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Don’t skip the ketchup. It contains a<br />
superb blend of sweet and sour flavours<br />
that will add flavour to the dish.<br />
Additionally, its consistency will help<br />
thicken the sauce.<br />
Serves 4<br />
Ingredients:<br />
150ml water<br />
1.5kg (2 packets) basic chicken thighs or<br />
drumsticks<br />
6 heaped tablespoons all-purpose<br />
seasoning<br />
2 teaspoons crushed chillies<br />
2 tablespoons basic dry mixed herbs<br />
2 teaspoons smoked paprika<br />
2 teaspoons ground mixed spice<br />
6 tablespoons basic range tomato ketchup<br />
1 tablespoon black pepper (preferably<br />
freshly ground but powdered will do) to<br />
taste<br />
1 tablespoon vegetable oil or olive oil<br />
Method:<br />
Preheat oven to gas mark 4/150<br />
Place the water in a large ceramic dish,<br />
one that holds all the chicken easily.<br />
Mix all the other ingredients in a bowl,<br />
including the chicken. If you don’t have a<br />
bowl that’s big enough halve all the<br />
ingredients and do it in two batches. It’s<br />
important every piece of chicken gets<br />
covered in seasoning.<br />
Place the chicken in the ceramic dish. Cook<br />
for between 2 to 2 ½ hours, turning once<br />
to ensure chicken is browned on all sides.<br />
You’ll know the dish is cooked when the<br />
gravy has thickened. Serve with basic<br />
range long grain rice and basic range<br />
frozen vegetables such as sweetcorn and<br />
peas.<br />
For extra flavour marinate the chicken in<br />
the seasoning mixture overnight in a<br />
sealed food bag.<br />
Leroy Robinson
Easter Colouring<br />
Print and colour the page
So many of us work long, hard hours to provide for our<br />
families and children-often long hours away from<br />
home, maybe taking on extra jobs at times or hoping to<br />
get a raise in an effort to<br />
make our lives richer<br />
financially–working harder<br />
at the expense of sleeping<br />
and taking good care of<br />
ourselves in order to have<br />
extra money. It seems so<br />
many of us just aren’t<br />
content with what we have<br />
now. But is there a point at<br />
which striving to earn or<br />
acquire extra money can be<br />
counterproductive? Or, in<br />
other words, when having<br />
extra money just doesn’t<br />
make us “happy” anymore?<br />
There certainly is a<br />
relationship between your<br />
salary and happiness;<br />
people who earn a good living are often happier than<br />
people who live in poverty. Having extra money can<br />
certainly enhance our lives by providing extra food,<br />
objects and creature comforts in our homes.<br />
But the irony is that earning additional income will<br />
actually not lead to extra happiness, once you have<br />
already attained a “comfortable standard” where you<br />
have what you need to function and be content. The<br />
“comfortable standard” can be quite variable based on<br />
the city, state or country you live in.<br />
The issue then arises why we work so hard after we<br />
have reached an income level that is able to make us<br />
happy. Beyond a strong work ethic engrained by family<br />
values, or the desire to excel and compete with others, it<br />
appears that our ideas about money and happiness have<br />
gone awry.<br />
However the true take-away from all of these mental<br />
exercises with money and happiness is that what we do<br />
with our money is more important than the money we<br />
earn. The thought that making more money can allow<br />
us to have bigger houses and fancier cars to nicer digital<br />
televisions-more for ourselves-<br />
is ultimately ineffective at<br />
turning money into happiness.<br />
Research has demonstrated<br />
that if you are going to spend<br />
money on yourself, you may<br />
want to switch from buying<br />
material objects (TVs or cars)<br />
to buying experiences (trips<br />
and special events). Based on<br />
additional research by Dunn<br />
and Norton, while buying more<br />
“experiences”, you will be<br />
better off by just buying less in<br />
general and instead buy for<br />
others.<br />
This concept is that by denying<br />
yourself the excess that you<br />
may ultimately desire may<br />
allow you to savour and appreciate the finer things in<br />
life. Dunn gives the example of indulging in chocolate<br />
sparingly -instead of in excess- may actually make you<br />
appreciate the taste and texture much more.<br />
A more extreme but scientifically proven means of<br />
increasing the happiness you derive from your money is<br />
a bit more radical-not spending it on yourself. It turns<br />
out that people who spend money on others rather than<br />
themselves are actually happier in the long run. They<br />
derive a greater feeling of reward and satisfaction and<br />
this helps to enrich their inner feelings of sharing and<br />
contentment.<br />
So instead of buying that extra watch or TV the next<br />
time you have some new found money, consider the<br />
alternative: indulging less and offering others the<br />
opportunity to share in your wealth.
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Daniel and I sat in the family waiting room.<br />
In silence we held each other. We knew the news<br />
would be bad. He just laid there still when we saw him<br />
just minutes before. They had put so many needles in<br />
his brand new skin and he just lay there. His breath<br />
interrupted by his body shuddering. Freddy was just 3<br />
hours old. The consultant walked in looking concerned.<br />
“Your son did not breathe for 20 minutes. He suffered<br />
severe oxygen deprivation. He is very poorly. If he<br />
survives your son will most likely be left with advanced<br />
brain damage.” He paused for a moment. In that<br />
moment I recalled what had happened just hours before.<br />
I called the midwife line. I was 5 days overdue but a<br />
healthy mummy to be.<br />
We had considered home birth as our option unless any<br />
complications arose as we were just a 5 minute car ride<br />
from the hospital. It was early afternoon and I had felt<br />
a little different all day. She told me to get Daniel home<br />
from work and to take a nice hot bath. The bath would<br />
either speed up or stop the pressure I was feeling. So I<br />
called Daniel and said “this is it babe, time to come<br />
home. Let’s get this baby moving”. I did a few more<br />
bits around the house then ran a bath. About 5 minutes<br />
after I got in the bath I noticed a massive difference,<br />
very heavy pressure lasting longer. Still I could handle<br />
it. I got myself upstairs. Daniel arrived and started<br />
timing my contractions. They were every 5 minutes and<br />
quite intense. Still I was handling them, but it was time<br />
to get the midwife round to examine me. Rose arrived<br />
and came upstairs with her equipment. We chatted and<br />
she explained what she was going to do. I sat on the bed<br />
and she examined me. It was quite painful. I was Just 1<br />
cm dilated. She said that I had a long time to go yet and<br />
she would pop back later when I was a bit further along.<br />
After all I was a first time mummy. We were expecting<br />
at least a 12 hour labour. Secretly I was worried. I kept<br />
thinking this pressure is quite bad, how can I cope for<br />
hours, DAYS... but I held it back. (It’s important to<br />
remember at this point that if I had planned a hospital<br />
delivery we would of gone in, been examined and I<br />
would of been sent home at such an early stage. They<br />
would need the beds! 1cm is very early labour) I<br />
remember Rose packed up her equipment and sat beside<br />
me. “Stay calm and do your breathing. Take 2<br />
paracetamol and have a nice warm bath to relax you.”<br />
This reassured me a little. Rose left with instructions<br />
that Daniel should time the contractions and call when<br />
they were a lot closer together. I got in the bath but I<br />
could no longer handle the pain. I somehow got myself<br />
back upstairs, Daniel in tow and just shoved myself on<br />
Save a<br />
Cool to<br />
Life<br />
“He looked so small.<br />
Every motherly instinct<br />
is tested”
the bed, on all fours, burying my head in the pile of<br />
pillows. Something was happening, the pressure was<br />
incredibly intense, the urge to push. Daniel was in the<br />
room with me when suddenly my waters broke. I<br />
remember Daniel changing the towels underneath me then<br />
he was gone. Where had he gone I kept thinking? In fact<br />
Daniel has seen there was very thick mec in my waters.<br />
He didn’t want to cause panic. He knew this meant we<br />
would have to transfer to hospital for the rest of my<br />
labour. So he went downstairs. The midwives were<br />
called. They would be coming round to do a few checks<br />
as we waited for the transfer to hospital (Remember at this<br />
point I was thought to still be in the early stages of<br />
labour). What None of us realized was that I had gone<br />
from 1cm to fully dilated in a less than half an hour! I<br />
was actually starting to push upstairs. I knew in my head<br />
