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Serving the Mid-South LGBT+ Community and its Allies | NOV+DEC 2020
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CONTENTS
7 THEME: GO!
8 ASK ALLIE
Are you COVID-Lonely? Don’t despair!
10 FOCUS SOCIAL MEDIA
NOV+DEC 2020
12 COMMUNITY
We already rolled out the Focus Awards
virtually. Here, we roll out the winners!
14 LGBT ADVOCATE
Meet Vanessa Rodley, leader of Mid-South
Pride and the novel Virtual Pride Week.
16 ARTS+ENTERTAINMENT
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18 COMMUNITY
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20 ORIGINAL MEMPHIS
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Park to see its great outdoors, go-to amenities.
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22 TRANSFOCUS
November includes both Trans Awareness
Week and Trans Remembrance Day.
OUTMemphis leaders tell us how we as a
community can support our trans members.
24 FAITH+SPIRITUALITY
November and December are holiday mashup
months for different faith traditions. Rev. Pete
Gathje helps us parse out the meaning of each.
26 PET FOCUS
All creatures great and small deserve care. See
how one local wildlife rehabber does her part.
28 HEALTH+WELLNESS
Sadly, the already at-risk LGBTQ community
has it’s share of depression and suicide. Read
how one Memphis group’s prevention hotline is
helping to save those in despair.
30 LGBT ALLY
Allan Creasy has always been a guy who
dives right in – from politics to bartender
extraordinaire. Meet this Memphis dynamo!
32 LGBT HISTORY
Recent years have no special claim to
queerness. Vincent Astor introduces us to 19th
century female, and male, impersonators.
34 COMMUNITY
There’s a new radio station in town that casts a
wide net over music genres and lifestyles.
36 FOOD+DRINK
Marisa Baggett is a sushi and deli chef who’s
also kosher certified. ‘Busy’ doesn’t cover it!
38 ARTS+ENTERTAINMENT
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39 ARTS+ENTERTAINMENT
Ray Rico gives you his Pop Culture picks.
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life
DEAR
WINK
Dear Allie,
I’ve been a good boy and have been
home safe and solo during quarantine.
Let me tell you, it has gotten boring
and lonely. I miss hanging out with my
friends, flirting, even going on dates.
Aside from video chats and phone calls,
it is hard for a gay guy to date in the life
of the ‘Rona. I don’t really like the apps
and find myself going down endless
chats and no-gos. Got any tips?
Yours,
Missing a Wink from a Stranger
Dear WINK,
You may be alone, but you are
certainly not alone in this struggle.
The social isolation that has been a
necessary response to Ms. ‘Rona has
been especially hard on people who live
alone. So, let’s explore some of what
you are probably missing from those
fun, flirty nights and see if we can keep
you going until Ms. ‘Rona is long gone.
COVID-19
BEING ALONE
DOESN’T HAVE
TO FEEL LONELY
by Sarah Rutledge Fischer
One of the things you are probably missing more
than you realize is conversation with strangers. As a
culture, we tend to discount casual interactions with
strangers, deeming them awkward, but studies show
that short interactions with strangers leave people
feeling happier and more connected. You may be
spending more time at home these days, but when
you do go out, put away your phone and talk with the
people around you. Even if it feels awkward, it might
also leave you feeling less isolated for the rest of the
day.
And speaking of connections with strangers,
spontaneity is probably something you are missing
in your dating life these days. Online dating has
advantages, but browsing a profile lacks the
mystery and excitement of meeting the eye of an
attractive stranger across the bar. One
entertaining, if unpredictable, way to satisfy the
need for an occasional sexy flirtation is to use one
of the global video chat services like Omeagle or
Chatroulette. Both of these services have a welldeserved
reputation for unsolicited sexual content
(Allie encountered three, ahem, eggplants before
enjoying a flirty conversation with a very
attractive and fully clothed Frenchman.), so user
beware.
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VOICES OF VISION ONLINE CHRISTMAS CONCERT
Once you’ve had your fill of random video
contacts, you might want to return to your online
dating options to seek real connection. When
you’re online dating, the endless chats can all start
to feel the same. So instead of staying on the
surface, try going deep. Once you’ve decided that
you might click with someone, instead of the usual
questions and awkward flirtations, propose asking
each other the famous 36 questions set forth by
psychologist Arthur Aron (https://nyti.
ms/30Nhkim). Designed to be answered in order
by two people sitting face to face, the questions
begin light and build in intensity, with the goal of
encouraging vulnerability and building intimacy. It
might go nowhere, but it will certainly be more
interesting than the usual dating app chat.
Now, the last topic is a bit touchy. Okay, very
touchy. Okay, it’s touch—physical touch. Gentle
physical touch does a ton of good for our bodies
and minds—from lowering the effects of stress to
triggering the release of oxytocin and cortisol.
Touch deprivation, which can result from long
periods of not being touched, can result in
increased feelings of anxiety and depression,
difficulty sleeping, and heightened stress.
But what can you do when touching someone
who isn’t already a part of your immediate circle is
dangerous? You give yourself the sensations of
touch that your body needs. For sexual touch, this
means that when you masturbate, rather than
falling into your regular routine, slow down and
pay attention to the sensations of your skin.
Outside of sexual touch, even taking time to
mindfully rub a gentle hand across your own arm
or down your own neck can trigger the
physiological benefits of touch. (According to a
2017 study, the ideal touching speed is between 3
and 5 centimeters per second.) Mindfulness of
touch sensations can also help--pay attention to
the feeling of your foot against the ground or the
coolness of water as it flows down your throat.
Embrace other tactile comforts such as a taking a
hot bath, using a weighted blanket, or snuggling
with a pet.
None of this is a substitute for the joy of
spending time out in the world with beloved
friends and attractive strangers. But for now, it just
might get you through until Ms. ‘Rona is gone. At
the very least, it should get you started.
Your friend,
Allie
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It was an evening of glitz, glam,
phenomenal honorees, and....roller skating!
Yep, Focus publisher, Ray Rico, in a
dramatic performance that would have
dominated at the Oscars, decided to ‘roll
out’ the stress of creating a ‘Virtual Focus
Awards 2020’ with a roller skating dream
sequence set to Olivia Newton John’s
Xanadu (with parody lyrics). Memphis
producer Savannah Bearden was a crucial
partner in this couple’s skate, weaving
together all the virtual parts into a DeMilleesque
vision.
Did Rico really stress? Probably. Did he
love every minute of producing the virtual
ceremony? Absolutely!! It was his, and the
community’s, opportunity to honor the
great work of LGBTQ+ persons and allies
in the Mid-South. And thanks entirely to
COVID-19, it was all presented during
Mid-South Pride’s own virtual Pride Week
celebration.
Congratulations to all of our nominees
and a special nod to this year’s honorees.
Wanna see the entire virtual
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Watch it now on YouTube:
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AND THE WINNERS ARE:
D.R.U.S. BAR | TAMI MONTGOMERY
JERRED PRICE
As the People’s Choice winner, Jerred was
awarded $7,500 to give to the charity of his
choice. Jerred selected the Elton John AIDS
Foundation to receive the award.
JOHNATHAN UNDERWOOD
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lgbt advocate
Sarah Rushakoff Q&A with
VANESSA
RODLEY
With a dogged determination to keep the beloved festival alive amid the
COVID-19 pandemic, Rodley led a team of volunteers at Mid-South Pride
to produce a novel Pride Week 2020 — the Virtual Edition.
photo by Sarah Rushakoff
Have you had to get creative
with your career during the
pandemic?
Oh, absolutely. I was
working 80+ hours a week last
year, so my wife and I decided
I was going to take the first
few months of 2020 off, focus
on my health, and then jump
back out there. Well, then
COVID happened. So we had
to reevaluate the pros and
cons of me going back to
work. People weren’t really
hiring, so I only worked for
Pride this year. I don’t get paid
to do this, but I knew I needed
to really step up and lead us in
the right direction. I have a
great board but they aren’t
used to planning a virtual
event like this. I’d say I did
about 80 percent of the work
for virtual pride. I do have to
say, I couldn’t do this without
my wife. She is my second
brain.
Was it a hard decision to go
virtual?
Pride is a feeling. You
cannot cancel a feeling. We
had to find a way to make that
happen at home for people.
We tried to get in front of it
as early as we could, especially
since we knew some of the
smaller prides in the area
would look to us and follow
our lead. I watched all the
virtual events I could and took
notes, so we could create an
event people would want to
participate in from home. We
used Global Pride as our
template for how we wanted
to do things and engage
people.
Instead of doing a live
caravan that would encourage
people to gather in large
groups, we pre-recorded the
entire thing so it was easy to
watch it from home. That
ended up being amazing.
Overall, we streamed about 20
hours of festival content
between Thursday and
Sunday. We had 24,000
people watch.
What aspects of a physical
festival were the most
difficult to recreate virtually?
