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Developing Literacy
introducing your baby to your toddler
The importance of play
An interview with Dale.
TIMARU PARENTS CENTRE
OCTOBER - NOVEMBER 2012

The Timaru Parents Centre Rooms are situated at
9 Napier Street, Timaru
our committee
President Kim Sugrue 688 0924
Vice President Jenny Bolitho 686 2998
Vice President Anne-Marie McRae 684 5191
Secretary
Vacant Position
Treasurer Jess Hampton 686 3178
Baby & You Course Donna Bartlett 686 9039
Babysitting Course Kay Kelliher 688 2757
Blooming Bodeze Cath Cooney 686 2282
Childbirth Education Convenor Kate Perry 683 1310
Family Fun Days Vanessa Smilie 686 6349
Focus Nights Emma Morton 686 0230
Fundraising Anne-Marie McRae 684 5191
Grants Jenny Bolitho 686 29938
Library Officer Hayley Rowe-Jones 686 0444
Membership Michelle Hinton 615 6227
Moving & Munching Beth Park 688 3266
Mrs Goodwill Brydon Smallbone 021 474 732
Music & Movement Chelsea McAuley 686 3653
New Arrivals Packs Melissa Patterson 684 6041
Newsletter Advertising Brydon Smallbone 021 474 732
Newsletter Distribution Cath Cooney 686 2282
Newsletter Distribution Sara Williams 027 710 8922
Newsletter Editor Kylie Kilmartin 689 8924
Parents Centre Phone Line Kate Perry 684 5348
Prem Baby Clothes Kits Rebecca Jackson 688 1250
Orientation Officer Kim Scott 684 5967
Great Committee Member Justine Carson-Iles 688 8370
Great Committee Member Sarah Hutton 688 9562
Childbirth Educator Julie Abraham 686 4964
Childbirth Educator
Trish Lapthorne
on the cover:
COVER MODEL:
COVER PHOTO:
Emily Hutton age 9 months
Kindly supplied by Committee Member,
Sarah Hutton

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in this issue
special features
Celebrating 60 years of Parent Centre .............9
I am a Toddler................................................22
How to develop literacy in the early years ......23
Learning through play ...................................30
An interview with Dale ...................................40
Adjusting your toddler to the new baby………..48
events & reports
Report: AGM trasurers report ........................10
Report: When, What & How Much .................10
Report: fundraising ........................................11
Term 4 family day out ....................................13
Jack & Jill fundraiser. ......................................21
our courses & classes
Term 4 Focus Night - Sleeping & Settling. ........12
Childbirth Education Classes ...........................26
Baby & You ....................................................34
Moving & Munching ......................................35
Music & Movement .......................................36
Blooming Bodeze ...........................................37
Mums & Bubs Exercise Class………………………….52
Our Regular Courses ......................................68
fundraising
Party Venue Hire............................................29
Recipe Book…………………………………………………..44
Timaru Tots Shop ...........................................46
Sale Table ......................................................73
regulars
Editorial .........................................................4
President’s Note ............................................5
Thank You......................................................6
Welcome to this World ................................. 7
Did you know … about Parents Centre? ......... 8
Volunteer of Month ...................................... 8
Ask the Committee........................................ 14
Recipes ......................................................... 15
Membership Benefits .................................... 16
Members Discounts around Town ................. 17
Committee Profile: Melissa Patterson ............ 18
Illness factfile: Ear Infections………………………….19
Events Calendar ............................................ 38
Birth Story: Being Late .................................. 54
Kids Fun Zone: Spring flowers ........................ 53
Colouring & Pre-schooler puzzles ………………...62
Newsletter Advertising Rates ......................... 71
Web Wanderings .......................................... 71
Parents Centre Notices .................................. 72
Community Services ...................................... 74
CBE Enrolment/Membership Form ................ 75
advertisers
Pacific Radiology Group Timaru……………………. 20
New World Babies Club…………………………………28
Sopheze Coffee Lounge & Catering ................ 33
Aoraki Polytechnic Childbirth Educators......... 42
Aoraki Polytechnic Nanny Course .................. 43
Kidstuff ......................................................... 47
Aoraki Plunket Toy Library…………………………….50
Down to Earth Fitness Training ...................... 51
South Cant. Free Kindergarten Assn. .............. 56
Barnadoes Home Based Care ......................... 57
South Cant. Breastfeeding Support………………..57
Personal Best Fitness Studio ………………………….58
Childsplay Homebased Education ………………….59
Momentoes ………………………………………………….60
Cool Air ......................................................... 66
Opinions and articles in this newsletter do not necessarily reflect Parents Centre NZ policy.
Advertising in this newsletter does not imply endorsement by Parents Centre NZ.

editorial
Hello Everyone,
This is my second editorial for
this month. I had written my first
one when I received the president’s
note. I realised that we
had written similar things about
the speed with which the year is going, and the
onset of Christmas. Deciding that I did not want
you to read the same thing twice I thought I
would start again.
On a personal level the last month for us has
been very hard. We were reminded of the importance
of family when My Father in Law
passed away suddenly at the start of September.
It was a huge shock to us all. Abruptly we found
ourselves in Auckland for a week. Despite the
circumstances though there were some silver
linings. We got to spend a lot of time with Adam’s
siblings, who had flown in from around the
world. It was quality time, unlike the often
fleeting visits that we squeeze in when we visit
Auckland normally.
For the first time Taelyn enjoyed running around
with her cousins. Taelyn has 4 cousins, and they
got along fabulously in those days where all of
our families camped out at Adam’s dads place.
She was the youngest by 2 years, but she certainly
managed to boss around everyone else. Despite
the circumstances, it was heartening to see
the bonds forming in the next generation. Sadly I
think it was the first time that all of Adam’s dads
grandchildren were in the same place at the
same time.
I think my takeaway from these circumstances
was twofold. It was about the importance of
making the life that you want to live happen. To
enjoy each day, because you really don’t know
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when it will be your last. Secondly it is about the
importance of keeping in touch. We were grateful
that we had talked to Adam’s dad the night
before he died. However prior to that we had
had moments of being slack. Sometimes it is
hard to remember or to make time to pick up the
phone, and touch base, to make the effort to
think of some element of your life that you can
share with them. I want now to remain much
more faithful about keeping in touch, and enjoying
all those relationships while they last.
Finally I think that the priorities that you make in
life always show through. My own Nana is 92
years old, her whole life has revolved around her
family, and fair enough! She has 9 children, 36
grandchildren and 20 great grandchildren. Despite
these numbers I can still phone her up, say
“hi Nana” and have her reply “Hi Kylie”. Last
week she was hospitalised. When one of her
daughters arrived the nurse said “does she really
have all these children and grandchildren, we
asked her to name them all and she did, but we
wondered if she was making them up!” My aunty
replied - no it really is true!
I hope you have all had a good couple of months,
and that you stay relaxed as the end of the year
approaches, with Christmas and time for family.
Enjoy.
This edition has some great articles, and some
new advertisers, have a read through and enjoy!
Kylie Kilmartin
Email: kyliebr@gmail.com

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president’s note
Hi Everyone
Are you in shock, like I am, that October is
upon us already! Madison (who is 6 and a
¼) decided to start her Christmas list last
night, so far it only contains 4 items….I am
just hoping I just remember where she put
the list, let alone remember to shop, as I
seem to be forgetting lots!
Now that Lewis is 4 months old I am remembering
all the things I had forgotten
about having a new baby;
I had forgotten how much time a baby
takes up in your day…… but that time just
flies by!
I had forgotten how hard it can be to get a
baby to go to sleep ….. but when they are
asleep you miss the snuggles you were
having with them while they were awake
I had forgotten how frustrating it can be
when you have just dressed the baby and
they spill all over their clean clothes before
you get the bib on ……. but then they smile
up at you with spill dribbling out of their
mouth and you just melt!
I had forgotten that a baby is most likely to
fill its nappy just as you go to leave the
house …… but the sense of relief is huge
when you check that it has all been contained
by the nappy and hasn’t spread to
the clothing
I had forgotten that not matter how much
sleep you are getting, you still seem to be
unable to remember what it was that you
had forgotten that you were meant to be
remembering …… but then you remember
that you had forgotten that you had already
done it but hadn’t remembered!
Some things I have managed to remember
are: Jack ‘n Jill Photos are being held on
Sunday 28 October. Please read page 21
for more information and booking details.
These photos make excellent Christmas
presents. Check out our next Focus Night
on Sleeping and Settling (see page 12 for
more information), this topic will be helpful
for all ages and stages of children in
your family but we can’t sort any issues
with snorers keeping you awake sorry!
I am sure that at some stage in the middle
of the night I will remember what else it
was I wanted to write, and hopefully I
won’t forget! And come the next edition
that Christmas list won’t be 3 or 4 pages
long…..
Kim, Jamie, Madison Alex, and Lewis

