The Christian Lifestyle Magazine, Issue 12

CELEBRATING SINGLENESS
SINGLE,
CELIBATE &
CONTENT!
By: Esmé Adonis
Thirteen years ago, I made a decision that would forever
define my season of singleness. Even though I didn’t
know how much of an impact this decision would
have on my life, I felt it was the right one to make at
the moment. We tend to believe that sex establishes
relationships; however, I grew tired of the lying, cheating,
and feelings of being used. Why are we not being
educated on the dangers of sleeping around? Because
of unplanned pregnancies, our young girls have to leave
school, our young men (the few who are responsible)
have to leave school and find work, and our parents have
to take care of our children. This generation is being
forced to grow up, and
the responsibilities leave
no room for children to
be children. The devil is a
whole big liar!
Children must be
established in their Godgiven
identities, and Godly
principles must serve as
their foundation; however,
we have left it to the
worldly system to tell them
who they are and teach
them about sex. Juanita Bynum says “we are not married
because we are not single”, meaning that we first need
to be delivered from the soul ties of all our previous
partners. When we have sex with someone, 2 people/
souls/spirits become one, but becoming one was only
ever meant for the marriage covenant.
I started dating someone, liked him, and shared things
with him. We started hugging and kissing, which led
to him touching me in an inappropriate way (which to
this day still angers me). I ended it because he wanted
to sleep with me and I didn’t want to break my promise
to God. Although I was lonely at times and craved
companionship, my relationship with God was never
LOVING GOD IS
WHAT MAKES
THE WAIT
WORTH IT.
jeopardized by it. I choose JESUS over any man, any day!
Three days of intense lust ensued (as we later
discovered he had a spirit of lust on him which then also
attached to me). God alone fought that battle for me. I
cried and begged God to take it away. Lust subsided but
lingered! Then one day, while randomly chatting with my
mentor, she suggested I watch NO MORE SHEETS by
Juanita Bynum. At one point, in the video, Juanita says to
the audience to find a tissue and start wiping themselves
down while declaring NO MORE (mention the person’s
name here). I decided to do the same as I felt led by
Holy Spirit. I started wiping myself down and declared
NO MORE, NO MORE, NO MORE. I cried out to God to
cleanse me and purify me and He
did exactly that!
Then Holy Spirit said to me,
HER TESTIMONY WAS NOW
MY DELIVERY. I pray my
testimony will be someone’s
deliverance in Jesus’ Name! A
certain scripture has been in my
life since the beginning of my
journey, and I never understood
why Father kept bringing me back
to it. Isaiah 54:5 Your maker is your
husband. I finally had my revelation
in December 2021. Father told me: HE is to remain, my
HUSBAND, as I am in covenant with HIM, as I still await my
husband here on earth. Meaning, that if I were to engage in
sexual activity, I would be betraying God, and I don’t want
to do that!
Being celibate isn’t a simple path. You need to be
grounded and committed. It takes faith, courage, selfcontrol,
and commitment. Loving God is what makes the
WAIT worth it. I’m sure that God honors and respects
our COVENANT just as much as I do. So, until I meet
my husband here on this earth, I will forever wear
my FATHER’S ring as a sign of our commitment and
COVENANT! I LOVE HIM.
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