A big part of the feedback
we get every year is that
someone found a church that
accepts them. It’s lifechanging
for a lot of people,
especially here in the south. So
we planned a multi-faith virtual
service with 32 participating
congregations, way more than
in past years. I’d talked to
Reverend Sam [Teitel] over at
Church of the River, and he did
an amazing job getting a lot of
congregations involved.
Our nonprofits that do HIV
testing, or PrEP, and things like
that, rely on the day of pride to
get the most tests
administered as possible. We
dedicated Thursday to make
sure our community is aware
of these places. We invited
nonprofits to share a video
about who they are, what they
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Pride is a feeling.
You cannot cancel a feeling.
We had to find a way
to make that happen
at home for people.
— Rodley on cancelling the live Pride week
versus producing a virtual Pride Week
do, and why they need our
support. I personally learned
so much about our nonprofits
than I ever knew before.
What other events do y’all
have besides the annual
festival and parade?
For years, I’d been trying to
bring our community a 5k, the
first LGBTQ 5k in our region.
We went virtual and hit our
target goal for our first year,
which was great. We’re
bringing it back for 2021. Also,
we did the Drag N Drive this
year, it sold out almost ten
days before the event. We had
people begging for tickets and
we couldn’t give any more,
because the health
department was strict about
the number of cars. For next
year, we’ll just do two screens,
or even more. We tried to run
a poker tournament, but the
legalities were too hard to deal
with. We hope to do it in the
future.
What is Mid-South Pride
doing as an organization to
serve the Black and POC
LGBTQ community in
Memphis?
A lot of people don’t realize
we have Tri-State Black Pride.
They have more of an
education base, so their
platform is more hosting
things for people to learn.
We’ve teamed up with
Headliners Memphis, they did
a virtual pull-up event for
pride about sexual health. We
shared My Sistah’s House on
both Thursday and Saturday to
help share their message and
help with their funding. The
PAIGE [The Project of
Advancement in Gays’ Efforts]
is amazing, and we shared
their video on Thursday as
well. We hope to start teaming
up with more organizations in
the future and sharing what
they do.
I was raised in Los Angeles,
so I have a more forwardthinking
upbringing than most
people here in the south. Not
saying that my thinking was
better, but I was raised
differently. When I got here, I
saw the division. We went out
of our way this year to make
sure we had equal parts Black
to white, try to bring brown
and Asian into this as well, so
we can show diversity across
the board. I joined the board
eight years ago and there have
been an average of two Black
or POC board members ever
since then. We are all in.
Do you plan to keep having a
virtual component for the
future? How will pride look in
2021?
Even if we do have in-person
events in the next few years,
there will be people who can’t
be there because of health
issues, but they still want to
celebrate. Now that we’ve
learned how to do it virtually,
we’ll use aspects of that every
year. For 2021, we’re moving
Mid-South Pride to the first
weekend in June. We’re calling
it “Going Home to June.”
Hopefully it can be physical, if
not, it’ll be virtual.
Above, Rodley at the 2017 Pride Fest in Memphis. Below left,
Rodley with Pride staffer Matt Doyle, at the 2019 Pride Fest.
Rodley
©Kevin Reed Photography
Upper right group: For the virtual Pride this year, the Pride
volunteers prepared ‘Pride Packs’ for those watching the
streaming show. Pick ups. From left, Rodley, and board
members Kelly Carpenter, Matt Doyle, Jennifer Murry
Lower group: Board members Lexie Hatcher, Jennifer Murry,
Jr Stone, and Rodley, close the Pride Festival with a Grand
Marshals Sunday Brunch.
Rodley Rodley
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lgbt arts+entertainment
senior
INSIDE
story by Romeo San Vicente
Boys In The Band star Robin de
Jesús goes Boom
What we love most in this life is a real queen, someone whose
flashing discoball personality you can feel from miles away. And
if you watched the recent Netflix update of Boys In The Band,
you saw Camp star Robin de Jesus, then you witnessed a
queenly performance of extravagant proportions. Rooting for
this three-time Tony nominated actor is one of our hobbies and
we’re thrilled to see him included in the cast of the upcoming
directorial debut from Lin-Manuel Miranda, Tick, Tick… Boom!
Based on the semi-autobiographical stage musical from Rent
creator Jonathan Larson, the story concerns an aspiring theater
composer approaching 30 and despairing that he might not
realize his dreams (no spoilers intended, but we’re going to
assume it has a happy ending). The cast for this one is
impressive: de Jesús is joined by Andrew Garfield, Alexandra
Shipp, Vanessa Hudgens, Bradley Whitford and Judith Light. It’s
all just getting underway right now, so maybe by the time it’s
ready to hit a big screen… well, you know.
Kaley Cuoco takes off in
The Flight Attendant
Like so many experiences with air travel, The Flight Attendant
hit some pretty major turbulence. The new Kaley Cuoco-starring
limited series based on the novel of the same name by Chris
Bohjalian and executive produced by Greg Berlanti (Love,
Simon), was in the middle of shooting its first season for HBO
Max when the COVID shutdown began. Then in late August
production resumed on the remaining episodes for a future air
date. The story involves Cuoco’s flight attendant waking up in
Dubai on a layover, with a hangover and a dead body lying next
to her. Unable to remember the night before, she begins to think
she might be the killer. We love a murder mystery and we also
love it when a sitcom powerhouse changes up her career with
something unsavory. The supporting cast includes Rosie Perez,
Bebe Neuwirth, our favorite Girls “girl” Zosia Mamet and the
return of Grey’s Anatomy’s T.R. Knight. So we’ll be streaming
along when this one finally arrives, later than expected,
sometime in November.
Tessa Thompson finds Jazz Age
romance in Sylvie’s Love
Cue up our enthusiasm for Sylvie’s Love. Written and directed
by Eugene Ashe (director of the 2012 indie feature
Homecoming), it stars queer fave Tessa Thompson and former
NFL All-Pro player-turned-actor Nnamdi Asomugha as lovers in
1957 New York. She dreams of working in TV and he’s a
struggling jazz saxophonist. When circumstances separate
them and pull them in
different directions,
they become mutual
“One(s) That Got Away.”
Fast forward many
years later to a reunion
and one more chance
for romance. The film
co-stars Eva Longoria,
Wendi McLendon-
Covey (The Goldbergs),
Aja Naomi King (How To
Get Away with Murder),
and Jemima Kirke
(Girls). Amazon drops
this one on Christmas
Day, and with the period setting and the promise of that kind of
only-in-the-movies romance, it sounds like the perfect gift.
Meet Sam Jay, Late Night Host
It’s very possible you aren’t aware of Sam Jay. The Black
lesbian stand-up comic has appeared on Netflix’s The Comedy
Lineup and starred in her own Comedy Central special, before
getting her own Netflix standup special in 2020, Sam Jay: 3 in
the Morning. But in a world of too many TV choices, you might
still have missed her. It’s more likely that you know her work as a
writer on Saturday Night Live as the co-creator of the recurring
sketch, “Black Jeopardy.” Well, you’ll soon be able to see her
work on HBO as the host of an as-yet-untitled late night series
– one executive produced by Insecure showrunner Prentice
Penny – where she’ll dissect culture and politics from her unique
perspective. Currently, Peacock is streaming another late night
format show hosted by a Black woman, The Amber Ruffin Show,
which means all we need now is for another platform to do the
same thing for this to become the trend it always should have
been. For now at least it’s a welcome future disruption in the
late night world of seemingly endless white dudes. Jay’s HBO
bow takes place sometime in 2021.
PHOTO BY KATHCLICK
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story and photos by Tricia Dewey
With the opening of their new
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District slightly farther west than
their original building, Choices
staff and patients are wrapped in
the quilt-like outer coat that
architect Peter Warren used for
the exterior of the new building.
Choices executive director
Rebecca Terrell and architect
Peter Warren coordinated on the
idea of the green quilt-like pattern
‘as a Southern symbol of comfort,
strength, and diversity that holds
all these diverse pieces and
makes up this beautiful and
strong thing that is very much
what Choices is.’
Choices opened in 1974
immediately after Roe v. Wade
was decided; several Midtown
women bought a building, hired a
doctor, and organized the clinic
as a nonprofit to provide
reproductive rights services. For
the initial 20 years, it was a first
trimester abortion care and birth
control provider. In the last 10 or
15 years their services began to
expand, and in 2013 Choices
sought to physically grow their
practice. Katy Leopard, director
of external affairs at Choices, says
it was then that they saw birth
and prenatal care as part of that
reproductive life journey. “There
was a real need in our community
for some choices around birth.”
The board agreed and a
marketing study showed that the
community also embraced this
idea. In 2014 they started the
process of raising $6 million. Six
years later, the result is a brand
new, full services reproductive
rights facility that more than
triples their capacity to see
patients.
