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Dear Dean Magazine: October 2023

Dear Dean Magazine: Issue 22 | October 2023 By Myron J. Clifton | Subscribe free online www.deardeanpublishing.com/subscribe

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DEAR DEAN<br />

M A G A Z I N E<br />

IT’S A SUPER<br />

SPOOKY REALITY<br />

F E A T U R E D S T O R Y<br />

WHITE MEN<br />

+<br />

+<br />

ENOUGH OF CASSIDY HUTCHINSON<br />

UNCLE VERN ON MUD BURN <strong>2023</strong><br />

A MESSAGE TO MY JEWISH FRIENDS<br />

+<br />

I WISH I COULD TELL MY<br />

MOM HAPPY BIRTHDAY<br />

+ THE LOST ART OF LISTENING<br />

Plus!<br />

IN <strong>2023</strong><br />

Myron's Hit or Miss List<br />

New Movie Reviews<br />

What I'm Streaming Right Now<br />

Hot Takes<br />

Featured Books<br />

V O L . 2 2 | O C T O B E R 2 2 , 2 0 2 3


THE GOODS<br />

03 Welcome From Myron<br />

06<br />

White Men<br />

by Myron J. Clifton<br />

10 A Message To My Jewish Friends<br />

by Myron J. Clifton<br />

16 Enough Of Cassidy Hutchinson<br />

by Myron J. Clifton<br />

19<br />

Hot Take! x3<br />

24<br />

30<br />

34<br />

36<br />

40<br />

Uncle Vern on Mud Burn <strong>2023</strong><br />

by Dr. Vernon Andrews<br />

I wish I Could Tell My Mom<br />

Happy Birthday<br />

by Myron J. Clifton<br />

Myron's HIT or MISS List<br />

Movie Reviews / My Favorite<br />

Things Streaming Right Now<br />

The Lost Art Of Listening<br />

by Katya Juliet Lerner<br />

D E A R D E A N M A G A Z I N E , W E B S I T E ,<br />

B L O G S A N D B O O K S A R E D E S I G N E D<br />

B Y K A T Y A J U L I E T L E R N E R


Welcome!<br />

<strong>October</strong> <strong>2023</strong><br />

All Hollow’s Eve is upon us and in<br />

this issue we recognize that the<br />

world is a scary place for children,<br />

Jewish people in Israel and around<br />

the world, and Palestinians.<br />

We give a shout out to our Jewish friends and the<br />

need to listen, understand, and be empathetic, while<br />

trying to understand each other. We take another<br />

former Trump official, Cassidy Hutchinson, to task<br />

for profiting off her time working for him. Katya<br />

Juliet writes a short piece on the Lost Art of<br />

Listening. And we hear a firsthand account from Dr.<br />

Vernon Andrews who attended this past summer’s<br />

Burning Man that was plagued by torrential rains<br />

and historic flooding. Dr. Andrews provides a<br />

different viewpoint of what went down – much<br />

different than what mainstream media reported at<br />

the time.<br />

We have excellent articles from contributors every<br />

month and this month is no different.<br />

All your favorites are here as well– What’s<br />

Streaming, Television reviews, Hot Takes, Hit/Miss,<br />

and don’t miss our latest book advertisements from<br />

our readers.<br />

There’s a lot here and we hope you enjoy it all, share<br />

it all, and let us know on social media (see our<br />

contributor handles with articles).<br />

We publish thought-provoking articles on<br />

government, gender, race, and politics, while also<br />

providing space for movie and television reviews,<br />

poetry, short stories, food, pets, fun, and a<br />

welcoming platform for independent authors and<br />

writers.<br />

And we provide this space for free – because our<br />

motto is and will remain: Some Art Deserves to be<br />

Free.<br />

Enjoy this month’s issue, please support the writers<br />

and the authors whose books we advertise for free.<br />

We appreciate you as a reader and we thank you for<br />

sharing the magazine to your social media network,<br />

friends, and family. And we look forward to seeing<br />

YOUR contribution soon.<br />

-Myron<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.3


About Me<br />

Website | Bookshop | Twitter<br />

Myron J. Clifton is an author of novels Jamaal’s Incredible Adventures in the Black Church;<br />

Monuments: A Deadly Day at Jefferson Park; BLM-PD: Revenge was Inevitable; Her Legend Lives in<br />

You: The Untold Story Honoring the Goddess & Our Daughters; and short story collection, We<br />

Couldn’t Be Heroes, and Other Stories. Also check out his weekly podcast, Voice Memos, his FREE<br />

digital magazine, <strong>Dear</strong> <strong>Dean</strong> <strong>Magazine</strong>, and his weekly blog at both Medium and <strong>Dear</strong><strong>Dean</strong>.com.<br />

Myron lives in Sacramento, California, and is an avid Bay Area sports fan. He likes comic books, telling<br />

stories about his late mom to his beloved daughter Leah, and talking to his friends. BOOKS ON<br />

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DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.4


Jamaal's Incredible Adventures in the<br />

Black Church by Myron J. Clifton<br />

Before Jamaal's seventeenth birthday, he’s appointed as his preacher uncle’s<br />

designated driver and unwilling personal confidant. Behind the fine outfits and<br />

hats, behind the delicious cooking, Jamaal is exposed to crazy aunties, sexy church<br />

sisters, corrupt pastors, and predator deacons. A good kid who just wants time to<br />

finish his homework and kiss a girl his own age, Jamaal is dragged through the<br />

strange world of the Black church. You best pray for him.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.5


