaisted 1910 look shown in the background on the rightreflects the medieval era, where both high and low waistswere in vogue. The flapper dresses of the twenties wereEgyptian kaftan inspired simple shapes after the riseof orientalism and a fascination with the east in the 1920’s.The fashion silhouette has been ever changing and willcontinue to do so in the 21st Century. We are in an agewhere we can now show our ankles without judgement(in most places) and we are not obliged to wear corsetsunless we choose to. Our freedom to dress how we feelmost comfortable has never been greater, so what bettertime to find out what shapes make us feel fantastic.I recently gave a workshop on “findingyour perfect fit”, covering fashionsilhouettes that suit different figures.During the workshop we did a fittingof a dress to illustrate how much bettera garment can look if fitted to yourshape. We discussed the importanceof getting clothes personally fittedto your body. It can make sucha difference to the look of a garmentbecause we are all different in howclothes sit on us and which part of thegarment we like to be fitted or loose.To the right are some examplesof fashion silhouettes that work wellfor a lot of different body shapes.Fitted waist jackets and fitted coatscan give a lovely waistline to anyone,whether you have a pronounced waistor not. They are an easy way to addpanache to a more casual garmentwithout getting changed.Wrap dresses and crossover tops workwell for a range of shapes, especiallyfor the busty and curvy.Whereas the changing historicalfashion silhouettes reflected thecultural and social conditions at theirtime of invention, in this era of sartorialfreedom we can now choose clothingto reflect our own personalityor express ourselves. Have funchoosing a silhouette from an era youlike and in a shape that suits you andseek it out when you are looking foryour next favourite garment.60 www.onesmile.co

emma manhartNelson designed and made. Shop Emma Manhart off the rack or made to measure atEmma Manhart Bouuque and Workroom, 274 Hardy St, Nelson, ph 03 548 0398,or shop online at www.emmamanhart.co.nz.www.onesmile.co 61

Weight LossWithoutDietingBy Dr. Mitchell Bloom62 www.onesmile.co

Are you frustrated with your weight? Haveyou lost weight as a result of dieting onlyto gain it back a few months later? This mayhave caused you frustration, and as a medicaldoctor seeing patients with excess weightas a cause of their medical conditions, I wasfrustrated too! Research now shows that forlong term weight loss, for the majorityof people, diets don’t work! They don’t workfor obvious reasons:Many diets are based on “less.” They involve less enjoyment,less choice, and less quantity. Who among us wants ‘less’? Justlike a rebellious child doesn’t want to be told what to do, thesub-conscious mind rebels and causes us to eventually eateven more.Diets don’t work because many fail to address one of the rootcauses of obesity - many of us eat to satisfy our emotions.We learn at an early age that velvety smooth ice cream is anexcellent solution to boredom and chocolate is comfortingin difficult times. We go outside of ourselves and ask the dietexperts “what to eat” instead of going inside and asking“what’s eating me?”Diets don’t work because they rely on willpower and are oftenin conflict with subconscious programmes. When consciouswillpower is in conflict with sub-conscious programmes,sub-conscious programmes eventually win. This is why somepeople may lose weight temporarily, only to eventually gainit back several months later when the sub-consciousprogramme regains control.The sub-conscious mind has its own agenda -- it wantsto comfort itself through enjoyable tastes in abundantquantities whenever it wants. Since the sub-conscious mindis really in charge, any plan that doesn’t take care of these needsis doomed to failure. This is why getting the sub-conscious mindon board is essential for long term change!One of the most effective ways to allow the sub-conscious mindto accept being slim is through rewriting these sub-consciousprogrammes. This can be done through hypnosis.Although there are many misconceptions about hypnosis,it is extremely successful for weight loss. These misconceptionsas well as research studies showing the excellent results of usinghypnosis for weight loss are summarized on my web sitelisted below.It is successful because instead of diets based on “less,”sub-conscious reprogramming through hypnosis is often basedon “more.” More energy, more clothing choices, moreself-care, more self-esteem, more self-love, more healthy yearsof vibrant life and so much more eating pleasure!This is accomplished by changing negative sub-consciousthoughts and emotions that were controlling your eating habitsinto more self-loving ways of dealing with them. You learn to eatconsciously. Through conscious eating comes more enjoymentfrom each bite and less compulsive eating.This enables you to focus on the many often unrecognizedand delicious eating pleasures and subtle but exquisite tastes,textures and smells of food; and slower more blissful eating.You also become more aware of brainwashing from the mediaand from society surrounding food. Most important, you learnto over-ride your cultural conditioning and become in touchwith the body’s innate wisdom of what it REALLY desiresto be nourished.There are many approaches utilizing hypnosis for achieving yourideal weight. Through individual sessions the hypnotist can findthe right approach for you. This may include triggeringa relaxed and calm state whenever you have an emotionalcraving for food, uncovering and correcting any subconsciouscauses for the excess weight, or using the Hypno-Band.The Hypno-Band is an approach for those who may have beeninterested in the lap-band surgery but did not wantto pay over $15,000 for the surgery. The Hypno-Band is a virtualsurgery, complete with the sounds and smells of the operatingroom. A hypnotic program is installed into your subconsciousmind which convinces your mind that gastric band surgery hasoccurred. Once this takes place, you respond with feelingsof fullness much sooner after eating. Unlike lap-band surgery,the Hypno-Band involves no surgery, no surgical risk and is afraction of the cost of the actual surgery.Once you have achieved your ideal weight you may discoverthat it is not really about losing weight. It’s about unleashing thevast powers of your sub-conscious mind to enable you to regaincontrol of your life and live the life of your dreams.For more information about weight loss, please visitDr. Mitchell Bloom’s web site atChronicPainRelief.co.nz or call 03-548-0998.www.onesmile.co 63

