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Feature<br />
17<br />
WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER <strong>12</strong>, <strong>2016</strong><br />
DT<br />
Gender be gone<br />
Breaking down stereotypes of masculinity<br />
• Tasaffy Hossain<br />
Gender equality – as soon as we<br />
usually hear those words, two<br />
major concepts come to our mind<br />
– women and feminism. And then<br />
the questions usually go into how<br />
something can be about equality,<br />
when we haven’t talked about the<br />
other side of the coin – men!<br />
Men – that epitome of<br />
MANkind, the torch bearer and the<br />
leader. Everywhere we look, we<br />
are bombarded with the different<br />
roles and forms that men take in<br />
our societies. Historical figures,<br />
newspapers, sports channels,<br />
movies and comics – there is an<br />
endless number of male characters<br />
that help to define what it means<br />
to be a man. Or is that what we<br />
would like to think?<br />
If we actually try to break down<br />
these people, whether fictional<br />
or real, I think what truly stands<br />
out is that fact that most of these<br />
men are usually revered for some<br />
of the same basic things – looks,<br />
strength, brilliance, and mostly<br />
for being winners. Whether in<br />
sports, business or politics, men<br />
are respected and celebrated solely<br />
based on their prowess at being a<br />
leader.<br />
Starting from the kindergarten<br />
playground, through advanced<br />
levels of education systems into the<br />
workplace – the one clear message<br />
about what it means to be a man,<br />
is simply that they are successful.<br />
Don’t get me wrong, I am not<br />
saying this makes life easier for<br />
women, but maybe we have missed<br />
out on noticing what this constant<br />
pressure on men in needing to be<br />
the best has done.<br />
Coming back to gender roles,<br />
the black and white designation<br />
of manliness or masculinity has<br />
remained unchallenged for a<br />
long time. Men are still seen as<br />
the household head, the bread<br />
earner, the stable problem solver.<br />
Feminism and gender rights<br />
projects have been pushing<br />
to break down the barriers of<br />
femininity and womanhood,<br />
encouraging girls and women to be<br />
just as independent, competitive,<br />
and worldly as their male<br />
counterparts, while also being able<br />
to love their feminine sides. The<br />
same encouragement has not been<br />
provided to men, who are still only<br />
being acknowledged and noticed<br />
for those same masculine traits and<br />
“manly” roles as before.<br />
We celebrate the woman<br />
who can do it all, we celebrate<br />
mothers for their<br />
ability to give<br />
everything up and<br />
we even celebrate<br />
women who have<br />
the courage to<br />
maneuver societal<br />
pressures by being<br />
happily single. Do<br />
note that by “we”,<br />
I mean the liberal,<br />
feminist circles<br />
and mindsets that<br />
have been evolving<br />
even within the<br />
social constraints of<br />
Dhaka.<br />
But we have not<br />
The black and white designation of manliness<br />
or masculinity has remained unchallenged for<br />
a long time<br />
yet embraced the<br />
notion of stay-athome<br />
fathers, or<br />
husbands being<br />
less successful than<br />
their wives, or even male nurses<br />
or caregivers. And that is where<br />
we have failed to push for gender<br />
equality from the other side.<br />
Equality is when we are not<br />
holding anyone back or judging<br />
them for making a choice that suits<br />
them on an individual basis, but<br />
does not fit into our preconceived<br />
notions of gender roles. That<br />
can only be possible once we<br />
acknowledge that our socially<br />
constructed gender norms are not<br />
benefiting either males or females,<br />
and agree to create the space for<br />
anyone to become who they want<br />
to be.<br />
Keeping this is mind, the<br />
upcoming production “Men<br />
don’t TALK” will delve into the<br />
issues that boys and men face<br />
while growing up in a society<br />
like Dhaka’s, where there is a<br />
strong pressure to uphold gender<br />
norms and fit into the roles set<br />
up by society. The shows will be<br />
held on 4th and 5th November<br />
in Khamarbari and Gulshan-1<br />
respectively. Further information<br />
can be found on the facebook page:<br />
Men don’t TALK <strong>2016</strong>. •<br />
Tasaffy Hossain is the<br />
founder of Bonhishikhaunlearn<br />
gender. Bonhishikha<br />
believes that who you look<br />
like, how you are treated and<br />
what role you play should<br />
not be determined by the sex<br />
organ that you are born with