Hola MaHigh-School - August 2017

ind being a woman
Even though it is the 21st century and I can adopt a child
I will be told that I am too black and adoption is not for
us. Will my mother in law from the rural area even understand
my solution to something that I have not even
done to myself, the disease that prevents me to have
children was not my choice.
There is a time where I kneel down and pray, cry and
wish that I had a child and that is the festive season!
When all the in-laws gather together at our husbands
place, I would be isolated, I will not be allowed to send
their children to shops, shout at them or even beat them
up when they have done wrong because when I try to I
would be asked “do you know the pain of labour”.
My mother in law would even suggest he marries a second
wife because I failed as a wife. But one day I pray
my pain will be felt and understood and barren or not I
will be regarded as a woman enough because I did not
do this to myself. Nature chose me.
Marcia Ramodike