thank you
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Thank you to Larrisa Kitchen and Chelsea McAuley who attended Class 4 as Parents Centre Reps. PC
Reps can be anyone who wants to attend our CBE classes to support the CBE Educator and share
your parenting journey. Please phone Kate on 684 5348 if you would like to attend our CBE classes
as a PC Rep.
Many thanks for committee members who have been to Plunket Pepe talks recently, your time and
effort is fantastic.
Our focus night on Introducing Sexuality was great. Thank you to Emma for all her organizing, Jenny
Ryan for sharing all her information and knowledge and to everyone who came along. It certainly
gave me a lot to think about for our kids.
Thank you to everyone who supported our movie night in August. Magic Mike was an entertaining
movie and we really appreciate the Movie Max support, all of you who came along, the committee
who provided a fabulous supper and to Anne-Marie for all her hard work in preparing for the night.
Great work committee members on selling all the tickets for a sell-out night!
We had awesome raffle prizes, thank you very much to everyone who donated prizes.
Committee members had a training night back in August and we were very lucky to have Debbie Kell
and Sarah Cameron from Ashburton and Burnham, travel down here to help develop and extend our
knowledge about PCNZ and volunteering, thank you. Thank you, also, to all committee members for
taking time to have an extra night out.
Congratulations to Chelsea, Ivan and Quinn McAuley who welcomed Darcy into their family recently.
He is just lovely and I am sure he will be joining Lewis at a committee meeting soon!
Wanting to have a night out once a month – come join our committee! In order for Timaru Parents
Centre to keep growing and developing we are always looking for more enthusiastic people
to join us. You can do as little or as much as you want on our committee and we are supported
by Parents Centre New Zealand to help us in all of our roles.
in memoriam
Timaru Parents Centre was very sad to learn of the sudden death of Linda
Sandbrook-Scott. Linda worked for St John. Linda has taught many CPR
components of our Childbirth Education Classes over a number of years. She
was also very involved in teaching the first aid participation sections of our
babysitting course during the past twelve years. Our thoughts are with Linda’s
family.

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welcome to this world
Timaru Parents Centre is pleased to welcome the following gorgeous wee
babies born to the Mums and Dads who came along to our Childbirth
Education Classes. Congratulations to you all. We hope your little ones
bring you lots of joy, laughter and smiles!
July
Peter and Katie Williams Michael
Gareth Lewis and Jolene Brewster James Noel
Peter and Rachael Boyce Lauren
Andrew McMillan and Nicola Derbridge Eva Jean
Daryl and Jade Mattingley Claudia Jade Josephine
August
Clement and Hannah Lind Beatrix Bella-Jean
Daniel and Kaylene Nolan Mason Warren
Nigel and Kirsty Harkness Corban James
Andrew Carter and Jamie Ramsay Sophie June
Andrew Sullivan and Sophie Enersen Jack Andrew
September
Jason and Shannell Rae Layla
Please note that we try to ensure all little ones born to
parents who attend our childbirth education classes are
included in our Welcome to this World list. However if we
have accidentally missed your baby from the list please do
not hesitate to let our Editor know and we will be sure to
include your wee one’s details in our next newsletter.

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parents centre - did you know?
Did you know
Did you know that in 1990 the first training course for childbirth
educators in NZ was established, and in 1995 PCNZ entered a joint
venture with Aoraki Polytechnic for the CBE Diploma Course.
Did you know
Did you know that the newest Parents Centre is Whanganui and
it was established in 2011, bringing the total of Parents Centres
to 51 nationwide.
volunteer of month
August 2012
Volunteer of the Month:
September 2012
Volunteer of the Month:
Anne - Marie
For all her hard work an organization
for the Magic Mike night. It
was a fun night out, and very well
supported which was a testimony
to all of Anne-Marie’s time in
sorting out raffle prizes, supper,
and booking and liaising with the
movie theatre.
Everyone!
All of our fabulous committee
members who spend a lot of their
time keeping the Timaru Parents
Centre running smoothly!

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parents centre: information is power
In these days of the internet and shelves
and shelves of pregnancy and parenting
books available in every library and book
store, it seems strange to think that in the
past that basic information about reproduction
and pregnancy was not only hard to
come by, but banned from being published
or imported into New Zealand, unless for
medical purposes! In the 1940s and 1950s
this was indeed the case. There was not
much information available to explain to
women how their bodies worked or about
pregnancy or labour and it was not a polite
topic of conversation. As a result many
women (and men) did not understand what
to expect and were frightened about the
whole
process.
Parenting, too, was very hard for many
women. The age of average age of mothers
was a lot younger than today – in 1950, the
average age was just over 20, compared to
30 today, which meant that many women
had less life experience, confidence and
knowledge to draw on when looking after
their children. Changes in communities
meant women often did not have family
close by and communities had fewer facilities
and services than today (e.g., most
women couldn’t just drive down to a supermarket
as there wasn’t a supermarket and
they didn’t have a car or easy public
transport). Gender roles meant that men
were often less involved in parenting and
there were many expectations placed upon
these young women, often without the support
to enable the expectations to be fulfilled.
When Parents Centre began to offer antenatal
courses in 1952, this then was a real
new source of information for expectant
parents. Parents Centre libraries were a
vital source of information on health, pregnancy,
natural child birth, and children’s
development.
Parents Centre also helped parents to understand
that many of the ideas about what
babies could be expected to do (e.g., stick
to a rigid four hour feeding pattern from
birth, sleeping through the night and potty
training very early) were just myths and not
based on reality for most parents.
(Unfortunately they are the type of myths
to resurface again and again)!
Reference: Dobbie, M. (1990). The
trouble with women: The story of
Parents Centre New Zealand. NZ:
Cape Catley Ltd.

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report: agm treasurer’s report
Treasurer’s Report – Year ended 31 March
2012
making a small profit (Music and Movement
made $703 in this financial year).
We had an excellent financial year, with a surplus
of $1,300 being made. This was mainly due
to securing several grants and some excellent
fundraising activities during the year (special
thanks to Keely Kroening, who held the Grants
Officer role, and Anne-Marie McRae, the Fundraising
Co-ordinator).
We received $9,318 in grants during the year,
including just over $2,500 for our new heatpump.
This was approximately $2,000 more than
the prior year. Our fundraising for the year was
over double that of 2011, with $5,654 being
raised in various activities.
Course income and costs were less than previous
years, due to the Bodeze Back course being cancelled.
This has saved a significant amount of
money, as due to the lack of attendees the costs
were not covered, even with a significant grant
being received for Instructor Fees. The majority
of our courses are nearly breaking even or are
Membership related costs, such as newsletter,
Kiwiparent and head-office fees are slightly higher
than in 2011, due to higher membership numbers.
The fees are slightly less than last year, but
this is likely to be due to the timing of membership
renewals.
Conference costs were similar to last year at
$2,557; this is one of our largest expenses, but it
is an invaluable experience for the attendees.
Our cash position remains strong, with a balance
of $9,161 at 31 March 2012 ($9,171 at 31 March
2011). We have also increased our asset base,
with a new heat pump and a new Timaru Parents
Centre flag.
Overall, our financial position remains strong and
provides us with a good basis to promote further
courses and activities in the upcoming year.
Jess Hampton
Treasurer
report: focus night
When, What and How Much Talking to your kids
about Sexuality
From the feedback that I've received from others
who attended, and in my personal opinion,
Jenny Ryan provided us with a hugely worthwhile
evening.
In an open, honest and relaxed manner Jenny
talked us through some fantastic strategies for
tackling those tricky topics. On the whole we
were discussing children from babies to 8 years
old.
A few points that might be helpful,
-Take off your grown up glasses! Children are
naturally curious and need honest simple answers
to their questions. Be sure you're not
putting an adult spin on the question.
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all body parts.This helps to avoid confusion.
-Check that you're answering what the child is
asking. Where did I come from? Might simply
mean which country. After you've answered ask
your child if you've answered their question.
-Avoid having 'The Talk!' Instead answer questions
as they come up. If your child never asks
create opportunities to talk.
your children talk to each other to ensure you're
not giving conflicting information.
Thank you very much Jenny. I would definitely
recommend this evening to all parents.
Emma Morton
Focus Night Co-Ordinator
The evening was a lot of fun especially as we
discussed how we learnt about sex and sexuality.
Jenny stressed that it's very important that both
parents are on the same page. Before you talk to
report: fundraising
Girls Night Out Movie Fundraiser
On Monday 6 August 88 females flocked
into Movie Max to watch some strip
tease action which was all for a good
cause!! The movie exceeded my expectations
despite the average acting and
the odd cringe moment!! Everyone was
offered a something to drink and some
delicious home-baking for supper.
Thank you to the 88 ladies who supported
this event. A special thanks to the
Parents Centre committee for selling
tickets, contributing to the raffles and
supper and helping on the night.
Thank you to the businesses who donated
raffle prizes – Deborah Harris: Tupperware,
Camerons, Sopheze and Impressions
Hair Studio.
We made a handsome profit of $1,143
including $220 from raffle ticket sales.
Anne-Marie
Fundraiser co-ordinator
Deborah Harris who donated the Tuppaware
has offered the parents centre
$20 from every party she hosts till the
end of October where you mention that
you heard of her through the Magic
Mike night. So give her a call to organise
your tuppaware party!
Phone: 03 686 1362 or 027 349 1497