something was wrong. The contractions hurt badly and<br />
right at the end of them I had this uncontrolled push into<br />
my abdomen. I knew he was coming but the shock of the<br />
rapid timing had made me silent in screams. I could not<br />
shout to Daniel, I could not do anything but keep trying<br />
not to push which was honestly near on impossible!<br />
All of a sudden I heard a voice. It was Karen. She<br />
walked in the room. She had arrived to assess me for<br />
hospital transfer due to the mec. I remember thinking I'm<br />
safe now. I told her straight away I was pushing and<br />
could not stop. She looked at me puzzled and surprised.<br />
She knew I had been examined a short while before.<br />
She must of thought I was being an over the top 1 st time<br />
mummy! She held my hand and asked me to roll onto my<br />
back so she could take a look. The look on her face, she<br />
had to put pressure on and firmly told not to push. “You<br />
can’t push. Stop pushing right now.” Sounds harsh but<br />
this was too fast and our baby was in serious danger. Not<br />
pushing was the hardest thing I have ever experienced. It<br />
was like when you hold your breath and you get to that<br />
point where you have to breathe again. You have too.<br />
You have to breathe. I had to push! Rose arrived. She<br />
had been Christmas shopping when she got the call. “mec<br />
in waters” So she had also come by to assess and help in<br />
whatever way she could. No high tech birthing equipment<br />
was at hand. It had been signed back in at the hospital<br />
until later on when my labour was established.<br />
This was not a birthing call. This was an assessment,<br />
transfer call. Straight away Rose and Karen went into<br />
auto pilot. “DANIEL CALLTHE AMBULANCE!” The<br />
baby was coming and nothing was going to stop him. I<br />
recall them both telling me to push. I remember them<br />
telling me to pant “eyes, nose and chin!” Freddy’s head<br />
was out now. I opened my eyes for a split second and<br />
could tell from their faces something was very wrong. I<br />
kept pushing and pushing, but the situation was getting<br />
more serious. I tried to do everything they asked of me.<br />
Then panic set in the pillows got whipped out from under<br />
me. My legs pushed far back by the midwives and Daniel<br />
was helping too at this point. So much pressure pushed<br />
on my tummy. They were shouting at me to push as hard<br />
as I could. I felt like I was going to die. (It was shoulder<br />
dystocia.) Freddy’s shoulder was stuck on my upper<br />
pelvic bone and his cord had snapped inside. They had<br />
tried the mcroberts but now the last resort, Rose had to<br />
reach into me with her arm and release him) It was an<br />
extremely hard manoeuvre. Daniel was told to leave the<br />
room. It was just too horrific for him to be involved and<br />
he needed to wave down the ambulance. It took several<br />
minutes for her to release the shoulder then he was born at<br />
last. I felt him being placed on my tummy. He was a<br />
heavy 9lb 2 and limp. So lifeless, one of them said the<br />
cord had snapped “clamp it clamp it.” Karen grabbed<br />
Freddy, scooped mec out his mouth. She then began CPR<br />
“WHERE WAS THE AMBULANCE!” What none of us<br />
knew was that there were no ambulances. It had been the<br />
busiest night ever in the city's ambulance service history.<br />
All were out on life threatening calls. An ambulance had<br />
been dispatched from Sandhurst miles away! Karen<br />
performed CPR on Freddy for 15 minutes next to me<br />
before the ambulance arrived she had no equipment.<br />
He showed no signs of life. Those 15 minutes were<br />
the worst minutes of my 29 years on this earth.<br />
Hearing the breaths of the midwives trying to bring<br />
him back and hearing the screams that you finally<br />
realize are your own, living hell, a living nightmare.<br />
The next thing I remember was Karen screaming so<br />
loudly. I have never heard someone scream in that<br />
way before, desperate! Just pure desperation! The<br />
ambulance had arrived. She took hold of a still,<br />
lifeless Freddy and put him down her top. She<br />
leaped barefoot down one flight of very steep stairs<br />
and down another flight of rough concrete steps out<br />
into the ambulance, screaming for them to get the<br />
CPR equipment. She passed Daniel as she left. He<br />
saw Freddy. He says he will never forget how limp<br />
he was. Dark purple gone!
As he heard the ambulances tires screech he now had to<br />
come and comfort me, knowing we probably will never<br />
see our baby boy alive. It was then that I fell apart. I was<br />
hysterical. I kept screaming “I don’t want my baby to die.<br />
He can't die.” Daniel was by my side. I looked him in the<br />
eyes and cried. What if he died, what if he's dead. What<br />
will we do I'll never forget his face. He was white and<br />
just helpless to know what to do.....Broken. It felt like a<br />
lifetime, but finally 5 minutes later the call came through<br />
20 minutes after Freddy was delivered. “He's breathing,<br />
he has colour.” The relief was more than incredibly<br />
overwhelming. I can’t even describe it in words. We<br />
were totally shell shocked. The pure horror of what just<br />
happened did not truly sink in until we were at the<br />
hospital hearing the consultant’s voice.....Back to reality.<br />
“We want to try something. It’s fairly new out of research<br />
and we will have to transfer Freddy right away to Oxford.<br />
He will receive the cooling technique” Here comes the<br />
technical part - What is the cooling Technique? An infant<br />
who does not have sufficient oxygen for any significant<br />
length of time at birth may develop<br />
cerebral palsy, vision impairments,<br />
hearing problems or learning<br />
disabilities.<br />
Traditionally very little could be<br />
done after a baby had suffered<br />
asphyxia, another term for oxygen<br />
deprivation. Doctors would simply<br />
“I touched his<br />
little hand. It<br />
was so cold.”<br />
wait and hope for the best, as there was no known<br />
treatment. Over the past few years, though, doctors have<br />
realized the benefits of a new technique known as brain<br />
cooling. (The cooling technique) With brain cooling,<br />
doctors are able to reduce the likelihood and severity of<br />
long-term impairments. To perform this technique, a<br />
doctor uses a simple blanket or body wraps that are<br />
chilled with tubes of cold water. This cold blanket<br />
reduces the baby's core temperature from 98 degrees to 91<br />
degrees over a period of 72 hours, mild hypothermic state.<br />
Baby also has probes into the scalp to monitor brain<br />
waves and is often sedated and receives morphine to<br />
lower discomfort. By lowering the body's core<br />
temperature, the cooling blanket reduces the swelling<br />
around the brain and prevents the body from attempting<br />
reparative actions that might ultimately cause greater<br />
damage. It slows the organs and helps give a newborn the<br />
chance to heal and recover from the shock of their trauma.<br />
The cooling must begin within six hours of delivery to be<br />
affective. So Freddy was transferred to begin his 72 hour<br />
cooling treatment in Oxford. I looked upon Rows of<br />
incubators. There he was, underneath the wires, tubes,<br />
and beside the giant machines there he was, fighting.<br />
He looked so small. Every natural motherly instinct is<br />
tested. The incredible wave of protection I felt for him. I<br />
wanted to pick him up into the safety of my arms. Onto<br />
my warm skin I wanted to kiss his cheeks and nose and<br />
those never ending lashes. The longing was immense.<br />
Almost uncontrollable it made my chest hurt. The tears<br />
flowed. The hopeless, frustrated, heart wrenching feeling<br />
of the longing! I watched as strangers changed his nappy,<br />
pumped food into his mouth tube and studied graphs<br />
constantly printed from the big machine beside him. So<br />
many sounds are in the NICU all trying to overtake each<br />
other, they seem to get louder. I touched his little hand. It<br />
was so cold. He shivered and made little whimpers that<br />
broke my heart into a million pieces every time I heard<br />
them. A Newborn baby should be wrapped in blankets,<br />
snuggled with a cute bonnie hat, face all squished up and<br />
content. My baby was laid naked, just a nappy on and a<br />
cold water blanket. It felt unnatural for me. His mummy<br />
who had kept him warm, for 9 long months watching him<br />
so fragile on the edge of life itself. So, so cold. 3 days of<br />
the longing, of the cold. Daniel and I stood by him and<br />
held his precious hand. The support we received from<br />
family and friends was truly inspiring. This made us<br />
strong and we remained positive throughout Freddy's<br />
cooling. Finally on Christmas Eve 2011, after 72 hours<br />
kept cold our baby was being very slowly warmed.<br />
Everybody waited anxiously for the<br />
news. That day was full of so many<br />
