Optimal Living Magazine Summer 2019 Issue
In this Issue: Be inspired to renew your commitment to love as newlywed, Eboney Crump shares her wedding date and love story! Discover how to truly "Become One in Marriage", as Evangelist & Gospel Singing Artist, Mrs. Rose Belk shares the secret to her 40 + year marriage. Learn how Spoken Word Artist, Vivianne Jenkins' husband won her heart + Much More!
In this Issue: Be inspired to renew your commitment to love as newlywed, Eboney Crump shares her wedding date and love story! Discover how to truly "Become One in Marriage", as Evangelist & Gospel Singing Artist, Mrs. Rose Belk shares the secret to her 40 + year marriage. Learn how Spoken Word Artist, Vivianne Jenkins' husband won her heart + Much More!
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<strong>Summer</strong> <strong>2019</strong><br />
HOW I MET &<br />
MARRIED<br />
MY MAN OF<br />
GOD<br />
Just Drop<br />
the Weight<br />
Series<br />
Becoming One<br />
in Marriage<br />
A CRASH<br />
COURSE IN<br />
BUSINESS<br />
ETIQUETTE<br />
Eboney &<br />
Travis<br />
Crump!!<br />
WEDDING<br />
HAIR WITH<br />
FLAIR<br />
GUESS WHO’S<br />
GETTING MARRIED?<br />
much<br />
more
Be patient and wait for God’s timing, no matter how long<br />
it takes. I’ve learned that it is better to be miserable and<br />
single, than to be miserable along with the wrong person.<br />
—Spoken Word Artist/Speaker @ ViviqueSpeaks<br />
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Our Staff<br />
Publisher/Editor-in-Chief<br />
Tanisha Hopson<br />
Associate Editor<br />
Mark McDonald<br />
The Layout Design<br />
Mr. Asra<br />
Contributing Writers<br />
Rose Belk<br />
Lisa Dubois<br />
Mishell Ellis<br />
Chanel-Alexandria Washington<br />
Elizabeth A. Johnson<br />
Janice McMillian<br />
Candace Thornley<br />
Table of Contents<br />
04 Publisher’s Perspective<br />
05 <strong>Optimal</strong> <strong>Living</strong> <strong>Magazine</strong> salutes our Five<br />
Star Sponsor<br />
06 Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone<br />
08 Guess Who’s Getting Married?<br />
10 How I Met & Married My Man Of God<br />
12 Wedding Hair With Flair<br />
14 The Wifey 101 Series:The Power Of<br />
Becoming One In Marriage<br />
16 Career Leadership Insight<br />
18 Beauty Essentials Found in Your Kitchen<br />
Cabinets ...<br />
20 <strong>Optimal</strong> <strong>Living</strong> Confession of Faith<br />
22 Spices of Life Recipes<br />
Copyright © <strong>2019</strong> by <strong>Optimal</strong> <strong>Living</strong> <strong>Magazine</strong>
Just Drop the<br />
Weight Series<br />
Whether you are becoming a new wife,<br />
transitioning into a new employment<br />
opportunity, going through financial<br />
hardship, or coming to terms with a<br />
family crisis; stress has a way of stopping<br />
you in your tracks and blocking the flow<br />
of God’s intentional blessing for your life.<br />
Every time you “allow” someone to<br />
frustrate you, take advantage of you,<br />
disappoint you, speak doubt, unbelief<br />
and death over you - your soul takes a<br />
beating and opens the door for dis-ease.<br />
Dis-ease is a silent killer. It manifests<br />
itself slowly through The shortness<br />
of breath, headaches, forgetfulness,<br />
slurred speech, mild strokes, stiffness in<br />
your muscles/joints, aches and pains in<br />
different parts of your body.<br />
I use the word “allow” as a reminder<br />
to you of the part you play in stressful<br />
situations and the full control you have<br />
in everything concerning you. You allow<br />
stress from others to come in and you<br />
have the ultimate power to make it stop.<br />
When you “decide” to allow situations to<br />
take care of themselves and drop all the<br />
weight of the world at the Father’s feet -<br />
health, wholeness, wellness, creativity,<br />
innovation and joy will be yours. Psalms<br />
107: 19-20 says, “Then they cried out to<br />
the LORD in their trouble, And He saved<br />
them out of their distresses. He sent His<br />
word and healed them, And delivered<br />
them from their destruction.”<br />
Seasons come and go for a reason.<br />
Many times what determines the end<br />
of a season is you. Don’t allow people<br />
and their foolishness to keep you from<br />
fulfilling God’s divine purpose for your<br />
life. Learn what you need to learn from<br />
situations and move on.<br />
As you make the transition into <strong>Summer</strong>,<br />
I challenge you to choose life, choose to<br />
