Dear Dean Magazine: October 2023
Dear Dean Magazine: Issue 22 | October 2023 By Myron J. Clifton | Subscribe free online www.deardeanpublishing.com/subscribe
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DEAR DEAN<br />
M A G A Z I N E<br />
IT’S A SUPER<br />
SPOOKY REALITY<br />
F E A T U R E D S T O R Y<br />
WHITE MEN<br />
+<br />
+<br />
ENOUGH OF CASSIDY HUTCHINSON<br />
UNCLE VERN ON MUD BURN <strong>2023</strong><br />
A MESSAGE TO MY JEWISH FRIENDS<br />
+<br />
I WISH I COULD TELL MY<br />
MOM HAPPY BIRTHDAY<br />
+ THE LOST ART OF LISTENING<br />
Plus!<br />
IN <strong>2023</strong><br />
Myron's Hit or Miss List<br />
New Movie Reviews<br />
What I'm Streaming Right Now<br />
Hot Takes<br />
Featured Books<br />
V O L . 2 2 | O C T O B E R 2 2 , 2 0 2 3
THE GOODS<br />
03 Welcome From Myron<br />
06<br />
White Men<br />
by Myron J. Clifton<br />
10 A Message To My Jewish Friends<br />
by Myron J. Clifton<br />
16 Enough Of Cassidy Hutchinson<br />
by Myron J. Clifton<br />
19<br />
Hot Take! x3<br />
24<br />
30<br />
34<br />
36<br />
40<br />
Uncle Vern on Mud Burn <strong>2023</strong><br />
by Dr. Vernon Andrews<br />
I wish I Could Tell My Mom<br />
Happy Birthday<br />
by Myron J. Clifton<br />
Myron's HIT or MISS List<br />
Movie Reviews / My Favorite<br />
Things Streaming Right Now<br />
The Lost Art Of Listening<br />
by Katya Juliet Lerner<br />
D E A R D E A N M A G A Z I N E , W E B S I T E ,<br />
B L O G S A N D B O O K S A R E D E S I G N E D<br />
B Y K A T Y A J U L I E T L E R N E R
Welcome!<br />
<strong>October</strong> <strong>2023</strong><br />
All Hollow’s Eve is upon us and in<br />
this issue we recognize that the<br />
world is a scary place for children,<br />
Jewish people in Israel and around<br />
the world, and Palestinians.<br />
We give a shout out to our Jewish friends and the<br />
need to listen, understand, and be empathetic, while<br />
trying to understand each other. We take another<br />
former Trump official, Cassidy Hutchinson, to task<br />
for profiting off her time working for him. Katya<br />
Juliet writes a short piece on the Lost Art of<br />
Listening. And we hear a firsthand account from Dr.<br />
Vernon Andrews who attended this past summer’s<br />
Burning Man that was plagued by torrential rains<br />
and historic flooding. Dr. Andrews provides a<br />
different viewpoint of what went down – much<br />
different than what mainstream media reported at<br />
the time.<br />
We have excellent articles from contributors every<br />
month and this month is no different.<br />
All your favorites are here as well– What’s<br />
Streaming, Television reviews, Hot Takes, Hit/Miss,<br />
and don’t miss our latest book advertisements from<br />
our readers.<br />
There’s a lot here and we hope you enjoy it all, share<br />
it all, and let us know on social media (see our<br />
contributor handles with articles).<br />
We publish thought-provoking articles on<br />
government, gender, race, and politics, while also<br />
providing space for movie and television reviews,<br />
poetry, short stories, food, pets, fun, and a<br />
welcoming platform for independent authors and<br />
writers.<br />
And we provide this space for free – because our<br />
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Free.<br />
Enjoy this month’s issue, please support the writers<br />
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We appreciate you as a reader and we thank you for<br />
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-Myron<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.3
About Me<br />
Website | Bookshop | Twitter<br />
Myron J. Clifton is an author of novels Jamaal’s Incredible Adventures in the Black Church;<br />
Monuments: A Deadly Day at Jefferson Park; BLM-PD: Revenge was Inevitable; Her Legend Lives in<br />
You: The Untold Story Honoring the Goddess & Our Daughters; and short story collection, We<br />
Couldn’t Be Heroes, and Other Stories. Also check out his weekly podcast, Voice Memos, his FREE<br />
digital magazine, <strong>Dear</strong> <strong>Dean</strong> <strong>Magazine</strong>, and his weekly blog at both Medium and <strong>Dear</strong><strong>Dean</strong>.com.<br />
Myron lives in Sacramento, California, and is an avid Bay Area sports fan. He likes comic books, telling<br />
stories about his late mom to his beloved daughter Leah, and talking to his friends. BOOKS ON<br />
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DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.4
Jamaal's Incredible Adventures in the<br />
Black Church by Myron J. Clifton<br />
Before Jamaal's seventeenth birthday, he’s appointed as his preacher uncle’s<br />
designated driver and unwilling personal confidant. Behind the fine outfits and<br />
hats, behind the delicious cooking, Jamaal is exposed to crazy aunties, sexy church<br />
sisters, corrupt pastors, and predator deacons. A good kid who just wants time to<br />
finish his homework and kiss a girl his own age, Jamaal is dragged through the<br />
strange world of the Black church. You best pray for him.<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.5
F E A T U R E D A R T I C L E<br />
Myron J. Clifton<br />
I say this with the utmost respect for my friends. White<br />
men in America are destroying every piece and part of<br />
this country with methodical precision. Every<br />
institution, government office and department, the<br />
judiciary, business, public schools, healthcare, law<br />
enforcement, military, and diplomacy.<br />
WHITE MEN<br />
They have been every president except one and that<br />
one, twice elected Barack Obama, sent them into a<br />
spiral of hate and racism the nation hasn’t recovered<br />
from.<br />
It’s not unions. Or migrants. Or Black folk, Latino, gay,<br />
lesbian, transgender, or Jewish folk. It’s specifically<br />
white men and the uneven power they hold in every<br />
facet of American society.<br />
They are the forced main character we all have to step<br />
aside for, tolerate, fear, work for.<br />
It’s not only religious or southern, either. It’s coastal,<br />
rural, wealthy, middle class, poor, and every datapoint<br />
in between including Republican, Democratic,<br />
Independent, Green, Socialist.<br />
On most social media sites white women are called out<br />
100% of the time for voting majority republican and<br />
propping up white supremacy — and RIGHTLY so!<br />
But guess who they’re propping up?<br />
70% or so staunchly vote republican and will NEVER<br />
change no matter what happens, who says what, or who<br />