Making their case to funders,
Choices felt they had a powerful
story to tell about the purpose of
their new project. First, it was
about reducing the stigma
around abortion. Providing
abortion in the context of birth,
prenatal care, and all of their
other services defines it as a part
of reproductive health care.
Second, from a business
standpoint, by diversifying
services, Choices can continue to
operate if abortion becomes
impossible to provide. Leopard
says, the third reason is the
community need. “They need
choices around birth. Bodily
autonomy is really what we’re
about,” she said citing abortion,
birthing methods, trans
healthcare, and life choices as
decisions that should be left to
individuals.
It’s an experience just walking
from the private parking lot to the
secure entrance in the back of the
building. Leopard says, “It is
inspiring. I’ve had so many people
tell me this is the one bright spot
in their 2020. And it certainly is
for me. We’ve been open and
running since September 8. And
we’re the first in the country as a
nonprofit to do full spectrum
reproductive health including
abortion and birth under the
same roof.”
The secure, back entrance is a
covered open air seating area
that can eventually open to the
interior spaces to host
community events, documentary
screenings, or panel discussions
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for community education around
midwifery and other aspects of
Choices services. Stepping inside,
the large and bright waiting area
is welcoming and airy. The three
birthing suites upstairs are the
crown jewels of this new space,
each outfitted with a double bed,
birthing tub for two, space for a
birthing sling, and an outdoor
area.
The focus on the birthing
center brings additional work on
maternal health care. Choices is
working to advocate for better
TennCare reimbursement rates
for births and for postnatal care
and to improve the outcomes in
this area for their uninsured,
underinsured, and TennCare
populations. Choices is now able
to provide natural childbirth and
home birth options to their
patients on TennCare, which
includes about 70% of their birth
patients. According to Leopard,
after care with Choices, patients
are faring much better than
Shelby County statistics. “Our
folks are all breastfeeding, they
are carrying to term, they have
healthy babies, families are good.
We really think postpartum care
is a really important part of that.”
Currently the four midwives on
staff at Choices are working on
home or hospital births. The birth
center will be credentialed by the
state in November 2020 and then
be ready for use. Choices expects
200 deliveries there in the next
year.
All of the new developments at
Choices track with their
philosophy of bodily autonomy.
Leopard explains, “There’s so
much in the health care world,
where people are being told what
they can and cannot do and some
of it wasn’t based on medical
facts. So back in 2009 we decide
to start a fertility practice
because we had heard that the
fertility practices here in Memphis
would not work with you if you
were not married to someone of
the opposite sex. And to us that
was crazy.” Choices doesn’t treat
infertility but it can order sperm,
do inseminations, and track
cycles. In their birth center,
families of all types can now give
birth and not feel any kind of
stigma.
After opening their fertility
practice, Choices started to see
many patients who reported a
real need for a safe space for
sexual and reproductive health
that is open, welcoming, and
culturally competent to serve the
LGBTQ+ community. They began
a dialogue with the community to
learn more. Leopard explains,
“We heard good and bad things
on our journey. When we started
serving the trans population we
had a real education process to
go through with our staff and that
was good and it’s ongoing, it
doesn’t end….We have almost
200 patients who come to us
from a 300-mile radius or more
because we don’t require a letter
from a counselor, we have a
payment plan, and other things
like that that make the hormone
replacement or whatever the care
is accessible.”
Joy Evans is Choices’ LGBTQ+
coordinator who responds to
these and other LGBTQ+ patients
who have questions about
Choices services provided and
costs. She is a friendly face to
answer questions and provide
information about Choices
available health care services.
Like Choices itself, Evans and
other staff expect to revel in their
beautiful new space and turn
their focus to the quality of their
expanded services.
Above left, the lobby of the new
Choices building features tons of
natural light and bright, cheerful
colors. Above right, a meeting
space in subdued, calm tones. At
left, a state of the art birthing suite
that includes a birthing tub for
two, double bed, space for a
birthing sling, and an outdoor
space directly accessible from the
birthing suite.
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MEEMAN-SHELBY FOREST STATE PARK
story and photos by Tricia Dewey
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Located on the third Chickasaw
Bluff, Meeman-Shelby Forest State
Park is 13 miles north of Memphis
and contains 12,529 acres of
oak-hickory forest, two lakes, 20
miles of hiking trails, a biking trail,
two disc golf courses, and miles of
fresh air. This Tennessee State Park
is a 30-minute drive from the
Memphis area and perfect for a
morning, afternoon, or even
overnight camping or cabin
excursion. If you have only visited
for the First Day Hike or Memphis
Runners 10-milers (otherwise
known as “the beast”) you are
missing out.
Meeman-Shelby Forest State Park
is situated adjacent to land managed
by the Tennessee Wildlife Resources
Agency that fronts the Mississippi
River and is managed for hunting
and fishing access. Next to these
bottomlands, Meeman-Shelby
Forest rises from 180- to 200-foot
bluffs that were formed by silt from
glacial deposits during the Ice Age.
These bluffs are now covered with
oak, American beech, hickory, sweet
gum, several champion trees, and
other endangered and protected
plants.
Meeman-Shelby Forest State Park
began as Shelby Forest State Park
and was a New Deal-established
recreation demonstration area run
by the National Park Service in the
1930s. According to a monument to
the Civilian Conservation Corps
(CCC) next to the visitor center, the
CCC worked to develop the park,
and later the Works Progress
Administration (WPA) continued
the work. Between 1933 and 1941
the CCC and WPA built the
Mississippi River Group Camp,
established trails and picnic areas,
and planted 200,000 black locust
trees. In 1944, Meeman-Shelby
Forest was deeded to the state for
use and oversight. Edward J.
Meeman, editor of the Memphis
Press-Scimitar, was instrumental in
helping to establish Great Smoky
Opposite page, a barred
owlet. The 13,476-acre park is
home to over 240 species of
birds including the barred owl.
In 2006, The Audubon Society
designated Meeman-Shelby
an Important Bird Area.
Activities and amenities within the park include playgrounds, disc golf, boating, camping,
cabins, hiking trails, birding, horseback riding trails, fishing, and Mississippi River boat launches.
Mountains National Park and
Meeman-Shelby Forest. He owned a
farm near the park and according to
tennesseeencyclopedia.net he
“insisted that forests in his region
could be made to prosper once
again.”
When the pandemic hit in
March, the park rangers and staff
took the opportunity to work on
some spring cleaning projects in the
campground areas and other
facilities, but since then according
to James Wilkinson, park manager,
they have been open and running
full steam with CDC and state
protocols in place. The afternoon
visits have been increasing as have
been the weekenders but there is
plenty of space for distanced
outdoor fun. “We have a 49-site
campground. We’ve got three
primitive sites and we have six rental
cabins that are located right on
Poplar Tree lake. So it’s just a nice
little way to get away that’s close,
kind of like a staycation.” The park
also contains meeting rooms and
tn.gov
outdoor areas suitable for weddings.
Wilkinson says that fall in
particular is a nice time to visit the
park. “Usually what will happen
during the fall of the year is we will
see an increase especially in the
camping on the weekends. We have
a lot more people that are staying a
lot closer just because of everything
going on, which is really nice. It’s
just a beautiful time to come out...
we are getting into the time when
the leaves are falling and this place
is really pretty driving through the
roadways and just seeing the color
changes.”
Any of the hiking trails are
moderately easy walks and the
biking trail is partly paved and rated
moderate. Poplar Tree Lake is a nice
paddle and following the shore line
can bring you close to great blue
herons and other native birds. There
are several bald eagle nests here and
sightings are not uncommon.
Wilkinson says they see bobcats
fairly often and he has noticed more
turkeys in the park this year. Check
out their Facebook page for their
programming and posts like the
Meeman Minute about local plants,
animals, and conservation ideas.
Seasonal ranger Eric Rosenthal’s
posts about snakes that he looks for
around the park are especially
educational and entertaining.
Campsites, cabins (which sleep up to
six people), and other
accommodations can be reserved on
their website or over the phone.
Their First Hike, Swamp Canoe
Float, and other special events are
popular. As Wilkinson says “it’s
really close to the city but we are a
great little getaway, even for an
afternoon, to get away from the
hustle and bustle…. Being outside
does a lot of things--you get your
exercise, you get out into the fresh
air, it’s also a quiet place, good place
to reflect and just be able to slow
down a little bit, take some time,
enjoy nature, and enjoy what’s out
there.” At Meeman-Shelby Forest
State Park what is out there is good
for the soul.
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Transgender Awareness Week is
Nov. 13-19 with the Day of
Remembrance on Nov. 20. What
is OUTMemphis planning?
We’re going to do a week-long
event on our social media
accounts, having LGBTQ
community members post
photos and quotes about their
experiences of what it means to
be part of the community.