win, choose to detox your life & just drop<br />
the weight. Plug into our next weight loss<br />
challenge by writing us @detoxmylife@<br />
optimal-livingmagazine.com.<br />
I hope you will be inspired & blessed by<br />
this issue of <strong>Optimal</strong> <strong>Living</strong>.<br />
Be a Blessing & Be Well.<br />
Tanisha Hopson<br />
Walk in His Peace!<br />
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Getting Out of Your<br />
Comfort Zone<br />
A Practical Solution to Discover<br />
Your Next Move<br />
Elizabeth A. Johnson<br />
After the day is done and you finally lay<br />
down to rest, what do you focus on? Do<br />
you constantly rehearse the mistakes of<br />
your day? Do you regret the “I should have”,<br />
“I could have” moments? Are you tired of<br />
watching the same movie of your life, over<br />
and over, every night? Are you ready to<br />
change the channel completely?<br />
If your answer is yes to either of the last<br />
two questions, be encouraged. You have<br />
the power to create the life that you desire.<br />
The first step is getting out of your comfort<br />
zone. Sound familiar, right? But what are<br />
some practical ways that we can step of our<br />
comfort zone or eliminate it completely?<br />
Let’s start with baby steps. For example,<br />
start each day with the goal of trying<br />
something new. On your way to work, try<br />
a new route, order something different for<br />
lunch, or spend 10 minutes today getting to<br />
know someone better. Make a journal of all<br />
of your new experiences in detail, then read<br />
it. Small changes to your daily routine can<br />
greatly impact your week and openness to<br />
try new things. In other words, start small.<br />
Soon stepping out of your comfort zone will<br />
become a normal part of your daily routine.<br />
Imagine this, your comfort zone is a<br />
wall blocking your view from something<br />
amazing on the other side.<br />
Imagine this, your comfort zone is a wall blocking<br />
your view from something amazing on the other side.<br />
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We always want the best seats in the house<br />
when we go to entertainment events. We<br />
never intentionally choose a seat with<br />
an obstructed view. Choosing to live a<br />
life that is limited by our comfort zones<br />
is doing exactly that. Do you feel stuck in<br />
life or that you access to new possibilities<br />
is obstructed? Today you can choose to<br />
remove the barrier of your comfort zone.<br />
Explore a different view. Once your comfort<br />
zone isn’t a limiting factor, be amazed at<br />
how beautiful life really is and what you can<br />
accomplish.<br />
As you are trying new things, try not to be<br />
discouraged if others don’t understand<br />
your new motivation to be adventurous.<br />
A personal mentor of mine constantly<br />
reminds me that if I want others don’t have,<br />
I have to be willing to do what others won’t<br />
do. I hope that you have been inspired by<br />
this article and have desire to explore life in<br />
new ways. Please join us next session as we<br />
progress to effective goal setting.<br />
With Love,<br />
Elizabeth A. Johnson<br />
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Eboney & Travis Crump<br />
Gainesville, Virginia<br />
Guess<br />
Who’s<br />
Getting<br />
Married?<br />
ARE YOU GETTING<br />
MARRIED SOON?<br />
Get your wedding announcement<br />
published in <strong>Optimal</strong> <strong>Living</strong><br />
<strong>Magazine</strong> and choose a<br />
vacation stay to Las Vegas, NV,<br />
Orlando, FL, Williamsburg,<br />
Va or Bali for yourself & your<br />
hubby. Write editors@optimallivingmagazine.com<br />
for more<br />
details.<br />
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What do two smart aleck FaceBook<br />
posts get you? Our love story! We<br />
met through a FaceBook Group,<br />
called Real Black Love! The funny part is<br />
we didn’t even meet on the dating segment<br />
of the group! We both want to thank<br />
the young female stranger that posted a<br />
innocent question asking “Where are all the<br />
good men?”<br />
Travis responded “ATL” . . . to which I<br />
sarcastically said “Where?” After meeting<br />
several ATL fellas, I was not convinced that<br />
Atlanta had much to offer. Thankfully, Travis<br />
changed my mind. That FaceBook post<br />
lead to Travis contacting me. Travis sent<br />
a sweet can I get to know you message and<br />
I was instantly drawn to those light eyes<br />
