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Optimal Living Magazine Summer 2019 Issue

In this Issue: Be inspired to renew your commitment to love as newlywed, Eboney Crump shares her wedding date and love story! Discover how to truly "Become One in Marriage", as Evangelist & Gospel Singing Artist, Mrs. Rose Belk shares the secret to her 40 + year marriage. Learn how Spoken Word Artist, Vivianne Jenkins' husband won her heart + Much More!

In this Issue: Be inspired to renew your commitment to love as newlywed, Eboney Crump shares her wedding date and love story! Discover how to truly "Become One in Marriage", as Evangelist & Gospel Singing Artist, Mrs. Rose Belk shares the secret to her 40 + year marriage. Learn how Spoken Word Artist, Vivianne Jenkins' husband won her heart + Much More!

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<strong>Summer</strong> <strong>2019</strong><br />

HOW I MET &<br />

MARRIED<br />

MY MAN OF<br />

GOD<br />

Just Drop<br />

the Weight<br />

Series<br />

Becoming One<br />

in Marriage<br />

A CRASH<br />

COURSE IN<br />

BUSINESS<br />

ETIQUETTE<br />

Eboney &<br />

Travis<br />

Crump!!<br />

WEDDING<br />

HAIR WITH<br />

FLAIR<br />

GUESS WHO’S<br />

GETTING MARRIED?<br />

much<br />

more


Be patient and wait for God’s timing, no matter how long<br />

it takes. I’ve learned that it is better to be miserable and<br />

single, than to be miserable along with the wrong person.<br />

—Spoken Word Artist/Speaker @ ViviqueSpeaks<br />

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Our Staff<br />

Publisher/Editor-in-Chief<br />

Tanisha Hopson<br />

Associate Editor<br />

Mark McDonald<br />

The Layout Design<br />

Mr. Asra<br />

Contributing Writers<br />

Rose Belk<br />

Lisa Dubois<br />

Mishell Ellis<br />

Chanel-Alexandria Washington<br />

Elizabeth A. Johnson<br />

Janice McMillian<br />

Candace Thornley<br />

Table of Contents<br />

04 Publisher’s Perspective<br />

05 <strong>Optimal</strong> <strong>Living</strong> <strong>Magazine</strong> salutes our Five<br />

Star Sponsor<br />

06 Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone<br />

08 Guess Who’s Getting Married?<br />

10 How I Met & Married My Man Of God<br />

12 Wedding Hair With Flair<br />

14 The Wifey 101 Series:The Power Of<br />

Becoming One In Marriage<br />

16 Career Leadership Insight<br />

18 Beauty Essentials Found in Your Kitchen<br />

Cabinets ...<br />

20 <strong>Optimal</strong> <strong>Living</strong> Confession of Faith<br />

22 Spices of Life Recipes<br />

Copyright © <strong>2019</strong> by <strong>Optimal</strong> <strong>Living</strong> <strong>Magazine</strong>


