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DEAR DEAN<br />

M A G A Z I N E<br />

J U S T I C E<br />

KETANJI BROWN<br />

JACKSON<br />

V O L . 4 | A P R . 2 2 , 2 0 2 2<br />

F E A T U R E D B L O G<br />

" M O V I N G O U T "<br />

G U E S T S P O T L I G H T<br />

E U G E N E L E V I N S O N O N T H E<br />

U K R A I N I A N / R U S S I A N C O N F L I C T<br />

P O D C C A S T : V O I C E M E M O S<br />

M Y R O N ' S H I T<br />

O R M I S S L I S T<br />

L O V E I T O R H A T E I T<br />

M O V I E R E V I E W<br />

M Y F A V O R I T E T H I N G S S T R E A M I N G


CONTENT<br />

JUSTICE KETANJI BROWN<br />

JACKSON, CONFIRMED!<br />

(Includes a FUN themed word game!)<br />

DEAR DEAN FEATURED BLOG<br />

"Moving Out" by Myron J. Clifton<br />

GUEST SPOTLIGHT<br />

"Ukrainian / Russian Conflict"<br />

by Eugene Levinson<br />

MYRON'S HIT OR MISS LIST<br />

MORE GOODIES<br />

Movie / TV Reviews, new podcast "Voice<br />

Memos", Myron's bookshop & more!<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p.2


HELLO FROM MYRON<br />

Supreme Court Justice Ketanji Brown Jackson has a nice ring to it. A nice equality ring. An overdue ring<br />

that finally sounded, echoing from centuries past, reverberating through reconstruction, segregation,<br />

Dred Scot, Brown vs. Board, Civil Rights, and every Constitutional Amendment.<br />

Though her swearing in will not come until June or July, history was made on April 7th, 2022. It was a<br />

long time coming, and it was right on time. President Biden promised to nominate a Black woman to<br />

the Supreme Court, and he delivered.<br />

The war “against” the Ukrainian people rages on as the Russian Military carries out war crimes and<br />

terrorism on a scale folk imagined but maybe didn’t want to believe would actually happen. Read an<br />

essay from a Eugene L., a Russian-American.<br />

You want podcasts to spring into Spring and Summer? I’ve got podcast hosts who will tell you why you<br />

should listen to their podcast. Hear from various members of The Joyful Warrior Podcast Network –<br />

JWPN – and learn why the group is looking to set the podcast world on fire with their unique approach<br />

to podcasting.<br />

It may be 2022, but Period Piece viewing is again all the rage with Bridgerton S2 bringing back the heat,<br />

The Gilded Age pushing boundaries, and a little-known fan favorite, Austenland, still generating laughs<br />

and surprises.<br />

Check out What I Am Streaming. Superheroes with mental health issues? Yes, and yes. As long as how it<br />

is talked about and handled is done with appropriate seriousness and is not exploitative. Check out our<br />

review of Moon Night.<br />

Privileged wealthy people starting crappy businesses that destroy lives is an entire genre now and<br />

we’ve got a look at some of the best “worst” businesspeople who should be locked up and scorned.<br />

Finally, check out the Blog of the Month in which I share my experiences working in the Senior Living<br />

industry. Happy Spring!


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DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p.4


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DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p.5


J U S T I C E<br />

KETANJI BROWN<br />

JACKSON


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TOTM<br />

Watching white senators lob inappropriate and<br />

insulting questions at Judge Ketanji Brown Jackson<br />

during her confirmation hearings.<br />

Never forget that when white men wanted wet nurses,<br />

Nannie’s, free labor, sex, rape, housekeepers, children<br />

to work the fields, confidantes, mistresses, and<br />

therapists since 1619 they used Black women.<br />

Ever since Black woman got free, they’ve targeted<br />

Black woman more than anyone else for revenge. We<br />

too often focus on white men vs Black men as a study<br />

in all things American.<br />

But I’ve always believed America’s issues are in the<br />

diametrically opposed Black women and white men.<br />

Race, gender, class, and the obvious- colorism that has<br />

its roots in white men raping Black women<br />

The fight against supremacy, racism, enslavement, is<br />

best told through the lens of freeing an entire race’s<br />

gender from bondage and the subsequent codification<br />

of what the partially freed were allowed to do.<br />

The “Ain’t I a woman” age which, truth be told, Black<br />

women still reside as they fight for recognition of their<br />

humanity.<br />

The violence against Black men, while comprehensive,<br />

is, one may argue, not as extensive as that perpetrated<br />

against Black women.<br />

BW birthed two nations Black & mixed & raised a<br />

third -white. And for that, we don’t even honor them<br />

as, what a few of my book’s call - Founding Mothers<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p.7


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TOTM<br />

We can’t even get one Black woman on a coin or as<br />

Governor. None currently in Senate.<br />

And though we have a Black woman as Vice President<br />

and though she beloved globally and by *most of her<br />

party, she is absolutely hated by near everyone else.<br />

The same folk who hated Michelle and now hate<br />

Ketanji. There’s a theme.<br />

I have written that America will not advance until white<br />

men accept Black women as equals. Not Black men,<br />

Black women.<br />

Seeing republicans loudly proclaiming Kentanji Brown<br />

Jackson qualified but refusing to vote for her is a<br />

continuation of enslavement thinking she’s good<br />

enough to raise my children, tend my wife and be my<br />

“sexual” equal, but she’s not human or worthy of<br />

citizenship or any iota of respect.<br />

It’s obvious, isn’t it?<br />

The “threat” imagined is the threat of equality and<br />

equity by the very race and gender they’ve spent 400<br />

years convincing themselves and the world are<br />

neither.<br />

In 2022 we’ve barely started speaking the most<br />

fundamental requests: listen to Black women, protect<br />

Black women, and more than anyone, white men are<br />

apoplectic at that.<br />

But let’s be clear- so are white women and so are,<br />

surprising not a single Black woman, Black men. As has<br />

been said.… “Cis Black men are the white people of<br />

Black people”.. we are most of the problem in our<br />

community. Not our lgbqti+ family, not Black women,<br />

not mixed Black folk.<br />

It is straight Black males who too often just want to<br />

take the place of white men in subjugation of Black<br />

women.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p.8


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TOTM<br />

White men will feed that and use it to deny us all<br />

agency and true freedom but too many cis Black men<br />

do not care as long as ascendancy is promised. So<br />

whether Oprah is blamed for Oz or Phil, or Jada for<br />

will, or Ciara for choosing a loving man, or even if Kim<br />

is blamed for Kanye or your Black woman co-worker is<br />

blamed for not being a “team player” for going<br />

drinking with all white teammates; when we need a<br />

Crown Act so Black women can comfortably exist,<br />

sorta, in white spaces, when we know we pay Black<br />

women (and Latino women) significantly less than<br />

white men, then America will keep on keeping on.<br />

Ketanji Brown Jackson will be the Supreme Court. Vice<br />

President Kamala Devi Harris will continue doing<br />

outstanding work, and that Black woman, mother,<br />

single, regular old round the way Black girl will continue<br />

being the foundation of a nation too afraid to see and<br />

acknowledge what is holding it up.<br />

Follow Myron on Twitter!<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p.9