F E A T U R E D A R T I C L E<br />

Myron J. Clifton<br />

I say this with the utmost respect for my friends. White<br />

men in America are destroying every piece and part of<br />

this country with methodical precision. Every<br />

institution, government office and department, the<br />

judiciary, business, public schools, healthcare, law<br />

enforcement, military, and diplomacy.<br />

WHITE MEN<br />

They have been every president except one and that<br />

one, twice elected Barack Obama, sent them into a<br />

spiral of hate and racism the nation hasn’t recovered<br />

from.<br />

It’s not unions. Or migrants. Or Black folk, Latino, gay,<br />

lesbian, transgender, or Jewish folk. It’s specifically<br />

white men and the uneven power they hold in every<br />

facet of American society.<br />

They are the forced main character we all have to step<br />

aside for, tolerate, fear, work for.<br />

It’s not only religious or southern, either. It’s coastal,<br />

rural, wealthy, middle class, poor, and every datapoint<br />

in between including Republican, Democratic,<br />

Independent, Green, Socialist.<br />

On most social media sites white women are called out<br />

100% of the time for voting majority republican and<br />

propping up white supremacy — and RIGHTLY so!<br />

But guess who they’re propping up?<br />

70% or so staunchly vote republican and will NEVER<br />

change no matter what happens, who says what, or who<br />

pleads. They are the epitome of high on their own<br />

supply.<br />

Guess who’s rewarding them? Uh huh. But in my<br />

opinion white men don’t nearly get the consistent heat<br />

white women do.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.6


M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

Side note- in a twisted way that’s a “compliment” to white<br />

women since it indicates most folk still have hope they’ll<br />

turn.<br />

Twisted but I think there’s something to it. Conversely,<br />

almost no one thinks white men will turn and that’s saying<br />

so much more.<br />

A new lost cause.<br />

White vote republican more than any other<br />

demographic. Think about that for a moment — they are<br />

the only demographic, along with white women- who<br />

votes majority republican. Every other demographic<br />

votes majority for democrats, votes to help people, not<br />

harm people, except white people.<br />

Correction, white male, and female democrats running for<br />

office think they can turn white men despite 60 years of<br />

evidence they cannot. And despite white men running as<br />

republican who NEVER court Black/brown voters.<br />

*Washed up dumb ass rappers and losers like Herschel<br />

Walker, Larry Elder excepted.<br />

In fact republicans do the opposite: they regurgitate anti-<br />

Black tropes, stereotypes, lies, and anti-Brown bullshit so<br />

they can recruit MORE white voters. That’s right. The main<br />

way republicans, white men and women, recruit more<br />

republicans is by spreading lies and fears about Black<br />

people, migrants, and other marginalized demographics.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.7


M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

And every election our funky ass media plays along like any<br />

of it is new.<br />

We see this the world over, not only in the U.S.<br />

What’s happening in Ukraine, Israel, Palestine, Koreas,<br />

multiple African nations, Australia’s recent racist vote, the<br />

Caribbean Islands, especially Puerto Rico, South and<br />

Central America.. can be traced to one specific<br />

demographic. It’s infuriating and sad. Frustrating and<br />

debilitating.<br />

That demographic counts 70m deaths in World War II, 2<br />

million in Vietnam, and hundreds of millions other civilian<br />

deaths around the world just over the past century from<br />

imperialism, colonization, enslavement, genocide,<br />

environmental, drugs, guns, law enforcement.<br />

There’s a movie trope that sees the main white guy<br />

give a speech at some pivotal moment in his life — loss<br />

of job, loss of life, loss of sporting event, or, new job,<br />

new awareness, new partner, new weapon- and he<br />

gives the big speech and everyone else stands around<br />

honored that the white man is talking again.<br />

I guarantee you no one in real life would stand and<br />

listen to average white guy give a long ass speech as<br />

aliens are descending, ghosts are destroying, or<br />

warriors are charging.<br />

They tell you what the “right” religion is and they force<br />

their beliefs on the entire world under threat of death,<br />

economic instability, regime change.<br />

I wish white men could live one day -hell one hour- like<br />

the rest of us. It wouldn’t change them, I know, but I’d<br />

enjoy their momentary existence as something other<br />

than the misguided belief they are the main character.<br />

White men take up too much space, speak too frequently,<br />

yell too much, occupy too much, and force themselves in<br />

far too many spaces. They talk over and through everyone<br />

else because they believe they must always be heard. They<br />

have the most speaking parts in movies and on television,<br />

they are most judges, lawyers, professors, managers,<br />

CEO’s, newscasters, talk show hosts.<br />

click<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.8


F E A T U R E D B O O K<br />

Marcus A. Banks-Bey, M.Div<br />

Gathered experience and elevation gained from years as an Army & hospital chaplain, mental health worker<br />

and clinical psychology doctoral student, equips Marcus A Banks to aid in journeying the reader to<br />

intelligently question their past belief systems and future creative visions of thought and identity as a<br />

purposeful means to developing their own personal reality for establishing their “true identity.”<br />

Within Dig Deep lies practical language, developed to help the reader grow the relationship with<br />

themselves, and understand why nurturing the relationships we have with our Faith, Family, Friends, Fitness<br />

and Finances will support our Purpose, Planning, Patience, and Persistent-Perseverance. This system helps<br />

one establish their own 5×5 Side by Side Guide through life. Dig Deep was written following a series of<br />

extremely challenging life occurrences, including the suicide of the author’s brother, Iverson; divorce; and<br />

war deployment. From this place, the author engaged in the process of self-discovery, self-awareness and<br />