pleads. They are the epitome of high on their own<br />
supply.<br />
Guess who’s rewarding them? Uh huh. But in my<br />
opinion white men don’t nearly get the consistent heat<br />
white women do.<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.6
M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />
Side note- in a twisted way that’s a “compliment” to white<br />
women since it indicates most folk still have hope they’ll<br />
turn.<br />
Twisted but I think there’s something to it. Conversely,<br />
almost no one thinks white men will turn and that’s saying<br />
so much more.<br />
A new lost cause.<br />
White vote republican more than any other<br />
demographic. Think about that for a moment — they are<br />
the only demographic, along with white women- who<br />
votes majority republican. Every other demographic<br />
votes majority for democrats, votes to help people, not<br />
harm people, except white people.<br />
Correction, white male, and female democrats running for<br />
office think they can turn white men despite 60 years of<br />
evidence they cannot. And despite white men running as<br />
republican who NEVER court Black/brown voters.<br />
*Washed up dumb ass rappers and losers like Herschel<br />
Walker, Larry Elder excepted.<br />
In fact republicans do the opposite: they regurgitate anti-<br />
Black tropes, stereotypes, lies, and anti-Brown bullshit so<br />
they can recruit MORE white voters. That’s right. The main<br />
way republicans, white men and women, recruit more<br />
republicans is by spreading lies and fears about Black<br />
people, migrants, and other marginalized demographics.<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.7
M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />
And every election our funky ass media plays along like any<br />
of it is new.<br />
We see this the world over, not only in the U.S.<br />
What’s happening in Ukraine, Israel, Palestine, Koreas,<br />
multiple African nations, Australia’s recent racist vote, the<br />
Caribbean Islands, especially Puerto Rico, South and<br />
Central America.. can be traced to one specific<br />
demographic. It’s infuriating and sad. Frustrating and<br />
debilitating.<br />
That demographic counts 70m deaths in World War II, 2<br />
million in Vietnam, and hundreds of millions other civilian<br />
deaths around the world just over the past century from<br />
imperialism, colonization, enslavement, genocide,<br />
environmental, drugs, guns, law enforcement.<br />
There’s a movie trope that sees the main white guy<br />
give a speech at some pivotal moment in his life — loss<br />
of job, loss of life, loss of sporting event, or, new job,<br />
new awareness, new partner, new weapon- and he<br />
gives the big speech and everyone else stands around<br />
honored that the white man is talking again.<br />
I guarantee you no one in real life would stand and<br />
listen to average white guy give a long ass speech as<br />
aliens are descending, ghosts are destroying, or<br />
warriors are charging.<br />
They tell you what the “right” religion is and they force<br />
their beliefs on the entire world under threat of death,<br />
economic instability, regime change.<br />
I wish white men could live one day -hell one hour- like<br />
the rest of us. It wouldn’t change them, I know, but I’d<br />
enjoy their momentary existence as something other<br />
than the misguided belief they are the main character.<br />
White men take up too much space, speak too frequently,<br />
yell too much, occupy too much, and force themselves in<br />
far too many spaces. They talk over and through everyone<br />
else because they believe they must always be heard. They<br />
have the most speaking parts in movies and on television,<br />
they are most judges, lawyers, professors, managers,<br />
CEO’s, newscasters, talk show hosts.<br />
click<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.8
F E A T U R E D B O O K<br />
Marcus A. Banks-Bey, M.Div<br />
Gathered experience and elevation gained from years as an Army & hospital chaplain, mental health worker<br />
and clinical psychology doctoral student, equips Marcus A Banks to aid in journeying the reader to<br />
intelligently question their past belief systems and future creative visions of thought and identity as a<br />
purposeful means to developing their own personal reality for establishing their “true identity.”<br />
Within Dig Deep lies practical language, developed to help the reader grow the relationship with<br />
themselves, and understand why nurturing the relationships we have with our Faith, Family, Friends, Fitness<br />
and Finances will support our Purpose, Planning, Patience, and Persistent-Perseverance. This system helps<br />
one establish their own 5×5 Side by Side Guide through life. Dig Deep was written following a series of<br />
extremely challenging life occurrences, including the suicide of the author’s brother, Iverson; divorce; and<br />
war deployment. From this place, the author engaged in the process of self-discovery, self-awareness and<br />
meaning.<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.9
F E A T U R E D<br />
S P O T L I G H T<br />
by Myron J. Clifton<br />
I don’t think most folk can fully appreciate or understand<br />
how attacks on Jewish folk is scary to the core of all<br />
Jewish people.<br />
When there’s only roughly 16m of you, recent memory<br />
when dozens of nations worked to exterminate you, and<br />
you are always top 2 target for hate attacks.<br />
My community isn’t exempt from antisemitism either.<br />
I was raised a Pentecostal Christian and taught<br />
Christian theology that negates, warps, dismisses, fauxhonors,<br />
and spreads falsehoods about Judaism, faith,<br />
and G-D, while diminishing the Christian savior’s<br />
Jewishness.<br />
Hate attacks in any country where you have diaspora.<br />
It’s truly frightening.<br />
We were taught “Jews need Jesus too” and other lies<br />
and vile messages disguised as truth and love.<br />
Nowhere is truly safe -in that Black folk can identify. Not<br />
even in this nation that always have spreading<br />
antisemitism. Where apps such as Twitter is a cesspool of<br />
antisemitism and there’s nothing Jewish folk can do to<br />
stop it.<br />
They can’t stop Fox News, MSNBC, the Republican Party,<br />
far left Democrats, or new immigrants.<br />
And yet Black Americans specifically remain the people<br />
who best understand Jewish fear and anger at always<br />
being blamed for… everything.<br />
There are only 16m or so Jewish people in the world.<br />
Someone pointed out how the Jewish population has<br />