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DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p.10


M O V I N G<br />

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M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

"Moving Out"<br />

As Director of Marketing at a high end senior living<br />

community, I helped many seniors and their families<br />

navigate the detailed and complex requirements<br />

demanded by industry and state regulators.<br />

The labyrinth of forms, medical requirements, calls,<br />

emails, text messages, tours, lunches, re-tours, and<br />

many phone calls at all hours of the day, night, and<br />

holidays from desperate family members looking for<br />

a nurturing and caring guide to help them place their<br />

parent or loved one in a safe, friendly, warm<br />

environment were never ending but always<br />

welcomed.<br />

Meeting a family for the first time was a thrill and a<br />

new puzzle to unravel, a new kaleidoscope in which<br />

to find a pattern, a new equation to solve. There is a<br />

certain thrill in meeting a skeptical family for the first<br />

time and hearing them discuss their needs, and their<br />

parent’s needs—I had to listen for both because we<br />

are not only trying to satisfy seniors, but also their<br />

adult children who are incredibly demanding<br />

advocates for their loved one.<br />

As they should be.<br />

Diane wanted to move her dad from Washington to<br />

California. He and her mom had retired in Washington<br />

State following his career as a professional hockey<br />

player. After her mom’s death, Diane wanted her dad<br />

closer to her. His memory was failing, he was diagnosed<br />

with dementia and was all alone far away from her and<br />

the remainder of his family.<br />

add on dementia, airports, covid restrictions, and<br />

masking requirements, and you can imagine all the<br />

confusion and stress she and her dad experienced.<br />

But Diane did it, and we welcomed her dad, Dave, to the<br />

community one Saturday afternoon. We’d decorated his<br />

room with his favorite hockey memorabilia and family<br />

pictures, put his favorite treats and snacks on his counters,<br />

placed his wife’s favorite flowers at his table in the dining<br />

area, and played his favorite movie that night. All of the<br />

welcome amenities were a surprise to Diane—it is how we<br />

did things, because we are welcoming Diane in as much as<br />

we were welcoming in Dave.<br />

Dave was an easy resident to care for. He was a large,<br />

strapping man, but long past his hockey-playing days. His<br />

hockey career had taken a toll on his brain and his legs and<br />

knees, so that he could no longer stand or walk. He spent<br />

all day in a wheelchair, needed help transferring from bed<br />

to chair, toilet, shower chair, and needed help dressing and<br />

undressing. He only took a few medications, mostly for<br />

sleep assistance, and the caregivers liked spending time<br />

with him. He was only sixty-four but as an avid hockey<br />

player since childhood, his brain endured… a lot. I cannot<br />

say that his dementia was caused by repeated head blows<br />

for thirty years but I have strong suspicions. On most days<br />

the large quiet man with the soft voice would say hello to<br />

me. Though he didn’t know the names of most of the staff,<br />

he had remembered mine.<br />

We spent three months together working through the<br />

move-in process. Moving a senior is always hard, then<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p.12


M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

The staff noticed that every day around four o’clock<br />

Dave would wheel himself to a wall and stop and<br />

stare. He would sit there for fifteen to thirty<br />

minutes, every day without fail. He wouldn’t talk or<br />

show much emotion. He would just sit and stare at<br />

the blank wall. One day as I walked the community<br />

and saw Dave in his usual late afternoon position in<br />

front of a blank wall, I walked over to him. I stood<br />

quiet a moment beside him but within his view to see<br />

if he would notice and say something. We were both<br />

still for a few more minutes before I quietly asked:<br />

“What do you see?” A moment passed before Dave’s<br />

soft voice replied, “My wife, Mary.”<br />

I stayed with him until he decided to turn and wheel<br />

away.<br />

Later that afternoon I called his daughter and told<br />

her the story. I could hear her voice shaking as she<br />

said, “My mom used to take the ferry to work and<br />

every day my dad would drive to the ferry and wait<br />

for her.” She had passed seven years earlier, and it<br />

had been maybe twenty since he had last picked her<br />

up from the ferry.<br />

Diane was comforted by the story, and I was<br />

reminded that diseases of the mind do not erase all<br />

the joy.<br />

How did I get here?<br />

I worked in the senior industry for seven years, after<br />

spending thirty-four years in corporate America. As a<br />

high-school dropout, to get my first job I lied about my<br />

age and was hired by a major communication company as<br />

a customer service agent in a call center. I was only 17 but<br />

fully ready to be an adult and pay my way at home with<br />

my mom.<br />

In 1984, I was twenty and my mom passed away, and I<br />

quit the job that was paying me $25,000. It was the first<br />

of many times I walked away from a job because I needed<br />

to care for my mental health.<br />

But twenty years later, my successful corporate career<br />

had me traveling 70,000 miles per quarter, attending<br />

meetings and sales conferences, visiting all my assigned<br />

territory locations, and going to company events all over<br />

the Americas.<br />

When my daughter was born in 2005, I took a year off.<br />

After, I resumed my hectic travel and work pace, until<br />

early one morning in 2009, as I tried to sneak out without<br />

waking my four-year-old, she woke up and said<br />

pleadingly: “Daddy, please don’t go.“<br />

And in a child’s act of desperation, she untied my tie,<br />

thinking without my tie I would not leave.<br />

I was crushed, but I left.<br />

Two weeks later I quit the highest paying job I ever had so<br />

I could spend time with my daughter.<br />

After trying different jobs that allowed me time to be<br />

home and not travel, I discovered the senior care<br />

industry. It fit my needs and skills, and I fit what the<br />

industry wanted: Senior management experience, sales<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p.13


