Identity Edition (May/June 2019)

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Who are you? Who are you in the dark at night when you're at your most vulnerable? Who are you behind the Instagram filters, the texts, the put-together wardrobe? It's time to discover who you are. Who God has made you to be. Open to learn more about your roles as daughter, sister, Christian, helper, follower, and more.

volume 8, issue 3

may/june 2019


MAY - JUNE 2019

CONTRIBUTORS

- writers -

OLIVIA NICKERSON / REBECCA CARAWAY / LISA ELIS / JULIA

FINDLEY / SARAH CNOSSEN / EMILY SEAVER / KATIE FRENCH

/ BETHANY RUSHING / RACHEL BONENFANT / VICTORIA IGE /

LINDSEY BOMGREN

- head photographer -

LEAH BUFFALINO

- illustrations -

EMMA FORDHAM / CAMI FORDHAM

- design -

AMANDA BROWN

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THEME: IDENTITY

kingdom creative: lindsey bomgren 06

daughter 10

JOURNAL ENTRY NO. 3 43

helper 45

friend 13

on

being

a sister

34

unfixable

52

JOURNAL ENTRY NO. 4 49

unfixable 52

comparison 57

artist 18

christian 23

JOURNAL ENTRY NO. 1 26

follower 27

JOURNAL ENTRY NO. 5 61

helper

45

sister 34

JOURNAL ENTRY NO. 2 37

student 38

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EDITOR’S NOTE

Amanda Brown

EDITOR - IN - CHIEF

I love writing bios. Yep! You read that right. I just think it's so cool to

see what people say when they have less than 60 words to introduce

themselves. What would you say? How do you sum yourself, your life,

your personality, YOU in just 60 words?

My bedroom walls aren't white and covered in succulents. I don't own

a pair of Birckenstocks or overalls. I still don't use texting lingo. I used

to be ashamed that my walls are hot pink because that isn't what's "in"

right now. But then I realized . . . my walls are ME. They're covered in

stars cut out from plain old printer paper and pages cut out from a Nat

Geo magazine featuring NASA and space ship launches. The walls are

bright pink because I have a loving mother who thought it was a good

idea long ago.

I'm the girl who celebrates the advent of spring by eating a bowl of fruit

loops outside our school's cafeteria. I love music from the '40s and '50s,

but also modern acoustic. I'd rather wear a tulle skirt and t-strap heels

than plain old jeans. I forget people's birthdays but remember what

their life goals are.

I'm a combination of the people that have loved me, the books that I've

read, the songs that have spoken to me, and the flowery embroidered

dresses I wear daily.

Who are you? If you could only use 60 words, what would you say?

We can't wait to meet you within these pages.

amanda brown + team


I AM ME

i think i forgot that i knew that

chipped nail polish is aesthetic

and that messy bed head hair

flying in the summer breeze

is freedom

that acne scars

aren't something to be ashamed of

but rather to be proud of

imperfections aren't ugly.

they're treasures

i think i forgot that

and focused on pretending to be perfect

when lol that's not me so dude

slap on that makeup if you wanna,

but don't cover up the jewel you are.

— julia ryan


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a note about the artwork //

throughout the magazine, you'll find random facts hidden in the background of

pages. these were collected from our readers and are all true.

(at least, as far as we know.)

at first, many of them labeled themselves "uninteresting."

but soon we busted that myth.

we also asked readers to submit one noun or adjective they feel best fit them. the

results were so inspiring. see page 50 for their answers.

i don't have a

middle name

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k i n g d o m

c r e a t i v e s

meet lindsey bomgren

FOR THE GIRL

STRUGGLING

WITH "FIT"

Finding your identity in being fit is a

slippery slope. Here's what has helped me

put things in perspective: I believe that

God created each of us to do amazing

things. And in order to do those things

we need to be at our best physically

and mentally. For me (and for most

people) that involves daily movement +

wholesome nutrition. Staying healthy

and being at my personal best is all part

of doing the Kingdom work we were

designed for.

an active take on creativity

CREATIVE

OUTLETS

My creative outlets include writing

both workout plans for the group

fitness classes I teach, as well as

writing content for my blog. I also

teach group fitness + film workout

videos. I love a good walk listening

to an inspiring podcast, typically

dreaming up new business plans. I'm

always so inspired by hearing other

entrepreneurs' stories.

Photography by Alma Films

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GOD-GIVEN

TRAITS

how God has

prepped me for

my purpose

ADVICE

for fellow

creatives

I firmly believe that you can do anything

you put your mind to . . . but I also

believe that not all “passions” are meant

to bring financial benefit. The moment I

took financial gain and pressure off of my

passion was the moment my passion came

back to life. obo

I'm a passionate go-getter and

hard worker. I love getting to be an

energizing and upbeat part of people's

day through group fitness. Before

every class I say a quick prayer that

as I lead class, others would see a

glimpse of Jesus in me, my words,

and actions throughout class.

follow lindsey at www.nourishmovelove.com or instagram @nourishmovelove

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hello

my name is

broken

unfixable

i truly believe this

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me in 60 words or less

remember—almost every girl in america likes starbucks

and netflix. be original. what makes you different?