never or perhaps just recently recovered from World<br />
War 2.<br />
They can’t stop being blamed for the Ukraine-Russia war, or<br />
blame for any bad thing that happens in the “Middle East”<br />
or Hollywood or mass media.<br />
That’s 80+ years trying to recover their population<br />
while also trying to prevent the next occurrence of<br />
genocide.<br />
It’s always the “Jewish folk’s fault.”<br />
That’s fucked up beyond measure.<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.10
M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />
And once again here we are with war and threats of more<br />
war. Talks of eradication, destruction, death.<br />
And a people who can never let their guard down.<br />
As many are saying and which I concur, I am not an expert<br />
on Middle East politics. I’m not an expert on Jewish<br />
history. I don’t know how or why enough to teach a class<br />
about Jewish people, history, culture, or religion, but I<br />
know enough about what it means to fight for survival<br />
every second of every day.<br />
And I know what it means to be scapegoated for -<br />
everything by nearly everyone.<br />
It’s exhausting, debilitating, angering, and fuels stress,<br />
sickness, and death. I know what it means to push down<br />
and hide the anger from micro and macro aggressions. I<br />
know hopelessness and resignation.<br />
But I also know resiliency of the type handed down<br />
through words, deeds, and DNA. Of the need to stand tall<br />
not turn away, and claim and demand my humanity.<br />
The pain this tiny community is experiencing right now is<br />
hard to comprehend especially from the comfort of<br />
middle and upper class society safe from rockets, bombs,<br />
terrorists, and a mostly indifferent world. The thought<br />
brings unbearable sadness.<br />
A world that for thousands of years wanted them<br />
ended, eradicated, and genocided.<br />
I’m sad for my Jewish sisters and brothers and I wish<br />
you peace, security, safety -things we all want at home<br />
and in our homes. I want your home to give you that<br />
whether home in your homeland or your diaspora.<br />
May you and peace finally find one another.<br />
It doesn’t have to be this way.<br />
I am pacifist and I do not like any violence. I understand<br />
government and why violence happens and is necessary<br />
in this world because I have to know the world I live in.<br />
And Jewish folk have to know the world they live in.<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.11
CLICK TO MEET<br />
THE HOSTS!<br />
MYRON<br />
JENN<br />
Two longtime friends have informative, yet<br />
brief discussions about multitudinous topics.<br />
NEW EPISODES ON FRIDAYS!<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.12
MYRON J. CLIFTON & JENNIFER VANLAANEN'S PODCAST<br />
VOICE MEMOS REVIEWS<br />
Listen Now!<br />
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Like listening to your BFFs June 2, 2022<br />
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F E A T U R E D B O O K<br />
The intimate and heartbreaking story of a Black undercover police officer who famously kneeled by the<br />
assassinated Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr--and a daughter's quest for the truth about her father.<br />
In the famous photograph of the assassination of Martin Luther King Jr. on the balcony of Memphis's<br />
Lorraine Motel, one man kneeled down beside King, trying to staunch the blood from his fatal head wound<br />
with a borrowed towel.<br />
This kneeling man was a member of the Invaders, an activist group that was in talks with King in the days<br />
leading up to the murder. But he also had another identity: an undercover Memphis police officer reporting<br />
on the activities of this group, which was thought to be possibly dangerous and potentially violent. This<br />
kneeling man is Leta McCollough Seletzky's father..<br />
Marrell McCollough was a Black man working secretly with the white power structure, a spy. This was so<br />
far from her understanding of what it meant to be Black in America, of everything she eventually devoted<br />
her life and career to, that she set out to learn what she could about his life, his actions and motivations.<br />
But with that decision came risk. What would she uncover about her father, who went on to a career at the<br />
CIA, and did she want to bear the weight of knowing?<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.14
We Couldn't Be Heroes<br />
Short Story Collection: We Couldn't Be Heroes And Other Stories What if a Black<br />
man could control the weather, God called 911, or aliens took our souls? Would<br />
we notice? Would we care?... Enjoy the entire collection, seven stories in all, on<br />
earth and in space and in any order.<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.15
ENOUGH OF<br />
CASSIDY<br />
HUTCHINSON<br />
F E A T U R E D A R T I C L E<br />
Myron J. Clifton<br />
You can’t be redeemed without condemning that which<br />
necessitates redemption.<br />
Cassidy Hutchinson is another former Trump<br />
republican seeking to profit off her time in the white<br />
house by writing a book about her time working for the<br />
disgraced former president.<br />
Her book, which I won’t mention or link here, is one of<br />
many by former maga employees who worked hand in<br />
hand with the worst president in history, agreed with all<br />
of his racist, homophobic, traitorous, illegal, and<br />
misogynistic policies and actions from the moment he<br />
hired them up until they recognized they too could go<br />
to prison.<br />
And in Cassidy’s case she had signed on to privately<br />
continue working for him at Mar a Lago after he was<br />
kicked out of office.<br />
Cassidy, like Mike Pence, Chris Christie, Mitt Romney,<br />
Bill Barr, Mark Meadows, Jared and Ivanka, Rex<br />
Tillerson, and Trump staff and appointees are neither<br />
heroes or good Americans.<br />
Cassidy refused to abandon the party that tried to<br />
overthrow the government and she is now absurdly<br />
calling herself a “Romney republican” with a serious<br />
face.<br />
Cut the bullshit, Cassidy. There are no Romney<br />
republicans outside of perhaps the Mormon vault, er,<br />
sanctuary.<br />
Romney is the same man who bowed down and<br />
humiliated himself while begging your boss and friend<br />
Trump for a job.<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.16
M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />
The redemption tour is being breathlessly covered by mass<br />