Just Drop the<br />

Weight Series<br />

Whether you are becoming a new wife,<br />

transitioning into a new employment<br />

opportunity, going through financial<br />

hardship, or coming to terms with a<br />

family crisis; stress has a way of stopping<br />

you in your tracks and blocking the flow<br />

of God’s intentional blessing for your life.<br />

Every time you “allow” someone to<br />

frustrate you, take advantage of you,<br />

disappoint you, speak doubt, unbelief<br />

and death over you - your soul takes a<br />

beating and opens the door for dis-ease.<br />

Dis-ease is a silent killer. It manifests<br />

itself slowly through The shortness<br />

of breath, headaches, forgetfulness,<br />

slurred speech, mild strokes, stiffness in<br />

your muscles/joints, aches and pains in<br />

different parts of your body.<br />

I use the word “allow” as a reminder<br />

to you of the part you play in stressful<br />

situations and the full control you have<br />

in everything concerning you. You allow<br />

stress from others to come in and you<br />

have the ultimate power to make it stop.<br />

When you “decide” to allow situations to<br />

take care of themselves and drop all the<br />

weight of the world at the Father’s feet -<br />

health, wholeness, wellness, creativity,<br />

innovation and joy will be yours. Psalms<br />

107: 19-20 says, “Then they cried out to<br />

the LORD in their trouble, And He saved<br />

them out of their distresses. He sent His<br />

word and healed them, And delivered<br />

them from their destruction.”<br />

Seasons come and go for a reason.<br />

Many times what determines the end<br />

of a season is you. Don’t allow people<br />

and their foolishness to keep you from<br />

fulfilling God’s divine purpose for your<br />

life. Learn what you need to learn from<br />

situations and move on.<br />

As you make the transition into <strong>Summer</strong>,<br />

I challenge you to choose life, choose to<br />

win, choose to detox your life & just drop<br />

the weight. Plug into our next weight loss<br />

challenge by writing us @detoxmylife@<br />

optimal-livingmagazine.com.<br />

I hope you will be inspired & blessed by<br />

this issue of <strong>Optimal</strong> <strong>Living</strong>.<br />

Be a Blessing & Be Well.<br />

Tanisha Hopson<br />

Walk in His Peace!<br />

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Getting Out of Your<br />

Comfort Zone<br />

A Practical Solution to Discover<br />

Your Next Move<br />

Elizabeth A. Johnson<br />

After the day is done and you finally lay<br />

down to rest, what do you focus on? Do<br />

you constantly rehearse the mistakes of<br />

your day? Do you regret the “I should have”,<br />

“I could have” moments? Are you tired of<br />

watching the same movie of your life, over<br />

and over, every night? Are you ready to<br />

change the channel completely?<br />

If your answer is yes to either of the last<br />

two questions, be encouraged. You have<br />

the power to create the life that you desire.<br />

The first step is getting out of your comfort<br />

zone. Sound familiar, right? But what are<br />

some practical ways that we can step of our<br />

comfort zone or eliminate it completely?<br />

Let’s start with baby steps. For example,<br />

start each day with the goal of trying<br />

something new. On your way to work, try<br />

a new route, order something different for<br />

lunch, or spend 10 minutes today getting to<br />

know someone better. Make a journal of all<br />

of your new experiences in detail, then read<br />

it. Small changes to your daily routine can<br />

greatly impact your week and openness to<br />

try new things. In other words, start small.<br />

Soon stepping out of your comfort zone will<br />

become a normal part of your daily routine.<br />

Imagine this, your comfort zone is a<br />

wall blocking your view from something<br />

amazing on the other side.<br />

Imagine this, your comfort zone is a wall blocking<br />

your view from something amazing on the other side.<br />

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We always want the best seats in the house<br />

when we go to entertainment events. We<br />

never intentionally choose a seat with<br />

an obstructed view. Choosing to live a<br />

life that is limited by our comfort zones<br />

is doing exactly that. Do you feel stuck in<br />

life or that you access to new possibilities<br />

is obstructed? Today you can choose to<br />

remove the barrier of your comfort zone.<br />

Explore a different view. Once your comfort<br />

zone isn’t a limiting factor, be amazed at<br />

how beautiful life really is and what you can<br />

accomplish.<br />

As you are trying new things, try not to be<br />

discouraged if others don’t understand<br />

your new motivation to be adventurous.<br />

A personal mentor of mine constantly<br />

reminds me that if I want others don’t have,<br />

I have to be willing to do what others won’t<br />

do. I hope that you have been inspired by<br />

this article and have desire to explore life in<br />

new ways. Please join us next session as we<br />

progress to effective goal setting.<br />

With Love,<br />

Elizabeth A. Johnson<br />

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Eboney & Travis Crump<br />

Gainesville, Virginia<br />

Guess<br />

Who’s<br />

Getting<br />

Married?<br />

ARE YOU GETTING<br />

MARRIED SOON?<br />

Get your wedding announcement<br />

published in <strong>Optimal</strong> <strong>Living</strong><br />

<strong>Magazine</strong> and choose a<br />

vacation stay to Las Vegas, NV,<br />

Orlando, FL, Williamsburg,<br />

Va or Bali for yourself & your<br />

hubby. Write editors@optimallivingmagazine.com<br />

for more<br />

details.<br />

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What do two smart aleck FaceBook<br />