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'cuz no one teaches you how to be a daughter

by rebecca caraway

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MAY/JUNE 2019 OHBELOVEDONE.COM DAUGHTER

I

am the oldest daughter (and

child) in my family. I have

always felt a huge amount of

pressure from my parents to do

what's right, be responsible, and

be a good example to my younger

siblings. The pressure of all this

has sometimes been too much to

deal with. I have often failed in

what I'm supposed and expected

to do.

I think a lot of people struggle

with being a good daughter . . .

and I have a theory why.

to focus on doing good in school,

being a good sister, and being a

good friend. It’s a lot to handle

and than you have to think about

being a good daughter. It’s too

much and sometimes something

just has to slip through the cracks.

No one is perfect!

I put so much focus on school,

work, friends, and siblings that

sometimes I just forget about my

role as a daughter.

No one

teaches you

how to be

a daughter.

One day you’re born or adopted

and suddenly you are someone's

daughter. There are hundreds

of books and devotionals about

being a good sister, mom, and

wife; but not much about being a

good daughter.

I know this all sounds a little bit

silly, but let's be honest: it's hard

to be a good daughter. You have

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so, how do we

fulfill our role

as daughters?

Is it just respecting our parents?

Well, I think yes. I think all parents

really want from their kids is for them

to succeed. They want us to succeed

in school and work. They want us to

be kind to our friends and be a good

example for our siblings. I believe,

above all else, that's all they want.

Also, they want respect: for all they

do for us, they just want to be shown

respect and appreciation in return.

Remember that our parents are people

too, and all people just want to feel

appreciated and respected for all they

do. obo

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meet the

author

Rebecca lives in Southern California with her eight younger siblings. She is currently a senior in high school and plans to study

journalism and English in college. She loves spending time with friends, listening to music, and writing. You can often find her

in a coffee shop hanging out with friends.

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a true + good friend will try to guide you back to the LORD

by olivia nickerson

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MAY/JUNE 2019 OHBELOVEDONE.COM YOU ARE A FRIEND

We had known each other

since we were three years

old, and up until I was

ten years old, we were best friends.

Never would I have thought that our

friendship would end.

But it did.

Long story short, something happened

that changed how she treated me. I

tried to be her friend many times, and

a couple of times we did start to be

friends again, but we didn’t mesh well

anymore. I was nervous around her,

and things had changed. We grew far

apart after that, each becoming people

with different lives and different

interests.

We were ​too ​different now.

Fast forward to now. I have a close

circle of friends who care for me

and love me for who I am. They will

correct me if needed and laugh with

me over the silliest of things. These

people are the friends who will last a

lifetime (God-willing).

To be honest with you, I haven’t had

the greatest track record for having

friends like these. I think it’s fairly

normal for younger kids to be in and

out of friendships, but stuff like the

beginning story (where I thought I

had a great friend forever) happened

until I was twelve.

I know in my heart I really wanted a

best friend. To me, that was someone

who I could talk to about anything.

It was basically a sister who wasn’t

actually my sister.

Even if I had never voiced my prayers

for someone like that, the Lord knew

my heart and my desires. He sent

along not only one friend, but over

the course of a short period of time, a

close group of friends.

I believe that it’s ​so ​crucial for girls

to have good friends, and more

importantly, Christian ones. Here are

some things I want to share with you

that I’ve learned over the years (even

up to this day!) from others, mistakes,

experiences, and some flop friendships.

i

have

used

a

to

friend

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i n f l u e n c e

Y O U R F R I E N D S I N F L U E N C E Y O U

Your friends influence you. Whether

you believe it or not, they do. I know

I was quite ignorant for several years

about that particular fact.

Often, we think we can be safe from

not-so-good influences. And yes, while

it’s true that there are times when

you can be a good influence on your

friends, I know that they can still have

a powerful influence on you.

keep this

in mind

if you are starting to become close with a

friend. That person will influence your

attitude, your responses, and your

thinking. If this friend is leading you

down the wrong path, away from what

you know is right, and ultimately what

God says is right, you should distance

yourself from being close friends with

that person. A true and good friend

will try to guide you ​back ​to the Lord,

not try to keep you from Him.

Be careful about deciding which

friends will be close ones and

which ones won’t. ​It’s okay to have

discernment among friends.

I think it’s good and normal to have

some close friends and some “friendlyfriends.”

While those particular

“friendly-friends” may be great people

to hang around with, they aren’t

always the best to get close to.

The reason for that is because their

worldviews and opinions on things

//those

"friendly

friends "

aren't always

the best to get

close to.

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can be the wrong kind of influence for

your life.

The friends you will want to

keep close to you will push you

to be a young woman of the

Lord, to strive after Him in

all your ways.

Who do you want in your bridal party? ​

I’m serious! If I ever end up getting

married one day, those girls in my

bridal party are going to be my closest

friends.

always pushed me towards God rather

than pull me away from Him.

Now, of course no friend is going to

be perfect. I know I am not, by any

means. But you know Who is? Jesus.

It’s so encouraging to have a faithful

and loving Saviour Who will never fail

us. We can always talk to Him about

anything, and He’ll always be there. obo

They are going to be the ones who

have helped me to grow, who have

helped to keep me from the wrong

path, who have encouraged me,

stabilized me, and really just been

there for me through the good and

the bad. They are the ones who have

i speak italian

meet the

author

Olivia Nickerson is a high-school student, growing writer, and a Christian saved by grace. She loves Lindt chocolate, being an

aunt to little Jasper, spending time with her family and friends, and dreaming. Besides writing, Olivia loves spending time with

her family and friends in almost any way, playing board games, sports, and music.