different emotions. What ever happened<br />
we would be there for him. Love him<br />
unconditionally our everything! Then a<br />
miracle happened. Freddy was Healthy.<br />
No signs of any brain damage! “This<br />
never happens after such severe
asphyxia” they said. He is a miracle baby!<br />
His story was spreading like wildfire through the JR and<br />
back to the royal Berkshire hospital. Freddy the<br />
Christmas miracle baby!!!!! After he was warmed up we<br />
were able to dress him at last, warm and cosy.<br />
I can’t actually describe my full feelings when they finally<br />
put him in my arms that day. It was truly the most<br />
incredible moment of my entire life. Feeling his warmth<br />
and his tiny heart beat. PROUD! So proud of Freddy, me<br />
and Daniel and also so proud of all the<br />
people who helped save his life. Proud<br />
of every single person that had shown us<br />
support. I will never ever till the day I<br />
die forget that day. Our family created a<br />
bond that day. A bond that is so strong it<br />
can never be broken. Everything was<br />
positive from then on. We were able to<br />
cuddle him all day on Christmas day.<br />
They observed him closely and were so<br />
amazed and happy with his health that we<br />
were able to take him home on Boxing<br />
Day. To bring him home was so<br />
emotional. I spent hours staring at him<br />
( I still do ) Such a perfect little boy.<br />
We returned to oxford when Freddy was<br />
4 months old and he was given the all<br />
clear. They are still amazed how he<br />
recovered from such a traumatic<br />
beginning. He really was a little Christmas miracle. We<br />
will continue to work with the team to aid in the continued<br />
research into the cooling technique. Freddy will have<br />
checkups every 6 months at Southampton general. Freddy<br />
is a very happy, Healthy 13 month old. Full of a love for<br />
life, that shines through his amazing smile. He really is<br />
such a beautiful little life who brings joy to our hearts<br />
every day. He even started walking on Christmas eve,<br />
just 4 days after his 1st birthday. He inspired me to set up<br />
a Facebook page to raise awareness for this incredible<br />
treatment. Since August 2012 his page has expanded.<br />
We now have a website, twitter account and have grown<br />
into ‘The cool to save a life Group.’ We are a group who<br />
fundraise for hospital Level 3 NICU units to provide<br />
equipment specifically linked to the Newborn cooling<br />
technique. We also aim to raise awareness to people all<br />
over the world about this pioneering treatment. We<br />
provide a networking platform for cooling families to<br />
connect. We also offer emotional support to cooling<br />
families as parents who have been through it ourselves.<br />
We are currently raising funds to help provide S'ton NICU<br />
with a cerebral function monitor. We are constantly<br />
expanding and changing as we continue to grow. It has<br />
been amazing to create such a positive cause. We work<br />
hard every day to make a difference and to reach to those<br />
across the globe who are going through what we did just<br />
over 1 year ago. I will never forget what happened that<br />
night and it has left its mark, but doing this is helping our<br />
family heal and move forward. If you would like to learn<br />
more, follow Freddy’s journey or even support our<br />
fundraising project please visit www.cooltosavealife.com<br />
Nicky Symmonds
Childhood<br />
Obesity<br />
It’s a race against time. If we carry on as we are, 90% of<br />
today’s children could be overweight or obese by 2050.<br />
Changes have to be made now if we are to stem the rising<br />
tide of obesity. The Government Office for Science’s<br />
Foresight Report concluded that issues of modern day life,<br />
such as new technological progress, labour-saving<br />
devices, sedentary jobs and lifestyles and ample and<br />
abundant food, have over-stepped human evolution and<br />
make it increasingly hard to maintain a healthy weight.<br />
The report also suggests that if we don’t take action now,<br />
our society will be consumed by a major public health<br />
problem matched only by climate change in both its scale<br />
and complexity. It goes on to suggest we are likely to<br />
face a financial cost to the NHS and the wider economy of<br />
£50 billion by 2050. The Government recognises it has a<br />
significant role to play to counter the trend towards<br />
obesity, but is aware it cannot do it alone. That is why the<br />
Department of Health has developed Change4Life – to<br />
bring together a coalition, across society, of health and<br />
education professionals, third sector colleagues,<br />
community groups, supermarkets, food manufacturers and<br />
the media to address the issue in unison. Ultimately,<br />
people have to take responsibility for their own physical<br />
activity and diet, but the Government has an obligation to<br />
offer clear and effective information about food and<br />
exercise in the fight against obesity.<br />
Following the evidence from the Foresight Report, the<br />
Government’s drive to tackle obesity is targeting five key<br />
areas:<br />
• Children: healthy growth and healthy weight<br />
• Promoting healthier food choices<br />
• Building physical activity into our lives<br />
• Creating incentives for better health<br />
• Personalised advice and support<br />
‘Making parents more aware of the serious health<br />
implications of being overweight or obese is a vital<br />
objective of the Change4Life movement. So building<br />
awareness about what families can do to live healthier<br />
lifestyles is essential, without condemning existing habits<br />
or beliefs. Using evidence from the Department of<br />
Health’s Expert Review Group, and insight that includes<br />
ethnographic research, we have worked steadily to<br />
identify realistic and achievable behaviours, in language<br />
that parents can relate to. One by one these behaviours<br />
can help to achieve long lasting changes to lifestyles.<br />
These include:<br />
1. Sugar Swaps<br />
Swapping sugary snacks and drinks for ones that are
lower in sugar can make a huge difference to kids’ calorie<br />
intake.<br />
2. Meal Time<br />
It’s important for kids to have regular, proper meals as<br />
growing bodies respond better to routine.<br />
3. Snack Check<br />
Many snacks are full of the things that are bad for us –<br />
sugar, salt, fat and calories. So try and keep a careful eye<br />
on how many the kids are having.<br />
4. Me Size Meals<br />
Even though they’re growing, it’s important to make sure<br />
kids get just the right amount for their age – not too little<br />
and not too much.<br />
5. 5 A Day<br />
It’s easier than you think to give your kids five portions of<br />
fruit and vegetables a day.<br />
6. Cut Back Fat<br />
We all know too much fat is bad for us. But it’s not<br />
always easy to tell where it’s lurking.<br />
7. 60 Active Minutes<br />
Kids need to do at least 60 minutes of activity a day to<br />
help them stay happy and healthy.<br />
8. Up and About<br />
The way life is today means that most of us spend too<br />
long sitting down.<br />
http://www.nhs.uk/Change4Life/supporter-resources/<br />
downloads/Help_stop_childhood_obesity.pdf
We Were Child Entrepeneurs...<br />
Look where dreams, aspiration, hard work and<br />
determination got us:<br />
Aaron Kennedy<br />
Noodles & Co.<br />
When he was eight-years-old, Aaron Kennedy started two<br />
seasonal businesses in Elburn, Illinois – selling greeting<br />
cards in the fall, and selling vegetable-seed packets door-todoor<br />
in the spring. "I sold to anybody I could get to on my<br />
bicycle," Kennedy says. To better understand the customers’<br />
needs, he planted seeds and tended to a garden in his own<br />
backyard. Today, he runs Noodles & Company, a 12-state<br />
franchise of restaurants that grossed more than $200 million<br />
in revenue last year.<br />
Tony Hsieh<br />
Zappos.com<br />
Jennifer Barclay<br />
Blue Fish Clothing<br />
Growing up on a farm in Bucks County, Pennsylvania,<br />
Barclay kept herself busy making “thumbies,” animal<br />
figures she created by dipping her thumb in ink and<br />
pressing it onto card stock. She sold them for a quarter<br />
each, and she built on that creativity as a teenager, piecing<br />
together fabrics that expressed her personal style. What<br />
evolved was Blue Fish Clothing, an artisan, organic<br />
clothing company, with retail stores in New Mexico and<br />
New Jersey, and projected revenue of $2 million for 2009.<br />
Long before he became the CEO of Zappos.com, Hsieh<br />
made $100 each month selling photo-buttons by mail.<br />
Customers would send him photos and self-addressed<br />
envelopes and a 12-year-old Hsieh would transform<br />
them into buttons that people could pin on clothing,<br />
hats, and backpacks. That early success made him<br />
confident as an entrepreneur. Today, people can’t stop<br />
ordering their shoes from Zappos.com; the<br />
company booked $1 billion in gross sales in<br />
2008.
