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UnCagedPhoenix Magazine: April 2019

In this month’s magazine we are taking more of a direct business and personal approach. Together, we are learning how to live and compete using our own strengths, take risks even when we are scared, and find the eagles within our circle. We will also receive incomparable advice from Latiesha Olive on walking in faith when it comes to our businesses.

In this month’s magazine we are taking more of a direct business and personal approach. Together, we are learning how to live and compete using our own strengths, take risks even when we are scared, and find the eagles within our circle. We will also receive incomparable advice from Latiesha Olive on walking in faith when it comes to our businesses.

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ISSUE NO. 4 | APRIL <strong>2019</strong><br />

UnCaged<br />

Phoenix<br />

MAGAZINE


CONTENTS<br />

20<br />

Nothing is Wrong with<br />

Asking for Help<br />

4<br />

Who is in<br />

Your Circle?<br />

16<br />

Monthly<br />

Challenge<br />

Learn How<br />

to Say “No”<br />

8<br />

Even When<br />

Your Legs<br />

Shake<br />

10<br />

The Faith Walk<br />

of Business<br />

by Latiesha Olive<br />

18<br />

Run Your<br />

Own Race<br />

DEPARTMENTS<br />

3<br />

Behind the Scenes<br />

7<br />

Life’s Tools<br />

14<br />

Puzzles<br />

22<br />

Monthly Worksheet<br />

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et’s start with some honesty… When I announced that <strong>2019</strong> would<br />

be my year of uncomfortable growth, I needed to be a little<br />

less vague in my expectations or in my willingness to accept<br />

uneasiness. I was in no way declaring to the universe my desire<br />

to experience various forms of physical or emotional uneasiness<br />

all at one time. This was never my intent. Nonetheless, this is<br />

what happened and there was no backing out of it. So, step by<br />

step I walked and crawled through the first quarter of <strong>2019</strong><br />

in many levels of discomfort. And as I say goodbye to this<br />

calendar season, I say it while nursing a few new battle scars<br />

and mending familiar wounds that were reopened.<br />

The first quarter of <strong>2019</strong> showed me that the fight wasn’t going<br />