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i'm a licensed nutritionist

they say art is self-expression but i never really got that

by lisa elis

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MAY/JUNE 2019 OHBELOVEDONE.COM YOU ARE AN ARTIST

Hi, I’m Lisa, and I call myself and artist.

But what does that mean to me?

my origin story // Drawing has always

been a part of me, since before I could

remember. I have my mom to give

credit to, because she taught me, and

she drew with me for my entertainment

when I was a toddler. The story

goes that every time she’d ask me,

“What do you want me to draw?”, I’d

reply, “A girl.” That seems legit, since

I’ve been drawing mostly girls ever

since.

how art affects me // Artistic talent

is something I get to be proud of. I

get attention for my skills and I’m not

going to deny–I like that. But I know

what it means to draw for me too. Just

because I enjoy it. Lately, my siblings,

who also possess the artistic streak,

have been catching up to me talent

wise and I started realizing I’M NOT

AS ATTENTION WORTHY AS I

THOUGHT I WAS, but that’s okay

–it does good to my humility.

what i do // I’m mostly self-taught and my specialty is portraits in

pencil. Actually, pencil is my best medium, and with it I’ve successfully

tried still life, landscape, animals, and various other subjects.

I have also experimented with color pencils, chalk, pastel, pens,

acrylics, watercolors, mixed media, and some digital art. Personally,

I prefer the mediums that are simple, not messy–but then I love

expanding my horizons and experimenting with different things.

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what i believe about being an

artist // I believe being an artist

isn’t strictly limited to drawing,

or any sort of visual creation

that we label as art. I think

that everyone who creates is an

artist, and that because we were

made in the image of our Creator,

every human is a creative

and therefore an artist.

I believe that everyone who

does his job well and skillfully

and finds joy in it is an artist.

The dictionary says one definition

of artist is “a person skilled

at a particular task or occupation.”

Everyone is born with the

potential to be an artist, and if

you chase your talent, you will

be.

what my art does for others // Call

me ignorant and selfish, but I never

intentionally made it my purpose to do

good to others through my art, but it

happened anyway. Encouraged by my

parents, I have often drawn for people

(especially their portraits, but also for

birthdays and cards) and it brings me

great satisfaction if it cheers them up.

I like to say that I aspire to be a ray of

sunshine, and I’m happy to think that

drawing for people is a start to that.

what art does for me // They say art is self-expression but I never really got

that. I draw because it’s fun. I draw for the satisfaction of creating. I draw

because it’s a relaxing, therapeutic hobby for me–it calms me down. It allows

me to slow down (I’m naturally a very fast, hurried person)–and in fact, it

makes me feel like I’m wasting time, which I love, because I’m still being

productive.

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an interlude story

"How much for a cup of coffee?"

I ask the barista over the

counter. Maybe it would stimulate

my artist's imagination.

She fills my cup to the brim.

"Don't worry about it."

It makes me unique

– gives me some measure

of purpose and

satisfaction – it’s a service

I can do to others

– it’s a gift God game

– it’s a gift for me to

give out – it’s a way of

self care – it’s expression

– it’s discipline

– is a reason to push

myself forward – it’s

a way to grow – it’s a

lens through which I

can explore the world

– it’s a way for me

to find happiness in

small things.

And then inspiration strikes.

My pencil flies across the paper.

When I'm done, I rip out the

page. "This is for you."

"Thank you!" she says, face

lighting up.

I watch her photograph it and

paste it on the wall. It shows a

steaming cup of coffee and a paper

bag that declares their tagline,

"Drink the coffee you love.

Love the coffee you drink."

The next time I come, the owner

waves me over. He thanks

me for the picture, expressing

how he likes that I included the

slogan.

“Coming up with that line took

a lot of thought.”

I grin. “My pleasure.”

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FUTURE

I’ve come to realize that as long

as I don’t push myself forward

I’ll stay right where I am. I’m

not concerned about losing the

talent, but rather of growing

stagnant and lazy. I’ve realized

that God gave me this gift, and

so He expects me to use it.

I don’t have an option of

“Should I work on my art

skilled, or shouldn’t I?” I want

to grow and get better and

discover what He means me to

do with it.

what i'd like to tell young artists

Truth be told, I don’t have a lot of advice to give

because I’ve only scratched the surface when it

comes to art – but I can tell you this. What you’re

doing matters. You might feel like you’re so small

that it can’t possibly count – but small things are

incredibly important. Keep on working, because

as the song goes, “if you could only see, the way

that you shine.” You can’t see the impact of what

you’re doing now, and that’s good for you. But

be faithful in what God gave you. Nurture that

talent. Someday you’ll get it. obo

meet the

author

Lisa Elis is a busy high school junior from Canada who spends her free time chasing many literary interests. She's also into art

and design, orchids and sunshine, plus all things that grow her wanderlust. Find her scrambling to post every week at www.

thisinkwell.blogspot.com.

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i can't shake my reputation // it's followed me everywhere

by julia findley

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I

am known as my brother's little

sister.

It's followed me everywhere. I can’t

shake that reputation. Even after

moving away from my home state,

people knew my brother.