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term 4 focus night: sleeping and settling

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term 4 family fun day
Save the Date!!
16 December 2012
said so well!
Parents Centre Christmas Party
Check out our Website, and Facebook
page for more details closer to the date.
My kids are amazing……..then I remember I am their mother - of course they are!
Author unknown
My father used to play with my brother and me in the yard. Mother would come out and
say, "You're tearing up the grass." "We're not raising grass," Dad would reply. "We're raising
boys."
Harmon Killebrew
When my kids become wild and unruly, I use a nice, safe playpen. When
they're finished, I climb out.
~Erma Bombeck

ask the committee
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I like to think that we are getting closer to summer, where traditionally Kiwi’s
pack up their suitcases and go travelling. I asked our committee members what
their tips were whether in a car or plane:
Travel as around your child's regular sleep time
Take frequent breaks, plan these breaks around parks or things to give your child a break. Of course—if your child is still sleeping
then keep driving!
On a plane breastfeed on take off and landing; (although landing can last a long time!) Take solids if required,
and when you need something ask for help.
for the husbands - be prepared to stop more than once even if this means all those vehicles
will get back ahead of you again!
Take something they enjoy, a toy, book, music CD's for the car I think we know all the Wiggles
songs off by heart
A portable dvd player works wonders for toddlers!
For flying we've found sticker books and food works most effectively
Make sure you have a good supply of snacks on hand kept in the front of the car with you. Also
take a few fav books. Our wee girl loved looking at her books when she wasn't asleep that is!
When rearfacing, a mirror on the backseat is a lifesaver, so you can see them and
they have a form of entertainment.
If you have a stopover on the way, I recommend taking a small fold up travel
buggy with you and handing it in at the gate, rather than at check in. That way
it becomes part of your carry on luggage and is available to you to use during
your stopover. It makes that stopover time so much easier if you don't have to
carry your child around the passenger lounge for the few hours you are waiting.
You don't need to track down a highchair at the cafes, and if you walk
around enough you can often convince your little one to have a sleep in there
too which is always a bonus!
next issue
The best toy you bought or received for your child

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recipes: spring delights
Kumera and Bacon Savory Slice
This is a really tasty slice and is easy to
make. It’ll go down a treat if you’re having
a few people over for lunch or it would be
great for dinner in summer with a simple
salad. I used golden kumara in mine, but I
think after trying it that your typical red
variety would taste better. Serves 6 – 8
400g (2 medium) kumara (sweet potatoes)
peeled and cut into chunks (I used orange
kumara, but I reckon your typical red variety
would taste better)
4 rashers rindless bacon, chopped coarsely
6 large eggs
½ cup milk
1 cup grated cheddar cheese
¼ cup fresh chopped parsley
Salt and freshly ground black pepper
3 small tomatoes, sliced
Preheat oven to 200°C. Line a 17cm x 27cm slice
tin with baking paper, leaving an overhang on all
sides.
Cook the kumara in boiling salted water for 5
minutes or until just tender. Drain and set
aside. At the same time, cook the bacon in a
frying pan for about 5 minutes to brown. Remove
to cool.
Place the eggs and milk in a bowl and whisk to
combine. Stir in the kumara, bacon, cheese and
parsley. Season well with the salt and pepper.
Pour the mixture into the prepared tin. Arrange
the sliced tomatoes
over the top. Bake
for 35 minutes or
until set. Cut into
squares and serve
warm or cold.
Recipie from http://
www.bakingmakesthingsbetter.com/2012/04/
lunchbox-bakes-kumara-and-bacon-savoury.html
Spring Rolls
350g pork mince
1 tbsp soy sauce
2 tsp sesame oil
2 cloves garlic, crushed
1 tsp finely grated ginger
1 carrot, grated
1 cup loosely filled mung bean sprouts, roughly
chopped
2 spring onions, finely sliced
40g vermicelli, soaked in boiling water for 2
minutes
1/4 cup coriander leaves
Spring roll wrappers
oil for deep frying
1. Mix pork mince, soy sauce, sesame oil, garlic
and ginger. Fry over a high heat until meat is
golden and cooked through.
2. Allow meat to cool and then mix through carrot,
sprouts, spring onion, vermicelli and coriander
leaves.
3. Place mixture along the edge of each spring
roll wrapper. Fold in the edges and roll into a
cigar.
4. Heat 4 to 5cm of oil and fry spring rolls in
batches. Drain on paper towels and serve with
sweet chilli dipping sauce.
Recipie from http://
www.nzwomansweekly.co.nz/food/recipes/
spring-rolls/

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committee profile: Melissa
Hi, I’m
Melissa. I
joined the
Parents
Centre
Committee
at the beginning
of
this year
with the intention of getting out of the
house more, and meeting more people. I
took on the role of putting together the
New Arrival’s Pack’s shortly after.
I grew up in a small town in the Bay of Plenty,
called Te Puke. My twin sister and I
attended the Kindy, both primary schools,
Intermediate and High School there, before
moving to Timaru with my family in 2001 to
complete my schooling at Mountainview
High School half way through Year 12. After
finishing High School I followed my twin
sister off to Otago University where I studied
Primary teaching, which didn’t work out
after a year and a half so finished off the
second year with a short 6 month Certificate
in Business Admin. I then moved home to
live with mum, and work at McDonald’s
until I found a better job while studying Veterinary
Nursing by distance. It didn’t take
long to get a job with more regular hours
across the road at Pak’n Save in the chiller
and freezer department. I was the first
female to ever work in the department and
met my now husband, Edward working
there. He had been working there for
around 8 years in and around various
teaching jobs. Just under a year later I got
offered a job out at Temuka Vets. In January
2008, only 6 months after getting engaged,
Edward and I got married. It was a lovely
day, surrounded by friends and family.
Only a few days after we returned from our
honeymoon we made the move to Westport,
where Edward had gotten a teaching
position in a local primary school, in an
attempt to get more experience. It was a
real experience living on the West Coast,
but we only lasted 6
months before returning
home and
Edward getting
offered a better job
than the one he left
back at Timaru Boys’
High School. I went
back to Pak’n Save
temporarily until I
got a better
job….this time only
for 6 weeks, I got a job with NZ Post at the
Strathallan Street Post Shop, where I
worked until Christmas Eve 2010 when I was
37 weeks pregnant with our first son William.
William was born late January 2011, just
before school
started back for
the year for Edward.
It made
those summer
holidays very long,
waiting for William’s
arrival, not
knowing how far from home we could travel.
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work after having William. We’re very fortunate
that I can be a stay at home mum.
We decided that having two children close
together would be nice… but we got a
surprise when we found out I was pregnant
again when William was only 6
months old. Jack was born in May 2012.
We wouldn’t have it any other way now
though. Jack is 3 months old, and William
is walking around everywhere (finally!)
and 19 months old.
illness factfile: ear infections
Ear infections can occur at any age. Your child may have an ear infection if they keep crying,
are grizzly, keep rubbing or pulling their ears or get a runny ear or a fever. If they are not
hearing well, they may have glue ear.
They will need to see the doctor if they have any of these symptoms.
If the doctor prescribes antibiotics your child needs to finish all the medicine to make sure
the infection is completely clear. Antibiotics are not always needed.
To help prevent ear infections keep your baby in smoke-free areas, breastfeed and feed
your baby in an upright position. Teach older children how to blow their nose.
Printed with permission from http://www.plunket.org.nz/your-child/illness/health-conditions/
ear-infections/

