Focus Jan/Feb 2014

Empathy and Understanding
Men want a woman to listen to them, not someone who is far too
engrossed in their own lives, or constantly moaning about their own
life to spare him some time. A man will be more attracted to a woman
that can empathize with him and show him the understanding that he
needs, than someone who moans and nags who offers little in the way
of support or appreciation.
Honesty and Loyalty
Everyone man or woman wants to be in the kind of relationship where
the emphasis is on honesty. No one likes the thought that they are being
lied to, and a man just like a woman, appreciates a loyal and honest
partner. He is looking for someone that will be faithful to him, not be
flirting with his friends the minute that his back is turned, and someone
that will remain by his side through the ups and downs of life.
Relaxed and Easy Going
Men do not like relationships that are hard work, women who are
more concerned about their appearance and what other people think
of them is not generally someone that he can have an enjoyable relationship
with. Men like the kind of woman who doesn’t mind if she
smudges her makeup, or her hair gets a little tousled. While personal
care and appearance is important to him, he needs to know that she
can relax and let her hair down and be laid back. This is especially
important if they are looking for a long term relationship, as when it
comes to commitment men are more attracted to the ‘girl next door’
personality than that of a glamour model.
Caring and Supportive
Men like to feel that they are being cared for, while they enjoy having
the status of man of the house or breadwinner, they like those little
tokens of affection, small gestures that show them that they are being
loved and cared for. Even something mundane as having his shirt
ironed for him, or finding his sandwiches made for him before he goes
to work can mean as much as a grand romantic gesture. They like to
know that their girl is paying attention to them and taking care of the
little things that mean a lot, a woman that does everything for a man
can leave him feeling suffocated and overwhelmed, but get the balance
right and you have a happy relationship. Men also like to know
that they are being supported in their choices, whether it’s a career
decision or a life decision they need to feel that you are by their side,
able to offer advice when required and listening to his thoughts and
reasoning objectively, and supporting him in his choices.
44 FOCUS of SWFL 2014
1. Humor
Virtually there is no man who
doesn't find it attractive to see
a woman with a good sense of
humor. After the physical appearance,
it is often one of the
first things men will notice and
appreciate. It is great to be a
professional woman, but men
need a little sense of humor to
spice things up. Learn to laugh
honestly and take things with
joy to make yourself more attractive
to men. Life is beautiful,
enjoy it, be happy and allow
yourself to reflect your pleasure
in public.
2. Intelligence
A clever woman is an attractive
woman, at least for most men,
as not all men are attracted
to "a pretty dumb doll". Many
women only speak about the
latest hairstyle or the latest
Glee episode, it could be a little
dull to many men. Many women
only prioritize on their sexual
appeal and pay little attention
to their brain. In contrast, many
men love to engage in intelligent
and challenging conversations
with women.
3. Flexibility
Maybe some man is attracted
to a woman who has enough
flexibility to do somersaults
in the air, but they are more
attracted a woman who has
flexible ideas, comments and
suggestions, without being too
stubborn and arrogant. Men
tend to have stable relationship
with a woman who can adapt to
the changing situations without
breaking their own principles.
4. Generosity
Many men rated generosity
and altruism as the characteristics
of an attractive woman. It
shouldn't be surprising, because
a generous and selfless woman
is clearly capable of looking beyond
the present moment and
see the needs of others.
5. Good self-esteem
Men attracted to women who
seem to be comfortable with
themselves. In general, men
prefer women who don't feel
like a garbage and behave as if
they are worthless and simply
lack confidence in themselves.
To find self-esteem, you should
trust yourself, you're a woman
and therefore you need to do
what it takes to be attractive to
a man.
6. Dynamic
Impulsiveness, energy, drive
and passion in a woman really
attract most men. Usually,
it is usually a good indicator
of positive self-esteem, as the
woman has the energy to deal
with new challenges. If you set
your eyes on something, fight
for it and struggle to achieve it,
this would not only make you
a more successful person but
also make you more attractive.
7. Unique
Many women with good physical
appearance look bland, they
just behave and talk the same.
Just be yourself, but add something
in your life that can convince
men that you're not just
an ordinary woman.
8. Spontaneous
Many men do things without a
plan or do things not according
to the plan. Occasionally allow
yourself a bit of creativity, relax
and release all, spontaneity
inside you and give him a good
surprise. Things that are done
spontaneously have an enormous
capacity to be really romantic,
so don't hesitate to let
yourself loose once in a while.
9. Motherly instinct
The motherly instinct is not
necessarily only for raising children,
there are qualities within
it that can make any woman
more attractive to men. Even a
young woman should be able to
care, comfort, cuddle, help and
support her lover. Men like to
be taken care of, for example, if
he catches a cold, let him lie on
the sofa, put a blanket over him,
give him light kisses and tell him
to rest while you are preparing
a hot, delicious soup. You'll be
highly appreciated.
10. Tenderness
Tenderness is a quality that is
almost indispensable to the
eyes of almost any man. This
doesn't mean you have to be
soft and tender all the time,
but at least you should know
when he needs a woman who
can support him. Tenderness
is a feminine quality that men
love just like how women like
sensitive men, you have heart
and feelings, use them to win
his heart.