But what if that's how my faith was?

Following me everywhere, people

always thinking of me as Christ's little

follower, spoken of with awe.

As a Christian, that's how our lives

should be. We are supposed to be little

Christs, and we should be unashamed

of our faith.

But like I have been ashamed of being

known as my brother's little sister, we

are ashamed to show what makes us

the chosen children of God. We should

stand out, stand loud and proud!

Why? Because that's who we are.

What if everywhere you went people

called you “the little Christ”?

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coffee a day

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In this day and age we, see Christians

backing away from conflict, afraid

of what the media will say about us.

We see a few people standing up and

we admire them. Sure, we post on

facebook or instagram, but that is for

who? Our other Christian friends?

What about living boldly for Christ?

Is it uncomfortable? Oh absolutely!

But is it worth the lost souls who could

be saved by grace? Oh yes it is! What

does your identity as a Christian look

like?

I’m known as my brother's little sister,

but I want to be known as Christ’ little

follower. obo

Imagine the

impact

your faith

could have.

meet the

author

Julia is a student who loves to travel and loves to use her words to impact others. When she is not working you can

find her sipping coffee, strumming her ukulele Bucky, studying or napping.

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journal entry

Who do you think people know you as? Are you the person who's perfect for class president? The

girl with the ukelele? The wallflower? What are some ways you can instead be known as Christ

follower?

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followers are not overly submissive, indecisive sea-cucumbers

by sarah cnossen

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There are natural-born leaders &

natural-born followers. There are

times to lead, as well as times to

follow. What is the role of a follower?

Why should we submit to authority?

In what ways are we followers?

I

am a follower. I would much

rather someone else take the

responsibility of making decisions

and have control in all the necessary

situations, then tell me what I may do

to help. It’s so easy to throw the burden

of decisions on someone else.

All too often though, we grumble at

the same decision now made because

it doesn’t line up with what we expected/wanted.

And then we obey however

reluctantly, and with lack of joy. Sound

familiar?

There are many elements that make up

this particular identity, but only two

stand out to me.

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a f o l l

o w e r

{listens}

They are humble—they are servant-hearted.

But that doesn’t

mean leaders are the total

opposite.

While leaders have the rather

heavy burden of caring for and

guiding their people, followers

are simply to be humble &

trusting. In order for a people

to thrive, they must listen to

the wisdom amd authority of

those leaders.

That said, followers are not

overly submissive, indecisive

sea cucumbers. They have

minds of their own! And the

diversity of a people, while

it can cause division in some

situations, is what makes them

great. If everyone in the community

were mindless sheep,

what a dull life it would be.

This flows right into the question

of submitting to authority.

Simply put, as Christians, it is

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our God-given duty to obey those

leaders God has put in place (whether

we like them or not). Romans

13:1 is likely the most common passage

where we find this duty: “Every

person is to be in subjection to the

governing authorities. For there is

no authority except from God, and

those which exist are established by

God.”

Likewise, 1 Peter 2:13 and 17 say,

For such is the will of God

that by doing right you may

silence the ignorance of

foolish men… Honor all

people, love the brotherhood,

fear God, honor the

king.

Good or bad, God has allowed those

who govern our cities, states, country,

etc. to be in those specific positions.

He alone knows the role they will play

in this world, and we in turn know

ours. Whether you’re a natural-born

leader, or a follower, we are to comply

with our authorities, and exercise

humility & listening ears. In this, we

are shining a light for our Lord, and

showing the world the loving God we

follow & serve.

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a f o l l

o w e r

{acts}

Remember the sea cucumber?

Followers are not idle. They

have an important job! They

are invaluable!

If everyone were a leader,

NOTHING would ever be

accomplished. Jesus Himself

requests of us to follow Him.

That’s where our title Christian

comes from, meaning “little

Christ” or “Christ follower.”

Being such is not easy. In fact,

He says we must “deny [ourselves],

take up [our] cross, and

follow Him.” (Matt. 16:24)

That’s quite a statement. And

far easier to read here than to

act on, am I right?

In what ways are we followers?

This could be in the classroom,

at the job-site, even at home!

As a student, we are under the

guidance of our teachers—no

matter the age.

Throughout life, we will never

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cease to learn. And what good is

learning something if it is never put

into practice? As an employee, we

are to follow the directives given for

our particular position. That’s what

we’re are paid for, right? No time

put in, no paycheck!

At home, we’re under the authority

and wisdom of our parents, and

once married, it transfers to our

husbands. If the children of the

home are humble, servant-hearted

followers, what a peaceful, welcoming

household it would be!

+ a dash of obedience

Obedience plays a huge part in the

action of a follower in any and all

of these positions. By obeying our

leaders—government, employer,

parents, etc.—we are ultimately

being obedient to God. And that is

quite possibly the greatest form of

action!

+ a smidge of joy

So. What is the identity of a follower?

They listen.

They act.

Simple, right?

But I would add to both of these

elements that they should do so

with joy. Seems impossible at times,

yes, and we feel the need to scream

in frustration more often than not.

But what a difference is seen in

our characters when we do things

joyfully!

I believe joy is a habit to be made.

Practice makes perfect, and striving

to find joy in every action can

change our perspective on life and

leave a legacy for others to follow.

In essence, by being a FOLLOWER,

you are, in all reality, LEADING.