It’s important to have the
week of awareness before the
day of remembrance so that we
have something that focuses on
the positive aspects of the trans
community. While I think it’s
important to hold space for our
community members who were
lost, it’s also important to
consider how we can stop the
violence. We can do that by
normalizing the existence of
trans people.
What resources does
OUTMemphis have for trans
people?
We are in the process of going
through our Trans Best of
Memphis survey, updating this
year’s guide to doctors, gyms,
and many types of places where
trans people have told us they
feel comfortable going.
The Latinx trans community is
helping us by translating the
survey into Spanish. The survey
is still open. We want the best
community resource
representation possible before
we end the survey and publish
the guide.
If someone needs a specific
resources now, email info@
outmemphis.org or call (901)
278-6422. Trans Lifeline is also
available for community
members in crisis. Call (877)
565-8860; all the operators are
trans-identified.
Does OUTMemphis still have
support groups?
Yes! We have weekly virtual
groups on Zoom for transidentified
folks. For LGBTQ+ or
allied youth, we have two groups
split by age: for ages 13 to 17, we
have PRYSM; those 18 to 25 can
attend GenQ.
Virtual T is another group for
ages 18+ on the trans spectrum
including gender non
conforming and non-binary
folks. Some people attend GenQ
and Virtual T, especially if they
need that space to connect with
other community members.
How can CIS people learn more
about the trans experience to
be good allies?
Look up people like Janet
Mock and Laverne Cox, who
have really good social media
presences, written works, and
interviews that are easy to find.
Great websites include GLSN
(Gay, Lesbian and Straight
Education Network - info
especially for youth); HRC
(Human Rights Campaign - basic
information); TSER (Trans
Student Educational Network);
the National Center for Trans
Equality; GLAAD; and others.
Books, even older ones like
Transgender Warriors, talk about
TRANSGENDER
AWARENESS WEEK and DAY OF REMEMBRANCE
transfocus
by Sarah Rushakoff with Alexander Hauptman, OUTMemphis Transgender Services Manager
Alex Hauptman (left),
OUTMemphis Transgender
Services Manager (he/him),
and Mackenzie Williams (she/
her), who currently holds the
Trans Services Fellowship with
OUTMemphis).
how long trans and gender
nonconforming people have
been in different cultures
throughout history. It makes the
point that we’ve always existed
and we’re not just going to go
away. It’s important that people
understand that, acknowledge it,
and celebrate it.
What can we change in
Memphis to better support
people on the trans spectrum?
No one thing is gonna make
trans people safe, and get jobs,
and get housed. I think even just
doing the work in your own head
to check your assumptions,
educate yourself, and learn how
to call people out and disrupt
some of the harmful patterns in
our society. You have the ability
to improve your behavior, and
model it for others.
Do what you have the power
to do. If you’re working in an
office and you deal with
paperwork, make sure people
can list their pronouns and the
name they go by if they haven’t
changed it legally. If you work in
an apartment complex and see
trans people being discriminated
against, speak up for them. It
doesn’t take a lot to start shifting
systems to be more welcoming.
Even for me, someone who
“passes” pretty well, there are
still plenty of men’s bathrooms
that I can’t use because there are
no stalls and no lock on the door.
That’s my pet peeve, not being
able to pee.
What changes would you like to
see in Memphis and beyond
between now and Transgender
Awareness Week 2021?
Access to gender-affirming
healthcare and medical transition
measures, finding doctors who
care about interacting with trans
patients in a respectful manner
and who put the effort into
actually learning about hormone
treatments would be huge.
With trans youth, there’s a
ripple effect. If a child doesn’t
feel safe in school, they’re not
going to go. If they don’t go to
school, it’s hard to get good jobs.
When they’re bullied and
harassed and kicked out of the
house, sometimes they have to
turn to alternate means of
getting by. They’re more likely to
turn to self-medicating, attempt
suicide, become incarcerated,
and end up with HIV, which has
infection rates that are much
higher in the trans population.
A lot of progress has been
rolled back over the past few
years when it comes to creating
safer spaces in schools for trans
youth. Legislators have been
going after access to sports,
extracurricular activities, and the
bathroom. With better policies,
and teachers who are supportive
and use the correct names and
pronouns and shield vulnerable
kids from bullying, kids can
succeed rather than fail.
Recently there was another
trans woman murdered in
Louisiana, which was the year’s
32nd reported murder of a trans
person, the highest reported
number of any year so far. We
still put our focus on the
violence. Why aren’t we also
putting effort into addressing
the unhealthy masculinity that
perpetuates it? Giving these
perpetrators access to mental
health tools without shame or
stigmas, so their own internalized
issues aren’t causing someone
else to be assaulted or murdered.
That’s a piece of the
conversation that’s typically
missing.
For a full list of OUTMemphis’
trans services, go to
outmemphis.org/programsservices/transgender/
Trans Awareness Week
activities are on facebook.
com/outmemphis/?ref=page_
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NOVEMBER & DECEMBER
HOLIDAYS
by Peter R. Gathje
At the December 2019 holiday festival in Haifa,
Israel, a Christmas tree, Star of David-shaped
menorah, and a star and crescent, symbolize the
three major world religions in a sign of coexistence.
Photo: Shutterstock
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Faith and the holidays are
inextricably bound together. Yet
the religious traditions that gave
birth to the “holiday season” are
perhaps as difficult to negotiate
as a holiday meal with a
distempered relative. Is there a
“war on Christmas?” Should we
tell our child that Santa Claus is
a fantasy? Should people who
are not Christian put up a tree
and exchange gifts? Do Muslims
have a holiday to celebrate this
time of year? Is Hannukah the
Jewish Christmas? What are
Hindus doing putting up all
those lights? Do Buddhists see
Jesus as a Bodhisattva?
Even starting to ask those
questions is a sure way to get
into hot water. What religious
traditions were not mentioned?
Who gets to speak for what a
religion holds? A quick read of
articles that examine being
Buddhist, or Muslim, or Jewish,
or Hindu, or anything other than
Christian at Christmastime,
reveals the difficulties of
negotiating various religious
traditions in the holiday season.
The flipside to such potential
for controversy is that the faiths
celebrating during “the holidays”
are as delightfully diverse as
“the holidays” themselves. It is
true that in the U.S. the holidays
originated in the celebration of
the Christian feast of Christmas.
Yet the holidays today, at their
best, have expanded to draw in
celebrants from a variety of
faiths and no faith at all.
And here is where we might
want to focus. At the heart of
the holidays, in all of the faiths,
is a wonderful affirmation of
human compassion, of the
goodness of human life, and the
triumph of good over evil and
light over darkness. This heart of
the holidays even plays out in
secular versions that appear in
holiday movies and days off of
work to gather with family and
friends. In this holiday spirit we
can go with the Buddhist monk
Ajahn Chah who said, “Anything
that inspires us to see what is
true and do what is good is
proper practice.”
For those in the Christian
tradition, human compassion,
hope, and the victory of
goodness are grounded in the
celebration of the birth of Jesus.
In Luke’s Gospel, Jesus’ birth is
marked by angels who appear
praising God and proclaiming,
“on earth peace among those
with whom God is pleased.”
Within Judaism, the Feast of
Hannukah celebrates the
rededication of the Second
Temple after the overthrow of
foreign rule. The lighting of the
Menorah commemorates the
miracle of enough lamp oil in
those days of scarcity to keep
the lamp in the Temple lit for
eight days. For Buddhists,
“Bodhi Day” on December 8th
recalls the day of Buddha’s
enlightenment under the Bodhi
tree. The Hindu feast of Diwali is
a festival of lights, and across its
many meanings is a shared
affirmation of the victory of light
over darkness, knowledge over
ignorance, and good over evil.
For Muslims, Eid al-Fitr marks
the end of Ramadan. Renewed
Each faith in its distinctive way
remembers the goodness of life,
of being with each other,
and the responsibility to
be compassionate and seek
the well-being of others.
in their faith through the
practices of Ramadan, Muslims
emerge with refreshed
connection with each other and
with the world, celebrated with
gatherings and good food.
Each faith in their distinctive
ways remembers the goodness
of life, of being with each other,
and the responsibility to be
compassionate and seek the
well-being of others. Each faith
also recalls people to a kind of
humility and shared humanity.
Jesus was born on the margins,
in an obscure corner of the
Roman Empire, to a people
enduring foreign occupation. He
comes, as he says, “to bring
good news to the poor.” The
Menorah was lit as a way for the
Jewish people to once again
affirm their existence against
powerful forces that sought to
extinguish them. The Buddha
emptied of the trappings of
wealth and status came to
enlightenment under the Bodhi
tree. Dwali’s lamps symbolize
the inner light that protects
from spiritual darkness, and
the defeat of those forces that
try to coerce us towards evil.
Eid al-Fitr affirms the
goodness of spending time
with loved ones, of shared
meals, of sharing with the
poor, and gathering for
worship of God.