posts get you? Our love story! We<br />

met through a FaceBook Group,<br />

called Real Black Love! The funny part is<br />

we didn’t even meet on the dating segment<br />

of the group! We both want to thank<br />

the young female stranger that posted a<br />

innocent question asking “Where are all the<br />

good men?”<br />

Travis responded “ATL” . . . to which I<br />

sarcastically said “Where?” After meeting<br />

several ATL fellas, I was not convinced that<br />

Atlanta had much to offer. Thankfully, Travis<br />

changed my mind. That FaceBook post<br />

lead to Travis contacting me. Travis sent<br />

a sweet can I get to know you message and<br />

I was instantly drawn to those light eyes<br />

and pretty teeth. In fact when we first met,<br />

I used to send my girlfriends daily pictures<br />

of his beautiful teeth, and they got sick of<br />

me quickly. Needless to say, we have been<br />

inseparable ever since.<br />

PATIENCE, LOVE & COMMUNICATION. Just<br />

like every other couple, we continue to learn<br />

each other daily. So, our stance has always<br />

been to communicate, no matter what the<br />

situation is. We also had to come to terms<br />

with the idea that neither of us are perfect.<br />

We realized over time that we must be patient<br />

with one another, as we grow together.<br />

FAVORITE THINGS TO DO TOGETHER.<br />

Shop and travel!<br />

CAREER PATHS. Eboney is a government<br />

employee and owns her own business as a<br />

Leadership and Empowerment Life Coach.<br />

Travis is a Marine Corps Veteran and welder<br />

for a small company in Northern Virginia.<br />

HOW WE KEEP CHRIST FIRST IN OUR<br />

LIVES. We pray together daily and<br />

attend church together. Most of all, we<br />

acknowledge what God does in our lives<br />

daily and we share that with each other.<br />

OUR CHURCH HOME. Grace Covenant<br />

Church in Chantilly, VA<br />

WEDDING VENUE & DATE. May 14, <strong>2019</strong>,<br />

a complete Marine Corps Ceremony on<br />

Sandbridge Beach!<br />

We would like to give a special thanks to this<br />

lovely couple for announcing their special day<br />

and sharing their story with <strong>Optimal</strong> <strong>Living</strong><br />

<strong>Magazine</strong>. We pray God’s grace, blessing and<br />

love over their marriage. Eboney & Travis<br />

have chosen to take the vacation stay in<br />

Orlando, Florida for sharing their wedding<br />

announcement with us.<br />

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How I Met & Married<br />

My Man Of God<br />

OLM: When you first met your husband<br />

- how old were you, and what was your<br />

emotional and spiritual state?<br />

Featuring Mrs. Vivianne Jenkins<br />

Vivianne Jenkins: I first met my husband<br />

back in 2011. I was 27 years old and we<br />

were introduced by a mutual friend. By<br />

that time in my life, I had been through<br />

a lot relationship wise. After my last<br />

unsuccessful relationship, I made a vow to<br />

God that I would not settle and that I would<br />

wait on HIM for the right person, even if that<br />

meant waiting until I was 50 years old.<br />

OLM: Did God speak to you about the<br />

things you needed to change or improve on<br />

(within yourself) before meeting him? Was<br />

there something he did that proved to be a<br />

game changer/let you know that he was the<br />

one for you?<br />

Vivianne Jenkins: God definitely brought<br />

conviction to areas I needed to improve<br />

as far as my spiritual walk, selfishness and<br />

attitude towards relationships. I had to<br />

learn to put God first in all things including<br />

a relationship. As far as selfishness, I<br />

A man should know your worth without you having<br />

to spell it out for him. My husband made it known on a<br />

regular basis that he saw and knew my worth.<br />

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also had to learn that when it comes to a<br />