Temple Spa<br />
Having a successful career in the City<br />
where travel was becoming more and more<br />
expected within my role, I found it<br />
increasingly difficult to devote the time and<br />
energy I wanted to my baby Son. It was<br />
becoming a logistical nightmare and the<br />
guilt was becoming overwhelming...After<br />
much deliberation, my Husband and I<br />
decided a career break was the best option!<br />
However, I hadn’t counted on being bored<br />
to tears and found being at home with baby<br />
was increasingly isolating and I began to<br />
feel resentful that I had had to give up my<br />
career totally and that there was no<br />
workable compromise... What I had never<br />
considered up until that point was Direct<br />
Selling (DS)!<br />
A former colleague had developed her own<br />
business in DS and seemed to be having it<br />
all! I was very sceptical I must admit so I<br />
tentatively agreed to meet her for a coffee<br />
and a chat. I was actually quite surprised<br />
when I began to see the possibilities and<br />
opportunities that this path actually offered.<br />
After giving it some consideration and<br />
chatting it over with friends and family (most<br />
of warned me not to go ahead), I decided to<br />
‘dip my toe’ in and see where it led. After all<br />
what had I got to lose?<br />
I joined her team and after some initial<br />
training and lots of support, I very<br />
quickly built up a thriving business<br />
where I got to meet lots of different<br />
people, I felt like I was achieving<br />
something and of course the<br />
money was a great bonus too, but<br />
the best thing of all was the<br />
flexibility that DS offers, you work<br />
when you want to work and are<br />
there 100% for your family when<br />
you need to be.<br />
No problems around finding<br />
childcare during the school<br />
holidays and inset days! That's<br />
what makes it so special!<br />
I loved sending quality time with<br />
my Son, alongside the thrill of<br />
building up my little empire that I<br />
envisaged I would have in the<br />
future, this made me feel alive and
excited that perhaps I could<br />
make more than just some<br />
‘pin money’, that I really<br />
could call it a career and be<br />
my own boss.<br />
I attended everything that<br />
the company offered in<br />
terms of business<br />
workshops, network<br />
meetings and achieved<br />
many accolades and<br />
rewards as my business<br />
took off.<br />
In a short space of time I<br />
found it easy to attract other<br />
ladies into joining the team<br />
and achieving their dreams<br />
for themselves. It’s great to<br />
spread the word that DS is a<br />
viable option for many<br />
people and that their dreams<br />
can be achieved with some<br />
hard work and support from<br />
myself and the rest of the team.<br />
I am now a Lifestyle Consultant with Temple<br />
Spa - a fantastic British Company who<br />
specialise in Spa & Skincare of the highest<br />
standards, Paraben Free and used in the<br />
worlds very best Spa's, First Class Cabins<br />
in Selected Airlines and 5 Star Hotels. We<br />
retail in Harrods & Selfridges in London only<br />
- however, my role is to bring these<br />
fabulous products to you at home or in the<br />
workplace. I offer a relaxed Spa<br />
environment where you can learn about<br />
skincare that suits you and your lifestyle<br />
and try before buy.<br />
Whoever you are and whatever you do we<br />
have some products and lifestyle solutions<br />
to help you achieve your ambitions.<br />
I have been in DS for 7 years now and can<br />
honestly say it has been a fabulous time in<br />
our lives and I wouldn’t change it for the<br />
world.<br />
Having your own business really does mean<br />
you can have your cake and eat it! It’s hard<br />
work and yes of course sometimes there<br />
are clashes in the diary between work and<br />
home life, but I haven’t yet seen anything<br />
that comes close to being your own boss!<br />
I will not be going back to the City to carry<br />
on my ‘Career’. I am doing just great here in<br />
DS land, achieving my goals, helping others<br />
with theirs and generally ‘Having it All’. After<br />
all a more relaxed Mummy & Wife makes<br />
for a very happy life J<br />
Joanne Jolly – Lifestyle Consultant –<br />
Temple Spa
Bowman Bears<br />
If someone had said to me two years ago that I<br />
would be running my own business from home,<br />
earning my own money I would have probably<br />
laughed at them.<br />
Two years ago I had just had my second child,<br />
Annie. My eldest, Alfie was two and a half and<br />
I was immersed in being a full<br />
time mum. I did love it and<br />
they were totally my priority.<br />
However I did miss having a<br />
job and earning my own<br />
money, but more than anything<br />
I missed being creative. Before<br />
I had children I had always<br />
been ‘arty’ and had dabbled in<br />
scrapbooking, cross stitch, but<br />
it was always more of a hobby.<br />
After a stressful house move<br />
back to London I started to feel<br />
very low, I thought I may have<br />
post natal depression. It all<br />
seemed to come out after we<br />
moved. I really didn’t want to<br />
go on medication, so I started<br />
sewing instead. It really seemed to work. I had<br />
something else to concentrate on rather than<br />
focusing on the day to day.<br />
So I started making bears and Bowman Bears<br />
was born. I made them for myself initially, out<br />
of the children’s old baby clothes. My first bears<br />
were not very good, but I was determined to<br />
learn and get better with everyone I made.<br />
I posted pictures on my own Facebook profile<br />
and I got really positive feedback, this in itself<br />
made everything worth it. I then decided to set<br />
up my own business page for Bowman Bears on<br />
Facebook. It was a massive step as I would be<br />
opening up to everyone, but it was worth it.<br />
Before not too long I had my first order from a<br />
‘stranger’. It was very scary but exciting at the<br />
same time.<br />
Since then, I have made over 200 bears for all<br />
sorts of different people and different occasions,<br />
some for birthday gifts made from old baby<br />
clothes, some for bridesmaids to hold as they<br />
walk down the aisle and even a bear with wings.<br />
I have now had enquiries about my bears<br />
appearing on websites and in gift<br />
shops and I have even designed a<br />
jointed Dragon to throw into the<br />
mix.<br />
I never take for granted any bear<br />
that I am asked to make, I love<br />
each and every one as they are<br />
always individual.<br />
Starting up your own business is<br />
hard work, especially starting<br />
from scratch financially, at the<br />
beginning the profits are very<br />
low as most of the money goes<br />
straight back into the business,<br />
but I feel so happy. I can work<br />
from home, when I choose. I<br />
can pick the children up from<br />
school every day and still do all<br />
of the ‘mummy’ things I need to do, but I also<br />
feel human again.<br />
