International Journal of Choice Theory® and Reality ... - CTRTJournal
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shoots through our body is a signal that ―ouch, this hurts. I may need medical attention. At<br />
the very least, I need to pay attention to how this happened so I don‘t feel this pain again.‖<br />
We can get those same bodily signals about our unmet psychological needs <strong>and</strong> wants. We<br />
can even veer <strong>of</strong>f the road <strong>of</strong> effective choice making <strong>and</strong> onto the road <strong>of</strong> less effective or<br />
even harmful behaviors. Signals related to physical pain take less time to access than the<br />
more subtle <strong>and</strong> elusive signals that warn us that we might be traveling on an ineffective<br />
psychological pathway regarding the meaning <strong>and</strong> purpose <strong>of</strong> our lives. Even when we are<br />
aware <strong>of</strong> our less effective choices we <strong>of</strong>ten see them as problems to be solved through<br />
thinking <strong>and</strong> action.<br />
For many human beings tuning in <strong>and</strong> listening to our bodily signals <strong>and</strong> allowing them to<br />
evolve means living in a new way. It allows us to more explicitly incorporate into our<br />
awareness feelings, sensations, images, <strong>and</strong> words <strong>and</strong> letting them evolve <strong>and</strong> change.<br />
For our total behavior car to run smoothly as a total system, we need to think <strong>and</strong> act. We<br />
also need to feel our feelings <strong>and</strong> pay attention to our physiology.<br />
The felt sense includes all pictures, sensations, feelings <strong>and</strong> words that we are experiencing<br />
in the here-<strong>and</strong>-now, a complex process <strong>of</strong>ten difficult to put into words. Within these<br />
sensations (the felt sense) is the forward energy to resolve the block itself. Not only does<br />
the body know what isn‘t right, if we can make contact with the felt sense, get to know it<br />
<strong>and</strong> befriend it, it can serve as a guide pointing the way toward a more positive destination<br />
<strong>and</strong> more effective need satisfaction.<br />
An Example <strong>of</strong> Extending <strong>Reality</strong> Therapy with Focusing<br />
Ann Weiser Cornell (1996, 2005), an early student <strong>of</strong> Gendlin <strong>and</strong> the first person to teach<br />
focusing full-time, teaches focusing as a four step process, while emphasizing that there is<br />
an essence to focusing that is beyond steps. Here is an example <strong>of</strong> Weiser Cornell (2005)<br />
using focusing to quickly <strong>and</strong> efficiently help her client get unblocked from feelings <strong>of</strong><br />
sadness (pp. 91-92):<br />
Cl = Client Th = Therapist<br />
Cl: I‘ve been walking around feeling disappointed all week.<br />
Th: M-hm. Disappointed.<br />
Cl: I like telling people I‘m disappointed better than telling them I‘m depressed. My son has<br />
a much easier time with the word ―disappointed.‖<br />
Th: I wonder if you are feeling disappointed or depressed right now?<br />
Cl: Yes I am actually.<br />
Th: And you can sense maybe where in your body you‘re feeling that disappointed?<br />
Cl: Well…it‘s mostly in my heart.<br />
Th: Ah, yes, you‘re sensing it in your heart. You might just check if the word ―disappointed‖<br />
is still the best word for how its feeling in your heart right now.<br />
<strong>International</strong> <strong>Journal</strong> <strong>of</strong> <strong>Choice</strong> Theory <strong>and</strong> <strong>Reality</strong> Therapy • Fall 2011 • Vol. XXXI, number 1 • 26