relationship, you have put a lot of effort into<br />

ministering to the needs of the other person,<br />

instead of mainly expecting the other person<br />

to minister to your own needs. A game<br />

changer was that he was consistent with<br />

being a man of his word. There was nothing<br />

I did or that he learned about me from my<br />

past to make him love me any less. I don’t<br />

have to do anything to make him love me<br />

or convince him of my worth. A man should<br />

see your worth without you having to spell<br />

it out for him. My husband made it known<br />

on a regular basis that he saw and knew my<br />

worth.<br />

OLM: Was there anything that you did specifically<br />

to prepare for meeting him by faith?<br />

Vivianne Jenkins: To prepare for my<br />

husband, I kept a prayer journal including all<br />

the qualities I desired in a husband, as well as<br />

prayers to God asking for him to mold me into<br />

a woman with good wifely qualities.<br />

OLM: Were you currently dating someone<br />

that you realized, wasn’t the one and why?<br />

Vivianne Jenkins: At the time I met my<br />

husband, I was not dating anyone else.<br />

OLM: How did you know he was the one<br />

God made for you? How did he propose?<br />

Vivianne Jenkins: I knew he was the one<br />

God made for me because God gave me a<br />

peace about him. He fit all the qualities I<br />

had desired and written in my journal. He<br />

always made an effort to put me first and<br />

cater to my needs. He took the initiative<br />

as a man to court me. He didn’t have a<br />

big ego, he was a true gentleman. Above<br />

all, he brought out the best in me. I’m<br />

a pretty reserved girl, but from our very<br />

first conversation, I was comfortable and<br />

surprisingly talked a lot with him. He<br />

proposed at our favorite date spot. It was by<br />

the beach in the evening on the pier. He got<br />

on bended knee, told me how he felt about<br />

me and popped the question.<br />

OLM: When did you marry him? How long<br />

have you been married?<br />

Vivianne Jenkins: We got engaged after<br />

dating for 9 months, then we got married<br />

a year later on February 23, 2013. This<br />

February will make 6 years.<br />

OLM: What do you feel are the key things<br />

that keep your commitment & love strong<br />

throughout the years?<br />

Vivianne Jenkins: Things that keep our<br />

commitment and love strong is constant<br />

communication. Though it will be more<br />

challenging now that we have 3 children,<br />

we also make an effort to set aside<br />

exclusive time with each other on a regular<br />

basis.<br />

OLM: Is there any word of advice that you<br />

would give to a woman waiting to meet and<br />

marry a man after God’s own heart?<br />

Vivianne Jenkins: Be patient and wait for<br />

God’s best and God’s timing, no matter how<br />

long it takes. I’ve learned that it is better to<br />

be miserable and single than to be miserable<br />

along with the wrong person.<br />

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Photo By: @Chloejackmanphotos<br />

Photo Credit: Chloe Jackman Photos<br />

Wedding Hair With Flair<br />

Spring/<strong>Summer</strong> Hairstyle Highlights<br />

Feature Stylist & Makeup Artist<br />

Mrs. Ninah Wee<br />

Northern California<br />

Let the festivities begin! The Queen has<br />

arrived in all her elegance, calmness<br />

and style. If you have natural hair, you<br />

definitely want to take note of how<br />

elegant and regal her hair sets off her<br />

wedding attire. The black and gold jacket<br />

with tiara to match are definitely making<br />

a statement. She came to captivate, she<br />

came to confess her love, she came to<br />

say, “I do.” May God bless her marriage<br />

and may all her dreams come true for<br />

this new chapter of her life. Shop regal<br />

wedding accessories, bridal gear & more<br />

@ www.weddingveilsetc.com<br />

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The classic summer updo!<br />