A follower listens with humility.

And acts with joy. obo

meet the

author

Sarah Cnossen is a stay-at-home wife to Evan & mama to Gabe. She’s a native Tennessean, a daughter of the King,

an aspiring writer, and avid reader & reviewer of books. She blogs at sarah-plainandaverage.blogspot.com, and is

99.9% sure she’s a Disney princess and that she married her Beast.

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let's change the culture's perspective of sisters

by emily seaver


MAY/JUNE 2019 OHBELOVEDONE.COM YOU ARE A SISTER

I've been a sister since I

was eighteen months old.

That was when the sister next-in-line

(and my best friend) was born. I've been

told pretty much since that time that we

would be best friends. I'm so thankful

for that now. Never have I ever dealt

with the elementary school drama of

best friends forever, nor been depressed

because my best friend is spending more

time with her boyfriend then me.

There's always a listening ear, because

next to my mom, I tell my sister

everything. She knows my hopes, fears,

dreams, crushes, and nearly everything

there is to know about me.

When people hear that my sister is my

best friend, I either get surprised looks,

or an aw-you-don't-have-any-friends-soyour-sister-has-to-be-your-best-friend

look. People seem to assume that if you

have a "normal family" you and your

sisters will always fight, all the time.

That's not right.

As Christians, we need to remember

that God put us in our family, even

when we don't always get along. I think,

if it is important enough to us, that we

can change the culture's perspective of

sisters. We can show those around us

that siblings were

not created to fight, and use our

relationship to be a light for Christ.

i read only nancy drew novels

until i was 14

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How many of your current best friends

will still be your BFF in twenty years?

Probably none. Will you still be around

your sister somewhat frequently in

twenty years? That's a whole lot more

likely.

When thinking about sibling

relationships from that perspective,

it seems strange that we don't put a

whole lot more work into our sisterfriendships.

If you had just moved into a house,

would you put more work into it if you

were living there for one year, or the

rest of your life? It wouldn't make sense

to spend money on paint, carpet and

hardwood, furniture, and decor if you

were going to sell it almost as soon as

you finished.

Our friend relationships are like that:

we'll be with our friends a little while,

but when we move/go to college/start a

new school, we naturally aren't going to

be as close. But sister relationships will

last a lifetime.

sister relationships

will last a lifetime.

One of the ways you can pour into those

relationships is time. I forget how much my

little sisters look up to me, and love when I

spend time with them.

Whether it's just reading a book to them, or

taking them out for a milkshake, I think every

quality minute you spend with your sister

will be pouring into them. Even if they don't

seem to appreciate it, spending time is sowing

seeds you will reap later. If you take them out

to ice cream, then spend the whole time on

your phone, that doesn't count as quality time.

Ask them questions. Ask about school, and

what they've been doing lately. Ask about their

extracurricular activities.

Spending quality time is only going to help

your relationship, which will lead to a closeknit

friendship, if not a best-friendship. Sisters

can be your best friends or enemies, and it is

our responsibility to make that friendship as

strong as possible. obo

meet the

author

Emily lives in sunny, ever-humid South Carolina and co-blogs at growingintofriends.com. She spends her days being creative

and dreaming up impractical yet exciting ideas when she doesn't have to deal with reality. She is a freshman in highschool, uses

as many big words as she can find, and reads every book she can get her hands on.

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List five things you can do in the upcoming week to bond with your sibling(s). If you don't have

any, choose someone in your church or at your school you can befriend and encourage.

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come to education with a gratitude mindset

by katie french

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MAY/JUNE 2019 OHBELOVEDONE.COM YOU ARE A STUDENT

i say that i believe

in Christ.

That my faith is in Him, that He is my all. Yet, I struggle.

Struggle to see His hand in everything, struggle to submit to

His will when things don’t go my way, struggle to rest in Him.

This is me on a daily basis, when life is going fine,

when things are relatively easy.

When life gets hard, the struggles inflate to a

practically unbearable level. They feel heavy,

defeating, and impossible to overcome. We are

often told that there is light at the end of the

tunnel, but sometimes that tunnel just seems too

long, too daunting, too dark to navigate through.

This is how I felt when I started college—like I was

entering a tunnel that I would never make it out

of. Thousands of miles from home, surrounded by

countless unfamiliar faces. And this would not be

temporary. Three to four years. Class after class.

Thousands of assignments. Endless cafeteria meals.

All in all, this illustration leads

me to touch on a very important

issue—one’s identity as a student.

Yes, as Christians, our first identity

is in Christ. He is our everything,

and His image should define

our lives. However, many of us,

particularly between the ages of 5

and 25, have another identity as

well—identity as students.

We are called to listen, learn, and

evaluate the world through a lens

that truly sees. We are to explore

and marvel at God’s creation and

the many wonders He has made.

I think we can all attest, however,

that this mindset—submission to

our identity as students—is easier

acknowledged than actually lived

out.

Many of us go through our

academic experience with a geter-done

mindset. We are in school

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because we have to be, checking

classes and credits off a list, on autopilot

mode the entire time with

little care to actually absorb the

information that we are learning

for more than the next test.

This is a sad reality. Learning is an

opportunity, yet we often view it as

a chore or painful experience that

we must somehow get through.

So, how do we cope with this?

How do we solve this seemingly

impossible dilemma? Below are

a few pieces of advice on how to

strive to effectively embody one’s

identity as a student.

