Preparing for Death and Helping the Dying

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28 Sogyal Rinpoche says (p.213): All religions stress the power of forgiveness, and this power is never more necessary, nor more deeply felt, than when someone is dying. Through forgiving and being forgiven, we purify ourselves of the darkness of what we have done, and prepare ourselves more completely for the journey through death. HOW TO HELP SOMEONE WHO IS A BUDDHIST If the dying person is a Buddhist, ask questions to find out how much they know and understand, and their answers should give you a better idea about what to do to help them spiritually. For example, if the person has strong faith in Guan Yin (Tib: Chenrezig, Skt: Avalokitesvara), then you should encourage them to keep that faith in their mind and pray to Guan Yin as much as possible. Or if the person were a practitioner of mindfulness meditation, encourage them to do that practice as often as they can. In short, whatever teachings and practices they are familiar and comfortable with, remind them
of these and do whatever you can to provide them with confidence and inspiration to do these practices. If they have difficulty practicing on their own, due to pain or tiredness or a confused state of mind, do the practice with them. If possible, place images of Buddha, Guan Yin, Amitabha, and so forth within sight of the person. If he or she has any Spiritual Teachers, you can put their pictures as well. It’s also very beneficial to recite the names of Buddhas to the person, because the Buddhas have promised to help living beings avoid being reborn in states of suffering. Speak to the person, or read passages from books, about impermanence and other Buddhist teachings—but do this only if they are receptive, do not force it on them. Also, be cautious about teaching them something that would cause their mind to be confused or upset (for example, if the subject is too difficult for them to understand, or if it is new and unfamiliar). Remember that the most important thing is to help the person have a peaceful and positive state of mind before and during their death. It may be that the dying person does not know how to meditate or pray. In that case you can meditate or do other prayers or practices in their pres- 29
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Page 8 and 9: INTRODUCTION Death is a subject tha
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Page 50 and 51: 38 CONCLUSION I hope that the ideas
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Page 56 and 57: 44 NOTES 1. Gary Zukav, The Dancing
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Page 62 and 63: 50 RECOMMENDED READING BUDDHIST TEA
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