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Serving the <strong>Mid</strong>-<strong>South</strong> LGBT+ Community and its Allies | JAN+FEB <strong>2021</strong><br />
THE<br />
SHEROES<br />
<strong>ISSUE</strong><br />
KIMBERLY<br />
LOONEY<br />
PLANNED PARENTHOOD<br />
NASHVILLE’S<br />
PHYSICIAN+ALLY<br />
MAUREEN<br />
HOLLAND<br />
FROM THE LAWYER<br />
WHO BROUGHT US<br />
MARRIAGE EQUALITY<br />
NASHVILLE<br />
LGBT CHAMBER<br />
CELEBRATING NASHVILLE’S<br />
LGBT WOMEN-OWNED<br />
BUSINESSES<br />
ELIZABETH<br />
DOTSON<br />
DICKSON MOM OPENS<br />
CHARCUTERIE BOARD<br />
BRICK + MORTAR SHOP
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RAY RICO<br />
PUBLISHER<br />
Ray Rico<br />
MANAGING EDITOR<br />
Joan Allison<br />
ADVERTISING+FINANCE<br />
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Diversity is an important<br />
noun. Inclusion is a<br />
life-changing action.<br />
There has been much talk<br />
about social injustices, racial<br />
equality, and community reform<br />
over the last year. At <strong>Focus</strong>, we<br />
are excited to kick off the new<br />
year by incorporating these<br />
principles into our lives and<br />
business plan.<br />
Recently I read an article that<br />
quoted activist Vernā Myers<br />
that said, “Diversity is being<br />
invited to the party; inclusion is<br />
being asked to dance.” As we<br />
venture into a new year and a<br />
new era, please continue to<br />
embrace diversity. More<br />
importantly, let us all be sure to<br />
focus on the act of inclusion.<br />
• <strong>Focus</strong> is committed to<br />
bringing you a variety of<br />
stories, including the voices<br />
of those in our community<br />
that are oftentimes<br />
overlooked.<br />
• <strong>Focus</strong> is committed to<br />
partnering with businesses<br />
that share our vision and<br />
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impact on the LGBT+<br />
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region.<br />
• <strong>Focus</strong> is committed to<br />
leveraging relationships with<br />
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of organizations that share<br />
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impact communities.<br />
As the year begins, we<br />
strongly encourage U.S.<br />
consumers, business owners,<br />
and team members of<br />
companies, to make inclusiondriven<br />
decisions about how, and<br />
with whom, you’re spending<br />
your money. Invest in brown<br />
and black-owned businesses.<br />
Spend money with LGBT owned<br />
businesses. Your support is<br />
more important now than ever.<br />
This year, we hope you not<br />
only make it to the party but<br />
that you dance.<br />
Cheers friends,<br />
Ray Rico, Publisher<br />
<strong>Focus</strong> <strong>Magazine</strong><br />
DESIGNERS<br />
Joan Allison<br />
Daphne Butler<br />
contributors<br />
Joan Allison<br />
Savannah Bearden<br />
Sarah Rutledge Fischer<br />
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CONTENTS<br />
JAN+FEB <strong>2021</strong><br />
14<br />
5 COMMUNITY<br />
Understanding non-binary pronouns<br />
can be tricky if you’re new to this show<br />
of respect. We give you a primer on the<br />
basics.<br />
8<br />
12<br />
6 FOCUS SOCIAL MEDIA<br />
7 THEME: SHEROES<br />
8 ASK ALLIE<br />
We all need someone to look up to. Allie<br />
offers help to find trans youth role models.<br />
10 COMMUNITY<br />
Despite COVID, Nashville’s LGBT Chamber<br />
is boosting engagement. See the events<br />
and activities in which you can participate<br />
in CEO Joe Woolley’s ‘Chamber Chat.’<br />
12 HEALTH+WELLNESS<br />
Dr. Kimberly Looney, Chief Medical<br />
Officer of Planned Parenthood of North<br />
Mississippi and Tennessee, fills the void<br />
of care for the LGBTQ+ community in<br />
Nashville.<br />
14 LGBT ADVOCATE<br />
Maureen Holland was on the plaintiffs’<br />
legal team for the Obergefell v. Hodges<br />
case. Her ‘holistic legal’ practice employs<br />
justice, respect and healing.<br />
16<br />
20<br />
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16 HEALTH+WELLNESS<br />
Collaborative practice lawyers are<br />
changing the rules of divorce for the<br />
better.<br />
18 ARTS+ENTERTAINMENT<br />
We’ve got fresh, syndicated content<br />
straight from a Hollywood tattler!<br />
20 FOOD+DRINK<br />
They were boards that she created just for<br />
friends, but Elizabeth Dotson has taken<br />
the idea to a storefront. Boardables is her<br />
new brick and mortar charcuterie board<br />
business in Dickson.<br />
23 ARTS+ENTERTAINMENT<br />
Ray Rico gives you his Pop Culture picks.<br />
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TODAY’S LGBT+ LESSON:<br />
PRONOUNS<br />
community<br />
Gender neutral pronouns have been around for centuries.<br />
At least as far back as 12th century Old English, the<br />
pronouns were almost indistinguishable, which prompted<br />
the use of ‘she’ to distinguish the male and female pronoun<br />
from each other. In 1789, William H. Marshall recorded the<br />
existence of the pronoun Ou, that expressed he, she or it.<br />
Now, probably owing to more people being comfortable<br />
expressing their true selves, we have a new nomenclature.<br />
It’s true that you can’t always know what someone’s<br />
pronouns are by looking at them, but asking and correctly<br />
using someone’s pronouns is one of the most basic ways to<br />
show your respect for their gender identity. When someone<br />
is referred to with the wrong pronoun, it can make them<br />
feel disrespected, invalidated, dismissed, alienated, or<br />
dysphoric (often all of the above.) It is a privilege to not<br />
have to worry about which pronoun someone is going to<br />
use for you based on how they perceive your gender. If you<br />
have this privilege, yet fail to respect someone else’s<br />
gender identity, it is not only disrespectful and hurtful, but<br />
also oppressive.<br />
If you’re new to using the proper pronouns when referring<br />
to someone who is non-binary, know that it’s OK to make<br />
mistakes when meeting someone. Just correct yourself<br />
promptly without making a big deal of it. Though there are<br />
some variations, here is a chart that shows you the basics<br />
and how the pronouns are used in grammar.<br />
PRONOUNS SUBJECT OBJECT POSSESSIVE REFLEXIVE<br />
He He I This He<br />