media salivating to attach themselves to anything having<br />
to do with buttering their bread: all things Trump.<br />
And predictably the main people falling for Cassidy’s grift,<br />
besides conservative media — which is all media, let’s be<br />
clear — are white self-proclaimed democratic voters.<br />
Black voters, especially Black women, are again called on<br />
to make clear for all other democratic voters: Do Not Fall<br />
For The Okie-Dokie.<br />
But so desperate are white people to find redemption in<br />
their own family who are maga republicans they latch onto<br />
anyone they can identify with who speaks out about and<br />
pretends to depart from maga republicans.<br />
It doesn’t matter that their family and friends, like Cassidy,<br />
still plan to vote for republican — even Donald Trump,<br />
because at least they can have a better family gathering for<br />
Thanksgiving this year, I guess.<br />
It is in parts exhausting, frustrating, and angering that it is<br />
so easy for democratic voters who are white to so quickly<br />
forget what people like Cassidy co-signed and enabled.<br />
To side with the political party that attacks the disabled<br />
and wants to eliminate 80% of funding for urban schools.<br />
That has sued to stop the President from eliminating<br />
student debt.<br />
That has made abortions illegal in many states and<br />
severely restricted in many others. Who refuse to take<br />
meaningful action on gun control no matter how many<br />
massacres happen in our schools, malls, theatres, work<br />
places, and streets.<br />
They are siding with Cassidy and republicans as they<br />
loudly proclaim that striking workers in the auto<br />
industry — and any other striking workers — should be<br />
fired the moment they strike.<br />
Cassidy and the white democrats slathering her with<br />
praise are going along with the party that is banning<br />
books, that is attempting to erase Black history and<br />
refusing to teach it in schools, and that are working hand<br />
in hand with the domestic terrorist group moms for<br />
liberty as they organize to fire any and all Black school<br />
superintendents.<br />
White democratic voters who are praising Cassidy<br />
Hutchinson and her support of republicans are spreading<br />
the dangerous and historically inaccurate and racist idea<br />
that Black people benefited from slavery.<br />
And they are siding with the party who launched an<br />
insurrection on the Capital of the United States, who<br />
have had one-thousand arrested, and hundreds<br />
convicted — all the while their leader, who Cassidy<br />
joyfully worked for and agreed to work for after the<br />
insurrection — has also been indicted for in multiple<br />
states.<br />
They seem to forget Cassidy was okay with “Grab them<br />
by the pussy, all Mexican men are rapists, there were ‘fine<br />
people’ who conducted the white nationalist march in<br />
Charlottesville, and calling the media the enemy.”<br />
It is no wonder many Black democrats remain skeptical<br />
non-Black peer democrats.<br />
To side with the party who increase their giving to the NRA<br />
every time there is a gun massacre.<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.17
M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />
How many times do white democrats have to re-learn the<br />
same lessons? The republican party has been on a death<br />
spiral since the passage of the Civil Rights Act in the<br />
1960’s.<br />
Why can’t white democrats see what Black democrats see?<br />
Because no matter how awful Trump was during his putrid<br />
4 years, more white women voted for him the second time<br />
around. Just Like Cassidy.<br />
are your republican family and friends — without<br />
them condemning that which requires redemption<br />
and voting differently.<br />
It is so far past the time to raise the bar on complicit<br />
joiners like Cassidy Hutchinson. Praising her for doing<br />
the least is pathetic and shows just how little<br />
republican women have to do to reclaim their place<br />
atop the hierarchy.<br />
Enough of republicans.<br />
Enough of weak white democrats.<br />
Enough of girl boss go girl stand up to the patriarchy<br />
and get yours.<br />
Enough of bullshit white feminism and all the<br />
selfishness that comes with it.<br />
Every voting demographic voted majority for the<br />
democratic candidate in 2016 and 2020.. except white<br />
voters. Read that again- the entire electorate votes one<br />
way, and white voters vote the other.<br />
It defies reality that they believe only they are right and<br />
everyone else is wrong.<br />
The only option to salvage the “American experiment”<br />
exclusively goes through the democratic party, as all but<br />
one voting demographic realizes.<br />
Enough of infantilizing white women as if they do not<br />
have full agency to decide for themselves.<br />
No one has to side with the party of white supremacy<br />
by force. Everyone who votes republican is deciding<br />
that white supremacy is the only thing that matters to<br />
them.<br />
Enough of Cassidy Hutchinson.<br />
The republican party is the anti-American party and they<br />
have been for decades and yet grifters like Cassidy<br />
Hutchinson vote to keep it that way.<br />
There is no redemptive arc for the republicans, including<br />
the Cassidy Hutchinson’s in the party — no matter if they<br />
click<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.318
Myron's<br />
HOT TAKE<br />
#1<br />
I’m not surprised folk in this country demands to see dead<br />
children/babies. This is the nation that popularized<br />
postcards of Black people being lynched, who leave dead<br />
Black bodies in the streets for hours, and who demand to see<br />
what happened *before the police shot someone.<br />
#2<br />
Thank you democratic voters of Louisiana for giving an early<br />
warning to the: Get Out the Vote Don't Get Complacent<br />
Every Vote Matters Don't Depend on Converting White<br />
Republicans, and It Ain't The Messaging.<br />
#3<br />
I remember a manager taught me something that benefited<br />
my entire career. The Professional Pause. Don’t send an email<br />
before taking a professional pause. The pause could be 20<br />
minutes, 4 days, 3 months, or 2 years.<br />
I’m using that advice before spouting or tweeting anything<br />
about Israel and Palestine.<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.19
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DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.21
F E A T U R E D B O O K<br />