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I am a toddler
If it's on, I must turn it off.
f it's off, I must turn it on.
If it's folded, I must unfold it.
If it's high, it must be reached.
If it's shelved, it must be unshelved.
If it has leaves, they must be picked.
If it's plugged, it must be unplugged.
If it's not trash, it must be thrown away.
If it's in the trash, it must be removed, inspected, and thrown on the floor.
If it's closed, it must be opened.
If it doesn't open, it must be screamed at.
If it's a pencil, it must write on the refrigerator, computer monitor, or table.
If it's full, it will be more interesting emptied.
If it's a pushchair, it must under no circumstances be ridden in without protest. It must be pushed by
me instead.
If it has a flat surface, it must be banged upon.
If mummy's hands are full, I must be carried.
If mommy is in a hurry and wants to carry me, I must walk alone.
If it's paper, it must be torn.
If it has buttons, they must be pressed.
If the volume is low, it must go high.
If it's toilet paper, it must be unrolled on the floor.
If it's YOUR toothbrush, it must be inserted into MY mouth.
If it's MY toothbrush, it must be inserted into YOUR mouth.
If it has a tap, it must be turned on at full force.
If it's a phone, I must talk into it.
If it's dry, it must be made wet with drool, milk, or toilet water.
If it has a tail, I must yank it.
If Mummy wants me to come, I must run away.
If Mummy wants me to go away, I must CLING ON FOR DEAR LIFE! AQWJF
If it's stacked up, it must be knocked down.
If it's sticky, it must go in my hair.
If it's bath time, I must run around naked till I am caught!
If it is a doll, it must not wear clothes.
If it is Mummy or Daddy, it must be hugged.
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How to develop literacy skills in the early years
“The foundations of learning to read are
set down from the moment a child first
hears the sound of people talking, the
tunes of songs and the rhythms and repetitions
of rhymes and stories” Mem Fox.
I am often asked when should I start reading
to my baby, my answer is always the
same - Start Now !!. The most valuable
thing you can do is read aloud to your
child. To quote Mem Fox again “Children
need to hear over 1000 stories read aloud
before they begin to read.”
Shared reading aloud is the most vital
component in developing reading skills.
Even when your child begins to read for
themselves, don’t stop reading aloud to
them.
However, Literacy Skills are not gained by
reading alone. Literacy is divided into 3
areas. The foundation of Literacy is Speaking
and Listening, followed by Reading and
then Early Writing. If you don’t have the
skills of being able to speak and listen you
will have difficulty reading and writing
later in life.
To support children in developing speaking
and listening skills we, as their first teachers
and role models must speak clearly
and confidently with them. This is
achieved by speaking constantly to your
baby. While you are with your baby, describe
what you are doing, talking about
the environment, how things feel, look,
smell. You may feel a little silly at first but
your baby is absorbing all the wonderful
new vocabulary and sounds. Don’t be
afraid to use a wide vocabulary and try
and speak in full sentences. Maintain eye
contact as much as possible so your child
can see the shaping of the words.
When you are dressing baby, talk about
and label their body parts, sing songs to
them Head Shoulders Knees and Toes for
example, you don’t have to have the best
singing voice as your baby loves your
voice. Your child’s vocabulary is directly
related to how much you talk to him/her.
If you are lucky enough to have a second
language in your home, use it and use it
now. I read recently, that children who
have gained 50 words in a second language
by the time they are 6 and then
have formal lessons in that language will
be fluent very quickly. A young child’s
brain is highly receptive to a second language
within the first 5 years.
For older children you can use oral storytelling,
this encourages listening skills and
the use of imagination. Try telling a “Once
upon a time…” story at
night before bed.
Use experiences of
when you were
young, children
love hearing about
the mischief their
parents got up to.
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are fantastic, particularly
for long car rides. The
reader often uses different
character voices and
intonation, there are sound effects and the
expression in the reading which can really
engage the listener. Good examples of these
are Giraffes Can’t Dance written by Giles
Andreae and read by Hugh Laurie, Beware
of Story Book Wolves written by
Lauren Child and read by Hugh Laurie.
Language development includes the ability
to understand what is said and speaking
to others. This in turn leads to an
understanding of written language and being
able to read and write.
Early Writing occurs from between 12-18
months. Young children will “scribble”, first
striking in vertical lines and then move onto
circular motions. For this to happen young
children need access to chalk and crayons –
big thick chunky chalk and crayons as they
don’t have the fine motor skills to control
the thin size. From 12-15 months onwards
give your child the opportunity to explore
these.
The first word your child will write is their
own name, so it is important you have this
displayed for them in correct letter formation.
Eg Samuel not SAMUEL They will begin
to recognise their own name and when
ready anywhere from 3-5 years of age
will have a go at writing it.
“Teach your child to love reading, children
should go to school with an understanding of
how print works, as well as a love of books
and the knowledge and entertainment they
provide.” Mem Fox
I suggest that parents make times in the day
for books – not only at bedtime. Your children
are often most receptive first thing in
the morning, so if you can make the time
first thing to snuggle in bed and read a book
or two this is fabulous. Your child’s brain is
awake, very receptive and ready to
absorb.
Try and use lots of expression
when you are reading, if you are
excited about what you are reading
your child is likely to get excited
also. Give characters voices,
use sound effects and discuss the illustrations.
Also, pausing during reading has been
proven to be a great motivator of verbalising
ideas i.e. the parent pauses after each sentence
or idea, which gives a child time to
think and articulate what he/she is thinking
about.
Have books accessible in many areas of your
home, not only in your child’s bedroom. Ask
relatives and friends to gift books for Christmas
and birthdays. Take your child to the
library and borrow books for both of you.
“Children who come from homes surrounded
in books are more likely to succeed than
those who don’t” Mem Fox.
Aim for 3 books a day as
Mem Fox suggests in her
book titled Reading Magic –
How your child can learn to
read before school and other
read aloud miracles.
As your child gets older she suggests 1 favourite
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Which leads us to the importance of repetition.
Repetition of a book helps a child to
predict and memorise which are important
reading skills. As a parent you may quickly
tire of one particular book but your child will
not, it is important to persevere and continue
reading and re reading and re reading
that favourite book.
Repetition of text within
a book can be a feature
of a quality book. Great
examples of this are
Brown Bear Brown Bear
by Eric Carle and Where
is the Green Sheep? by Mem Fox.
For infants and toddlers, books that are interactive,
tactile and have an element of
‘doing’ are fabulous. These books engage
the young reader as they lift the flap and feel
the fluffy duck. Good examples of these are
the DK Peekaboo Series, Rainbow Colours,
Farm, Eyes Nose Toes, Playtime.
Rhythm and rhyme are key elements in language
development and support children to
remember and predict when reading. These
books are often fun to read and as an adult,
if you enjoy reading to your child, hopefully
they will enjoy being read to. Any title by
Julia Donaldson or Giles Andreae usually
have elements of rhythm and rhyme.
For the young child the use of non everyday
language captures and holds the interest of
the “often too busy for books”. Words that
are fun to say, sometimes nonsense, and
have different combinations of sounds.
Good examples of
this are dazzleberry,
razzleberry,
snazzleberry fizz
in Rattletrap Car
by Phyllis
Root and
snortlepig,
lumpybums
and moopaloops
in
Uno’s Garden
by Graeme
Base.
Finally if you
have anytime left in your fun filled day, personalised
books are an excellent way to engage
a young reader. Take photographs of
your child with family, on holiday, playing,
where ever. Write a story underneath, laminate
and bind and you have your very own
book. Starring the number one most important
person, your child, these will be a
keepsake and loved for years.
I hope this article has given you inspiration to
talk, read, draw and enjoy your child/ren. If
you would like more ideas and inspiration I
present these ideas together with information
about early numeracy development
in a parent friendly seminar. I also have a
range of high quality resources available,
including all those mentioned above which I
demonstrate during the presentation. The
presentation is ideal for Coffee groups or any
parent group interested in supporting their
child’s development.
Please don’t hesitate to contact me.
Wendy Perera
Early Childhood Specialist
Teeny Tiny Consulting
PO Box 102187
North Shore Mail Centre 0745
m : 021 741309
p: 09 4434668

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childbirth class: Parent Centre reps req’d
Are you pregnant again?
Perhaps you are a mother or grandmother
with lots of mothering experience?
then we need you!
We are looking for mums to join our childbirth education classes as Parent Centre
reps. You will be helping our trained Childbirth Educators with the running of the
class, setting out the supper and the tidy up. It is a great way to give something
back to your community while meeting new parents-to-be and refreshing your
knowledge of the childbirth process.
“It was a very positive experience. It is amazing how much more
information you pick up and understand better the second time
around with the hindsight of experience!” Jenny
If you think you might be interested contact our Childbirth Education Co-Ordinator
Kate Perry on 683 1310. (You do not need to be a member to be a rep!)

