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Sex: Lights On Or Off?
Body positivity can be promoted: for some spouses
the idea of being fully naked under a bright light can
be a bit scary. Putting the lights on while getting
intimate might initially seem incredibly intimidating if
you are not sexually confident about your body. One
percent of the Boost survey respondents said they
felt less self-conscious in the dark. Despite the fact
that you may have some hang ups about
undressing without the lights off, the chances are
that your significant other will deeply appreciate the
preview or full show. It might surprise you that they
won’t focus on the so-called ‘flaws’ you perceive
your body to have. It’s a pity we rarely see ourselves
as admiringly as others do.
*Helps you admire the sight of your partner and
vice versa: It is a well known fact that men are
visual creatures when it comes to getting carnal.
Many ladies also like to feast their eyes on their
partners’ bodies in the bedroom. Of those surveyed
who said they liked lights-on during liaisons, a
quarter reported that it made things feel more
exciting.
*Light adds colour to create enabling atmosphere.
“‘Chromo therapy’ is the art of using colour to
create or enhance particular physical and emotional
sensations – and using different hue of bulbs are a
brilliant way of bringing it into the boudoir. Red light
is said to boost desire and energy, while a blue bulb
can be calming, encouraging relaxation and
sensuality. Angling lights to cast sensual shadows
on the walls and watching your silhouettes play
together can be intensely erotic. It is also a good
beginner’s introduction to observing yourself having
sex if using mirrors seems too nerve-wracking.”
*With the lights on, you are sure of staying awake
after a long stressful day at work, making love is
what most people do. “Switch the light out, and
you’re more likely to pass out, without having gotten
round to sharing a close moment together – and if
this happens repeatedly over time, it can lead to
resentment, dissatisfaction or sexual stagnation.
Keeping the lights on can give you that extra burst
of energy you need. And then afterwards, you’ll
sleep deeper than an all-bass choir transported to
the bottom of the ocean in a submarine whilst
discussing philosophy. Deep.”
*There is a level of mystery to having sex in the
dark. It can create instant seduction, sultry mood,
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can be hot and physically flattering for everyone
involved, thereby giving couples a heightened sense
of confidence. Whereas, shying away from the light
can mean cheating yourself and your spouse out of
a mind-blowing sack session.
“It’s a myth that only men are visually oriented
during sex,” says New York City sex therapist, Ian
Kerner, Ph.D. and author of She Comes First. If you
can’t see your partner, you’re missing out on a huge
aspect of sensory stimulation, he says.
“With lights on, you expose yourself more to your
partner and create the opportunity to generate even
greater trust, and get to know one another even
better,” says Dana Weiser, Ph.D., an assistant
professor of human development and family studies
at Texas Tech University. It can be incredibly sexy,
she adds, because you get to make eye contact and
see your partner’s reactions to the pleasure you’re
giving them.
Hesitating about lighting it up in the bedroom, try
easing into it by flipping the switch after foreplay,
says Kerner. “As you get more aroused, your
inhibitions are lower and you might be more open to
letting in some light,” he says.
It is cool, do it any time whereas the tough thing
about only doing it in the dark is quite limiting, and
you are aware it is fun to get down any moment you
feel the mood is right. Having the lights on or doing it
in daylight opens up a little different world of new
sexy times of locations to explore.
*With the lights on, you are sure of him not
accidently putting It In your butt since that is not our
idea of a fun surprise. For those that are into
exercise, this is the time to show off the fruits of your
gym labour. Your butt looks good in those yoga
pants, it’s definitely going to look even better out of
them.
*It’s Basically Free Porn: Lights off sex are nice,
but you can’t watch yourself do it in pitch black. This
will give you the chance to know whether your guy
is a squinter or a jaw-dropper plus the fact that you
will like to witness the very moment when he
climaxes. The same is applicable to your guy
seeing your achieving orgasm too.
*You Avoid Sex Injuries:This is especially helpful
after a night of drinking. No one wants to make a
post-coital trip to the hospital.
Ensure to always keep your line of
communication open as you get to work together to
boost the physical intimacy in your relationship.
Constantly check with each other where you are in
your sex life. Continue to compromise with one
another by maintaining a generous spirit, as you
give and take on both sides.
Be open and honest with each of your sexual
desires. Gladly enjoy the journey and you can
always seek a professional to help deconstruct
limiting or unhealthy beliefs about intercourse in
marriage. Don’t forget that the investment you put in
your marital health and intimacy, are worth every bit
of your time and effort. You will definitely reap the
benefits for the rest of your lives.
Make tonight a show time by making out with
the lights on.
Talk
SPOT
By - Rita Okoye
What some of your favourite
celebrities said and we listened.
“Don’t trust everything you see
on social media, even salt
looks like sugar. Some people
aren’t really all they “post” to
be. So, live your life and be
content with whatever it is you
have and have achieved for
yourself. Do not wish to be like
anyone else. Secret of social
media is; Packaging is
EVERYTHING!”
Juliet Ibrahim hammers
on negativity of social
media.
“In the last 4 years I have
been done done with the
rat race of industry and
unrealistic hype to show
up. I quickly learned that
sometimes, the glitz came
no value and I craved
more substance than what
a repost on a blog could
get me. Change is hard
and this last season of
transformation has been a
blessing”.
Zainab returns to Social
media after a break.
“My arms no longer have the strength
to carry around narratives that do not
belong to me. Who I was before and
who I am now are two very different
people, and I will not give life to older
versions of me that you don’t
recognize anymore to make you feel
more comfortable”.
Diane Russets’ note to all.
“Hey sis, do not do wife
duties for girlfriend prices.
And in case you’re
wondering, wife duties
include; having a baby for a
man. Living with a man
you’re not married to. Being
there for him when he is
down. Cooking and doing
chores for him. If you gave all
that already, why would he
be in a hurry? Why buy the
cow when the milk is free?”
Princess writes open
letter to women.
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/July 12, 2020