View education as your job.

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N

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While one does not get paid for

his or her education (usually), it

is most often equivalent to the

workload of a full time job.

One must get up and go to classes

five or more days a week for seven

or eight hours a day and do work

outside of that in order to meet all

necessary requirements. While seen

as difficult and strenuous at times,

this is REAL life, which is why

viewing education as preparation

for the future—working a job—is a

game changer.

With this mindset, students will be

able to combat the temptation to

view education in a negative light

more effectively. Fortunately, this

mindset was ingrained in me from

a young age because the classical

Christian school I attended (from

kindergarten through twelfth

grade) always encouraged students

to view education as our vocation

and calling from God, with the

slogan “Loving and Learning for

a Lifetime.”

While this by no means implies

that I’ve always had the perfect

attitude towards school, it has

helped me embrace it in a more

meaningful way. To recognize that

homework is an opportunity to

reinforce what I am taught in the

classroom, that tests are a platform

for me to demonstrate how much

I understand the information, and

that projects are a means of putting

into action what I’ve learned.

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Come to education with a

gratitude mindset.

still fail to thank God for

There are a lot of people on

that.

this earth who do not have

the opportunity to receive a

proper education. They may

live in third world countries

that do not have access to

education, or they may live

in regions where education

isn’t allowed (example: girls

in Saudi Arabia).

W

We (or at least I am assuming

that this is the case for

most Oh Beloved One readers)

have multiple education

options at our fingertips yet

Additionally, we should

merely be grateful that we

have something worth studying

and learning about—the

beautiful world around us

and everything in it. We live

on an intelligently designed

planet, filled with countless

species and other created

things. We will NEVER run

out of things to find out

more about, and that is truly

astonishing.

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THREE

Jesus valued His education so we should too.

Jesus Christ, while embodying

the form of a man on

earth, received an education

in the temple. Luke 2:46-47

describes Christ’s academic

experience, highlighting the

moment when Mary and

Joseph found Him after

much searching:

After three days

they found him

in the temple,

sitting among the

teachers,

listening to them

+ asking them

questions.

//

And all who

heard him were

amazed at his

understanding and

his answers.

Obviously, Christ strove to get

the most that He could out of

His education. He desired to

learn and understand what He

was learning, which He was

able to do perfectly because HE

IS GOD.

Furthermore, when asked why

He remained in the temple,

Christ’s response demonstrates

His submission to His identity

as a student.

“And he said to them, "Why

were you looking for me? Did

you not know that I must be in

my Father's house?” Luke 2:49

Since we are made in God’s

image, why shouldn’t we desire

education as fervently as He did

and submit to our identity as

students as He did? The answer

to this is that we SHOULD

have a Christ-like mindset

towards education, striving to

learn and submit like He did.

So, my friends, many of

whom are high school

or college students with

seemingly impossible

workloads, infinite amounts

of homework, and much

more on your plates than

what seems reasonable or

manageable; I give you

this charge, a piece of

encouragement that you can

take with you as you strive

to complete your academic

journey, as you live out your

identity as a student—

continue to press on, do not

give up, accept the calling

God has given you. obo

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Use the space below to plan out next semester. List all your classes and extracurriculars; then

write next to each one how you can use it to be a blessing. This might be something as simple as

encouraging a science teacher or signing up for an outreach activity you feel you won't have time

for.

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us

RUN

with endurance

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my goal should've been holiness + serving God wholly

by bethany rushing

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Throughout my teenage years, I

was obsessed with weddings

and would constantly dream

about being a bride one day. I wanted

to find the right guy of course; but I

almost sacrificed waiting for the right

guy so that I could have a big beautiful

wedding as soon as possible. I'm so

thankful that God gently drew me back

to Himself, and in the process taught me

that I was seeking to be the wrong kind

of bride.

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Thy Maker

is thine husband;

the LORD of

hosts

is his

name; and

thy Redeemer

the Holy One

of Israel;

The God of

the whole

earth

shall he be

called.

Isaiah 54:5

There is nothing necessarily wrong

with dreaming about your wedding

day. The Bible frequently discusses the

concept of marriage. In fact, Jesus' first

public miracle happened at a wedding.

God knows weddings are a big deal! It is

the start of a new covenant, and of a

new family.

The "cause" or reason for this leaving

and cleaving was mentioned in the

verses just before: marriage is to be a

picture of Christ's love (the husband's

love) for the church (His bride). Marriage

is an incredible gift to us as God's

creation, but also a heavy undertaking.

And I was totally missing that.

To me, marriage was just what happened

after a perfect, fairy-tale day of

celebration.

It is certainly not difficult to be

reminded of romance and weddings

in the world we live in. Every girl has

a Pinterest board full of photo ideas,

wedding gown designs, and cliche

framed quotes. Nearly every movie

has a romantic relationship in it, if

the plot itself isn't centered around a

wedding. You can go on Instagram and

tap the hashtag #relationshipgoals or

#weddinggoals and suddenly you're

surrounded by unrealistic expectations.

Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 7:34-35,

"The unmarried woman careth for the

things of the Lord, that she may be

holy both in body and in spirit: but

she that is married careth for the things

of the world, how she may please her

husband. And this I speak for your

own profit. . . that ye may attend upon

the Lord without distraction."

