MUSAADE IREM ATAYIK MAVA

BEING
PARTNERS
Sometimes I felt like Lavin and Öykü were putting themselves forward
but then I realized that it was okay to feel left behind. Even in school
assignments it’s hard to work as a group, so it wasn’t surprising when
things weren’t going well between me, Lavin and Öykü. Lavin is always
eager to post something on our social media and it is hard to stop her.
Meanwhile, Öykü and I think that planning is very important and we
shouldn’t rush things. Rushing things just makes everything worse. A lot
of disagreements happen because of our lack of experiences but I think
that in some cases I know a lot more things about them. I can say that
Lavin is our designer and obviously Müsaade couldn’t happen without
her. Öykü on the other hand is like me, she is the creative director. And I
think that I am editor in chief and also the marketing manager of Müsaade.
Thanks to my experiences, I know when we have to wait and when
we have to post. I try to tell Lavin that but she sometimes doesn’t listen
to me but she is a very hard working person and that’s what I love the
most about her. Lavin has been in İstanbul since October due to coronavirus
and it makes everything easier but Öykü is still in Torino and it
makes everything harder. It is hard to reach out to her and she sometimes
ignores our texts and it drives me crazy. Becoming a partner means
that we could easily reach out to each other and communicate. Without
communication we are done, we are dead. We are still very unprofessional
regarding things we want to accomplish. I always want to arrange
some zoom meetings and dates that we should respect.
Becoming a partner with your friends
is hard because you can’t talk
about the negative things directly
with them but if it was someone
else you could easily make criticism.
Criticism is tough to take for a lot of us and when it comes from a loved one
it is harder. Nevertheless when you are working with someone, there are a
lot of things that you should both discuss. Exchanging ideas and telling each
other whether you’re satisfied or not is important. Even so, working with your
best friend is challenging. When I’m not satisfied with something I find it hard
to say and it makes everything a little bit complicated. When things are unsaid
between a team of three, there are unanswered questions left behind. As
they have sides which are bothering me, I also have habits that could bother
them. Every so often, my mood constantly changes and it is hard for me to
communicate and discuss. Also I can be very realistic regarding Lavin’s point
of view. She makes statements and throws out ideas which are unrealistic for
me. As not to sound too harsh, I try to tell her that we have a lot to
accomplish before we get into her ideas. Her passion for doing this job also
excites me and scares me at the same time because I don’t want to rush
things.