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MEl<br />

Dear Chairman Peterson and Members of the House Judiciary<br />

Committee:<br />

I was born and raised in <strong>Montana</strong>, in a Protestant and military<br />

family. I’m a 4th generation <strong>Montana</strong>n. I’ve lived here nearly all<br />

of my life. I’m a member of the LGBTQ community, and this is<br />

my home.<br />

It’s <strong>to</strong>ugh <strong>to</strong> be queer in <strong>Montana</strong>. We face discrimination,<br />

mistreatment, and constant uncertainty. If we sit in a restaurant<br />

and discuss our relationships, or hold hands with our partners,<br />

we’re uncertain if we’ll draw hateful looks or comments from the<br />

people around us. If we come out <strong>to</strong> our boss, we’re uncertain<br />

if we’ll still have our job the next day. If we come out <strong>to</strong> our<br />

landlord, we risk losing our home. If we live our lives honestly,<br />

openly and shamelessly, we risk alienating ourselves from our<br />

friends and families.<br />

In 2005, I decided <strong>to</strong> leave <strong>Montana</strong> and move <strong>to</strong> Seattle,<br />

because I knew I’d find there a community more accepting of me,<br />

and where I could learn <strong>to</strong> be more accepting of myself. In 2007,<br />

I graduated with honors from the University of Washing<strong>to</strong>n with<br />

a Masters’ Degree, and spent several years in a successful career.<br />

In 2010, I realized that my love for <strong>Montana</strong> is greater than my<br />

fear, so I decided <strong>to</strong> come home. My fear of being “out” – of being<br />

<strong>who</strong> I am - may have kept me away from <strong>Montana</strong> for several<br />

years, but I returned because I know this is where I belong. I didn’t<br />

choose <strong>to</strong> be queer, but I am choosing <strong>to</strong> live in the one place that<br />

feels like home.<br />

Before I moved back last fall, Missoula passed its antidiscrimination<br />

ordinance. I am tremendously grateful for, and<br />

inspired by the efforts of everyone <strong>who</strong> helped bring a sense of<br />

safety and respect <strong>to</strong> the LGBTQ community in Missoula. <strong>The</strong><br />

ordinance was a very big part of why, when I decided <strong>to</strong> move<br />

home <strong>to</strong> <strong>Montana</strong>, I chose Missoula instead of my own home<strong>to</strong>wn<br />

of <strong>Helena</strong>.<br />

Because of the anti-discrimination ordinance, Missoula is a<br />

place in <strong>Montana</strong> where I can be myself, a little bit safer, a little bit<br />

freer. When I started my new job in December, I felt safe coming<br />

out <strong>to</strong> my boss and co-workers. I didn’t have <strong>to</strong> be afraid that I<br />

might lose my new job because I am queer, and I didn’t have <strong>to</strong><br />

hide <strong>who</strong> I am. And because the issue of LGBTQ equality has been<br />

discussed through such an open community process in Missoula,<br />

I have been able <strong>to</strong> have meaningful and informed conversations<br />

with my new co-workers, friends and neighbors about what it<br />

means <strong>to</strong> be “out” in <strong>Montana</strong>, and what it means for everyone <strong>to</strong><br />

be treated with simple, basic respect. Please don’t take this sense<br />

of respect away from me. I’m not asking for special treatment; I’m<br />

asking for basic human rights.<br />

During the five years I spent in Seattle, I talked endlessly<br />

about <strong>Montana</strong> – the natural beauty, the quality of life, and the<br />

amazing people. I talked about how <strong>Montana</strong>ns are GOOD are <strong>to</strong><br />

one another. How <strong>Montana</strong>ns RESPECT and VALUE one another.<br />

Please, don’t prove me wrong – please join me in supporting HB<br />

514, and opposing HB 516.<br />

JiM prEndErgASt<br />

<strong>The</strong> recent actions by the Republican controlled <strong>Montana</strong> State Legislature remind me of working on the<br />

"No On 6" Campaign back in 1978 in San Francisco. Back then we were fighting against a voter initiative<br />

that would have allowed any gay teacher <strong>to</strong> be fired by the State of California. At the start of the campaign<br />

it look almost certain that this initiative would pass, but with hard work and a campaign of informing the<br />

public of the initiative's implications and the bigotry behind it, it was defeated. Credit for this should go<br />