In anticipation of the fiftieth anniversary of the landmark Brown v. Board of Education decision, Catherine<br />
Prendergast draws on a combination of insights from legal studies and literacy studies to interrogate<br />
contemporary multicultural literacy initiatives, thus providing a sound historical basis that informs current<br />
debates over affirmative action, school vouchers, reparations, and high-stakes standardized testing.<br />
As a result of Brown and subsequent crucial civil rights court cases, literacy and racial justice are firmly<br />
enmeshed in the American imagination—so much so that it is difficult to discuss one without referencing<br />
the other. Breaking with the accepted wisdom that the Brown decision was an unambiguous victory for the<br />
betterment of race relations, Literacy and Racial Justice: The Politics of Learning after Brown v. Board of<br />
Education finds that the ruling reinforced traditional conceptions of literacy as primarily white property to<br />
be controlled and disseminated by an empowered majority. Prendergast examines civil rights era Supreme<br />
Court rulings and immigration cases spanning a century of racial injustice to challenge the myth of<br />
assimilation through literacy. Advancing from Ways with Words, Shirley Brice Heath’s landmark study of<br />
desegregated communities, Prendergast argues that it is a shared understanding of literacy as white<br />
property which continues to impact problematic classroom dynamics and education practices.<br />
To offer a positive model for reimagining literacy instruction that is truly in the service of racial justice,<br />
Prendergast presents a naturalistic study of an alternative public secondary school. Outlining new<br />
directions and priorities for inclusive literacy scholarship in America, Literacy and Racial Justice concludes<br />
that a literate citizen is one who can engage rather than overlook longstanding legacies of racial strife.<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.22
F E A T U R E D B O O K<br />
Motorcycling in California's<br />
Central Valley<br />
The heart of California's Central Valley--from Lodi, Stockton, and Tracy through Modesto, Oakdale, and<br />
Turlock--embraced motorcycling from the beginning of the sport and lifestyle. Eleven riders from the region<br />
are in the American Motorcyclist Association (AMA) Hall of Fame, spanning every decade from the 1900s.<br />
The popularity of bicycling in the 1890s led to early motorcycle shops, riders, and champion racers<br />
in the 1900-1910s.<br />
Area motorcycle club recreational rides and field meets started in 1914. Central Valley police departments<br />
were among the first to develop motorcycle traffic units in the 1920s, before the California Highway Patrol.<br />
Early racing venues such as repurposed bicycle velodromes, college stadiums, and horse tracks were<br />
expanded when the Lodi Cycle Bowl was developed in the 1950s; it gave newcomers such as Modesto's<br />
Kenny Roberts and Stockton's Alex Jorgensen, Chris Carr, and Fred Merkel--all now AMA Hall of Famers--a<br />
track at which to compete weekly.<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.23
F E A T U R E D A R T I C L E<br />
by Dr. Vernon Andrews<br />
Burning Man is many things to many people: An art<br />
festival, a music festival, a dance festival, a place for<br />
dozens of workshops and healing yoga at sunrise and<br />
bars city-wide. Mutant vehicle/Art cars prance about<br />
at 5 mph picking up revelers or dropping them off, and<br />
at night time the lights come on and we’re all aglow.<br />
The Playa is all of this. But most of all, Black Rock City<br />
is a community of mostly like-minded people. I say<br />
mostly because radical inclusion, one of the ten<br />
principals of Burning Man participation, admits all<br />
who hold a ticket.<br />
We want new Burners in our community every year,<br />
but people out for adventure, conversation, art, a noname<br />
cocktail, a free late-night grilled cheese, an art<br />
piece that begs you to climb up and have a view of the<br />
Playa – so you can howl at the sunset over the<br />
mountains like everybody else. We want brilliant<br />
thinkers with unorthodox artistic ideas and regular<br />
folks to ride next to on Chico’s Intergalactic<br />
Transporter Mutant Vehicle. Sure, people do drugs<br />
out there. People do drugs in your neighborhood too,<br />
and you still watch football on Sundays.<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.24
D R . V E R N O N A N D R E W S<br />
And then The Rains Came<br />
entertain and sooth us – or roasted meat over fires.<br />
Many bars – these are janky cowboy bars in camps –<br />
served random drinks to random people and laughed at<br />
our common predicament.<br />
And then there was mud. We survived very well. I mean,<br />
we were stuck in the middle of the biggest party on Planet<br />
Earth. It was messy but glorious for those of us retired or<br />
who otherwise didn’t have any responsibilities for Labor<br />
Day or the days after. I do empathize with people who had<br />
to get to a wedding or funeral or hospital or otherwise<br />
HAD TO be somewhere or do something on Saturday and<br />
Sunday. The rain started at 4:00 pm on Friday afternoon. It<br />
did not let up.<br />
People react to difficulty in fascinating ways. We woke<br />
Saturday to a camp that was quiet and in shock at 7:00 am.<br />
Seems it had rained most of the night and tents were<br />
flooded and people were miserable. But there – right there<br />
– in the middle of it all was an amazing and colorful doublerainbow<br />
towering above our tents and the pop-up city. I<br />
opened the door of the Mothership, my 30-foot Airstream<br />
RV, and announced to our camp of 40 mostly Black folks<br />
from the East Coast, a very happy –<br />
“Good morning! We got a few sprinkles last night! But<br />
nothing like bacon to cure what ails! I’m frying some up<br />
now. And pancakes too! And mimosas. I don’t think the<br />
porta-potties have been serviced yet, so if you’ve got a<br />
feeling for a number one, come on over! I’m even allowing<br />
this one-time special of number 2s in the toilet!”<br />
Burners prepare for emergencies. This was our<br />
moment. We followed instructions from our local radio<br />
station (Burning Man Information Radio), and<br />
conserved food, water, and any power source we used.<br />
We put plastic on our feet and tried to slosh around in<br />
the mud to see art or visit friends. We helped each<br />
other. We were just a bit kinder to each other. But not<br />
