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Why Do People Cheat on Their Partners? - contd.
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inner aloneness. Rather than end the relationship,
taking their emptiness and aloneness with them into
their next relationship, Celine and Brent have the
opportunity to do some inner-healing work.
They decided that it was worth trying to save their
marriage. They decided to have conjoint sessions with
me to learn about all the ways they were abandoning
themselves and making the other person responsible
for their well-being and happiness.
They learned the Inner Bonding process for taking
responsibility for their own feelings, and for
connecting with an ever-present source of love and
wisdom to help them learn to love themselves. They
discovered that they had no love to share with each
other until they learned how to love themselves, and
how to fill themselves with love to share with each
other. They learned:
To stay inwardly focused, on their own feelings and
behaviour, rather than have their eyes on the other’s
behaviour. That their intention is the most powerful
thing they have, and that, at any given moment, they
are either in the intent to protect against pain, or in
the intent to learn. They discovered that the intent to
learn about themselves and each other creates
intimacy while the intent to protect against being hurt
creates distance.
To explore their own fears and beliefs rather than
keep trying to get the other to change.
How to connect with their personal source of
inner/spiritual guidance to help them know the
loving action toward themselves and with each other,
and they learned to take loving action for themselves
rather than try to get the other to take care of them.
By being willing to do their inner work and learn how
to take emotional responsibility for themselves,
Celine and Brent were able to create a much more
intimate and fulfilling relationship. The affairs, rather
than ending their relationship, led to creating a
whole new and satisfying relationship. At this point,
neither Celine nor Brent has any desire to have an
affair.
Again, this is just one of the many different reasons
people cheat, but it is the most common reason that
I see with my clients.
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. lifestyle (which includes diet,
exercise, and weight management) and your spiritual
orientation are key factors to the management. Aside
from education, realising and remembering that your
body is the temple of the Holy Spirit are crucial.
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