meaning.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.9


F E A T U R E D<br />

S P O T L I G H T<br />

by Myron J. Clifton<br />

I don’t think most folk can fully appreciate or understand<br />

how attacks on Jewish folk is scary to the core of all<br />

Jewish people.<br />

When there’s only roughly 16m of you, recent memory<br />

when dozens of nations worked to exterminate you, and<br />

you are always top 2 target for hate attacks.<br />

My community isn’t exempt from antisemitism either.<br />

I was raised a Pentecostal Christian and taught<br />

Christian theology that negates, warps, dismisses, fauxhonors,<br />

and spreads falsehoods about Judaism, faith,<br />

and G-D, while diminishing the Christian savior’s<br />

Jewishness.<br />

Hate attacks in any country where you have diaspora.<br />

It’s truly frightening.<br />

We were taught “Jews need Jesus too” and other lies<br />

and vile messages disguised as truth and love.<br />

Nowhere is truly safe -in that Black folk can identify. Not<br />

even in this nation that always have spreading<br />

antisemitism. Where apps such as Twitter is a cesspool of<br />

antisemitism and there’s nothing Jewish folk can do to<br />

stop it.<br />

They can’t stop Fox News, MSNBC, the Republican Party,<br />

far left Democrats, or new immigrants.<br />

And yet Black Americans specifically remain the people<br />

who best understand Jewish fear and anger at always<br />

being blamed for… everything.<br />

There are only 16m or so Jewish people in the world.<br />

Someone pointed out how the Jewish population has<br />

never or perhaps just recently recovered from World<br />

War 2.<br />

They can’t stop being blamed for the Ukraine-Russia war, or<br />

blame for any bad thing that happens in the “Middle East”<br />

or Hollywood or mass media.<br />

That’s 80+ years trying to recover their population<br />

while also trying to prevent the next occurrence of<br />

genocide.<br />

It’s always the “Jewish folk’s fault.”<br />

That’s fucked up beyond measure.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.10


M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

And once again here we are with war and threats of more<br />

war. Talks of eradication, destruction, death.<br />

And a people who can never let their guard down.<br />

As many are saying and which I concur, I am not an expert<br />

on Middle East politics. I’m not an expert on Jewish<br />

history. I don’t know how or why enough to teach a class<br />

about Jewish people, history, culture, or religion, but I<br />

know enough about what it means to fight for survival<br />

every second of every day.<br />

And I know what it means to be scapegoated for -<br />

everything by nearly everyone.<br />

It’s exhausting, debilitating, angering, and fuels stress,<br />

sickness, and death. I know what it means to push down<br />

and hide the anger from micro and macro aggressions. I<br />

know hopelessness and resignation.<br />

But I also know resiliency of the type handed down<br />

through words, deeds, and DNA. Of the need to stand tall<br />

not turn away, and claim and demand my humanity.<br />

The pain this tiny community is experiencing right now is<br />

hard to comprehend especially from the comfort of<br />

middle and upper class society safe from rockets, bombs,<br />

terrorists, and a mostly indifferent world. The thought<br />

brings unbearable sadness.<br />

A world that for thousands of years wanted them<br />

ended, eradicated, and genocided.<br />

I’m sad for my Jewish sisters and brothers and I wish<br />

you peace, security, safety -things we all want at home<br />

and in our homes. I want your home to give you that<br />

whether home in your homeland or your diaspora.<br />

May you and peace finally find one another.<br />

It doesn’t have to be this way.<br />

I am pacifist and I do not like any violence. I understand<br />

government and why violence happens and is necessary<br />

in this world because I have to know the world I live in.<br />

And Jewish folk have to know the world they live in.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.11


CLICK TO MEET<br />

THE HOSTS!<br />

MYRON<br />

JENN<br />

Two longtime friends have informative, yet<br />

brief discussions about multitudinous topics.<br />

NEW EPISODES ON FRIDAYS!<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.12


MYRON J. CLIFTON & JENNIFER VANLAANEN'S PODCAST<br />

VOICE MEMOS REVIEWS<br />

Listen Now!<br />

Stay<br />

Shallow!<br />

Like listening to your BFFs June 2, 2022<br />

kjlerner


F E A T U R E D B O O K<br />

The intimate and heartbreaking story of a Black undercover police officer who famously kneeled by the<br />

assassinated Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr--and a daughter's quest for the truth about her father.<br />

In the famous photograph of the assassination of Martin Luther King Jr. on the balcony of Memphis's<br />

Lorraine Motel, one man kneeled down beside King, trying to staunch the blood from his fatal head wound<br />

with a borrowed towel.<br />

This kneeling man was a member of the Invaders, an activist group that was in talks with King in the days<br />

leading up to the murder. But he also had another identity: an undercover Memphis police officer reporting<br />

on the activities of this group, which was thought to be possibly dangerous and potentially violent. This<br />

kneeling man is Leta McCollough Seletzky's father..<br />

Marrell McCollough was a Black man working secretly with the white power structure, a spy. This was so<br />

far from her understanding of what it meant to be Black in America, of everything she eventually devoted<br />

her life and career to, that she set out to learn what she could about his life, his actions and motivations.<br />

But with that decision came risk. What would she uncover about her father, who went on to a career at the<br />

CIA, and did she want to bear the weight of knowing?<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.14


We Couldn't Be Heroes<br />

Short Story Collection: We Couldn't Be Heroes And Other Stories What if a Black<br />

man could control the weather, God called 911, or aliens took our souls? Would<br />

we notice? Would we care?... Enjoy the entire collection, seven stories in all, on<br />

earth and in space and in any order.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.15


