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People often put their hearts out there. Most people have loved someone wholeheartedly and thought it would work. Then one day the relationship is over, and the lovers become strangers. It’s easy to feel at a loss for words. As if life has crumbled before everyone’s very eyes. It feels like a pit in the stomach, and ultimately staying in this state will only end in misery and heartache. A breakup is never easy, especially for those who have been together for quite some time. When people love each other, parting ways can feel crippling. Rebuilding is hard, but there are a few things that may help. When dating someone, it becomes second nature to invest time. Nights full of conversations, phone calls and endless plans. It seems normal to spend time together and, suddenly, lives become intertwined. After breaking up, it may feel as if nothing will ever be normal. It is difficult coming to terms with the fact that newly singles are forced to seek some sense of normalcy. <strong>No</strong>rmal looks different for everyone, but it is okay to ease into the normal that works best. Adapting to a new way of life takes some getting used to. Identities are not tied to relationships or significant others but what people do and say. The key to progress is to appreciate the person in the mirror who has grown through experiences. “After you are emotionally dependent on someone for so long it is hard to take accountability for your own emotions. I didn’t have him to blame anymore, I had to learn how to be alone with my own thoughts,” said Grace Skelton, junior social work major at The University of South Alabama. Breakups bring a lot of change. Whether for the best or the worst, there is no denying that life will change. Regaining independence is exciting, and it’s important to take the time to get to know oneself. Taking care of emotional and physical needs is an essential way to heal. “I am a much different person than who I was before, and I think that it’s for the better. There are definitely parts of me I see now that I never knew existed before,” said Eli Bruce, a finance and economics senior at The University of Alabama. Everyone handles breakups differently. One may end messy while another ends mutually. Regardless of how things ended, communicate and reach out to people. Having a good support system will truly save some tears. By hanging out with friends and family, people get the opportunity to make good memories. Sometimes it can be easy to lose any sense of practicality when having a bad breakup. Talking with friends helps bring a new perspective. Friends and loved ones can usually relate or at the very least listen. In addition to reaching out to friends, carve out some personal time. By implementing metime, people should find new things that spark joy. Breakups typically bring heavy and dull emotions that cloud thoughts and make people feel gloomy or uninspired. By simply trying something new, like a pottery class or going to a restaurant, inspiration can spark. Everyone should also attempt to set aside time each week and find something That creates a reason to smile. The best thing for self-care is to put in the effort when taking time alone. Said Emma McGowan, senior at the University of Alabama, “I really started to focus on myself after my breakup. I went to the gym, I spent time with friends, and I finally learned how to enjoy being with myself again.” In order to rebuild, everyone needs time to mourn. Taking the extra time to mourn the past selves who dated each former partner. Be gentle with self-criticism and pay attention to the growing pains often experienced. Once a relationship comes to a close, there are a few ways to look at what has happened. The best way is to take the experience of the relationship and use it as an advantage. It takes time to heal and adjust to being someone with no romantic attachment. Rebuilding a foundation and finding the person we are and want to take time. There is no timeline for someone to fully move on and feel normal. Post-breakup growth is not linear. Getting up and rediscovering personalities, quirks and personal interests may not be easy, but it is beneficial. By remembering time heals all, the post-breakup feeling will slowly but surely become more comfortable. [15]
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