Check it out nowThis is the continuing series of Kairology articles, based on the KairologyCoaching and Leadership Programme. Kairos is a Greek word for time,in the sense of the right time or season for change. This month’s featured cardis one in the series of 52 personal leadership tools from the Kairology packin each issue of OneSmile.So far in this series of articles we have explored change, making commitment,living your values and self-expression. As we head in to the holiday season it’sa good time to re-evaluate, take stock and think about next steps in life. Theremay be a need to make a few small changes, or you may be heading for majorchange in life. The danger is that we make change either too quickly withoutproper thought and planning, or so slowly that it’s almost avoidance!The Diamonds suit in the Kairologyprogramme deals with thinking andevaluation. The card to focus on this timeis the Jack of Diamonds, Evaluation of Self.So here’s the card for you to think through:We need courage to do the listeningrequired. Listening to yourself, your intuition,and other people you trust, is a criticalprocess before embarking on the action.But it’s also important to listen to peopleand circumstances that may not be soattractive to you; evaluation is about takingevery bit of information and using it to helpyou come to the best decision.So while you have some time in the holidaystake some time to think. And then betweenholidays, put regular time aside to evaluateyour purpose, direction, actions and outcomes.It’s the only way to keep on track with yourselfand make the most your life........and that’spretty important. Getting into this habit meansyou won’t just drift through life, or be directedpurely by what circumstances and other peopleput your way.JEvaluation of Self“The unexamined life is not worth living.”SocratesUnless we know where we are, how can we know where to go next? Theonly purpose for looking back is to use the information for direction.• What’s in your rear-view mirror that helps you makedecisions?• How do you review your life and priorities?• How do you measure success in each area of life?• How do you use results to guide your strategies?• In what ways do you check out or measure yourperformance?• How do you find out what your blind spots mightbe?Value the precious informationgathered from:• Observation• Self-review• Research• Reflection• Reactions from others• Feedback from othersBy Ian A WilliamsAuthor, coach and facilitatorwww.kairology.comThese precious gems couldinform changes in:Requires listening Requires actionLinked cards: All 7’s A 2 5 10 K ♥ 2 ♣ 4 7 10 J ♠ 4 5 6 7 ♦kairology.com © Ian A. Williams 2009• Your values and beliefs• Your dreams and purpose• Your learning• Your plans and goals• Your actions and behaviour• Who and what you needEvaluation is worthless unless it gives confirmation or guides change. It maybe in little things, or in major areas of life. See 10♥64 www.onesmile.co

Here are some key coaching questions to help yourthinking and change:Think about different areas of your life:Work Health Spouse/partnerFriends Finances SpiritualitySelf care Leisure LearningFamily Community Self-confidenceAppearance Clothes Home environmentScore each one honestly on a 1-10 scale, and see what thistells you. What different areas align and misalign? Whatare the low scores you really need to work on? What’s thecommon factor affecting low and high scores?What aspects of health and stress do you needto give attention to?Do you invest enough in relationships that meet yourneeds and the needs of others?Do you manage wealth and financial aspects well?Is there sufficient fulfilment in outside interestsand community?Where do you stand spiritually?What time do you give to maintaining yourselfin every aspect?Start a journal (if you haven’t already) for these questionsand your answers, or contact Ian for a workbook. As always,don’t make heavy weather of this challenge, but have funwith it, be bold and have courage. It’s easy to drift and livewith the same old lifestyle.Roads &DrivewaysFor all your asphalting andsealing requirements, fromexcavation to completion,call us today for freeadvice & quotes.• Road & Driveway Construction• Subdivisions• Carparks• Bitumen Sealing• Hotmix & AsphaltingPh 03 544 8464Fax 03 548 3408 Mob 0274 373 464Email admin@hopesealing.co.nz84 Beach Road, Richmond, NelsonP O Box 3010 Richmond, 7050www.onesmile.co 65www.hopesealing.co.nz