There is in these religious
traditions, at the heart of the
holidays, a counter-cultural
message that is often lost in
the sea of consumerism that
now surrounds the holiday
season. Joy comes in
attending to our relationships
with family and friends, with
each other, and not in the
acquisition of more and more
things. Love affirms the
goodness of each person in the
midst of our diversities if we are
to live well together. Hope
realistically acknowledges the
difficulties and dangers of
human life, but still affirms life
shared with each other is worth
living. Faith undergirds joy, and
love, and hope. And faith in this
holiday season, affirms that
sorrow, separation, and the
shadows of our lives, may be our
teachers if we listen to the
wisdom that life is stronger than
death, and that light is stronger
than darkness.
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OUT OF THE
WOODS:
A NEW ANIMAL
RESCUE
story and photos by Robin Beaudoin Ownby
Wildlife rescues and
rehabbers are a rare and wild
breed themselves, waving off
the ugly to get to the healing
and release of wild animals.
Memphis and the Mid-South’s
facilities have been stretched
thin to rescue injured and
orphaned wild animals, so the
introduction of Out of the
Woods is a welcome presence.
Rescuer/owner Sami Harvey
lives and works on the
property in Shelby Forest, with
a lake behind, and surrounded
by woods, creating an ideal
space for the animals to be
released. Decorated with
hanging plants and a ceiling
strung with twinkle lights, this
space has a positive vibe.
Harvey allows a squirrel time to
explore his area outside his enclosure.
Sami Harvey demonstrates
the two-stage raccoon release
cages, explaining what they eat
and their surroundings,
“They’re all under the building
right now. They can get out of
everything. They made a little
hole right here. They sleep
underneath the facility during
the day, that’s by design.”
Raccoons are her favorite to
rehab, and the building is
packed with two cages full of
squirrels and one opossum,
affectionately named George
Jones, who is soon to be
released. George Jones was
bitten by a dog and is finishing
a round of antibiotics. Harvey
expects more opossums in the
spring. People sometimes even
check the pouches of
dead opossums on the
roadside and rescue
their babies.
Open the doors to
the building and
former residents of the
rescue come to visit.
One adult squirrel
strolls in to socialize
with Harvey and the
other teenage
squirrels. She
recognizes the squirrel
and lets him explore in
and around the cage
with his playmates.
Regarding release, she
states, “They don’t go
from being inside to
Left, Harvey holdings resident opposum, George Jones.
At right, a baby squirrel laps up formula as he’s syringe fed.
outside overnight. Squirrels are
born in the spring and the fall,
and the fall babies, you have to
release where you raised them
and feed them over the winter,
then they go on their way.” In
one corner of the building, she
keeps the baby squirrels, just
growing hair, and feeds them
one by one with a bottle of
squirrel formula.
There are a few ways to
become a rehabber. Harvey
suggests, “You can go formal
education, earn your hours
through another rehabber, but
really getting your hands dirty
and understanding what goes
into it is important. Mentally,
it’s a lot of hugging baby
animals and happy endings,
but in reality, it’s a lot of poop
and it’s a lot of death. There’s
no getting around it. Not
everyone will survive, no
matter how much you love
them. It’s messy.” Harvey
volunteered with a rehab
mostly dealing with raccoons
for the better part of summer.
“They’re like little toddlers
forever. They’re just like
babies.” The vet, Dr. Ralph
Pope, cares for the animals in
need of medical attention
beyond Harvey’s scope,
volunteering time and advice.
“I brought him a squirrel, and
he just felt it and knew which
bone to set. They do die,” says
Harvey. “The ugly parts of the
job are watching animals die,
the smells, the cage cleaning,
and some long nights and busy
days.”
The rescue is holding a
holiday auction fundraiser in
November (visit their website
for details). Local artists and
vendors have donated time
and items to the cause. Out of
the Woods is funded
exclusively through donations.
Harvey makes the most of
every opportunity. “Every time
I get a promotional email, I
reply to them with an email
asking for donations.”
Currently, the animals are
drinking Liquid Death water,
donated by the company.
Grove cleaning supplies
donated $50 as well. Groceries
are always in high demand,
with all of the animals needing
bedding, food, and materials.
Want to help? Contact Sami at
outofthewoodswildlife@gmail.com
outofthewoodswildlife.org
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health+wellness
MEMPHIS
CRISIS CENTER
by Sarah Rushakoff
Please note: this article discusses depression and suicide and may trigger
a strong emotional response for some. If you feel triggered, please
contact the Memphis Crisis Center at 901.274.7477 for help.
What is the MCC?
Compassionate listening.
Human contact. Collaborative
problem solving. The Memphis
Crisis Center (MCC) began as
the Suicide Intervention Service
in 1970 when a small group of
dedicated mental health
professionals saw an urgent
need for a 24/7 point of
contact for patients struggling
with suicide. Over the years the
volunteer telephone-based
service has expanded to handle
a full array of crisis situations,
serving as a lighthouse for all
who need help.
Leadership and Programming
at MCC Executive Director Mike
LaBonte’s serendipitous
journey led him to the doors of
the MCC in 2000. As a former
student activist he was
interested in service-oriented
work. He and Co-Director Terry
Barnes have been affiliated with
the agency for more than 20
years providing direction and
vision for the important work of
the center.
LaBonte stated, “We will be
celebrating our 50th
anniversary in 2021, marking
the date we became officially
incorporated. During the ‘60s
and early ‘70s, crisis hotlines
began springing up in many
Mike LaBonte, Memphis Crisis
Center Executive Director
communities as part of
grassroots community-based
effort to address suicide and
other mental health issues. We
were the local pioneer. We
originally focused on suicide in
our early years, but we have
expanded to include a full array
of programs to serve the needs
of as many people as possible.
“Along with the main crisis
line, we administer the
community’s Call4Kids Hotline,
the HIV Care Line, the Elder
Lifeline and serve as the local
affiliate of the National Suicide
Prevention Lifeline, and the
National Veterans Hotline. The
MCC also partners with the
Crime Victims and Rape Crisis
Center providing after hours
and weekend call coverage.
“The MCC is here for anyone
in distress. Our vision is no one
facing a crisis has to face it
alone.”
Volunteers at MCC
“Volunteers are the lifeblood of
the center,” LaBonte says. “We
could not provide this
important service without
them. We recruit community
members, train them in crisis
intervention, and they go on to
actually staff our hotlines. We
are probably the most
community-based mental
health service around because
we actively engage the
community in its own safety
net.”
“There are a lot of
misconceptions about what we
do,” LaBonte continued. “It’s
not just suicide. A majority of
people who call us are lonely,
sad, or facing some sort of life
challenge. We are a full service
crisis hotline here for anyone in
distress or in need of emotional
support. We provide empathic
listening, collaborative problem
solving if needed, and
community referrals for those
needing longer-term
professional help.”
LaBonte describes telephone
interventions as a form of
‘emotional first aid.’ Volunteers
first take the time to
compassionately connect with
the caller. “Although every
situation is unique, there is a
basic geography to the
intervention process. The first
step,” LaBonte says, “is caring.
You have to make a human
connection with the caller.
Next, you have to listen. It’s
painful holding things in. We
give people a safe place to let
the hurt out and process it.”
Helping is the third part in
any intervention process.
LaBonte says, “Sometimes the
help involves collaborative
problem solving and exploring
options that can move the
caller forward and empower
some positive changes. For us
it’s always about the caller.
Meeting the caller where
they’re at in terms of their
situation. What are their needs,
values, and priorities?
“Just providing a caring ear
can often prevent something
from becoming a crisis—or
keep a crisis from becoming
acute or life-threatening. There
is something intrinsically
healing about the power of
compassionate listening.”
For longer term help, the
center’s crisis line volunteers
can refer callers to resources
such as mental health centers,
drug rehabs, shelters, or 12-step
programs.
One of the benefits of
volunteering, LaBonte says, is
that crisis line workers become
familiar with local resources.
“When they leave their service
with us, it creates an additional
layer of protection for the
community because they are
now empowered by their
knowledge and skills and are
better equipped to help those
in trouble who they may
encounter.”
Because the volunteers are
often the first point of contact
when someone is in need, the
MCC focuses on what LaBonte
calls “the beauty of confidential
hotlines in breaking down
barriers.” Barriers include
stigma, shame, fear, even
geography. Hotlines provide a
safe and confidential point of
contact that can break those
barriers down. “Our volunteers
can de-stigmatize and
encourage the caller,” LaBonte
continues. “Immediacy and
accessibility make us so vital.
“We often serve as a stop
gap measure for those
struggling with mental illness
and acute emergencies that are
verging on suicide.”
The Holistic Value of MCC in
Memphis
The MCC provides support
on as many challenges as
possible. “The calls we get deal
with everything you can
imagine,” LaBonte says,
“including mental health and
emotional problems, grief and
grieving, addiction and
recovery, and crime and family
violence issues such as child
abuse, elder neglect, domestic
violence, and sexual assault.”
