July 2022 Parenta magazine
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Supporting parents with<br />
SEN children<br />
Most settings will already be catering for<br />
some children with special educational<br />
needs (SEN) to help them access your<br />
services and curriculum. However, are<br />
you also finding ways to support their<br />
parents? Being a parent of a child with SEN<br />
can be lonely and confusing as they try to<br />
understand their children more fully, and<br />
then get them the help they need. Read on<br />
to find how you can help them by making<br />
some small changes, which can have a<br />
big impact.<br />
SEN children and their<br />
parents are unique<br />
Everyone is different, and children with<br />
special needs cannot be grouped into one<br />
homogenous group. Often, what works<br />
well for one person - (such as having<br />
a non-stimulating environment due to<br />
sensory overload), - is the opposite of<br />
what’s needed for others, who may need<br />
a more uplifting, colourful and visually<br />
engaging environment. Some people need<br />
a quiet space, others crave attention and<br />
may have trouble regulating their volume<br />
or energy. The phrase “one size fits all”<br />
does definitely NOT apply when you are<br />
discussing children with special needs.<br />
The same is true of their parents. There<br />
is not one ‘type’ of parent whose child<br />
has special needs, and it is not down to<br />
a ‘parenting fault’ or challenge either,<br />
although this is often a misconception and<br />
myth that many parents face.<br />
Understand parents’<br />
point of view<br />
One of the first things you can do, is to<br />
develop an empathy for parents. If you<br />
have ever stood in a supermarket whilst<br />
your toddler has a tantrum, and felt the<br />
‘judging eyes’ upon you as you try to calm<br />
them down, you will know what we mean.<br />
Now imagine that you are standing in the<br />
same supermarket, but your toddler is<br />
now age 10 and having the same tantrum.<br />
You know that it is because they have<br />
become overwhelmed by something that<br />
is out of their control, and this is their only<br />
way of emotionally releasing their fears/<br />
anxiety/stress. But for other observers, this<br />
fact is ‘hidden’, and instead of getting the<br />
sympathy and understanding you need,<br />
you feel the weight of their judgement as<br />
they silently (or not!) condemn you and<br />
your parenting.<br />
Listen to what parents<br />
say<br />
Listening to parents is key. They will<br />
understand their situation and their child;<br />
they have found what works for them, and<br />
things that don’t. Parents will hopefully<br />
have tried numerous different approaches,<br />
learning through trial and error, experience<br />
and hopefully some professional input<br />
too. So it is important to listen to what<br />
they say, and try to accommodate things<br />
if you can. If they say that their child is<br />
upset by certain textures, sounds or tastes,<br />
then disseminate this information to your<br />
staff and make sure they are aware.<br />
A lot of children with SEN find physical<br />
contact difficult. They may find it difficult to<br />
look people in the eye or they may have<br />
sensory needs which mean they can’t<br />
bear certain materials close to their skin or<br />
particular smells.<br />
Many neurotypical people often find these<br />
needs difficult to understand and instead,<br />
think that the person is being deliberately<br />
difficult or ‘naughty’. However, almost all<br />
of us visibly tense at the sound of nails<br />
scraping down a blackboard. The noise<br />
seems to go through us, vibrating our<br />
very bones and we quickly cover our ears<br />
and call for it to stop. This is how many<br />
people with sensory needs feel about<br />
some of the sounds, touch, tastes and<br />
smells that many of us love. It is not a<br />
question of one person being ‘right’ and<br />
the other person be ‘wrong’ – it’s just<br />
that we are all different. If we approach<br />
the situation with more understanding,<br />
patience and tolerance, then we will go a<br />
long way to helping support the parents of<br />
SEN children, because they will feel more<br />
validated and understood.<br />
Meet the children’s<br />
individual needs and<br />
share what works<br />
It is the duty of settings to try to meet the<br />
needs of SEN children. Depending on the<br />
need, this is not always possible and so<br />
specialist provisions for children with some<br />
severe disabilities or learning difficulties<br />
exist. However, many children with SEN<br />
can cope in mainstream establishments<br />
so long as their needs are considered, and<br />
adaptations made.<br />
Having a SENCo draw up a list of needs<br />
and a provision map will mean that<br />
you can document the provisions and<br />
adaptations you are providing for that<br />
child. Many SENCos will also draw up and<br />
individual child profile and share it with<br />
staff. These give details of what the child<br />
needs and what works well. Remember<br />
to update these as children grow and<br />
develop and help parents and councils<br />
maintain up-to-date EHCPs. In early years,<br />
children are growing and developing at<br />
an amazing rate, and what they need will<br />
develop with them helping parents get the<br />
provision their children need, especially as<br />
children transition to school or between<br />
school key stages.<br />
Train your staff<br />
Another simple way to help parents with<br />
SEN children is to train your staff on how<br />
best to deal with that child. You could do<br />
this as part of your annual CPD work or<br />
have key people undertake specific special<br />
needs training. There are some free and/<br />
or inexpensive CPD courses that staff can<br />
take ranging from a short one- or twohour<br />
online course, to more in-depth, Level<br />
2 courses. <strong>Parenta</strong> offer a number of CPD<br />
courses which may be of interest which<br />
you can access here and include Asperger<br />
Syndrome, Autism Awareness and<br />
Disability Awareness to name but a few.<br />
Offer support and be an<br />
advocate<br />
Many children in early years may only be<br />
starting to show signs of having special<br />
needs as they join your setting, so it may<br />
be a shared journey of discovery for<br />
both the setting and the parents as you<br />
investigate some of the issues you witness<br />
in the nursery. You can help parents by<br />
offering information and advice about<br />
different conditions, and point them in<br />
the direction of support groups or other<br />
advocacy organisations.<br />
Other ways to help<br />
Encourage children to get involved in<br />
everything in your setting<br />
Keep reviewing your own policies and<br />
procedures<br />
Consider if you can offer extended<br />
hours or respite services<br />
Supporting parents with SEN children<br />
will not only help them, but it will help<br />
the children too, as their home life is an<br />
important aspect which will contribute to<br />
their success in your setting.<br />
Further information<br />
https://www.kids.org.uk/<br />
https://www.understood.org/<br />
https://www.family-action.org.uk/whatwe-do/children-families/send/send-info/<br />
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