Featured ArtistStarted painting to express all the inner world I had inside me. Like everyone.Guided by some special will that was, is, stronger. I wish now it will never stop.Use your time to create, create, and stay in the world of colors and shapes. To winsomething over life, and be part of the respect we owe to the ancestors, and takethem with us on our journey, feeling their sorrow, their joy, fears, laughter, love,pain, hatred, all the passions that one soul can have, and take them to a certainexcess. It was right from my young adult days an obligation this creation thing,and all the joys you can get from this dizziness, this awaken delight. So I waslocking myself in a room to write and write, in a first stage. An interior light waslooking after me, making dream day and night, and working on the imaginationby all kind of escape windows and pathways, sort of mind adventures that wasturning sometimes into mystical stories.Seeing some of my mate drawing got me intrigued, and I started to think. It tooktime. Didn’t had enough plastic vocabulary to express myself in some appropriateterms. Never really felt attracted before to this world, even-tough we had a fewmonographs of artist at home, and that I was starting to go more and more oftento museums, and that my childhood was ‘in the present’ only made of images,that I wasn’t thinking with words about this time but intense visual memory,touching the heart.It was frustrating, to be part of such an agitation and disturbing facts and notbeing able to translate them, elsewhere than in a notebook. Probably goingtoo much into immediate pleasure was the main factor of wasting all this time,not dedicating the soul to some serious studies and meticulous work, as theeducation and self-curiosity should have leaded me too.While my mates were more puzzled on working on a kind of resemblanceI straight away thought that this wasn’t the way the reality was ‘working’, thatI was looking for something more authentic, trying to join the work of your mind(psychology of the colors, of the shapes, expression of the sensation, or more lessof the sensation of the sensation, double relations) with the fantasy of your hands,find your right geography, and that the only way to go was the onirique language,the only one where you could find differences, originality, an illusion of novelty.Go deeper into yourself to find your logic, which is not independent from theother one, and bring back in a representation world your inner confusion, slowlygetting brighter, netter, precise, with the will to affine and affine. Trying to keepthe meaning of innocence, enthusiasm, after all the major chocks that paintingwent through during the twentieth century, all the unknown areas that theyexplored, and the limit they pushed further and further, or totally broke.Gregory.www.houkaman.wix.com/gregowww.onesmile.co 67

BOOKREVIEWSBy Jacquie WaltersDry Your TearsBy Little Grace. – A journey through grief and towards awakening“It might be a good idea to start journaling,Dear One,” said Almora.“What for?”I asked, with eyebrows formingan unnatural arch of intrigue.“Because in eighteen to twenty-four monthsyou may find others are very interested in yourobservations, Dear One,” he replied in the calm,matter of fact voice I had come to expect of mymentor, Ascended Master Almora.“But what should I begin journaling?” was myquery that signalled mild panic at the prospectof writing something that others might read, andgoodness only knows what that might be.“Just begin with what you notice around you, whatyou see, what you feel”, he said, and before I couldquiz him some more, the topic had moved on.Intuitive friends had often told me there was a book insideme to be written but I never took any noticeof them. However, when an ascended master in achannelled session tells you something you sit up and takenotice. Thus informed, I duly began a daily journal, thinkingmy forthcoming pilgrimage to Avalon (Glastonbury)would provide the material for this book that I was beingsummoned to write. But many thousands of words thatdescribe magical, mystical moments in Ireland andEngland still languish to this day in my hard-drive; howpresumptuous of me to think I would determine what I wasto write about!It was to be eight months later, homeless and jobless as aresult of the devastating Christchurch February earthquake,that I finally realised what I was to write about. In a flashof clarity I knew I was to share my experiences andinsights of a different pilgrimage I had undertaken someeleven years earlier when my teenage son had died in acar accident; my journey through grief. As images of thetraumatised faces of the bereft flooded television screensand newspapers, I saw that I could offer the story of myAnnette Hanman (Little Grace)journey and my resulting awakening to others. Inspiredby the thought that my son’s death had not been in vainif others could derive comfort, hope and even laughter frommy healing and awakening process, I bravely beganto write, cry, pace, cough and splutter my way through thefirst chapter.What followed was an unconventional manner of writinga book. In truth it has been co-written with beings fromother realms; including my son Tim, various ascendedmasters, and even a collective consciousness of souls whowanted their story of suicide to be told. At times I receiveddirect help in the form of automatic writing; fingers flewover the keyboard and I had no idea what I was typinguntil two thousand words later the energy flow ceased andI could then go back and fix up the many typing errors,amazed at the insight and wisdom that had been channelledthrough me by unseen ones. I received inspiration andencouragement through messengers in the form of birds,people, meditations, songs, as spirit guides found manydifferent ways of communicating with me. Often thematerial came at random and it could take many weeksbefore I understood it or knew where it fitted in, becausemy own consciousness was still expanding throughout thewhole project. The book was truly organic in that it grewwith a life of its own and at times I was just the gardenerpoking around in between the rows of insightful seeds thathad been sown.And now, just a little more than twenty-four months later,“Dry Your Tears” is about to be released, just as Almora hadsaid. Presented as a journey through grief, in reality68 www.onesmile.co