ENOUGH OF<br />

CASSIDY<br />

HUTCHINSON<br />

F E A T U R E D A R T I C L E<br />

Myron J. Clifton<br />

You can’t be redeemed without condemning that which<br />

necessitates redemption.<br />

Cassidy Hutchinson is another former Trump<br />

republican seeking to profit off her time in the white<br />

house by writing a book about her time working for the<br />

disgraced former president.<br />

Her book, which I won’t mention or link here, is one of<br />

many by former maga employees who worked hand in<br />

hand with the worst president in history, agreed with all<br />

of his racist, homophobic, traitorous, illegal, and<br />

misogynistic policies and actions from the moment he<br />

hired them up until they recognized they too could go<br />

to prison.<br />

And in Cassidy’s case she had signed on to privately<br />

continue working for him at Mar a Lago after he was<br />

kicked out of office.<br />

Cassidy, like Mike Pence, Chris Christie, Mitt Romney,<br />

Bill Barr, Mark Meadows, Jared and Ivanka, Rex<br />

Tillerson, and Trump staff and appointees are neither<br />

heroes or good Americans.<br />

Cassidy refused to abandon the party that tried to<br />

overthrow the government and she is now absurdly<br />

calling herself a “Romney republican” with a serious<br />

face.<br />

Cut the bullshit, Cassidy. There are no Romney<br />

republicans outside of perhaps the Mormon vault, er,<br />

sanctuary.<br />

Romney is the same man who bowed down and<br />

humiliated himself while begging your boss and friend<br />

Trump for a job.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.16


M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

The redemption tour is being breathlessly covered by mass<br />

media salivating to attach themselves to anything having<br />

to do with buttering their bread: all things Trump.<br />

And predictably the main people falling for Cassidy’s grift,<br />

besides conservative media — which is all media, let’s be<br />

clear — are white self-proclaimed democratic voters.<br />

Black voters, especially Black women, are again called on<br />

to make clear for all other democratic voters: Do Not Fall<br />

For The Okie-Dokie.<br />

But so desperate are white people to find redemption in<br />

their own family who are maga republicans they latch onto<br />

anyone they can identify with who speaks out about and<br />

pretends to depart from maga republicans.<br />

It doesn’t matter that their family and friends, like Cassidy,<br />

still plan to vote for republican — even Donald Trump,<br />

because at least they can have a better family gathering for<br />

Thanksgiving this year, I guess.<br />

It is in parts exhausting, frustrating, and angering that it is<br />

so easy for democratic voters who are white to so quickly<br />

forget what people like Cassidy co-signed and enabled.<br />

To side with the political party that attacks the disabled<br />

and wants to eliminate 80% of funding for urban schools.<br />

That has sued to stop the President from eliminating<br />

student debt.<br />

That has made abortions illegal in many states and<br />

severely restricted in many others. Who refuse to take<br />

meaningful action on gun control no matter how many<br />

massacres happen in our schools, malls, theatres, work<br />

places, and streets.<br />

They are siding with Cassidy and republicans as they<br />

loudly proclaim that striking workers in the auto<br />

industry — and any other striking workers — should be<br />

fired the moment they strike.<br />

Cassidy and the white democrats slathering her with<br />

praise are going along with the party that is banning<br />

books, that is attempting to erase Black history and<br />

refusing to teach it in schools, and that are working hand<br />

in hand with the domestic terrorist group moms for<br />

liberty as they organize to fire any and all Black school<br />

superintendents.<br />

White democratic voters who are praising Cassidy<br />

Hutchinson and her support of republicans are spreading<br />

the dangerous and historically inaccurate and racist idea<br />

that Black people benefited from slavery.<br />

And they are siding with the party who launched an<br />

insurrection on the Capital of the United States, who<br />

have had one-thousand arrested, and hundreds<br />

convicted — all the while their leader, who Cassidy<br />

joyfully worked for and agreed to work for after the<br />

insurrection — has also been indicted for in multiple<br />

states.<br />

They seem to forget Cassidy was okay with “Grab them<br />

by the pussy, all Mexican men are rapists, there were ‘fine<br />

people’ who conducted the white nationalist march in<br />

Charlottesville, and calling the media the enemy.”<br />

It is no wonder many Black democrats remain skeptical<br />

non-Black peer democrats.<br />

To side with the party who increase their giving to the NRA<br />

every time there is a gun massacre.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.17