to be with any one person, but it would be a war within myself.<br />

Like some of you, my biggest critic and obstacle has always<br />

been me, and believe me when I tell you my inner critic is<br />

very loud. The internal battles—where we face our own selfimposed<br />

limitations, where we tell ourselves how our dreams<br />

are inconceivable, or drill ourselves daily with all of the reasons<br />

why we can’t grow or achieve—can be quite overwhelming. And<br />

when these battles have worn us down to a crawl, this is when<br />

we are thrown the “what difference will it make” or “nothing will<br />

change” sneak attacks. As I said, I clearly did not prepare myself<br />

for the level of discomfort required for a full year of growth.<br />

Fortunately, although God is listening, He doesn’t merely appease<br />

us. During those moments when I cried out for release, He simply<br />

held me closer and whispered (in the way I needed to hear it) that<br />

the discomfort I was experiencing now was preparation for the<br />

growth I would achieve later. I would have to let go of comfortable<br />

but unhealthy relationships and mindsets. I would have to nervously<br />

walk on the edge of common sense and wild ambition for me to see<br />

my dreams come to fruition. I would have to fight against my own<br />

inner voice until I understood the true heights of my own strength.<br />

In this month’s magazine we are taking more of a direct business and<br />

personal approach. Together, we are learning how to live and compete<br />

using our own strengths, take risks even when we are scared, and find<br />

the eagles within our circle. We will also receive incomparable advice<br />

from Latiesha Olive on walking in faith when it comes to our businesses.<br />

I am hoping that this new quarter, though it may be a little uncomfortable<br />

for some of us, will be one filled with exponential growth where we shed<br />

bad habits and move forward as individuals in our personal development<br />

and businesses.<br />

Lisa Smithen<br />

BEHIND THE SCENES AT UNCAGED PHOENIX<br />

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RELATIONSHIPS<br />

Who is in<br />

Your Circle?<br />

ave you ever considered the fact<br />

that blindly asking and hoping<br />

for support from your circle may<br />

not help you grow as a person<br />

or aid your progress? Indiscriminately<br />

keeping individuals by your side<br />

achieves nothing if you don’t know<br />

what’s going on inside their minds.<br />

Trust me, even though their eyes and<br />

lips may smile with you, a person’s<br />

heart and mind can stay hidden for<br />

decades if they so desired.<br />

Your circle may stand by you and<br />

position themselves around you; but<br />

this does not mean that they are truly<br />

with you or care for you. In my opinion,<br />

there are really only four types of<br />

people within your circle. While some<br />

of them are necessary, there are others<br />

who you should possibly consider<br />

removing. But I will let you make the<br />

choice…<br />

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RELATIONSHIPS<br />

• The blind circle members: These are the people who<br />

follow you no matter what you do. They were<br />

with you before, they are with you now, and<br />

they will be with you for a long time to come.<br />

But don’t get excited, having people who<br />

are mindlessly with you is not healthy or Show me your<br />

safe. People who either don’t know or<br />

don’t care enough to warn you when<br />

they sense or see danger is as pointless<br />

as having warning sensors in your car friends and I'll<br />

and covering them up. You don’t need<br />

people who encourage you even when<br />

you are making bad decisions. Or worst<br />

yet, individuals who encourage you to show you your<br />

•<br />

stay in your mess. So, are the members<br />

of your circle blinded by loyalty?<br />

Support members who come at a cost: Oh,<br />

they are going to stand with you but do<br />

future.<br />

understand that it is going to cost you a lot. You<br />

may not feel the cost immediately, but there is a<br />

hidden cost to their alignment to you. Some may want<br />

to tap into your gifts/income/access as they have already<br />

discerned how you can help them. They see your kindness as a weakness and one that they<br />

can later manipulate into having you bend to their needs. If having access to you in the near<br />

future requires them depositing their friendship, then they will do it [for now]. So, how<br />

expensive is your circle?<br />

• The supportive ‘no’ circle members: “No I don’t think you can.” “No, I don’t think you should.”<br />

“No, I have never seen what you are suggesting.” “Everyone who tried failed.” These are the<br />

ones who say they want the best for you but are quick to shoot down whatever you come up<br />

with. Not only do they baulk at your unique ideas or plans, they also try to block any- and<br />

everything that didn’t originate from them. If you were to tell them “I want to try breathing”,<br />

they would quickly find fault to the breathing process and make you feel like a fool for even<br />

suggesting it. So, is your circle surrounding you with the word “no”?<br />

• The flying club: Now these are the Aces in your pack but, regrettably, they tend not to come<br />

in large numbers. These supporters are not only with you, they are for themselves and they<br />

are for you. The reason they love supporting your growth is because they are busy growing<br />

too. They encourage you to take flight, but they are quick to warn you of any possible<br />

obstructions in front of you. Though they will partner with you, their loyalty isn’t solely tied<br />

to what they can get from you. They team up with you because they know it is better to fly<br />

together. And as we are all reflections of our closest relationships, members of the flying<br />