and pretty teeth. In fact when we first met,<br />
I used to send my girlfriends daily pictures<br />
of his beautiful teeth, and they got sick of<br />
me quickly. Needless to say, we have been<br />
inseparable ever since.<br />
PATIENCE, LOVE & COMMUNICATION. Just<br />
like every other couple, we continue to learn<br />
each other daily. So, our stance has always<br />
been to communicate, no matter what the<br />
situation is. We also had to come to terms<br />
with the idea that neither of us are perfect.<br />
We realized over time that we must be patient<br />
with one another, as we grow together.<br />
FAVORITE THINGS TO DO TOGETHER.<br />
Shop and travel!<br />
CAREER PATHS. Eboney is a government<br />
employee and owns her own business as a<br />
Leadership and Empowerment Life Coach.<br />
Travis is a Marine Corps Veteran and welder<br />
for a small company in Northern Virginia.<br />
HOW WE KEEP CHRIST FIRST IN OUR<br />
LIVES. We pray together daily and<br />
attend church together. Most of all, we<br />
acknowledge what God does in our lives<br />
daily and we share that with each other.<br />
OUR CHURCH HOME. Grace Covenant<br />
Church in Chantilly, VA<br />
WEDDING VENUE & DATE. May 14, <strong>2019</strong>,<br />
a complete Marine Corps Ceremony on<br />
Sandbridge Beach!<br />
We would like to give a special thanks to this<br />
lovely couple for announcing their special day<br />
and sharing their story with <strong>Optimal</strong> <strong>Living</strong><br />
<strong>Magazine</strong>. We pray God’s grace, blessing and<br />
love over their marriage. Eboney & Travis<br />
have chosen to take the vacation stay in<br />
Orlando, Florida for sharing their wedding<br />
announcement with us.<br />
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How I Met & Married<br />
My Man Of God<br />
OLM: When you first met your husband<br />
- how old were you, and what was your<br />
emotional and spiritual state?<br />
Featuring Mrs. Vivianne Jenkins<br />
Vivianne Jenkins: I first met my husband<br />
back in 2011. I was 27 years old and we<br />
were introduced by a mutual friend. By<br />
that time in my life, I had been through<br />
a lot relationship wise. After my last<br />
unsuccessful relationship, I made a vow to<br />
God that I would not settle and that I would<br />
wait on HIM for the right person, even if that<br />
meant waiting until I was 50 years old.<br />
OLM: Did God speak to you about the<br />
things you needed to change or improve on<br />
(within yourself) before meeting him? Was<br />
there something he did that proved to be a<br />
game changer/let you know that he was the<br />
one for you?<br />
Vivianne Jenkins: God definitely brought<br />
conviction to areas I needed to improve<br />
as far as my spiritual walk, selfishness and<br />
attitude towards relationships. I had to<br />
learn to put God first in all things including<br />
a relationship. As far as selfishness, I<br />
A man should know your worth without you having<br />
to spell it out for him. My husband made it known on a<br />
regular basis that he saw and knew my worth.<br />
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also had to learn that when it comes to a<br />
relationship, you have put a lot of effort into<br />
ministering to the needs of the other person,<br />
instead of mainly expecting the other person<br />
to minister to your own needs. A game<br />
changer was that he was consistent with<br />
being a man of his word. There was nothing<br />
I did or that he learned about me from my<br />
past to make him love me any less. I don’t<br />
have to do anything to make him love me<br />
or convince him of my worth. A man should<br />
see your worth without you having to spell<br />
it out for him. My husband made it known<br />
on a regular basis that he saw and knew my<br />
worth.<br />
OLM: Was there anything that you did specifically<br />
to prepare for meeting him by faith?<br />
Vivianne Jenkins: To prepare for my<br />
husband, I kept a prayer journal including all<br />
the qualities I desired in a husband, as well as<br />
prayers to God asking for him to mold me into<br />
a woman with good wifely qualities.<br />
OLM: Were you currently dating someone<br />
that you realized, wasn’t the one and why?<br />
Vivianne Jenkins: At the time I met my<br />
husband, I was not dating anyone else.<br />
OLM: How did you know he was the one<br />
God made for you? How did he propose?<br />
Vivianne Jenkins: I knew he was the one<br />