As an unmarried young person, my goal

should have been holiness and serving

God with my whole heart. But as a wife,

I now have another task. In addition to

my pursuit of the Lord, I am responsible

for the care of my husband.

I wish I had made the most of my time

as a single person, instead of constantly

seeking romance. Wedded bliss should

not be the goal; holiness should be

the goal. When God finally brought

my now-husband into my life, we each

had to ask ourselves, "Will this person

aid my ministry and help me become

more holy, or hinder my ministry and

my journey toward holiness?"

Our wedding day was one of the best

i didn't lose my

first tooth until

i was 8

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"For this cause shall a man leave

his father and mother, and shall be

joined unto his wife, and they two

shall be one flesh," Paul wrote in

Ephesians 5:31.

days of my life. Marriage is a gift. My

husband is a romantic and I love him

for it. But even now, as a married

woman, I have to make sure that my

goal is not to continually draw happiness

from our relationship.

If I build my life solely on how happy

my husband makes me, I will be disappointed.

He is wonderful, but he is not

perfect. However, if I constantly pursue

Christ and rest in the fact that He

loves me, these truths will impact how

I love Him and love others. It takes the

focus off of me and the romance and

happiness in my life, and turns it to

Jesus and the people He has brought

into my life.

If I find my identity in being the bride

of Christ, then I will no longer follow

meaningless pursuits. My focus will be

on Christ, what He has done for me,

and how I can serve and know Him

better. obo

meet the

author

Bethany Rushing is a wanderlusting, chai-latte-drinking minimalist introvert always looking for new folk music. She

writes at her blog Made to Mindful. When she's not brainstorming for a new blog post, you can find her playing her

guitar, creating in the kitchen, analyzing personalities, or taking pictures of her plant babies.

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journal entry

What identity are you seeking after with all your heart? Take a little time to be introspective

and take some heart inventory. Why do you want this identity? Are you lifting it above your ultimate

identity?

background: vecteezy

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im learning korean

i go through days of wanting to fix myself

by rachel bonenfant

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we

Comparison is the thief of all joy.

We all like to compare ourselves to one another. As a girl I know I

tend to bring a scale with me everywhere; this scale weighs how much

better other people are, compared to myself. We think that we could be

better looking, a better person, a better teacher, or a better friend or

in better shape: in our minds, there is always more we could do with

ourselves.

are

The worst person to work for is you. If our motivation is driven by

our own hopes we will never reach it. Humanity always has the aim

to be perfect, but that's not our job. The word perfection is only

rightfully given to God.

We are unfixable. I go through my days wanting to fix myself; wanting

to fix my acne-filled face, my insecure thoughts, and my muffin-top

belly. After our tries and fixings we will never feel satisfied. We might

feel happy for a time, but that success and progress can all change

with the snap of a finger. Only God can satisfy you forever.

u n F ixa x bl e

i have two

different-colored

eyes

Though we may change in appearance, in words or in actions, He never

does. His words, his presence, his work in our lives all add up to a love

that will always be reliable.

Love demands a deep compassion to serve and treat each other as

family; the Lord loves us as if He was our human father. The world

often says that God is a father of judgment which is true, but He is

also the Father of love and grace. There is a huge pendulum of figuring

out how we are enough or the complete opposite: saying this is me and

others just have to deal with it.

So many people in this world try their best, but yet never reach their

goal: they call themselves not enough. Then we have the other side

where people that think they can’t change. They use the phrase, “this is

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"Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my

unfailing love for you will not be shaken." (Isaiah 54:10)

me” as an advocate for their behavior. Their

pride is the size of the Eiffel tower and they

can’t even realize that they might be problem.

The fact that we keep telling ourselves that we

can’t change is actually telling ourselves we

won’t change. We have to find the balance of

finding out that Jesus is enough over the fact

that this is just who I am.

These facts about ourselves have captivated

my mind because I know God didn’t make

us to live on our own and put every ounce of

work on our two shoulders.

No, He gave us a desire His love and strength.

God wants us to be victorious, fit, and

beautiful; He just doesn’t want us to do it by

ourselves. Include your heavenly Father in

each trial and you will find satisfaction. We

have to be content and humble to understand

we need God’s love.

1 Samuel 16:7, “The Lord does not look at

the things man looks at. Man looks at the

outward appearance, but the Lord looks at

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the heart." There are days when I want other

people’s appearance or I want other people’s

achievements, but in reality God only equips

me for my good and for my bad. We so often

want to switch places because we only see

their good; we are simply not seeing their

bad.

You’re not seeing the work they have put in,

the late nights of demeaning thoughts, and

the long hours of questioning themselves.

God has equipped us for our own battles.

In 1 Samuel chapter one, it tells the beloved

story of Hannah.

In the beginning of Hannah’s story, she began

with an empty womb; she was a woman who

could not have any kids. Her husband had

another wife, Peninnah, who had many sons

and daughters.

We can all be found desiring

something we see the Lord

giving to someone else. We

always see Him blessing them in

the very areas He’s withholding

from us. We look at them and

feel set aside. We feel forgotten.

Although Hannah could have pulled away

from God and thought well this is just how

it is, instead she prayed. Hannah didn’t take

matters into her own hands: she pressed into

God and brought her desperate cries to Him.