club want to see and reflect greatness. So, is your circle flying?<br />

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LIFE’S TOOLS<br />

PowerVocab Word Game<br />

s a person who employs words to express<br />

myself, not only in my day-to-day life but<br />

also in the content I produce every month,<br />

my vocabulary is very important. However,<br />

I realized that, over the years, my lexicon<br />

was becoming a tad stale and redundant. Real<br />

help was needed. With the heavy saturation<br />

of social media and increasingly busier<br />

schedules, many of us have seen a decline in<br />

our word choices. But I didn’t have the time to<br />

learn the entire dictionary, and to be honest I<br />

didn’t want to [who does?].<br />

And that is where the PowerVocab Word<br />

Game app came in. I needed something that<br />

met certain criteria:<br />

1. Convenient<br />

2. Challenging<br />

3. Not as boring as studying the dictionary<br />

4. Included some level of competition<br />

5. FREE (of course!)<br />

PowerVocab Word Game met all of my<br />

requirements and I am able to use it at my<br />

leisure. This meant that during the last few<br />

minutes on the dryer or even while waiting on<br />

Uber, I was able to learn more words.<br />

I am not going to act as if I tried the app<br />

and mastered it on the first attempt. Oh no…<br />

that did not happen due to the fact that I<br />

neglected to read the instructions ahead of<br />

time [do not make this mistake with any app].<br />

Once the app is downloaded and you press<br />

start, you are thrown into a timed challenge<br />

where you are given four to five definitions<br />

to match to a word. Unfortunately, I did not<br />

realize that it was a timed challenge, which<br />

resulted in me stumbling to catch up so I can<br />

score a few points. But the shock of the timer<br />

only excited me more to try again...and I did.<br />

The app’s provides various colorful formats to<br />

help you learn. There are options for multiple<br />

choice or fill in the blank questions. The<br />

type and level of word challenge could also<br />

be selected: Ultra Words, Common Words,<br />

Advanced Words, School Grades 3-5, School<br />

Grades 6-8 and Test Prep [these last three can<br />

be broken down even further]. I went straight<br />

to the highest level [again, read the directions].<br />

Oh yes parents, you can download this app on<br />

your children’s phones and make it a family<br />

event…whether they want it or not. If they are<br />

like my kids, they are also competitive and can<br />

be tricked into learning by making it a contest<br />

to beat you or their siblings. And if this is what<br />

it takes to increase their vocabulary then do it.<br />

The challenges, though they change in format<br />

and layout, are timed to keep you on your<br />

toes. At the point of writing this magazine my<br />

high score was a measly 150....terrible I know<br />

but at least I am honest! With some friendly<br />

competition, I am sure that this score will<br />

increase, and my vocabulary will be all the<br />

better for it.<br />

Try out the PowerVocab Word Game for<br />

yourself and expand your vocabulary in a fun<br />

and convenient way.<br />

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Even<br />

When<br />

Your<br />

Legs<br />

Shake<br />

very once in a while, along<br />

comes that moment when<br />

we have to face something<br />

that scares the...adult out of<br />

you. No, I don’t mean trying<br />

out the weird looking meal at<br />

a shady restaurant or waiting<br />

for your doctor to give you<br />

the results from a blood test. I<br />

am referring to the occasions<br />

when you have to take those<br />

big steps in life that leave you<br />

standing frozen in fear—then<br />

again, even the little ones can<br />

be scary. Those instances that<br />

have you questioning: What<br />

if I fail? What if I come last?<br />

What if I forget the words?<br />

What if they laugh? What<br />

if no one comes? It would<br />

really be inconsiderate of me<br />

to tell you that having these<br />

thoughts are foolish or weak.<br />

And if someone has ever<br />

tried to make you feel small,<br />

claiming to have never been<br />

scared themselves, tell them<br />

that they never climbed high<br />

enough. Not being scared is<br />

not an indication of strength<br />

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PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT<br />

