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Which question makes you<br />

cringe?<br />

How can you stand listening to<br />

people’s problems all day? Frankly, I<br />

consider it an honor that people trust<br />

me with their deepest feelings and<br />

struggles. And it takes tremendous<br />

courage to seek help.<br />

Do you spend all your time<br />

analysing people or can you<br />

switch off easily?<br />

How do people react when you<br />

tell them what you do?<br />

Since my wife is in the field to,<br />

generally they asked me if we sit<br />

around analyzing each other all the<br />

time. The next question I'm usually<br />

asked is are you analyzing me right<br />

now. Usually I say it “never even<br />

crossed my mind until you asked me<br />

that question!” Which has the benefit<br />

of being true.<br />

I know I asked you questions on<br />

this before but, what, in your<br />

opinion is the most<br />

misunderstood, the biggest myth<br />

in the understanding of<br />

narcissism?<br />

When people think of the words<br />

narcissism or narcissist they tend to<br />

think of loud vain, preening, boastful<br />

braggarts. But that’s a caricature;<br />

many narcissists or extremely quiet.<br />

I’m analysing you now you asked that<br />

;-) . Actually, I find it easy to switch to<br />

relaxed listening mode, but we’re all<br />

psychologists in a way—everyone’s<br />

constantly thinking about why others<br />

might say or do what they do, even if<br />

its just a quiet question in the back of<br />

their minds. In that sense, I probably<br />

devote as much energy to analyzing in<br />

social settings as anyone else. Maybe<br />

less, because I like to turn that part of<br />

my mind off.<br />

Here is a question for Mrs<br />

Malkin: What’s it like to be<br />

married to an expert on<br />

narcissism?<br />

“It’s the best experience ever and he’s<br />

the best husband on the<br />

planet—maybe ever.”<br />

Sorry, I can’t resist but I have to ask.<br />

Do you like talking about yourself????<br />

Sorry, did you say something? I was<br />

just finishing an important thought.<br />

Actually, I’m comfortable enough<br />

sharing about myself with others, but<br />

I’m mindful of talking too long. That’s<br />

generally a sign I’m worried about<br />

something.<br />

Dr Craig Malkin

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