M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

How many times do white democrats have to re-learn the<br />

same lessons? The republican party has been on a death<br />

spiral since the passage of the Civil Rights Act in the<br />

1960’s.<br />

Why can’t white democrats see what Black democrats see?<br />

Because no matter how awful Trump was during his putrid<br />

4 years, more white women voted for him the second time<br />

around. Just Like Cassidy.<br />

are your republican family and friends — without<br />

them condemning that which requires redemption<br />

and voting differently.<br />

It is so far past the time to raise the bar on complicit<br />

joiners like Cassidy Hutchinson. Praising her for doing<br />

the least is pathetic and shows just how little<br />

republican women have to do to reclaim their place<br />

atop the hierarchy.<br />

Enough of republicans.<br />

Enough of weak white democrats.<br />

Enough of girl boss go girl stand up to the patriarchy<br />

and get yours.<br />

Enough of bullshit white feminism and all the<br />

selfishness that comes with it.<br />

Every voting demographic voted majority for the<br />

democratic candidate in 2016 and 2020.. except white<br />

voters. Read that again- the entire electorate votes one<br />

way, and white voters vote the other.<br />

It defies reality that they believe only they are right and<br />

everyone else is wrong.<br />

The only option to salvage the “American experiment”<br />

exclusively goes through the democratic party, as all but<br />

one voting demographic realizes.<br />

Enough of infantilizing white women as if they do not<br />

have full agency to decide for themselves.<br />

No one has to side with the party of white supremacy<br />

by force. Everyone who votes republican is deciding<br />

that white supremacy is the only thing that matters to<br />

them.<br />

Enough of Cassidy Hutchinson.<br />

The republican party is the anti-American party and they<br />

have been for decades and yet grifters like Cassidy<br />

Hutchinson vote to keep it that way.<br />

There is no redemptive arc for the republicans, including<br />

the Cassidy Hutchinson’s in the party — no matter if they<br />

click<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.318


Myron's<br />

HOT TAKE<br />

#1<br />

I’m not surprised folk in this country demands to see dead<br />

children/babies. This is the nation that popularized<br />

postcards of Black people being lynched, who leave dead<br />

Black bodies in the streets for hours, and who demand to see<br />

what happened *before the police shot someone.<br />

#2<br />

Thank you democratic voters of Louisiana for giving an early<br />

warning to the: Get Out the Vote Don't Get Complacent<br />

Every Vote Matters Don't Depend on Converting White<br />

Republicans, and It Ain't The Messaging.<br />

#3<br />

I remember a manager taught me something that benefited<br />

my entire career. The Professional Pause. Don’t send an email<br />

before taking a professional pause. The pause could be 20<br />

minutes, 4 days, 3 months, or 2 years.<br />

I’m using that advice before spouting or tweeting anything<br />

about Israel and Palestine.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.19


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DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.21


F E A T U R E D B O O K<br />

In anticipation of the fiftieth anniversary of the landmark Brown v. Board of Education decision, Catherine<br />

Prendergast draws on a combination of insights from legal studies and literacy studies to interrogate<br />

contemporary multicultural literacy initiatives, thus providing a sound historical basis that informs current<br />

debates over affirmative action, school vouchers, reparations, and high-stakes standardized testing.<br />

As a result of Brown and subsequent crucial civil rights court cases, literacy and racial justice are firmly<br />

enmeshed in the American imagination—so much so that it is difficult to discuss one without referencing<br />

the other. Breaking with the accepted wisdom that the Brown decision was an unambiguous victory for the<br />

betterment of race relations, Literacy and Racial Justice: The Politics of Learning after Brown v. Board of<br />

Education finds that the ruling reinforced traditional conceptions of literacy as primarily white property to<br />

be controlled and disseminated by an empowered majority. Prendergast examines civil rights era Supreme<br />

Court rulings and immigration cases spanning a century of racial injustice to challenge the myth of<br />

assimilation through literacy. Advancing from Ways with Words, Shirley Brice Heath’s landmark study of<br />

desegregated communities, Prendergast argues that it is a shared understanding of literacy as white<br />

property which continues to impact problematic classroom dynamics and education practices.<br />

To offer a positive model for reimagining literacy instruction that is truly in the service of racial justice,<br />

Prendergast presents a naturalistic study of an alternative public secondary school. Outlining new<br />

directions and priorities for inclusive literacy scholarship in America, Literacy and Racial Justice concludes<br />

that a literate citizen is one who can engage rather than overlook longstanding legacies of racial strife.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.22


F E A T U R E D B O O K<br />

Motorcycling in California's<br />

Central Valley<br />

The heart of California's Central Valley--from Lodi, Stockton, and Tracy through Modesto, Oakdale, and<br />

Turlock--embraced motorcycling from the beginning of the sport and lifestyle. Eleven riders from the region<br />

are in the American Motorcyclist Association (AMA) Hall of Fame, spanning every decade from the 1900s.<br />

The popularity of bicycling in the 1890s led to early motorcycle shops, riders, and champion racers<br />

in the 1900-1910s.<br />

Area motorcycle club recreational rides and field meets started in 1914. Central Valley police departments<br />

were among the first to develop motorcycle traffic units in the 1920s, before the California Highway Patrol.<br />

Early racing venues such as repurposed bicycle velodromes, college stadiums, and horse tracks were<br />

expanded when the Lodi Cycle Bowl was developed in the 1950s; it gave newcomers such as Modesto's<br />

Kenny Roberts and Stockton's Alex Jorgensen, Chris Carr, and Fred Merkel--all now AMA Hall of Famers--a<br />

track at which to compete weekly.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.23


F E A T U R E D A R T I C L E<br />

by Dr. Vernon Andrews<br />

Burning Man is many things to many people: An art<br />

festival, a music festival, a dance festival, a place for<br />

dozens of workshops and healing yoga at sunrise and<br />

bars city-wide. Mutant vehicle/Art cars prance about<br />

at 5 mph picking up revelers or dropping them off, and<br />

at night time the lights come on and we’re all aglow.<br />

The Playa is all of this. But most of all, Black Rock City<br />

is a community of mostly like-minded people. I say<br />

mostly because radical inclusion, one of the ten<br />

principals of Burning Man participation, admits all<br />

who hold a ticket.<br />

We want new Burners in our community every year,<br />

but people out for adventure, conversation, art, a noname<br />

cocktail, a free late-night grilled cheese, an art<br />

piece that begs you to climb up and have a view of the<br />

Playa – so you can howl at the sunset over the<br />

mountains like everybody else. We want brilliant<br />

thinkers with unorthodox artistic ideas and regular<br />

folks to ride next to on Chico’s Intergalactic<br />

Transporter Mutant Vehicle. Sure, people do drugs<br />

out there. People do drugs in your neighborhood too,<br />

and you still watch football on Sundays.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.24