Him asked told office is reminds<br />
His him his himself<br />
She She I This She<br />
Her asked told office is reminds<br />
Hers her hers herself<br />
They They I This They<br />
Them asked told office is remind<br />
Theirs them theirs themself<br />
Ze Ze I This Ze<br />
(or Zie) asked told office is reminds<br />
Hir/Hirs hir hirs hirself<br />
Ze Ze I This Ze<br />
(or Zie asked told office is reminds<br />
Zir/Zirs zir zirs zirself<br />
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theme<br />
While I may be the first<br />
woman in this office, I will<br />
not be the last, because<br />
every little girl watching<br />
tonight sees that this is<br />
a country of possibilities.<br />
—Kamala Harris<br />
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life<br />
DEAR<br />
ST’R<br />
PHOTOS FROM THEIR WEBSITES<br />
Dear Allie,<br />
Last November, watching Kamala Harris take<br />
the stage as the first someone-who-looks-likeme<br />
to be elected Vice President of the United<br />
States, I found myself sobbing uncontrollably.<br />
I have always known that representation is<br />
important, but I don’t think I really understood<br />
how important until that moment.<br />
I have an 11-year-old daughter who was<br />
assigned male gender at birth. She came out to<br />
me last year, and we are lucky to be surrounded<br />
by love and support, but ever since that night<br />
in November, I’ve been painfully aware of how<br />
little she must see herself represented in the<br />
world around her. Any suggestions on what I<br />
can do to change that?<br />
Yours,<br />
Mom in Seek of Trans Role-models<br />
Dear Mom-ST’R,<br />
What a historic moment it was to watch<br />
Vice President Elect Harris address the nation.<br />
So many of us shared the profound moment<br />
of realization that you describe, and it is<br />
phenomenal that you are determined to make<br />
sure that your daughter gets to share that<br />
experience, not only as a woman, but also as a<br />
woman who was assigned male gender at birth.<br />
HELPING TRANS YOUTH<br />
FIND INTERESTING<br />
ROLE MODELS<br />
by Sarah Rutledge Fischer<br />
You want your daughter to see herself represented in<br />
the world around her, and you may not have much<br />
control over what she is or isn’t exposed to in school<br />
or the media (though I encourage you to write letters<br />
and make your voice heard). But you do have control<br />
over what she is exposed to in your home and in your<br />
company. That is where you can begin to make a<br />
difference.<br />
There are many ways to go about this, but I<br />
suggest that you set a goal of focusing on one new<br />
transgender role model each week. Start with a list<br />
of 20 or 30 transgender figures that you want to<br />
research. You will probably include some of the<br />
more well-known public figures like Laverne Cox,<br />
Elliot Page, and Marsha P. Johnson, but you should<br />
also seek out role models in professions and<br />
pursuits that interest your daughter.<br />
If your daughter is into STEM (Science,<br />
Technology, Engineering, and Math), she might<br />
want to follow:<br />
Karissa Sanbonmatsu – Sanbonmatsu is<br />
transgender structural biologist working in<br />
epigenetics at the Los Alamos National<br />
Laboratory. A great place to start is<br />
Sanbonmatsu’s <strong>Jan</strong>uary 2019 TED Talk on the<br />
biology of gender.<br />
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Miles Ott – Ott is a transgender biostatistician<br />
currently teaching at Smith College. His<br />
research is focused on public health and the<br />
statistical analysis of social network data.<br />
If your daughter is interested in government,<br />
there are many excellent role models to follow,<br />
including:<br />
Delaware Senator Sarah McBride – McBride is<br />
the first transgender state senator in the United<br />
State. A good place to start might be her<br />
memoir, Tomorrow Will Be Different, but a few<br />
passages deal with difficult topics, so consider<br />
reading it together or pulling out excerpts.<br />
The list goes on. If she’s an athlete, she can<br />
follow track star Andraya Yearwood, cyclist<br />
Veronica Ivy, weightlifter Laurel Hubbard,<br />
golfer Mainne Bagger, and swimmer Sharron<br />
Davies. If she is interested in film, look into the<br />
Wachowski Sisters. If she’s interested in chess,<br />
she can study the games of Natalia Pares<br />
Vives. If she’s a writer, check out author Lexie<br />
Bean.<br />
Each week, you and your daughter can pick a<br />
name from the list and learn about that person.<br />
Some weeks, that will mean watching<br />
documentaries or listening to podcasts. Other<br />
weeks you will visit websites, read news<br />
articles, or even send an email or letter. Some<br />
people will interest your daughter more than<br />
others, and as you go, she will probably start<br />
adding names to the list. Before the year is out,<br />
her concept of what transpeople can do in this<br />
world will have expanded tremendously.<br />
And of course, no matter how great it is to<br />
have role models, it is even more important to<br />
have people-like-us to look up to in daily life. If<br />
you can, reach out to a LGBTQ+ community<br />
center or youth organization to learn how you<br />
and your daughter can get involved in your<br />
local transgender community. That should get<br />
you started.<br />
Be<br />
PrEPared.<br />
Learn more about<br />
HIV prevention at<br />
Planned Parenthood.<br />
866.711.1717<br />
PlannedParenthood.org/Tennessee<br />
Your friend,<br />
Allie<br />
To submit your own question, email Allie<br />
at Allie@focusmidsouth.com. <strong>Focus</strong> <strong>Mid</strong>-<strong>South</strong><br />
reserves the right to edit letters for length<br />
and clarity.<br />
Equity has been our focus<br />
from the tornado recovery to the COVID-19<br />
response, access to assistance and support<br />
does not look the same for all businesses and<br />
communities. We are dedicated to an inclusive<br />
and equitable Nashville, where the<br />
marginalized have an advocate and support.<br />
Our membership is open to all and we are<br />
here for you. Join us today.<br />
We represent over 500+ Corporations, Entrepreneurs, &<br />
Small Businesses who want to keep Nashville OPEN & EQUAL.<br />
advocate. educate. connect.