Zinc Hairdressing is environmentallymindedleading to the choice to workwith Italian hair care brand Davineswhose business ethics and conceptof beauty sustainability benefit bothclient and community.it is a story of a beautiful awakening and reconnectionto our spiritual selves. It tells of sadness and strugglesat times, especially those of our young teenagers who often feel isolatedand disconnected from their world. It also describes the anguish ofshedding long-held core-beliefs, so necessary for us to heal completely andto allow us to step into who we truly are. Most of all it tells of the gifts to befound when our children depart early, if only we can be open to receivingthis extraordinary gift of love. Beautiful images by artist June NorthcroftGrant usher in each chapter, illuminating and enhancing each messagecontained within.“Dry Your Tears” is a true story written by Annette Hanham underthe pen-name of Little Grace and can be ordered online by visitingZINC HAIRDRESSING, 5 HAVEN ROAD7010 NELSON, PHONE 03 548 4629WWW.ZINC-HAIRDRESSING.COM

MUSICREVIEWSBonnie Raitt. Slipstream.By Ricky Dasler – Co-owner of Living Sound NelsonReleased in April this year, Slipstream is Bonnie Raitt’s 16thstudio album, self released, and her first in seven years, froma career spanning 40 years. What first attracted my attentionto this album were her cover versions of two Bob Dylan songs,‘Million Miles’ and the haunting ‘Standing in the Doorway’.The first is very similar to how Dylan was delivering this songlive in concert, as a swampy blues with deep pulsing basslines driving the song forward. It’s quite dark in presentationand works well. The second is any bit as plaintive andheartbreaking as Dylan’s original and befitting of a femaleinterpretation by someone like Raitt.70 www.onesmile.co

“While at times loose,Slipstream is an adventurousreminder of what Raittis both known and respectedfor by those who enjoy hertake on the Blues tradition.”Another notable cover is Gerry Rafferty’s ‘Right Down theLine’. Here Raitt stays close to, even rivals the original, andin doing so shows how well it suits her voice.The majority of the albums production work is by theunique Joe Henry and the songs really benefit from histouch. On the Raitt produced numbers I find the sound abit commercial FM radio-like, as if the dynamics have beensquashed somewhat. Maybe that’s the sound Raitt was afteron those tunes, but for this listener it divides the sound ofthe album somewhat. To give her credit, she’s been in thegame long enough to know what works best for her brandof blues.As is to be expected, Raitt’s masterly slide guitar workfeatures prominently throughout on this album. However,her restraint and understanding of the less equals moreapproach means it’s never over done or too obvious. Thisshows the maturity of an artist who no longer has to proveher chops. It’s sound she’s chasing not show(wo)manship.The featured musicians are an enlarged version of her currenttouring band with guests such as Bill Frisell adding his typicalsparse atmosphere guitar inflections to the sound scape.While at times loose, Slipstream is an adventurous reminderof what Raitt is both known and respected for by those whoenjoy her take on the Blues tradition.If you’ve moved on from buying CD’s, this album is availableas a hi-res download and well worth getting for the addedsound quality. Of course vinyl is available nowadays too.LIVING SOUND258 HARDY STREET NELSONwww.livingsound.co.nz info@livingsound.co.nzphone (03) 546 8363

GARDENINGBy Sabina GilbergBy the time you’ll read this I hope we will have a little lessrain and the soil will have dried off a bit. Currently there areponds where there should be lawns or mud pools! The firstof the spring blossom is fading with its beautiful burstof colour as in Magnolias and Kowhais.72 www.onesmile.co