I would recommend anyone who has ever<br />
wanted to start up their own business to<br />
definitely go for it, you never know where you<br />
will be in a years’ time.<br />
Amy Chan<br />
Bowman Bears<br />
www.bowmanbears.com<br />
www.facebook.com/Bowmanbears<br />
bowman-bears@hotmail.co.uk
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Make 2013 a Happier Year<br />
We all want to live happy and fulfilling<br />
lives and we want the people we love to<br />
be happy too.<br />
So happiness matters to all of us.<br />
Eco Education<br />
.<br />
NEW: Something for the Dads<br />
Dads Check your Testicles<br />
Quality Time with Daddy<br />
10 Top Potty Training Tips<br />
Print and Use our Praise Charts<br />
The Five C’s for Discipline in Children<br />
Action for Happiness is a worldwide movement (founded in<br />
2010) of around 25,000 members committed to building a<br />
happier society.<br />
In summer 2012 the local Barking/East London Action for<br />
Happiness group was started. We are a social enterprise in<br />
the form of a local community charity; we are passionate<br />
about creating connections and strengthening social<br />
innovation. We meet on the first Thursday of every month<br />
from 7-9pm at the Spotted Dog Pub in Barking to share our<br />
creative ideas about creating greater connections, which<br />
leads to greater happiness. We share our ideas and vision<br />
about future events and activities we would like to see taking<br />
place.<br />
Our Mission is through learning, sharing and action we bring<br />
to life the 10 keys to happier living, which latest research has<br />
found tend to make people's lives happier and more fulfilling.<br />
Together they spell "GREAT DREAM".<br />
We are holding our very first event in Barking, which is a<br />
workshop titled ‘Introduction to Practical Meditation’ with<br />
guest speaker Roy Maunder on Thursday February 21 st . The<br />
cost is just £5 to attend the 2.5 hour workshop from 6-<br />
8.30pm.<br />
Future events will include the screening of a film called<br />
'Happy' - an inspiring documentary about how we can<br />
all be happier and future workshops all relating to the<br />
10 keys and general personal growth & development.<br />
For more information on attending the events or to share<br />
your ideas about contributing to a happier society please call<br />
Sharon on 07947253033 and like our facebook page http://<br />
www.facebook.com/ActionForHappinessBarking<br />
We have no religious, political or commercial affiliations and<br />
welcome people of all faiths (or none) and all parts of<br />
society.
Should you eat only<br />
when you are hungry?<br />
The physiology of hunger is a complicated process,<br />
whereby different people respond to it, in very different<br />
ways.<br />
Some of my clients claim that they do not feel hunger and<br />
eat just to survive, while others live to eat and do not wait<br />
for hunger to catch them out. Either way hunger is not<br />
something to ignore, in fact it is a critical indicator that<br />
the body needs ‘something’. This is why so many diets<br />
do not work in the long term, because the body is missing<br />
out on what it really needs, especially with extreme diets.<br />
Eating right for your Metabolic Type<br />
If your body is not getting the right balance of macro<br />
nutrients (Protein/Fat/Carbohydrate) you will feel hungry<br />
soon after eating or you may crave unhealthy foods. You<br />
can find more out about this by reading ‘The Metabolic<br />
Typing Diet’ by William Wolcott and Trish Fahey.<br />
Mindful eating<br />
Get to know yourself and take note if what you are eating<br />
is triggered by visual temptations (other people eating<br />
biscuits/cakes in the office), or emotional cues such as<br />
boredom, reward, or stress. The more in tune and honest<br />
you are with your body and mind the more likely you are<br />
to make the correct dietary choices.<br />
Why you shouldn’t let yourself get hungry<br />
Starvation response – The body can develop a coping<br />
mechanism to deal with the starvation period by holding<br />
onto calories consumed from the last meal, slowing down<br />
metabolism (which is the very thing I help my clients to<br />
speed up). During this period the body can also burn lean<br />
muscle, instead of fat. (It is muscle we need, as this is<br />
where fat burning<br />
takes place).<br />
Blood sugar<br />
imbalance – Blood<br />
glucose levels<br />
fluctuate depending<br />
on whether you<br />
have consumed a<br />
meal or not,<br />
skipping a meal<br />
can cause these<br />
levels to drop too<br />
low. In some cases<br />
this may just cause<br />
an energy dip, but<br />
it could also cause<br />
dizziness and<br />
fainting. It is<br />
recommended that<br />
we eat every four<br />
to six hours to prevent this from happening.<br />
Skipping breakfast can mean in some cases you are<br />
fasting for up to 16 hours. If this is you, remember break<br />
- your – fast.<br />
The risk of overeating – if you go past the point of<br />
hunger to ravenous you risk what I call the point of no<br />
return. The point where you go beyond just satisfying<br />
your hunger but instead consume a day’s worth of food<br />
in one sitting like it is going to be the last meal you ever<br />
have.<br />
Signs of hunger<br />
If you are not very in tune with hunger and fit into the<br />
category of the ‘eat to live’ group. Then the following list<br />
may help you to become more in tune with your body.<br />
Difficulty concentrating<br />
Dizziness/faint<br />
Headache<br />
Gurgling or gnawing in the stomach<br />
Due to the complexity of hunger this is a process that you<br />
should experiment with personally.<br />
The way you can do this is by keeping a weekly food<br />
diary. Place the days of the week at the top and space on<br />
the left for 5 boxes for breakfast, snack, lunch, snack,<br />
dinner. You should record what you consumed for every<br />
meal and snack and the times in which you consumed<br />
them. Leave a section at the bottom of each day to record<br />
how you feel. Play around with the times you eat on each<br />
day to compare how you feel and whether the times in<br />
which you eat influence the type and volume of food you<br />
eat.<br />
My tip: Never<br />
do the grocery<br />
shopping<br />
hungry. You<br />
will find you<br />
shop very<br />
differently; it<br />
leads to buying<br />
things you<br />
would never<br />
usually buy,<br />
making poorer<br />
choices and<br />
once the food is<br />
in the home it<br />
can be even<br />
harder to resist.<br />
Sharon<br />
Mercieca
10. Jennifer Lawrence - Since landing the<br />
role as Katniss on The Hunger Games,<br />
Jennifer Lawrence has been dubbed a role<br />
model. While many people have called Jennifer<br />
fat, she doesn’t buckle under the pressure to<br />
be too thin. She’s a normal, healthy<br />
weight and wouldn’t want to be any different.<br />
That confidence is worth looking up to.<br />
9. Justin Bieber - Unlike some, Justin<br />
Bieber uses his celebrity superpowers for<br />
good, not evil. On many occasions he’s<br />