M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

experience and, refreshingly, after being interviewed by<br />

very young managers in different industries, age, as I<br />

was now fifty.<br />

This is an industry that values older workers. When<br />

talking with the adult children of seniors, it helps to be<br />

able to identify with people who have aging parents, are<br />

selling homes, dealing with medical issues, insurance<br />

coverage, and other “grown-up” matters that younger<br />

people may not possess early in their careers.<br />

It’s an interesting industry demographically: Most of the<br />

residents are white women, because women live longer,<br />

and white women tend to have funds and resources<br />

from their deceased husbands and extended family.<br />

Most of the care workers are also women, with a<br />

significant portion being women of color. Most of the<br />

management is white.<br />

Price drives expectations<br />

The senior industry is a growing industry and, more<br />

specifically, the luxury private senior community<br />

industry is a growing industry. We have all read the<br />

stories about the tens of millions of boomers who are<br />

retiring and dying, facilitating the largest transfer of<br />

wealth in history. That transfer of wealth is what is<br />

driving the senior living industry as private companies<br />

vie for their portion of that wealth.<br />

see these things when they visit communities. Add in<br />

grand entrance ways, modern designs and furniture<br />

and appliances, physical and occupational therapy,<br />

and 24 hour concierge—senior communities aren’t<br />

the warehouse-style nursing homes from the past.<br />

Luxury and well-appointed apartments cost between<br />

$4k – $7k per month, with higher-end ones in<br />

exclusive cities going as high as $12k per month!<br />

When you add in the cost of care—some communities<br />

bundle the costs while others itemize—families can<br />

expect to pay an additional $500 to $6k per month.<br />

Most residents have retirement, long-term care<br />

insurance, the proceeds from the sale of a home, a<br />

savings account, and some receive assistance from<br />

their adult children.<br />

Pricing drives the expectations and the better<br />

communities deliver service commensurate with the<br />

prices.<br />

But many communities fall short, and the reason<br />

primarily is a shortage of staff.<br />

Senior communities offering large luxury apartments,<br />

fine dining, transportation to/from doctor’s<br />

appointments, guided outings, and even individual town<br />

car services are standard now. Many add in multiple<br />

highly skilled chefs, all-day dining, in-house cafes’, full<br />

sized gyms and yoga studios, swimming pools,<br />

gardening areas, pet care, full service salons, daily live<br />

entertainment, movie theaters, chapels and libraries,<br />

which are all popular. Some family members expect to<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p.14


M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

Covid exacerbated the already difficult task of finding<br />

people to become dining and housekeeping employees.<br />

But nothing is worse post-covid than the daily struggle<br />

communities have to hire and retain caregivers. No<br />

matter what any community tells you during an open<br />

house or an interviewing process, the truth is they are<br />

all struggling now with caregiver staffing levels and the<br />

effect that has on morale, timely resident care, and<br />

overall stress levels of the entire community.<br />

Carol hated her large studio apartment and frequently<br />

complained that she wanted to move into a first floor<br />

1-bedroom apartment. She was fairly independent but<br />

she was frequently angry at everyone for everything,<br />

large and small. I encountered her one balmy Saturday<br />

afternoon when I passed her in the hall and she turned<br />

to me yelling “You! You are renting all the 1-bedroom<br />

apartments and I want the one that is empty!”<br />

I knew the apartment she spoke about and though it<br />

was unoccupied, it was not a 1-bedroom. She wouldn’t<br />

hear me though, and through a stream of profanity and<br />

yelling, insisted I show her the apartment right then so<br />

she could prove me wrong.<br />

Quietly answering, “Okay,” I walked with her to the<br />

apartment which was in a different hallway. For the<br />

entire walk, Carol screamed, cursed, and blamed me<br />

for ignoring her requests for years about moving to a<br />

larger apartment.<br />

At this point I had only known Carol for a few months.<br />

We reached the apartment, I unlocked the room and, as<br />

she pushed past me, I stood still as she walked into the<br />

room, her anger still covering her face and body.<br />

Standing in the living room and turning her head to me she<br />

yelled “Get in here!” with so much anger and expectation of<br />

immediate compliance.<br />

I quietly responded, “Please do not talk to me that way.”<br />

Carol’s face registered so much anger but instead of<br />

saying more to me, it was that moment that she<br />

recognized that she was in fact standing in another<br />

studio like the one she was living in, and not a 1-<br />

bedroom apartment like she had insisted the apartment<br />

was.<br />

I remained quiet, preferring to allow her to process the<br />

moment on her own instead of stating the obvious<br />

which surely were not needed in that moment. Carol<br />

looked to me again and stated, this time with a much<br />

softer yet defeated voice: “Put me on the list for a<br />

downstairs 1-bedroom apartment.” She then brushed<br />

past me and stormed off to her apartment where she<br />

opened then slammed the door so hard, I thought<br />

perhaps she had broken the door.<br />

It was a month after Carol had slammed the door when a<br />

1-bedroom apartment became available (this is how we<br />

soften the language to make what we do more palatable<br />

– someone died.)<br />

In the weeks since Carol had screamed and cursed out<br />

me, every time I saw her, I smiled and waved. It was<br />

authentic since I made a habit of saying hello to seniors,<br />

especially those who I had helped move in. At first Carol<br />

did not wave back or return my “Good morning” with<br />

her own. On this day I decided to look for Carol and<br />

show her the apartment. Hearing that she was in the<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p. 15


