The Point: Spring 2019
Spring 2019 | Volume 14 | Issue 2
Spring 2019 | Volume 14 | Issue 2
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“Sometimes parents make choices<br />
about how to engage with their child<br />
based on their own needs or what they<br />
did or did not receive in their own<br />
childhood,” said Dr. Aundrea Paxton,<br />
Psychology Adjunct Professor. “Nevertheless,<br />
just because one parents in<br />
this fashion does not mean that they<br />
do not love their child or is trying to<br />
hurt them. Often choices that we make<br />
in parenting and other relationships<br />
in our lives are unconscious and we<br />
can sincerely believe that we’re doing<br />
what’s in the best interest of the child.”<br />
One of the most important steps in<br />
caring for those who suffer from the<br />
symptoms of an eating disorder is to<br />
remind them that they are not alone.<br />
Various campus departments ranging<br />
from the BCC to Resident Life offer<br />
their support to affected students.<br />
Dean of Student Wellness Lisa Igram<br />
expressed Biola’s eagerness to help any<br />
students who come to them.<br />
“Biola cares deeply for students who<br />
struggle with disordered eating and<br />
eating disorders. Support and care for<br />
those with eating disorders requires<br />
an interdisciplinary approach, which<br />
at Biola may include Student Care, the<br />
Health Center, the Biola Counseling<br />
Center, and referrals to off-campus resources,<br />
depending on what the student<br />
most needs,” Igram said in an email.<br />
“We are ready and waiting to support<br />
you!”<br />
No disorder is too small to ask for<br />
help. <strong>The</strong> smallest of thoughts could<br />
be the start of a future demon. One<br />
of the potentially dangerous factors<br />
that contributes to any form of an<br />
eating disorder is an individual telling<br />
themselves that their rejection of their<br />
own body is too minor for them to ask<br />
for help.<br />
On their own, eating disorders are<br />
huge monsters to tackle. However, the<br />
methods of self-punishment created by<br />
fat-shaming are not limited to eating<br />
disorders alone. Over time, a seemingly<br />
small comment is capable of sending<br />
an individual into spaces of of hurt<br />
and self-harm that can take years of<br />
rehabilitation to heal.<br />
“Sometimes people feel trapped with<br />
their emotions within their own bodies.<br />
Self-harming is a way of releasing<br />
extreme feelings of shame, guilt and<br />
self-hatred when they do not have the<br />
skills sufficient for addressing their<br />
pain,” Robins said.<br />
For Elena*, the emotional pain was<br />
coupled with physical pain. She shared<br />
about her experiences of coping with<br />
her hurt through cutting.<br />
“For me, cutting was a form of<br />
self-punishment that gave me an<br />
immediate release from the guilt that<br />
I received from my parents if I ate too<br />
much,” she said.<br />
Those who are faced with less than<br />
pleasant criticism of their body can<br />
find hope in a solution. In some cases,<br />
painful comments made toward us by<br />
our families often have more to do<br />
with their love for us than any harmful<br />
intent. By humanizing our families,<br />
we can look past the toxicity and into<br />
their personal struggle with self-love.<br />
Outweighing the thoughtless words by<br />
remembering that in a healthy family<br />
no one, including ourselves, loves us<br />
more than our parents.<br />
*Elena’s name was changed in order to<br />
protect her identity.<br />
By humanizing our<br />
families, we can<br />
look past the<br />
toxicity and into<br />
their personal<br />
struggle with<br />
self-love.<br />
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