always.<br />
I saw a couple trying to leave with their 20-foot fifthwheel<br />
RV behind a truck that valiantly spun mud in<br />
every direction – to no avail. It was stuck. We had been<br />
told that no vehicles should leave until noon on<br />
Monday, when the Playa would be dry. Well, people do<br />
what people will do. Some don’t like being told “no!”<br />
This small, tiny bit of sharing and concern – community –<br />
helped our camp. A short while after, a videographer sat in<br />
the Mothership sad that he couldn’t finish his documentary<br />
about people of color on the playa. I offered my RV as a<br />
studio. He interviewed people about dealing with the mud.<br />
Small acts blossomed everywhere.<br />
Acts of kindness began springing up in thousands of places.<br />
A camp across from us decided they would share their<br />
kindness in the midst of the mess by cutting up about 500<br />
fresh, juicy mangos and serving them on a stick to anyone<br />
who got in line. Others played violins above art cars to<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.25
D R . V E R N O N A N D R E W S<br />
M Y O N J . C L I F T O N<br />
Vehicles spun mud on everybody as they tore up the<br />
roads twisting their way up towards the paved road<br />
which was five miles away. Of course they didn’t make<br />
it. And for the next three days we had to walk on dried<br />
roads that had 3-foot divots carved out by careening<br />
vehicles leaving before their time.<br />
But community is community. As a 13-year burner, I<br />
did what any community-centered burner would do if<br />
they saw someone driving in distress. I gave them an<br />
earful of snark.<br />
Our hearts go out to the burner who died on playa. He or<br />
she apparently tried working a generator in standing<br />
water (I don’t know the details) and didn’t survive the<br />
moment. Burner down. That hurts to lose one of your<br />
own. I want their family to know that we’ve got our arms<br />
around them and will honor that burner at next year’s<br />
Temple, the space we go to place mementos of a<br />
relationship we’ve lost. We then burn the structure in<br />
honor of the dead. Godspeed.<br />
Uncle Vern (playa name)<br />
Snark is common and everywhere on the playa. It isn’t<br />
real. It’s a joke. But snark can cut deep:<br />
“Hey! Where you going so fast? You might as well stay!<br />
Aren’t we good enough for you? You know you<br />
shouldn’t be leaving. Stay your ass right here. Yeah.<br />
Park right there. We have hot links over here and<br />
cocktails. Aren’t we good enough? You haven’t even<br />
moved 10 feet in the last 30 minutes!”<br />
I kept it up, and harsher. Finally, he gets out and walks<br />
away. His partner is there, crying. I bring over two cups<br />
of ice-water to make the situation better. I invite her<br />
over for food and drink. But they keep on. Eventually<br />
they make it out to the main road where they are stuck<br />
even longer, and without kind friends and food and<br />
drink and their campmates. Out there parked in the<br />
mud and unable to move anywhere until Monday.<br />
While the rest of us found new adventures in unlikely<br />
places or simply sat around fires and told stories and<br />
got to know each other much better. My main goal had<br />
been to spend more time in camp meeting others. The<br />
rain and mud allowed for three days of deep<br />
conversations before the muddy job of clean-up. What<br />
a wonderful time for community to show up, just when<br />
nature tells us to “chill.”<br />
Dr. Vernon Andrews<br />
C L I C K H E R E<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.26
Vernon L. Andrews<br />
Policing Black Athletes<br />
Racial Disconnect in Sports<br />
O R D E R<br />
T O D A Y !
BLM-PD<br />
BLM-PD<br />
BLM-PD<br />
BLM-PD. BLM-PD. BLM-PD. BLM-PD<br />
BLM-PD<br />
In the not too distant future, the US has been taken over by white nationalists, and<br />
the institutionalized racism that has underscored the country’s entire history has<br />
once again been codified. California has seceded from the US, and a band of strong<br />
women plan to start the next civil war following the death of their friend at the hands<br />
of the police. This is BLM-PD.
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Sometimes, when you’re at a crossroads, a door will open and what enters will inspire you. Other<br />
times, what enters will make you gag. These stories by a ride-share short-timer might have the<br />
same effect on you. A man, recently laid off from his job and intrigued by the people he might<br />
meet (and the money he might make) decides to drive ride-share while looking for a new<br />
professional management position.<br />
Don’t want to drive drunk? Well, then, by all means, plug in your location and get your friendly<br />
neighborhood ride-share driver to ferry you to your next bar. Need to move but can’t afford<br />
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The behavior and stories of folks who call on ride-share turned into a unique anthropological<br />
study for one man who decided to drive ride-share while looking for a new professional<br />
management position. Recently laid off from his job and intrigued by the people he might meet<br />
(and the money he might make), the author unwittingly became the anonymous confidant for<br />
men, women, nonbinary people, and children. Unfortunately for him, he also became the innocent<br />
target of people who couldn’t hold their liquor, others who couldn’t hold their temper, and at<br />
least one who couldn’t keep his hands to himself.<br />
Little did they know they were in the Prius of a writer, who would be able to look in the rear view<br />
and tell their stories.<br />
This collection of anecdotes is non-judgmental, full of irony and dry humor, and may help<br />
someone else decide: Is driving ride-share for you?<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.29
F E A T U R E D S P O T L I G H T<br />
I WISH I COULD<br />
TELL MY MOM<br />
HAPPY BIRTHDAY<br />
by Myron J. Clifton<br />
Thinking about my mom, Floy <strong>Dean</strong> today on her birthday.<br />
She would be 78, twice as old as she lived. She died of colon<br />
cancer at age 39. At diagnostic she was told she had a year<br />
but she lived 18 months. Those last 6 months were filled<br />
with almost daily hospital trips, and pain.<br />
I’d lay back down, unable to sleep, and waited for the<br />
time to pass, her cries to fade, and my alarm to ignite in a<br />
few hours. Neither of us slept well, but hers was pain,<br />