surprised adoring fans or sick children to<br />
give them a day to remember. He also<br />
supports many charities.<br />
8. Dakota Fanning - In 2001,<br />
Dakota Fanning became the youngest person<br />
ever to be nominated for a Screen Actors Guild<br />
Award. She was 7-years-old. Now, the 18-yearold<br />
beauty has admittedly become a role model.<br />
Even as a busy actress, she graduated from her<br />
high school and is now studying at New York<br />
University.<br />
7: Emma Watson - After all the fame<br />
and fortune that came with being part<br />
of the Harry Potter franchise, you’d<br />
thought Emma Watson would have<br />
buckled under the pressure of her star<br />
status. Instead, she used her earnings<br />
to return to school. She attended<br />
Brown University. She also did<br />
something few female celebs do - she chopped off her locks.<br />
This brave and confident gal is definitely a role model.<br />
6. Jennifer Hudson - Jennifer Hudson has blossomed since<br />
appearing on American Idol season 3. She<br />
began her career as a successful singer and<br />
actress, even earning an Oscar for her first<br />
film, Dream girls. She became the<br />
spokesperson for Weight Watchers and<br />
transformed her body, empowering herself<br />
and girls everywhere to have the confidence<br />
to do the same.<br />
No. 5: Selena Gomez - Not only does 19year-old<br />
Selena Gomez have her own TV<br />
show, an amazing album and her own<br />
clothing line, she has also helped with<br />
several organizations, including the<br />
ENOUGH project to help the Congolese citizens and their<br />
endangered amphibians.<br />
No. 3: Ellen Degeneres - As her<br />
name states, Ellen Degeneres has<br />
become one of the most generous people<br />
in Hollywood. She supports over 30<br />
charities and foundations and is<br />
particularly fighting against animal<br />
cruelty. She is an openly gay woman who<br />
wears her identity proud.<br />
No. 4: Leonardo DiCaprio -<br />
Leonardo DiCaprio has come a long<br />
way from his role as pretty boy Jack<br />
Dawson in Titanic. He is now the<br />
ultimate activist, trying to educate<br />
the public about the world’s<br />
environmental issues through<br />
documentaries and his own foundation.<br />
No. 2: The Jonas<br />
Brothers - The Jonas<br />
Brothers have overcome a<br />
lot. They lived quite<br />
meagrely until the bros<br />
hit the big time. And even<br />
though Nick has diabetes,<br />
he doesn’t let that get in<br />
the way of his dreams.<br />
They’re a relatable band with wholesome values, who also<br />
started their own foundation - Change for the Children.<br />
No. 1: Taylor Swift - Taylor Swift is a kind-<br />
hearted person who keeps clear of the rag mags by living a<br />
clean and honest life. She is the ultimate role model, not<br />
only for that, but also for the 20+ charities and foundations<br />
she’s involved with, including Children in Need, Red Cross<br />
and a campaign to protect children from online predators.
It’s the most smashing<br />
time of the year (get<br />
it?)...it must be Easter<br />
time. It is the time to<br />
eat loads of chocolate<br />
and have the kids off<br />
from schools over the<br />
extended weekend, oh<br />
the joy! To enjoy this<br />
occasion, let’s suit<br />
and boot you all up<br />
this month.<br />
This month the shop<br />
of choice is Matalan,<br />
recently discovered by<br />
me, it is 'EEGtastic',<br />
the prices are<br />
'EGGtremely cheep<br />
cheep'and delivery is<br />
free, so you can do<br />
everything at your<br />
fingertips whilst<br />
watching a dose of<br />
Loose Woman.<br />
This outfit is best for<br />
any mufti-day they<br />
have this month. The<br />
green and spotted<br />
blouse is cute and also<br />
suitable for any sunny<br />
day (if that ever<br />
happens). The laced<br />
collar makes the top<br />
look expensive,<br />
without it hurting<br />
your bank account!<br />
Jeans are suitable for<br />
any event and<br />
everyone should have<br />
some in their<br />
wardrobes. These are<br />
dark so no worries for<br />
dirt showing and it has a belt so they it will stay on for the<br />
entire day. Cannot go wrong for £9! The jacket brightens<br />
up this outfit and it has SEQUINS! What girl could not<br />
love this? It has a hood and the material will keep them<br />
warm during<br />
playtime or a trip to<br />
the park. The jumper<br />
gives that extra<br />
warmth and can be<br />
worn to any smart<br />
occasion. Finally, the<br />
boots. As it is spring,<br />
why not have some<br />
flowers on your<br />
boots? They are<br />
durable and they can<br />
run in as many<br />
puddles as they<br />
want...they are<br />
waterproof!<br />
These clothes are<br />
simple and practical.<br />
The chinos come in a<br />
range of colours, so<br />
do not worry if you<br />
have a fussy one on<br />
your hands. The<br />
green just makes the<br />
outfit brighter and<br />
original and also<br />
reminds me of Easter<br />
time and spring. The<br />
shirt is very smart<br />
and can fit any<br />
occasion, from<br />
Sunday mass to<br />
Sunday lunch. This<br />
shirt can be worn on<br />
its own or underneath<br />
the jumper to make it<br />
more casual. The<br />
jumper can go with<br />
anything and has a<br />
detailed pocket to<br />
hide any sweets. The<br />
long sleeves make it<br />
comfortable to run around in and keeps them warm at the<br />
same time. The canvas shoes are cheap and cheerful. They<br />
are a cheaper version to trainers and they are just as good.<br />
Gilets are normally expensive, but Matalan offer a wide
variety of them at low prices.<br />
This blue gilet has segments of<br />
shaded blue and has pockets,<br />
so no more losing your keys<br />
and phones. The jeans are very<br />
cheap and durable. Boys love<br />
their jeans, so there are no<br />
excuses when buying these at<br />
the checkouts. The jumper is a<br />
dark red. A lot of men do not<br />
feel comfortable when wearing<br />
bright colours, so this one is<br />
great and looks mature. The<br />
contrasting green polo shirt is<br />
good for them family days out<br />
and also for going out to<br />
dinner; two for the price of<br />
one. The shoes are smart and<br />
suitable for walks and runs,<br />
whatever you choose!<br />
My favorite part the woman’s<br />
section. Firstly the dress; the<br />
price! It is only £8! It is floral,<br />
so it is very chic and<br />
sophisticated. It shows your<br />
figure and also ties up at the<br />
back. The printed jeans are one<br />
of my favorites; the dark<br />
patterns are unique and also<br />
stylish. The jacket is on sale, so<br />
go and get it quick; it will<br />
protect your clothes on the<br />
inside from getting wet and is<br />
popular amongst celebrities.<br />
The bag is something that we<br />
all need. The brown leather<br />
colour adds a touch of vintage<br />
to the outfit. The shoes are<br />
perfect for any woman. They<br />
are not just 'normal black<br />
shoes' they have studs!<br />
Definitely can be worn with<br />
anything for everything.