community<br />
by Joe Woolley, CEO<br />
Nashville LGBT Chamber<br />
As we close out 2020, advocating,<br />
educating, and connecting our<br />
members, the LGBTQ+ community,<br />
and Nashville as a whole in this<br />
uncertain business climate created<br />
by COVID-19, remains a priority for<br />
the Nashville LGBT Chamber. Every<br />
business and person, from our<br />
corporate members down to our<br />
small businesses and gig-workers, to<br />
our networking members and<br />
followers, have all been affected and<br />
are hurting more and more as the<br />
pandemic wears on. We want you to<br />
know: We’re here for YOU.<br />
Our membership and<br />
programming remains open to<br />
everyone during these times; we are<br />
asking for members to pay if they<br />
can but no one is turned away or<br />
dropped as a member. Please join us<br />
at any of our events, or subscribe to<br />
our newsletter for more information.<br />
We’re proud to showcase some of<br />
our work below. Special thanks to<br />
<strong>Focus</strong> for letting us highlight our<br />
work and our members!<br />
(Bolded text = web links!)<br />
BE A MEMBER AND FIND<br />
OUR MEMBERS<br />
In honor of this month’s issue, we are celebrating womenowned<br />
businesses. It is impossible to highlight every deserving<br />
company, but here is a list of a few members from several<br />
different industries:<br />
• Rubenfeld Law Office<br />
• LA Security<br />
• And 3 Foods<br />
• MAYDAY! Computers<br />
• uBreakiFIX<br />
• Diversity Builder<br />
• TN Event Designs<br />
• Tonda McKay Photography<br />
• STF Events & Catering/EV Originals<br />
If your business fits this category and you’re not listed, please<br />
consider joining our chamber and taking advantage of<br />
membership perks. We want to help you promote and grow<br />
your business! If you’re interested in joining the Chamber, go to<br />
nashvilleLGBTchamber.org to learn more about membership<br />
levels and benefits.<br />
We’ve proudly added several new businesses and individuals<br />
to our membership, even during the pandemic. A great way to<br />
support the LGBT+ community during a difficult time is to<br />
frequent chamber member businesses—just look for our OPEN<br />
and EQUAL membership sticker on windows and next to cash<br />
registers when you’re out shopping (with a mask of course!). A<br />
full list of members and certified LGBT-owned businesses can<br />
be found on our website directory.<br />
STOPPING THE SPREAD, KEEPING<br />
THE VIRUS NUMBERS DOWN<br />
Even with a new vaccine on the way and<br />
continuing to follow CDC guidelines,<br />
new cases continue to rise. We can<br />
stop the surge and protect our<br />
economy, flattening the curve—again.<br />
Please remember: Wear masks. Stay at<br />
least 6 feet apart. Wash your hands.<br />
Get a flu shot. Thank you for being part of<br />
the solution. We will beat this virus.<br />
NashvilleHealth and community<br />
partners, including the Nashville LGBT<br />
Chamber, launched #MaskForNash, or<br />
#ÚselaPorNash—a community-wide<br />
effort to encourage citizens to care for<br />
our hometown by wearing a mask or cloth<br />
face covering when in public.<br />
We’re also a partner in the #MaskNowPartyLater campaign.<br />
Help us have fun, and enjoy concerts, and more in Music City as<br />
soon as possible by wearing<br />
your mask and following<br />
CDC guidelines!<br />
The Nashville LGBT<br />
Chamber is a proud<br />
participant in, and<br />
encourages members to be<br />
part of, the Good to Go Program,<br />
a hospitality safety program<br />
created by the Nashville<br />
Convention & Visitors Corp to<br />
help businesses in every industry<br />
implement health and safety<br />
guidelines.<br />
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WEBSITE RESOURCES<br />
FOR COVID-19<br />
Members continue to enjoy our new and improved website<br />
and member portal. These upgrades help members and the<br />
community find information and communicate with each other.<br />
If you haven’t visited our website in a while, check out the new<br />
features!<br />
While you are on the new site, make sure to check out the<br />
COVID-19 resources page, where we share all the news and<br />
information our members need to know about. There, you can<br />
find out things like: webinars, news releases, hospitality<br />
members offering takeout dining services, hot deals exclusive to<br />
members, and more.<br />
Feeling Excluded?<br />
Find a place<br />
with<br />
us<br />
THE RAINBOW CONNECTION<br />
The Nashville LGBT Chamber will continue The Rainbow<br />
Connection Series virtually in <strong>2021</strong>. Each month, we offer two<br />
networking events, a member highlight session, and an<br />
educational opportunity. This series will help our members and<br />
community stay connected and informed as we navigate the<br />
pandemic.<br />
Network Connect is just that: networking events for you to<br />
connect to others for business or personal needs. To<br />
complement our traditional PM Brewing Up Business, we now<br />
offer additional morning networking opportunities, called AM<br />
Brewing Up Business. These events include a short program<br />
of announcements from our chamber’s staff and then small<br />
group networking.<br />
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Member Connect gives an in-depth highlight of one of our<br />
corporate members and one of our small business members.<br />
In these webinars, there is a Q&A session wherein members<br />
have the opportunity to talk about what they’re working on,<br />
questions or issues they need help with, or anything else they<br />
want to address.<br />
Classroom Connect is designed to help LGBT+ and allied<br />
business owners expand their entrepreneurial skill set with<br />
educational webinars that connect participants to trusted<br />
experts. The Classroom Connect Series is made possible<br />
thanks to HCA Healthcare/TriStar Health, who joined as the<br />
title sponsor of the Classroom Connect Series. We will start<br />
<strong>2021</strong> with a session on LGBT Business Enterprise Certification<br />
and Metro Procurement Policy and Opportunities on <strong>Jan</strong>uary<br />
28, <strong>2021</strong>. Future dates include:<br />
<strong>Feb</strong>ruary 25, <strong>2021</strong><br />
March 25, <strong>2021</strong><br />
April 22, <strong>2021</strong><br />
May 27, <strong>2021</strong><br />
Check our website for topic and presenter information.<br />
Our virtual programs will continue even after the crisis subsides,<br />
in addition to resuming in-person events, such as advocating<br />
against discrimination at the state capitol, rainbow ribboncuttings,<br />
and more events. We can’t wait to see people in<br />
person! If you need assistance or are interested in learning more<br />
about what we do, we’d love to hear from you. Visit our website<br />
for more details on these programs: nashvillelgbtchamber.org
health+wellness<br />
Someone becoming what<br />
