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Alone and in pairs (and quads), San Diegans are getting it on.
Here’s how to make sex work with or without a partner—or with
other people’s partners.
O…My!
verstock.com’s “It’s all about the O” slogan misses the mark when it comes to tantra,
which thrives in San Diego thanks to more than 16 active teachers and a dozen or so
events each month. By gazing, breathing and sharing sacred space (not only that space,
boys), couples report heightened intimacy. In tantra, women are called “goddesses,”
and their special spot is referred to as a yoni—Sanskrit for shrine.
“A traditional orgasm is like a genital sneeze; it’s this biological release,” says San
Diego-based author and tantra teacher Kamala Devi, who’s been featured on The Tyra Banks Show. “When
one’s devoted to the tantric path, they begin to open new understanding to new orgasmic channels.”
However, tantra is not only about heightened sex, Devi says.
“A lot of times, relationships get wonky because couples are holding grudges and resentment from the
past,” she says. “Tantra really brings people into the present. There’s more to sex than what you see in porn
or in Hollywood movies, and more than what you learned in high school.”
According to Devi, San Diego is the Western World’s hotbed of new tantric connections and innovations.
Learn about the annual Tantra-Palooza Festival (to be held this year on 11/11/11) and reach an alternative
level of sex education at Devi’s school, Bliss Coach University—A Virtual School for Creativity + Tantra.
blisscoach.com
Sex without love is an empty
experience, but, as empty
experiences go, it’s one of the best.
—Woody Allen
The Buck Stops Here
ennifer Lopez was probably right when she
sang “Love Don’t Cost a Thing,” but pleasure,
as it turns out, costs exactly 99 cents. The
iVibrateMe app for iPhone is the brainchild
of a San Diego real estate investor who put his
time during the initial stages of the real
estate downturn to good use: 20,000 apps
sold and counting—thanks, in part, to a lively
mention on The Howard Stern Show.
When asked whether the app’s gung-ho features
will keep a girl warm at night, its creator says, “It
could. For something that’s 99 cents, what’s the worst
that can happen?”
Coincidentally, many a catastrophe has come to
pass with those very words.
Swing Low
he wholesomeness of prime time’s Wife Swap takes on a
deeper meaning at Thad’s, San Diego’s long-time swingers
club. “Thad” Elbert B. Poppell began serving San Diegans
sexual freedom in 1974, and the party is still going strong,
five days a week. Think 1960s free love, but with lingerie,
stilettos and cushy beds. Despite ample efforts to close the
place down, a ruling in the ‘80s sided with Poppell’s first amendment rights.
“Judges have ruled that [“Thad’s”] civil rights allow him the right to
assemble, even with nude people for the purpose of sex and the purpose of
having sex with multiple partners.” -The San Diego Union, April 16, 1988.
Thad’s does have rules, however, like this one: “NO MEANS NO: If you
ask someone to dance or to party and they say no, don’t ask again. Really. If
they change their mind, they will ask you. No touching or joining without
permission. Ignoring this rule will cause you to be removed from the house.”
thads.com
38 pacificsandiego.com { February 2011}