Living Spring 活泉-Vol8-2016
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3days 2nights<br />
By Sai Fun<br />
From the 1st to the 3rd of October this year, I had the<br />
privilege of joining the church at its annual retreat. It<br />
isn’t often that I can sit back and afford three days and<br />
two nights of essentially doing ‘nothing’. Doing nothing<br />
wasn’t true, of course, but it felt like that when compared<br />
to the usual hectic urban lifestyle. So when presented<br />
with an opportunity such as this, I tend to have tendrils<br />
of thought that usually spring from noticing the behindthe-scenes,<br />
less dramatic aspects of an incident. Three<br />
things I took away with me from the Church Camp at the<br />
Methodist Centre in Port Dickson:<br />
Hug, and Often<br />
“All beginnings are hard,” wrote<br />
Chaim Potok in his book In the<br />
Beginning. Yes, they are. I grew up in<br />
a family that didn’t practise hugging<br />
each other. The reason probably was,<br />
as the Camp speaker said, that it just<br />
wasn’t the Chinese way. We shy away<br />
from direct praise and overt shows of<br />
affection.<br />
But we live and learn.<br />
Over time, I allowed the harder edges of my Chinese<br />
heritage to be softened by the ready warmth of the<br />
Punjabis when they met and hugged, and by the gentler<br />
culture of the Malay side of my family to whom it was<br />
natural to exchange cheek-to-cheek greetings. Right-leftright.<br />
I am no longer averse to hugs from anyone, and a<br />
single right (or left) cheek greeting is also sufficient to<br />
convey sincere well-wishes.<br />
Over time too, my siblings individually learnt to give each<br />
other heartfelt hugs when greeting or saying goodbye. My<br />
dad returned the hugs a little self-consciously at first, but<br />
he soon warmed up to the practice; my shy mum, a little<br />
less so.<br />
Now, when I greet any of my five grandnephews and<br />
grandniece (two more sweethearts on the way), I make it<br />
a point to embrace them and to take the time to say the<br />
words “I love you”, or simply, “Sayang”. They are all under<br />
five years old and haven’t yet learnt to squirm and say<br />
“Eww!”, so the advantage is mine. My hope is that as they<br />
grow, hugs from me will become so commonplace that<br />
they will be comfortable with the action even as adults,<br />
if I live that long. I would like them to know, beyond the<br />
shadow of a doubt, that no matter what befalls them in<br />
life, they are unconditionally loved. Train up a child in the<br />
way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart<br />
from it. (Proverbs 22:6)<br />
Shows of sincere affection and gratitude are like any<br />
other action. Do it often enough and they become second-<br />
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