Another major issue, he says,
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is the impact of poverty. “The
lack of resources such as food,
shelter, and transportation
make life difficult for so many
Mid-Southerners.” According to
LaBonte, the MCC is a proud
partner in United Way of the
Mid-South’s Driving the Dream
initiative that links families
struggling with poverty into
programs to enhance their
financial stability and transition
them to greater self-sufficiency.
Other major MCC community
partners include the Family
Safety Center that provides
free services for victims of
domestic violence, and the
Crime Victim’s and Rape Crisis
Center that focuses on crime
and sexual assault. The
University of Tennessee Health
Science Center is also a major
partner, providing the MCC with
a home for over 10 years now.
MCC is helping individuals,
but it is also helping
communities and the agencies
who serve those communities.
“We facilitate community
stability by de-escalating
situations that might otherwise
spill over into community
violence. We can link troubled
individuals into systems of
care.”
LaBonte also sees the MCC
as cost effective for the
community. “The ability to
de-escalate crisis situations
before they become acute can
translate into fewer trips to the
ER and less need for costly
on-site active rescue by police
and other emergency services.”
He also sees the value of
hotlines in freeing up 911
dispatchers by creating a
resource for those struggling
with chronic mental illness and
needing somewhere to turn to
cope with daily challenges.
LGBTQ+ Support
Many of us are familiar with
the increased suicidal risk
factors for LGBTQ+ individuals.
LaBonte has a personal
commitment to the cause and
ensuring that the MCC provides
a safe place for LGBTQ+
individuals facing crisis
situations. In the 1990s,
LaBonte was a student activist
with the Bisexual, Gay and
Lesbian Awareness (BGALA)
group at the University of
Memphis, now known as the
Stonewall Tigers. He was
instrumental in the University of
Memphis becoming the first
public university in the state of
Tennessee to include sexual
orientation in its nondiscrimination
policies. LaBonte
says he is especially proud that
the MCC has always been
inclusive. “We’ve even had past
board members that were
active in founding MAGY and
held leadership positions in
TEP.
“We know that LGBTQ+
youth have a greater risk of
suicide, experience higher rates
of discrimination, harassment,
and ... families are still rejecting
their kids for coming out. We
have some great resources
today like OUTMemphis’
Metamorphosis project and
support groups. A little bit of
acceptance for LGBTQ+ youth
can go a long way in preventing
suicide,” according to LaBonte.
“One powerful experience I
had on the crisis line happened
many years ago,” stated
LaBonte. “I received a call from
a 16 year old lesbian in a rural
community. She had been
extremely active in her church
and had recently been outed.
She was devastated by the
rejection she received and had
an immediate and lethal means
to end her life.” During the call,
LaBonte reminded her that she
would not always be in the
place she was that day. “In a
few years, I told her, she would
be able to make her own
decisions and even find an
affirming church family—
something she had never heard
of before...By the end of the call
we had disabled her suicide
plan and she made a decision
to live.”
MCC and COVID
During the COVID 19 pandemic
the MCC has seen an increase in
calls, including a 22% increase
in suicide calls. “More people
are struggling with depression,
anxiety, and loss.” LaBonte
advises on ways to help: “The
truth is we need to be checking
on our neighbors, especially
seniors and other isolated folks,
and making connections in safe
ways like telephone calls. We
need those connections. Call
people. The almost lost art of
telephone conversation is a
safe way to socialize in the
pandemic. We need each
other.”
If you are in need of help, call
(901) CRISIS-7 or 901.274.7477.
For more information, visit
www.memphiscrisiscenter.org
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Our trained volunteers provide help, build hope and save
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lgbt ally
ALLAN
CREASY
by Sarah Rushakoff | photos courtesy of Allan Creasy
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I want to see a more
progressive, inclusive city and
county,” says Creasy. “I want
to see us unfettered. I want to
see the party that claims to
support small government, let
Memphis rule itself to a
greater degree.
If you’ve lived in Memphis for
a while, chances are you’ve had
a conversation with Allan
Creasy. It might have been at
Celtic Crossing in Cooper-
Young, where he tended bar
and ran trivia nights for years.
Maybe it was for a political
campaign he’s volunteered
with, or during one of his own
campaigns for the Tennessee
State House over the past few
years. As a bartender, he would
often give tourists directions
and sometimes, he recalls, “I’d
take them out and show them
the real Memphis, go to a local
show, or some dingy dive bar
they would never have gone to
on their own.” However it
happens, chatting with Creasy
is always a “real Memphis”
experience.
Back in 2018, Creasy ran for
the district 97 seat in the
Tennessee State House of
Representatives. “No Democrat
had run in 16 years,” he says. “It
was considered ‘too red.’ But
we had a huge amount of
volunteers, raised about
$140,000, and we knocked on
over 20,000 doors.” Creasy
earned 45% of the vote that
year, and while it was a
disappointing loss, he’s proud
of the work his campaign did. “I
mean, we were endorsed by
the Tennessee Equality Project,
among others,” Creasy shares
proudly. “I was really grateful
for that.” This year, he ran again
for the same seat, this time
pitted against Gabby Salinas in
the Democratic primary.
Salinas won the nomination,
and Creasy has nothing but
admiration for his one-time
opponent. “I am in awe of the
type of campaign they were
able to run in the primary.
Gabby is an absolutely amazing
candidate and I support her
completely.”
Now that he’s not bartending
or campaigning, and since the
pandemic has kept all of us
from socializing like normal, he
misses meeting new people
and hanging out with regulars
at the bar. “It really helped to
preserve my sanity,” says
Creasy about making
connections with folks. “When I
didn’t have bartending and I
wasn’t knocking on doors for
myself or other candidates, I
felt a bit lonely and out of
place.” No longer working the
night shift, he looks forward to
having more time to visit with
friends and loved ones. With
masks on, of course, and from
a safe distance. “Instead of
going out for a drink, it’s sitting
six feet apart on somebody’s
front porch.”
What does a gregarious,
Memphis-loving guy do after 15
years of bartending? It was a
natural move for Creasy to join
the staff at Future901, a West
Tennessee political action
committee that champions
inclusivity. “So much of the
most racist, sexist,
homophobic, and transphobic
legislation gets written at the
state level,” Creasy points out.
“Knocking on a few hundred
doors can mean all the
difference in a primary where
only 5 or 6,000 people are
going to vote. We can make a
huge difference working on
voter education for downballot
races.” In his new
position as consultant at
Future901, he’s working on
social media campaigns and
fundraising. He jokes, “It’s a
good fit because bartenders
have no qualms about asking
people for money.”
Creasy wants Memphians to
stay informed about local and
state politics even after the
election. “I would recommend
subscribing to and supporting
local journalism like Focus, the
Daily Memphian, the Memphis
Flyer, publications that really
go in-depth on state issues.
Follow Future901 and the
Tennessee Holler on social
media.” He also cautions West
Tennesseeans to pay more
attention to what is happening
in Nashville, and which state
candidates support things that
could either strengthen or
weaken Memphis and Shelby
County. For example, he says,
“The state legislature has
ensured that our city council
can’t decriminalize any
amounts of marijuana, is
pushing some really disgusting
anti-trans bills, and has passed
legislation preventing local
municipalities from increasing
the minimum wage.”
Looking toward a future
Memphis, “I want to see a more
progressive, inclusive city and
county,” says Creasy. “I want to
see us unfettered. I want to see
the party that claims to
support small government, let
Memphis rule itself to a greater
degree. To move forward with
candidates who will fight for
Memphis to not only survive,
but to thrive.”
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lgbt history
CROSS GENDER
IN THE GAY OLD DAYS
by Vincent Astor
In her early days, Memphis
was anything but a sleepy river
town. I’ve lived part of the
LGBT history of the city, and
thanks to the work of a
1970s-era local librarian, I’ve
uncovered a rich history of an
active Memphis gay community
that goes as far back as the late
1800s (at least).
My librarian source, who in
the mid 1970s had access to the
the main library’s history
department, wrote under the
name Fred Harris. Harris’
research involved combing
through much of the microfilm
of old Memphis newspapers
and uncovered, among other
things, the story of Alice
Mitchell and Freda Ward (1892)
which has previously been
published in this magazine. In
the mid-1970s, he wrote for
Gaiety newspaper, Memphis’
first gay community
newspaper. This newspaper
may be found in the Memphis
and Shelby County Room
collection in bound form and
electronically through Rhodes
College.
In his research, Fred also
discovered an 1870 theatrical
engagement at Broome’s
Variety Theatre, a long-gone
downtown location formerly at
37 Jefferson. The theater was
also known as Broom’s Opera
House. The theatre was popular
with acts including minstrel
shows, farces and all sorts of
entertainment. One act in this
particular 1870 engagement
was a male impersonator
named Marie Hinkle.