God made for me because God gave me a<br />
peace about him. He fit all the qualities I<br />
had desired and written in my journal. He<br />
always made an effort to put me first and<br />
cater to my needs. He took the initiative<br />
as a man to court me. He didn’t have a<br />
big ego, he was a true gentleman. Above<br />
all, he brought out the best in me. I’m<br />
a pretty reserved girl, but from our very<br />
first conversation, I was comfortable and<br />
surprisingly talked a lot with him. He<br />
proposed at our favorite date spot. It was by<br />
the beach in the evening on the pier. He got<br />
on bended knee, told me how he felt about<br />
me and popped the question.<br />
OLM: When did you marry him? How long<br />
have you been married?<br />
Vivianne Jenkins: We got engaged after<br />
dating for 9 months, then we got married<br />
a year later on February 23, 2013. This<br />
February will make 6 years.<br />
OLM: What do you feel are the key things<br />
that keep your commitment & love strong<br />
throughout the years?<br />
Vivianne Jenkins: Things that keep our<br />
commitment and love strong is constant<br />
communication. Though it will be more<br />
challenging now that we have 3 children,<br />
we also make an effort to set aside<br />
exclusive time with each other on a regular<br />
basis.<br />
OLM: Is there any word of advice that you<br />
would give to a woman waiting to meet and<br />
marry a man after God’s own heart?<br />
Vivianne Jenkins: Be patient and wait for<br />
God’s best and God’s timing, no matter how<br />
long it takes. I’ve learned that it is better to<br />
be miserable and single than to be miserable<br />
along with the wrong person.<br />
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Photo By: @Chloejackmanphotos<br />
Photo Credit: Chloe Jackman Photos<br />
Wedding Hair With Flair<br />
Spring/<strong>Summer</strong> Hairstyle Highlights<br />
Feature Stylist & Makeup Artist<br />
Mrs. Ninah Wee<br />
Northern California<br />
Let the festivities begin! The Queen has<br />
arrived in all her elegance, calmness<br />
and style. If you have natural hair, you<br />
definitely want to take note of how<br />
elegant and regal her hair sets off her<br />
wedding attire. The black and gold jacket<br />
with tiara to match are definitely making<br />
a statement. She came to captivate, she<br />
came to confess her love, she came to<br />
say, “I do.” May God bless her marriage<br />
and may all her dreams come true for<br />
this new chapter of her life. Shop regal<br />
wedding accessories, bridal gear & more<br />
@ www.weddingveilsetc.com<br />
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The classic summer updo!<br />
This bride has just a few flowing curls on the side<br />
and plenty of hair delicately pinned up in the back.<br />
Just beautiful!<br />
Shop classic bridal veils, robes and tiaras<br />
@ www.weddingveilsetc.com<br />
Photo: @christineglebovphotography<br />
This bride is absolutely stunning in her strapless<br />
wedding dress and ready to make her special day<br />
last forever! Her makeup is natural, flawless and<br />
matches her effortless long tresses swooped to<br />
the side - perfect for an outdoor or indoor wedding<br />
ceremony. If you would like more wedding day<br />
make-up and hair ideas, follow @Ninahwee on IG<br />
Shop wedding day accessories @www.weddingveilsetc.com<br />
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The Wifey 101 Series:<br />
THE POWER OF BECOMING<br />
ONE IN MARRIAGE<br />
By: Mrs. Rose Belk<br />
“Can two walk together except they be agreed?”<br />
(Amos 3:3). There is power in agreement. Two minds,<br />
two hearts, and two hands uniting on one accord can<br />
bring about changes that the human mind cannot<br />
begin to comprehend. The word of God says, “One<br />
can put a thousand to flight and two can put ten<br />
thousand to flight” (Deuteronomy 32:30). If two<br />
people can come to some kind of mutual agreement<br />
or sumphoneo (the Greek word for ‘agree’), they<br />
become powerful.<br />
My husband and I are in our 40th year of marriage (to<br />
each other). All we knew, at that time when we first<br />
got married, was that we loved each other and<br />
wanted to spend the rest of our lives together.<br />
However, what we did not know could have<br />
caused a breaking point in our marriage.<br />
Our love for God and the things of<br />
God were on point, but we were far<br />
away from becoming one. We did<br />
not recognize our differences until<br />