mine was sorry and helplessness. I cursed a cruel and<br />
indifferent god who was uninterested in her health.<br />
I remember the good times, her laugh, smell, her hair, her<br />
hugs. But I remember the hell that was late stage colon<br />
cancer. I remember the nights the most because her pain<br />
exceeded the power of morphine to keep it down. She cried<br />
out in pain wanting more relief.<br />
It is odd because our mothers are our gods. Givers and<br />
sustainers of our lives when without them we simply<br />
can’t be born and can’t survive birth. But we are taught<br />
to turn from a tangible beautiful loving god to a<br />
untouchable idea of a god who ignores our pain in times<br />
of need.<br />
I’ve never forgiven that god for taking her so young. Her<br />
life was hard. Pregnant at 15 and by 18 she had me, her<br />
3rd boy. She said she cried when I was born she so<br />
wanted a girl. She got a girl 7 years later. Kicked out of<br />
home, violently abused by my father, and religious<br />
leaders.<br />
By then it was only us at home so I cared for her overnight<br />
and all day. The morphine had long stopped working. It<br />
was a cruel existence and something she didn’t deserve. I<br />
counted the seconds until I could give her the next dose.<br />
The relief took moments and lasted moments.<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.30
M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />
She survived them all, not because their god rescued her,<br />
but because she grew up, understood her worth, and<br />
walked away from them all and built the life she wanted<br />
and deserved. No one but her sister and two girlfriends<br />
helped her. Women helping women, she’d say way back<br />
then.<br />
She thrived with new work, new travel, new<br />
boy/girlfriends, until one day she had a stomach ache.<br />
The time of her post marriage, escaped abuse, made a life<br />
for herself was all of 10 years. 10 years. A cruel outcome<br />
by a trickster god who needs to apologize for harming<br />
her.<br />
I love and miss her every second. I long for her love, her<br />
smell, her soft hair when we hugged. I long for her sharp<br />
wit, sharper tongue, and proudly making her a cup of<br />
coffee just like she liked it.<br />
I wish she were here so I could tell her happy birthday.<br />
Happy birthday, mom.<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.31
Her Legend Lives In You:<br />
The Untold Creation Story Honoring The<br />
Goddess And Our Daughters.<br />
by Myron J. Clifton<br />
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A cup of coffee or tea paired with interesting company is an unbeatable combination. We learn<br />
and share so much through this simple social ritual. Nuanced origin stories. Brow-raising<br />
secrets. Good news. Bad news. Hopes and dreams, insecurities and fears. Sip by sip, we do<br />
business, catch up, plan our lives, and discover common ground.<br />
To gain a better understanding of his friends, Myron went on a mission to try their favorite<br />
drinks. He was struck by the complex flavors and simple pleasures that characterized their<br />
personalities. Sweet. Spicy. Bold. Bewitching. Optimistic. Ostentatious. Practical. Perfectionist.<br />
In Coffee, Grounded, Myron reviews these drinks and brews up a perfect blend of culture and<br />
caffeine. He examines the history of various ingredients and coffee-growing regions, painting a<br />
vivid picture of faraway lands and hometown haunts.<br />
Pour yourself a cup and curl up with this tasty collection of stories steeped in friendship and fun.<br />
Order & Indulge!<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.33
MYRON'S<br />
HIT OR MISS<br />
MISS<br />
Major media, including the New York Times, CNN, MSNBC and of<br />
course Fox News spread misinformation about the war between<br />
Israel and Hamas and the bombing of a hospital. Turns out the<br />
hospital wasn’t bombed, and the explosion was due to an errant<br />
rocket that crashed and exploded in the parking lot of a hospital.<br />
list<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.34
MISS<br />
Rep Kevin McCarthy lost his speakership because<br />
the deal he made with republicans who hate him<br />
allowed them to fire him with only one other<br />
republican calling for his ouster. That republican<br />
ended up being Kevin’s enemy accused criminal<br />
Matt Gaetz.<br />
MISS<br />
Rep Jim Jordan, also known as “Gym” because of<br />
horrible accusations he failed to act when he knew<br />
Ohio State wrestling students were being sexually<br />
abused. Has been humiliated by republicans who refuse<br />
to vote him into the Speaker’s chair.<br />
HIT<br />
Hollywood writers agreed on a new contract, and they are back to work. What<br />
this means is movie production will re-start, scripted television will start up, and<br />
the talking heads on daytime and nighttime talk shows will still not be funny.<br />
MISS<br />
The Los Angeles Dodgers and Atlanta Braves, the two winningest teams in Major League Baseball this past<br />
season, were both swept out of the playoffs in the Divisional round.<br />
HIT<br />
President Biden became the first president to visit<br />
Israel during a war, as he delivered a speech vowing<br />
support and weapons to Israel, humanitarian support<br />
to Palestine, and strong admonitions to Iran not to<br />
interfere, and Israel not to make the same types of<br />
mistakes the United States made following 9/11.<br />
HIT<br />
Beyonce and Taylor Swift using the power of their<br />
popularity and record-breaking tours – Renaissance<br />
and Eras, respectively, to bypass the movie studios<br />
and sell their concert-movies straight to the movie<br />
chains, thereby giving their fans even more reason to<br />
love the powerful entertainers.<br />
MISS<br />
Mass media going after VP Kamala Harris- again.<br />
HIT<br />
Governor Gavin Newsom selecting Laphonza<br />
Butler to fill the senate seat of Dianne<br />
Feinstein. And then Senator Butler<br />
immediately being assigned to the powerful<br />
Senate Judiciary Committee – just like Sen.<br />
Feinstein.<br />
MISS<br />
Representative Lauren Boebert getting kicked<br />
out of the Beetlejuice play in Denver and<br />
denying her vaping was the reason. And then the<br />
video came out showing her vaping and getting<br />
felt up by her date while at the same time she<br />
was grabbing and stroking his penis.<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.35
MOVIE<br />
REVIEWS<br />
by Myron J. Clifton<br />
Fair Play on Netflix<br />