other people may not think<br />
they should be – but who<br />
they inherently feel like<br />
they are – must feel like<br />
being set free.<br />
– Dr. Kimberly Looney<br />
Planned Parenthood Physician<br />
story and photos by Savannah Bearden, Director of Communications<br />
Planned Parenthood of Tennessee and North Mississippi<br />
Dr. Kimberly Looney may<br />
have been born in Memphis,<br />
but her upbringing and<br />
education was 100% Nashville—<br />
a fact she calls both “exciting<br />
and depressing all in the same<br />
moment.”<br />
“Literally from my bedroom<br />
window, I could see my<br />
elementary school, my middle<br />
and high school, my<br />
undergraduate and my first<br />
year of undergraduate school,”<br />
Looney laughs. “Then I got<br />
accepted into med school,<br />
which happened to be across<br />
the street from my<br />
undergraduate school.”<br />
That med school was<br />
Meharry Medical College, one<br />
of only four Black medical<br />
schools in the country. It sits<br />
across the street from her<br />
former HBCU, Fisk University.<br />
“I loved Meharry, their<br />
mission of serving the<br />
underserved, and I loved seeing<br />
people that looked like me<br />
doing big things and being<br />
educated. But I was like… I<br />
don’t get out of this block on<br />
that.”<br />
Fueled by that restlessness,<br />
Looney ventured north to<br />
Washington D.C. to do research<br />
for the National Institutes of<br />
Health, then returned to her<br />
Memphis birthplace to become<br />
a surgeon at UTHSC Memphis.<br />
When she moved to Chicago<br />
for her residency, a chance<br />
run-in with a former Memphis<br />
colleague introduced her to the<br />
field of family planning, which<br />
focuses on birth control and<br />
abortion care.<br />
“I said to her verbatim, ‘Why<br />
would you need to do a<br />
fellowship in that?’ And she<br />
looked me dead in my eyes and<br />
said, ‘Did you train where we<br />
trained?’ Meaning Memphis.<br />
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And that’s when it clicked for<br />
me,” Looney remembers.<br />
”You know, we saw young<br />
parents, women struggling<br />
every day. That’s why I need to<br />
do this. And so that day, I made<br />
the commitment—that’s what I<br />
was going to do when I got<br />
done with my residency.”<br />
After completing her<br />
fellowship training at Emory<br />
University in Atlanta, only she<br />
and one other person elected<br />
to stay in the <strong>South</strong> to practice<br />
family planning.<br />
“Everyone else went up north<br />
or out west, of course,” she<br />
sighs.<br />
Seeing the void of care in<br />
Tennessee and wanting to<br />
make an impact, Looney moved<br />
back to Nashville and began<br />
providing abortion services for<br />
Planned Parenthood of <strong>Mid</strong>dle<br />
and East TN, now Planned<br />
Parenthood of Tennessee and<br />
North Mississippi (PPTNM).<br />
“You know how you make<br />
career goals? When I started<br />
working at Planned<br />
Parenthood, I said to myself,<br />
‘One day I want to run this.’”<br />
She met that career goal in<br />
June 2019, when she came on<br />
board as PPTNM’s Chief<br />
Medical Officer.<br />
One of her first initiatives in<br />
her new role was to expand<br />
LGBTQ+ services at PPTNM,<br />
including the introduction of<br />
gender-affirming hormone<br />
(GAH) care statewide via<br />
Telehealth. She attributes this<br />
to experiences in other clinical<br />
settings where she witnessed<br />
providers being callous or<br />
negative to transgender and<br />
non-binary clients—usually due<br />
to lack of familiarity or<br />
understanding on the clinician’s<br />
part.<br />
“That got under my skin,” she<br />
asserts. “I don’t really care<br />
what the components of a<br />
person are. They got a heart,<br />
they got a soul, they got a<br />
mind— that’s it.”<br />
While PPTNM has served<br />
in-person GAH patients at their<br />
Nashville and Knoxville health<br />
centers for several years,<br />
Telehealth appointments are<br />
available for anyone in<br />
Tennessee, and the Memphis<br />
health center will begin<br />
in-person GAH services later<br />
this spring. In addition, PPTNM<br />
Looney reviews charts at Planned Parenthood’s Nashville Clinic, northeast of the Gulch neighborhood.<br />
offers PrEP, contraception, and<br />
other reproductive and sexual<br />
wellness services for the<br />
LGBTQ+ community.<br />
“There’s a need for<br />
affordable care in this area.<br />
And that’s where we really are<br />
trying to plug the gap,” Looney<br />
says. “This is a population— like<br />
a lot of other marginalized,<br />
minority, and underserved<br />
populations— where insurance<br />
may not be plentiful or may not<br />
be sufficient, even if you are<br />
insured. So there are sectors of<br />
this population that go without<br />
the care they really need and<br />
deserve because they just can’t<br />
afford it.”<br />
When asked what is the most<br />
fulfilling part of bringing these<br />
expanded LGBTQ+ services to<br />
PPTNM, her eyes begin to tear<br />
up.<br />
“There’s a question that we<br />
ask every GAH client,” she<br />
explains. “Something like ‘Is<br />
there anything about your<br />
transition that stresses you?’ I<br />
remember asking a patient that<br />
and their response was ‘No, this<br />
is the best I have ever felt in my<br />
life because I get to be who I<br />
am.’ That really resonated with<br />
me. Someone becoming what<br />
other people may not think<br />
they should be— but who they<br />
inherently feel like they are—<br />
must feel like being set free.”<br />
“For me, the most rewarding<br />
part is being able to<br />
understand the value of<br />
someone feeling like they are<br />
their true self. It really is.”<br />
To learn more about LGBTQ+<br />
services or make an<br />
appointment at Planned<br />
Parenthood of Tennessee and<br />
North Mississippi, visit<br />
PlannedParenthood.org/<br />
Tennessee or call 866.711.1717.<br />
Dr. Looney with her husband at Standing Strong Nashville event.<br />
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lgbt advocate<br />
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MAUREEN HOLLAND<br />
by Sarah Rutledge Fischer | photo by Joan Allison<br />
Holistic Attorney<br />
In the early 2000s, Maureen T. Holland<br />
was developing a philosophy of law.<br />
Though she was a successful attorney in a<br />
thriving private practice, she was not<br />
content to address each of her cases as a<br />
mere legal dispute separate from the<br />
individuals and communities in which it<br />
arose. She wanted to practice law with a<br />
focus on the way each decision and aspect<br />
of legal practice impacted the client and<br />
the community. She wanted to approach<br />
the practice of law in a manner that was<br />
focused on problem solving.<br />
Holland has a deep respect for the<br />
power of naming things, and so she<br />