we actually lived together. I had my side of the bed<br />
and he had his side (metaphorically speaking). We<br />
were two different people from two different families,<br />
living under one roof, yet had different ideas about<br />
marriage, bills, and what it meant to become one.<br />
Mark 10:7-8 says, “For this cause shall a man leave<br />
his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and<br />
the twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no<br />
more twain, but one flesh.” Most people relate<br />
this scripture to sex only. Although sex is a very<br />
important component in marriage, it is not the only<br />
component.<br />
A married couple must agree on what they think,<br />
what church they will attend, how they will pay<br />
their bills, where they spend their holidays,<br />
if they will shop every week or every other<br />
week, how much quality time will they<br />
spend together, how they will raise<br />
their children, etc. When two<br />
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people become one, they think alike and they<br />
believe the same things. These are just a few<br />
areas. The objective is to become one in ALL<br />
things.<br />
So, what steps should a couple take to<br />
become one? Keep in mind, I am only<br />
talking about a couple who is married or<br />
contemplating marriage. The oneness<br />
that God speaks of cannot happen in<br />
relationships with single individuals.<br />
Becoming one can only happen in a marital<br />
relationship. So this is how it happens:<br />
GIVE YOUR MARRIAGE TO GOD. Do not<br />
base your marriage on how your parents<br />
did it. Though they may have had many<br />
successes, remember, you are two different<br />
people from two different families who<br />
are trying to become one. God has all the<br />
missing pieces of the puzzle; trust Him to<br />
help you pull it together.<br />
PRAY (TOGETHER) EACH DAY. Ask the Lord<br />
to help you understand the concept of<br />
being one – spiritually, physically,<br />
and emotionally. Only He can do<br />
the supernatural in a marriage; He is not<br />
limited. As you pray together, also pray for<br />
one another. You will begin to see the hand<br />
of God in your relationship.<br />
KEEP YOUR BUSINESS TO YOURSELF.<br />
Family and friends may mean well;<br />
however, they can be the very cause<br />
of problems in your marriage. It is best<br />
to not share your family business with<br />
other people. Again, learn to keep your<br />
business to yourself. Otherwise, it will<br />
be hard for your spouse to trust you with<br />
information. (This does not apply to an<br />
abusive marriage. If you are being abused,<br />
verbally or physically, you need to get help,<br />
immediately.)<br />
Rose C. Belk, a woman after God’s own heart<br />
is a wife, mother, minister of the Gospel and<br />
a recording artist. Rose learned through<br />
many struggles that God is the true source<br />
for victory. Her vast experience as wife and<br />
mother has proven that marriage is still a<br />
holy institution and that godly children can<br />
be raised in an ungodly world.<br />
Mrs. Belk has released two CD projects titled, My Song of<br />
Praise and Simply Rose – Nothing But Praise. She is also the<br />
host of an online program called Morning Boost:<br />
https://www.facebook.com/MorningBoostRM<br />
https://www.instagram.com/MorningBoostRM<br />
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&CAREER<br />
LEADERSHIP<br />
INSIGHT<br />
A CRASH COURSES IN<br />
BUSINESS ETIQUETTE<br />
By: Mrs. Chanel-Alexandria Washington<br />
When most people hear the word<br />
“etiquette” they think about butlers,<br />
white table clothes, crumpets, and<br />
of course, the accompanying nasal tone while<br />
strutting pinkies and sipping tea. This is why<br />
most people feel that etiquette is for “those<br />
people,” only to be emulated at special times.<br />
With this in mind, I challenge you to reshape<br />
your views and consider how etiquette is simply<br />
facilitating a comfortably shared experience in<br />
a congenial manner. With this definition, you<br />
will soon realize that etiquette is for all people,<br />
always; including you.<br />
Seems easier said than done. Especially<br />
in workplace situations when you feel the<br />
stakes are high. This is why it’s imperative<br />
to simplify all of those preconceived notions<br />
and take ownership of what etiquette means<br />
to you. Being calm, cool, and collected is<br />