Beauty is in the<br />
eye of the<br />
Beholder<br />
There are a thousand definitions of beauty there are<br />
many degrees of each. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.<br />
Males are visual creatures. In their minds' eye, like the posters<br />
teenage boys hang on their bedroom walls, men have an<br />
inflated idea of beauty. But to see how he really finds beauty in<br />
his surroundings, look at the girl with whom he spends time and
feels most comfortable. She is often the<br />
opposite of the bedroom poster, maybe a<br />
friends, sister, aunt or cousin. She is the one he<br />
enjoys being with most. To be able to laugh with<br />
someone, we must drop our guards. Beauty is<br />
to be free and to act naturally. Oddly, getting<br />
there can be difficult.<br />
Today, messages and information are aimed at<br />
us in very new ways. It is happening faster than<br />
humans can adapt and evolve. Life is<br />
demanding more than we can give. In turn, you<br />
rely on text messages rather than physical<br />
conversation. The heart is missing in our lives<br />
and you must bring it back.<br />
We judge the book by its cover. It's usually<br />
untrue and unwise, but we place a great weight<br />
of importance on the first impression. In truth, a<br />
first impression offers fast, mostly visual cues,<br />
to make an assumption of another. Physical<br />
appearance is the first thing we see and it<br />
becomes our Achilles heel. The first impression<br />
is always the most expensive.<br />
It is expensive because of what we lose. The<br />
priority one sets on appearances in the physical<br />
realm is to deny oneself the quality and beauty<br />
of the spirit. If you choose to focus on the<br />
beauty within, you will receive the value of true<br />
communication with another. To ignore the<br />
essence of another is to deny your own<br />
humanity.<br />
Beauty has always been costly. By the time you<br />
have been plucked, pinched and enhanced, you<br />
can easily spend a fortune on the latest product<br />
or the most popular nip and tuck. The pursuit of<br />
beauty can also deny nature. In the fevered<br />
race to erase a wrinkle, we try to stop time and<br />
the slow and inevitable progress of nature. It is<br />
a fight no human can win. Beauty can also be a<br />
sport or a goal. Can you be more beautiful than<br />
you already are? No. Sure, every car needs a<br />
fresh coat of paint and a few new pin stripes but<br />
the real, true beauty comes from within your<br />
chassis.<br />
There is boldness in choice and people can<br />
easily recognize it in you. To choose beauty,<br />
determines that you have pondered the<br />
question, objectified the issues and made a<br />
choice. You have asked, "What will I project<br />
today? What will I put out into the world?" Then<br />
you choose and follow it through. Embracing<br />
victimhood is a way to lick your past wounds but<br />
it never yields any positive future-oriented<br />
gains. You lead by example. Choose beauty.<br />
Look at a flower as you would look upon a work<br />
of art. Appreciate it. Enjoy it. Relax and just let it<br />
all in. Then look at yourself the same way. You<br />
are a perfect and unique creation of nature, just<br />
like a flower. This may be hard to do and you<br />
must persist through all of the negativity and<br />
voices in your head. Remember those voices do<br />
not speak truth. They are merely the echoes of<br />
insecurity and comic relief. Appreciation for<br />
beauty isn't forced. Beauty cannot be beaten<br />
into you. Beauty must be invited and it must<br />
flow. If you want to exhibit your true nature, all<br />
you can do is let go.<br />
It is hard to let go. These days, with Life howling<br />
around us like a hurricane, we instinctively try to<br />
hang on for dear life. To be beautiful, to live in<br />
the flow, is a monumentally important task that<br />
requires only openness, desire and a few<br />
simple actions.<br />
Silence is the key that unlocks the mystery. A<br />
quiet meditation. Say a prayer. Sit down and<br />
have a little chat with yourself. Open this<br />
door and you will be answered with your<br />
own beauty.<br />
Do something that makes you happy.<br />
Let go and take the time for yourself.<br />
Something simple. Call a friend. Go to a<br />
movie. Get a massage. You do not need<br />
to spend a hundred dollars. Shop, but<br />
don't buy anything, at a flower shop.<br />
Bake a cake. Take a hike. Do something<br />
that is purposed for you. When this<br />
happens, your beauty will begin to show.<br />
Others will recognize it and be drawn to<br />
it. You have allowed your beauty to flow.
It depends if you can survive on your partner's salary alone<br />
or maybe you are a single parent? Simply adding up your<br />
monthly outgoings and subtracting them from your or your<br />
partner's take-home pay may show you can't afford to be a<br />
stay at home mummy. But if you look more closely at<br />
your budget, you may find that there's a way to make it<br />
work.....After all if there’s a will there’s a way right?<br />
Where can costs be cut?<br />
Would You be a Stay at<br />
Start by making a list of all your regular outgoings, such as<br />
mortgage or rent, car payments, utility bills, food,<br />
clothing, insurance, broadband or satellite TV, as well as<br />
contributions to pension schemes and savings accounts<br />
etc.<br />
Next, make a list of other expenses, such as holidays,<br />
evenings out, health club memberships, haircuts,<br />
<strong>magazine</strong> subscriptions, Christmas and birthday gifts, and<br />
mobile phone contracts – these are all of the pleasurable<br />
items.<br />
Build in a comfortable cushion for unanticipated costs, like<br />
car and home repairs.<br />
Then, keep track of all the other expenses that you may be<br />
less aware of for the next month or so. You could keep a<br />
notepad in your handbag and write down everything you<br />
spend and what you spend it on. Or you could save your<br />
receipts and add them up at the end of each day with the<br />
help of a spreadsheet or phone app.<br />
Once you have added up these extra costs, prepare to be<br />
surprised by what's really draining your bank account.<br />
Maybe it’s buying <strong>magazine</strong>s to<br />
read on the train, or a coffee every<br />
morning before work all adds up!<br />
How much does working cost you?<br />
Working creates its own costs.<br />
How much do you spend on petrol,<br />
parking, bus or train fares? Take<br />
into account how much you spend<br />
on clothing, dry cleaning, lunches<br />
and more. Then there's the cost of<br />
picking up a takeaway for dinner or<br />
buying ready meals because you<br />
don't have time to cook.<br />
Count in childcare expenses. If you<br />
stay at home, you won't be paying<br />
for<br />
a nursery, childminder or nanny. (If<br />
Home Mum?<br />
you're expecting your first child and don't know the going<br />
rate for childcare in your area, do some research so you'll<br />
have a good idea of how much it costs.)<br />
Of course, you're still going to need to buy clothes, eat<br />
lunch, and pay for an occasional babysitter. You wwill<br />
notice these costs will be far lower if you become a stay-at<br />
-home parent.<br />
There may also be some less obvious financial benefits to<br />
giving up your job. You might be entitled to more benefits if<br />
your household income is lower.<br />
What else do I need to consider?<br />
Think about the long-term impact on your job prospects if<br />
you give up work to look after your children. If seek<br />
employment in a few years' time, you probably won't earn<br />
as much as you might have if you had remained<br />
employed.<br />
It could be the case that the longer you stay at home, the<br />
lower your future income will be. The skills needed for your<br />
job may also have changed over time. This could make it<br />
even harder to get back into work in a tough job market.<br />
What can I do if financially there is no easy answer?<br />
All this adding and subtracting should help you decide<br />
whether you can afford to become a stay-at-home mum. If<br />
your partner's income far exceeds all your family's<br />
expenses, or if it falls significantly short, then your decision<br />
will be an easy yes or no.<br />
If the numbers are close, you still<br />
have some thinking to do. With<br />
your new budget in hand, sit down<br />
with your partner and consider<br />
your options. Are there ways to cut<br />
back on your monthly costs? And<br />
are these sacrifices that you're<br />
both willing to make?<br />
If you have decided that you want<br />
to be a stay-at-home parent, start<br />
planning now. Talk to other<br />
parents and see how they<br />
manage. Create a budget and try<br />
to reduce your costs, but do so<br />
gradually. That way you’ll be more<br />
likely to stick to it.
Lisa Jones: “YES... in a heartbeat!! I love my<br />
time with my little girl.” From<br />
www.offwithherheadmillinery.co.uk<br />
Tanya Legon – “I am a registered childminder and I<br />
also own ‘Giggle-Wiggles Mobile Soft play Hire’ which<br />
is a new business. I don't think I could be a stay at<br />
home mum as I get bored very easily, I love my<br />
independence, my own money and the fact I am self<br />
sufficient. However being self employed and having to<br />
cut myself in to more than two sometimes is hard!”<br />
Miss D’Kania -“Let's twist this round - I cannot afford to go to work. The<br />
childcare costs are way too high and my last job's salary wasn't anything<br />
close to covering it all. This is why I am a stay at home mum and run my<br />
business from home.”<br />
Danielle Craig – “I would, so long as money<br />
was good enough that my new career didn't<br />
have to be raising children. I enjoy my children<br />
I work because I have to. While I realize<br />
being home with them would drive me a little<br />
crazy I think I could handle it. I like the domesticated<br />
life. I enjoy taking care of my<br />
home and children way more than working.”<br />
Eddie Bear – “I used to work but once child care was paid for<br />
I had no money to put into the house anyway. I now<br />
concentrate on my business Eddie Bear and catch up on the<br />
time I missed”<br />
Kerrie Grant – “Yep, I only dream<br />
of being a stay at home mum at the<br />
moment.”