changed her business cards to read<br />
“Holistic Attorney”—an announcement of<br />
her intent to the world—and that title has<br />
been central to her practice ever since.<br />
These days she works to bring respect,<br />
humanity, a sense of interconnectedness,<br />
healing, teaching, and service into every<br />
case. Holland is most widely known for her<br />
work on Obergefell v. Hodges, but her<br />
favorite area of law is civil rights<br />
employment law. That is where she is able<br />
to apply her philosophy every day.<br />
“I love what I do in Memphis. I love being<br />
a civil rights employment lawyer. I love<br />
helping the individuals that our law firm<br />
helps. I love the practice of law. I love using<br />
my education to help others advance social<br />
causes and social justice. I’m very<br />
enthusiastic about that, and Memphis<br />
provides an opportunity to practice in the<br />
area of law that I really enjoy and yet also<br />
practice in the way I enjoy practicing law.<br />
And I feel like if I can do that every day,<br />
that’s a win.”<br />
For Maureen, it was not enough to hold<br />
this philosophy alone. Her enthusiasm for<br />
the good that holistic law practice can<br />
bring both attorneys and clients led her to<br />
spearhead a 2007 regional conference,<br />
titled Lawyers as Peacemakers, Lawyers as<br />
Problemsolvers, where members of the<br />
greater Memphis legal community spent<br />
three days exploring the possibilities of<br />
collaborative law, restorative justice,<br />
therapeutic jurisprudence, transformative<br />
mediation, holistic law, and problemsolving<br />
courts. The work that has come out<br />
of that conference has begun to change<br />
the legal landscape of Memphis, through<br />
holistic practices like Holland & Associates<br />
PC and collaborative legal organizations<br />
like the Memphis Collaborative Alliance.<br />
LGBTQ+ Rights Champion<br />
Nationally, Maureen T. Holland is most<br />
well known for her work on Obergefell v.<br />
Hodges, the 2015 landmark civil rights case<br />
in which the Supreme Court of the United<br />
States ruled that the fundamental right to<br />
marry is guaranteed to same-sex couples<br />
under the Constitution. She came to the<br />
case in 2013 when she teamed up with<br />
fellow attorneys Abby Rubenfeld and<br />
Regina Lambert, and with the support of<br />
the National Center for Lesbian Rights<br />
undertook to challenge the lack of<br />
marriage equality in Tennessee. Their case,<br />
Tanco v. Haslam, made its way through the<br />
Sixth Circuit Court, was consolidated with<br />
three other cases from around the country,<br />
and set for review by the Supreme Court<br />
under the name Obergefell v. Hodges.<br />
Holland worked closely with the<br />
Memphis plaintiffs, Ijpe DeKoe and Thomas<br />
Kostura. The two had married in New York<br />
in 2011, but when DeKoe, a Sergeant First<br />
Class and full-time reservist in the Army<br />
Reserves, was stationed outside of<br />
Memphis, they were relocated to a state in<br />
which their marriage was not recognized.<br />
“There had been some individuals who<br />
were against same-sex marriage,”<br />
remembers Holland, “who thought—if you<br />
don’t like what Tennessee has to offer in<br />
terms of marriage recognition, well then,<br />
just leave the state. But if you’re assigned<br />
here by the federal government, you can’t<br />
just up and leave—not if you are on a<br />
military base, and you are part of that<br />
process.”<br />
Holland spent a lot of time helping<br />
DeKoe and Kostura navigate the onslaught<br />
of media, and she was well prepared for<br />
her role. Before Obergefell, Holland had a<br />
long history of representing LGBTQ+<br />
clients—fighting discrimination and sexual<br />
harassment and working with couples to<br />
create documentation to secure rights that<br />
couldn’t be obtained through marriage.<br />
Moreover, Holland was personally invested;<br />
she and her wife had married in 2011 in<br />
Vermont, but that marriage was not<br />
recognized in Tennessee. It was important<br />
that the focus stay on the clients, but<br />
Holland was able to draw on her own<br />
personal experience in her representation.<br />
“When a reporter was asking me, ‘Well,<br />
why does this matter or how does this<br />
matter,’ I could use my personal<br />
experiences to explain how things matter<br />
without identifying myself in that<br />
explanation. It really helped me—because I<br />
was going through it also—to explain what<br />
was going on for our clients. I knew<br />
personally how that was.”<br />
Mother of Wasps<br />
In the Spring of 2020, when the world<br />
shut down in hopes of slowing the Covid-19<br />
pandemic, and legions of people began<br />
baking bread and raising chickens,<br />
Maureen T. Holland became fascinated<br />
with a wasp who had built a nest in her<br />
recycling bin. Each time Holland threw out<br />
her recycling, she would see the wasp.<br />
“She was very shy and hid on her little<br />
nest, and I’d think, ‘she’s not very smart.<br />
She’s going to end up having to move her<br />
nest.’ And I’d haul my bin to the street.”<br />
But each time she brought back the<br />
empty bin, the nest was still adhered to its<br />
side, and each time the mother wasp would<br />
return to sit on her nest. Holland became<br />
fascinated and started doing research.<br />
She learned that her wasp was a red<br />
paper wasp, a non-aggressive and<br />
beneficial pollinator who also eats bugs.<br />
She learned about the life cycle of the<br />
female wasp—the way she, like any single<br />
mom, works tirelessly to build the nest for<br />
her young, to feed them day in and day<br />
out. The way her children’s survival<br />
depends entirely on her.<br />
Then one day, the unthinkable<br />
happened. The mother wasp did not<br />
return. And that is when Holland took on<br />
the most unusual of her many titles—<br />
Mother of Wasps—and began to raise the<br />
young by hand.<br />
Her learning curve was steep.<br />
“There is almost no information about<br />
how to [raise wasps]” she laughed. “As it<br />
turns out, there is no one who really has<br />
done this.”<br />
But after much trial and error, she landed<br />
upon a homemade meal worm paste that<br />
the infant wasps would eat. (She would<br />
later supplement their diet with royal jelly<br />
from honeybees.) Eventually the first<br />
female wasp emerged from her custombuilt<br />
cocoon area.<br />
“She was enormous and beautiful and<br />
would be killed within a few days by a<br />
cardinal. But the other two females who<br />
also had emerged, they laid eggs, and<br />
those eggs became males. Those females<br />
would end up dead after a period of weeks.<br />
I then hand raised the males. They were<br />
attacked by ants. The saga goes on and on.<br />
But I learned a lot, and one survived. I<br />
watched him leave into the world.”<br />
And with his flight, Holland succeeded in<br />