the only way to manage such high pressure<br />
interactions with ease, so here are a few tips<br />
to help in lieu of praying that force majeure<br />
will abruptly end the meal:<br />
1. KNOW YOUR ROLE. If you are the one<br />
organizing the meal and inviting the guest(s),<br />
you are the host/hostess for this event. With<br />
that being said, it is your responsibility to<br />
lead the meal in a way that makes everyone<br />
comfortable. You should be familiar with<br />
the restaurant’s level of service, dietary<br />
restrictions of your guests, menu favorites,<br />
location, and any other nuances that will<br />
make your dinning choice a glowing success.<br />
Another key component of hosting that is<br />
often overlooked is table placement. As<br />
the host/ess, ensure that your guest(s) of<br />
honor enjoys the seat with the best view and<br />
least amount of aisle traffic. This includes<br />
securing a table within the best section of the<br />
restaurant as private booths or water feature<br />
views often require early requests.<br />
2. SMILE, YOU’RE ON CAMERA. Your next<br />
leadership role begins simultaneously with<br />
being seated as your knowledge of napkins,<br />
place settings, and the passing game will<br />
quickly move the meal forward in a gracious<br />
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way. Again, this is your event and it’s your<br />
job to know what’s appropriate as your guest<br />
will be watching you for cues if they are<br />
unsure. Even more important, should you<br />
be accompanied by someone else from your<br />
firm, this is a great way to showcase your<br />
ability to represent the organization with<br />
class, so be sure to brush up on these things<br />
ahead of time.<br />
3. TAKE CHARGE. As the host/ess, make<br />
your guest(s) feel comfortable by offering<br />
entree suggestions, appetizers, and desserts<br />
to demonstrate that you truly enjoy the<br />
offerings and that they have full reign to try<br />
whatever they would like. In other words,<br />
if you have to hold your breath and hope<br />
that they opt for a salad because that’s the<br />
only affordable item, you’ve selected the<br />
wrong establishment. Another way to take<br />
charge requires understanding the libations<br />
expectations of your firm and guiding the<br />
meal accordingly. Although you personally<br />
may not care to partake in spirits (other<br />
than the Holy Ghost), you should always<br />
be prepared to communicate your wishes<br />
without being offensive.<br />
4. PRACTICE THE 6 P’S. This means<br />
posture, pitch, pace, protocol, presence, and<br />
panache all count, as it is imperative that the<br />
others at the table know that they have your<br />
undivided attention at all times. Refrain from<br />
checking smart phone messages, whispering,<br />
slouching, or looking elsewhere while<br />
conversation takes place. Within this same<br />
realm, never talk with a mouth full of food or<br />
make audible sounds while you eat as either<br />
faux pas will immediately shift attention away<br />
from what you’re hoping to accomplish. The<br />
best way to avoid such critical errors is to eat<br />
in small bites. This ensures that you’re ready<br />
to chime in to the conversation as needed,<br />
without awkward pauses due to chewing<br />
a mouth full of food. Slowing down in this<br />
manner will also set the tone for a more<br />
leisurely experience that encourages open<br />
and ongoing dialogue instead of a rush to<br />
finish.<br />
5. PARTNER WITH YOUR SERVER. One<br />
of the easiest ways to ensure a successful<br />
dining experience is to communicate the<br />
importance of your visit with management<br />
and your server ahead of time. Throughout<br />
the meal, maintain this partnership with<br />
the appropriate utensil, napkin, and other<br />
non-verbal cues to keep him or her abreast<br />
of what should and should not be happening<br />
during each phase of the meal.<br />
As the host typically covers the check, the most<br />
impressive component is how seamless you<br />
handle this final act. Again, your server should<br />
know ahead of time and be in concert with<br />
whatever method will allow you to take care<br />
of it in the most discreet fashion, yet ensuring<br />
dessert and coffee options are presented before<br />
wrapping up. Last, but not least, don’t forget to<br />
show gratitude for all your server did to create<br />
a stellar experience. Be sure to thank them with<br />