M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

theatre playing in the Wii bowling tournament, I<br />

whispered for her attention.<br />

I let her know the apartment was available and though<br />

it needed work, I wanted to give her first chance to<br />

claim it before it went back on the market.<br />

Carol was quiet and then I noticed a tear. She<br />

whispered “Thank you. My husband won’t pay for it but<br />

I appreciate you telling me.”<br />

I told her I would always let her know first when there<br />

was an open apartment.<br />

She went back to playing Wii.<br />

Covid raised already high stress levels<br />

Families rightly expect to get the care and services<br />

they are paying for, and at times, they are unforgiving<br />

regarding the effect covid has had on caregiving staff.<br />

Most families understand, but there are those who<br />

refuse to accept that this industry isn’t immune from<br />

society’s issues, that it is licensed by the state, and that<br />

it is a for-profit business.<br />

Even as companies sent their workers home or set<br />

them up from home offices, caregivers at senior<br />

facilities were expected to continue providing care<br />

even while they were exposed to the deadly virus all<br />

day every day. Families of residents were working from<br />

home and forbidden from visiting family members<br />

during the worst of the pandemic, and it was terrible…<br />

but workers were expected to be at work.<br />

Despite all the “Heroes work here” signs plastered<br />

outside the communities, Americans didn’t actually<br />

treat caregivers as heroes. It feels like they treated my<br />

co-workers as a prop, a fad—sending a brief moment of<br />

thank you with small increases in pay that are supposed<br />

to mitigate the risk of sickness and death for hourly<br />

workers who made so much of the country function for<br />

middle and upper class people.<br />

The appreciation faded quickly, and the extra pay ended<br />

as states re-opened by ending mask mandates for most<br />

of society except senior living. Annual increases for<br />

hourly workers this year range from .15 – .25 per hour,<br />

not enough to make up for losing the pandemic pay that<br />

ended even though the pandemic hasn’t gone away and<br />

certainly the effects of the pandemic haven’t subsided.<br />

The demand to return to work was meaningless to<br />

people who never had the chance to work from home in<br />

the first place.<br />

The imbalance caused the expected stresses as family<br />

members were not required to wear masks in public, but<br />

still required to wear a mask inside our communities as<br />

we are licensed by the state and the states say masks<br />

are required.<br />

All the videos we’ve seen of Americans losing their shit<br />

in Walmart and Target, at train stations and airports, in<br />

restaurants and at bars… also played out at senior<br />

communities with outbursts by family members tired of<br />

us requiring them to check in with proof of vaccination,<br />

a temperature check, and reminders to wear their<br />

masks.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p. 16


M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

While most families complied without incident, there<br />

were far too many ugly instances of middle aged mostly<br />

white people yelling at younger mostly women of color<br />

who were doing the jobs required of them by their<br />

middle aged white bosses.<br />

To be a POC and caught in the middle of a class, control,<br />

and health war between white people is not a fun place<br />

to be.<br />

Our staff has spent an inordinate amount of time gently<br />

reminding visitors to wear a mask, stop to sign in to<br />

have their temperature taken, and to show proof of<br />

vaccination, only to be met with anger and derision<br />

snide remarks and ugly looks, before they determine<br />

their desire to see a loved one is more important than<br />

taking a useless stand.<br />

As the only member of the executive team not a woman,<br />

and as a taller and larger Black male, my role evolved to<br />

also provide a type of “security” and reinforcement to<br />

obey the rules or leave. Forty-one years of working my<br />

way up and now I’ve added security to my resume<br />

because Americans cannot be counted on to be decent<br />

people.<br />

Move outs and move ins<br />

uncertainty. Those people in my role who knew to<br />

empathize and understand what families were<br />

experiencing tended to be most successful.<br />

Finding seniors can be a challenge, even without<br />

covid. On average I received forty leads each month.<br />

They come from national placement agents from<br />

companies such as A Place for Mom and Caring.com,<br />

local placement agents, skilled nursing facilities, our<br />

own website, and neighbors who know who we are<br />

and where we are. I maintained four to five-hundred<br />

leads in my database and through phone calls, emails,<br />

and text messages, I hosted three to five tours/retours<br />

a week. By month’s end on average five families<br />

moved in.<br />

Seniors can be afraid to move and may have<br />

apprehensions based on how the older versions of<br />

the senior industry used to look. Warehousing<br />

seniors in large buildings, everyone in a chair or<br />

wheelchair, lined against a wall while a television<br />

blasts daytime reruns. Food worse than school food,<br />

and inattentive and overwhelmed helpers.<br />

As I’ve already pointed out, today’s senior<br />

communities are as far from those images as we are<br />

from horse and wagon.<br />

As a Director of Sales, I have sales goals imposed on me,<br />

Covid was devastating to the industry and to folk like<br />

and for most of my time in this industry I’ve been<br />

me. The national deaths hit the industry hard, and<br />

expected to move in three residents per month.<br />

whatever number you have read, it’s lower than<br />

Attrition is generally two residents per month, so<br />

reality. We have seen residents get covid, “recover”<br />

getting three assures growth, and increasing the census<br />

and then pass away a few days or weeks after. Those<br />

and revenue is the goal of any for-profit industry.<br />

deaths are not counted as covid-related though they<br />

should be. We have seen thriving healthy seniors<br />

I have averaged four move-ins per month, and this past<br />

contract covid, and after recovering they are never<br />

year averaged close to five. I don’t include those results<br />

the same and pass away quietly. And when they have<br />

to brag but to show that there was an environment of<br />

passed away, they have “moved out.”<br />

growth even with covid, lockdowns, and societal<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p.17


M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

Over the past six months, fifty-three percent of the<br />

move-outs in my community were due to seniors dying.<br />

Most of the remaining move-outs were due to seniors<br />

needing a higher level of care than what we could<br />

provide. Six move-outs per month for a sustained<br />

period shocked the local employees. To uppermanagement<br />

it was only seen as our failure to move in<br />

enough people to account for the move outs. (“Moveouts”<br />

most often mean “death” but not saying so<br />

softens the emotional impact. It turns humans into<br />

numbers and euphemisms. Aside from death, reasons<br />

for resident attrition include the need for a higher level<br />

of care, moving home with family, and moving to a<br />

competitor community.)<br />

It was, basically, business as usual. With my experience I<br />

was not surprised, though I wanted acknowledgment of<br />

the difficulty of the environment and most of all, the<br />

emotional and mental stress of having witnessed so<br />

many deaths.<br />

Exposing glaring gaps<br />

But private companies have growth and revenue For an industry that promotes its humanity, the internal<br />

targets to hit and, covid be damned, they will drive response to overwhelming death has been sorely<br />

performance and hold employees accountable to those lacking.<br />

stretch goals all private for-profit companies push.<br />

To be staff or administrators at the ground level, work<br />

My local executive and I were called to meet with with families for months to get them to move in, get to<br />

executives to strategize about how to increase sales to know the senior for months and years only to see that<br />

counter the high number of move-outs. My role was to senior pass away, and then receive no recognition of the<br />

bring residents in; the executive director, chef, emotional toll we face, exposes a glaring gap in the<br />

concierge, nurse, facilities, activities, fitness, and industry. Staff are expected to go about their day and do<br />

staffing leaders are expected to provide the level of the job, suppress their grief at losing a senior who<br />

care and service the company promises so residents shared personal stories, who cried at being left alone<br />

don’t leave. The directive we were given when faced away from extended family, who expressed humor,<br />

with all of these “move-outs”? Sell more, bring in more anger, sadness, and grief to housekeepers, wait staff,<br />

residents, do more home visits, call more, text more, and other employees.<br />

tour more, get more revenue.<br />

The day they die we are told to move on, get the<br />

At the meeting, an executive, having recognized the apartment emptied and prepared for showing. Clean it,<br />

above facts seemingly for the first time, casually and in paint it, refresh it, and get a new resident in it.<br />

that unique American businessperson response, said:<br />

“Well, you just have to move in seven people per Feeling sad and depressed at losing that lovely greatgrandmother<br />

month then.”<br />

you’ve been caring for the past few years?<br />

Grieve on your own time, don’t be late from your break,<br />

Responding instinctively and from the heart I said and get back to your job.<br />

quietly: “I can’t outsell death.”<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p. 18