raising the grandson of that original<br />
mother wasp who had so entranced her.<br />
These days she uses the experience to<br />
advocate for the humane treatment of<br />
these gentle pollinators. And she still keeps<br />
a nest or two in a box on her windowsill.<br />
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health+wellness<br />
Shutterstock<br />
by Sarah Rutledge Fischer<br />
In our culture, divorce is<br />
assumed to be a battlefield.<br />
Two people who can no longer<br />
live their lives as one turn to the<br />
courts as an arena for the<br />
destruction of their union and<br />
all the carnage that will entail.<br />
Litigation, which presumes<br />
antagonism between the<br />
parties and usually amplifies it,<br />
is slow, expensive, and a matter<br />
of public record. By the end,<br />
after a brutal process that, on<br />
average, takes a full year and<br />
costs tens of thousands of<br />
dollars, both parties are left to<br />
pick through the rubble of their<br />
lives and move forward.<br />
For LGBTQ+ families, the<br />
experience can be even worse.<br />
Our legal system is rife with<br />
both internalized bias and<br />
outright homophobia. In cases<br />
in which one member of a<br />
hetero-presenting marriage has<br />
come out as LGBTQ+,<br />
aggressive attorneys routinely<br />
weaponize that person’s<br />
sexuality. In the dissolution of a<br />
same-gender marriage, the<br />
effect of preconceived notions<br />
about gender, which frequently<br />
influence custody or spousal<br />
support decisions, can be<br />
unpredictable, leaving<br />
attorneys unable to offer their<br />
clients clear guidance. And that<br />
doesn’t even account for the<br />
harm suffered by the children.<br />
“Nobody has ever called me<br />
and said, I’m coming to see<br />
you. I want to get a divorce,<br />
and I also want to make sure<br />
that my children suffer terrible<br />
depression and anxiety,<br />
feelings of abandonment, and<br />
have difficulties in their own<br />
adult relationships one day,”<br />
says Elizabeth Yarbrough, a<br />
Tennessee family law attorney<br />
and family mediator with over<br />
twenty years’ experience<br />
handling complex divorce and<br />
family law matters.<br />
Yarbrough, whose passion<br />
for resolving family conflict<br />
began in childhood, spent years<br />
frustrated and disillusioned<br />
with the extent that her work as<br />
a family law attorney often left<br />
her client’s lives in shambles.<br />
But in 2007, Yarbrough was<br />
invited to attend a conference<br />
titled “Lawyers as<br />
Peacemakers, Lawyers as<br />
Problem Solvers.” That 3-day<br />
conference on holistic<br />
approaches to the practice of<br />
law, the brainchild of Memphis<br />
attorney Maureen T. Holland,<br />
created the momentum for a<br />
new way for Yarbrough and<br />
others to practice family law in<br />
Memphis—a momentum that<br />
became the Memphis<br />
Collaborative Alliance.<br />
The Memphis Collaborative<br />
Alliance (MCA) is a team of<br />
legal, financial, family and<br />
judicial/mediation professionals<br />
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who promote the use of<br />
collaborative practice to<br />
resolve family disputes. In the<br />
context of divorce, the<br />
collaborative process is an<br />
alternative to litigation that<br />
provides a pathway for<br />
dissolving the legal bonds of<br />
marriage with dignity and<br />
privacy in a way that saves<br />
time, money, emotional<br />
distress, and relationships.<br />
In a collaborative case under<br />
the MCA, each party is<br />
represented by an MCA<br />
attorney, and all members of<br />
the team—clients, attorneys,<br />
and consulting professionals—<br />
sign a Participation Agreement,<br />
committing to resolve their<br />
issues without litigation.<br />
Though each case certainly has<br />
its own set of unique<br />
circumstances that determines<br />
how the parties meet<br />
throughout the process,<br />
generally issues are explored<br />
and resolved collaboratively by<br />
the parties and their attorneys<br />
together at the table. Teams<br />
may also include a Financial<br />
Neutral who assists both<br />
parties in collecting and<br />
understanding their financial<br />
information, prepares budgets<br />
and net worth statements, and<br />
assists in developing creative<br />
ways to divide financial<br />
resources and assets. In<br />
situations where there are<br />
children or other dependents<br />
involved, the team will include a<br />
Neutral Family Professional—an<br />
experienced psychologist,<br />
therapist, licensed clinical<br />
social worker, or family<br />
counselor—who can help<br />
neutralize conflict and keeps<br />
families focused on their most<br />
important needs and interests<br />
rather than their ongoing<br />
conflict.<br />
The possibility of resolving a<br />
divorce cooperatively seems<br />
like an impossible idea to many<br />
of the clients who come to<br />
Yarbrough and the other<br />
attorneys in the Alliance.<br />
Frequently a client is already so<br />
deeply in conflict that trusting<br />
their spouse to come to the<br />
table in good faith seems<br />
impossible. But the MCA<br />
attorneys and professionals<br />
have seen the process work<br />
over and over—even in the<br />
When you go to divorce court and you’ve done motion hearings<br />
and mediations and gone through discovery and spent everything<br />
that’s available to spend,” says Yarbrough, “nobody is going come<br />
out of that winning—except for maybe the lawyers.<br />
—Beth Yarbrough<br />
most fraught cases, and they<br />
are convinced that a<br />
collaborative process leaves<br />
everyone more whole on the<br />
other side.<br />
To help her clients<br />
understand, Yarbrough<br />
compares divorce to an<br />
appendectomy. No one wants<br />
to go through one, and most<br />
people only arrive to the<br />
process in quite a bit of pain.<br />
But litigating a divorce, she<br />
thinks, is like an old school<br />
appendectomy—where a<br />
surgeon cuts her patient from<br />
sternum to groin and pulls all of<br />
the internal organs out on the<br />
table, just to reach and excise<br />
the problem area. A<br />
collaborative process is more<br />
like a laparoscopic<br />
appendectomy; it is more<br />
modern, less invasive, and more<br />
likely to lead to an easy<br />
recovery.<br />
Not only is the collaborative<br />
process less invasive, it is also<br />
generally less expensive.<br />
There’s an old joke among<br />
divorce attorneys: A client asks,<br />
“How much is this going to cost<br />
me?” The attorney says, “How<br />
much have you got?” It’s dark<br />
humor, but there is truth to the<br />
joke—not because attorneys<br />
are running up fees, but<br />
because the combative nature<br />
of litigation often means that a<br />
person who can spend more<br />
will. And that means<br />
devastating family resources,<br />
leaving both parties without<br />
solid footing once the smoke<br />