25% to 30% plus, as building a solid relationship<br />
is always a key component of effortless<br />
etiquette. Now, take this crash course to go forth<br />
and host with ease!<br />
Chanel-Alexandria, “The R.E.G.A.L Diva”<br />
is the President and CEO of Polished to<br />
Perfection, a boutique firm dedicated<br />
to working with organizations and<br />
executives who want to convey excellence<br />
with civility, style, and charm...every<br />
time. She is a graduate of the Emily Post<br />
business etiquette trainer program and the<br />
author of “The Art of A.R.C. - Appearance,<br />
Relationships & Credibility”.<br />
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HEALTH & BEAUTY<br />
By: Lisa S. DuBois<br />
Beauty Essentials Found<br />
in Your Kitchen Cabinets ...<br />
It really isn’t necessary for you to frequent<br />
a spa for a good facial. Most of what you<br />
need for a facial is right in your kitchen.<br />
If you have honey, brown sugar, eggs,<br />
avocados, yogurt, lemons, oatmeal and<br />
apple cider vinegar you have everything you<br />
need to give yourself a good cleansing and<br />
moisturizing facial.<br />
The most popular ingredient for the home<br />
facial is honey and brown sugar. Honey is<br />
an excellent deep cleanser and moisturizer<br />
and when combined with brown sugar, it<br />
becomes a moisturizing scrub. Honey also<br />
has antibacterial qualities, which help with<br />
the healing process of infections, wounds,<br />
minor burns and acne. Adding honey to<br />
your skin care regimen can help neutralize<br />
free radicals and help maintain the skin’s<br />
softness and elasticity. You can easily tailor<br />
your facial to meet the needs of your skin<br />
type. If you have dry skin, you can make a<br />
hydrating mask using honey, avocado, and<br />
yogurt. If you are suffering with acne, you<br />
can make an acne fighting mask with honey,<br />
egg white and lemon juice. If you happen<br />
to suffer from oily skin, try using yogurt,<br />
oatmeal and lemon juice.<br />
There are five basic steps to a facial—<br />
cleanse, exfoliate, mask, tone and<br />
moisturize. Before you begin, be sure to<br />
remove all of your make-up with a fragrance<br />
free make-up remover and cleanse your face<br />
with a sodium lauryl sulfate-free facial wash.<br />
Then follow one of the three mask regimen:<br />
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Dry Skin Mask: Take 2 to 3 ounces of raw honey, ½ ripe<br />
avocado and 1 ½ teaspoon of plain yogurt. Mix these<br />
ingredients together in a bowl until the mixture is pasty. The<br />
honey will help hold the other ingredients together so they<br />
do not slide off your face. Allow the mask to sit on your face<br />
for fifteen minutes, then gently rinse off with water.<br />
Acne Fighting Mask: Take 2 to 3 ounces of raw honey, 1 egg<br />
white and 1 teaspoon of lemon juice. Whip ingredients. The<br />
egg white may cause a slightly fluffy or creamy appearance.<br />
Apply mask to face. Allow mask to sit for fifteen minutes,<br />
then gently rinse off with water.<br />
Oily Skin Mask: Take 4 ounces of yogurt, ½ teaspoon of<br />
lemon juice, 2 teaspoons of plain oatmeal. Mix contents<br />
together until well blended. Because of the yogurt, this<br />
mask slides off the face. Allow to sit for fifteen minutes, then<br />
gently rinse off with water.<br />
Exfoliating Mask: 2 tablespoons of honey, 1 teaspoon of<br />
olive oil or Grapeseed oil, add in brown sugar. The mixture<br />
should have a granular feel to it. Apply mask to face in<br />
circular motion to cleanse and remove dead skin. After<br />
you finish this portion of the facial remove the mask with<br />
warm water and a clean towel. Tone your face with apple<br />
cider vinegar diluted with distilled water and use a natural<br />
moisturizer of your choice.<br />
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<strong>Optimal</strong> <strong>Living</strong><br />
Confession of Faith<br />
I am anointed in Christ and a powerful person of God.<br />
I am a joint-heir with Jesus and more than a conqueror.<br />
I am a doer of the Word of God and a channel for His blessings.<br />
If God be for me, who can be against me?<br />
I am blessed coming in and I am blessed going out.<br />
As I speak this confession, my enemies<br />
are fleeing before me Right Now! God has<br />
commanded His blessing on my storehouses.<br />
He has opened His Good treasures and I shall<br />
lend and not borrow. I am the head and not<br />
