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alentine’s Day. My earliest<br />
thoughts of the beloved celebration<br />
date back to the third grade and are<br />
of tiny die-cut cards stating such simple<br />
messages like, “Some-bunny loves you”<br />
and, “Will you be mine?” I can remember<br />
the importance of finding just the right<br />
cards to give out, too. No way did I want<br />
anything too mushy or anything. Picking<br />
out the card was serious business.<br />
They would eventually be placed in<br />
individually decorated brown paper<br />
sacks that were taped to the back of<br />
everyone’s little-person sized desk.<br />
Love was so easy.<br />
Years later, flowers and gigantic<br />
helium balloons were the must-have<br />
order of the day, often delivered to the<br />
workplace. I was never the recipient of<br />
such over-the-top deliveries and was<br />
even admittedly a bit jealous of those<br />
who were. I mean, had they somehow<br />
figured out a secret code to love that I<br />
hadn’t? And how were you supposed to<br />
get those big ol’ things home anyway?<br />
I eventually married in my early<br />
thirties. Prior to that time, while I managed<br />
a couple of fairly decent relationships,<br />
I was mostly single–a lot. I mean, there<br />
were easier things in life than trying to<br />
find a nice guy, you know. Like nailing<br />
jelly to a tree. But it was worth the wait.<br />
I would eventually find my perfect<br />
match and we will celebrate 19 years<br />
of marriage this year. Yay!<br />
So as I look through the thousands<br />
of cards at the store and contemplate<br />
the message I want to convey, I’m<br />
struck by a simple yet powerful thought.<br />
I love us.<br />
In reality, the card I’m looking for<br />
should say, “Happy Valentine’s Day.<br />
Who, in a million years, would have<br />
ever thought that I’d be standing here<br />
for the umteenth time looking through<br />
this sea of red and pink hearts? But,<br />
despite the fact that I get grumpy and<br />
have unpredictable mood swings, you<br />
keep coming home–and I thank you<br />
for that. And even though you’ve yet<br />
to develop the ability to read my mind,<br />
I continue to love you anyway. We’ve<br />
made a pretty darn fabulous kid that,<br />
with any luck, will think marriage is a<br />
good thing after watching us. So, there’s<br />
that. Happy Valentine’s Day! I love us.”<br />
There need to be cards with those<br />
types of “real” messages. Someone<br />
could make a fortune.<br />
Relationships are hard. All relationships.<br />
And they take work. Anything worth<br />
having, does. And while my husband<br />
and I have certainly made a good run so<br />
far, we’ve definitely had our moments–<br />
but we always manage to work through<br />
them. Eventually, we even laugh it off.<br />
Laughter is about connection, and<br />
laughter and love go hand-in-hand.<br />
So while I might not be one of those<br />
that gets $100 worth of helium delivered<br />
to the front door, I will get a funny card<br />
from my fella. It will likely still be in the<br />
store bag from which it was bought<br />
along with one of my favorite Hollywood<br />
gossip-type magazines and a box of<br />
little white powdered donuts. He knows<br />
they’re my favorite and that means the<br />
world to me.<br />
The truth is that love isn’t always<br />
perfect. It isn’t a fairytale or a storybook<br />
and it doesn’t always come easy. Love is<br />
overcoming obstacles, facing challenges,<br />
fighting to be together, holding on, and<br />
never letting go.<br />
It’s a short word that’s easy to spell,<br />
difficult to define, and impossible to live<br />
without. Love is work, but most of all, love<br />
is realizing that every hour, and every<br />
minute, and every second of it was<br />
worth it–because you did it together.<br />
Maybe more marriages would<br />
survive if people knew that sometimes<br />
the “better” comes after the “worse.”<br />
And that’s ok. A successful marriage<br />
requires falling in love many times,<br />
over and over, with the same person.<br />
I’m thankful for my person. I really do<br />
love us. ♥<br />
Hometown madison • 27