Homework<br />
Tips<br />
Kids have to go to school all day and learn<br />
according to a schedule and then they come<br />
home and all they really want to do is relax and<br />
have fun. Homework is something that a lot of<br />
kids have problems with, after all it does infringe<br />
on their free playtime. It can also be hard for<br />
parents as they try and get them to settle down<br />
to doing it after a long day at school. There are<br />
a couple of things parents can do that may help:<br />
After school snack: Have a healthy snack your<br />
child can have when they are picked up from<br />
school, kids can be tired and hungry after<br />
school and something to eat can get the<br />
afternoon off to a good start. For example some<br />
fruit or crackers and cheese, peanut butter on<br />
whole grain bread (sunflower seed butter or<br />
hummus would be an alternative for those with<br />
allergies) . If they attend after school care and a<br />
snack is not provided then be sure to give you<br />
child an extra snack in their bag that they can<br />
eat. Sweets are not a good idea as due to the<br />
high sugar content it may give them energy for<br />
a while but it is used up quickly and they may<br />
then have a sugar slump which won’t help<br />
energy levels for homework.<br />
Quiet place: Pick a quiet place for homework<br />
away from the distraction of tv, computers or<br />
radio. For younger children it may be that they<br />
will need to sit at the kitchen table while a<br />
parent helps them and/or if a parent needs to<br />
make dinner but still needs to be available to<br />
help the child.<br />
Time: Many children find working for extended<br />
lengths of time difficult and they can get tired<br />
and distracted. Set your child a time to spend<br />
on a page of homework, maybe using a sand<br />
timer or kitchen clock. They can see the start<br />
and end time and<br />
this gives them<br />
something to work<br />
towards.<br />
Print some ‘Break<br />
Tickets’: A break<br />
ticket is exactly<br />
what it says, it is a<br />
ticket you can give<br />
your child that they<br />
can use at any time<br />
during the 15 mins<br />
(or whatever the<br />
time you decide is)<br />
to take a break from<br />
homework. They<br />
give you the ticket,<br />
take their 5 min<br />
break (again you<br />
decide the time) and
then start back at their<br />
homework after they are rested.<br />
You may find that this system<br />
helps the child get into a routine<br />
and they feel that they have<br />
some control over their<br />
homework. Try to avoid letting<br />
them watch tv or play computer<br />
games during the break as it<br />
may be hard to get them to start<br />
back to work. Hopefully after a<br />
couple of weeks, you may find<br />
they don’t need the break tickets<br />
anymore as they settle into<br />
routine.<br />
Friday treat: If your child has done well at<br />
completing their homework during the week,<br />
have a reward on Friday afternoon which may<br />
be some homemade muffins/buns, a comic they<br />
like or arranging to play with a school friend.<br />
Teacher. If you feel your child is spending a lot<br />
of time on homework and it is becoming<br />
stressful, speak to your child’s teacher to see if<br />
he/she can help you find a solution.<br />
Homework should not be stressful for children<br />
or parents. Meg
We are running the same competition again due to such a<br />
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Here’s another chance to win a 1 year free subscription<br />
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Various competitions run during the year.<br />
The question is....<br />
What colour are the people on the <strong>mummiez</strong> & daddies<br />
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A. Black & white<br />
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Anthropologist Margaret Mead once said that<br />
fathers were a biological necessity, but a social<br />
accident. One of our greatest theorists, Sigmund<br />
Freud, believed that mothers were biologically<br />
suited to be better parents than fathers. In fact,<br />
fathers were relegated to the role of provider and<br />
little else. Harry Harlow’s experiment with rhesus<br />
monkeys promoted the idea of the mother as the<br />
main care-giver. However, male rhesus monkeys<br />
have been shown to make good fathers in the<br />
absence of the female. Many animal studies<br />
support the view that males make good fathers.<br />
Marmoset and tamarin monkeys assume a<br />
fatherly role with their infants, chewing food for<br />
them and even assisting at the birth.<br />
The father’s relationship with his child often<br />
begins as he adjusts to the mother’s pregnancy.<br />
As the baby gets bigger, the father can feel the<br />
baby kicking and turning inside the mother’s<br />
abdomen. The experience of an ultrasound scan<br />
can also heighten feelings of attachment to the<br />
developing foetus.<br />
High interest during the pregnancy has important<br />
consequences for the father’s level of involvement<br />
after the baby’s birth. However, fathers that<br />
want to achieve their goals before the onset of<br />
parenthood may be less involved in the pregnancy<br />
and possibly less committed to parenthood.<br />
The release of certain hormones strengthens the<br />
father’s feelings towards his baby. Although<br />
oxytocin has been noted for its effect on bonding<br />
in the mother and the baby, vasopressin plays a<br />
much bigger role in the father. Vasopressin is<br />
released in response to close physical contact.<br />
During pregnancy, the father becomes more<br />
protective towards the expectant mother and
after the birth; the hormone helps to bond with<br />
his baby. Studies show that most fathers want<br />
to participate in their child’s upbringing from the<br />
start.<br />
Generally speaking, the more actively involved<br />
and interested the father is, the greater the<br />
intellectual development of his children.<br />
This is a notable improvement compared to the<br />
mid 1970s, when fathers devoted less than 15<br />
minutes per day to their children. However, the<br />
total amount of time is less important than the<br />
quality of interaction.<br />
Fathers encourage exploratory skills, which<br />
support the development of independence. They<br />
may also engage in rough-housing activities such<br />
as wrestling and chasing, which reinforce the<br />
notion of self-control. Fathers may also expand<br />
their child’s horizons by playing with toys in nontraditional<br />
ways. For example, he may take a<br />
toy and place it on his head or throw a cushion<br />
instead of sitting on it. Fathers that are good at<br />
playing with their children challenge them to find<br />
new ways of doing things. This has a huge<br />
impact on thinking, reasoning and problemsolving<br />
skills.<br />
Girls that grow up with a loving, involved father<br />
are more likely to have healthy, emotionally<br />
balanced relationships with males in later life.<br />
Boys who grow up with a loving, involved father<br />
are less likely to be violent because they have<br />
learned how to channel their masculinity and<br />
strength in positive ways.<br />
From an early age, babies can tell the difference<br />
between the way in which the mother and the<br />
father interact with them. Fathers may tickle,<br />
tease, bounce, wrestle and throw their children<br />
in the air more than mothers. They may also<br />
encourage competition and independence. By<br />
contrast, the mother’s approach may be gentle,<br />
quiet and sympathetic. The different styles of<br />
play teach the baby that men and women are<br />
different. This understanding is critical for their<br />
development.<br />
The father’s style of talking may be brief and<br />
directive, challenging the child to expand<br />
linguistic skills. The mother’s vocabulary may be<br />
more descriptive, softer and verbally<br />
encouraging.<br />
Children who experience both styles of parenting<br />
are at an advantage because they know how to<br />
communicate with others.<br />
Fathers are one of the most important resources<br />
in the welfare of children in general. It is<br />
essential for them to spend time with their<br />
children. Children grow up so quickly and missed<br />
opportunities are lost forever.<br />
To conclude: It is equally important to have a<br />
mother and father (positively) in a child’s life as<br />
they grow into adult hood, whether the parents<br />
are together or not. Both parents can equally<br />
offer the love, fun and support to meet the<br />
needs of their children.<br />
Gareth Forbes