2020 Optimal Living Magazine Winter Issue

How I Met & Married
My Man Of God
He Found Me Lost in My Father’s Word
I
first met my husband Octave in 1994,
when we were both 15 years old. At the
time, we were both in high school, and
I was only interested in being his friend.
I just thought he was a “nice and smart”
guy. Every time he would look at me, he
would look at me in such a way that clearly
showed me that he was interested in being
more than friends; but, our relationship
never developed into anything more.
Our conversations on the phone in our
teen years tended to range from what we
wanted to be when we became adults,
to the dangers of eating pork (that
I totally didn’t buy at the
By Mrs. Mishell Ellis
time, but later saw he was right). His
conversations were quite intellectual. He
was different...even then. The following
year I transferred to another high school
and I never saw or spoke to him again.
Nevertheless, I always wondered what
happened to him.
So much took place over the 20 years we
had not seen or spoken to each other. I
made mistakes in my personal life, though
one was a blessing,
having my
daughter. I firmly believe that all of my
steps prepared me for being reunited with
him. I had to realize that it was not just
me in this life, it was my daughter too. She
deserves the best role model there is, in
my eyes, she can look up to and know how
a man should treat a woman.
There comes a time when a person has
to say enough is enough and needs to
take a step back and evaluate one’s self.
My “aha” moment happened in 2014. I let
go of what was slowly draining me and
focused more on pleasing God and
not myself. I went to church and
it felt so good! A load had been
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