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Learning through play
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Play is fun for children. Play is the
way children learn.
Through play, children learn about themselves,
their environment, people and the
world around them. As they play, children
learn to solve problems and to get along
with others. They enhance their creativity
and develop leadership skills and healthy
personalities. Play develops skills children
need to learn to read and write. Play in
early childhood is the best foundation for
success in school.
As a child learns to reach,
grasp, crawl, run, climb
and balance, physical skills
are developed. Dexterity
develops when the child handles toys or
other objects.
Language increases as a child plays and
interacts with others. A baby's cooing
games with parents evolve into the language
skills of a child sharing stories. Learning
to cooperate, negotiate, take turns and
play by the rules are important interpersonal
lifetime skills, all of which play fosters.
Positive play experiences develop positive
emotional well-being. Through play and
imagination, a child can fulfill wishes and
overcome fears of unpleasant experiences.
Play helps the child master the environment.
When children feel secure, safe,
successful and capable, they acquire important
components of positive emotional
health. Sharing play experiences also can
create strong bonds between parent and
child.
Parents are their child's first playmates.
Here are some guidelines for playing with
your child:
Interact - the richest play takes place when
the adult takes an active role and plays along side
the child, rather than just providing toys or supervision.
Observe - watch your child closely to determine
skill level and favorite activities.
Follow - join in at the child's level. Let your
child be in control and determine the direction of
play.
Be creative - Rediscover
the child within
yourself. Set aside restricting
adult norms.
Use toys creatively.
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should be fun for everyone -- not frustrating. Do
not use the time to test or stretch the child's
skills beyond capabilities.
Children are thinkers. Parents or caregivers
can pose age-appropriate problems and challenges
to children to help them think of as many
different solutions as possible. It is important to
know your child so well that you can match problems
to the child's abilities and interests.
Age and ability level. Play activities should
fit the child. They should be a bit difficult, but not
so difficult as to overwhelm or frustrate the child.
Not all children, even at the same age, think at
the same level and not all children have the same
interests.
Toys are the props of play. Parents
should consider the following
questions when choosing toys for
their children.
Does this toy respond and adapt to the interests
and needs of my child?
Does it invite my child to explore and to
become involved with it?
Does it respond to my child's natural curiosity
and whimsical nature?
Is it unstructured, allowing my child to decide
how best it should be used? There should be
no right or wrong way to play with a toy.
Toys should challenge a child's interests
and abilities. They should match skill and
maturity levels. With the right toy, a child
will be neither
bored
nor unduly
frustrated.
Both solitary
and
social play
is necessary
for a child's development. A child can play
with a building toy alone and in the process,
develop independence, selfsufficiency
and persistence. Playing with
play.
the same toy with others, the child
acquires social skills such as sharing,
empathy and cooperation. Quality
materials, fine workmanship and simplicity
of design will assure that a toy
will withstand the rigors of children's
Safety is the most important consideration
when selecting toys. Use the following
guidelines:
Use recommended age labeling as a guide
and look for warnings and other safety messages
on toy packaging.
Consider the home environment and the
ages of other, particularly younger
children in the home. A toy intended
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hands of a younger child.
Be especially careful
when selecting toys for
children younger than
three. Avoid toys with
small parts that could be
swallowed or inhaled
including small balls and un-inflated balloons and
those with sharp points or rough edges.
Make sure that soft rattles, squeakers and
teething toys, even in their most compressed
state, are too large to fit completely in an infant's
Protecting children from unsafe toys is everyone's
responsibility. Careful toy selection
and proper supervision of children at play is
the best way to protect
youngsters from toy-related
injuries. Toys must be used,
maintained and stored correctly
to ensure that the safety built in at
the factory continues in the home.
To obtain detailed information about toy selection
and safety, check the web site
at www.CPSC.gov Toy Safety Publications.
mouth.
No matter how old a child is, if he or she is
still mouthing objects, toys or pieces of toys
should not be large enough to be swallowed or
become lodged in the mouth or throat.
Check for sturdy, well-sewn seams on stuffed
animals and cloth dolls. Be certain that any decoration
is fastened securely and cannot be pulled
or bitten off.
Look for the words
"machine or surface washable"
on stuffed and cloth toys.
"UL Approved" (Underwriters
Laboratories) should be on electrical toys.
Purchase a toy storage chest that has a removable
lid or a spring-loaded support allowing
the lid to remain securely open. Check for smooth
finished edges, proper air holes and hinge line
clearance, the latter to prevent pinched fingers.
By Jane K. Frobose
Colorado State University Extension
Family and Consumer Education
Denver County, February 2008
Reprinted from http://
www.ext.colostate.edu/PUBS/columncc/
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aby & you course
The course covers:
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Baby & You is a five session support
programme for parents of new
babies 0 - 4 months old.
Changes: Pre-birth expectations & postnatal realities, physical,
emotional and relationship changes, coping with changes &
self care strategies.
Feeding: Mothers diet & health care needs, successful infant feeding
practices, emotional issues surrounding infant feeding,
handling other peoples advice, strategies for solving
feeding problems.
Touch: Discover the benefits of infant massage, how infants
respond to massage, practical infant massage techniques,
establishing a time & place for massage.
Sleeping & Crying: Sleeping & crying behaviours in infants,
strategies for solving problems, meeting the physical,
mental & emotional needs of baby, recommended sleeping
positions, coping on less sleep.
Learning for Life: Identifying key development milestones in baby, age
appropriate toys, games & activities, stimulating baby’s
development at this age group.
2012 Next Course Dates: 1 - 29 November
Cost (cost for non-members includes 1 year
membership to Timaru Parents Centre):
$10 Members,
$70 Non-members
$40 Non-member Community Card Holders
For more information or to enrol
please contact Donna Bartlett on 686 9039

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moving & munching course
Moving & Munching is an informative two
session course for parents of babies
4 - 10 months old.
The course covers:
Safety in the home with babies on the move
Development of fine and gross motor skills
How babies learn through play and age appropriate toys
The development and stimulation of language and intellect
Introducing solids and good nutrition
Ages and stages for solids feeding
The course includes a FREE copy of Alison & Simon Holst’s
“Baby Food & Beyond” Cookbook
2012 Course Two Dates: 18 & 25 Oct
Cost (includes free cookbook):
$20 Members
$30 Non-members
For more information or to enrol
please contact Beth on 688 3266

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Chelsea McAuley—686 3653

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october 2012 (Pull out calendar and put on your fridge)
MON TUES WED THURS FRI SAT SUN
1 2 3 4 5 6 7
8
9
10 11
12 13 14
Babysitting
course
CBE class
7:00pm
Blooming
Bodeze
6:00pm
15
16
17 18
19 20 21
Term 4
Begins
CBE class
7:00pm
Blooming
Bodeze
6:00pm
22
23
24 25
26 27 28
Labour Day
CBE class
7:00pm
Moving &
Munching S1
10.00 am
Blooming
Bodeze
6:00pm
29
30
31
Music &
Movement
9:15am
CBE class
7:00pm
Halloween

november 2012 (Pull out calendar and put on your fridge)
MON TUES WED THURS FRI SAT SUN
1
2 3 4
Blooming
Bodeze
6:00pm
5
6
7 8
9
10 11
CBE class
Baby & You
Music &
Music &
Movement
9:15am
7:00pm
Session 1
Blooming
Bodeze
6:00pm
Movement
9:15am &
10:15am
12
13
14 15
16
17 18
Music &
CBE class
Baby & You
Music &
Movement
9:15am
7:00pm
Session 2
Blooming
Bodeze
6:00pm
Movement
9:15am &
10:15am
19
20
21 22
23
24 25
Music &
CBE class
Baby & You
Music &
Movement
9:15am
Cmtee Mtg
7:00pm
Session 3
Blooming
Bodeze
6:00pm
Movement
9:15am &
10:15am
7:30pm
26
27
28 29
30
Music &
Movement
9:15am
CBE class
7:00pm
Baby & You
Session 4
Blooming
Bodeze 6:00pm
Focus Night
Sleeping &