This bride has just a few flowing curls on the side<br />

and plenty of hair delicately pinned up in the back.<br />

Just beautiful!<br />

Shop classic bridal veils, robes and tiaras<br />

@ www.weddingveilsetc.com<br />

Photo: @christineglebovphotography<br />

This bride is absolutely stunning in her strapless<br />

wedding dress and ready to make her special day<br />

last forever! Her makeup is natural, flawless and<br />

matches her effortless long tresses swooped to<br />

the side - perfect for an outdoor or indoor wedding<br />

ceremony. If you would like more wedding day<br />

make-up and hair ideas, follow @Ninahwee on IG<br />

Shop wedding day accessories @www.weddingveilsetc.com<br />

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The Wifey 101 Series:<br />

THE POWER OF BECOMING<br />

ONE IN MARRIAGE<br />

By: Mrs. Rose Belk<br />

“Can two walk together except they be agreed?”<br />

(Amos 3:3). There is power in agreement. Two minds,<br />

two hearts, and two hands uniting on one accord can<br />

bring about changes that the human mind cannot<br />

begin to comprehend. The word of God says, “One<br />

can put a thousand to flight and two can put ten<br />

thousand to flight” (Deuteronomy 32:30). If two<br />

people can come to some kind of mutual agreement<br />

or sumphoneo (the Greek word for ‘agree’), they<br />

become powerful.<br />

My husband and I are in our 40th year of marriage (to<br />

each other). All we knew, at that time when we first<br />

got married, was that we loved each other and<br />

wanted to spend the rest of our lives together.<br />

However, what we did not know could have<br />

caused a breaking point in our marriage.<br />

Our love for God and the things of<br />

God were on point, but we were far<br />

away from becoming one. We did<br />

not recognize our differences until<br />

we actually lived together. I had my side of the bed<br />

and he had his side (metaphorically speaking). We<br />

were two different people from two different families,<br />

living under one roof, yet had different ideas about<br />

marriage, bills, and what it meant to become one.<br />

Mark 10:7-8 says, “For this cause shall a man leave<br />

his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and<br />

the twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no<br />

more twain, but one flesh.” Most people relate<br />

this scripture to sex only. Although sex is a very<br />

important component in marriage, it is not the only<br />

component.<br />

A married couple must agree on what they think,<br />

what church they will attend, how they will pay<br />

their bills, where they spend their holidays,<br />

if they will shop every week or every other<br />

week, how much quality time will they<br />

spend together, how they will raise<br />

their children, etc. When two<br />

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people become one, they think alike and they<br />