<strong>to</strong> Harvey Milk's tireless insistence that LGBT people should always and everywhere fight for our rights<br />

and dignity.<br />

I feel that the same applies <strong>to</strong> the atmosphere of hate and in<strong>to</strong>lerance which exists in <strong>Helena</strong> particularly<br />

prevalent with so called "Tea Party Republicans." And most importantly, it shows that NO MATTER<br />

HOW MANY YEARS HAVE PASSED since that campaign in California almost 33 years ago, the need is<br />

still urgent for LGBT people <strong>to</strong> keep fighting for our rights and <strong>to</strong> never sit back and think that we can be<br />

complacent in the face of this danger.<br />

So even though I am "pushing 60" and have slowed up (retirement will do that!), I still feel the need <strong>to</strong> be<br />

actively out and <strong>to</strong> contribute <strong>to</strong> our cause in any way that I am able <strong>to</strong> do so.<br />

Hate never sleeps and never should we!<br />

HEAtHEr grAnboiS<br />

I was lucky enough <strong>to</strong> get a chance <strong>to</strong> speak that morning.<br />

Growing up in Wolf Point MT, being homosexual was not an option. Forming an impenetrable barrier<br />

around my heart was the only way <strong>to</strong> protect it from the oppressive nature of the majority. I didn't even<br />

come out <strong>to</strong> myself until I was 21 and living in the much more <strong>to</strong>lerant city of Missoula, MT.<br />

Coming out opened the floodgates of my consciousness and I could finally take a breath as a free human<br />

being. I say human being because that is what we all are. We cannot be defined simply by race, creed or<br />

sexuality; only by character.<br />

If we would all choose <strong>to</strong> go beyond our own conceptual barriers, we would start <strong>to</strong> recognize the divine<br />

light that is humanity.<br />

That is what we should be holding up high, embracing with loving arms and an open mind. Not hateful<br />

words, actions or in<strong>to</strong>lerance.<br />

bErnAdEttE knEEfE<br />

Imagine you have a job, which is hard <strong>to</strong> come by these days.<br />

You also have <strong>to</strong> keep a secret. You are a part of the LGBTIQ community. You go <strong>to</strong> bed each night<br />

wondering if you will be “found out” & fired from your job. Each day at work, you wonder if “<strong>to</strong>day is<br />

the day.” Not because of anything you did wrong, it’s just because of your sexual orientation or gender<br />

expression. <strong>The</strong> stress is enormous.<br />

Experienced on a daily basis, this kind of stress leads <strong>to</strong> a number of mental health issues, including,<br />

anxiety, depression, panic attacks.<br />

<strong>The</strong>re can be internalized feelings of loneliness, abandonment, desperation, & even self hatred. Suicide<br />

rates in the LGBTIQ community are higher than in the general population. LGBTIQ Kids in school drop<br />

out because of bullying & are also at greater risk of suicide than there heterosexual peers.<br />

<strong>The</strong>se conditions do not have <strong>to</strong> play a role in anyone’s life. <strong>The</strong> passage of this ordinance will send a clear<br />

message that discrimination will not be <strong>to</strong>lerated any longer.<br />

Some will <strong>testify</strong> that homosexuality is an abomination. This is a religious belief not a secular issue. Some<br />

say that homosexuality is a choice. Clearly, if it were a choice, one would certainly not choose <strong>to</strong> be a<br />

target of hatred! Is heterosexuality a choice?<br />

Does a person change after you find out they are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender? Aren’t they the<br />

same person they were just seconds ago before you knew?<br />

Fear is a great deterrent for living ones life fully. That is all we are asking. <strong>The</strong> right <strong>to</strong> live life fully without<br />

fear; fear of loosing a job, being evicted from housing or just not being hired because of how we are<br />

perceived. <strong>To</strong> finally be part of “freedom & justice for ALL in the constitution.<br />

I urge you <strong>to</strong> pass the non-discrimination ordinance.<br />

Thank you for your time.<br />

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