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PAGE 20 — SUNDAY Vanguard, APRIL 14, 2019
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Sometimes going back to an ex works;
sometimes it doesn’t!
When Wendy rang to ask
me if I’d go on a date
with her, my first reaction was
that she’d gone completely insane’,
recalled Jubril, a university
lecturer. “Our relationship
was great when we first got together
but it ended badly and
since then we’ve only seen
each other occasionally.
“I was her first serious boyfriend
but called the relationship
off because we never
agreed on anything. We were
constantly rowing,then making
up. We mus have worn
each other out as she quickly
went into another relationship
and came out with a child. I’ve
had two kids myself but still
single, I wasn’t desperate, I’ve
always believed getting back
with an ex is a bad idea, and I
worried we wouldn’t get on.
“It was good fun going out
wih her again and we went to
our favourite restaurant. After
a few drinks, we talked a lot
about the past. But the spark
wasn’t there. I can’t ever see
us getting back together. Too
much has changed for us to get
back what we had before.”
“I did my Higher School Certificate
in a mixed school and
that was how I met Gabby”,
recalled Sade, an IT manager.
“We were very much in love but
whilst I got admitted to a university
in Lagos, we went up
North. I missed him like crazy
the first year but whilst absence
could make the heart grow
fonder, with us it eventually
became out of sight, out of
mind.
“I was in the office when he
just walked in. It was a shock
to see him. I almost didn’t recognise
him. He looked much
better than I remembered and
has spent a lot of time at the
gum because he looked well
built. Things were a bit awkward
for about an hour but once we
got over our nerves, we were our
old selves! He took me to lunch
and grown -up Jubril was a
more intense version of the
funny witty man I knew years
ago.
“I was amazed by how easy it
was to talk to him about everything
– wok, family and other
people we’d been put with. We
even talked about our break up
without hurling insults at each
other. It was obvious the old
chemistry was still there and two
years later, we got married!”
Could you be a born flirt?
Flirting is an ac that gives
your morale a lot of boost if
you know how to do it right.
Some people are natural flirts
while some would rather melt
into a wall than flaunt whatever
it is they’ve got. Fancy
yourself a flirt? Millicent
Browers, a sociologist gives
these dos and don’ts tips on
successful flirting:-
“Do decide that flirting is a
positive activity that will help
you meet people. Don’t think
negative feelings about it. Do
be yourself and emphasise all
your good points. Don’t be a
phony, projecting an image
that’s not the real you – most
people will recognise a put-on
like that immediately.
Respond to a person who’s
interested in you by nodding
or smiling. Don’t panic when
the other person responds to
your flirting. Instead try to ask:
“You see something you like?”
Keep the conversation light
and lively by bringing up topics
like a person’s job, hobbies
or sports they find interesting.
Don’t get into heavy controversial
subjects like politics.
Project a light upbeat attitude
and don’t act unhappy by
dredging up past romances
that failed or your personal
problems. Encouraged the
other person to open up and
talk about whatever they love
and don’t just talk about yourself.
Look graceful and relaxed.
Don’t appear stiff. If
you are tensed, walk around
until your tension disappears.
Accept any compliments you
get on your appearance and
don’t apologise or make excuse
for the way you look.
Finally, keep an open mind
about the type of person you
want to meet. Don’t have a
mental image of what kind of
person you’re looking for. You
might overlook a fine person
who simply doesn’t meet all
your requirements.
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OUR column to express your loving
thoughts in words to your sweetheart. Don’t
be shy. Let it flow and let him or her know how
dearly you feel. Write now in not more than 75 words
to: The Editor, Sunday Vanguard, P.M.B. 1007,
Apapa, Lagos. E.mail: sundaylovenotes@yahoo.com
Please mark your envelope: “LOVE NOTES"
The Letter
This is best not written on paper.
The heart is a scroll with red scribbles,
Every word pondered, revised, hidden.
When writing about love,
Show no love—
Bare the heart of form and fluid.
After reading this,
Pretend you did not and burn it.
The heart will ash and arise like phoenix.
Kingsley Alumona
kingsley.alumona@yahoo.com
08030872649
Get true love this season
Let not your true love pass you bye this Easter
season.
You have a vital role to play in winning your love
to your side and caring for her. This could be done
with proper planning, managing and giving her
money from your little resources. Again, spend time
with her and make sure you solve her immediate
problems and grow the love with the hope that every
action you take in this festive season will give you
the oppournity to win her heart.
Michael Adedotun Oke
maof2020@gmail.com
08027142077