M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

Our community has a chapel that is used by local clergy<br />

for services, prayer, and visits with residents and their<br />

family. The chapel is open to all religious leaders. Our<br />

community receives daily visits from hospice company<br />

reps who find clients in our communities/industry. The<br />

visits are usually short with coffee, fruits, and gifts part<br />

of the tactic the reps use to gain favor with the<br />

community leaders so we will think of their hospice<br />

company when one of our seniors become candidates.<br />

Despite consistent visits from five or more hospice<br />

companies and multiple local clergy, there are no grief<br />

provisions provided to employees to help them<br />

process the grief many experience when they see the<br />

seniors they care for die.<br />

Care has become more difficult through covid; seniors<br />

rebelled against social distancing, lockdowns, and<br />

limited visits from families, and finding and keeping<br />

workers also became more difficult. These and other<br />

factors made meeting company growth goals more<br />

difficult as families kept seniors away from assisted<br />

living and memory care facilities believing they were<br />

safer at home.<br />

And the families of younger employees began asking<br />

them to stop working for senior communities for fear<br />

they would contract covid and bring it home to their<br />

own loved ones.<br />

Acknowledging losses<br />

In trying to recover growth and revenues from two<br />

years of covid, many communities raised rates, following<br />

the script of other industries.<br />

Higher rates pull along higher service expectations by<br />

families, so any issue, not matter how small, is reacted to<br />

with the type of complaining intensity usually reserved<br />

for only the most egregious issues. Families overly<br />

stressed by society’s covid response—whatever their<br />

beliefs- take it out on hourly workers who have no<br />

control over the rules, regulations, or local<br />

requirements.<br />

t took nine months for Alice to finally move in. She lived<br />

independently in a home in a gated community for<br />

seniors. She was a widow, having lost her husband, a<br />

former highway patrol officer, of forty years to suicide<br />

after he found out he had inoperable cancer. She found<br />

him in their bathroom.<br />

Both her adult children had passed as well. She and her<br />

husband had a business that she worked on selling<br />

before she sold her home and moved with us. She and I<br />

talked every couple of weeks before it was finally time<br />

for her to move. She was a self-described “mean old<br />

broad” and she really was. Originally from New York,<br />

she had zero patience and could still curse like a sailor,<br />

she would say.<br />

When it was time to move, she asked me to work with<br />

her moving company, and when they were late to her<br />

home, she asked that I come help. Something the almost<br />

all white executive team does not understand, is what a<br />

request like this means from the viewpoint of a Black<br />

person. I made it a point to not go to senior’s homes<br />

even though it was a requirement of my job to do so. I<br />

never felt safe to be in a senior’s home alone due to the<br />

opportunity to be accused, to scare, to have police called<br />

by nosey neighbors, and other reasons.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p. 19


M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

But with Alice I felt safe because she and I had spoken<br />

for months but mostly because I knew the moving<br />

company would be there at the same time.<br />

I arrived and she immediately put me to work as a type<br />

of project manager overseeing the moving company.<br />

We got it done and she moved in to a large 2-bedroom<br />

apartment.<br />

After couple of weeks, I visited Alice to see how she<br />

was doing. I had gotten wind that she was “mean” to<br />

the staff. I knew she could be tough, so I wanted to see<br />

for myself how things were going.<br />

Entering her apartment, I could see plates of uneaten food<br />

litter her kitchen and seating areas.<br />

“I see you are enjoying the food.” I said hoping a little<br />

humor would soften what I knew would be a profanity<br />

filled response.<br />

Alice’s profanity lit of my ears and her apartment. After a<br />

while I asked, sarcastically: “Have you used up your<br />

monthly quota of curse words, old lady?”<br />

Alice laughed and I sat with her for an hour listening to her<br />

complain about everything and anything, but mostly the<br />

food and how it was always cold when delivered to her<br />

apartment which was, per her request, the furthest from<br />

the restaurant.<br />

“Why don’t you go to the restaurant, I am certain it will be<br />

hot when delivered to your table?”<br />

“Because I don’t want to sit with old people who sit in<br />

wheelchairs and who have oxygen tanks!”<br />

Mind you, Alice was in a wheelchair and used an oxygen<br />

tank.<br />

“Okay, look, am going to take you to lunch next<br />

Saturday, okay? I’ll come pick you up at noon so be<br />

ready.”<br />

“Well, okay, then, it’s a date. Don’t be late.” She laughed<br />

as I left her apartment.<br />

I knew Alice was lonely and hadn’t taken the time to<br />

leave her apartment since moving in.<br />

I showed up the following Saturday and Alice was ready to<br />

go. Her hair was done, she was dressed and I even saw that<br />

she had make-up on.<br />

“Come on, mean old broad, let’s go eat.” I said as I pushed<br />

her and her oxygen tank out of the apartment and into the<br />

first of three long hallways leading to the restaurant.<br />

I had prepared the restaurant staff for our visit so they<br />

greeted us upon arrival and sat us at the center table where I<br />

knew she would be able to see everything.<br />

Alice was the picture of manners, as seniors greeted her as<br />

they went to their seats, the wait staff fawned over her<br />

telling her they had been waiting to meet her.<br />

Watching and listening to Alice get to meet other seniors,<br />

pleasantly talk about. the food, the scenery, weather, and<br />

other small-talk, was wonderful. As we ate she talked of the<br />

meal that she was enjoying, the desserts – she had two, and<br />

how lovely everyone was to her.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p. 20


M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

After lunch I took her back to her apartment and<br />

thanked her for letting me dine with her. She<br />

expressed her gratitude and asked if we could go<br />

“Once a month.”<br />

“Of course, I’ve love to, I replied truthfully.”<br />

When I returned to work the following Tuesday, I was<br />

told Alice had passed. She had started feeling bad<br />

Sunday, went to the hospital Monday morning, and by<br />

Monday evening, had passed. We didn’t know it at the<br />

time, but she had passed from Covid.<br />

A few days later her lone relative—her husband’s nephew<br />

from Mississippi—came to collect her things. I introduced<br />

myself and he replied “Myron. I am happy to meet you. My<br />

aunt talked about you and said “Myron is so nice.”<br />

We had a good laugh about his aunt, the “tough old broad”<br />

and before I left, he handed me a wooden chest that was<br />

the size of a large breadbox. He said his aunt had left a<br />

note to give it to me. He wasn’t certain where she had got<br />

the wooden chest or how long she had it, but he wanted to<br />

honor her wishes.<br />

I waited until I was alone to read the note. It was written in<br />

cursive of the type older people were taught in school,<br />

flowing curving dramatic lines that added meaning to<br />

whatever words they were conveying:<br />

To Myron — From a tough old broad<br />

That was all it said. I like to think she was laughing a<br />

devious laugh when she wrote it.<br />

I keep the wooden chest next to my bookcase.<br />

Yes, it’s personal<br />

I lost my oldest brother last year in June. He died after<br />

being run over by a very large truck at a gas station. He<br />

was crushed and the driver drove away but was<br />

captured and charged with three felonies. I took the<br />

company benefit of three work days off to attend his<br />

funeral, be with family, and grieve. Then I was back at<br />

work.<br />

My oldest sibling had passed and I was concerned about<br />

the census in my community and achieving growth and<br />

revenue targets. My brother’s death was a reason our<br />

younger sister fell out of sobriety and dove headfirst<br />

back into all her addictions. My other brother and I<br />

navigated lawsuits, our sister’s addiction issues, and our<br />

own families as we tried to manage our brother’s affairs.<br />

I needed time to grieve, to process, to understand.<br />

But I worked in an industry where death creates<br />

opportunities for more outreach, more marketing, more<br />

leads, more phone calls, more tours, and more move-ins.<br />

The abundance of death brought the abundance of<br />

growth expectations, brought more energetic zoom<br />

meetings, more weekly reports and all the standard<br />

corporate actions and activities that are excruciatingly<br />

necessary toward keeping American business running;<br />

to fully re-opening society; getting kids back to school,<br />

and getting growth and revenue accelerating again.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p. 21