has cleared. According to<br />
Yarbrough, a complex<br />
divorce—one that could cost<br />
$50-$100,000 if litigated—<br />
could be resolved for a fraction<br />
of that cost through<br />
collaborative law.<br />
“When you go to divorce<br />
court and you’ve done motion<br />
hearings and mediations and<br />
gone through discovery and<br />
spent everything that’s<br />
available to spend,” says<br />
Yarbrough, “nobody is going<br />
come out of that winning—<br />
except for maybe the lawyers.”<br />
Yarbrough’s collaborative<br />
divorce cases turn out<br />
differently.<br />
“I don’t want to tell you that<br />
we end these cases in a drum<br />
circle singing,” she says, “but<br />
photo by Matt Yarbrough<br />
everybody does leave with<br />
respect. And we treat one<br />
another warmly at the end. We<br />
try to send people off into the<br />
world in good shape to manage<br />
their family relationships after.”<br />
The burden of a divorce<br />
attorney is to know that no one<br />
ever wants to be in their office.<br />
No one comes to see any of the<br />
attorneys at the MCA because<br />
things in their marriage have<br />
been going well. But the MCA<br />
Professionals see it as an honor<br />
to help guide their clients<br />
through a difficult process with<br />
dignity and kindness. They see<br />
it as their greatest<br />
responsibility to help forge the<br />
functional family structure that<br />
emerges on the other side.<br />
“It’s almost as if the family is<br />
your second client—like the<br />
family that you’re creating, that<br />
comes out on the other side of<br />
this, is a client to everyone.”<br />
To learn more about the<br />
Memphis Collaborative<br />
Alliance, visit their website at<br />
https://memphiscollaborative.<br />
com.<br />
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arts+entertainment<br />
INSIDE<br />
story by Romeo San Vicente<br />
Selena Gomez is going to climb<br />
every Mountain<br />
One of this year’s TV pleasures has been watching a<br />
homebound Selena Gomez earnestly trying to learn to cook via<br />
Zoom calls with various famous chefs on her HBO Max series<br />
Selena + Chef. We<br />
had no idea that in<br />
between mastering<br />
the mechanics of a<br />
proper French<br />
omelette she was<br />
negotiating new<br />
deals for herself, but<br />
coming soon(ish)<br />
she’ll take on the<br />
role of real-life<br />
lesbian mountain<br />
climber Silvia<br />
Vásquez-Lavado.<br />
Writer-director Elgin<br />
James (Little Birds)<br />
will adapt Vásquez-Lavado’s memoir, In the Shadow of the<br />
Mountain, as a starring vehicle of Gomez (whose casting got a<br />
nod of approval from the queer Peruvian climber herself).<br />
Vásquez-Lavado not only climbed Mount Everest but became<br />
the first out lesbian to climb the highest mountain on each<br />
continent, a challenge known as the Seven Summits. No<br />
production or release dates are known yet, but this is already<br />
Appointment Cinema.<br />
Guess what pandemic The<br />
Second Wave will be about<br />
Queer screen darling Taylor Schilling (Orange is The New<br />
Black) is back for an upcoming limited series from Michelle and<br />
Robert King (The Good Wife, The Good Fight). It’s called The<br />
Second Wave, and it’s about two neighbors, played by Schilling<br />
and Audra McDonald, who find themselves locked down again in<br />
New York City when an unexpected second wave of the<br />
coronavirus breaks out. The women are forced to handle their<br />
lives and jobs from the confined space of their apartments, while<br />
contending with an even more deadly version of the virus, one<br />
that may spell the end of humanity itself. The six-episode series<br />
will co-star Leslie Uggams (Deadpool), Steven Pasquale (The<br />
Good Wife) and Hamilton’s Phillipa Soo, and with vaccines<br />
currently rolling out, maybe by the time this series hits your TV<br />
screen, it’ll have the retro feeling of scary science fiction that<br />
can’t possibly happen again. Fingers crossed!<br />
PHOTO BY STARFRENZY<br />
Guardians of The Galaxy hero<br />
Star-Lord is bisexual and<br />
polyamorous. Now what?<br />
This isn’t an announcement, really, even though it is. And it<br />
hasn’t made an official impact on the films that draw inspiration<br />
from Marvel Comics canon. But Guardians of the Galaxy<br />
protagonist Star-Lord has been revealed to be both bisexual and<br />
polyamorous in the ongoing comic book series. This is both a<br />
very significant development and, annoyingly, possibly not<br />
going to matter at all when it comes to the film adaptations.<br />
That’s because Star-Lord is played in the films by Chris Pratt, an<br />
actor who has always been quietly friendly to the LGBTQ+<br />
community, but whose recent surge of public religious devotion<br />
has made the prospect of him playing a bisexual space hero<br />
somewhat unlikely, given his association with an anti-queer<br />
church. The Guardians film franchise continues, of course, and<br />
not everything canon in the source material finds its way into<br />
comic book-based films, but if queer fans were to consider<br />
lobbying hard for a little inclusion, now would be the time to<br />
start. And while we’re waiting for some official Pratt reaction,<br />
here’s what we’d like for starters: some cuddling with Drax.<br />
We’re pretty certain that the perpetually shirtless Dave Bautista<br />
would be up for that.<br />
Tampon Rock wants to be your<br />
favorite scripted lesbian<br />
musical comedy podcast<br />
The internet built celebrities out of YouTube content creators,<br />
and it has also begun doing the same with podcasters. As the idea<br />
of scripted podcasts continues to evolve – kids, they used to call<br />
them “radio shows” and there were characters and stories and<br />
your great grandparents loved them – more and more queer<br />
content is coming out of that movement, too. Witness Tampon<br />
Rock, an LGBTQ musical-comedy podcast rolling out as we speak.<br />
Created by comedy writers Alysia Brown, Sarah Aument and<br />
Sophie Dinicol, TR follows two lesbian characters on their<br />
respective romantic and musical adventures in Oakland (they’re in<br />
a band called G.O.A.L., or The Greatest of All Lesbians, which is a<br />
perfect band name, you must admit). The serialized story<br />
chronicles the rise of the band as the members fall in and out of<br />
love, and will feature original music throughout. Yes, it’s ambitious,<br />
and that’s nothing less than what we should expect from goaloriented<br />
queers, so break out the headphones and listen.<br />
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food+drink<br />
Specialty meats, cheeses, fruits, and special spreads?<br />
GET ON BOARD!<br />
by Nick Lingerfelt | photos courtesy of Elizabeth Dotson<br />
Elizabeth Dotson’s life has always revolved around food.<br />
She’s a preacher’s daughter, but she doesn’t minister in a pulpit.<br />
She evangelizes through Parmesan cheese and pepperoni.<br />