But I really love all the shades of green we have. In NewZealand we are really spoilt with lush green even during thewinter especially at the top of the South Island and north.I distinctly remember going back to Europe after my firsttrip to New Zealand in mid February. What a shock it was,everything was so bare and grey and brown! Their winteris more of a rest from gardening and after a few monthsof bare deciduous trees and cold if not frozen ground thegreen is really appreciated! And even though I love flowersa lot I do delight in all the shades of green, too. A gardenwithout flowers can look very interesting; the lack of colourmakes you look at the shapes and texture of the plants.For example the Euphorbias with their long and slim darkgreen leaves and the lime green flower are such unusualshapes. They are great on their own or as a backdrop fora colour that sits either next to it in the colour wheelor opposite i.e. red or blue respectively. I have teamedit with the dark blue of Lithospermum and an even lightershade of lime green in a pot; a very good combo for a warmand sunny spot and all these don’t mind too much if youforget to water them sometimes...they are draught-tolerant.And what about the fresh and juicy looking new leaves on anoak and the fantastic green blossom on the Elm trees, theyare all bunched up and can be mistaken for leaves becauseof the colour, but look up at them against the blue sky andthey are stunning. A few trees grow along the Maitai river notfar from Trafalgar St, worth checking them out in October.And pretty much next to it a Melia tree which can takea while to start unfurling its leaves, but often the seeds arestill clinging on in spring and they make it such an interestingtree together with a flax as on the photo it looks great, I think.And what about the pastel green of the snowball flowerswhen they appear?The Viburnum opulus sterile has got a gorgeous oldfashioned flair about it and the snowball-shaped flowersslowly turn white from a light green. On the photo you cansee flowers at the different stages.Of course it is also time to get busy in the garden and plantedibles, lettuces can be continued to be planted andby end of October tomatoes can be planted out as wellas all other summer crops, frost chances should wellbe over and the soil warming up. Tomatoes especially likethe warmer temperatures at night. Water them for the firsttwo days after planting and then let them work a bit andgrow some roots down rather than just close to the surfacewhere you water.Herbs are a passion of mine and look good without a lotof fuss; in the photos you see chives and sage which I usea lot in cooking and an unusual Vietnamese mint. It is wellworth growing if you like that typical Asian flavour to yourmeal, it tastes a bit like coriander. I put it in Asian-inspiredmeatballs and it worked a treat, but they do have a strongflavour so close to my kitchen door so it is no hassle to goout and pick what I need for the meal I’m cooking; reallyimportant to remember that when you plant herbs.Weeding is still very important, get them before theyself-seed again• Feed your garden with compost and manure, especiallyveggie gardens and flowering plants need food now• Mulch and keep the soil moist and the weeds down,you’ll be glad you did all that come summer.Have fun!Available for Landscape Design, Planting Plans, QualityGarden Maintenance and Potting Service. Please contact me atgardenaffairsnelson@gmail.com 03 5468511 or 021 1515088Landscape Design &Quality Garden MaintenanceGardenAffairsNELSON“Creating a garden you love”Sabina GilbergCert. In Horticulture and Landscape Design03-5468511 or 021-1515088gardenaffairsnelson@gmail.comwww.onesmile.co 73

YellowDDockYellow dock, or Rumex crispus, as it is known by thebotanists is one of the widest spread wild herbs on theearth. The name ‘yellow dock’ comes from the old Englishmeaning ‘yellow root’, which is exactly what this plant has;a deep gold-yellow root which is highly medicinal.Growing in all types of soils, this special plant thrivesin a myriad of different situations. It can be found in boggyareas, stagnant areas and in dry cold areas to name a few.Yellow dock has a forking tap root and is a short-livedperennial plant. As such it is a good idea to gather the herbin the early spring or late falls when it is at its best.There are many different species of dock which are alledible. They are in the buckwheat family, polygonaceae,the family of ‘many knees’. Dock juice (or simply rubbingthe leaf on) is an effective traditional remedy for the stingof nettles and one will find dock frequently growingin the vicinity.SPIRITUAL PROPERTIES• Yellow Dock helps us to strengthen our life force.• This plant emphasizes the ‘feminine’ qualities so intrinsicto our ability to be here now and live simply and fully.• Assists us with our self- confidence, moving ahead in ourown feminine power and moving deeper into our wisdom.• Helps us to stay in the present moment, and release thepast and what no longer serves us.• Nourishes our Earth energy in Chinese medicine.• Yellow Dock literally helps us to ‘let go’.PHYSICAL PROPERTIESYellow dock is extremely useful as reflected by its widespreadavailability. If you’re suffering from digestion issuesor stomach acid deficiencies, Yellow dock is the plant you arelooking for. Solving such deficiencies is especially importantbecause digestive problems can prevent your body fromgetting enough protein and minerals.Yellow dock stimulates intestinal secretions, and containsanthraquinone glycosides, both of which have a mild laxativeeffect and help to eliminate wastes from the body. For themost part, Yellow dock will effectively relieve constipation.Dock can also bring stomach acids to normal levels.Having enough stomach acid is important. Stomach acidhelps dissolve the food you eat and break it down into simplechemical compounds the body can use. When there is reducedstomach acid, your body is less able to absorb the protein andminerals in foods and to eliminate waste products.74 www.onesmile.co