M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

These are seen as noble and mostly noncontroversial<br />

endeavors accepted in the world’s leading capitalist<br />

society whose economy drives a significant percentage<br />

of the world’s economy, both directly and indirectly.<br />

The executives in charge of the place I work are<br />

wonderful leaders full of compassion, empathy, genuine<br />

concern for leadership staff, who try to make a<br />

difference in the lives of our residents and families. And<br />

as in many companies, there is a disconnect between<br />

the people on the ground working and those in the lofty<br />

offices where company decisions are made in<br />

consultation with financial backers beholden to Wall<br />

Street.<br />

Janet’s family was exhausted from caring for her, they<br />

said. After her husband passed she had moved in with<br />

her eldest daughter, Vivian, who, after a few weeks,<br />

realized she could not fully care for her mom. Janet was<br />

too much and needed more care than they could<br />

provide. Then, Janet had fallen and was now in skilled<br />

nursing due to be discharged in a few days. With covid<br />

running rampant, skilled nursing could not keep noncovid<br />

related patients for extended visits. Working with<br />

Vivian and skilled nursing, we worked furiously to<br />

expedite moving Janet to our community by the time<br />

she was due to be discharged.<br />

are their daughters, daughters-in-law, granddaughters,<br />

sisters, nieces, ex-wives, before they are their sons,<br />

grandsons, nephews. I tell friends and family to be kind<br />

to the women in their lives, because it will be one of<br />

them who will see to you as a senior and to the end of<br />

your life.<br />

I looked and saw that over the course of just a few days,<br />

Vivian and I had called one another forty-two times,<br />

texted eighteen, and traded thirty emails from the first<br />

time I called her to the text she sent saying she was on<br />

her way with her mom—she was following the<br />

ambulance.<br />

Janet arrived on stretcher and was taken to her apartment,<br />

Janet and few family members with her. I was in my office<br />

working with another family when they arrived. I could see<br />

them in the lobby.<br />

The next three days were a blur with each day being<br />

sixteen hours, numerous calls, visits by our nurse to<br />

skilled nursing, buying some furniture because they<br />

could not get a mover on short notice, moving other<br />

furniture we used in one of our models, and worked<br />

through all the paperwork.<br />

I looked forward to getting to know Janet.<br />

After an hour when I had finished with the family I was<br />

working with, I exited my office and saw Vivian and her<br />

family. She walked to me and hugged me, saying “Thank<br />

you” as she squeezed my back.<br />

The work was exhausting but necessary and Vivian<br />

worked hand-in-hand with me and my team. Vivian was<br />

emblematic of the many women like her who do almost<br />

all the work to move seniors into senior living<br />

communities. In my experience the person most likely<br />

to assist and help seniors move to a senior community<br />

“I am glad Janet made it.” I was relieved to have worked it<br />

out with the family.<br />

I saw tears roll down Vivian’s face as she quietly said, “Mom<br />

just passed.”<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p. 22


M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

I didn’t get a chance to meet Janet.<br />

And my company did not pay me commission on the<br />

move-in because she was…. “Only in the community for<br />

an hour.”<br />

Families often come to us later then is optimal, with<br />

there being a recent triggering event that caused<br />

concerned, alarm, fear, or all of the above. Many of the<br />

signs of declines families tell us they are noticing have<br />

been present for longer than most families will admit<br />

without prompting. It is perfectly normal and expected<br />

to want our loved ones to still be the person we knew<br />

them to be. It can be hard to accept their new reality.<br />

Time to say good bye<br />

I recently resigned from my position as Director of<br />

Marketing for a senior living industry company.<br />

The combination of so much death inside my<br />

community, my brother’s death, and my lack of time to<br />

grieve and process for my own mental health led me to<br />

making the decision to leave an industry that seems<br />

perfectly suited to my skills and abilities.<br />

But sometimes in our careers where we could be is not<br />

where we should be. And for me this is one of those<br />

times.<br />

Earnest had lived in his home for seventy years, the<br />

same home his parents had lived in all their adult lives.<br />

He missed his home but after his wife had passed, he<br />

was no longer able to be alone.<br />

After he moved in to our senior community, Earnest’s<br />

neighbors complained he was having “loud parties at all<br />

hours of the night.” But Earnest, 97, assured us he was<br />

not having parties in his apartment. “I am a retired<br />

preacher” he proudly proclaimed whenever asked<br />

about the loud parties.<br />

The complaints continued though so we decided to<br />

check on him in the middle of the night to see what was<br />

happening. From outside his apartment, we could hear<br />

the “party” Earnest’s neighbors had complained about.<br />

The sounds were not a “party” but Earnest’s chosen<br />

form of entertainment: Adult movies.<br />

We politely asked him to lower the volume and to use<br />

his hearing aids. He asked that we not tell his son<br />

because he didn’t want to let him down.<br />

The way the industry attends to the seniors in their<br />

charge is admirable, consistent in effort, if not in<br />

execution. The same cannot be said for the care the<br />

industry gives to their employees who manage the day<br />

to day operations, activities, care, restaurant, and<br />

housekeeping.<br />

Like everyone else, seniors will be cranky, disagreeable,<br />

sick, mean, bullies, racists, misogynists, and irrational. If<br />

the senior exhibits those personality features prior to<br />

moving to a senior community, then they will continue<br />

them. The communities are not communities of Shanggri-la<br />

that will erase the history of who the person was<br />

and is, even those affected by dementia.<br />

If a senior doesn’t get along with their families, doesn’t<br />

like non-white people, and is disrespectful in their prior<br />

life, they will be the same in the senior community. And<br />

though they will pay thousands of dollars per month, the<br />

people who will be closest to them will be paid wages<br />

that are barely above minimum wage in most cases. The<br />

entry level hourly person will help with bathing,<br />

escorting, dressing, toileting—including cleaning<br />

incontinence accidents that occur in bed, on floors, and<br />

in clothing.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p. 23


M Y R O N J . C L I F T O N<br />

The industry will continue to grow as Americans age<br />

and the wealthiest and their families seek comfort, care,<br />

and safe environments for their final years.<br />

I will miss the earnest leaders who want to make a<br />

difference in the lives of residents, and the, the<br />