According to accounts in the
Memphis Public Ledger, Marie
had favorites in the female
chorus who were rivals for
Marie’s affections. So enamored
with Marie, the two ladies got
into a cat fight over who was to
escort Marie to the train station
for her next engagement in
New York City. The train
terminal is long gone, but it was
where the Casey Jones historic
marker is now on Front Street.
In the Ledger article, the
names of the rivals were given
merely as Ione and Lizette.
During their meeting at the
Women’s Entrance (!) to the
Overton Hotel (where the
Cannon Center is now) a scuffle
broke out. Knives were drawn,
but the women were separated
before too much blood was
spilled. Reading this account so
many years later, some of it
could have been a publicity
stunt, but it did make the
papers. The fight even involved
Dick English, the ‘river editor’ of
the Memphis Daily Appeal, an
ancestor of today’s Commercial
Appeal. English helped to
separate the two women
before “there would have been
murder done.”
According to Daneel Buring’s
Lesbian and Gay Memphis:
Building Communities Behind
Annie Hindle, a.k.a. Marie Hinkle, was a male impersonator who
performed in Memphis in the 1870s. Photo: NY Public Library.
the Magnolia Curtain, Marie
Hinkle was actually a woman
named Annie Hindle, a male
impersonator. Hindle
performed as a ‘swell’ (an
upper-class man who could
indulge in a range of leisure
activities). She also
impersonated ‘fops’. Fop is a
term meaning ‘man of fashion’
who overdresses and generally
puts on airs. By making fun of
that type, Hindle had a great
appeal to the working-class
men who attended her shows.
She was married several times
(two men, divorced) and two
women. The first died and the
last was even interviewed by
the press as her “widow.” Annie
Hindle was most active in the
latter part of the 19th century
so it’s possible that she
could’ve been the Marie Hinkle
who played Memphis. Read
more about Hindle at https://
dragkinghistory.com/1864-
1904-annie-hindle/
It’s tempting to think that
female impersonators lived in
the shadows of society. For
female impersonator Julian
Eltinge, it was quite the
opposite. Julian Eltinge was the
most famous female
impersonator of his day, playing
vaudeville and music hall
comedy.
With outstanding reviews for
performances, his early
appearances in New York were
in 1905-6. He toured Europe,
even performing at a command
performance at Windsor Castle
for Edward VII. He was known
for his quick changes. Variety
wrote in September of 1907,
“The audience was completely
deceived as to Eltinge’s sex
until he removed his wig after
the second song…his act is far
and away above what is
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described as female
impersonation.”
It was always assumed that
he was gay, but he went to
great lengths to steer away
from that association
throughout his career. He
appeared in several films, in his
usual mode of having to
disguise himself for some
reason as a woman and then
reveal his true gender at the
end. In his only sound film,
“Maid To Order” (1931) he plays
a private detective who
disguises himself as a French
singer, Lottie Lorraine,
performing at a nightclub
where diamonds are being
smuggled. It is a forerunner of
“Some Like It Hot” and
“Tootsie” in which Lottie had to
room with another female
singer creating embarrassing
and farcical situations. He lived
a double life as a very
successful performer who was
famous for his female roles but
maintained a very masculine
persona (almost too much) off
stage.
Part of Eltinge’s legacy
remains today in Manhattan.
The Empire Theatre on 42nd St.
in NYC, was originally the
Eltinge Theatre. It was built in
1912 and named in Eltinge’s
honor (though there is no
record of him ever performing
there). It was well known as the
theater of the Abbott and
Costello performances. In 1998,
as part of the renewal of 42nd
Street, it lifted off its
foundation and moved 170 feet
to the west where it became
the lobby of an AMC movie
theater. Eltinge’s name is listed
there on a plaque facing the
street. It is said that the images
in the plaster and murals which
still may be seen are of Eltinge
in costume. Read more about
the theater at http://
cinematreasures.org/
theaters/255 Read more of
Eltinge’s biography at http://
www.julianeltinge.com/bio.
html
White, New York
L.A. Times archives
In these three photos, Julian Eltinge.
Eltinge was the most famous female
impersonator of his time. He was a star of
stage and screen. At left is Eltinge,
presenting as male in a promotional still.
A program from the UofM Collection shows
that Eltinge performed in Memphis at the
old Lyric Theatre on Madison in 1924.
Below is Eltinge performing as a female.
So ‘out’ was Eltinge when he
presented as a woman, he socialized
with very visible personalities of the
time. At left, Eltinge is seen chatting
with Pat Collins, left, and Edward G.
Robinson at a performance by the
Dominos Club, Nov. 25, 1935.
One last vestige of Eltinge is the lobby
entrance of the AMC theater on New
York City’s 42nd Street. The Eltinge
theater was built in 1912 and named in
honor of Eltinge. When the street was
revamped in 1998, the old theater was
lifted from its foundation and moved 170
down the famous street and joined to
the AMC structure.
©Vincent Astor
White, New York
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WYXR
by Sheena Barnett | photo by Jamie Harmon
community
New Crosstown Radio Station
Provides Tunes, Connections
To hear what Memphis
sounds like, tune in to 91.7 FM
WYXR.
The latest station to hit the
local airwaves features music
of all genres and voices from
many backgrounds, all in an
attempt to bring Memphis
together - musically.
“We really wanted genres of
music that have been
underrepresented and people
and communities that have
been underrepresented on
radio to have a voice,” said
WYXR Executive Director
Robby Grant. “We also feel like
there is some community
news, community talk that just
doesn’t have a place on the
dial, so we wanted to have a
place for that.”
WYXR is a collaboration
between the University of
Memphis, The Daily Memphian
and the Crosstown Concourse
- which serves as the station’s
home base. The station plays a
wide variety of artists and
genres, all hand-picked by the
Memphians who serve as
volunteer programmers. The
station’s taglines are “Raised
by Sound” and “Memphis is our
format,” and that’s evident in
the tunes and shows.
Shows include We Belong,
which features LGBT-inclusive
music of all genres (Sundays
from 4 to 5 p.m.); Sounds of
Africa, which showcases the
diverse sounds of West Africa;
Ring the Alarm, a Caribbean
music themed show; Dead
Wax, a Memphis music history
tour; Finders, Keepers, which
shines the spotlight on obscure
artists; and Riffin’ on Jazz, a
celebration of all kinds of jazz.
See the full schedule at https://
wyxr.org/schedule/
Grant and Program Manager
Jared Boyd have worked to
find a diverse group of
programmers and DJs who can
showcase not only the best of
Program Manager Jared Boyd, Operations Coordinator Shelby
McCall and Executive Director Robby Grant have been working
on WYXR for about a year, and the station officially began
broadcasting in early October.
each genre, but highlight the
deep cuts, too.
“What’s cool about the
station is that even if you’re
familiar with certain genres,
like soul or funk or rock, you’re
hearing one level or two levels
deeper than in a lot of cases
you would,” Grant said.
“Somebody on Twitter said,
‘I’ve heard so many songs I like
that I’ve never heard before,’
and that’s what we’re trying to
go for.”
Even Grant and Boyd are
being introduced to new tunes
through the station.
On a recent episode of
Reachin’ Out, DJ Daniel Mathis
played two hours’ worth of
obscure disco songs from the
70s and 80s.
“It was just incredible,” Grant
said. “I’d never heard one of
those songs before, and I listen
to a lot of music.”
WYXR’s headquarters
features everything from
turntables to cassette players
to CD players, plus controller
hookups, so DJs can truly play
any music, no matter the
format.
“We didn’t want to limit
people to a certain medium,
because we wanted to hear as
many voices as possible,”
Grant said.
The station can play any
style of music because it is
commercial-free.
“Because we’re noncommercial,
we’re not as
beholden to ratings. We’re not
trying to narrow cast our entire
station for a specific
demographic or format. We’re
trying to keep it open, so being
listener-supported helps us do
that,” he said. Donations to the
station can be made on the
WYXR website at wyxr.org.
The website also features
the station’s schedule, as well
as two weeks’ worth of
archived shows.
WYXR will feature even
more voices next year, as the
station will host a second
stream that’s more focused on
the University of Memphis and
its student DJs. So far, though,
the station is rocking and
rolling – and Grant couldn’t be
happier.
“Our idea is that we create
this microcosm of Memphis
with the station and people
interacting, and then people
listening to the different shows
are staying a little bit longer to
listen to the show after that or
coming back the next day
because they liked what they
heard the day before,” he said.
“They’re hearing different
genres of music and voices
they haven’t heard before, and
people are opening up and
expanding their horizons a bit.”
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FROM SUSHI TO DELI, & KOSHER-CERTIFIED
CHEF MARISA BAGGETT
by Gila Golder | photos by Sarah Rushakoff
“I am exhausted,” says chef
Marisa Baggett, a few days
after the end of the monthlong
marathon of Jewish fall
holidays (Rosh Hashana, Yom
Kippur, Sukkot, Simchat Torah)
which brought her an
avalanche of catering orders.