She had unflinching faith. When she felt

empty and neglected by God, she could have

lost heart, but she refused to stray from God’s

words.

She possessed a faith that was not contingent

upon her circumstances but her faith was

based on a good a faithful God.

In 1 Samuel 1:20a, it stated, “In the course of

time Hannah became pregnant.” She was not

pregnant within her first prayer, but in God’s

timing. God hadn’t made Hannah wait to

punish her, but for Samuel’s purpose in God’s

plan.

He

is

enough

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He hadn’t been uncaring to her desires;

He simply loves us too much to answer

our prayers at any other time than the

right time.

God has a plan for each of us; it includes

good and bad times. Even in the Old

Testament there was comparison between

one another. Our Creator has given us

unique stories that only we can fulfill.

Our insecurities, our battles, our questioning

thoughts are a part of this story.

Focus on your growth and what’s best for

you rather than comparing.

If I was secure in whom I was then I

would never feel the need to be closer to

God or closer to others. The Lord put us

through trails so that we might feel the

need for Him. We aren’t enough by ourselves;

we need Him pushing through life

with us. At times we may feel unfixable,

but if we line up our desires with God’s

grace we will find ourselves to be enough. obo

i' am dyslexic

but that will not make me stop

reading

meet the

author

One often will describe Rachel Bonenfant as being joyful and enthusiastic. She is a simple Michigander who loves

to express Jesus’ love through writing! She genuinely loves kids and is currently looking into pursuing a job with

one-on-one time with them.

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aris

on

by victoria ige

Some days you may sit with comparison.

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person like you. I know it's the most

cheesy thing ever; like the kind of stuff

your mother tells you to make you feel

good about yourself.

But that's exactly the point.

The number one thing that makes us

forget who we are is comparison.

I'm not sure why, but everybody has a bit

of low self esteem in their bones. Some

have lots of it (hands up here). Everybody

has green eyes—we just compare ourselves

with each other. It's one of the saddest

thing about life.

I love this whole idea of everybody being

their own unique and special. How I got

the idea is something I can't fathom.

But I believe it. Not because I want to or

because it feels good (it does feel good,

though), but because it's true—fact or

not.2:9).

But sometimes we forget all these truths

when we look at others and wish to be in

their shoes. That is, Comparison.

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We are a royal

priesthood, a

chosen generation,

a peculiar people,

beautiful city on a

hill (1 Peter 2:9).

But sometimes we forget all these truths

when we look at others and wish to be in

their shoes. That is, Comparison.

And if you're battling comparison. I think

you should start right there—choose to

believe it. Believe you're your own unique

and special- peculiar. Believe all that God

says about you. And that there is no other

Feeling good about yourself is the

only sign that says you don't wish for

someone else's life—no comparison.

Believe it and see that it's all beautiful

when you wake one faithful day

to walk out confidently and not

understand why in the world anybody

will feel like someone else is better

than them. Because you love yourself

and you would never even dream of

changing any part of you in any way.

Because really, there's nothing to

compare about.

Some days will be different though.

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Some days you will sit with your friend

and listen to her tell you joyfully how

much better she feels, how much she's

progressing. And you'll probably be all

smiles, hug her and act really excited

about the whole news. Maybe it will all be

genuine celebration for her.

Then it will get misty and comparison will

come wearing a black caftan and a black

turban over his head.

how far she has gone in life. You're right

where you were when you first met her.

Look how high up she is. She's so cool.

She has achieved a lot. Don't you ever

wonder how you appear before others?

You can't even stand next to her. She's

better. She's better. You're never good

enough."

"Oh. I see your point." You'll say with

your eyes on your feet.

=

=

"I am comparison." He will say.

I know the drill, honey. It's just a point

in a downward spiral

=

towards low self

"So?" You'll probably reply.

esteem. It's not new. Some days you may

converse with comparison. You may sit

"I want to teach you what real living is opposite him at the diner and his sister—

like."

jealousy—will be right beside him. And

it might make you love life less, cause

"Do I not know how to really live?" You that set will talk all the love and joy out

may ask.

of you.

And comparison will explain: "Well, it

doesn't seem like it. Look at your friend,

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i want to open a ceramics studio

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it's all field work,

baby.

=

But then, it's going to be sunshine if you

simply know and believe one truth: you

are different. And different is a good

thing. Different is unique and special in

this world, a world that puts God on the

side of life, instead of at the center.

It's all field work, baby. Start with that

belief and tell God what you're struggling

with. God is the only one who will ever

know what it really feels like for you to

feel like you're not enough. He wants to

help you understand that your life never

should be a measuring tool in this world.

He made you amazing. Nothing can

change that.

When comparison comes again to

"lecture" you and brings jealousy as an

assistant, you already know how to live

life. Because there's only one way to live

it: the way you're already living it, as the

person God wants you to be.

meet the

author

=

No one else. obo

Victoria Ige is a lover of email letters that spends her day writing and sending out inspirational and peppy email

letters. She enjoys meal prepping for dinner parties, talking about dreams & ambitions, red, flowers and #lovely...

Join the #lovely... right here: https://mailchi.mp/6def053b5290/victoriaige.

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Get ugly for a minute. Write down all the things you dislike about yourself. It could be a your

impatience, the way you laugh, the level of frizziness you have to deal with when it gets humid

(same girl, same), or something you've done in your past.

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