or courage. It doesn’t even dictate right or wrong. Anyone facing<br />

something unknown is allowed to feel apprehensive. Fear will not make<br />

you less than anyone else. It simply makes you human.<br />

Let’s be clear…being afraid is a normal part of the process and knowing<br />

that fact is half of the battle when it comes to fear. However, that<br />

tidbit of knowledge may not be enough to give comfort…and that is<br />

understandable. Yes, you’ve been working on your project, done all the<br />

research, lifted numerous prayers and completed your prep, but you<br />

are still haunted by the ‘What Ifs’. And then comes that feeling...you<br />

know the one…where your stomach is bubbling, your legs are shaking,<br />

and you are now seconds away from “shatting” your pants. [Yes, I said<br />

shatting. The word, in my opinion, really captures the interplay between<br />

the emotional and physical trauma that we tend to experience during<br />

these moments.]<br />

So, what should we do when on the brink of shatting? When you’ve<br />

done all you can, there is only one thing left and that is to do the thing<br />

that scares you the most. Yes dear, you are going to have to move<br />

forward. “But my legs are still shaking.” Yes, I know and understand.<br />

Don’t worry, my legs shake too. I am not suggesting that this feeling<br />

is going to automatically disappear. The unfortunate truth is that for<br />

some of us, as long as we keep climbing it may never truly leave us. But<br />

being scared doesn’t have to keep us from moving forward. If we need<br />

to roll or even crawl, we can, and we will move forward. What we won’t<br />

and can’t do is stand shaking unwilling to even try.<br />

Three Things To Remember The Next Time<br />

You Are Scared And Shatting<br />

1. Being afraid does not make you weak. Not everyone can look at a giant and run towards<br />

it with a sling shot and a few stones. Some of us require a few more minutes to gather<br />

ourselves. And even though we may miss with the first few attempts, we can make the mark<br />

when it is time [even when we are scared].<br />

2. Being afraid does not make your decision wrong. Just because it scares you doesn’t mean<br />

that it is the wrong thing to do. Sometimes the right thing challenges you and takes you out<br />

of your comfort zone. On the other hand, the wrong choice may look and feel too familiar<br />

while leaving you with little or no growth. Allow yourself to be uncomfortable.<br />

3. Being afraid does not mean that you won’t be effective. Fear is not a determinate factor on<br />

your value or the value of what you are doing. If you know that you are giving your best,<br />

then know that this is what matters. You can still leave a great impression even when you<br />