D R . V E R N O N A N D R E W S<br />

And then The Rains Came<br />

entertain and sooth us – or roasted meat over fires.<br />

Many bars – these are janky cowboy bars in camps –<br />

served random drinks to random people and laughed at<br />

our common predicament.<br />

And then there was mud. We survived very well. I mean,<br />

we were stuck in the middle of the biggest party on Planet<br />

Earth. It was messy but glorious for those of us retired or<br />

who otherwise didn’t have any responsibilities for Labor<br />

Day or the days after. I do empathize with people who had<br />

to get to a wedding or funeral or hospital or otherwise<br />

HAD TO be somewhere or do something on Saturday and<br />

Sunday. The rain started at 4:00 pm on Friday afternoon. It<br />

did not let up.<br />

People react to difficulty in fascinating ways. We woke<br />

Saturday to a camp that was quiet and in shock at 7:00 am.<br />

Seems it had rained most of the night and tents were<br />

flooded and people were miserable. But there – right there<br />

– in the middle of it all was an amazing and colorful doublerainbow<br />

towering above our tents and the pop-up city. I<br />

opened the door of the Mothership, my 30-foot Airstream<br />

RV, and announced to our camp of 40 mostly Black folks<br />

from the East Coast, a very happy –<br />

“Good morning! We got a few sprinkles last night! But<br />

nothing like bacon to cure what ails! I’m frying some up<br />

now. And pancakes too! And mimosas. I don’t think the<br />

porta-potties have been serviced yet, so if you’ve got a<br />

feeling for a number one, come on over! I’m even allowing<br />

this one-time special of number 2s in the toilet!”<br />

Burners prepare for emergencies. This was our<br />

moment. We followed instructions from our local radio<br />

station (Burning Man Information Radio), and<br />

conserved food, water, and any power source we used.<br />

We put plastic on our feet and tried to slosh around in<br />

the mud to see art or visit friends. We helped each<br />

other. We were just a bit kinder to each other. But not<br />

always.<br />

I saw a couple trying to leave with their 20-foot fifthwheel<br />

RV behind a truck that valiantly spun mud in<br />

every direction – to no avail. It was stuck. We had been<br />

told that no vehicles should leave until noon on<br />

Monday, when the Playa would be dry. Well, people do<br />

what people will do. Some don’t like being told “no!”<br />

This small, tiny bit of sharing and concern – community –<br />

helped our camp. A short while after, a videographer sat in<br />

the Mothership sad that he couldn’t finish his documentary<br />

about people of color on the playa. I offered my RV as a<br />

studio. He interviewed people about dealing with the mud.<br />

Small acts blossomed everywhere.<br />

Acts of kindness began springing up in thousands of places.<br />

A camp across from us decided they would share their<br />

kindness in the midst of the mess by cutting up about 500<br />

fresh, juicy mangos and serving them on a stick to anyone<br />

who got in line. Others played violins above art cars to<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.25


D R . V E R N O N A N D R E W S<br />

M Y O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

Vehicles spun mud on everybody as they tore up the<br />

roads twisting their way up towards the paved road<br />

which was five miles away. Of course they didn’t make<br />

it. And for the next three days we had to walk on dried<br />

roads that had 3-foot divots carved out by careening<br />

vehicles leaving before their time.<br />

But community is community. As a 13-year burner, I<br />

did what any community-centered burner would do if<br />

they saw someone driving in distress. I gave them an<br />

earful of snark.<br />

Our hearts go out to the burner who died on playa. He or<br />

she apparently tried working a generator in standing<br />

water (I don’t know the details) and didn’t survive the<br />

moment. Burner down. That hurts to lose one of your<br />

own. I want their family to know that we’ve got our arms<br />

around them and will honor that burner at next year’s<br />

Temple, the space we go to place mementos of a<br />

relationship we’ve lost. We then burn the structure in<br />

honor of the dead. Godspeed.<br />

Uncle Vern (playa name)<br />

Snark is common and everywhere on the playa. It isn’t<br />

real. It’s a joke. But snark can cut deep:<br />

“Hey! Where you going so fast? You might as well stay!<br />

Aren’t we good enough for you? You know you<br />

shouldn’t be leaving. Stay your ass right here. Yeah.<br />

Park right there. We have hot links over here and<br />

cocktails. Aren’t we good enough? You haven’t even<br />

moved 10 feet in the last 30 minutes!”<br />

I kept it up, and harsher. Finally, he gets out and walks<br />

away. His partner is there, crying. I bring over two cups<br />

of ice-water to make the situation better. I invite her<br />

over for food and drink. But they keep on. Eventually<br />

they make it out to the main road where they are stuck<br />

even longer, and without kind friends and food and<br />

drink and their campmates. Out there parked in the<br />

mud and unable to move anywhere until Monday.<br />

While the rest of us found new adventures in unlikely<br />

places or simply sat around fires and told stories and<br />

got to know each other much better. My main goal had<br />

been to spend more time in camp meeting others. The<br />

rain and mud allowed for three days of deep<br />

conversations before the muddy job of clean-up. What<br />

a wonderful time for community to show up, just when<br />

nature tells us to “chill.”<br />

Dr. Vernon Andrews<br />

C L I C K H E R E<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.26


Vernon L. Andrews<br />

Policing Black Athletes<br />

Racial Disconnect in Sports<br />

O R D E R<br />

T O D A Y !


BLM-PD<br />

BLM-PD<br />

BLM-PD<br />

BLM-PD. BLM-PD. BLM-PD. BLM-PD<br />

BLM-PD<br />

In the not too distant future, the US has been taken over by white nationalists, and<br />

the institutionalized racism that has underscored the country’s entire history has<br />

once again been codified. California has seceded from the US, and a band of strong<br />

women plan to start the next civil war following the death of their friend at the hands<br />

of the police. This is BLM-PD.