Yelllow dock also stimulates the flow of bile and digestiveBy Amy Mc CombBSc(hons), CSHenzymes from the liver and gall bladder, which appearsto facilitate the absorption of minerals.Conditions associated with a sluggish digestive system suchas: liver dysfunction, acne, headaches, and constipationcan greatly benefit by supplementing with Yellow dock.(Dandelion and Burdock can help with the above conditionsas well).Yellow Dock improves the absorption of nutrients and thusis used to treat anemia- and poor hair, fingernail and skinquality. In addition to improving the absorption of iron fromthe intestines, dock contains some iron. Dock is highin bioflavonoids, which strengthens capillaries.Yellow Dock VinegarFind and dig up some two year old roots in earlyspring or late fall from a clean area as yellowdock will remove chemicals from the soil as itdoes in our bodies. It is especially important tocollect dock from an unsprayed area.Chop up finely and lightly pack a preserving jarfull of the chopped root.Pour unpasteurized vinegar over the roots andleave for 6 weeks.At the end of the soaking time, the roots may beleft and the tender roots be eaten as a pickle, orthe roots may be strained off.The resulting liquid is a wonderful addition toany salad dressing and a fortifying iron tonic.IN SUMMARYTo sum it up Yellow Dock helps with:• Low stomach acid• Poor digestion and absorption of minerals• Boosts mineral absorption, particularly iron.All the docks are recommended for anemia resultingfrom an iron deficiency because, in addition to theirability to improve the absorption of iron from theintestines, they contain some iron.• Alkalanizes the body system• Binds to heavy metals and passes them out of bodysystem; helps with ‘toxicity’• Improves skin condition(s)• Helps with poor liver function• Improves gall bladder functioning as well and thereforeincreases energy levels• Yellow dock holds the image of the liver and thespleen in its DNA, reminding these organs of theiroptimal functioning. The spleen in Chinese medicine isthe foundation for the entire body system. It is the earthenergy, holding the vitality.Yellow Dock SoupPick several handfuls of fresh young leaves inearly spring or summer. Much older and biggerleaves are too bitter. Chop fine and soak inlemon juice for 2 hours.Chop a big kumara fine. Fry kumara with someonions and garlic and coriander. Add the yellowdock and lemon juice.Add summer miso to taste just before serving(don’t boil the miso as this denatures the goodbacteria!).Dry roast a cup of sesame and pumpkin seeds tobe sprinkled on top of the soup and serve witha dollop of yoghourt. Beautiful blood nourishingsoupFor more information go towww.plantrhythms.com*The early spring and summer leaves of yellowdock can be added to soups to instead of othergreens, such as spinach.www.onesmile.co 75

CompositionP owderby Yvonne Tait76 www.onesmile.co

Samuel Thomson was a prominent herbalist in the mid 1800’s. He was a residentof America and it was he who combined the European Medical Herbalism systemwith that of the Native American Indian system. The result was a very effectivesystem called ‘The Thomsonian System’ which incorporated the importanceof nutrition and lifestyle in the pursuit of good health. I was trained in theThomsonian System of Medical Herbalism and I particularly remember beingtaught about Samuel Thomson’s famous in his time - “Composition Powder”.I had a particular interest when I first heard it mentioned in my course study forit brought back memories of my Grandmother’s small back kitchen in Englandwhen I was a child. I instantly remembered listening to my grandmother discussingthe attributes of Composition Powder with her friends over a cup of tea.Composition Powder was compoundedfrom five different herbs. It was usuallyprescribed for colds, ‘flu and fevers butwas lauded as a panacea for all types of ills.It was said that if dosing was started at the very beginning of a bout of ‘fluit would stop its development. It was also utilised in the treatment of poorcirculation, cold hands and feet, colic, sore throats and hoarseness. Herbalistsprescribed it to improve the overall function of the body through the generallyimproved performance of all the organs. The herbs used to make CompositionPowder are now known to have amongst other attributes antimicrobial, digestiveand circulatory influences on the body, so explaining its healing reputation.The following is the recipe for Composition Powder given to me as a student ofMedical Herbalism over three decades ago; there are other variations all claimingto be the original recipe. The five ingredients are all dried and powdered.Composition Powder*Powdered Bayberry - Four ounces.Powdered Ginger Root - Two ounces.Powdered White Pine Bark - One ounce.Powdered Clove Flowers - One teaspoon.Cayenne Pepper - One teaspoon.All the ingredients are mixed together and sifted as you would sift flour.Preparation and DosageFor an adult steep one teaspoon of the prepared Composition Powderin a cup of boiling water.Leave it to settle and cool, it can be sweetened to taste with a little honey.When the powder has settled to the bottom of the cup and the liquid is clear,then the liquid can be drunk leaving the powder behind. Or alternativelydecant the clear clear liquid from the cup.* Please Note:Not to be taken during pregnancy. This particular Composition Powder recipe is currentlyavailable in capsule form worldwide from a leading herbal company, easily located on theinternet. This article is presented for educational purposes only. Seek the advice of yourhealthcare professional before taking herbal medicines.www.onesmile.co 77

Wholemeal BreadPREPARATIONThe following quantities make two loaves:• 2 cups of warm water• 2 tsp yeast• 2 tbsp honey• 6 cups of good quality wholemealorganic flour (you can also includesome rye flour)• ½ tsp salt• 2 tbsp molasses• A mixture of seeds such assunflower, pumpkin (optional)• Dissolve the honey in the warm water, sprinkle in the yeast andlet it sit for around 5 minutes until the water is foamy.• Add the flour, salt, molasses, and seeds (if using) to a bowl andmix in the liquid. Knead for around 10 minutes, adding more flourif necessary to avoid the bread becoming sticky.• Put the dough in a warm place and let rise for around 30 minutesbefore kneading a second time.• Shape the dough into loaves and place in oiled loaf tins.Let the loaves rise in a warm location.• Bake the loaves in a hot oven for ten minutes at 220˚C and thena further 35 minutes at 200˚C.• When finished baking you can leave the loaves in the warm ovenfor a time before taking out and cooling on a wire rack.Enjoy your fresh bread with soup, as sandwiches or toasted.•••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••Recipe supplied by Anahata Yoga Retreatwww.anahata-retreat.org.nz78 www.onesmile.co