the tail.<br />
He has given me power to make wealth.<br />
I dwell in the secret place of the Most High.<br />
I have His protection and provision.<br />
God is my refuge, my fortress I am not afraid<br />
of the snare of the fowler.<br />
Make no mistake, no Evil shall befall me and<br />
no plague shall come near My dwelling.<br />
God has given his angels charge over me and<br />
they are bearing me up in their hands, lest<br />
I dash my foot against a stone, as declared<br />
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in Psalms 91. I Peter 2:9 establishes I am a<br />
chosen generation, A royal priesthood, a<br />
holy nation.I am a peculiar person called<br />
out of darkness Into His marvelous light. I<br />
Peter 2:24 states, “ I have been healed by<br />
the stripes of Jesus.”<br />
*Cancer, sugar diabetes, heart disease,<br />
sickness, afflictions, infections, mental<br />
illness, or any other disease can not enter<br />
my body. I am without spot or blemish, a<br />
prayer warrior, the righteousness of God,<br />
saved, and washed in the Blood of Jesus.*<br />
“No weapon formed against me shall<br />
prosper, and every tongue which rises<br />
against me in judgment You shall<br />
condemn.” Father God, I pray that those<br />
who read this confession choose abundant<br />
life, peace within their hearts, wisdom<br />
driven faith strategies for the days ahead<br />
and prosperity in their houses according to<br />
Psalms 122:6-9.<br />
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CANDIED WALNUT, PEAR, &<br />
LEAFY GREEN SALAD<br />
1/3 cup Blue Agave<br />
2/3 cup chopped walnuts, toasted<br />
Cooking spray<br />
1/2 teaspoon kosher salt, divided<br />
2 tablespoons white balsamic vinegar<br />
1 1/2 teaspoons Dijon mustard<br />
3 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil<br />
1 tablespoon capers, chopped<br />
4 cups torn green leaf lettuce<br />
4 cups chopped romaine lettuce<br />
4 cups chopped radicchio<br />
1 ripe red Anjou pear, thinly sliced<br />
1/4 teaspoon freshly ground black<br />
pepper<br />
Preparation<br />
1. Carefully pour Blue Agave over nuts to<br />
coat evenly. Spread nuts on a baking<br />
sheet coated with cooking spray;<br />
separate nuts quickly. Sprinkle with<br />
1/4 teaspoon salt. Set aside until cool;<br />
break into small pieces.<br />
2. Combine vinegar and mustard, stirring<br />
with a whisk. Gradually add oil, stirring<br />
constantly with a whisk. Stir in capers.<br />
3. Combine lettuces and radicchio; top<br />
with pear and candied walnuts. Drizzle<br />
dressing evenly over salad; sprinkle<br />
with remaining 1/4 teaspoon salt and<br />
pepper. Toss gently to combine.<br />
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CURRIED SALMON CAKES<br />
Ingredients<br />
Directions<br />
● 1 pound skinless salmon<br />
fillet, halved crosswise<br />
● 2 teaspoons curry powder,<br />
preferably hot<br />
● Kosher salt and freshly<br />
ground pepper<br />
● 8 tablespoons storebought<br />
tartar sauce<br />
● 1/4 cup cracker meal or<br />
crushed saltines, plus<br />
more for sprinkling<br />
● 2 tablespoons grated<br />
peeled ginger<br />
● 1 bunch scallions, finely<br />
chopped<br />
● 1 large egg, lightly beaten<br />
● 1/2 red bell pepper,<br />
seeded and diced<br />
● 2 stalks celery, thinly sliced<br />
● 1 mango, peeled, pitted<br />
and diced<br />
● Juice of 1 lime<br />
● Vegetable oil, for frying<br />
Put the salmon, 1 tablespoon water, 1 1/2 teaspoons<br />
curry powder, 1/2 teaspoon salt, and pepper to taste in a<br />
microwave-safe bowl.<br />
Cover with plastic wrap and microwave until the fish<br />
is opaque, 2 to 3 minutes. Flake with a fork and cool<br />
slightly. Stir in 1 tablespoon tartar sauce, the cracker<br />
meal, ginger, half of the scallions and the egg. Form into<br />
4 patties and freeze until firm, about 10 minutes.<br />
Meanwhile, whisk the remaining 7 tablespoons of tartar<br />
sauce and 1/2 teaspoon curry powder in a bowl. In a<br />
separate bowl, mix 1 tablespoon of the curried tartar<br />
sauce with the bell pepper, celery, mango, remaining<br />
scallions, lime juice, 1/4 teaspoon salt, and pepper to<br />
taste.<br />
Heat 1/4 inch of vegetable oil in a nonstick skillet over<br />
medium heat. Sprinkle the patties with cracker meal on<br />
both sides and fry until golden, 2 to 3 minutes per side.<br />
Drain on paper towels. Serve with the mango salad and<br />
curried tartar sauce.<br />
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