caregivers and housekeeping staff who work harder<br />

than everyone to make certain seniors live quality lives.<br />

I won’t miss the young managers who only see the<br />

numbers we produce, only talk of the families who have<br />

issues with our staff, and who only see half-empty<br />

glasses and last week’s reports. Those managers who<br />

get excited for the next Zoom meeting, but not the next<br />

family discussion where families share their entire<br />

family history as they look for communal acceptance<br />

and warm embraces from the staff the get to meet and<br />

talk to every day.<br />

I will miss the attentive restaurant chef and staff who<br />

work hard to please seniors, their guests, and even the<br />

families who feel entitled to way too much.<br />

But mostly I will miss the quiet old guys who have tips<br />

on how to grow better tomatoes, how to grill, golf, or<br />

play an instrument, the mothers, grandmothers, and<br />

aunties who slip me candy, and those who boss me<br />

around as I am walking by. I’ll miss the seniors and all<br />

their stories, quirks and complaints, their desires for<br />

community or solitude.<br />

Originally published on Myron J. Clifton's<br />

blog, <strong>Dear</strong> <strong>Dean</strong> on April 5, 2022.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p. 24


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E U G E N E L E V I N S O N<br />

In my opinion, war is sometimes needed and justified.<br />

In this case, I don’t think either applies. What we see<br />

here has been a failure of the world to recognize and<br />

contain an individual with absolute power and<br />

ambition. You give him a finger; he will want the entire<br />

arm. Has he ever faced consequences for his previous<br />

improprieties? When allowed to go unchecked, you get<br />

what we have between Russia and Ukraine. Seems to<br />

me, Putin has no fear of any repercussions or<br />

consequences imposed by the western nations. and<br />

that makes him unpredictable. With such unlimited<br />

power concentrated with one person, justification and<br />

reason do not exist and approval is not needed.<br />

In fact, disapproval or challenge is eliminated in the<br />

truest sense of the word – murder. I think the world<br />

has very limited options, mostly hurting the Russian<br />

people and not the elite that they intend to stop. In this<br />

quagmire, the world is walking a tight rope between<br />

what is right and the possibility of challenging someone<br />

that has proven to eliminate anyone standing in his<br />

way for the last 22 years.<br />

Where does this go from here? Unfortunately, I don’t<br />

see this ending in a way that benefits the world. With<br />

reports of big concessions already being made, and<br />

Russia poised to storm Kyiv, seems to me that a pro-<br />

Russian government is inevitable. Despite the bravery<br />

of the Ukrainian people and their president, the<br />

Russian army is too powerful and experienced in<br />

occupying countries and Ukraine is relatively too<br />

young. My concern goes back to Putin’s ambition. I<br />

think he is thinking past Ukraine. Who’s next? Who<br />

else has this emboldened? Who’s going to stop him?<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p.27


MYRON'S<br />

HIT OR MISS<br />

list<br />

You will either LOVE or HATE being on<br />

this list. It's time to call out the good,<br />

bad and the ugly as it happened on<br />

Twitter. We saw it live with our own<br />

eyes, and now it's time to review the<br />

best and the worst... saddle up!<br />

HIT<br />

Baseball season started, and Major League Baseball again<br />

honored Jackie Robinson by allowing all players to wear<br />

Robinson’s # 42 jersey, this year in white or blue. Seeing his<br />

number and all the tributes at the start of each season makes the<br />

opening to the season the best of all major sports.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p.28


MISS<br />

Baseball season is 162 games long. In 2022,<br />

nobody wants that many sportsball games. Cut it in<br />

half and get on with it.<br />

HIT<br />

Duchess Megan Markle sparkles at opening to<br />

Invictus Games with her doting husband Harry.<br />

Duchess Megan, resplendent in white, with perfect<br />

hem, cut, color, and style, was the diamond of the<br />

event in every way. Oh yea, they also visited the<br />

queen while overseas.<br />

MISS<br />

Literally miss, the British tabloids missed that<br />

Duchess Megan and husband Harry were in town<br />

to visit the queen for the first time in two years.<br />

Lol. There were mad-mad but they can stay mad as<br />

The Duchess once again outplayed, outwitted, and<br />

outlasted the British tabloids.<br />

HIT<br />

Three of the world’s religions celebrated holy<br />

days around the same time of year for the first<br />

time in a long time.<br />

MISS<br />

Three of the world’s religions perpetrated violence<br />

around the world during their holy days.<br />

HIT<br />

Real Maple Syrup.<br />

MISS<br />

All the restaurants serving “flavored” maple syrup<br />

that’s nothing more than disgusting corn syrup.<br />

HIT<br />

A Florida judge put in place by Trump and who was<br />

deemed “Unqualified” by the ABA decided that the<br />

Federal Mask mandate should be thrown out. The<br />

ruling means that airlines and train companies no<br />

longer will require masks but make them optional<br />

for travelers… just in time for summer travel and<br />

with various covid variants on the rise.<br />

HIT<br />

Will Smith slapped Chris Rock.<br />

MISS<br />

The Academy Awards banned Will Smith from<br />

attending the ceremony for 10 years.<br />

MISS<br />

The academy Awards continue to celebrate and<br />

award abusers, racists, rapists, and violent men,<br />

while producing violent movies and television<br />

shows that they say do not cause harm or<br />

violence in society but somehow they were<br />

traumatized by a single slap.<br />

DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p.29


it or hate it<br />

MOVIE REVIEW<br />

Love<br />

BRIDGERTON<br />

Netflix Season 2<br />

The steamy period-piece returns to heat up viewers looking for more romance, unrequited love, and class and<br />

caste intrigue. Led by the stunning Golda Rosheuvel as Queen Charlotte – she who serves looks and owns every<br />

scene and who selected her “Diamond of the Season”, the youthful beauty, Charithra Chandran as Edwina<br />

Sharma, her older sister Kathani, played by Simone Ashley, and of course Nicola Coughlan as Penelope<br />

Featherington. Part of Shondaland production, the series is unafraid of telling stories from younger and older<br />

women’s points of view, showing love from many perspectives, and brashly showing regal Indian women equal to<br />

every other high society woman on the show. Ignore any naysayers complaining about HiStOrIcAl AcCuRaCy<br />

because they’re the same folk that can imagine every type of alien living with white people but cannot fathom<br />

imagining Black, Indian, Asian folk living with white folk even though they really did. Enjoy the show for what it is:<br />

smart dialogue, beautiful wardrobes, and various forms of heteronormality sexual situations. Here’s hoping<br />

season three extends the storylines to include love among members of the LGBTQI community.<br />