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GermanyGermanyPork Fillet with Bratkartoffelnfrom René StumppRené writes...I am originally from the countrysideof Mainz, which is in the Rhine hess(Rheinhessen) area, the biggest wine regionof Germany.Cooking-wise, people in Rheinhessen like touse wine, potatoes and salad in their cookingand dishes. The most famous vegetable forthis region is white asparagus.Amelia, my wife (from the Bay of Islands)likes to joke that here in NZ, meals are meatand three vegetables while in Germany youget one vegetable and three meats!The following dish is very popular incountryside restaurants and winery cafés.Pork fillet is also known in this area as“Lende” or in dialect: “es Lendsche”.You can’t really overcook this dish (pork filletbeing the only pork cut you can actuallyserve medium to well done) but it is betterhaving it nice and juicy.Wine match suggestions: Pinot Gris (Grauer Burgunder from the Rheinhess area)or medium style Riesling, Pinot Gris or a Syrah or Bordeaux Blend.Enjoy! RenéINGREDIENTS600g pork filletseasoning: salt, pepper, paprika400g Agria potatoes60g bacon40g onionsparsley (flat or curly leafed)30ml oil (or less if preferred)40g butter (or less if preferred)seasoning: salt, pepper, paprikaMETHODWash potatoes, put in pot with coldwater and bring to the boil. Cookfor about 10 minutes then check ifready (knife slides out clean). If theskin opens up remove immediatelyas you are about to overcookthem! Remove from water and letthem cool down.When cooled, peel off the skin witha knife and slice them into½ cm discs. Season the porkfillet, pan fry each side and put inpreheated oven at 180ºC.Serves 4100g mushrooms (or less ifpreferred)40g onions100ml white wine100ml cream30ml oil (or less if preferred)40g butter (or less if preferred)seasoning: salt, pepper (can usegreen pepper corns)Use same pan, add oil and cutmushrooms followed by onionsand butter. When mushrooms arenice and golden, add wine, reduceby half then add cream and reduceagain until it thickens.While the sauce is cooking youcan start another pan with a bitof oil and when warm, add slicedpotatoes.When those have a bit of colouradd bacon and after a further fewmoments add onions and butter.When potatoes have coloured, addchopped parsley. (by then the porkwill be ready in the oven as well asthe reduced sauce).Sides can be salad, blanchedbroccoli or I suggest blanchedgreen beans, wrapped in streakybacon and then pan fried.You can pre-cook the potatoes(without the parsley) and put them inthe oven to keep warm with the pork.80 www.onesmile.co

St. VincentVincy Easy Jerk Chickenwith Pineapple Salsa & Coconut RiceINGREDIENTSJerk Chicken:10 boned chicken thighs10 tsp jerk paste*toothpicks*We use WalkerswoodTraditional Jamaican JerkHot & Spicy available atspecialty foodstores & goodsupermarketsfrom Max and Karen DarlingServes 5Coconut Rice:zest of 1 lime2 cups basmati rice½ cup coconut cream3 cups of waterPineapple Salsa:¼ fresh pineapple3 fresh tomatoeshandful of corianderjuice of 1 limeMETHODJerk Chicken Lay each chicken thigh out full length& spread approx. 1 tsp of jerk paste on the inside ofeach. Roll thighs up with paste inside & skewer with twotoothpicks. You can do this just before cooking or for adeeper flavour, prepare four or five hours beforehand.Cook on a rack over low hot coals; a Weber style BBQis the best, with a lid to preserve flavour & juices.Alternatively, cover with tinfoil.They will need approx. 30 minutes. Test with a skewerfor clear juice running out.Coconut Rice Wash 2 cups of basmati rice.Add 3 cups of water, ½ a cup of coconut cream& the zest of ½ the lime. Cover, bring to the boil &simmer for 20 minutes.Pineapple Salsa Finely dice the pineapple & tomato.Add the lime juice & finely chopped coriander.Season with salt & pepper. Mix & chill.Plate up chicken, salsa and rice,and garnish with the zest of theother half of the lime. ENJOY!FUNDRAISINGCOOKBOOKSFOR SCHOOLS, CLUBS& COMMUNITY GROUPSwww.littlegemcookbooks.co.nzST VINCENTand the GRENADINESA selection of recipes fromAROUND the WORLDin Tasty WaysA unique collection of recipesfrom 48 countries, contributed byNelson Multicultural Council membersand others who call Nelson “home”.$25 from:Trade Aid Nelson, 148 Hardy St.and NMC office, 4 Bridge St.Ph. 539 0030info@nelsonmulticultural.co.nz