feel scared.<br />

<strong>UnCagedPhoenix</strong><br />

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INTERVIEW<br />

The Faith<br />

Walk of<br />

Business<br />

By Latiesha Olive


BUSINESS ADVICE<br />

hen you hear the word FAITH what<br />

does it exactly mean to you? The<br />

Bible talks about Faith in Hebrews 11:1.<br />

It reads: “Now faith is the substance of<br />

things hoped for, the evidence of things<br />

not seen.”<br />

But what does FAITH mean to you? It<br />

could be the belief of healing or a change<br />

in your current employment. It could be<br />

the belief of a move in a positive direction<br />

for your life or current circumstance. Or<br />

it could simply mean: “I have FAITH in<br />

God and there is nothing is too hard for<br />

Him.” We say this but do we believe it?<br />

Honestly, it’s easy to believe God in the<br />

middle of a harvest or when everything<br />

is great. But it’s during the most trying<br />

times in your life that YOUR FAITH will<br />

be on trial.<br />

You may ask, “Tiesha, what in the world<br />

does this have to do with my business?”<br />

My answer: “E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G!!!!”<br />

I know that may seem a bit dramatic<br />

but there is no better way to convey<br />

that statement of Everything. Life is a<br />

journey and your business is a ride—ride<br />

of High and Lows. In order for you to be<br />

successful, you have to learn to ride the<br />

waves of success. Whether high or low;<br />

ride unmoved, unbothered, and ready to<br />

excel.<br />

In my free guide on the 5 Steps of How<br />

to Start Your Business the Right Way, I<br />

go over the steps for effective business<br />

planning. You can download it by visiting<br />

http://bit.ly/P2PFREEGUIDE.<br />

I want to briefly go over Step 1: Pray for<br />

Direction.<br />

If you are like me, you are absolutely<br />

excited about starting your business!<br />

The planning process is well on its way<br />

and you are getting everything in order.<br />

You’ve talked to friends and family about<br />

it, secured deposits and written checks.<br />

But one question…Have you prayed for<br />

direction? Praying for direction will help<br />

you to avoid a lot of heartache.<br />

Disclaimer: Somethings you must<br />

go through (keywords “go through”).<br />

They are learning lessons designed to<br />

prepare you for greater. [Listen to the<br />

song Greater is Coming, by Jekalyn Carr,<br />

for encouragement and motivation,<br />

“God wants the absolute best<br />

for your life. It will take a great<br />

deal of FAITH to believe from the<br />

promise to the manifestation of<br />

the promise.”<br />

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BUSINESS ADVICE<br />

especially while you plan and pray.]<br />

By praying for direction for your business,<br />

you are giving God an open invitation to<br />

direct, guide, and move throughout your<br />

business. He will show you what strategic<br />

moves to make and those to avoid. He<br />

will lead you to divine connections and<br />

opportunities that only He could create.<br />

“I know thy works: behold, I have set<br />

before thee an open door, and no man<br />

can shut it: for thou hast a little strength,<br />

and hast kept my word, and hast not<br />

denied my name.” - Revelation 3:8<br />

By leaning on the direction of God,<br />

you are also allowing for the plan and<br />

purpose of your business to come into<br />

full manifestation. He created you to<br />

prosper. He created you to have wealth.<br />

He created you to be the Head and not<br />

the Tail; Above and not Beneath; A Lender<br />

and not a Borrower (Deuteronomy 28:13<br />

and Deuteronomy 8:18).<br />

God wants the absolute best for your life.<br />

It will take a great deal of FAITH to believe<br />

from the promise to the manifestation of<br />

the promise. The hardest period will be<br />

the wait. This is where FAITH will make<br />

“In order for you to be successful,<br />

you have to learn to ride the waves<br />

of success. Whether high or low;<br />

ride unmoved, unbothered, and<br />

ready to excel.”<br />

the biggest impact in your life. Believe<br />

God for every manifestation of every<br />

promise that His word has spoken over<br />

your life. He can’t lie.<br />

“God is not a man, that He should lie, nor<br />

a son of man, that He should repent. Has<br />

He said, and will He not do? Or has He<br />

spoken, and will He not make it good?” -<br />

Numbers 23:19<br />

Have FAITH.<br />

Small Prayer<br />

Father, I’m believing you for every<br />

individual that will read this article. That<br />

you will, God, fulfill and manifest every<br />

promise that you have spoken over their<br />

lives. That you will prosper each person<br />

and all those connected to them, and all<br />

that they be and do…all that you have<br />

predestined for them. I ask this in your<br />

Son Jesus’ name. Amen.<br />

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Climb<br />

Decision<br />

Delegation<br />

Dependable<br />

Eagles<br />

Efficiency<br />

Failure<br />

Fear<br />

Friendship<br />

Judgement<br />

Market<br />

Mistakes<br />

Motivation<br />

Movement<br />

Opportunities<br />