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music and movement:
an interview with Dale
As most of you will know we offer Music and
Movement for 0-2 year olds and 0-5 year olds
each week (except during school holidays). Since
the beginning of the year we have been very
fortunate to have Dale McKay taking these classes.
We wanted to find out a bit more about
Dale so we asked her to answer a few questions
...
Tell me about you - what is your background and
how did you get involved in music?
I have a Bachelor of
Music degree from
Canterbury University,
majoring in early
childhood music
education. I loved
learning about how
babies and children
learn and discover
through music and all the benefits of having a
music-rich environment...language skills, social
connections, emotional well-being, gross motor
skills through movement etc.
When my son was a busy toddler we attended
music and movement classes and it was a highlight
of the week. For me, I got to talk to big people
and get out of the house and we had fun together
with a bunch of parents who understood
that there are good days and then there are others.
What do you enjoy most about teaching music to
children?
I love it when the children break out in spontaneous
singing or go out the door humming a song.
Kids say what they are thinking and aren’t held
back by inhibitions the way we are as adults. They
give us permission to play...where else in the
world do you get to dance with scarves?
What instruments do you play?
Piano is my main one, but give me a guitar, ukulale,
recorder or kazoo and I can make something
happen.
Does your family share the same passion for
music?
My daughter is a gorgeous pianist who fills our
home up with beautiful music, so we’ll miss that
when she leaves home next year. She also plays
the flute. My son is good on a drum kit and is
persevering on violin but it’s not his first love. All
are music appreciators.
Apart from taking the Parents Centre Music and
Movement Classes, what else do you do with
your time?
I teach 19 classes a week involving about 400
children. A couple of them are preschool classes
for Plunket, and the rest involve children from 5
to 8 years of age, doing 4 afternoons a week at
Bluestone
School.
I also teach
about 12 students
a week
on keyboard,
singing and
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I play for the In-
Harmony community
choir and
occasionally for
Drama League
shows.
I’m involved on
the music team at church, and in my spare time
enjoy gardening and baking. We regularly have
visitors or overseas students to stay in our big old
home and meet some great people this way.
How important is it for children to be around
music?
Music is a gift. Children love it and learn from it.
Any opportunity to listen, dance or sing together
is great. It’s a part of who we are. Music connects
us to culture and adds to our identity so it’s important.
What do you do differently between the 0-2
years sessions and the 0-5 years sessions?
The 0-2 sessions have a few more cuddly songs.
The classes for 0-5s are a bit more active, involving
more jumping, spinning and songs that give
instructions for us to follow. I encourage moving
around more which helps us learn confidence and
social skills, and spatial awareness.
One thing about your classes which is really popular
is the music scrap book you introduced
where you provide sheets of songs/nursery
rhymes for parents to glue into the book. What
is the purpose behind the scrap book?
Part of the purpose of classes is to help expand
the repertoire of songs that parents and children
can sing and enjoy both in classes and at home. It
helps to have the words when learning new
songs. Also, the books are designed to encourage
quiet bonding times. The children can initiate this
by going and getting the book off a shelf and coming
for a cuddle. They don’t mind if we haven’t
got a perfect singing voice. They just love quality
time with us.
What can parents do at home with children to
keep them involved in music?
Sing, dance, make music together, enjoy. Take
them to concerts and street parades. Stop and
listen to buskers. Notice sounds around
you...magpies, seagulls etc.
Do you have a view about children watching
musical DVDs, such as The Wiggles and Hi-5?
The children love them, and they’re learning so
that’s great! Our favourite one was
“Playschool meets the orchestra”
When is the right time for a child to start learning
a musical instrument?
How long is a piece of string? Every child is different
so there isn’t really a perfect age. It kind of
depends on the instrument and the method to
teach as well. Most
teachers say around 7
or 8 for children who
will learn to read music.
I didn’t start lessons
until I was 10
which was kind of
late. I’ve taught 6 year
olds whose parents
were keen and it’s
generally pretty slow
progress. An older child learns faster. The most
important thing is to have rich musical exposure
that nurtures a natural sense of rhythm. Swaying
and singing with them is great.
Which instruments?
Whatever they’re keen on! The world needs more
tuba players.

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TIMARU SHOP
tots
Handcrafts for Sale
Display Cabinet in Parents Centre Rooms
Fundraising for Parents Centre
Handknitted
jerseys (left) & hats (right)
Handpainted Kids
Canvases
Handknitted
buggy & cot rugs
(left)
Handmade bibs,
muslins & ribbon
cloths (right)
If you wish us to sell goods on your behalf, please contact Jenny on 686 2992.

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babies: toddler adjusting to the new baby!
From Newsletter Contributor: Beth Park
something, you can pull your wagon."
Show your toddler how to touch their
brother or sister gently.
How is my child likely to react to a new
baby in the house?
Even if they have been excited about having
a new sibling before the birth, your
toddler may change his mind once the
baby comes home. How your child behaves
will depend partially on their temperament.
Children who are more flexible
and self-contained may adjust more easily.
Those who are highly sensitive, need more
time with transitions, and like routines
may take longer to adjust.
Your firstborn may react to the addition of
a new family member by testing you or
regressing (sitting in the baby's seat,
wanting a nappy, or asking to drink from a
bottle). They’re likely to want your attention
most when you're nursing or changing
a nappy.
They may even try to express their feelings
by yanking the baby's arm or snatching
the baby’s toys. You can respond by
saying something like, "I want you to be
gentle with the baby. It can hurt him/her
to pull on their arm. If you need to pull on
Most likely your child will also be eager to
show their new sibling affection and connect
with them. Read on for tips on how
to help your toddler accept and even enjoy
the new baby in your lives.
What can I do to help my child accept a
new sibling?
Give them special jobs. Let your firstborn
help out — they may surprise you with
how much they can do. When you bathe
the baby,
they can
help soap
the baby’s
legs. Your
toddler will
probably
be happy
to fetch
nappies or
a new set of clothes. When the baby cries,
ask them to gently pat his/her back or talk
softly to him/her. If they want to hold
their new sibling, set them up next to you
and share the baby across your laps. Or
have them sit in a chair with pillows on
either side, then prop the baby in their
lap. Stay nearby and be alert. They may be
done after a few seconds and try to dump
the baby off their lap. (They aren’t trying
to hurt the baby. They may just think of
the baby as a toy.)
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you think the baby would like to wear the
blue shirt or the yellow shirt?" or "Do you
want to help me tell a story?" Toddlers
often have a natural flair for entertainment
— singing, dancing, or just making faces —
and a baby is an appreciative audience.
Not only will your child enjoy the attention,
they’re likely to take pride in bringing a
smile to their sibling's face.
Watch the baby together. Invite your child
to observe the baby with you. Hold them
close and ask them to describe what they
see. "Look at her hands. They're so little.
Can you see the baby kicking their feet?
Can you kick your feet like that?"
Read stories about their new role. Reading
stories about babies or about new siblings
can help your toddler adjust to their
new situation. Stories that show children
enjoying and taking pride in their little sibs
present positive role models for your child.
Joanna Cole's gender-specific I'm a Big
Sister and I'm a Big Brother are good places
to start.
Let your toddler tell the story. Make a
simple picture book of your family. Ask
your toddler what pictures they would like
to have in the book or include some of
your favourites together. Once the pictures
are in the book, you can ask them what
words they'd like on each page or add a
simple text yourself.
Acknowledge your toddler’s feelings. It's
normal for your toddler to feel a range of
feelings about this new change in their
family. After all, they suddenly have to
share you with someone who requires an
extraordinary amount of your time and
attention. Rather than scolding your toddler,
acknowledge their feelings: "It seems
like you're feeling sad right now. Do you
want a hug or a story?" Or "It's hard when
you want me to do something and I need
to help the baby." They may just need to
know you understand their feelings and
that you can take a minute to listen to and
hold them.
Spend a little time alone with your toddler.
Spend some time each day with just
your toddler, even if it's only a few minutes
of drawing or building with blocks. This
time makes them feel special and reminds
them that you're his/her mummy as well
as the baby's.
Let them do their own thing. If your toddler
doesn't want to be involved with the
new baby, don't push it. A lot of kids cope
with the change by "ignoring" their tiny
siblings — at least for a while. So you don't
need to expect them to play a greater role
than they want to. They'll come around in
time.
Source: www.babycentre.com

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Summer Hours
Winter Hours

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DOWN TO EARTH FITNESS TRAINING INTRODUCES
GRAVITY STRENGTH TRAINING TO TIMARU
The Gravity Training System is an innovative angular resistance training method using your
own body weight with a qualified Gravity Instructor.
Gravity Group Strength classes offer a total body workout that focus on developing functional
and fit bodies for all shapes and sizes and abilities. Also on offer are Gravity Blast classes a
30 min workout for those who have less clock but want more rock, with a low intensity Group
Strength workout available for those getting back into exercise.
Individual training sessions are also available by appointment.
Classes are limited to 4 participants and bookings are essential. Enjoy the benefits of small
group training and push yourself to your potential under the guidance of a Personal Trainer.
To find out more contact:
Darren Mackay
Certified Personal Trainer at the Australian Institute of Fitness
Registered Exercise Professional of New Zealand
03 688 9494 or 021 253 6790