THE GILDED AGE<br />

HBO Max<br />

Come for Kristine Baranksi as Agnes van Rhijn<br />

and stay for Dennee Benton as Peggy Scott,<br />

Audra McDonald as Dorothy Scott, Carrie Coon<br />

as Bertha Russell, and Cynthia Nixon as Ada<br />

Brook, sister of Agnes. The women navigate<br />

New York City’s immensely wealthy family<br />

dynamics during the late 1880’s when money<br />

and wealth created multimillionaires with New<br />

York’s new-money families. Those families<br />

were initially scorned by the old-money crowd<br />

But money finds a way to make friends out of former foes and snobs. Rich dialogue, beautiful wardrobes and<br />

colors, and enough plots and intrigue, snappy remarks, and snobbish insults to keep you laughing and glued to<br />

your screen.<br />

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CONTINUED...<br />

AUSTENLAND<br />

Amazon Prime, Hulu<br />

Love it or hate it<br />

I don’t know if this little 2013 movie was released in theatres, but it is hilarious and work a few bucks to rent.<br />

Especially if you love period pieces and making fun and being in on the joke, this is the movie for you. Starring<br />

Keri Russell, Jennifer Coolidge, Ricky Whittle, Jane Seymour, and Georgia King, the movie can be watched<br />

multiple times and I guarantee you will find different absurdities that will have you in stitches. Russell plays Jane<br />

Hayes, a single thirty-something-year-old obsessed with Jane Austen and her characters, especially the famous<br />

Mr. Darcy. She visits Austenland, an immersive “Jane Austen experience” camp and things get way out of hand<br />

much to the viewer’s delight. Try it and let it envelope you in period clothing, strange plots, ad-libbed dialogue,<br />

and delightful nonsense.<br />

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IT’S LIKE THIS<br />

What happens when two educators and a comedian get together to talk about pop culture? Join Brandon, Eliann,<br />

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COASTAL ELITES<br />

The political buddy show that no one asked for! Join Greg and Brandon every Thursday<br />

to listen to “Coastal Elites!”<br />

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YOUR LIFE: THE MIXTAPE<br />

Join best-selling author, comedian, podcaster, and TikTokker and public nuisance Greg Howard Jr and a special<br />

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DON’T MAKE THIS WEIRD<br />

Best-selling author, comedian, podcaster, and TikTokker Greg Howard Jr talks to people from all walks of life<br />

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VOICE MEMOS<br />

Two long-time friends have informative, yet brief, discussions about multitudinous topics. Join Myron and Jenn<br />

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of public health and microbiology. Join TikTok's Snack Pax Epi, the beloved field epidemiologist, as he navigates<br />

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THE BARBECUE INTERVIEW PODCAST<br />

Biggs sits down to interview a wide array of guests from diverse backgrounds. Everyone has a story.<br />

15 MINUTES OF FAME WITH JACQUELYN BRITTANY<br />

Come join the conversation…it’s 20 Questions, with a twist! New episodes monthly.<br />

JOYFUL WARRIOR MEDIA, LLC is a new business entity that will be<br />

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DEAR DEAN MAGAZINE | p.32


MY FAVORITE THINGS<br />

STREAMING RIGHT NOW...<br />

Are we tired yet of movies and series about bad businesspeople who do bad things and then are<br />

glamorized? Yes, yes we are. Look, the stories “can” be interesting but let’s be honest, they are stories of<br />

privileged white people fooling and stealing from other privileged/wealthy white people. Watching to laugh<br />

“AT” I can understand – I do it too - because there’s really nothing to be learned from people who willingly<br />

give hundreds of thousands or even tens of millions of dollars to people who are clearly lying and who you and<br />

I would laugh out of our faces if they asked for money because we know better, dammit.<br />

THE INVENTOR: Out for Blood in Silicon Valley,<br />

HBOMax and The Dropout /Hulu<br />

Elizabeth Holmes found a way to convince investors to<br />

give her /her company billions of dollars for her<br />

company Theranos. Elizabeth said her company<br />

developed new blood-testing technology and it turns<br />

out everything was a lie. HBO/Max has interviews<br />

with her – be mindful of her weird voice which.. I don’t<br />

even know if it is real or? The Drop Out, staring<br />

Amanda Seyfried, and based on the podcast of the<br />

same names, gives background on Elizabeth as a teen<br />

and young woman who was always a liar but cute<br />

enough to fool dumb rich men.<br />

Bad Vegan. Netflix. Sarma Melngailis repeatedly<br />

conned investors to support her new age vegan<br />

restaurant in New York City. Lauded by the elite<br />

restaurant crowds, Hollywood stars, and wealthy<br />

investors – men – who wanted to stare at and try to<br />

impress the quirky, wealthy, skinny blond chef. They<br />

kept giving her money even after she absconded with<br />

millions with her criminal boyfriend, went on the run<br />

from the law, enjoyed crack, and finally was caught<br />

after being caught following ordering a very non-vegan<br />

Domino’s pizza. She’s back in the restaurant business<br />

and the wealthy dummies are still giving her grifting ass<br />

money.<br />

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Trust No One: Hunt for the Crypto King – Netflix.<br />

One two weeks old, there’s already crypto<br />

documentaries! Lol. Maybe if you watch this, the<br />

crypto people will leave you alone. Or they’ll find out<br />

you watched and think you are “now” ready to learn<br />

about why crypto is the latest Ponzi, er, “investment”<br />

opportunity. Billionaire crypto guys disappears, dies,<br />

people lose money. Ho-hum. Dummies.<br />

The Vow. HBOMax - The so-called self-improvement<br />

group NXIVM was a nightmare of wealthy people<br />

following a wealthy nutcase, Keith Raniere who<br />

turned his cult into what all cults turn into: sex<br />

trafficking, worshiping the cult leader, brainwashing,<br />

and thievery. This one has the added titillation of<br />

having Hollywood actor Allison Mack as a recruiter<br />

for the cult, and actor Catherine Oxenberg trying to<br />

rescue her daughter from the cult.<br />

only then did all his abuses come to light in the British<br />

media. The special highlights how his friendships with<br />

the British royalty and other stars and famous people –<br />

many who knew about his abuses – covered and/or<br />

ignored them. After his death there were 450<br />

accusations, putting him as one of the most prolific<br />

abusers in entertainment history.<br />

WE WORK: Or The Making and Breaking of a $47<br />

Billion Unicorn<br />

Dumb people somehow always find a way and<br />

opportunity to get their money into rich folk’s grifting<br />

pockets. We Work’s CEO, Adam Neumann, found a<br />

way to monetize public workspaces. Lol. And people<br />

fell for it to the tune of billions of dollars.<br />

Jimmy Savile: A British Horror Story. Jimmy was a<br />

pedophile and sexual abuser who was the most<br />

popular TV personalities in England. When he died<br />

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