Overcome<br />

Pigeons<br />

Produce<br />

Promote<br />

Respect<br />

Rise<br />

Secrets<br />

Selfawareness<br />

Self-fulfillment<br />

Subscribe<br />

Support<br />

Unique<br />

Validation<br />

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MONTHLY CHALLENGE<br />

ne big condition in living<br />

through an uncomfortable<br />

year is the requirement for us<br />

to say “Yes.” This comes into play<br />

particularly with the things and<br />

opportunities that are designed to<br />

stretch us beyond what resembles<br />

our safe areas and take us outside<br />

of our comfort zone. But to say Yes,<br />

we are going to first have to say “No.”<br />

Over the span of the next 15 days<br />

I want us to say No to a group of<br />

things/experiences that tend to keep<br />

us from growing as individuals and<br />

then leave us as empty versions of<br />

ourselves. This month’s challenge is<br />

constructed to take us a step forward<br />

by challenging us to say No so we can<br />

get to say Yes. Sounds simple enough<br />

doesn’t it? Well, here goes…<br />

The requirements for the next 15 days are:<br />

1. Whenever we try to tell ourselves that we aren’t<br />

enough, or we will never have what it takes, I<br />

want us to say “NO!” and “Shut Up!”<br />

2. Whenever other people tell us that we will never<br />

make a difference and we should give up, I want<br />

us to say “NO!” and “Watch Me!”<br />

3. Whenever we don’t make our bodies and minds<br />

a priority, I want us to say “NO!” and “My Life is<br />

Important!”<br />

4. Whenever we feel ourselves reacting to the<br />

words or actions of others, I want us to say “NO!”<br />

and “I Will No Longer React, I Will Learn, Adjust<br />

and Grow!”<br />

At the end of the 15 days, it is my hope that we will<br />

find it easier to say No. Yes, it is not going to happen<br />

overnight, and it may be a little scary at first to<br />

implement. But if we really want to make this year a<br />

turning point in our lives, then we are going to have<br />

to get comfortable saying No to ensure that we have<br />

our well-deserved Yes.<br />

<strong>UnCagedPhoenix</strong><br />

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COACHING<br />

Run<br />

Your<br />

can’t run your race, you can’t run mine, and you definitely<br />

shouldn’t feel the need to run the race of some random<br />

person you follow on social media either. We are all destined<br />

to live the lives we were given, and trying to live an imitation<br />

of someone else’s life makes little or no sense. Wait…I have a<br />

feeling that you are already whining and mumbling how you<br />

know all of this already. I hear you…but answer this question…<br />

why, if you know so much, are you still judging yourself based<br />

on another person’s “public” experience?<br />

Just in case you are still mumbling, let me try to make it a<br />

little clearer for you. Comparing your dreams and efforts to<br />

Own<br />

Race


COACHING<br />

that of someone else’s is a direct act of selfsabotage.<br />

Stop it! It isn’t fair to you and can<br />

be quite debilitating to your goals before you<br />

even get a chance to get going. Don’t just know<br />

better, I need you to do better!<br />

Take a minute and ask yourself…”so what?” So<br />

what if your friends got married before you<br />

and your last relationship ended unfavorably?<br />

So what if they got a promotion and you hate<br />

your job? So what if they keep having kids,<br />

opportunities, abs [yes, I said abs…lol], grades<br />

and followers? None of it matters! It really<br />

“Comparing your dreams and efforts<br />

to that of someone else’s is a direct<br />

act of self-sabotage. Stop it!”<br />

doesn’t matter. Nothing is wrong in drawing<br />

inspiration from other people’s journeys, but<br />

you can’t judge yourself when things don’t<br />

work out to reflect or mirror theirs. Each<br />

relationship, each business is different, and<br />

you need to allow yourself the opportunity<br />

to run your own race. Try to learn what you<br />

are good at and what makes you feel fulfilled.<br />

You may not actually need what they have to<br />

feel fulfilled. You may be surprised to learn<br />

that you can find your own satisfaction in just<br />

being you.<br />

There are too many occasions where I have<br />

seen people [and if I am honest, I am guilty<br />

too] standing frozen and unsure. Too many<br />

times we are stifled and paralyzed by the fear<br />

that we were not enough and wouldn’t<br />

be as ___________ [fill in the blank]<br />

as another person we have chosen to<br />

compete with. Why are you competing<br />

with someone else in the first place<br />

and not competing with you? Aim to be<br />

better than you were yesterday. Strive<br />

to always learn and develop as a person<br />

for yourself. Again, this does not mean<br />

that you should be driving yourself crazy<br />

to always be better. Remember, growth should<br />

be a steady process and not at a manic speed.<br />

Please make your decisions for you and not<br />

based on someone else. Spending, living and<br />

changing just to mirror someone else isn’t<br />

healthy or productive. If you are not doing it for<br />