believe the same things. These are just a few<br />

areas. The objective is to become one in ALL<br />

things.<br />

So, what steps should a couple take to<br />

become one? Keep in mind, I am only<br />

talking about a couple who is married or<br />

contemplating marriage. The oneness<br />

that God speaks of cannot happen in<br />

relationships with single individuals.<br />

Becoming one can only happen in a marital<br />

relationship. So this is how it happens:<br />

GIVE YOUR MARRIAGE TO GOD. Do not<br />

base your marriage on how your parents<br />

did it. Though they may have had many<br />

successes, remember, you are two different<br />

people from two different families who<br />

are trying to become one. God has all the<br />

missing pieces of the puzzle; trust Him to<br />

help you pull it together.<br />

PRAY (TOGETHER) EACH DAY. Ask the Lord<br />

to help you understand the concept of<br />

being one – spiritually, physically,<br />

and emotionally. Only He can do<br />

the supernatural in a marriage; He is not<br />

limited. As you pray together, also pray for<br />

one another. You will begin to see the hand<br />

of God in your relationship.<br />

KEEP YOUR BUSINESS TO YOURSELF.<br />

Family and friends may mean well;<br />

however, they can be the very cause<br />

of problems in your marriage. It is best<br />

to not share your family business with<br />

other people. Again, learn to keep your<br />

business to yourself. Otherwise, it will<br />

be hard for your spouse to trust you with<br />

information. (This does not apply to an<br />

abusive marriage. If you are being abused,<br />

verbally or physically, you need to get help,<br />

immediately.)<br />

Rose C. Belk, a woman after God’s own heart<br />

is a wife, mother, minister of the Gospel and<br />

a recording artist. Rose learned through<br />

many struggles that God is the true source<br />

for victory. Her vast experience as wife and<br />

mother has proven that marriage is still a<br />

holy institution and that godly children can<br />

be raised in an ungodly world.<br />

Mrs. Belk has released two CD projects titled, My Song of<br />

Praise and Simply Rose – Nothing But Praise. She is also the<br />

host of an online program called Morning Boost:<br />

https://www.facebook.com/MorningBoostRM<br />

https://www.instagram.com/MorningBoostRM<br />

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&CAREER<br />

LEADERSHIP<br />

INSIGHT<br />

A CRASH COURSES IN<br />

BUSINESS ETIQUETTE<br />

By: Mrs. Chanel-Alexandria Washington<br />

When most people hear the word<br />

“etiquette” they think about butlers,<br />

white table clothes, crumpets, and<br />

of course, the accompanying nasal tone while<br />

strutting pinkies and sipping tea. This is why<br />

most people feel that etiquette is for “those<br />

people,” only to be emulated at special times.<br />

With this in mind, I challenge you to reshape<br />

your views and consider how etiquette is simply<br />

facilitating a comfortably shared experience in<br />

a congenial manner. With this definition, you<br />

will soon realize that etiquette is for all people,<br />

always; including you.<br />

Seems easier said than done. Especially<br />

in workplace situations when you feel the<br />

stakes are high. This is why it’s imperative<br />

to simplify all of those preconceived notions<br />

and take ownership of what etiquette means<br />

to you. Being calm, cool, and collected is<br />

the only way to manage such high pressure<br />

interactions with ease, so here are a few tips<br />

to help in lieu of praying that force majeure<br />

will abruptly end the meal:<br />

1. KNOW YOUR ROLE. If you are the one<br />

organizing the meal and inviting the guest(s),<br />

you are the host/hostess for this event. With<br />

that being said, it is your responsibility to<br />

lead the meal in a way that makes everyone<br />

comfortable. You should be familiar with<br />

the restaurant’s level of service, dietary<br />

restrictions of your guests, menu favorites,<br />

location, and any other nuances that will<br />

make your dinning choice a glowing success.<br />

Another key component of hosting that is<br />

often overlooked is table placement. As<br />

the host/ess, ensure that your guest(s) of<br />

honor enjoys the seat with the best view and<br />

least amount of aisle traffic. This includes<br />

securing a table within the best section of the<br />

restaurant as private booths or water feature<br />

views often require early requests.<br />

2. SMILE, YOU’RE ON CAMERA. Your next<br />

leadership role begins simultaneously with<br />

being seated as your knowledge of napkins,<br />

place settings, and the passing game will<br />

quickly move the meal forward in a gracious<br />

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way. Again, this is your event and it’s your<br />

