2018 Spring Kansas Child
All about relationships
All about relationships
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BIGR<br />
THE<br />
Alice Eberhart-Wright, <strong>Child</strong> and Family Specialist<br />
I call it the Big R – RELATIONSHIPS. I don’t<br />
have to go running to the library for books to review<br />
today because my collection of children’s books is<br />
full of stories of relationships.<br />
How do we help children<br />
become compassionate, caring<br />
adults? Through stories – told,<br />
listened to, and read. Here are<br />
some of my new favorites.<br />
The Pillow Fairy was<br />
written by Marcia G. Riley<br />
and illustrated by Joni E. Patterson, two Kansans.<br />
It’s a delightful story about a 3-year-old who would<br />
not sleep in his own bed. His mother helped him<br />
do that by making up a story about the pillow fairy,<br />
who left a little gift under the pillow of a child who<br />
was able to stay in his own bed all night. Obviously,<br />
this author knows how hard that feat can be for<br />
some young children and how the adults caring for<br />
them have to know how to turn on the magic to<br />
help children take a developmental step that seems<br />
gigantic.<br />
I Love You, Little Monkey, by Alan Durant and<br />
illustrated by Katharine McEwen, is written as much<br />
for adults as for children. It’s all about adults needing<br />
to get everyday tasks done while the children just<br />
want someone to play with them. When an adult<br />
is busy with some necessary chore, the child will<br />
amuse him or herself by doing something that<br />
either undoes what the adult has accomplished or<br />
creates a new, time-consuming job. <strong>Child</strong>ren seem to<br />
particularly enjoy an activity that invariably breaks<br />
something or makes a mess. Sometimes this is very<br />
hard, but we have to teach them to be sorry while<br />
helping them understand that we love them, but<br />
sometimes not their choices. In this delightful book<br />
the little monkey throw all the figs Big Monkey has<br />
gathered for dinner, jumps on the bed Big Monkey<br />
has carefully made, and climbs and lands on Big<br />
Monkey when he’s trying to take a nap. Then, by<br />
some miracle, Big Monkey talks to<br />
Little Monkey and he apologizes. Big<br />
Monkey forgives and plays with him.<br />
One more important thing, Big Monkey<br />
apologizes for yelling at Little Monkey.<br />
What a monumental task for parents<br />
and teachers! Use discipline to teach<br />
rather than punish. And, notice that<br />
Big Monkey is a he, not a she. We have<br />
moved beyond thinking that it’s only<br />
mothers who do household chores.<br />
Billy Tibbles Moves Out! is another<br />
story about relationship challenges<br />
that routinely occur in the course of<br />
development. Billy Tibbles is a darling little<br />
boy cat that is supposed to welcome his<br />
little brother, Eric, into his personal space.<br />
He doesn’t want to, and storms around the<br />
house insisting this will not happen. He<br />
will show his parent. He would rather sleep<br />
in the bathtub or move out to the shed. He<br />
protests sharing bedtime stories with both<br />
Eric and little sister, Twinkle. Then the 3<br />
little kittens find they can find some fun in<br />
the midst of all their fighting and anger. They<br />
can be wild and noisy, cling together<br />
when there are scary things, and<br />
begin to create havoc for parents.<br />
Dad is not sure he wants to share<br />
all this noise and commotion in<br />
his haven of a home, but the kids<br />
remind him that he has to share,<br />
too. Time, space, different needs –<br />
all are part of being a family.<br />
What about the babies? The Big<br />
R is all about relationships. Any<br />
board book, a lap, and time to<br />
encourage and develop babies’<br />
skills to learn words, turn pages,<br />
and begin real communication is<br />
all that is required. Find the time<br />
to do it, frequently. n<br />
22 <strong>Kansas</strong> <strong>Child</strong> A Publication of <strong>Child</strong> Care Aware ® of <strong>Kansas</strong>