René Archner, www.chefrene.netAlthough the recipe listed below has been working well for me over the months you might encounterproblems when adding nut flours or fruit powders to your liquid chocolate mix. Sometimes the cacaobutter separates when cooling down (especially when adding liquids). To avoid this from happeningyou can melt just 50% of it and shave the rest with a grater. That will keep the temperature of thewhole mix down. That also means your chocolate will solidify quicker. I tried it today. Worked likea Charm! Also the surface of the finished bars seems to be much smoother.Be aware that when making raw chocolate you will leave the field of approximates and enter theSacred Realm of Alchemy. So tread carefully and record your recipe trials and precise amounts!82 www.onesmile.co

And here we go with:Raw Chocolate BarsMakes enough chocolate to brighten a hairy day(36 ice cube tray bars and 1-2 teddy bears)• 1 lb (454g) raw organic cacao butter• 2 c cacao powder• 1.5 c cane sugar/xylitol, ground into a powder• 1 t + vanilla powder• 1-2 drops lime juice (Not more!)• 1-2 drops tamari sauce• ¼ c raw cacao nibs, optional• 1 t freeze dried fruit powder, optional1. Melt the cacao butter carefully in a bowl over hot water.Be careful not to overheat it. Stir continuously! That willyield about 2.25c of liquid.2. Transfer to a blender jar and add the remainingingredients. Mix at high speed till everythingis emulsified into a homogenous mixture.3. Pour the liquid mixture into chocolate molds or smallplastic wrapped tartlet shells. You can drizzle somefruit powder into the mold before pouring the liquidchocolate. Silicone ice cube trays are best.4. Drop the cacao nibs into the liquid chocolate. Theywill float. You can stir them in if you wish.5. Chill. The quicker the chocolate solidifies the better.6. Serve on cold dishes or paper as the chocolate meltseasily.TIPVariations can be made with different essential oils andessences. Use your imagination! Citrus oils work well.www.onesmile.co 83

Choose aWord forthe Year forGuidance &InspirationBy Laura Raduenz84 www.onesmile.co

Towards the end of the year, we often beginto reflect on the past year and think aboutthe next year... what went right, what wentwrong, what happened to our dreams andgoals. Is your life on track? Do you havea track? Need some guidance?Each year I encourage my clients, friends, and familyto switch out of the old New Year resolution process to theword of the year process. By choosing one word, you reallyprovide yourself with focus, clarity, challenge, guidance,and inspiration. I just love this tool, and hope you do, too.Here’s the idea….rather than making a list of new yearresolutions, choose a word for the year to help guide,challenge, grow, and steer you throughout the year. Thisword will be used to guide you in your life, your business,your health, your relationships, and your environment.Your word can be very simple, straightforward, andtraditional like Healthy, Prosperity, Abundance, Release,Grow, Success, Family, Love, Freedom, Inspire, Simplicity,Allow, Attract, Fun, Playful, Laugh, or Smile.Or, your word can be a little more different from thenorm like Shine, Sparkle, Courage, Strength, Light,Ease, Gratitude, Flow, Nature, Self Confidence, Energy,Momentum, Focus, Clarity, Space, Grace, Delight, Learn,Manifest, Yes, No, Let Go, Awe, or Wonder.Your word may pop into your head right away, or you mayneed to reflect and “try out” a few words.Here is an example of how to use your word. My word for2011 was Gorgeous and for 2012 was Delight. I loved thesewords and they both really worked for me. I would use theword like this:• How could I make my life more Gorgeous/Delightfultoday, this week, this month?• What do I need to do to create a really Gorgeous/Delightful business?• How could I create gorgeous health today, this week?• What might I do to feel really Gorgeous/Delighted today?• How could I make this relationship feel or be moreGorgeous/Delightful?• How could I feel more Gorgeous/Delighted about thissituation?• How could I better delight myself, my customers,and my loved ones?• How is my life really Gorgeous/Delightful right now?• How might I allow more Gorgeousness/Delight to flowin my life?• How would I feel if I created a really Gorgeous/Delightful life?!I use my word every day in all situations. And, my intuitionpopped up with my right next action. My words have beentransformational and my life has been amazingly moregorgeous and delightful! Words have power and they work!Make good words work for you.I encourage you to keep a playful perspective so that your word• feels fun• makes you smile• makes you shift perspective• creates immediate focus for you• makes you feel good• helps you grow in a creative wayHere is an example of how to come up with your word this year:• Allow a few words to come to mind over a few days• Write down your words• Allow yourself to “test them out” or “try them on” fora day or two during various activities• Allow your intuition to tell you your right word for 2013• There is no one right word for you, but the word shouldfeel right in your heart, your gut, your headHave fun with your word. Let it guide you, grow you,help you create a better, more beautiful life. Try it, and letme know how it goes.Laura Raduenzwww.BeBoldStepUp.comCoaching others to think big, be bold, and stepup their lives and businesses.www.onesmile.co 85

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