ProgressBook_Final_04-10-2020

Secondary Research
My secondary research has been focused on
figuring out the roots of commitment while
also affirming that lack of commitment within
relationships is a problem.
So how is it a problem? To most people a failed
relationship may be because of incompatibility
or them saying, “It just didn’t work out”. But what
keeps them from actually trying to make it work?
Throughout my initial research, it was
important for me to understand the dynamic
between a person and their relationship – the
root cause being themselves. What actually
keeps a person from trying is their lack
of commitment.
Well, what’s the big issue with
commitment anyway?
We define commitment as a way of dedication
and prevailing within a relationship. It’s the
component to what we might assume to be a
“successful” relationship. But why are people
so afraid of commitment?
People who fear commitment to a long-term
relationship can fall under one of these three
repeating patterns:
Fearful-Avoidant:
I want a committed relationship but I’m afraid
of getting hurt in some way or another.
Dismissive-Avoidant:
I do not need you nor do I need or want you
to depend on me.
Anxious-Preoccupied:
I want to be close to you, but I don’t think you
want to be close to me.
Following these patterns, I found that it’s also
because we’ve grown up in a generation where
our needs come first. So much so that we expect
things to fall in our lap and provide us with
benefits without having to work for it. But how
can we put in effort for a relationship when we
can barely afford an apartment?
“Trying to live with somebody else and putting
their needs first is more difficult when you have
been raised to put yourself first,”
Furthermore, It’s important to note that someone
may also avoid a relationship because of these
three categories:
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