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birth story: being late
Ten days
overdue.
We’re
headed
into Jean
Todd to be
induced. I
was quite
nervous.
I’m not
sure the
antenatal
classes
prepare
you at all for needing to be induced, if
anything I was quite worried about
things going wrong.
8am, January 25 2011, we arrived on the
ward and I was hooked up to the CTG
machine for about half an hour, nothing
happening. I was given 1 unit of gel and
put back on the CTG machine for another
hour to let the gel do its thing. Once I
was allowed off we went out for a couple
of walks through the Botanic Gardens.
I was still feeling really normal.
Nothing was happening.
Around 3pm I started to get a bit
crampy. The nurses, midwives and Dr’s
were all adamant by this stage that we
weren’t going to have this baby til tomorrow.
I wanted to prove them wrong.
I wanted this baby today! I was given a
2 nd unit of gel at 3.30pm.
Around 5.30pm, while watching Home
and Away, things really started to get
moving. Dinner arrived and I couldn’t
stand the smell of it. No way was I going
to eat it. I was starting to lean on the
window sill and rock to get through the
contractions. Around 6.30pm I asked for
some panadol and around 7pm I hopped
in the bath.
My midwife had gone home at 5pm, and
was off duty for a couple of days, so we
were left in the care of her back-up. She
did an internal when I was in the bath
and told me I was 4cm dilated. Not very
far I thought – great!! I started to think
and say that I couldn’t do this anymore
and was asking for an epidural, even
though I had always said I didn’t want
one. The anaesthetist was in theatre
though and couldn’t come to give me
one for another hour. I spent most of
that hour on the bed on my side and
started to involuntarily push. About
45min later the midwife did another
internal and I was now 8cm dilated, and
not allowed that epidural! I was given a
half dose of pethidine to help me cope
and that gave me some relief. She told
me not to push and helped me breathe
through the contractions.
It felt great when I was allowed to push.
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pushed for an hour with a midwife holding
each leg and Edward holding my
neck/head and giving me cold wet facecloths.
After an hour of no progress Dr
Weir was called in, the midwives couldn’t
tell which way our baby boy was facing
or if he had turned or what. By the
time Dr Weir got in, I had been pushing
for nearly 2 hours with no sign of this
baby coming right out by himself. The
anaesthetist was called back in, and his
theatre team and we had to give consent
for a forceps delivery and if that wasn’t
successful a c-section. It was the wobbliest
signature I’ve ever done!
We were taken up to theatre and I was
given a spinal - felt so good to not feel
anything!!! Could talk normally again,
but it’s so much easier to push when you
can feel what you are pushing.
William was delivered using forceps,
once we were up in theatre it was a
quick delivery. I started to feel nauseous
on the way out of theatre so was given
some anti-nausea medication just before
heading back to the ward.
All up, labour was only 5 hours. 2 hours
of that was pushing. Turns out William
was posterior
and that’s why
he wouldn’t
come out
without the
help of forceps.

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K i n d e r g a r t e n
South Canterbury Free Kindergarten Association provides accessible, affordable,
high-quality Early Childhood Education. Our 10 kindergartens are located
throughout the region – Timaru, Temuka, Fairlie and Twizel.
We have been supporting children to have a great start for school and for life,
developing their potential abilities for over 65 years, in South Canterbury
communities. South Canterbury kindergartens are community-based, not-for-profit
and at the heart of their community. Families and whänau are the heart of every
kindergarten.
Each kindergarten has playful and stimulating indoor and outdoor environments,
where everybody learns and discovers together. Teachers in our kindergartens are
100% qualified and registered in regulated ratios. Our caring, experienced teachers
build supportive, friendly relationships with children, families/whänau and
communities.
Kindergarten programmes are vibrant, evolving and challenging, as children are
actively engaged in their learning. Kindergarten is a quality learning environment.
Teachers plan learning programmes which enable children to have fun while
learning and developing new skills, knowledge and dispositions.
The best
preparation
for life!
Visit the site at
www.greatstart100.org.nz
and register your interest
Visit your kindergarten to see how our stimulating environments reflect children’s
learning. Three and four-year-old children will be eligible for 20 hours ECE with no
attendance fees.
Contact the South Canterbury Free Kindergarten Association on 03 688 3098 or
contact your local kindergarten from the list and we will help you to enrol your
child today.
Enquire at a Kindergarten near you:
Glenview Kindergarten
69 Gleniti Rd, Timaru
686 0726
The South Canterbury Free
Kindergarten Association
Is affiliated to NZ
Kindergartens Inc.
Rata Kindergarten
53 Cass St, Temuka
688 1991
He Wāhi Nui mo ngā Tamaraki ki te Timata
An outstanding choice where great
accomplishments happen every day
Hanan Kindergarten
22B College Rd, TImaru
684 5470
Kowhai Kindergarten
16 Coonoor Rd, TImaru
688 0285
Mackenzie Kindergarten
12 Sloane St, Fairlie
685 8505
Ranui Kindergarten
253 Selwyn St, Timaru
684 4469
Rhona Day Kindergarten
2 Hamilton St, Temuka
688 0850
Twizel Kindergarten
135 Mackenzie Dr, Twizel
435 0433
Waimataitai Kindergarten
69 Evans St, Timaru
684 3419
West End Kindergarten
34 Kiwi Dr, Timaru
684 3996
The South Canterbury Free Kindergarten Association

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attention all facebookers
For those of you on facebook you’ll be pleased to know that
Timaru Parents Centre now have their own facebook page!
You can find us by entering “Timaru Parents Centre” in the search bar.
Be sure to “like” our page to ensure you receive up to date
notification of our latest news and upcoming events.
Please feel free to use this page as a forum for posting news, photos from
Parents Centre events, questions and topics of interest.

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kids fun zone: growing spring flowers
From Newsletter Contributor: Vanessa Smillie
Kids can easily celebrate spring time with this fun craft!
What you need
Small or medium paper of foam cup
A straw – clear if possible
Green pipe cleaner
Green card paper
Tissue paper – any colour
Scissors
Pencil
Glue
Trace hand prints onto the green paper and cut out. You will need to
cut out enough hand prints to cover the cup, the number will
depend on how big the hands are and how big the cup is.
Glue the hand prints onto the cup to make the 'grass.'
With a pencil, poke a hole into the bottom of the cup. Insert the pipe
cleaner into the straw, and then insert the straw into the hole in the
cup. This makes the stem of the flower.
Cut out 3 or more circles out of the tissue paper (use a small mug as a
template). Poke the pipe cleaner into the centre of each piece
of tissue paper and then curl the pipe cleaner to secure the
paper.
Fold the tissue paper up and wrap the pipe cleaner around the bottom of the flower to
secure it in place. Move the straw up and down to watch the
flower grow out of the grass.
Source: http://www.busybeekidscrafts.com/Growing-Flower.html

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colouring page: spring

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colouring page: halloween

pre-schooler puzzles:
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our regular courses
Childbirth Education
Baby & you
The Timaru Parents Centre is
pleased to offer all expectant parents
the opportunity to join our Childbirth
Education classes led by one of our two trained
Childbirth Educators.
These classes are FREE to all, you do
not need to be a Parents Centre
member to attend.
Come and meet other parents-to-be in
a relaxed and friendly environment.
Our course covers: Hospital tour,
Plunket liaison & Pepe 1 course, Baby CPR, what
to expect during labour, pain relief options,
breastfeeding, practical parenting skills
and much more.
Following on from your classes we will
co-ordinate and help you set up your
new parents coffee group.
Next CBE Course Dates:
Next Class: 16 October
For enrolments contact
Kate Perry on 684 5348
A five week support programme
for parents of new babies.
Our course covers:
Birth experiences
Your new role as parents and the changes
in your lives
Infant massage
Sleeping and crying
Child development, toys and play for 0-4
months
Mother’s diet & health care needs
Infant feeding
Come along with your baby, hear our local
guest speakers and chat with other local parents
in a similar situation.
Next Baby & You
Course Date: 1—29 November
Cost: $10 Members
$70 Non Members
$40 Community Service Cardholders
(cost for non members includes 1 year
membership)
For enrolments contact
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our regular courses
Moving & munching
Music & movement
Two informative sessions for
parents of 4-10 month old babies
Our course covers:
Safety in the home with babies on
the move
Development of fine and gross motor
skills
How babies learn through play and
age appropriate toys
The development and stimulation of
language and intellect
Introducing solids and good nutrition
Includes a FREE copy of Alison &
Simon Holst’s “Baby Food & Beyond”
Cookbook
Bring your baby along and enjoy the guest
speakers and company of other parents in a
relaxed baby friendly atmosphere.
Next Moving & Munching
Course Date: 18 & 25 October
Cost: $20 Members
$30 Non Members
For enrolments contact
Beth Park on 688 3266
Come and join our fun and dynamic
music and movement classes
at 9 Napier Street, Timaru
Our classes include:
Singing & Dancing
Action Songs
Instruments
Parachute fun & more!
Our classes are full participation which encourages
the little (and big) to join in.
A morning tea snack is provided
for the children after each class
Class Times :
Mon: 9:15am - 9:45am (0-2 yrs)
Fri: 9:15am - 9:45am (0-2 yrs)
& 10:15am - 10:45am (0-5 yrs)
Cost:
Members: $2.00 per family
Non-Members: $4.00 per family
For more info call Chelsea McAuley on 686 3653

our regular courses
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Babysitting course Blooming Bodeze
An informative four week babysitting
course for 14-18 year olds
our course covers:
Ages and stages
Employee/employer expectations
Nappy folding and changing
Safety of children and safety of
babysitter
Baby bathing
Child and infant CPR
Pay rates
On completion of the course participants
receive both an Order of St Johns
Attendance first aid certificate along with a
Timaru Parents Centre babysitting course
certificate.
Next Babysitting Course Starts:
Monday 8 October, 9am—5pm
(school holidays)
Cost: $50 per person
For enrolments contact
An eight week yoga and pilates
class for mums-to-be
our classes covers:
Suppleness;
Strength;
Flexibility; and
Tone for your body during
pregnancy
Our yoga/pilates postures will prepare you
to welcome baby into the world.
Come and meet other pregnant Mums
and enjoy a gentle and relaxing
exercise experience.
Next Blooming Bodies
18 October
Cost: $48 Members
$72 Non Members
For enrolments contact
Cath Cooney on 686 2282