A power couple who are thriving in the financial<br />
industry are thrown into chaos when she is<br />
promoted over him. He at first tries to be okay with<br />
his love interest working close with the mercurial<br />
and demanding owner of the firm, but slowly but<br />
surely his insecurities cause him to lose his entire<br />
mind as he tries to destroy her career. In the<br />
meantime, she is thriving but constantly being pulled<br />
back by her loser boyfriend. The movie is a study in<br />
insecure men and the successful women who pay the<br />
price for dragging them along.<br />
Inside on Tubi<br />
A pregnant woman is terrorized by another lady who<br />
is trying to steal her baby right out of her stomach.<br />
We watch as the attacker gets more and more<br />
extreme and violent as she tries to steal the unborn<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.36
MOVIE<br />
REVIEWS<br />
baby. It is intense, violent, and horrible. And<br />
we don’t know why she has chosen this one<br />
lady to attack. Is she in a cult, baby selling ring,<br />
or is it something closer to home?<br />
Meg 2: The Trench<br />
The giant megalodon shark is back to terrorize<br />
whales, ships, other giant creatures, and intrepid<br />
scientists determined to lead the monster to a<br />
packed beach resort. Of course they do and the<br />
megalodon does what it has evolved to do. The<br />
movie is big, loud, senseless, and just overall<br />
terrible. A great watch if you love shark movies.<br />
Hallmark’s Fall Into Love movies<br />
If you want G-rated meet cute stories where the<br />
goal is to quit corporate jobs, move out of big cities,<br />
reclaim your high school first love who is now a<br />
contractor who can fix up the café you inherited<br />
from your dead uncle, these movies are for you.<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.37
MY FAVORITE THINGS<br />
streaming right<br />
now...
S T R E A M I N G N O W<br />
HBO/MAX: Naked Attraction<br />
A British series where people looking to date<br />
get to choose their date by first looking at<br />
them completely naked, except for the face.<br />
The person selecting gets to choose from six<br />
guests. The guests’ genitals are shown first in<br />
full nudity for men and women. They turn to<br />
show their buts, and then their chests are<br />
revealed. Before the final choice, the dater<br />
also takes all their clothes off. The show then<br />
shows the date and brings the couple back for<br />
a follow-up chat.<br />
PRIME – Gen V (From the Makers of The Boys)<br />
If you miss The Boys, go right to Prime, and<br />
watch season 1 of Gen V which is The Boys, but<br />
in high school. The corporation has a dedicated<br />
high school for future heroes where they train,<br />
have unique sex, creative drugs, and lots of<br />
violent adventures as they attempt to solve a<br />
few mysteries that the corporation is hiding. It is<br />
violence, absurd, funny, and very well done.<br />
Hulu: The Mill<br />
An office worker wakes up alone in a hollowed<br />
room that resembles a stable or a barn. Trying<br />
to understand where he is and why he is there,<br />
the man is thrust into a nightmare existence of<br />
hard demeaning labor, random abuses, and a<br />
few shocking twists that brings it all the way<br />
around to something familiar to most people.<br />
Disney+: The Haunted Mansion<br />
The newest version of Disney’s Haunted<br />
Mansion is very good and appropriate for kids<br />
ages 7+. Viewers who have been on the<br />
haunted mansion ride will have fun spotting<br />
each aspect of the ride played out as part of<br />
the story – every background, every ghost, and<br />
every spooky hitchhiker can be seen (through).<br />
And because it is Disney+, you can see three<br />
other versions of the movie, plus The Muppets<br />
Haunted Mansion versions.<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.39
The Lost Art of<br />
LISTENING<br />
by Katya Juliet Lerner<br />
Focus outward. If asking questions, giving compliments and<br />
listening are not your strengths, it’s time to practice!<br />
For starters, you can take notes – write down some good<br />
opening questions and general compliments you can<br />
practice making while meeting and networking with others.<br />
In person, try to listen without thinking of your response<br />
and simply take a genuine interest in what others have to<br />
say. You will make them feel important and they will want to<br />
communicate with you more again in the future. (Pro dating<br />
tip!)<br />
While communication is a two-way system, it is not always<br />
necessary to communicate verbally. Especially when<br />
learning about someone new, listening and other forms of<br />
non-verbal communication, such as eye-contact, head<br />
nodding, how you are standing, smiling and so on, is often<br />
received more positively than listening to immediately reply<br />
verbally or with a personal story or reference.<br />
One major issue is that most of us are so focused on what<br />
we are thinking about and what we’re going to say next, that<br />
we lose sight of the importance of listening to what others<br />
have to say. We may not have even HEARD what it was they<br />
did say all together! Sheesh.<br />
fix the situation” if someone is sharing or complaining<br />
about something in their life. While it is a stereotype,<br />
many men do explain that if they cannot help fix<br />
something, they don’t know what to say. This is a perfect<br />
example of when it might be a good time to just learn to<br />
be supportive by listening and letting the other person<br />
know that they have been heard. You don’t always have to<br />
say something wise, clever or extra.<br />
Take time to listen and learn about others and they will<br />
then in return take a genuine interest in you as well.<br />
Sometimes the two-way construct confuses people into<br />
thinking both parties need to be continuously talking back<br />
and forth.<br />
Listening is a critical skill in business and personal life that<br />
is significantly under-practiced. If you listen with greater<br />
focus, you will most likely find it easier to respond with<br />
more thoughtful questions and insight, and in turn,<br />
improve your social network, career & circle of friends.<br />
Katya Juliet Lerner - Bio & Website:<br />
https://katya-juliet-lerner.netlify.app/<br />
I have heard the gender stereotype that men want to “help<br />
DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.40
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