you, then why are you doing it? If your Whys<br />

(what motivates you) are not based on healthy<br />

and positive reasons, things will likely get<br />

messy. Even if you are able to achieve success,<br />

each momentous moment will be marred by<br />

constant comparison. And then, if you were<br />

to fall short of their level of “success,” you<br />

may go and fill your mind up with ridiculous<br />

and damaging thoughts of not being enough.<br />

Don’t do this to yourself! Don’t chain yourself<br />

down to what other people do or think! Run<br />

your own race!!<br />

<strong>UnCagedPhoenix</strong><br />

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ENTREPRENEUR CORNER<br />

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rong<br />

With<br />

king<br />

For<br />

elp<br />

ven superheroes team up every now and again, yet for some reason<br />

you are stubbornly going at it all by yourself. Do you think that<br />

you are a Super Bionic hero? Were you brought up with the belief<br />

that asking for help is a form of weakness or have you unintentionally<br />

surrounded yourself with incapable and undependable buffoons? We<br />

are all friends and can be honest with each other. So…which one is<br />

it? …Or is it a combination of all of the above? It is time to let go of<br />

that destructive and debilitating way of thinking. And outside of just<br />

handing things off to unreliable and incapable people, I want you to<br />

start asking for assistance or even hiring help.<br />

Here are a few reasons why it is okay to ask for help:<br />

• You are good—may be even be great—at what you do. But as you<br />

are only gifted with 24 hours every day, wouldn’t it be best to<br />

focus on the things that you are great at and delegate the tasks<br />

that you are just good or okay at to someone else? Why spend<br />

your limited time on the things that they can do, when you can<br />

spend it producing more value? For example, would you want your<br />

business coach spending ¾ of their day slaving over administrative<br />

work or would you prefer that they allocate that time to you and<br />

their other clients? [You know you would rightfully want value for<br />

your money.]<br />

• Going 24/7 for 365 days may sound super productive, but if you<br />

are not getting the important things done, then it is inefficient.<br />

Running around like a headless chicken all day just makes you look<br />

busy. It does not make you productive. There is no honor in being<br />

super busy when there is no purpose. At the end of the day, your<br />

business will suffer and so will you.<br />

• Now that the issue of suffering has been raised, we must discuss<br />

the you/me/us factor. Self-care and self-preservation are very<br />

important and as such you have to allocate and schedule time for<br />

personal maintenance and self-fulfillment. This may mean being<br />

able to sleep for 6 to 8 hours, eating on time, exercising or spend<br />

positive time with family and friends. I am not saying you shouldn’t<br />

do anything and become careless. However, you have to maintain<br />

your time and efforts in a manner that better balances and serves<br />

your priorities and personal life.<br />

<strong>UnCagedPhoenix</strong><br />

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MONTHLY WORKSHEET<br />

Before You Look for Help in Business<br />

Before you run out asking everyone for help or make that next hiring decision about that<br />

applicant who applied to your job postings, there are five questions I need you to ask yourself.<br />

*Remember it is always better to be proactive than to be left reacting to situations that could<br />

have been avoided.<br />

1. Why do you think that you need help in the first place? Do you have a genuine need for assistance,<br />

or more of a desire to be someone’s boss? Too many times business owners believe that having<br />

employees (fulltime or part-time) is required before they can be successful—this is not true.<br />

2. What do you have to offer in return?<br />

a. Do you have the resources to pay salaries & benefits?<br />

b. Do you have the physical space [if necessary] to host employees/interns/volunteers?<br />

c. Do you have the time and mindset to offer leadership?<br />

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MONTHLY WORKSHEET<br />

3. Describe your leadership style. Do you feel the need to micromanage everything and everyone?<br />

How much free rein are you comfortable giving? Do you coach/mentor your staff and engage<br />

them in team building and development activities?<br />

4. What methods do you utilize to manage/handle conflict? Whenever individuals work together,<br />

there is always a possibility for conflicts, misunderstandings or disagreements to occur. It is best<br />

to understand who you are as a person, how you engage/disengage when conflict arises, and<br />

work on strategies for managing conflict.<br />

5. How do you communicate with others? Do you feel the need to curse when speaking? Do you<br />

need to speak loudly to get your point across? Do you prefer emailing and texting in place of long<br />

meetings and frequent brainstorming sessions?<br />

<strong>UnCagedPhoenix</strong><br />

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