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experience sexual assault in their lifetime and 1 in 33 for<br />
men. You never know who is a victim or a survivor of sexual<br />
violence, by humoring rape you are silencing victims<br />
and survivors and belittling a very troubling experience.<br />
You cannot assume someone was not sexually assaulted;<br />
there is no look one has for it, it cannot be seen and is<br />
not something people put out in conversation. You can<br />
know someone for years and still not know that part of<br />
their lives. Also when using rape jokes you may never<br />
know if you are talking to an abuser or rapist and those<br />
‘harmless jokes’ then become a justification, encouragement,<br />
or an excuse for continuing their behavior.<br />
The media, but let’s give a couple of examples:<br />
Music:<br />
We’ve seen the controversy of Robin Thicke’s “Blurred<br />
Lines” (which is pretty much sexual harassment set to<br />
a groove), Rick Ross’s creepy verse in “U.O.E.N.O.” (“Put<br />
a molly in her drink and she ain’t even know it.), and<br />
Miguel’s “How Many Drinks?” (which is about Miguel<br />
pondering about how much alcohol he needs to ply a<br />
woman with in order to get her to go home with him.) I<br />
still hear “Blurred Lines” and “How Many Drinks” on the<br />
radio. Are they catchy, yes; to be honest I had a hard<br />
time understanding the controversy of the two songs,<br />
because I didn’t catch it the first time I heard the song.<br />
“Blurred Lines” sounds fun and cute. Miguel’s “How Many<br />
Drinks” sounds sexy, and “U.N.E.N.O.” has a great beat<br />
behind it (which is why it has several different remixes to<br />
it.) But unfortunately there is a simplicity here: What we<br />
put in effects what we put out. It may not happen now,<br />
but eventually it can obscure our thinking.<br />
The celebrities we excuse:<br />
R. Kelly has been in the news repeatedly for his statutory<br />
rape cases, but people still encourage the man by separating<br />
him from his music. Obviously, who people are and<br />
what they do as their profession are different, but people<br />
are still accountable for their actions. Excusing someone<br />
who is a celebrity or well-known for their work and negatively<br />
viewing the victim especially without listening to<br />
them is not acceptable.<br />
Rape jokes:<br />
Rape jokes may not seemingly be harmful, but they are<br />
and they’re very encouraging towards rape culture. They<br />
belittle what it is and make fun of or blame the victim.<br />
There is a huge fraction of women who have been<br />
victims of sexual violence and there are some men as<br />
well. To my understanding it is 1 out of 4 women who will<br />
As mentioned earlier, it can have so many effects. People<br />
who are not educated about rape tend to unknowingly<br />
victim blame by asking questions that imply one could’ve<br />
done something different to avoid their experience.<br />
People can be judgmental. No matter how unpleasant a<br />
person is, no matter how someone dresses or acts, what<br />
risks they take, it is never acceptable. In American society<br />
we teach women from when they are young to always<br />
be conscious of not getting raped. Women cannot wear<br />
certain things, we cannot be alone with boys, we can’t<br />
be out late at night, especially alone. e always need to<br />
be aware when walking to our cars or homes, we need<br />
to be aware of men and their body language. Don’t<br />
allow a man into our houses when we are alone, be in<br />
the company of a man you trust, when sleeping over a<br />
friends house stay close to the friend. Don’t drink too<br />
much, don’t allow yourself to be under the influence of<br />
alcohol or drugs. Unconsciously we’ve been conditioned<br />
to always worry about the possibility of being sexually<br />
assaulted. But men are never taught not to rape. What<br />
precautions do men have to go through in order to prevent<br />
thinking it’s okay to sexually assault someone?