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DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.29


F E A T U R E D S P O T L I G H T<br />

I WISH I COULD<br />

TELL MY MOM<br />

HAPPY BIRTHDAY<br />

by Myron J. Clifton<br />

Thinking about my mom, Floy <strong>Dean</strong> today on her birthday.<br />

She would be 78, twice as old as she lived. She died of colon<br />

cancer at age 39. At diagnostic she was told she had a year<br />

but she lived 18 months. Those last 6 months were filled<br />

with almost daily hospital trips, and pain.<br />

I’d lay back down, unable to sleep, and waited for the<br />

time to pass, her cries to fade, and my alarm to ignite in a<br />

few hours. Neither of us slept well, but hers was pain,<br />

mine was sorry and helplessness. I cursed a cruel and<br />

indifferent god who was uninterested in her health.<br />

I remember the good times, her laugh, smell, her hair, her<br />

hugs. But I remember the hell that was late stage colon<br />

cancer. I remember the nights the most because her pain<br />

exceeded the power of morphine to keep it down. She cried<br />

out in pain wanting more relief.<br />

It is odd because our mothers are our gods. Givers and<br />

sustainers of our lives when without them we simply<br />

can’t be born and can’t survive birth. But we are taught<br />

to turn from a tangible beautiful loving god to a<br />

untouchable idea of a god who ignores our pain in times<br />

of need.<br />

I’ve never forgiven that god for taking her so young. Her<br />

life was hard. Pregnant at 15 and by 18 she had me, her<br />

3rd boy. She said she cried when I was born she so<br />

wanted a girl. She got a girl 7 years later. Kicked out of<br />

home, violently abused by my father, and religious<br />

leaders.<br />

By then it was only us at home so I cared for her overnight<br />

and all day. The morphine had long stopped working. It<br />

was a cruel existence and something she didn’t deserve. I<br />

counted the seconds until I could give her the next dose.<br />

The relief took moments and lasted moments.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.30


M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

She survived them all, not because their god rescued her,<br />

but because she grew up, understood her worth, and<br />

walked away from them all and built the life she wanted<br />

and deserved. No one but her sister and two girlfriends<br />

helped her. Women helping women, she’d say way back<br />

then.<br />

She thrived with new work, new travel, new<br />

boy/girlfriends, until one day she had a stomach ache.<br />

The time of her post marriage, escaped abuse, made a life<br />

for herself was all of 10 years. 10 years. A cruel outcome<br />

by a trickster god who needs to apologize for harming<br />

her.<br />

I love and miss her every second. I long for her love, her<br />

smell, her soft hair when we hugged. I long for her sharp<br />

wit, sharper tongue, and proudly making her a cup of<br />

coffee just like she liked it.<br />

I wish she were here so I could tell her happy birthday.<br />

Happy birthday, mom.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.31


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Goddess And Our Daughters.<br />

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business, catch up, plan our lives, and discover common ground.<br />

To gain a better understanding of his friends, Myron went on a mission to try their favorite<br />

drinks. He was struck by the complex flavors and simple pleasures that characterized their<br />

personalities. Sweet. Spicy. Bold. Bewitching. Optimistic. Ostentatious. Practical. Perfectionist.<br />

In Coffee, Grounded, Myron reviews these drinks and brews up a perfect blend of culture and<br />

caffeine. He examines the history of various ingredients and coffee-growing regions, painting a<br />

vivid picture of faraway lands and hometown haunts.<br />

Pour yourself a cup and curl up with this tasty collection of stories steeped in friendship and fun.<br />

Order & Indulge!<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.33


MYRON'S<br />

HIT OR MISS<br />

MISS<br />

Major media, including the New York Times, CNN, MSNBC and of<br />

course Fox News spread misinformation about the war between<br />

Israel and Hamas and the bombing of a hospital. Turns out the<br />

hospital wasn’t bombed, and the explosion was due to an errant<br />

rocket that crashed and exploded in the parking lot of a hospital.<br />

list<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.34


MISS<br />

Rep Kevin McCarthy lost his speakership because<br />

the deal he made with republicans who hate him<br />

allowed them to fire him with only one other<br />

republican calling for his ouster. That republican<br />

ended up being Kevin’s enemy accused criminal<br />

Matt Gaetz.<br />

MISS<br />

Rep Jim Jordan, also known as “Gym” because of<br />

horrible accusations he failed to act when he knew<br />

Ohio State wrestling students were being sexually<br />

abused. Has been humiliated by republicans who refuse<br />

to vote him into the Speaker’s chair.<br />

HIT<br />

Hollywood writers agreed on a new contract, and they are back to work. What<br />

this means is movie production will re-start, scripted television will start up, and<br />

the talking heads on daytime and nighttime talk shows will still not be funny.<br />

MISS<br />

The Los Angeles Dodgers and Atlanta Braves, the two winningest teams in Major League Baseball this past<br />

season, were both swept out of the playoffs in the Divisional round.<br />

HIT<br />

President Biden became the first president to visit<br />

Israel during a war, as he delivered a speech vowing<br />

support and weapons to Israel, humanitarian support<br />

to Palestine, and strong admonitions to Iran not to<br />

interfere, and Israel not to make the same types of<br />

mistakes the United States made following 9/11.<br />

HIT<br />

Beyonce and Taylor Swift using the power of their<br />

popularity and record-breaking tours – Renaissance<br />

and Eras, respectively, to bypass the movie studios<br />

and sell their concert-movies straight to the movie<br />

chains, thereby giving their fans even more reason to<br />

love the powerful entertainers.<br />

MISS<br />

Mass media going after VP Kamala Harris- again.<br />

HIT<br />

Governor Gavin Newsom selecting Laphonza<br />

Butler to fill the senate seat of Dianne<br />

Feinstein. And then Senator Butler<br />

immediately being assigned to the powerful<br />

Senate Judiciary Committee – just like Sen.<br />

Feinstein.<br />

MISS<br />

Representative Lauren Boebert getting kicked<br />

out of the Beetlejuice play in Denver and<br />

denying her vaping was the reason. And then the<br />

video came out showing her vaping and getting<br />

felt up by her date while at the same time she<br />

was grabbing and stroking his penis.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.35