job to know what’s appropriate as your guest<br />

will be watching you for cues if they are<br />

unsure. Even more important, should you<br />

be accompanied by someone else from your<br />

firm, this is a great way to showcase your<br />

ability to represent the organization with<br />

class, so be sure to brush up on these things<br />

ahead of time.<br />

3. TAKE CHARGE. As the host/ess, make<br />

your guest(s) feel comfortable by offering<br />

entree suggestions, appetizers, and desserts<br />

to demonstrate that you truly enjoy the<br />

offerings and that they have full reign to try<br />

whatever they would like. In other words,<br />

if you have to hold your breath and hope<br />

that they opt for a salad because that’s the<br />

only affordable item, you’ve selected the<br />

wrong establishment. Another way to take<br />

charge requires understanding the libations<br />

expectations of your firm and guiding the<br />

meal accordingly. Although you personally<br />

may not care to partake in spirits (other<br />

than the Holy Ghost), you should always<br />

be prepared to communicate your wishes<br />

without being offensive.<br />

4. PRACTICE THE 6 P’S. This means<br />

posture, pitch, pace, protocol, presence, and<br />

panache all count, as it is imperative that the<br />

others at the table know that they have your<br />

undivided attention at all times. Refrain from<br />

checking smart phone messages, whispering,<br />

slouching, or looking elsewhere while<br />

conversation takes place. Within this same<br />

realm, never talk with a mouth full of food or<br />

make audible sounds while you eat as either<br />

faux pas will immediately shift attention away<br />

from what you’re hoping to accomplish. The<br />

best way to avoid such critical errors is to eat<br />

in small bites. This ensures that you’re ready<br />

to chime in to the conversation as needed,<br />

without awkward pauses due to chewing<br />

a mouth full of food. Slowing down in this<br />

manner will also set the tone for a more<br />

leisurely experience that encourages open<br />

and ongoing dialogue instead of a rush to<br />

finish.<br />

5. PARTNER WITH YOUR SERVER. One<br />

of the easiest ways to ensure a successful<br />

dining experience is to communicate the<br />

importance of your visit with management<br />

and your server ahead of time. Throughout<br />

the meal, maintain this partnership with<br />

the appropriate utensil, napkin, and other<br />

non-verbal cues to keep him or her abreast<br />

of what should and should not be happening<br />

during each phase of the meal.<br />

As the host typically covers the check, the most<br />

impressive component is how seamless you<br />

handle this final act. Again, your server should<br />

know ahead of time and be in concert with<br />

whatever method will allow you to take care<br />

of it in the most discreet fashion, yet ensuring<br />

dessert and coffee options are presented before<br />

wrapping up. Last, but not least, don’t forget to<br />

show gratitude for all your server did to create<br />

a stellar experience. Be sure to thank them with<br />

25% to 30% plus, as building a solid relationship<br />

is always a key component of effortless<br />

etiquette. Now, take this crash course to go forth<br />

and host with ease!<br />

Chanel-Alexandria, “The R.E.G.A.L Diva”<br />

is the President and CEO of Polished to<br />

Perfection, a boutique firm dedicated<br />

to working with organizations and<br />

executives who want to convey excellence<br />

with civility, style, and charm...every<br />

time. She is a graduate of the Emily Post<br />

business etiquette trainer program and the<br />

author of “The Art of A.R.C. - Appearance,<br />

Relationships & Credibility”.<br />

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HEALTH & BEAUTY<br />

By: Lisa S. DuBois<br />

Beauty Essentials Found<br />

in Your Kitchen Cabinets ...<br />

It really isn’t necessary for you to frequent<br />

a spa for a good facial. Most of what you<br />

need for a facial is right in your kitchen.<br />

If you have honey, brown sugar, eggs,<br />

avocados, yogurt, lemons, oatmeal and<br />

apple cider vinegar you have everything you<br />

need to give yourself a good cleansing and<br />

moisturizing facial.<br />

The most popular ingredient for the home<br />

facial is honey and brown sugar. Honey is<br />

an excellent deep cleanser and moisturizer<br />

and when combined with brown sugar, it<br />

becomes a moisturizing scrub. Honey also<br />

has antibacterial qualities, which help with<br />

the healing process of infections, wounds,<br />

minor burns and acne. Adding honey to<br />

your skin care regimen can help neutralize<br />

free radicals and help maintain the skin’s<br />

softness and elasticity. You can easily tailor<br />

your facial to meet the needs of your skin<br />

type. If you have dry skin, you can make a<br />

hydrating mask using honey, avocado, and<br />

yogurt. If you are suffering with acne, you<br />

can make an acne fighting mask with honey,<br />

egg white and lemon juice. If you happen<br />

to suffer from oily skin, try using yogurt,<br />

oatmeal and lemon juice.<br />

There are five basic steps to a facial—<br />

cleanse, exfoliate, mask, tone and<br />

moisturize. Before you begin, be sure to<br />

remove all of your make-up with a fragrance<br />

free make-up remover and cleanse your face<br />

with a sodium lauryl sulfate-free facial wash.<br />

Then follow one of the three mask regimen:<br />

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Dry Skin Mask: Take 2 to 3 ounces of raw honey, ½ ripe<br />

avocado and 1 ½ teaspoon of plain yogurt. Mix these<br />

ingredients together in a bowl until the mixture is pasty. The<br />

honey will help hold the other ingredients together so they<br />

do not slide off your face. Allow the mask to sit on your face<br />

for fifteen minutes, then gently rinse off with water.<br />

Acne Fighting Mask: Take 2 to 3 ounces of raw honey, 1 egg<br />

white and 1 teaspoon of lemon juice. Whip ingredients. The<br />

egg white may cause a slightly fluffy or creamy appearance.<br />

Apply mask to face. Allow mask to sit for fifteen minutes,<br />

then gently rinse off with water.<br />

Oily Skin Mask: Take 4 ounces of yogurt, ½ teaspoon of<br />

lemon juice, 2 teaspoons of plain oatmeal. Mix contents<br />

together until well blended. Because of the yogurt, this<br />

mask slides off the face. Allow to sit for fifteen minutes, then<br />

gently rinse off with water.<br />

Exfoliating Mask: 2 tablespoons of honey, 1 teaspoon of<br />

olive oil or Grapeseed oil, add in brown sugar. The mixture<br />

should have a granular feel to it. Apply mask to face in<br />

circular motion to cleanse and remove dead skin. After<br />

you finish this portion of the facial remove the mask with<br />

warm water and a clean towel. Tone your face with apple<br />

cider vinegar diluted with distilled water and use a natural<br />

moisturizer of your choice.<br />

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<strong>Optimal</strong> <strong>Living</strong><br />

Confession of Faith<br />

I am anointed in Christ and a powerful person of God.<br />

I am a joint-heir with Jesus and more than a conqueror.<br />

I am a doer of the Word of God and a channel for His blessings.<br />

If God be for me, who can be against me?<br />

I am blessed coming in and I am blessed going out.<br />

As I speak this confession, my enemies<br />

are fleeing before me Right Now! God has<br />

commanded His blessing on my storehouses.<br />

He has opened His Good treasures and I shall<br />

lend and not borrow. I am the head and not<br />

the tail.<br />

He has given me power to make wealth.<br />

I dwell in the secret place of the Most High.<br />

I have His protection and provision.<br />

God is my refuge, my fortress I am not afraid<br />

of the snare of the fowler.<br />

Make no mistake, no Evil shall befall me and<br />

no plague shall come near My dwelling.<br />

God has given his angels charge over me and<br />

they are bearing me up in their hands, lest<br />

I dash my foot against a stone, as declared<br />

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in Psalms 91. I Peter 2:9 establishes I am a<br />

