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Hey
Guys,
Don’t
Panic!
She might be
pregnant?
By Matthew Arlington
When it comes to dating and relationships,
there are not many
issues more critical than the issue
of pregnancy. Especially if you
are not ready to be a father or it
was completely unplanned. That
is why you should avoid the onenight
stands and only fornicate
with a girl whom you have feelings
and respect for. Then it
should be easier to be supportive,
and that is what she really needs.
On the other hand, let’s be realistic,
it does not always happen like
that. We are men; we cannot
always control ourselves.
Temptations and opportunities
happen regularly. I know this as
well as you.
This is a situation that can be very
delicate and needs to be taken
very seriously. You must assume
she is telling the truth. Do not
complicate things by accusing her
of lying; it is not impossible for
her to actually be pregnant.
What if she really is pregnant
with your child? When I tell you
to find out if she is, I do not mean
simply having her take a pregnancy
test that was bought at
Walgreen’s. Actually, that is a
good start; however, without your
presence, you are being disrespectful.
You should also make
her see a doctor and it can be verified
if she is indeed pregnant.
Your presence is required for that.
You need to know if you created
life.
Unfortunately, I do have experi-
ence dealing with this situation.
Actually, I dealt with it twice.
My experiences were long and
brutal, but for the sake of space
and time, I will keep the details to
a minimum.
The first time a girl told me that
she missed her period and that she
knew she was pregnant, I freaked.
I suspected that she was lying, but
there was always that “what if”
possibility. My friends were not
very helpful in this situation, but
my boss was the one who advised
me to treat it like it is really happening,
and to be supportive. I
took his advice, and tried to deal
with it.
Of course, while I was at work,
she contacted me and told me that
the pregnancy test from
Walgreen’s came up positive.
Then, a week later, while I was at
work, she told me that she saw her
doctor and that he verified that she
was pregnant. When I asked her
what she was going to do, have the
baby adopted, get an abortion, or
keep it, she said she needed to
think about it. Another week later,
she claimed that she had a miscarriage.
That sounded a little bizarre,
but it really did not matter to me.
The nightmare was over.
Although I believed that she was
lying all along, I could never be
sure. I was just glad to keep that
experience in the past.
I handled the situation much better
the second time it happened.
The irony is not only that it happened
around the same time as the
year before, January, but that I
even told the second girl the story
of the first girl. So when she told
me that she had missed her period
and that she knew she was pregnant,
I was a bit shocked, but I
knew how to play it. I let her get
the pregnancy test from
Walgreen’s while I was at work,
figuring that my presence was not
quite necessary, yet. I was not a bit
surprised when she told me that it
came up positive. From there, I
continued to be supportive but was
not about to let her do everything
herself.
She already knew that she should
see her doctor to verify if she was
actually pregnant. It was only a
question of how. I asked if she
could get an appointment during
the weekend so that she would not
have to miss anymore hours at
work. She said no and that she
made an appointment to see him
on the following Monday. I wrote
that down. I asked if her doctor
happened to be at the same hospital
as mine, Alexian Brothers, and
she said yes. I wrote that down. I
asked her if she happened to know
of Dr. Johnson, and she said no,
and told me her doctor’s name. I
wrote that down. I asked if she
was able to get an appointment in
the evening and she said no, it was
at 1pm. I wrote that down and
said, “Perfect, I’ll see you there.”
As anticipated, she was stunned to
hear that I was going to attend this
appointment. She told me that my
presence was not needed. We
argued for a bit and I made it
abundantly clear that she has no
right to close me out of any
appointment that would determine
if I am going to be a father, nor
did she have any logical reason to
close me out. After a while, she
hung up on me. Not long after
that, she told me that it was over
with and that she was not pregnant
anymore.
Again, I suspected that she was
lying all along, I could never be
sure. I was just glad to keep that
experience in the past.
Ever since those two wacky experiences,
I try to choose wisely
whom I involve myself with.
Remember, being safe is being
smart, even if nothing is 100%.
By no means am I a ladies man. If
I can do this, you certainly can
too.
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