Dotson owns Boardable<br />
615, a store that carries<br />
artisanal foods, mixers and<br />
homeware. She focuses on<br />
sourcing her products from<br />
local makers.<br />
“I like food,” Dotson says. “I<br />
like people. And I... like it<br />
when people enjoy eating<br />
food I create.<br />
“I’m a Tennessee native who<br />
has spent 18 years in the food<br />
service industry, helping<br />
others start businesses in<br />
various food niches including<br />
gastro pubs, bars, breweries,<br />
and bakery services. I’ve also<br />
spent time in the business<br />
sector, looking for my place in<br />
it all.<br />
Dotson hatched the idea for<br />
her business back in <strong>Jan</strong>uary<br />
2020. She decided to make<br />
these boards ‘to-go’ after her<br />
friends kept asking her to<br />
make them for themselves.<br />
She left her job in June 2020<br />
to focus on Boardable 615 full<br />
time. “I didn’t want to go work<br />
for somebody else,” Dotson<br />
said. “I’m tired of working for<br />
other people... It’s my time.”<br />
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Shops in the area started<br />
asking her if they could put<br />
her boardables in their cold<br />
cases. That made her decide<br />
she could have them in her<br />
own cold cases in her own<br />
store. So she cashed out her<br />
401k to make it happen, and<br />
her husband had a panic<br />
attack.<br />
“It’s a gamble, but it’s<br />
gamble if you do and a<br />
gamble if you don’t,” Dotson<br />
said. “You’ll never know until<br />
you do it.”<br />
Dotson designs<br />
“boardables,” a portmanteau<br />
of the words board and<br />
Lunchable she coined. When<br />
making them, she feels both<br />
at home and connected to the<br />
people she’s making it for. She<br />
believes her calling is to share<br />
in the highs and lows of life by<br />
arranging bite-sized food to<br />
nibble on.<br />
Dotson says that table<br />
fellowship breaks barriers and<br />
binds people together.<br />
“Breaking bread and sharing<br />
cheese and crackers signifies<br />
all are welcome,” she said.<br />
Dotson has three young<br />
children, June, Ryan and Luke,<br />
and she relishes the fact that<br />
they get to see her be her<br />
own boss.<br />
Dotson made a space for<br />
her and her employees’s kids<br />
at her brick and mortar store,<br />
which she’s passionate about.<br />
This alleviates a need for<br />
childcare for everyone who<br />
works for her.<br />
“The girl that works on<br />
Tuesdays has a kid, so if she<br />
works anywhere else, she<br />
won’t be able to take her kid<br />
with her,” Dotson said.<br />
Dotson said it’s difficult for<br />
a working mother. The<br />
COVID-19 pandemic only<br />
made things more challenging.<br />
“We can show (our kids)<br />
how to work hard,” Dotson<br />
said.<br />
Dotson’s boards come in<br />
four sizes — mini, small,<br />
medium and large — that cost<br />
between $11.25 and $110.<br />
Customers can get one of her<br />
four signature creations.<br />
One of her signature<br />
creations is the Jack Jack. It<br />
includes pepper jack and<br />
Colby-Jack cheeses and hard<br />
and Genoa salamis. It also<br />
features bacon jam, seasonal<br />
fruits, nuts, crackers, olives<br />
and chocolate.<br />
Customers can also make<br />
their own and choose from a<br />
variety of cheeses, proteins,<br />
spreads and dips. Dotson’s<br />
favorite flavor combo is<br />
Asiago cheese, cashew and<br />
blueberry.<br />
“I focus on having that<br />
fancy feeling at home,”<br />
Dotson said.<br />
Boardable 615<br />
128 N. Main Street<br />
Dickson, Tennessee<br />
Tuesday – Thursday 10-5:30<br />
Friday and Saturday 10-6:30<br />
boardable615.com.<br />
A variety of artisanal foods, mixers,<br />
and home ware showcasing our local<br />
and regional artisans.<br />
TUE-THUR<br />
10:00 AM-5:30 PM<br />
FRI & SAT<br />
10:00 AM-6:30 PM<br />
615.560.5955<br />
128 N. MAIN ST.<br />
DICKSON, TN 37055<br />
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W e remember<br />
&honor<br />
ANGEL HAYNES • DUSTIN PARKER • NEULISA LUCIANO RUIZ<br />
YAMPI MÉNDEZ AROCHO • MONIKA DIAMOND • LEXI<br />
JOHANNA METZGER • LAYLA PELAEZ SÁNCHEZ<br />
SERENA ANGELIQUE VELÁZQUEZ RAMOS • TONY MCDADE<br />
PENÉLOPE DÍAZ RAMÍREZ • NINA POP • HELLE JAE O'REGAN<br />
DOMINIQUE “REM'MIE” FELLS • JAYNE THOMPSON<br />
SELENA REYES-HERNANDEZ • BRIAN “EGYPT” POWERS<br />
RIAH MILTON • BRAYLA STONE • MERCI MACK<br />
SHAKI PETERS • BREE BLACK • SUMMER TAYLOR<br />
MARILYN CAZARES • DIOR H. OVA “TIFFANY HARRIS”<br />
QUEASHA D. HARDY • AJA RAQUELL RHONE-SPEARS<br />
KEE SAM • AERRION BURNETT • FELYCYA HARRIS<br />
MIA GREEN • MICHELLE MICHELLYN RAMOS VARGAS<br />
BROOKLYN DESHAUNA SMITH • SARA BLACKWOOD<br />
SCOTT/SCOTTLYNN DEVORE • LEA RAYSHON DAYE<br />
YUNIESKI CAREY HERRARA • ASIA JYNAÉ FOSTER<br />
CHAÉ MESHIA SIMMS • SKYLAR HEATH<br />
REMEMBERING THE LOVED TRANS SOULS<br />
WHO WERE TRAGICALLY KILLED IN 2020.<br />
#stopkillingtranspeople
SNEAK PEAK<br />
This month’s Pop Culture pics focus on reading. Because READING IS FUNDAMENTAL!<br />
Curated by Ray Rico<br />
BOOK<br />
Gay Like Me<br />
RICHIE JACKSON<br />
Life takes people in different<br />
directions sometimes and LGBTQ+<br />
persons who have children can<br />
attest to that. Sharing the same<br />
sexuality as your children can offer<br />
challenges though. In Gay Like<br />
Me, author Richie Jackson shares<br />
his advice and stories with his gay<br />
son on life lessons. I enjoyed the<br />
storytelling Richie recalls, how<br />
he talks about history, how it has<br />
shaped him, and the advice he gives<br />
his son.<br />
TIP: If you’re looking for a great light read with queer stories<br />
and life lessons you can relate to, read Gay Like Me.<br />
BOOK<br />
Dolly Parton<br />
Songteller, My Life in Lyrics<br />
DOLLY PARTON<br />
WITH ROBERT K. OERMANN<br />
I dove into Dolly Parton’s new book<br />
Songteller over the Thanksgiving holiday<br />
and just found so much joy reading about<br />
the story behind her songs. I quizzed my<br />
friends and asked them their favorite Dolly<br />
Parton song to find a way to read about<br />
each of those that she had a story for.<br />
TIP: If you’re a history fan and love love<br />
love Dolly Parton, get this book!<br />
You won’t regret it.<br />
BOOK<br />
Rainbow Revolution<br />
MAGNUS HASTINGS<br />
Over the span of a couple of<br />
years photographer Magnus<br />
Hastings built a magnificent<br />
portfolio of images of<br />
queer culture that express<br />
authenticity in its purest form<br />
in the collection Rainbow<br />
Revolution. A beautiful<br />
pictorial book of these<br />
images capture the identity<br />
and personality of some well known (and not so well known)<br />
LGBTQ+ folks and groups.<br />
TIP: If you’re looking for inspiration (and some great shots<br />
of gay and queer idols you love) then, check out the<br />
Rainbow Revolution.<br />
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