MOVIE<br />

REVIEWS<br />

by Myron J. Clifton<br />

Fair Play on Netflix<br />

A power couple who are thriving in the financial<br />

industry are thrown into chaos when she is<br />

promoted over him. He at first tries to be okay with<br />

his love interest working close with the mercurial<br />

and demanding owner of the firm, but slowly but<br />

surely his insecurities cause him to lose his entire<br />

mind as he tries to destroy her career. In the<br />

meantime, she is thriving but constantly being pulled<br />

back by her loser boyfriend. The movie is a study in<br />

insecure men and the successful women who pay the<br />

price for dragging them along.<br />

Inside on Tubi<br />

A pregnant woman is terrorized by another lady who<br />

is trying to steal her baby right out of her stomach.<br />

We watch as the attacker gets more and more<br />

extreme and violent as she tries to steal the unborn<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.36


MOVIE<br />

REVIEWS<br />

baby. It is intense, violent, and horrible. And<br />

we don’t know why she has chosen this one<br />

lady to attack. Is she in a cult, baby selling ring,<br />

or is it something closer to home?<br />

Meg 2: The Trench<br />

The giant megalodon shark is back to terrorize<br />

whales, ships, other giant creatures, and intrepid<br />

scientists determined to lead the monster to a<br />

packed beach resort. Of course they do and the<br />

megalodon does what it has evolved to do. The<br />

movie is big, loud, senseless, and just overall<br />

terrible. A great watch if you love shark movies.<br />

Hallmark’s Fall Into Love movies<br />

If you want G-rated meet cute stories where the<br />

goal is to quit corporate jobs, move out of big cities,<br />

reclaim your high school first love who is now a<br />

contractor who can fix up the café you inherited<br />

from your dead uncle, these movies are for you.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.37


MY FAVORITE THINGS<br />

streaming right<br />

now...


S T R E A M I N G N O W<br />

HBO/MAX: Naked Attraction<br />

A British series where people looking to date<br />

get to choose their date by first looking at<br />

them completely naked, except for the face.<br />

The person selecting gets to choose from six<br />

guests. The guests’ genitals are shown first in<br />

full nudity for men and women. They turn to<br />

show their buts, and then their chests are<br />

revealed. Before the final choice, the dater<br />

also takes all their clothes off. The show then<br />

shows the date and brings the couple back for<br />

a follow-up chat.<br />

PRIME – Gen V (From the Makers of The Boys)<br />

If you miss The Boys, go right to Prime, and<br />

watch season 1 of Gen V which is The Boys, but<br />

in high school. The corporation has a dedicated<br />

high school for future heroes where they train,<br />

have unique sex, creative drugs, and lots of<br />

violent adventures as they attempt to solve a<br />

few mysteries that the corporation is hiding. It is<br />

violence, absurd, funny, and very well done.<br />

Hulu: The Mill<br />

An office worker wakes up alone in a hollowed<br />

room that resembles a stable or a barn. Trying<br />

to understand where he is and why he is there,<br />

the man is thrust into a nightmare existence of<br />

hard demeaning labor, random abuses, and a<br />

few shocking twists that brings it all the way<br />

around to something familiar to most people.<br />

Disney+: The Haunted Mansion<br />

The newest version of Disney’s Haunted<br />

Mansion is very good and appropriate for kids<br />

ages 7+. Viewers who have been on the<br />

haunted mansion ride will have fun spotting<br />

each aspect of the ride played out as part of<br />

the story – every background, every ghost, and<br />

every spooky hitchhiker can be seen (through).<br />

And because it is Disney+, you can see three<br />

other versions of the movie, plus The Muppets<br />

Haunted Mansion versions.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.39


The Lost Art of<br />

LISTENING<br />

by Katya Juliet Lerner<br />

Focus outward. If asking questions, giving compliments and<br />

listening are not your strengths, it’s time to practice!<br />

For starters, you can take notes – write down some good<br />

opening questions and general compliments you can<br />

practice making while meeting and networking with others.<br />

In person, try to listen without thinking of your response<br />

and simply take a genuine interest in what others have to<br />

say. You will make them feel important and they will want to<br />

communicate with you more again in the future. (Pro dating<br />

tip!)<br />

While communication is a two-way system, it is not always<br />

necessary to communicate verbally. Especially when<br />

learning about someone new, listening and other forms of<br />

non-verbal communication, such as eye-contact, head<br />

nodding, how you are standing, smiling and so on, is often<br />

received more positively than listening to immediately reply<br />

verbally or with a personal story or reference.<br />

One major issue is that most of us are so focused on what<br />

we are thinking about and what we’re going to say next, that<br />

we lose sight of the importance of listening to what others<br />

have to say. We may not have even HEARD what it was they<br />

did say all together! Sheesh.<br />

fix the situation” if someone is sharing or complaining<br />

about something in their life. While it is a stereotype,<br />

many men do explain that if they cannot help fix<br />

something, they don’t know what to say. This is a perfect<br />

example of when it might be a good time to just learn to<br />

be supportive by listening and letting the other person<br />

know that they have been heard. You don’t always have to<br />

say something wise, clever or extra.<br />

Take time to listen and learn about others and they will<br />

then in return take a genuine interest in you as well.<br />

Sometimes the two-way construct confuses people into<br />

thinking both parties need to be continuously talking back<br />

and forth.<br />

Listening is a critical skill in business and personal life that<br />

is significantly under-practiced. If you listen with greater<br />

focus, you will most likely find it easier to respond with<br />

more thoughtful questions and insight, and in turn,<br />

improve your social network, career & circle of friends.<br />

Katya Juliet Lerner - Bio & Website:<br />

https://katya-juliet-lerner.netlify.app/<br />

I have heard the gender stereotype that men want to “help<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong> | p.40


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The Joyful Warrior<br />

Podcast Network<br />

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Mark Lerner Astrology<br />

Katya Juliet's Jewel Box<br />

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