mummiez & daddiez magazine

When I became a mummy I was
completely prepared! I knew every piece of
equipment I needed, I knew that my life
would be turned upside down, that I needed
to child proof the house, how to care for
her, how she would grow and develop and I
knew I wouldn‘t be able to go out as much
anymore, I was ready... or was I? It took
me until my daughter was about 3 years old
to realise that I hadn‘t been prepared at all
for the biggest change... losing myself into
motherhood.
Don‘t get me wrong I love being a
mummy, it is what I was born to do. I love
the tears, the laughter, the mess, the
development, it doesn‘t faze me and I
embrace most things. But I also love being
Kate, and not just ―Laura and Daniel‘s
Mummy‖. I think I was so determined to be
the best mummy I could be that I immersed myself in
motherhood and lost Kate somewhere in the process. The
irony is it is all the things which make me Kate which
make me a good mummy. I love being creative, I love
singing, I am calm, I love reading and I am patient but I
love time to myself and when I get that time I am
reminded who Kate really is and am much better at being
―Laura and Daniel‘s Mummy‖ again.
I‘m sure most mums have had a day away from the
children and gone back home feeling recharged and
knowing that they have more patience and are just
handling things better so why do we not enable ourselves
to have more times like that?
In my work as a children‘s healer I see many families who
are suffering because the mums have had to deal with
things, maybe a bereavement or illness, but they haven‘t
given themselves the time they needed and this has had a
knock on effect on their child‘s emotional state. It doesn‘t
have to be something so enormous to have an impact on
us either. A bad day at work, traffic jam, someone being
rude to us in a shop, all have an impact on our mood and
as emotional beings we need time to process this and deal
with it. As mums, realistically we don‘t get that time very
often, the knock on effect is that we pass this negativity
onto our children; we tell them off, we lack patience, w
don‘t engage them in the same way we usually would.
Having observed this for many years in parent I decided
to create a workshop where mums could come along, to
Magical Mummy
Workshop
be pampered, meet other mums in the same situation and
discuss what they need help with. Throughout the day
offer advice, tips and encouragement and also remind
them of things which may help them to rediscover what
makes their heart sing. As part of the day we do simple
activities which reinforce our new promises to ourselves
and learn a little about how meditation and relaxation can
actually help us to stay calm during even the most
difficult parenting days.
My Magical Mummy Workshops are always very
popular, I host them at home so numbers are limited, I
could probably fill at least double the places but then it
would change the day and part of what makes it special is
the relationships built during the day, the personal details
(home cooked lunch, goodie bag etc) and everyone having
chance to talk. My last workshop was in April and we had
such a fabulous day, chatting, encouraging,
congratulating, creating and making some wonderful
friends.
My next Magical Mummy Workshop is taking place on
Sunday 7 th October and places are already being booked.
If you are a Mummy who is craving some quality time
and would like to join us you can find out more details on
my website (www.katebeddow.co.uk) or my Facebook
page (GrowingSpiritKids) or follow me on Twitter
(@GrowingSpirit) for more news.