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Meant to Mentor<br />
My exPerIence MentorIng tHe<br />
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I am a woman. I am a lesbian. And I am proud.<br />
I embrace my sexual orientation like I embrace my lover.<br />
I admire my sexual orientation like I admire my inner strength.<br />
And I love my sexual orientation like I love my life.<br />
It was not always this way.<br />
by taylor spining<br />
Growing up in Orange County, I saw first-hand how a bigoted, discriminatory society works. If<br />
it is good at anything, it sure knows how to make one feel less than. As I walked down a busy<br />
street, fathers would pull their daughters closer to them as I walked past them in my tattered<br />
jeans and pierced lip on the sidewalk. Day after day, these caring, loving parents would<br />
protect their children from me, and from the contagious disease called homosexuality. High<br />
school wasn’t much different. As I walked through the hallways, my classmates who smiled at<br />
me when I walked by would turn to their friends after I had passed and make bets on whether<br />
or not I admitted I was a lesbian yet. It was hard not to notice the sideways glances when I<br />
complimented a girl on her hair or her new shoes. I must have been hitting on every single girl<br />
that I talked to.<br />
Experiencing instances like these on a daily basis really had a negative impact on the image<br />
that I had of myself. I internalized what other people thought of me and viewed myself as<br />
they did – a punk ass gay kid who was unworthy of happiness. And so I fled as soon as I<br />
graduated from high school. I fled far, far away and ended up in Northern California. Little<br />
did I know that I had done nothing to fix the problems. I had the same problems and the<br />
same unhappiness. The only difference was that this time I didn’t know anybody and my only<br />
support system was back home in Orange County.<br />
At around the same time, gay teen suicides started to appear in the news. Again. And again.<br />
And again. Day after day, I was confronted with the news that yet another gay youth had<br />
taken their life because of bullying. As they saw it, they had two options. They could remain a<br />
member of a society that does everything in its <strong>power</strong> to convince them that who they love or<br />
what they feel is wrong. Or, they could end the pain and suffering. Those teenagers chose the<br />
latter. As saddened as I was that these kids were in so much pain and saw no other way out, I<br />
was envious. I was envious because they no longer felt the pain. I felt the pain.<br />
I would sit in my dorm room in Northern California, alone, turn on Jeff Buckley’s version of<br />
“Hallelujah,” and drag my dull Swiss army knife across my skin, making lacerations that were<br />
intended to relieve my pain. Before I knew it, I had the word “FUCK” jaggedly carved into my<br />
stomach. That was exactly what I was feeling. I was fucked. Sometimes I would think about<br />
how I would probably end up on the news next. Breaking news. Yet another gay teenager took<br />
their life today. No word yet from the parents. A brief moment of silence would be allowed<br />
by the newscaster before she was on to the next piece of news. And just like that, the world<br />
would go on. The people watching would go back to their dinner. But I would be gone.<br />
By some miraculous miniscule amount of will<strong>power</strong> that I had left, I moved back home to face<br />
my problems and get the help that I needed. I took the time to confront what I was running<br />
away from. It was the most difficult thing that I have ever experienced, but from it came an<br />
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