But that’s nothing compared to
how she felt about ten years
ago, when she realized it was
time to slow down.
“I went through a period of
several years where I just
wasn’t able to stand on my feet
due to this weird, out of the
blue illness that happened to
me and took me away from the
kitchen. I started looking for
opportunities to do things
where I could sit, so that’s
when I wrote my cookbooks,”
she recalls.
A graduate of the California
Sushi Academy, Marisa is the
author of two cookbooks,
Sushi Secrets and Vegetarian
Sushi Secrets. But these days,
she’s back in the kitchen,
feeling better, and describes
herself as a “professionally
trained sushi chef turned deli
lady.” In July 2019, she
launched Zayde’s NYC Deli, a
kosher-certified catering
company offering delivered,
heat and eat meals for
Shabbat, the Jewish Sabbath.
Customers can order full
meals or a la carte items from a
seasonal menu – no order
minimum required, so those
who live alone or with a
partner or spouse can order
just the amount they need.
That concept underlies an
upcoming Thanksgiving
offering, the SatisPie.
“Say it’s me and Stan. A lot
of our ideas come from what
Stan and I would want,” she
says of her husband. “We like
different kinds of pie, but we
don’t both need to eat an
entire pie. So I thought, what if
you could buy a pie that had a
few slices of this and a few
slices of that?”
What Zayde’s doesn’t do is
provide a full Thanksgiving
meal option, because Shabbat
meals must be ready to go on
Friday. “My thought is, we can
help you with your desserts,
but you focus on Thanksgiving
and we’ll take care of
Shabbat.”
Because Zayde’s food is
kosher-certified, certain
ingredients are off-limits. Most
menus are prepared with meat,
which may not be combined
with dairy products under
traditional Jewish law. Rather
than rely on artificial
substitutions, as many home
cooks do, Marisa curates
recipes to focus on whole
foods and fresh ingredients,
such as coconut milk and olive
oil. She can also accommodate
allergy restrictions or other
special diets – Zayde’s has a
dedicated gluten-free
customer base and always
features a monthly gluten-free
dessert. “It’s always the most
popular dessert, whether
people need it to be glutenfree
or not.”
What’s next for Zayde’s?
Marisa is coy about future
plans, but hints at a possible
transition to “shmick and
shmortar” (currently, Zayde’s
rents space from the kosher
kitchen at Baron Hirsch
Synagogue.)
“Knowing that I serve the
community is what I’m most
proud of,” she says. She often
receives orders from elderly
customers who can’t go
grocery shopping, or from
families observing shiva, the
seven-day ritual mourning
period following the passing of
a loved one.
“There’s nothing that means
more to me personally than
when someone reaches out to
say the food that you brought
for us was so amazing in our
time of need. Food is such a
connection point, and it’s very
humbling that people trust me
to do these things for them.”
Stay tuned on Zayde’s social
media pages (@zaydesnycdeli)
for new monthly menus,
holiday offerings (Chinese food
for Christmas!) and more.
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OPINION:
IS TIME UP
FOR TIKTOK?
by Robin Beaudoin Ownby
Shutterstock
They say that Facebook
makes you hate the people
you love and TikTok makes you
love people you will never
meet. Nothing could be truer.
In the tidal wave of negativity
that is American politics and
the Coronavirus pandemic,
millions have flocked away
from the “too real,” escaping
to something more
entertaining and anonymous,
in ByteDance’s Chinese
video-sharing app, TikTok. The
app, formerly the youth
favorite, Music.ly, has evolved
from karaoke and lip-sync to
an endless platform for
entertainment, information,
and inspiration. I downloaded
TikTok to monitor my tween
daughter’s internet behaviors
but have come to enjoy it
immensely as a parent and
adult.
Because of TikTok’s one
minute or less video platform,
my own inattentive adult self
has learned how to care for
houseplants, how to bake
bread, how to choose proper
skincare, and how to plop my
wavy hair and wear it natural.
I have made homemade lava
lamps with oil, water, Alka-
Seltzer, and food coloring,
I have made cooking videos,
I have participated in political
activism, and I have met other
mothers struggling in the
same ways that I did when my
kids were younger. Thanks to
“dermatology TikTok”, I have
changed my skincare routine
to include products from The
Ordinary and tossed my St.
Ive’s scrubs. I cannot forget to
mention the body positivity
and LGBTQ+ and allies. I am
wearing shorts for the first
time in a decade thanks to
these amazing body positive
role models, but no, I can’t do
the WAP dance. The “TikTok
Creating how-to videos for the TikTok platform is very popular.
Famous” became my new
favorite celebrities, in the
absence of new television over
the summer.
Most surprising to me is the
myriad of helpful therapists
volunteering their knowledge
in the form of short lists and
suggestions on recognizing
trauma, how to best talk to
your children, and leaving
toxic relationships. Depression
seems to be contagious in the
U.S., with a sense of normality
evaporated like the Lysol to
which we cleave. Coronavirus
has many of us missing our
social interaction and physical
touch, which give us serotonin,
boosting our mood. Children
are schooling in masks on
campus, or at home, isolated
from their friends. The current
political divide feels greater
than a typical election year,
tearing apart lifelong friends
and dividing families. These
counselors’ and
therapists’ posts are
a treasure, if not a
jumping-off point at
exploring and
treating one’s mental
health.
The political circus
surrounding TikTok
nods at security
issues with China.
This user has serious
doubts about that.
Back in June, teen
users along with fans
of Korean band BTS
ordered loads of free
tickets to a Trump
rally in Oklahoma,
rendering the seats
half empty on rally
day, effectively
Shutterstock
sinking the rally. The
president’s ego was bruised.
Citing security issues, he
threatened to remove it from
play stores and iTunes, and
even to “ban” the use of the
app If a deal that satisfies him
is not made. In response in
August, TikTok has sued
Donald Trump and his
administration, arguing that
taking aim at the app is
unconstitutional, citing that
Trump’s executive order
bypassed due process by not
allowing the company to be
heard. In September, a judge
ruled on an injunction request
that Trump could not remove
the app from stores, at least
until a deal was made or
denied.
President Trump gave his
blessing to a deal including
Walmart and Oracle (a cloud
and platform server provider),
giving them a 20% stake in
TikTok Global, keeping the
headquarters and operations
in the United States. “Four of
the five board members” will
be Americans, Oracle and
Walmart state. The board will
include the CEO of ByteDance,
TikTok’s parent company, and
the CEO of Walmart. The
completion of this deal is on
the horizon, but both Trump
and ByteDance China need to
agree with the plan.
I am hopeful, absorbing
both the news and seeing the
involvement in the TikTok
community to keep the app
safe and thriving. It will likely
continue to be an escape for
me, even when there is a “new
normal,” and politics have
simmered down.
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SNEAK PEAK
by Ray Rico
STREAMING
Ma Rainey’s Black Bottom
Tensions rise during a recording session in
1920s Chicago as a band of musicians await the
legendary “Mother of the Blues,” Ma Rainey
(Viola Davis). Late to the session, the fearless,
fiery Ma engages in a battle of wills with her
white manager and producer over control of
her music. As the band waits in the studio’s
claustrophobic rehearsal room, ambitious horn
player Levee (Chadwick Boseman) spurs his
fellow musicians into an eruption of stories
revealing truths that will forever change the
course of their lives. Out on Netflix December 18.
STREAMING
Selena: The Series
Before she became the Queen of Tejano Music,
Selena Quintanilla was a young girl from Texas with
big dreams and an even bigger voice. The two-part
coming-of-age
drama Selena: The
Series explores the
once-in-a-generation
performer’s journey
as a young artist,
from singing small
gigs in Corpus Christi
with her family to
becoming one of
the most successful
Latin artists of all
time — and the years
of grit and sacrifice
the Quintanilla family
navigated together
before Selena’s
meteoric rise to
fame. Out on Netflix
December 4.
STREAMING
The Prom
New York City stage
stars Dee Dee Allen
(Meryl Streep) and
Barry Glickman
(James Corden)
are in a crisis: their
Broadway show is
a major flop that
has flatlined their careers. Meanwhile, in smalltown
Indiana, high schooler Emma Nolan (Jo Ellen
Pellman) feels a different kind of heartbreak:
despite the support from the principal (Keegan-
Michael Key), the PTA prez (Kerry Washington)
has banned her from attending the prom with her
girlfriend, Alyssa
(Ariana DeBose).
Dee Dee and
Barry decide
that Emma’s
is the perfect
cause to help
resurrect their
public images;
they hit the road
with fellow actors Angie (Nicole Kidman) and Trent
(Andrew Rannells). Their selfish plan backfires,
so the foursome rally to give Emma a night to
celebrate her true self. Out on Netflix December 11.
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