chosen generation, A royal priesthood, a<br />

holy nation.I am a peculiar person called<br />

out of darkness Into His marvelous light. I<br />

Peter 2:24 states, “ I have been healed by<br />

the stripes of Jesus.”<br />

*Cancer, sugar diabetes, heart disease,<br />

sickness, afflictions, infections, mental<br />

illness, or any other disease can not enter<br />

my body. I am without spot or blemish, a<br />

prayer warrior, the righteousness of God,<br />

saved, and washed in the Blood of Jesus.*<br />

“No weapon formed against me shall<br />

prosper, and every tongue which rises<br />

against me in judgment You shall<br />

condemn.” Father God, I pray that those<br />

who read this confession choose abundant<br />

life, peace within their hearts, wisdom<br />

driven faith strategies for the days ahead<br />

and prosperity in their houses according to<br />

Psalms 122:6-9.<br />

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CANDIED WALNUT, PEAR, &<br />

LEAFY GREEN SALAD<br />

1/3 cup Blue Agave<br />

2/3 cup chopped walnuts, toasted<br />

Cooking spray<br />

1/2 teaspoon kosher salt, divided<br />

2 tablespoons white balsamic vinegar<br />

1 1/2 teaspoons Dijon mustard<br />

3 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil<br />

1 tablespoon capers, chopped<br />

4 cups torn green leaf lettuce<br />

4 cups chopped romaine lettuce<br />

4 cups chopped radicchio<br />

1 ripe red Anjou pear, thinly sliced<br />

1/4 teaspoon freshly ground black<br />

pepper<br />

Preparation<br />

1. Carefully pour Blue Agave over nuts to<br />

coat evenly. Spread nuts on a baking<br />

sheet coated with cooking spray;<br />

separate nuts quickly. Sprinkle with<br />

1/4 teaspoon salt. Set aside until cool;<br />

break into small pieces.<br />

2. Combine vinegar and mustard, stirring<br />

with a whisk. Gradually add oil, stirring<br />

constantly with a whisk. Stir in capers.<br />

3. Combine lettuces and radicchio; top<br />

with pear and candied walnuts. Drizzle<br />

dressing evenly over salad; sprinkle<br />

with remaining 1/4 teaspoon salt and<br />

pepper. Toss gently to combine.<br />

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CURRIED SALMON CAKES<br />

Ingredients<br />

Directions<br />

● 1 pound skinless salmon<br />

fillet, halved crosswise<br />

● 2 teaspoons curry powder,<br />

preferably hot<br />

● Kosher salt and freshly<br />

ground pepper<br />

● 8 tablespoons storebought<br />

tartar sauce<br />

● 1/4 cup cracker meal or<br />

crushed saltines, plus<br />

more for sprinkling<br />

● 2 tablespoons grated<br />

peeled ginger<br />

● 1 bunch scallions, finely<br />

chopped<br />

● 1 large egg, lightly beaten<br />

● 1/2 red bell pepper,<br />

seeded and diced<br />

● 2 stalks celery, thinly sliced<br />

● 1 mango, peeled, pitted<br />

and diced<br />

● Juice of 1 lime<br />

● Vegetable oil, for frying<br />

Put the salmon, 1 tablespoon water, 1 1/2 teaspoons<br />

curry powder, 1/2 teaspoon salt, and pepper to taste in a<br />

microwave-safe bowl.<br />

Cover with plastic wrap and microwave until the fish<br />

is opaque, 2 to 3 minutes. Flake with a fork and cool<br />

slightly. Stir in 1 tablespoon tartar sauce, the cracker<br />

meal, ginger, half of the scallions and the egg. Form into<br />

4 patties and freeze until firm, about 10 minutes.<br />

Meanwhile, whisk the remaining 7 tablespoons of tartar<br />

sauce and 1/2 teaspoon curry powder in a bowl. In a<br />

separate bowl, mix 1 tablespoon of the curried tartar<br />

sauce with the bell pepper, celery, mango, remaining<br />

scallions, lime juice, 1/4 teaspoon salt, and pepper to<br />

taste.<br />

Heat 1/4 inch of vegetable oil in a nonstick skillet over<br />

medium heat. Sprinkle the patties with cracker meal on<br />

both sides and fry until golden, 2 to 3 minutes per side.<br />

Drain on paper towels. Serve with the mango salad and<br />

curried tartar sauce.<br />

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