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newsletter advertising rates
Please contact Brydon Smallbone on 021 474 732 if you are interested in advertising in our
newsletter. Brydon will be happy to discuss the various options available with you. We
prefer that you supply your own adverts in pdf format, however we are able to assist with
advert design if required. The current advertising rates as at the date of this issue are:
Casual (1 issue)
Full Year (6 issues)
Full A5 page $30 Full A5 page $120 ($20)
½ A5 page $15 ½ A5 page $60 ($10)
¼ A5 page $10 ¼ A5 page $42 ($7)
web wanderings
I sit down to write my web wanderings of the last couple of months and looking through my internet
history I see that pinterest seems pretty dominant! It is an amazing resource in terms of finding
craft ideas, food ideas, and ideas for the home. I also suspect that it is a good waste of time! However
if you have not already a had b rowse—get addicted!
http://pinterest.com/
As I get closer to Taelyn’s second birthday, and after seeing some fabulous party photos of friends
on facebook I find myself drawn to birthday party sites. This one in particular has a lot of great ideas.
http://www.kiwifamilies.co.nz/topic/preschoolers/birthdays-preschoolers/
So maybe I am grasping at straws, but I did LOVE this site while I was pregnant, I have referred to it
more than a couple of times in the last two years as well.
http://www.huggies.co.nz/
Enjoy your web wanderings! If you find something interesting send me an email!
Kylie

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parents centre notices
Premature Baby Kits
These are available for premature or low
birth weight babies throughout
South Canterbury.
These kits contain nappies and clothes.
Parent Centre Members: $20.00 bond
Non-Members : $20.00 & $20.00 bond
Phone Rebecca
Jackson on
688 1250
Parents Centre Library
Books are available on a wide variety of
subjects. The library is open during music
& movement or when attending the
Parents Centre rooms.
Contact a committee member if you want
to know more
or would like to
donate books
to the library.
We want your
input please
We would love to hear from you with
feedback regarding the courses
and focus nights we offer.
If there is a particular topic you would like
us to cover please contact a committee
member and we will see what we can do to
accommodate your request.
Why not join our
committee?
Interested in joining our motivated,
committed Parents Centre Committee?
Committee meetings are the third
Monday of each month, 7:30pm at the
Parents Centre rooms, 9 Napier Street,
Timaru.
Contact a committee member for details
on how to join, see contact numbers on
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sale table
Well Child
Book Covers
Great designs. A great way to protect and
treasure those Well Child books.
$20.00 each.
Sheepskins &
Kimberley
Blankets
Parents Centre Members $50.00
Non-Parents Centre Members $60.00
Available in the
Timaru Tots
Shop
Available in the
Timaru Tots Shop
Shagvent
Calendars
Timaru Parents Centre are
now selling Shagvent Calendars.
Just $20 for a calendar and there are two versions. A great idea for presents or just for fun!
Shagvent Calendars are designed to add fun, romance and sexual energy to a relationship.
Like a kids Advent Calendar but this one is for adults and can be used at any time of the year!
Once you get your Shagvent Calendar do the wild thing then open window number '1' to reveal
the activity which MUST be completed before the next shag and away you go!
'It is very motivating because you want to find out what's under the next window'
...the only way to do this is shag!’
Shagvent makes a great present for anyone who is in a relationship and likes a bit of fun.
Give it to your lover, your friends, Mum, Dad, Grandparents, Uncles, Aunts, Cousins.
The Shagvent Calendar makes a great present for all occasions and lasts longer than flowers!
Available at the Timaru Tots Shop

community services
PARENTS CENTRE WEBSITE
The website address for the Parents Centre is
www.parentscentre.org.nz
BREASTFEEDING WORKS!
Free mother to mother support for women having a
baby or already breastfeeding. Contacting a Volunteer
breastfeeding counsellor will be positive for you. These
counsellors are mums, who have been trained to
support breastfeeding mothers. "Breastfeeding
Works!" counsellors are able to help you with the ups
and downs of breastfeeding. No question is too small!
Phone Claire 684 3625
AROWHENUA PUNA
Our bilingual playgroup meet each Wednesday at
10am in the library at Arowhenua Maori School,
Huirapa St, Temuka. Bring your pre-schoolers along to
learn Te Reo Maori. For any further information phone
Tania Crowe on 686 4811.
WOMENS WELLNESS CENTRE
Free pregnancy tests, support groups, free daytime
and evening cervical screening monthly clinic. Please
phone for an appointment on 688 9363. Health and
other information for women readily available. Drop in
hours 10am - 4pm weekdays. 14 Butler St, Timaru.
TIMARU PUBLIC LIBRARY
Children can become a member of the children’s
library from birth. There is no charge and you can
borrow as many books as you like. Mon, Wed, Fri: 9am
-8pm, Tues, Thurs: 9am-6pm, Sat: 9am-12am, Sun:
1pm-4pm. Story Spinners Circle: Story telling for
preschoolers at the Timaru Public Library. Fridays at
11:30am
MULTIPLE BIRTH GROUP
This is a support group for prospective and new
multiple birth parents. Meeting/playgroup once a
month. Twin prams and strollers available for hire,
also books, videos and other gear. Phone Claire on 684
9170 .
MISCARRIAGE SUPPORT
Contact 027 825 9406
POISON HOTLINE
Phone 03 474 7000.
AORAKI COMMUNITY TOY LIBRARY
Winter hours: Tues & Thurs 10am-11.30am, Sat
10.30am-12.30am Ph. 684 3304 or 027 239 0289
(Summer hours are during daylight savings)
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SANDS (Stillbirth and Newborn Death Support)
This group meets regularly for a cuppa and an informal
discussion on the second Tuesday of each month. For
support and information please phone 027 825 9406
LACTATION CONSULTANT
Pauline Hole is available for advice and home visits on
any breastfeeding queries or problems. Ph 615 8357
anytime. Mothers can refer themselves.
LA LECHE LEAGUE MEETINGS
La Leche League - supporting and promoting
breastfeeding. A friendly inclusive group, a place to
share knowledge and gain confidence in parenting and
breastfeeding. Phone Sarah 684 9851
NATURAL FERTILITY NZ
Offers easy to learn fertility awareness methods that
provide: Natural, safe, effective contraception (ideal
when breastfeeding and can be used in conjunction
with condoms or a diaphragm). Valuable fertility
knowledge when trying to conceive. For information
and appointments phone Jenny 0800 178 637 or 03
614 7456.
PLUNKET KARITANE FAMILY CENTRE
3 Dee Street, Timaru. Ph 684 4967, Open: Mon, Tues,
Wed, Fri 8.30am - 4pm, Thurs 10am- 3pm. No nursing
staff available on Thursdays, only open for baby feeding
and changing. Antenatal, sibling group, toileting
group and much more.
MENINGITIS HELPLINE
The Meningitis Trust has set up a 24 hour free and
instant help line - for information and support. It is
staffed by specially trained nurses. Phone 0800 446
087.
CRYING OVER SPILT MILK (REFLUX ISSUES)
A group of parents meet every Tuesday from 10:30am
until 11.30pm at Marchweil Plunket .
PLUNKET CAR SEAT RENTAL &TRY B4 U BUY SCHEME
For Sale: Booster Seats, Harnesses, Locking Clips,
Anchor Bolts and Extension Straps For Hire: Infant Car
Seats for 0-9 months, Convertible Child Seats 9 months to
4 years, Snap- n-go Strollers 0-9 months (twin available
also). Times: Monday 10am-12.30pm and Thursday 9am-
1.30pm at the Highfield Plunket Rooms, Cnr of Wai-iti Rd
and Kiwi Drv. These times are for picking up and returning
hired seats and also for any child
restraint seat queries. We will also check the age of car
seats and help with the correct fitting. Plunket also runs
the 'TRYB4UBUY' scheme, which is by appointment only.
Please phone Debbie Kingan during the hours stated on
684 4459 or after these hours on 688 4940.

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Postal Address:
Timaru Parents Centre
PO Box 815
Timaru 7940
PARENTS CENTRE MISSION STATEMENT:
Positive birth experiences and informed
parenting in a community where parents are
supported and highly valued in their role.