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What Everybody Seeks
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By John Weaver

Introduction
I sank back in my chair, my head in my hands, wondering what on earth I was
going to do.
My business was struggling, the bills were piling up, and the birth of my third
child was accompanied by the news that she had suffered serious brain damage
and would need round-the-clock care for the rest of her life.
Think about that for a moment. The prospect of losing your livelihood, facing
rising debt and having to deal with a situation so formidable that no amount of
time, effort or money could ever resolve, all in one fell swoop!
My head told me to save my business as this was our sole source of income.
Indeed, this is what others suggested too. It seemed logical. Common sense. It
would mean committing my energies and time to work, instead of to my daughter
and family. I needed to provide and this should come before everything else.
My heart told me I should personally support my wife and daughter when they
needed me most. I should be there beside them to give them strength, love, care
and hope. This should be my priority, my sole focus. And God would provide.
My heart won.
External, worldly thinking versus inside, other worldly thinking.
External thinking relies on external conditions, situations and circumstances.
They control you.
Internal thinking relies on your deepest heartfelt emotions, conscience and
spiritual nature. You control you.
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You see, we have been brought up to believe that our thoughts, beliefs and
actions are determined by the outside world, when in truth, the outside world is
determined by our thoughts, beliefs and actions.
"If each of us devoted our time and energies to improving
ourselves, we could improve the world without even trying. It
all begins inside!"
— John Weaver
Disability is a great sorter of people and we quickly discovered who our real
friends were. We also learned that blood is not always thicker than water. But the
most important and hardest lesson I learned was that I could only depend on one
person to help my little family rise above our predicament. Me.
Unfortunately, due to the hand that I had recently been dealt, ‘me’ had become
apathetic, pessimistic, negative and fearful of what the future held. I had become
an observer instead of a participant in my own life. Reactive instead of proactive.
Then one day, when I sat beside my little girl on intensive care at the hospital,
unsure about whether she would pull through, I knew I had to nd solutions for
my own life if I were to nd solutions for her, my wife and other two children. I
realised this wasn’t about me…it was about them!
I read every self-help/growth/improvement book I could get my hands on. I
studied personal development and I diligently applied my newfound knowledge
to my life. I removed the word ‘problem’ from my vocabulary and replaced it with
the word ‘challenge.’ I replaced ‘can’t’ with ‘can’ and ‘won’t’ with ‘will’ and so on.
And when, despite her pain and suffering, my little girl greeted me with a smile, I
reminded myself how lucky I really was. Suddenly, all the money worries and
material needs paled into insignicance. Compared to my daughter’s needs, mine
were nothing!
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What’s more, if I had nothing to lose, I had everything to gain!
Gradually life for my family improved and changed for the better – because I had
improved and changed for the better, and you and yours can too.
Our positive attitude to life was necessary to Emily's well-being too. When times
are hard, some people give up. I implore you never to give up. In view of Emily's
severe disabilities, she could have felt like giving up, but through constant sheer
determination we continue to give her the will to live. When Emily was born we
were told that she wouldn’t survive more than 24 hours. She recently (2018)
celebrated her 31st birthday: www.emily-weaver.com
Whilst much of this success story could be attributed to other things, I know deep
down in my heart that it was due mainly to attitude. My attitude, Emily's attitude
and our attitude. Our attitude has always been positive and optimistic. And in this
life you get what you feel and think about most.
They say ‘when the going gets tough the tough gets going.’ So, if it’s tough for you,
let me know. Even if it’s not tough yet and you don’t want to wait for it to get
tough - let me know.
Remember, it costs nothing to ask - can you afford that?
Every blessing,
John.
Life-Coach and Self-Improvement Consultant
You can email me at: johnweaver95@hotmail.com or Text me on: 07904803001
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